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  1. 46 points
    Salaam alaykum, I am very proud to present the culmination of nearly ten years of research on the Twelfth Imam, al-Hujja b. a-Hasan, al-Mahdi, al-Qa'im, the Patron of Time, peace be upon him. This is by far the most comprehensive English work on the subject. It is a compilation of the most ancient and most reliable hadiths on the Mahdi from Twelver Shīʿī sources. Learn about the birth of the Twelfth Imam, his occultation, his ambassadors, his inevitable return, Islamic eschatology, and much more. Paperback now available on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1790653827 E-book available: https://www.amazon.com/Rise-Qaim-Appearance-Established-Narrations-ebook/dp/B07L2K8GW2/ref=sr_1_sc_1?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1543840819&sr=1-1-spell&keywords=the+rise+of+fthe+qa'im Big big thanks and duas for those who helped me in this project. Namely, @Abu Nur @Ibn al-Hussain @Cake @Abu Tufayl @Hannibal May you be rewarded for your assistance. ---------------------------- "... an essential compendium concerning the concept of the Mahdi in the English language ... A highly welcomed effort, it is useful for researchers as well as those wanting to understand the idea of the Mahdi within the context of the classical literature on the subject." -- Sayyid Hussain Makke "... a fresh and insightful approach to the translation of traditions concerning the twelfth Imam and the rising of the Qa’im ... it is my hope that this work will be of benefit to all seekers of knowledge who wish to become further acquainted with the Twelfth Imam (ajt) and his coming." -- Shaykh Vinay Khetia "A long awaited and much-needed work for the English-speaking world. In an age where skepticism regarding religious beliefs is prevalent, the author has collected many of the reliable traditions on the subject of the Mahdi (a) and has made them readily accessible." -- Sayyid Ali Imran "The most comprehensive hadith compilation about the twelth Imam present in the English language." -- Dr. Taymaz Tabrizi "Trained in both secular academia and in the sciences of the seminary Bilal Muhammad combines the very best of both worlds especially when it comes to his methodological rigour in selecting the narrations of this work." -- Dr. Francisco Luis
  2. 22 points
    As the Orientalist and civil servant Sir William Muir (1819–1905) served in India for the British government, it was not long before he realized the significance of Prophet Muhammad's (p) sunnah for the day-to-day practice of Islam for the Muslims. Much of the sunnah is derived from the ḥadīth literature which constitutes one of the most significant bodies of work within the vast sea of Islamic disciplines. The majority of Muslims since the rise of Islam have relied heavily on aḥadīth to acquire religious knowledge pertaining to different aspects of their lives, be it theology, jurisprudence or ethics. As such, 8 online sessions are being offered via Skype to introduce students to the development of ḥadīth sciences within a Shī’ī Imāmī context. By the end of the sessions, a student would ideally be acquainted with the basic discussions and sub-discussions that take place within Shī’ī Imāmī ḥadīth discourse. Please note, these lessons will be introductory in nature and if one already has a decent grasp of the subject it is advised they do not signup. There will also be an opportunity for questions and answers. Fees: The course is being offered for $10 USD and payments can be made through Paypal http://paypal.me/AliImranSC/10USD - if you are in Canada and want to pay through Interac, please private message me and I will share my e-mail address with you and we can agree on the details of a security question & answer. Deadline to sign up is July 14th, 2018. When making the payment, please mention your name and ShiaChat username or e-mail address so that the private link to the Skype conversation can be sent to you. Timing: The 60-minute sessions will take place on Sundays, via Skype. My personal suggestion for time is 12 PM EDT (Toronto), which is 5 PM EST (London). They will be recorded so those who paid but missed a session for whatever reason, can access it later. Course Outline Session 1: July 15, 2018 Definition, Significance & Branches Brief History of Development & Compilation Role of the Shī'a in Ḥadīth Development Session 2: July 22, 2018 Major Books of Ḥadīth Akhbārī & Uṣūlī Views on Ḥadīth Books Session 3: July 29, 2018 'Ilm al-Rijāl Session 4: August 5, 2018 'Ilm al-Dirāyah Session 5: August 12, 2018 Fiqh al-Ḥadīth Session 6: August 19, 2018 Fiqh al-Ḥadīth - Case Studies Session 7: August 26, 2018 Muslim "Reformists" and Ḥadīth Session 8: September 2, 2018 Orientalists and Ḥadīth Studies About Me: I am one of the senior members of ShiaChat and much of the ShiaChat moderator and administrative team knows me and can surely vouch for my trustworthiness (). I received my BCom in 2010, from York University, Toronto and then went on to work as an internet marketer. I began my seminary studies in Qom in November 2012 and completed my undergraduate degree there in January 2018. I intend on beginning my post-graduate degree in Qom after the summer and am also concurrently finishing off an MA in Islamic Studies from the Islamic College of England. I regularly blog on http://www.iqraonline.net Wasalam
  3. 21 points
    Ashvazdanghe

    forgive me for Ziarat

    Salam I will go to Ziarat of Karbala & other holy site about a week from this Thursday please forgive me
  4. 21 points
    If anyone needs a dua or prayer to be said for specific cause - plz let me know either in this thread or inbox me. I will be late making duas today at night and for tomorrow evening as well. I wish to help out because I know if more people assist in dua then inshAllah it will be powerful.
  5. 20 points
    Reza

    An Administrator Announcement

    My Fellow ShiaChatters: It has come to my attention that our beloved ShiaChat is under attack. In an unprecedented, never before seen manner in the 20 years of this site, people have decided to disagree on stuff, say mean things to one another, be petty, immature, and self-righteous, and make low quality useless posts. To address this calamity befallen us, ShiaChat administration has developed the below emergency plan for you all: 1. Don't use public discussion topics as an outlet for your private proxy battles. It's not fair to the topic, to other posters, and yourself. 2. If you have an issue with a member, privately contact that member by PM. Additionally, you can add a staff member to the PM as a mediator. Or just ignore. 3. People are free to enter, leave, and participate in a discussion topic in any matter they see fit, as long as it's within the rules. Does anybody bother to read them? 4. Report or respond, but not both. Reporting a post indicates that you want a mod to edit or remove that post. Responding means you're ok with the post being publically viewable, as you're validating it's existence with a response. If you report a post but respond to it anyway, then more respond to it, what do you expect mods to do? Hide lots of posts, then having to deal with the crybabies afterward? 5. If you give an opinion (especially a minority opinion) expect to get challenged from many sides. There are two extremes, those who post useless chickenscratch sentences and others who go on long copy/paste sprees. Just write one good, solid paragraph and cite a few sources. If youre not up for the challenge, then proceed with caution. 6. Stop playing the victim. Even if you somebody says something mean about you, victimhood is your own creation, not theirs. 7. Bots and trolls exist, but it's not the responsibility of vigilantes. Admins and mods look at posting trends, IP addresses, etc to make these determinations. The only bots I see are the mods working tirelessly in a robotic fashion to keep this place running. 8. People need to stop referring to others like they are destroying the religion. 9. If you want a discussion where everyone agrees with you, then start a club or have a PM chat. 10. Stop talking about abstract concepts like love, respect, faith, patience, etc. Prove it with action. Like for example, if mods tell you to stop something, you actually stop. And actually following the rules. 11. ShiaChat mods and admins give no special preference to members, no matter how long they've been a member, or how popular they are. 12. Do NOT describe or argue mod actions in public. Do it by PM. 13. There are certain sensitivities of a Shia majority forum you should follow. 14. Opinions are one thing, but slander is another, and if you worry you're crossing the line, you probably are. 15. Think about the experience of others on the site. And lastly: 16. Let's thank everyone on the site for their participation, good posts, and friendly advice. Also to all the mods for their hard work, despite what they deal with. AND....if behavior doesn't change, I will personally drop the hammer myself. I'm merciful but no pacifist.
  6. 19 points
    Salam ive been struggling with the last month in keeping my religion i am at the point where I am thinking my life would be that much easier if I just left Islam and be the person everyone wants me to be i have no family that are muslim so it’s hard to maintain a family life as a single mum please make dua that Allah won’t allow me to leave religion
  7. 18 points
    Salam alaikum brothers and sisters... it’s been so long since I’ve logged on here and scrolled through the forums. It saddens me because I remember when I reverted I spent so much time on here connecting with other Muslims, learning and sharing - I was filled with inspiration and excitement and LOVE for Allah. I could not help but cry almost daily because I was so grateful to be guided to Islam, I felt whole and new - the world transformed and tears welled up in my eyes just seeing the sky, the earth, the plants, all the things Allah has created and knowing He had the power to create such a perfect world. However things have gone very very downhill... I am an alcoholic and got sober after reverting. I didn’t crave or consume a drop of alcohol for over a year. I relapsed and one thing led to another and I suddenly found myself in the midst of an even stronger and scarier addiction. Methamphetamine. The relapse with alcohol and my current active addiction to meth has DESTROYED my relationship with Allah. I have turned my back on all my duties and responsibilities as a Muslim, I have committed further sins as a result of being under the influence of meth constantly. I have turned away from Allah and instead have tried to seek comfort from meth/my addiction/other sins. I am DEEPLY ashamed and recently have been trying to remember Allah, trying to ask Him for guidance and for forgiveness and the strength to fight my addiction. I have taken full responsibility for my addiction I think. I do not blame anyone for it, I made the choice to try it the first time and seek it out the second time. I was naive and unaware of how powerful it was and I unfortunately met a dealer who pulled all the tricks (that I was ignorant to) to get me HOOKED on this drug very very quickly. However I know he wouldn’t have even had that chance had I not sought the drug out, had I been stronger in my faith and obeyed Allah’s commandments I wouldn’t be in the situation I am now, this addiction wouldn’t have had a chance to begin. I am getting help, going to go into detox and then look into rehab programs. Will Allah forgive me...? What can I do to rebuild my relationship with Allah and use the strength and love and faith Islam teaches/Allah provides, to aid me in my recovery? I am ashamed yes for committing haram acts. But I also do not want to hide my sins especially addiction because I think it’s important to talk about it and encourage all Muslims struggling with addiction to seek help and turn back to Allah immediately... advice would be appreciated. Any inspirational stories of recovery relating to Islam would also be very very helpful. Can I do this? Will I be able to find Allah again and follow His guidance? I’m scared. I am scared to stop using and scared to keep using. Oh Allah please forgive me and help me find my way back to the straight path! Please make dua for me & for all addicts and ALWAYS trust Allah’s judgement and commandments brothers & sisters because He is never wrong. He knew that using addictive substances can lead to addiction and that’s why he made even using them once or a little bit HARAM. Trust our Creator. He knows how weak human mind/human nature can be. Don’t make my mistakes. Strengthen your bond with Allah so that your Imam is STRONG and not susceptible to such evils...
  8. 18 points
    AmirAlmuminin Lover

    I got the job

    Salaam Alaykum This morning I got good news. I got the job in a big company. I've been jobless for two months and half, and I've been spending all this time programming, learning, and applying for the jobs in the library. I'm so happy. Inshaallah it goes well
  9. 18 points
    Sayyida_L

    missing someone

    Salaams All, I am a 25 year old girl, and I lost my dad on the 9th of June 2017. My Dad's death happened at home, His head on my lap, His hand in mine. His final moments with me. It has been so long, I have tried various amaal, various suras, but I still can not take the scene out of my head, nor can I accept the fact, that my dad is no more. I can not sleep, cannot eat. and I cry most of the time. Can anyone advice me what to do? How to stop from hurting?
  10. 17 points
    Salaam alaykum, We are very proud to present the Berkeley Institute for Islamic Studies. The Berkeley Institute for Islamic Studies (BLIIS) is a non-profit organization that was established in 2017 and is based in Berkeley, California. It was founded with the goal of promoting scholarship on Islam and Islamic cultures both historical and contemporary. The institute’s academic research on Islam includes a broad range of academic disciplines from theology to law, and from anthropology to political science. The institute encourages an interdisciplinary approach to the academic study of Islam. Within the Islamic tradition, the institute promotes research on those areas which have had relatively little attention devoted to them in Western academia to date. These include the intellectual and literary expressions of Islam in general. As a new kind of online academic institution, the Berkeley Institute for Islamic Studies is aimed at a high-visibility context and its digital platform makes the institute cost-effective for high-value content compared to traditional academic departments. Our website has been launched. You can access our academic research and essays for free here: http://www.bliis.org/ For general inquiries, please email admin@bliis.org or message our Facebook page. "Education is a better safeguard of liberty than a standing army."
  11. 17 points
    Asslamoalaikum Please suggest a name for my new born baby boy. He born on 01 Muharram (12-09-2018)
  12. 16 points
    notme

    Does marriage get inevitably boring?

    Does friendship inevitably get boring? Build a marriage based on friendship and you'll even enjoy being bored together.
  13. 16 points
    Salam, There is a limit to how much I can cringe when my little sister wears mini-skirts, no hijab etc. I love my sister, but I just don't want her to dress like that, especially when I go out with her in public. I try to correct her in a calm way, but she makes that eww face, saying "honestly why does me showing skin bother you?". If I correct her, she always replies in a mocking tone. You might say to me, that it's none of your business, but my parents don't seem to care anymore. My mum at times does show her concern, but my dad just accepts her wearing it. When I spoke out in front of my parents, they told me to mind my own business. I know I'm not her dad, but she has a very bad influence, it's like no one is there to guide her. It has gotten to the point that she doesn't even feel like going to majlis of Imam Hussein (as). I can't stand how careless my parents have become. I might not have the skills to bring her to the straight path, but who does? I wish she could have some pious Shia friends!
  14. 16 points
    Abu Hadi

    lRl vs. USA

    1) Iran is the only country in the world that is consistently standing up to the Zionist Regime. 2) Iran is the only country that is lead by Wilayat Al Faqih Each one of these requires further explanation. First, since the 1967 war, no Arab government has stood up in any real or consistent way to the Zionist Government. This is while Palestinians, their fellow Arabs, are being wiped from the face of the earth in slow motion, before their eyes. Also, Islam's third Holiest site, Masjid Al Aqsa, is being occupied by Zionists. For Arabs, and also for Muslims, this is equivalent to being punched in the face every morning and every evening. Being reminded that although we are many, and the Zionists are few, we are doing nothing while they are doing the above. This is deep river of anger and rage which is there for whoever wishes to tap into it. Iran has successfully tapped into it, and this is big threat to the US/Zionist plans for the region of the Middle East and beyond. Second, the system of Wilayat Al Faqih is a system that is outside the control of the US and Zionists, which is why they hate it. If they could manipulated / bribe the marjaa' as they bribe and manipulate other politicians, the US and Iran would be best friends as they were under the pre IRI government. They are obsessed with power and control, so they automatically hate anything they can't control. Because of the current world economic system, which is run 100% by banks and mega corporations, these banks and corporations, most of which are headed by Zionists, have the ability to pump up or bring down any national economy in the world. Since these countries are run by politicians, who are most afraid of losing their power, these politicians known that to face down the Zionists and these corporations means their economy will go down and because of that they people will turn against them and they will lose their political power. So although they may disagree with the way these things are run, they will never openly confront the 'powers that be' because of this fact. The only country in the world that is actually confronting these policies is Iran, which makes them a threat to the current order of things, with big banks and corporations at the top and everyone else under their feet. The Wilayat Al Faqih is the head of the groups that are confronting this system, openly, and groups are uniting and organizing under this leadership. So although I do not agree with everything the is done by IRI (I have stated plainly, many times the areas where I disagree) I believe that overall, the world is a better place because of the existence of the IRI, may Allah(s.w.a) protect them and strengthen them and strengthen and project our Wilayat Al Faqih and our marjaa' and all the mumineen and muminat. I get up every morning and pray that I will live to see the day that there is a flag, other than the Zionist flag, being raised over Masjid Al Aqsa, InShahAllah.
  15. 16 points
    In modern liberal societies, it's not enough to tolerate homosexuality, rather we have to celebrate it. We have to see it as a good and positive thing, on par with heterosexuality. Here are 2 philosophical arguments against this. The first is that homosexuality is a kind of disability, and the second is that homosexuality requires an internal disharmony. Disability 1. A disability is a physical or mental condition that prevents or restricts normal human activities. 2. Homosexuality prevents or restricts the normal human activity of natural sexual reproduction 3. So, homosexuality is a disability. Disabilities are not good things in themselves that should be celebrated. While we should value and even celebrate the achievements of disabled people, we shouldn't celebrate their disabilities, e.g. we shouldn't celebrate not having an arm, or being wheelchair bound, or being blind, or regard being blind as on par with having sight. Rather we should be looking for ways to cure blindness, to restore mobility, etc. Disharmony If your biological organs are directed at the opposite sex, but your attraction is for the same sex, then your organs and attraction are not in harmony. Your biology and your psychology are not united - they are in a state of disharmony with respect to each other. On the other hand, if your psychology and your biology are both directed at the same sex, then they are in harmony. All things considered it is better to be in a state of harmony than disharmony. Homosexuality is a state of disharmony. People who want us to celebrate homosexuality want us to celebrate a state that is necessarily disharmonious. But such a state isn't worthy of celebration. We should instead be trying to restore the harmony within the individual, not celebrating it. None of this implies that we should hate homosexuals, or that they are evil, and I certainly do not accept either. The point is simply that the state of homosexuality is not the ideal state, and is not something to be viewed positively.
  16. 15 points
    Recently a booklet of around 50 pages was published, researched and written by Muḥammad Tehrānī (researcher and teacher at the Hawzah) in which he goes over numerous accounts related to Āshūrā that are popularly retold from the pulpits or are part of our eulogies. In this work he mentions just over 90 such reports. Majority of them are not found in earlier reliable historical or maqātil literature at all. As a matter of fact, a lot of them are found in works considered seriously weak and problematic. Two famous works which many scholars have called out as problematic and which include a lot of fabrications and lies are Rawḍah al-Shuhadā of Kashifī (written 850 years after the battle of Karbala) and Tadhkirah al-Shuhadā of Mullā Ḥabībullah Sharīf Kashānī (written 1280 years after the battle of Karbala). Some of the accounts we hear today only first appear in one of these two works. The actual booklet mentions these popular, yet unreliable accounts, and gives further details regarding them, including its sources if there are any and what is problematic about them. It is also interesting to note how late some of these accounts appear only for the first time and how quickly they became popular. Of course, not all of these accounts are retold by everyone and neither are they told in gatherings organized by all ethnicities. In fact, some of these are only popular in Iranian gatherings and unheard of in gatherings held by other ethnicities. What follows below is simply a brief table of contents of what is further explained in the booklet. It can be seen that a very high percentage of stories often heard from the pulpits and in poetry can only be traced back to weak and problematic sources and often times are mere fabrications and imaginations of individuals. Continue Reading: http://www.iqraonline.net/popular-unreliable-accounts-related-to-ashura/
  17. 15 points
    Qa'im

    The Cosmology of Salat

    In the beginning, Allahu Akbar - God's Essence is too great to be described (الله أكبر من أن يوصف) ( الله الواحد الاحد الذي ليس كمثله شيء ، لا يقاس بشيء ، ّ و لا يلمس بالاخماس ، و لا يدرك بالحواس). Then, the Fatiha: The Light of Muhammad (s), the Ahl al-Bayt (as), the righteous, and the angelic realm is created, supplicating His holy praises and praying to Him. They all bow in subservience to Him. Then, the first Sujud: We are created from earth after nonexistence. (أللهم إنك منها خلقتنى يعني من الارض ّ) Then, we sit: We rise to live, and our life is marred by mistakes, shortcomings, and sins. We repent and beg God for His forgiveness. (و رفع رأسك و منها أخرجتنا) Then, the second Sujud: We die and return back to the earth for a prescribed time. (السجدة الثانية وإليها تعيدنا) Then, we sit: We praise Allah for bringing us to life after having died. We take our shahada, because it is the foremost matter that we will be questioned about. (و رفع رأسك من ّ الثانية و منها تخرجنا تارة اخرى) Then we bless Muhammad and his Family, and greet the Messenger, for it is their intercession that we will seek on that Day. Then, we greet the righteous servants of Allah, who will be raised with him. Then, tasleem: the greeting of Paradise (tahiyat al-jannah). Salat is the ascension of the believer.
  18. 15 points
    Qa'im

    Divorcing infertile husband

    This type of thinking is toxic. You're justifying throwing him away because you assume he would do the same. Have you asked him what he would do if the shoe were on the other foot? Your family seems to be pretty hell-bent on getting you two divorced. This is surprising, considering the possibility that things can go terribly wrong. What if you can't remarry? What if you don't love your second husband the way you love your current husband? What if he too is infertile? What if you get a child with a birth defect, or in the example in Surat al-Kahf, an evil child? There may be a wisdom to his situation, and perhaps adoption can save a person's life, while divorce can very well destroy yours.
  19. 14 points
    Well. You can start with being "polite" and being "respectful" by not referring to it as the "Shia religion". You are insinuating it is distinct from Islam, especially by claiming you "became" a Muslim aged 15, as if being Twelvers are not.
  20. 14 points
    Kirmani

    Important read for all shias

    Assalaam Alaikum all, with all due respect for my sunni brothers and sisters, this post is mainly directed for the shia members of this forum. This is a very long rant that I have been wanting to do for a while and want to make it clear from the beginning, this post is NOT meant to be a show off and I DO NOT WANT your sympathies, admiration or praises in anyway, but rather I need to say this so that hopefully it can bring out happiness from anyone who is feeling depressed, motivation out of people who don't have the energy anymore, and most of all an increased thankfulness to the All Mighty. The reason is because I have observed a lot of people in the shia community (especially here in the West) that are really taking their faith and shia identity for granted and do not realize the blessing that they have been granted. I was a sunni who was born and raised in Saudi Arabia. So yes even though my family was regular moderate hanafi sunnis, I was raised with a full salafi-style education until I moved to Canada. I was pretty much wahabi-style sunni and all my life-long friends were sunni, every single member of my family was sunni, and only till the age of 23-24 is when I converted to shia-ism AlhumduLilah after a lot of research. Things were ok in the beginning as I mostly kept my faith to myself, got married (and was even able to convince her to eventually to become shia lol) but after a number of years obviously enough people noticed the way I prayed and other practices etc and I had to reveal my faith whole circle. Now obviously this lead to a lot of heat with people, my dad didnt give me much resistance, but my mom till this day has had a problem. I do have a cordial relationship with them now, but every once in a while I have to endure her snidey remarks about shias do this and that bida and how wrong they are etc which really gets under your skin but what can you do, I just keep quiet and endure it. With regards to friends, I actually lost a couple of friends who I considered my best friends (heck our parents knew each other before we were born, they were practically like my brothers) who don't speak to me at all now despite my several attempts to reach out to them (even apologizing if i did anything wrong to them), one of them even threatened to kill me if I became shia (during my research days), let me tell you it really is a mind-buster when someone you have known and had a very close friendship with your whole life for 25 years to just out and say that seriously. Luckily he was all talk and no bite lol. But now as my children are getting older I have noticed a huge change in all my other friend’s attitude as well, in our weekly and monthly friends’ get together they exclude us a lot now, as I get the feeling they don’t want our “practices” or kids’ practices influencing their kids (when ironically a lot of them are moderate-liberal, it’s only shia practices that disturb them as opposed to all other faiths lol). This isolation from them is very depressing and sad since we have all known each other for ages. And the few times we do get together honest to God I never bring anything up but they will always bring up “How shias are misguided, and they do this wrong and that wrong etc” and if I even dare to say something back they act all butt hurt and accuse me of arguing unnecessarily lol. So whenever in the rare circumstances we do meet up I tend to stay quiet. NOW I KNOW what some of you may think here: “You’re better off without them”, “who needs friends like that anyways”, “You have now much better and real friends in the shia community” etc etc, and all of that is absolutely correct 100%!!! But the reality is that even though with the tons and tons of new beautiful people that have entered my life and are much more beneficial for me to be around with, I will never have that life long bond or closeness with them as I did with my old friends. That trust, childhood and teenage memories, old times reminiscence is just not there with them and will never be like it was with all my old friends which brings about a great deal of sadness. The more important thing to take notice of here is even though I became shia about 10-11 years ago, it took a long time to become use to the small small ibadah here and there which was only recently as it was never a common practice throughout my life. These are things such as reciting Dua Imam e Zaman A.S, Dua Kumail, Dua Tawassul, Ziyarat Ashura, attending majlises, sharing in tabarruq/niyaz, going on Ziyarat Trips, doing Umrah and Hajj the right way, praying and fasting the right way etc etc. These ARE ALL THINGS that I missed out on and only started practicing a few years ago whereas all those blessed individuals who are born into Shia families are blessed with practicing from the day they are born. I’ll never forget how after my first ziyarat trip when I came back with my ziyarat group I saw at the airport how all of the group members were welcomed back from their parents, families and friends with hugs, kisses and sayings of “Ziyarat Mubarak” and how my mom came to pick me up with just a look of annoyance and a belief of me just having wasted my time in Iraq/Iran/Syria etc. To conclude, again repeating the first line of my post that this post is NOT meant to be a show off and I DO NOT WANT your sympathies, admiration or praises in anyway, I am now a grown man who is over these things and AlhumduLilah have an extremely happy life and family with tons of beautiful people in it and the knowledge and faith system based upon the Ahle Bayt A.S (something that is far better to have than this whole universe in my hand). This post is for the fact that whenever any of you are feeling down, depressed, frustrated, unhappy about something, or just generally those people who take their faith for granted and ignore a lot of important things in it, PLEASE REALIZE HOW BLESSED YOU ARE. How blessed you are to have been born with the shia faith, -how blessed you are to be born in a shia family, with each of whom you can talk to regarding the Ahle Bayt A.S and religion versus those who cant -how blessed you are and how many blessings you have gotten due to reciting Dua Tawassul, Ziyarat Ashura, Dua Kumail etc. etc. from a young age -how blessed you are when you do ziyarat or other religious practices the right way and get commended and congratulated by your families -how you have grown up with lifelong friends who are of the same faith and how you still have and maintain those relationships And many many more things like this, please never take your faith and life for granted. The MAJORITY of muslims are devoid of all these blessings. And it’s very hard for them to come to the path, I’VE EXPERIENCED IT! Do you think it’s easy for a person to become shia when they have been sunni or any other religion all their life? Do you know how much they have to give up, how many things and relationships they have to sacrifice to change? What kind of alienation and isolation they have to face? It’s very very hard, you all should do sajdah and thank Allah SWT everyday (those of you who were born in the faith), consider it a huge blessing and be thankful for it every second of your life.
  21. 14 points
    Sumerian

    May Allah accept

    May Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى accept the deeds of the brothers and sisters who mourned and lamented for the sake of Aba Abdillah (as), and accept the deeds of the mu'mins who were not able to. May Allah curse the killers of Husayn (as) and those who oppressed him and his family. We commemorate Imam al-Mahdi (as) on this sad and painful event of Ashura. We ask Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى to hasten his appearance in order to bring imaan and justice to the world and to avenge his grandfathers (as). We also promise Fatima (as) that we will never forget her son, year in and year out we will always be there for him when mourning season begins.
  22. 13 points
    A resounding and empathetic no. One needs to look at how Imam Zain al-Abidin (عليه السلام) and how he wept for his father and family after Karbala. In my personal experiences, I've had many heartbreaks and the pain never goes away, but like an incurable disease, I'm managing it with hobbies, positive thoughts, family, Islam and good friends. I'll never get over being looked or treated differently for being disabled. I will never forget family I never said bye to, being betrayed numerous times or watching family wither and die from cancer. Time does not heal, it simply manages the pain and puts it in a tidy, little box. To quote Maya Angelou: "But still, like dust, I'll rise."
  23. 13 points
    2Timeless

    A tribute to Hashd Al Shaabi

    Salam, I don't know if there has been a thread for Hashd Al Shaabi on here before. I haven't seen one, so I've made this thread to pay tribute to the brave men who volunteered their lives for their home country and their women and children. May they all rest in peace and enjoy paradise for eternity. The martyrs teach us many lessons, the most important being selflessness and true dignity and self respect. They deserve utmost respect, after having heard of the harrowing stories family and friends have experienced in Iraq. May Allah bless them all, and protect their families and grant them the highest ranks in Jannah.
  24. 13 points
    I am not sure how to feel... I remember coming on to this website first in 2011/2012 under a different account and I would always rant about my poisonous father who hurt my mother and his own children so terribly. I lived through so much fear, anxiety, and post trauma all up until his death. And when he finally died in sp 2018 I made sure that huge cement slab was placed on top of his grave. That is how much hatred he racked up in me. I though his death would finally bring relief to our family. But shortly after his death my mother became so ill because she neglected herself. I don’t know what weird, and twisted attachement she had to my father who treated her like dirt. But her health deteriorated dramatically. She became stubborn, she wouldn’t eat well, she did not take precautions out in bad weather or take necessary vitamins. She got a lung infection and my brother and I nursed her back to health. But then she couldn’t sleep well due to age and stress. She is honestly not that old. But her stubbornness from past lead to so many things. It feel like everyday she has a new symptom and she refuses doctor visits and gets agitated and defense . Her ways are stressing my brother and I out . It kills me seeing her like this. I’m beginning to take huge amounts of overtime at work this holiday season because it’s just so stressful to come at home. When I do overtime I make sure that someone will be with her at all times. Otherwise I even changed my work schedule to be more with her. I bought her so many meds that I researched are safe and she doesn’t want to try them. She is stuck on her own ways. I really fell into a deep depression and became careless about my own life. I dunno what to do anymore. I even think I’m becoming numb to her sickness because the worry and pain took so much toll on me and she continue to be stubborn. One of my biggest fears in life was the inevitable of one day going to lose her and now I’m feeling numb to this fear. I don’t understand. I feel like my parents were selfish. They never let my brother and I plan our own lives. I want my mom to be there for my wedding but I doubt she will live to make it. It’s like they didn’t give a crap about our lives. It’s like my father only cared about himself . And my mother dragged us through years of misery by her never divorcing him. My brother had to the mortgage looming over his head directly after high school since my father had poor money skills. Wallah I don’t understand. It’s like we never get a break. For the longest time I had to watch my father continuously abuse my mother and now that he’s dead she is still suffering even worse than before. I feel like all the past stresses she endured with him have taken a physical toll on her. So even after his death he’s still managed to haunt us. I feel like my father was always a narcissistic abuser and my mother the spineless victim case . She would take out her anger from him especially on me. There are many ways their marriage impacted my brother and I life very negatively. I’m doing everything I can to help my mother . In summer we took her to doctored and hospitals and now says her wishes are to die at home Naturally . So basically she hired me and my brother as google doctors and even then still chooses whatever to do from her mind. You literally don’t know how unbelievable This stress is. I needed to vent . Wallah I’m doing my best I don’t know what else to . Literally I only have Allah and Ahl Bayt as my source of strength and comfort now.
  25. 13 points
    Ruqaya101

    hardship!!

    The vulnerable prophet ayuub- there was no living place on him that did not have sores The prophet Jakob lost his sight due to tears and crying The prophet yusuf was thrown into a well The prophet zekeriyaa was stabbed with a saw in a tree when he was inside it Our prophet mohamad s.a.w.s- despite the fact that he went through many many many times worse than all of this, he managed to get through every trial. a problem is just a problem, and if we take sadness as mere sadness, then of course and without any doubt, we will fall into depression. However, if we take a problem, sadness and a desperate situation as a test, then what will happen? Think about prophet Yusuf in the well, or prophet Yunus in the abdomen of a fish : who pulled them out??! without a doubt, with every hardship, there is ease. Does Allah almighty not tell us directly? بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ وَوَضَعْنَا عَنكَ وِزْرَكَ الَّذِي أَنقَضَ ظَهْرَكَ وَرَفَعْنَا لَكَ ذِكْرَكَ فَإِنَّ مَعَ الْعُسْرِ يُسْرًا إِنَّ مَعَ الْعُسْرِ يُسْرًا فَإِذَا فَرَغْتَ فَانصَبْ وَإِلَى رَبِّكَ فَارْغَبْ Have We not expanded for you your breast? And We removed from you your burden, Which weighed down your back? And We exalted for you your reputation? Then, surely with hardship comes ease: Surely, with hardship comes ease, So when you have finished, still strive hard And to your Lord turn (all) your attention. Do not leave the valley of hopefulness, there is always hope! Do not succumb to the darkness, cause there are always sunrays @RepentantServant, @Gaius I. Caesar, @zionismdestroyer, @Khadim uz Zahra, @ali_fatheroforphans, @Sirius_Bright, @laithAlIRAQI, @Ibn Al-Ja'abi, @Asghar Ali Karbalai, @Ralvi, @Sumerian, @2Timeless
  26. 13 points
    Abu Hadi

    1,000,000 Salawat

    Alllahuma Sale Ala Muhammad Wa Ale Muhammad. (This is Salawat, for those who don't know) If we get 1000 members to do Salawat 1000 times each, that's 1,000,000 Deadline is Sept 12, 1st of Muharrram. Who will help ? If you will do 1000 Salawat before Sept 12, just like this post. When it gets 1000 likes, now we have 1,000,000 We tried this before. I think we can do it this time. Also, at the end of the 1000 Salawat, recide Dua Faraj. Allahuma waliyika Hujjat Ibn Al Hassan... If you don't know it, I can post. http://www.qul.org.au/library/duas-supplications/408-dua-faraj-the-supplication-for-the-return-of-imam-mahdi-as
  27. 13 points
    Salams This is a great opportunity for those who are interested in learning a perspective of Shia Islam regarding hadith literature. To the members who are interested but may not be able to afford... please PM me. Shiachat Team has decided to invest $100 for 10 eligible students. Criteria for eligibility is your credibility as a Shiachat member, the quality of your posts on the forum, sincerity in learning, critical thinking without being counter-productive, and/or demonstration of your commitment to complete the entire course etc. @Ibn al-Hussain to me (and to many other team members) is like a little brother who has remained loyal and committed to the success of our forum and who is now in a qualified position to share his perspective with others and help students of Islam produce knowledge through critical thinking. I pray that he succeeds in his current mission and that his students/listeners/critics become a reason for SC Team to take pride (not in the sense of arrogance but in the sense of confidence with humility).
  28. 13 points
    It's no mystery that Nakshawani enjoys a luxury lifestyle, but these are disjointed out-of-context clips. Most if not all of us have done worse, and we ask Allah to forgive us and all mu'mineen. Just keep in mind that this is a preacher, not a scholar; and even if he were a scholar, we should not raise any fallible person above our heads. One section of our community reveres people on minbars, while another section of our community look for every reason to attack them. They are people. Take the khayr and leave the rest.
  29. 13 points
    Arrogant Muslims who think others are going to hell. Gosh I'm sick of these deluded people.
  30. 12 points
    Many of the topics I discuss may be somewhat undesirable for many Muslims. It's not only in ShiaChat, but in my local community. I may be wrong, but there is indeed a good intention behind this, partly based on my very own experience. I was raised by a very strict father, and I was even stricter than him in terms of religion (never missed the 51 rakats nor daily morning duas, nor allowed leisure time based on anything else than philosophical and theological books). Yet still I exploded and fell into sin because I wasn't realizing I was repressing my ideas and my nafs unjustly, and I felt proud of that. Many youth within our communities develop a lot of questions and doubts regarding not only their religion, but their social customs, roles, interactions, taboos, etc. And oftenly, they don't separate religion from that, because both come from the SAME source: parents. At certain point, these customs start clashing with their goals and lifestyle (haram partying, early arranged marriages, etc.). If it wasn't for these clashes, they wouldn't start questioning their faith, how they experiment it, how their families follow Islam, etc. Can't go sleep to my friend's house, nor go partying with friends, nor avoid arranged marriage with an Iraqi or whatever culture I feel little to no connection to it, etc. These youth may also, at the same time, be discriminated for being Muslims, and judged by ideas conmonly defended by Muslims (views on feminism, women's role in society, lgbt issues, etc.). This is an unevitable secularist force, that we may shun with bad words, or start talking openly about it. And this is done with reasonable ideas (not merely based on Islam, because Westerners know no Islam). We have to shield youth with a mentality and a logic that may make them able to argue and defend the ideas they were educated in by Islam, IN CASE they feel comfortable with them (otherwise they just don't believe in Islam, and that is up to Allah to guide or not guide people). The point of all this is not to change Islam, but to leave the doors of debate always open, with good manners instead of prejudices against Western ideas, nor censorship, nor backwards mentality. This, my friends, will encourage youth not to develop an extreme reaction against Islam and their culture altogether when circumstances are against them. And this reaction, the more extreme it is, the harder it is to return to Islam. And we will want to return, for sure we will, when the strength of youth is not present, nor the ferocity of innovative ideas, nor revolutionary movements nor the passion of making new friends and develop new ideas. When sickness and weakness, and the shadow of death is our only companion in solitude, when we feel really useless, at that time, we will want to go back to the God we unjustly forgot. Many SCers have precisely contacted me when they started feeling doubts, when they started "that phase". I'm not so much worried with the phase, but with the idea of forgetting God and Islam, closing the door. We may have our times where we forgot our prayers, focus on friends and work and fun. But be careful with leaving religion completely forgotten. Always keep something with you, leave the door open, consider you will want to go back and focus on your faith. Leave that good niyyah in you. There may be many points you feel hard to accept, many of them probably social rather than religious (as the recently discussed women's social issues). Be open, discuss whatever you like, share your opinions, find someone to hear them. Don't feel apart, don't feel an alien within the Islamic community, as it is more diverse and more welcoming than you would ever expect if you keep trying. You will find people like you, who hold a special place for Islam in their hearts, with whom you will feel not alone, and you will see that the beauty you found in this religion isn't necessarily linked with what may make you hate your life, your origins or your family's customs. Youth in my local community have almost entirely left Islam. Saying this because it's way easier and less hard to prevent this than to fix it. Let's put things easier for youth to speak out their doubts, their worries, their desires and interests in life, let's try to judge less, let's make an effort to understand nowaday mentality, see why it matters and why it convinces so many youth people. It's hard to reach conviction without doubt. Doubt is the principle of any talib al ilm. So instead of repressing your doubts and yourself out of external pressure, consider being open, question anything that clashes with your life, and use your reason to find the best of all ideas and approaches. In this convenient way, pressure won't kill you nor make you have undesirable reactions towards your society, family, religion, and, in the end, against yourself.
  31. 12 points
    Salaam I’m an 18 year old Shi’a Syeda and am looking to get married soon as Islam has encouraged the virtues of marriage and the Ahlul Bayt have emphasised the blessings of marriage especially that at a young age. But I’m a disabled person in a wheelchair and I often wonder if anyone would want to marry a girl like me. Whether I would add anything of value to my husband’s life. Whether Islam has said anything about this? Any advice would be appreciated JazakAllah
  32. 12 points
    IbnSina

    Backbiting, gheebah

    Salam aleykum, Backbiting also called gheebah is a very serious sin within Islam, but also in most of the major religions of humanity. I would like to remind my brothers and sisters of this as unfortunately I have seen this shameful and disgraceful practise more and more popular. Sometimes it is done without realizing it and sometimes it is done without caring about it being a grave sin. First of all, lets define what backbiting is according to the general dictionaries out there before looking at what Islam says about it: To say mean or spiteful things about a person (such as someone who is not present) To attack the character or reputation of (a person who is not present). To talk spitefully about (an absent person) The above is the definition of backbiting according to several different dictionaries online. If we look at how Islam defines it then we have a hadtih from Rasulullah(S) who says: “Backbiting is to mention your brother's name in connection with what he hates." Nahj al Fasahah, tradition No. 255. Page No. 42. "Backbiting is to say something about your brother that he would not like." Kanz al Ummal, no 8024. Further more Rasulullah(S) says about backbiting: "Do not backbite Muslims and do not try to discover their faults." Nahj al Fasahah, tradition No 463. Page No. 68. "Backbiting is worse than adultery', at which he was asked, "How so?" He replied, 'A man commits adultery, then repents, and Allah pardons him for it, whereas the backbiter is not forgiven until his victim forgives him." Al-Targhib wa al-Tarhib, v 3, p.511, no 24. "Backbiting eats away at a man's faith faster than a gangrenous sore can eat away to the inside." al-Kafi, v 2, page 357, no. 1. "Whoever backbites a fellow Muslim man or woman, Allah neither accepts his prayer nor his fasting for forty days and nights, until and unless the victim of his backbiting forgives him." Bihar al Anwar, v75, p 258, no 53. In the holy Qur'an, we find that Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) tells us: “Believers, stay away from conjecture; acting upon some conjecture may lead to sin. Do not spy on one another or backbite. Would any of you like to eat the disgusting dead flesh of your brother? Have fear of Allah; Allah accepts repentance and is All- merciful (49:12).” “Allah does not love public accusation unless one is truly wronged. Allah is All-hearing and All- knowing. (4:148)” Please dear brothers and sisters, I urge all of you to be very careful not to do backbiting whether that is done on purpose or not done on purpose. Calling a brother or a sister who is not present a lair or two faced, which both means he or she is being called a munafiq is a very serious accusation. Please be careful not to backbite brothers or sisters who are not present to defend themselves or to explain themselves, try and maintain your own diginity at all costs and if you run upon a brother and sister who is backbiting for whatever reason, ask them to stop and if they do not stop then remove yourself from such company. Ya Ali!
  33. 12 points
    Hadeel

    Assalamu Alaykum

    I've been a guest in this site for some quite time and never really thought of sharing my art but that's going to change. I'm very glad to share some with the Shiachat community: Unveil your soul @ireallywannaknow
  34. 12 points
    Irfani313

    After....

    Hardly the day started and ... it is already six o'clock in the evening. Barely arrived on Monday and it's already Friday. ... and the month is already over. ... and the year is almost up. ... and already 40, 50 or 60 years of our lives have passed. ... and we realize that we lost our parents, friends. and we realize that it is too late to go back ... So ... Let's try, however, to take full advantage of the time we have left ... Let's not stop looking for activities that we like ... Let's put color in our greyness ... Let's smile at the little things in life that put balm in our hearts. And yet, we must continue to enjoy serenely the time that remains. Let's try to eliminate the "after" ... I do it after ... I will say after ... I will think about it after ... We leave everything for 'later' as if "after" was ours. Because what we do not understand is that: after, the coffee cools ... after, priorities change ... after, the charm is broken ... after, health passes ... after, the children grow up ... after, the parents get older ... after, the promises are forgotten ... after, the day becomes the night ... after, life ends ... And after that it's often too late .... So ... leave nothing for 'later' ... Because always waiting for later, we can lose the best moments, the best experiences, the best friends, the best family ... We are no longer at the age where we can afford to postpone until tomorrow what needs to be done right away. Always remember, The day is today ... The moment is now ... [somebody forwarded it at work]
  35. 12 points
    Natsu

    I did it!

    For years i had difficulty communicating with people,Some of you might remember cuz i posted a thread about this months ago,well i think I finally got over my fear of communicating with people(tho i still have problem maintaining eye contact).I can now start a conversation properly and without fear(well it requires more practice).
  36. 12 points
    Bismillah Ta'la Salam, I have been requested to start this topic, so I will tell what I know. May Allah(s.w.a) forgive me if I make a mistake. There are certain instances where it is wajib on the community to do an act. This is known as wajib kafiyat. It is a community responsibility, to an extent that if this is not carried out, the entire community will have done haram and will suffer the consequences because every haram carries with it a penalty, whether in this life, the next or both. Some of these occasions where there is a wajib kafiyyat is well know, for example if a muslim(a) dies in a certain place, it is wajib on that community to give them the ghusl, kaffan, and bury them according to the hukm Sharia (Islamic laws) as much as they know. If a muslim dies in an area, and they are for example buried with the Christians or get eaten by wild animals, and the people of that community have the ability to give them a proper ghusl, kaffan, and burial, and they fail to do this, the entire community gets the penalty for that haram. If one person does it, the entire community is spared from that penalty. The second well known instance is when Jihad, in terms of fighting with weapons, is called for by a just and knowledgeable alim who is also mujtahid(i.e. a marjaa'). When this is called, it is wajib for the community to respond. In this case, it is not sufficient for one person to do this, but every able bodied man who has the ability to fight must do this and the women must help in terms of non combat supporting roles such as medial assistance. The most recent case of this was when Sayyid Ali Al Sistani(may Allah(s.w.a) bless him and give him long life) called for Jihad in Iraq against the terrorist takfiri gang of Daish and they were defeated at the hands of the brothers, Haji Shaabi, may Allah(s.w.a) help them and bless them. The brothers responded to the call, and thus the penalty was avoided. Only Allah(s.w.a) knows what suffering the people of Iraq would be going thru now did they not respond. Another instance which is not as well know, is the case when a man and women intend to marry and they ask for information regarding the potential spouse. If they ask about the character of the potential spouse, for the purposes of marriage, it is wajib on the person being asked to share information that they have regarding things that they have, in terms of things that they heard or saw with their own ears of their own eyes. If, for example, a man comes and asks about a women he has the intention of marrying, and the person being asked saw, with their own eyes, this person doing haram, such as drinking alcohol or carrying on an illegitimate relationship with someone who they were not married to, gambling, etc, it is wajib on that person to tell the potential husband. This is also the case if a women is asking about a man whom she has the intention of marrying. The scope of this discussion should stay between the person and the potential bride or groom, and they cannot then go and share this information with anyone other than the potential bride or groom. Again, they are only allowed to speak of something that they witnessed personally, and not anything they heard from someone else. Also, they are not allowed to speak to anyone else regarding this other than the potential husband or wife. They are not allowed to speak about it publicly. This is a wajib kafiya in that it is an obligation of every person in the community who may have this information. If the person who has this information is aware of the potential marriage and shares it in the appropriate way, then the community obligation has been fulfilled.
  37. 12 points
    Salam Alaykom. Thank you for allowing me to make duas for you all. I made dua for anyone who liked something, posted, sent me a private message, and even those who did not request. It felt amazing and really peaceful to have had this dua session. InshAllah it was successful night for everyone. I may start doing this every night, at it felt sooo good. Feel free to add anymore requests to this thread. It is always open if you need another dua and like I said every evening I will keep you all in my duas. InshAllah Allah hastens the return of Imam Zaman for all of us.
  38. 12 points
    starlight

    Thoughts 2018

    The clothing of a woman depicts her upbringing by her father, the sense of honour (ghayrah) of her brother, the manliness of her husband, her keenness to emulate her mother and above all, her conciousness of Allah watching her. This is why they said to Maryam (as): _O sister of Haaroon, your father was not an evil man and your mother was not a loose woman -19:28 (Quran ) They reminded her of her brother, father and mother. If these people are upright, she will also be upright. A pious person said, "Revealing clothes on a woman is a sign that Allah is angry with her, as He removed the clothing of Adam and Hawwaa (as) when He was displeased with them." A young girl says, "When I see a young female exposing and revealing herself, I look at her parents and think of the verse: "Stop them, indeed they will be questioned" This causes me to have even more modesty so that my mother should not be questioned." Most of that which Allah made impermissible in this world will be allowed in Jannah, e.g. wine. One thing that is not allowed here and there is nakedness. In fact, a great bounty [of Jannah] is to be properly covered. Describing Jannah, Allah says: You will not be hungry in it [Jannah] nor will you be exposed to sun (unclothed)- 20:119-120 One of the most beautiful messages I have read regarding modesty.
  39. 12 points
    Abu Hadi

    The Magic of Hijab

    When I talk about magic, I am talking about perception. Magic, like the magic of stage Magicians involves creating a reality by directing attention from one thing to another. The 'trick' of the magic trick is managing the attention of the audience. The magician does not create reality or subtract from it. Reality is as it is, and people are , most of the time incapable of changing that. As I always tell my kids, people will react to you based on how you present yourself, not based on who you are, because most people have no idea who you are. If you present yourself as a respectable person, people will treat you as if you are one, even if you're not. If you present yourself as a rude person, people will treat you as one even if you're not, because the vast majority of people are not thinkers, they are only reactors. The 'trick' of hijab is this. It forces people, and especially men, to direct their attention toward the humanity of this women. It directs their attention toward her words, her thoughts, her manners, her ideas about the world and her efforts to improve her life and the lives of those around her. It takes the very common trick of 'perceive me as a sexual object so I can distract you and then get what I want from you' off the table. If a women will forgo this other 'trick' for the sake of obedience to Allah(s.w.a), then Allah(s.w.a) will force those around her to not objectify her and acknowledge her for her humanity as a creation of Allah(s.w.a) with thoughts, feeling, dreams, opinions. The magic happens when she disappears from the mundane reality, and moves about thru the world unhindered by the assault of the base instincts of men. When she disappears from the stage on which men play our their vain fantasies. The other part of the magic happens when she drops this hijab for her husband, then she magically reappears as the steel cable that holds the family and society together.
  40. 12 points
    ShiaMan14

    Eid Mubarak (1439 / 2018)

    Eid Mubarak ShiaChatters. Hope you had a blessed Ramadan and a tremendous eid. Please remember the shia we lost from last eid to now with a Fateha and cherish the ones alive with a loud salawat.
  41. 12 points
    Christianlady

    To all the Muslims on Shiachat

    May you have a very blessed Ramadan!!! Peace and God bless you!!!
  42. 12 points
    Khadim uz Zahra

    Divorcing infertile husband

    I don't understand why you'd rather divorce your husband - who seems to be an incredibly awesome stand-up guy given that he's even willing to divorce you to make you happy - instead of just adopting a baby. Why do you need to have a biological child? I personally cannot see the reasoning behind leaving behind a man who truly understands and loves you for the sake of having a child when adoption is a completely viable option. Could you perhaps share why the two of you don't want to adopt?
  43. 11 points
    So I've been a follower of Ahlul Bayt as since approx 7 years. In that time since, I completely stopped going to my local masjid, no excuses other than being a wimp. I was very regular in my Sunni days and knew a lot of people. The masjid is on the other road so close I can see it from my place. I have missed praying in a mosque and occaisionally go the main Shia ones when I can but they are in another part of London. Anyhow today I decided enough, I read a few old posts on ShiaChat about others doing so, and got emboldened enough to grab my turbah and head there for Asr jamat, insistent on praying our way. So I got there, it has changed a lot since I was there, expanded etc. Saw mostly new faces, few old, though they probably forgot who I was. Athan goes off, people are praying their nafila salat. I just sat there. I still dislike the feeling of people's eyes on you. I was annoyed at myself for not getting up and praying. I was too shook I guess. Whilst waiting, a revert went up to me and greeted me, followed by complimenting my aqeeq ring. He said he only recently read about them, etc. So the iqama is read and people form lines, I went to the farthest side on front row. And of course the most salafi looking dude had to be next to me, wearing a white shemagh and thobe and feet wiiiiiide apart. I wait for takbir and people to commence before putting my turbah out in front, legs shaking like crazy (smh). Did everything wajib, raised hands etc. Left out qunut being mustahab and the 3 takbir at the end. Done some tasbih Fatimat Zahra as and left. I know this whole scenario may seem ridiculuous to those among us used to praying with Sunnis, but I always just imagined the worst or someone taking away my turbah etc, especially if anyone knows how entrenched wahabism is in the London Sunni scene. I felt a wave of relief and although most probably did not see, I think I will return and also pray nafila too. Some may question what purpose there is in this. Some may say for unity. But honestly I just missed praying in congregation. Who knows it could rouse some curiosity in others, like that revert brother to investigate further.
  44. 11 points
    My article was published on BLIIS today. It can be read here: http://www.bliis.org/research/imami-legal-theory-benefits-and-harms/ Title: The Principle Of “Laws Are Subordinate To Benefits & Harms” In Imāmī Shīʿi Legal Theory And Its Implication In Non-Ritualistic Law Abstract: Shīʿi jurisprudence is centered on the theological presumption that divine laws are subordinate to benefits and harms (al-aḥkām tābiʿah lil-maṣāliḥ wa al-mafāsid). While the theoretical discussions underpinning this principle are not overly disputed, issues arise from the recognition that the derivation of law is not fundamentally concerned with real law (al-ḥukm al-wāqiʿī), but rather with apparent law (al-ḥukm al-ẓāhirī). How one ascertains the consideration of benefits and harms within apparent law – whose very nature entails the possibility of error – is a challenge to which several Imāmī Shīʿi jurists have dedicated numerous pages. Many have proffered theories for reconciliation between real and apparent law – theories which are contingent on the principle of al-ishtirāk bayn al-ʿālim wa al-jāhil. This principle states that real laws are legislated by God for both those who are aware of, as well as ignorant of the law. If this principle is invalidated, then the discussion on reconciling real and apparent law is deemed irrelevant; in such a case, knowledge of a law would become a precondition considered during divine legislation. This conclusion would alter the course of discussion to a more critical discourse concerning the perception of benefits and harms; whether such perceptions constitute knowledge; and how they guide and determine what the law ought to be. If it were possible to establish a probative method to ascertain benefits and harms, it would become the task of a jurist to ensure that laws – at least those of a non-ritualistic nature – always remain subordinate to them. Wasalam
  45. 11 points
    Qa'im

    The Four Elements

    The idea that the world is composed of four or five elements (fire, water, earth, wind, and aether) was almost universal in the ancient world. The science and mythology of many ancient civilizations, from Greece to Japan, operated on this understanding. While Islam is not really married to the idea of four elements (it is not supported in an explicit way in the Quran or hadiths), it is interesting to note that Islamic metaphysics and cosmology use this system. This is especially the case in the spiritual world. The jinn are made from a smokeless Fire, the humans are made from Earth (Teen), and the soul (ruH) comes from the word for Wind (reeH). The Throne of Allah was settled upon Water (11:7), until that water was separated into the heavens and earth. The angels are from light (Noor, a word related to Nar). Allah does not raise a prophet except that he speaks the language of his people. He may have used these literary devices to explain a realm that is ultimately beyond our understanding (ghayb). The Quran is a book that needs to be intelligible to people, especially when speaking on the unseen and unknown. While the universe is simply not made up of H2O, the image of Water as a fluid, clear, shapeless structure is befitting to understanding the world. In physics, the concept of fields (gravitational, spatial) operate largely on fluid mechanics. “Water” is a chaotic substance that was then categorized, compartmentalized and distinguished into the world we know today. Similarly, a simple sample of the water (saliva) in your body can create an entire profile of who you are: your DNA, and therefore, your family lineage, your appearance, your susceptibility to diseases, and even parts of your personality. There are some things that are beyond literal and metaphorical. The dichotomy of literal and metaphorical is sometimes not just inaccurate, but harmful to our readings of scripture.
  46. 11 points
    Islandsandmirrors

    Gay Muslim -- What to do

    May Allah reward you for staying on the path of Allah and may you always be protected. I can imagine it’s a very difficult test to overcome, one the most difficult tests of mankind, so hats off to you for keeping up with your connection to our creator. I would advice you to not marry yet if you really don’t want to. Marriage is not wajib in Islam, but highly recommended regardless. If you’re looking for intimacy (halal), know that intimacy doesn’t necessarily have to be sexual relations. Intimacy is feeling connected with someone on an emotional and spiritual level. Once you find someone who accepts you, and understands you unconditionally, without judgement, then you can share this onness by the form of marriage. There are many people who are asexual or married couples who rarely have sex, however, they have a higher degree of intimacy than other couples because they are connected from the soul and mind unlike others. Physical intimacy is not a means to a happy marrriage. I would recommend finding a woman who is either asexual or doesn’t care too much about sex. That way, there is no pressure on you to “perform” and you two can be affectionate in non-sexual ways, and you might actually be really happy. Marriage is always a learning process. It doesn’t have to be passionate, it doesn’t have to be demanding. It’s being with your best, true friend. Find someone asexual, and inshallah you’ll be happy. I pray that you will find a tender, understanding woman who will not judge your struggles and tests. It might take time to find a woman whom you can open up to about this, but it’ll be all worth it in the end.
  47. 11 points
    starlight

    Eid al Adha

    That's very disrespectful. Sunnis are our brothers in faith and celebrate Eid ul Azha just like we do. Please refrain from hateful comments.
  48. 11 points
    Qa'im

    Inferiority complex

    Inferiority complex comes in different forms. One form is bootlicking, but being confrontational and obsessed with sectarian issues is another form of inferiority complex. Constantly needing to be compared to Sunnis, whether pro or anti, is an unnecessary fixation. Yes there are times where differences need to be made clear and lines need to be drawn, but too much energy is spent worrying about Sunnis rather than reading our own books and bettering ourselves.
  49. 11 points
    starlight

    How much does death scare you

    Not scared at all. I will be happy (inshAllah) when the time comes for the next leg of the journey. The only thing I really care about in this dunya are my children, who are still little and my old mother who needs looking after but as the Quran repeatedly says, children (and wealth) are 'zeenah' of this dunya only. The moment I leave this dunya my responsibilities towards my family would be over and the only thing that would be left behind would be my upbringing towards them which can either be a sadqa e jariyaah for me or otherwise depending on how i raise them. I have trust in Allahسُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى that he will take care of my children even if I die when they are little because it's Him who ultimately takes care of all of His creations. I am merely a channel to bring some ease to my family. It's not beyond Him to create another channel, maybe someone even better than me if he so wishes. With these thoughts in my mind the prospect of even an early death does not disturb me.
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