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  1. I'm not against Islamic schools from K1-K12 in theory but I've yet to see one that produces well rounded individuals who can live and thrive in the modern world. I don't know about the USA but in the UK the Islamic schools produce people with the mentality of the Taliban who don't want to interact with the world around them -- not all but mostly. It's also not a practical solution at the moment. There are 2 million Muslims in the UK! If even a quarter of that are school going age how many schools can we build?! The point about zina has been totally misunderstood: what's worse: doing zina or leaving Islam altogether? At least if you give them freedom they're more likely to stay in Islam even if nominally.
  2. AoA, I'm a brother not a sister! I would not be happy if they engaged in zina and I wouldn't want it happening in my house ('no, he can't sleep over!) but its more just a case of accepting the inevitable and so adopting a 'out of sight, out of mind' attitude. The protection quip was so they at least don't have to deal with the added issue of teen pregnancies and STDs. I am not Shia so temporary marriage isn't a solution either [even if I was I don't think it is a realistic one.] Zina is haram. Period. That's not the point -- the point is people do it knowing it is -- they don't see it as a big deal and the bigger issue is that if you try to stop them it can lead to the bigger problem of them leaving Islam. It sounds far fetched but it's not. A lot of 3rd gen Muslims leave for exactly these kind of practical reasons and not for philosophical reasons! 'I want my freedom' is their argument in a nutshell which all religions curtail to some degree. So I think its better to choose the lesser 'evil' of zina compared to apostasy.
  3. People are talking about raising them with good Islamic morals but that doesn't seem to stop them does it?! It just seems to lead to one life at home and another outside in college/high school etc or amongst their peers. I also know that desi Muslims have double standards when it comes to sons and daughters. I would try to avoid that. I am assuming the majority of parents try to raise their kids with good values but that doesn't seem to have led to a different outcome than the one we observe. I heard a recent statistic, I think from a Yasir Qadhi talk (I'm not a big fan of his but just saying) that 43% of Muslims brought up in the USA have now said in a survey that they have no religion. THat's a crazy statistic...and the trend seems to be going one way only! Realistically, 99.9% of us are never going to leave and 'go back' let alone our following generations and hence my original question was a direct extrapolation of this trend....(often parental strictures on just this issue leads them to leave Islam)
  4. I don't think referring to people as 'devil worshipping animals' is helpful in any way btw and I guess the last poster was just joking. My question came to me when I thought what would I actually do if my son/daughter told me they had a bf/gf or vice-versa and the honest answer is probably nothing other than talk about it with them and tell them to use protection.
  5. THanks for the replies. I do not have a son or daughter at the age where they are yet interested in sex but the reality is that dating (I use the term in the way it is used in the USA or Europe amongst the main non-Muslim population, especially in Europe which doesn't have a large fundamentalist Christian right wing like the USA does) is normal nowadays and Muslim kids are dating as much as non-Muslims and having pre-marital sex (most of them hiding it from their parents of course). I am a high school teacher and I see Muslims dating as much as non-Muslims. I'm a Muslim myself and I know in Shariah it is haram but the reality is, having lived my whole life in Europe, my attitude towards premarital sex has also changed. I don't think a parent can actually stop a teenager/young adult (say 16 - the age of consent in most of Europe) from having sex in the society in which we live. The 'old solutions' like getting them married from 'back home' or, God forbid, using threats or physical violence don't work. ! Wouldn't it be easier to just accept that the cost of our parents or grandparents moving to the West was that 3 generations down the line our chlidren/grandchildren are more or less assimilated and that the best and most logical thing to do is to accept it and try to just guide them within that paradigm. Just tell them to try and date Muslims as much as possible with a view to getting married? Just some thoughts.
  6. If the Imam has to be hidden then we already have the Prophet of Islam who is alive in his grave in the Barzakh and present with us always so what need then for the 12th Imam to go into occultation? On the other hand, only the very pious can see the Messenger spiritually or in a dream so the idea of one of his descendants being an infallible visible (hazir) guide makes more sense. Sadly the AK is far from infallible so we're back to square one!
  7. Thanks for all the replies. Personally I respect and revere greatly all the Imams of Ahlul Bayt (including ones like Imam Zayd not accepted by the Ithna Asharis) but I have to say purely on logic the position of both the Zaydis and the Ismailis makes more sense (doesn't mean it is true though!) to me. The idea of a present (hazir) Imam, visible to all and sundry, makes more sense than an Imam who is hidden and not accessible. Anyway thanks for all the replies.
  8. Assuming you live, like most of us on this forum, in the US, Canada or Europe ('the West') would you let your son or daughter date? What would be you reaction if s/he came home with their boyfriend or girlfriend?
  9. It does annoy me when people think Sunnis don't like the Ahlul Bayt (a.s.) That might be true of Nasibis and some extreme Salafis and Deobandis but certainly isn't true of most Sunnis (especially those with links to a Sufi tariqah). We say as Imam Shafi'i said, "If love of the Ahlul Bayt makes me a Rafidi than I am the biggest Rafidi!" True Sunni Islam may be described in these famous words: 'Islam ishq-e-Mustafa ka doosra naam hai!' (Islam is just another name for devotional love of the Prophet (s)'
  10. I'd say it is the devotional love of the Prophet above all followed by love and respect for ALL of His Ahlul Bayt and ALL of His Sahaba.
  11. To Sol 7, Yes all Barelvis are Sufis - mostly of the Qadri Tariqah but many also (like myself) of the Naqshbandi (in my case Naqshbandi-Haqqani tariqah of Mawlana Shaykh Nazim (q)) and also Chishti and Sabri Sufi orders. Perhaps the most famous modern Sufi who you can call as a Barelvi per his beliefs is Pir Sayyid Mihr Ali Shah of Golra Sharif (q).
  12. What about this dua by Imam ZAyn al Abidin (as) on his way back from Karbala to Madina: Naat by Imam Zainul Abideen, when he was surrounded amongst enemies after the incident of Karbala قصيدة رائعة للإمام زين العابدين ان نلت ياريح الصبا يوما الى ارض الحرم O Winds! If someday you pass by the sacred land, بلغ سلامى روضة فيها النبى المحترم Do give my greetings at the Blessed Grave where rests the Prophet, most exalted یا مصطفا، یا مجتبا ارحم على عصياننا Oh Chosen One, Oh Chosen one ... مجبورة أعمالنا طمعا وذنبا وظلم من وجهه شمس الضحى من خده بدرالجى He whose blessed face is the midday sun, his blessed cheeks are the full moon, من زاته نورالهدى من كفه بحرالهمم He whose self is the light of guidance and whose generosity is an ocean قرانه برهاننا فسخا لاديان مضت The Qur'an is our source proving other religions are abrogated, ازجاءنا احكامه كل الصحف صار العدم When its guidelines came to us, the other books became non-existent اكبادنا مجروحة من سيف هجرالمصطفى The sadness of separation [from Madinah] feels like a sword deep into my liver, طوى لاهل بلدة فيها النبى المحتشم How fortunate are the people of that city in which the Exalted & Beloved Prophet resides ياليتنى كنت كمن يتبع نبيا عالايما يوما وليلا دائما وارزق كزالى با لكرم يارحمةللعالمين انت شفيع المزنبين O Mercy for the worlds! You are the intercessor for the sinners, اكرم لنا يوم الحزين فضلا وجودا والكرم Shower your blessings upon us on the Day of Grief يارحمةللعالمين ادرك لزين العابدين O Mercy for the worlds! Assist Zaynul Abideen, محبوس ايدى الظالمين فى الموكب المزدحم Who stands alone and in difficulty amongst the tyrants. It is CLEAR tassawul to the Prophet, from afar, after the Prophet has gone to the next world, with the direct words, "Ya Rahmatulil Alamin ADRIKNI (assist) Zayn al Abidin!" Are you going to call this shirk now? How about the cry of Lady Zaynab (a.s.) "Ya Muhammada!" and even at the Battle of Yamamah Sayyidina Abu Bakr Siddiq (ra) also shouted "Ya Muhammada!" during difficulty. Stop letting Wahabis and Nasibis fool you!
  13. Some hadith: 1. Al-Bukhari narrates in his Sahih that our mother Hajar, when she was running in search of water between Safa and Marwa, heard a voice and called out: "O you whose voice you have made me hear! If there is a ghawth (help/helper) with you (then help me)!" and an angel appeared at the spot of the spring of Zamzam. 2. Abu Ya`la, Ibn al-Sunni, and al-Tabarani in al-Mu`jam al-Kabir narrated that the Prophet (saws) said: "If one of you loses something or seeks help or a helper (ghawth), and he is in a land where there is no one to befriend, let him say: "O servants of Allah, help me! (ya `ibad Allah, aghithuni), for verily Allah has servants whom one does not see." Al-Haythami said in Majma` al-Zawa'id (10:132): "The men in its chain of transmission have been declared reliable despite weakness in one of them." Another wording: 3. Al-Bayhaqi narrates on the authority of Ibn `Abbas in "Kitab al-Aadaab" (p. 436) and with a second chain mawquf from Ibn `Abbas in "Shu`ab al-Iman" (1:445-446=1:183 #167; 6:128 #7697) and a third from Ibn Mas`ud in "Hayat al-Anbiya' ba`da Wafatihim" p. 44: "Allah has angels on the earth - other than the [two] record-keepers - who keep a record [even] of the leaves that fall on the ground. Therefore, if one of you is crippled in a deserted land where no-one is in sight, let him cry out: a'înû 'ibâd Allâh rahimakum Allâh, 'Help, O servants of Allah, may Allah have mercy on you!' Verily he shall be helped, if God wills." Ibn Hajar said its chain is fair (isnaduhu hasan) in "al-amali". Narrated by al-Tabarani in al-Kabir with a fair chain (according to Ibn Hajar in al-Amali) of sound narrators according to al-Haythami (10:132), al-Bazzar (#3128) - as cited by al-Shawkani in Tuhfa al-Dhakirin (p. 219=p. 155-156) -, and Ibn Abi Shayba (7:103). 4. Ibn Abi Shayba relates in his "Musannaf" (7:103) from Aban ibn Salih that the Prophet (saws) said: "If one of you loses his animal or his camel in a deserted land where there is no-one in sight, let him say: "O servants of Allah, help me! (yâ 'ibâd Allâh a'înûnî), for verily he will be helped."
  14. Ok I'm a Sufi Sunni and I just watched this video. The first point is that Wahabis' videos always have ulterior motives. Even in this video they added the image of the Hindu goddess Kali and also added the word "goddess" in brackets after the name of Sayyida Fatima (s.a.) .I don't know Arabic very well but I am pretty sure the speaker did not use the word "goddess" for SAyyida Fatima? I do not know about this prayer which he is referring to but I did NOT understand his words to mean you should do salah for sayyida Fatima (nauzubillah). It might be some kind of special namaz for fulfilling needs. I do not know of this particular one but I do know that in authentic Sunni sources (not Wahabi) special prayers and duas exist for seeking help. As a Qadiri Sufi we have a dua called Salat al Ghawthiyyah, for example, which is a dua taught by Sayyidina Ghawlth al Azam Abdul Qadir Jilani (ra) to seek help from Allah via the Ghawth.I have used it and it works alhamdulillah. If Shaykh Abd al Qadir Jilani (q) can help, who is both Hassani and Hussaini sayyid, don't you think his noble ancestors the Imams of Ahlul Bayt, or Hazrat Abbas or other members of the Aal, can't help? They are greater than Huzoor Ghawth al Azam! I am Sunni and I routinely say, "Ya Ali madad!", or "Ya Hussain!" etc. (or Ya Shaykh Abdul Qadir! etc. etc.) The issue of tawassul is a delicate one and people often misunderstand it. It is all to do with intention. If you believe Allah has given these holy saintly people the power to help his servants then it is not shirk. If you believe these people can help independently of Allah then it would be shirk but no Muslim, as far as I know, has ever believed that! When I say, "Ya Ali madad!" I know it is because Allah has given Mawla Ali (a.s.) the power to help those in need! And that is true of all his saintly servants. There is that famous verse in the Qur'an about calling upon Allah and His Messenger and those who give charity whilst in ruku....which we all believe refers to Ali (a.s.) This article by the Lebanese scholar Dr. Gibril Haddad is excellent about the permissibility of calling upon other than Allah for help with evidences: http://www.sunnah.org/aqida/madad.htm
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