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  1. That seems to be the right decision. In a parallel universe the Sunday school teachers would have welcomed a kid who asked questions. But we know that won't happen - especially where it challenges their doctrine. So either the teachers will be upset and/or your son will feel marginalised. Another risk is obviously that Sunni ideas will fly in under the radar and cause problems for you later.
    4 points
  2. Salaam dear fellow momineen, Since Muharram is around the corner, I felt like I should do a project or work towards serving fellow muslim (preferably shia but open to muslims in general as well) brothers and sisters in achieving their business goals. I have been looking for a shia small business directory for North America over the internet, but haven't been able to find one (yet). So, i wanted to start a thread, where we can mention businesses along with their online presence links (socials, websites, whatever they have). This way we not only empower our fellow brothers and sisters in doing better business, but also create an opportunity for business owners to work with each other if there is a synergy. For example, if a company provides digital marketing services, they can partner with other small b2c businesses to help them grow their online presence or increase their sales. Similarly, if there is a recruiting agency that provides hiring solutions, they can help other fellow brothers' and sisters' businesses with fullfilling their hiring needs. Let me know what you guys think. Don't forget to mention any small shia business located in US or Canada that you know of. P.S: i am keeping the scope to North America at this moment, because I am located here and its easier to communicate with them plus there is a lack of any such listing out there.
    3 points
  3. It's amazing how many of them don't accept materials from their own sources or they try to twists or completely go to a different topic. When it comes to Sayed Ammar, they always focus on his tattoos and not what he is talking about. Even if they focus on what he is talking about, they're still bring up the topic of tattoos. They always try and ridicules shias and never have respectful debates I don't understand why do they hate Ahl-Bayt so much (Peace be upon them - PBUT) and their followers. They say they love Prophet Mohammad and his Family (PBUT) however they show nothing but hate and disrespect towards his family and the followers of his family.
    3 points
  4. Wa alaikum as salam The fast is not wajib, rather mustahab. Keeping it one day before is not at all a problem, rather it would be a rewardable act. In general it is better to avoid recommended fasts when we are invited to eat , therefore it would be best for you to join your family in commemorating Eid. Finally note that even among the Shia there are different rulings on determining the new month and some Shia will in fact already commemorate Eid on Sunday inshaAllah
    3 points
  5. I see very well where you are coming from. I personally started to experience this when I was a grown up and started to go to religious venues. Prior to that I had been the 'just a Muslim' teenager, we were not that religious, read Qur'an in our western language, fast month of Ramadan but honestly none of us prayed or even knew how to pray correctly. And that was 'fine' I would say because me and my siblings were around only Sunnis. That's only when things got 'serious' that I got to face the issues of Shia vs Sunnis and, as you put it very well, had sometimes to compromise and hide some beliefs to avoid useless debate. Alhamdoulillah I was grown enough to cope with it and weigh the balance, by defending Shia Islam when necessary, but I am not sure if facing such situations is fine for a child, faith wise. I mean that's probably the type of spiritual burden he needs least in his life at that age.
    3 points
  6. Do you know if the Islamic Circle of North America (ICNA) and its cousin the Fiqh Circle of North America (FCNA) are Salafi or not? I tried to look up what the madhabs were for the executive directors of FCNA after I inquired about the methodology for why a mosque was going by the global moon sighting position to designate the day of Eid al-Adha. I was told the mosque follows whatever ICNA follows which is the announcement of the Supreme Court of Saudi Arabia. Thank you for your advice. Now there is an option for me since a Shia mosque opened 2 months ago, alhamdulillah. It is good to have choices. It is no longer a question of if I go to the other mosque or no mosque, since I can choose between the 2 mosques now. Btw, we are grateful for the new Shia mosque. It was opened due to donations from the I.M.A.M. organization and the office of Ayatollah Sistani in the USA, as well as various personal donations from people.
    3 points
  7. Yes, exactly. When my brothers and I were growing up in California, there was not a Shia mosque around so for a couple of years we went to a Sunni mosque and even a Sunni school. When I reflect on it it may have undermined my identity a bit because I was compelled to hide features of Shia Islam which we practiced at home. Anyways after a couple of years my father withdrew us from the Sunni community. At which point we were the only Muslims in a non-Muslim community. This may have been undermining to my identity development in some other ways. For this reason, I go back and forth in my mind on this subject. Lately, I have found comfort in the idea of solitude as a spiritual practice, although I am unsure if children have the maturity for this. In any case, a Shia mosque opened up in my community 2 months ago and I am looking forward to meeting new people at the Eid al-Adha prayer, especially mothers with children so I can have some playdates for my kid.
    3 points
  8. notme

    Thoughts 2024

    Yesterday was the last day of this school year. As one of the classes I work with was cleaning up their classroom, a little Afghan boy grabbed my arm and said "You can't leave, I can't leave without you. You have to come with me to my house and take care of my family." I've worked with him a lot because he struggles academically and behaviorally, mostly because he can't read English well yet, and he is embarrassed by that. I engage all the students with unconditional positive regard, and I think this child doesn't get much positive regard at home or school. Plus he told me his parents have gone to Afghanistan to visit his other siblings, and he is in the care of his older siblings for a few months. This interaction both broke my heart and reminded me why I do what I do. If I can make one child's life better through my work, I have succeeded. It has been a successful school year.
    3 points
  9. You can politely but firmly ask her to mind her own business, and to not indoctrinate your son in her religious beliefs, because had that been needed, you'd already have put such in the specifications. Sometimes people (especially those from a certain sect) need to be reminded not to poke their noses where they don't belong. These are Salafis. I wouldn't send my child to schools run by them, if I were in that position.
    3 points
  10. There are instances of intolerance from the Safavid rule, undeniably, but to propose that they forced an entire country to convert to some other confession at the point of the sword is simply laughable. All that happened was that the 12er sect obtained an official position, and since the vast majority of people follow the officially preached doctrines, the majority of the laity followed suit (since the officially appointed judges, the local prayer leaders, religious scholars and preachers/parsons would be aligned with that denomination, and most laymen don't really care much about theological nitty gritties). The Shi'a are a majority in Iran for the very same reason that the Sunnis are a majority in much of the Arabian peninsula, the Maghrib and the Indian Subcontinent- their sect there had an official endorsed position and was therefore preached the most widely as the default madhab. I find it profoundly laughable that figures like Salah al-Din Ayyubi and his descendants are lauded for wiping Shiism off from Egypt and much of the Levant (many areas in the historic Greater Syria/Bilad ash-Sham were Twelver majority, mind you, and Lebanon is one such surviving pocket) and converting the local populace to Sunnism, while in the same breath the Safavids are demonised for their zealotry and the alleged imposition of Twelver Shiism by the same demographic; we could use a little consistency here. Those who gloat about the former, have no right to complain about the latter. Shiism has a historical pedigree in Iran and the 'Ajam lands from much before the Safavids; Qom and Mashhad were Shi'i settlements; clans like the Ash'ari family, the Bani Nawbakht and Bani Buwayh (the Buyids) were well known Shi'i figures in Iran; even before the Safavids Twelver Shiism had once been the official madhab in Iran under the Mongol Ilkhanids, when Sultan Oljeitu Khudabandah (rh) was converted to Shiism through the efforts of Allamah al-Hilli (rh). Persians had always had a soft-corner for the 'Alawi-Fatimis (even when Iran was technically 'Sunni') , and participated in great numbers in most pro-'Alid uprisings. All that was needed was something to tip the scales, and this was done by the Safavid policy. Wassalam. We must bear in mind that such court chronicles were often written with the aim to project their patron kings as zealous and fanatical Shi'a (in their own imagination, a way of showing their loyalty to the madhab), so we must take such accounts with a grain of salt. The Safavids who sponsored these histories might have wanted to project themselves and their forefathers as strict Shiis but the very fact that substantial Sunni populations survive to this day in the southeastern areas of modern day Iran, while the regions as far East as Qandahar and Herat were under Safavid rule and fiat, should really prompt us to doubt if any such policy of killing everyone who prayed the Sunni way was ever implemented. All I mean to say is that self-projection is one thing, while ground reality is another. They couldn't have realistically forced every Sunni they came across to become Shi'a; it is simply not practically possible.
    3 points
  11. Just tell her politely that if your kid was taught that way there is a reason for it, and you do not want it to change As for sunday muslim school, I would not have my kid attend if I were you. My humble opinion.
    3 points
  12. Enemies in your own camp are 100x more Shaytan than enemies who are honest about being your enemy. The pain and suffering that Imam Ali endured from the stupidity and gullibility of his so called "supporters" was a lot worse than whatever he suffered from the likes of Muawiya.
    2 points
  13. There is no one-fits-all answer to this question. It's like asking for one number that answers every math question. Instead of trying to figure out what women want, try focusing on developing your self and sincerely asking Allah azwj to bring you the right woman for you. Allahu A'lam
    2 points
  14. Reza Hourmanesh is a Shia architect in upstate New York, United States who I would like to market. He was the architect for the renovation of Masjid As Salam in Albany, New York and the architect for the construction of Al-Hidaya Center in Latham, New York. He also designs commercial buildings and homes. https://www.buzzfile.com/business/Grh-Construction-585-654-6000#google_vignette
    2 points
  15. Diasporic Sunni communities inevitably slip into casual Salafism irrespective of their nominal madhab affiliation, so it might well be that the body you talk about is functionally Salafi. Wahhabis have cannibalized Sunnism from within, and except for maybe some very hardcore Sufi Sunnis, their influence is all pervasive. Theirs is the default narrative in contemporary Sunnism. If they are admittedly following Saudi religious directives, then it's a no-brainer.
    2 points
  16. Yes but without actually seeing the recovered posts with our own eyes we can't say that that's 100% true. How did the brother know the exact reasons of why the wife went on the hike or the exact sequence of events such as that the husband lured the wife away from the path by telling her to feed the baby? What if the brother didn't like the husband for some reason (such as he is Pakistani instead of Lebanese) and came up with this story accordingly. I hate to speculate like this but my point is that we simply don't have enough evidence and we don't know the people involved and so we should not run with this story and spread it far and wide. I hope I am completely wrong but, if I died suspiciously, I could sort of see one of my non practicing brothers accusing my husband simply because he prob doesn't like him that much based on reasons similar to in the story (married too quickly, needed green card) although my husband would literally never hurt a fly. Just because it is her brother doesn't mean he is to be completely trusted.
    2 points
  17. You can only say 'Allahumma ghfir lil mu'minin wal mu'minat wal muslimin wal muslimat, al aĥiya'in minhum wal amwat, attabi` baynana wa baynahum bil khairat, innaka `ala kulli shay'in Qadir' Particularly the part in bold. اللهم اغفر للمؤمنين والمؤمنات والمسلمين والمسلمات الأحياء منهم والأموات، تابع اللهم بيننا وبينهم بالخيرات إنك على كل شئ قدير
    2 points
  18. Salam. You can contact Kisa Kids Publications and Um Aimen Books. Sun Behind Cloud publications. etc. These are some publications that make children books in English. Here's one https://us.alkisafoundation.org/collections/al-kisa-publications/products/the-name-chronicles If they are not interested in publishing your works, there is always amazon. Also, you can have your novels translated into Persian and Arabic etc and print them in Lebanon, Iraq, the Islamic Republic etc. Also just to know, how much would you charge for a panoramic drawing? i.e. per spread. My friends are having freelancers do the drawings for their books. Like on fiverr, bionluk etc. But it would be better if a shia muslim who is already aware of islamic history and shia islamic beliefs do the drawings instead.
    2 points
  19. War sponsors? Further in the Twitter thread it's claimed they also fund think tanks pushing for war with Iran
    2 points
  20. I come from a religious Shia Muslim family. Migrated to the west almost 40 years ago. I have 2 siblings. An older sister and a younger brother. Originally from Pakistan. My issue is my toxic family. I no longer know how to deal with them apart from just walking away. I'll give you some background so you know where i'm coming from. (this is a grain of sand in terms of everything i have experienced with him. the following is just to give a little bit of context) Growing up in the west as a 7 year old Pakistani Shia Muslim boy was an extremely lonely and confusing experience. I had to learn to survive in the new world i was placed into, on my own. I could speak the language, i didnt understand the local culture, i didnt know how to find the right balance between family, culture and religion and assimilating into the western society within the boundaries prescribed to be by Islam. My parents being the typical old fashioned mentality. They made no attempt at trying to assimilate into the society. They provided no support and understanding, as i navigated this new life, especially as i went through my teenage years. Verbal and physical abuse was common in our household. i recall when he hit me so hard with the cordless phone, it shattered. Sad part is, i was the only one receiving such beatings. That physical and verbal abuse has never left me. Over time, i became increasingly reserved, quiet. I used to work part time while i was in highschool and university. 100% of my earning would go to my father. I thought that was my duty as the oldest son, but what killed me was on numerous occasions, when i handed over all that i had earnt, he would just look at me with disappointment and say "is that all", mumble a few swear words and walk off. I felt so inadequate, so little, but there was nothing i could say or do about it, so day by day, week by week, month after month, year after year, i quietly accepted it all, thinking thats how its supposed to be, all the while, i was breaking inside little by little. i had no one to turn to, no friends to confide in, no elder to discuss this with for advice. Years passed by, and now i'm in Uni. I end up meeting a girl. Although i wasnt out there seeking a girlfriend or anything, the situation i ended up in, meant i should marry her. In the back of my mind, i knew this was the perfect opportunity to leave my house. Unfortunately i made a wrong decision. Whilst trying to get away from my own toxic family, i ended up in another toxic family and marriage (thats a long topic for another discussion). i endured marriage for 14 years, by which time i was a completely broken man. My physical and mental health was so bad, that if i did not leave, i could only think of 1 other way out. i chose to leave instead. Instead of running back to my parents house, i decided to live on my own, to heal. During this time, my parents continually pestered me to get married again asap. i kept saying no, but eventually i decided why not, but only when i have cleared my mind and i feel i am ready to move on. Months later after i felt much better, i told them i'm ready to marry a decent girl of their choosing this time. The first girl he said he feels i should get married to was his own younger brothers daughter. A brother he hated with a passion. i was confused. Why would he suggest the daughter of the man he hates more than anyone, and the reasons for his hatred are not entirely justified. nevertheless, i had never met this cousin of mine so i wanted to see her photos. I liked what i saw, but requested i be allowed to talk to her so i can get a better idea of what she wants, if we are on the same page. After a few discussions, we both decided we wanted to get married. And so it began. The journey to my second marriage. Less than a year later, i was in pakistan to tie the knot. We hit it off from the get go. She's an amazing human being. I was at a time in my life, where i literally had no hope of a future or to ever find happiness. I didnt trust anyone. But my wife somehow, slowly but surely mended by broken self and gave me direction in life. She became my confidant, my best friend. A very bubbly, friendly and nurturing human being. Just being around her is a blessing. Its been 5 years, and those feeling have deepened. Marrying her was the best decision i have ever made. Unfortunately the peace we give one another didnt last long. His mood on our wedding day was such that every person attending could see what was going on. He was having a silent war with his younger brother (now my father in law) and his entire family. He refused to take any pictures with them, and even the photos he took with me, it was clear, he was about to rip someones head off. we somehow survived the wedding. After i brought my wife home, immediately he started treating her like [Edited Out]. verbally abusing her for the fact she was his younger brothers daughter. i stopped it in the most respectful manner possible, but that encounter left my wife completely in shock. she boiled her eyes out the whole night. what followed was a series of death stares, rude comments and evil eyes towards my wife over the next few days. i felt helpless, embarrassed and pissd off. i could only say so much while being respectful. over the coming days we went out shopping and lunch. before leaving, he told her she'd be wear full hijab if she wants to live in this house, or else......he basically threatened her. while we were at the mall, her dupatta slightly slipped off and uncovered half her head. within a split second, he started shouting at her, in the mall, in front of everyone. she apologised, but he kept going and started crying. i was so pissed, humiliated and just plain dumbfounded at his behavior. later that day was the first time i had to sit both my parents down and espectfully told them, they cannot keep doing this. she is my wife and she does not deserve any of the behaviour he has shown towards her. he started yelling at me and threatening me "i dont give a F#$%^" "dont ever tell me what to do. i can do whatever i want, shes the daughter of my @#$%^ brother, so shes got the same khoon" etc etc etc. we had this back and forth for hours. End result. absolutely nothing. This was just the beginning. due to work, i had to leave pakistan and head back home and apply for her visa. this is when covid hit, so we had to stay apart. as soon as i had the opportunity, i flew to pakistan a year later, and the following couple of years. it took a total of 4 years for the visa to go through and be approved. even during this time, my wife made every effort to create a bond with my entire family and try and fit in. unfortunately, it was not to be. my father didnt even speak to her once during these years. on one occassion, my wife was really sick and hospitalised and i couldnt be there due to lockdowns, but i made sure she was well looked after and was in contact all day and night. many people within all our extended family either paid her a visit if they were there in pakistan or called and messaged if they were not, except that is, my family, my parents or my sister. So during the end of her recovery, she was desperately hoping to hear from my family, so she called them instead and spoke to my father. she spoke in a loving respectful manner as a daughter does. in a cute way as daughter do she said "i was so sick and in hospital for so long, and u didnt even call to check on me abbu"....what came out of my fathers mouth was a threat in stead of love and compassion "this is ur last warning, dont ever try to tell me what to do, or else" i am speechless by this point. how can anyone be so cruel to another human being, so absolutely no reason. i felt helpless, because my religion does not allow me to stand up to my father in any way other than with a lowered voice and respect. his mentality was and still is and i quote " i am the man of this house, you shut up and do what u r told, dont ever question me, dont ever talk back to me, i will do whatever the f#$%^ i want, understand!!!!!"....... my wife has now fell into deep depression on more than one occassion. i did my absolute best to make sure she is ok. patiently hoping for the visa to be approved so that we can be together. The day finally arrives. her visa is approved and within 2 months of approval we are united. finally. she moves in with my family. now that she was here, i spent the next year and a half trying to build the family bonds and get her the love and respect she deserved from the entire family. she didnt anything and everything to try to win them over. she looked after them, she took over alll the household chores, cooking, cleaning plus much much more. doing annything to take the burden of my parents. unfortunately my fathers attitude didnt change. he wouldnt respond to salams, he would ignore her, he was extremely rude in the way he spoke to her. this happened on numerous occassions. all the while i am constantly taking my parents aside and with love and respect, asked them to not do this anymore. she is my wife and is part of this family now, please do not treat her this way. i recieved the same response like every other time. over the course for about 5 years, i must have had 20 or more conversations with them. never crossed a line. soon my sister started to treat her the same way. verbally abusing her and blaming her for thing she herself did. my parents, without a second thought pointed fingers at my wife everytime. this especially happened when i was not there. my sister never apologised. instead she carried on her attacks towrds my wife, until 1 day, by chance my sister spoke to my wife like she was a piece of garbage and worthless, while i was there. something snapped in me. i immediately told my sister off and told her to never ever speak to my wife that way again, or we're gonna have a much bigger problem. my sister stormed off. my parents were also there and saw the whole thing. instead of consoling my wife, they ran after my sister to console her and blamed the whole thing on my wife. i couldnt do this anymore. i told all 3 of the off. in that moment, i realised, the respect i had for my parents, just went down the drain. my father, an apparently well respected peronality within the shia community and shows the world he is an extremely religious and rightious man, doesnt even follow the basics of the teachings of islam. my whole life i protected them even from my own thoughts from steering towards their true nature. he's an avid believer of imam ali and imam hussain and their teachings. (apparently). I also have read the nahjul balagah and books from the ahlulbayt. Although i am not perfect in any way or form. Infact, far from it. i try my upmost best to follow their teachings to the best of my abilities in my day to day life. regardles of how small the action may be. but on this occassion, its like something inside of me just broke and i told them off. the following week was spent not talking to my parents, but one fine day, my mmother decided to walk into the room in a fit of rage and started abusing and cursing me and especially my wife. i responded accordingly and she left. the following 2 months, we didnt speak to my parents or sister. they did their own thing and so did we. didnt come in each others way, until last night, when my mother decided to verbally attack my wife again out of nowhere, while she was cooking and cleaning the house. my wife was an absolute mess. crying her eyes out, walked out of the house to get some fresh air and calm down. something inside me broke again and i told my mother off pretty badly. i know what i did was wrong in so many ways and islam does not tolerate how i spoke to my parents these last couple of occassions. but my mental tolerance is gone. i am so mentally disturbed by their constant abuse over the years that i've become numb, and now they've done the same to my wife and they have zero remorse. my wife an i now suffer from panic attacks and severe anxiety, and other aspects of our health is going down hill. what i have shared here, is just a small portion of what has actually taken place. i can literally write a novel to explain it all. i know i will pay for my actions 1 day and am answerable to Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى), but what am i to do. can anyone out there help me. give me some advice on how i should approach this moving forward. what does islam say for my situation. what do the marjas say. anyone more knowledgeable than me in these matters, please help.
    2 points
  21. On the rise in the US - watch for the symptoms A couple of American health professionals I was speaking with earlier today were pointing the finger at increasing consumption of processed foods. https://www.yalemedicine.org/news/colorectal-cancer-in-young-people
    2 points
  22. notme

    Colorectal Cancer

    My dad had that. He is still alive in his late 70s, but he has a permanent colostomy. On a positive note, he improved his diet and stopped drinking alcohol.
    2 points
  23. Mosque layout to facilitate traffic management In some urban mosques there is not enough space for parking. So some family members (the elderly) are dropped off after which the driver takes the car to another location to park and walk back. I was discussing mosque design with an architect and felt that inadequate attention had been paid to this issue in the plans that he had drawn up for a proposed mosque. So I gave chatgpt the following prompt: This was the answer
    2 points
  24. I think at least Muslims need to understand that the whole 'nine year old wife' thing and the accusation (false accusation according to our scholars) that Rasoulallah(p.b.u.h) married a nine year old girl is nothing but an attempt to juxtapose modern Western social norms onto Islam in order to slander the religion. If the public in general doesn't understand this, at least Muslims should.
    2 points
  25. It's hard for me to imagine the wikishia entry is accurate since none of the Shia I know curse the khulafa. Also, Salman al-Farsi was a companion of the prophet, the first Persian to convert to Islam and a Shia. It was his idea to dig the trench in the battle of trench, which kept Islam from being wiped out in its early days. In other words, it is not in the Shia spirit from the beginning to have bad character. I didn't know about this. Good to know. That's true there is an inconsistency here.
    2 points
  26. A man's duty is to protect his wife. If your family is abusive toward her, you need to distance from them. Leave open the opportunity for them to change and apologize and make amends - keep them informed of your contact information, but you do not have to actively communicate with them if they are abusive. Self-protection is allowed, and you certainly have to protect your wife and any children, if you have any. Forgive your family, but keep your distance from them - maybe they know no other way to be. And you and your wife should seek counseling. Abuse causes trauma, which, if unresolved, will result in more problems in the future. Duas for you and your wife to have a happy and peaceful life.
    2 points
  27. Wa alaikis salam, I'd advice you to ask a scholar about that. Email the question to english@najaf.org. The response from here is really quick, usually within a day. If you struggle to come up with the names of forty believers, you can draw up a list including our scholars, both past and contemporary ones, as they are the most deserving of our prayers. As for your parents, we have narrations that say that even if you were to invoke mercy on them, your prayers won't benefit them. Their forgiveness is a matter best left to Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى). May Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) bless you too.
    2 points
  28. This is categorically wrong irrespective of who says this, and if someone defends this junk under the mistaken impression that he is 'defending' Shiism by creating wiggle room for such heresy, then he has put his own afterlife at risk, much less 'defended' anything. I have seen a lot of Shia in their misplaced zeal try to justify such nonsense with contorted non-arguments; this is a tendency which must be purged from the community. Creation and sustenance are exclusive to Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى), and no one shares in those attributes. Absolutely no one. The books of our classical scholars are that which represent our believes, not something which any random person on the internet says.
    2 points
  29. The zeal to propagate Twelver Shiism was certainly a feature of their rule, but what is being doubted here is its violent imposition upon the population (the 'conversion-by-sword' thesis), given the practical reality. The government may well have gone out of its way to favour Shiism, and there might even be odd cases of forced conversion, but it is highly doubtful if it was followed through to the last person as a matter of policy, a la the Inquisition in the Iberian peninsula. The reason to doubt this is the continued existence of a large and substantial Sunni populace in the regions formerly ruled by the Safavids, as far East as Northwest Afghanistan of today, which had been ruled by them until the rise of Nadir Shah, and their subsequent incorporation into the Abdali/Durrani kingdom. If the aforementioned policy had been implemented, then we wouldn't see that Sunni demographic there today. Of course, this narrative of forced conversion has been publicised by the anti-Shi'a forces, then by the Ottomans, and now by the Wahhabis, who seek to equate Shiism with the Safavids, and project it as a Persian ethno-nationalist heresy created in opposition to 'Arab' Sunnism (ironically for them, the Safavids were of Turkic stock and claimed Arab Sayyid descent through Musa al-Kadhim (as)). The Orientalists have also followed suit. You may read the book of Catherine Babayan on the dynasty, and if you know Persian (or know someone who does) , then Rasul Ja'fariyan's book on them. Unfortunately, the latter hasn't been translated yet, to the best of my knowledge.
    2 points
  30. Very rare indeed. One day I met a woman who told me that her mother had married at 9 years old and she was born when her mom was 10 years old. Obviously that is very unusual (not common) and her telling me about it showed that it weighed heavily on her mind. I asked how she felt about her mother marrying so young and having her at 10 years old. She said she and her mom were so close in age that she felt that they were sisters and they grew up together. I asked her how old she was when her mom and dad let her get married. She said at 18 years old, after her high school graduation. Later she said she and her husband were excited to have a baby and looking forward to it. I asked her if she had a daughter would she allow her to marry at 9 or at 18? She said no, she should be 25 years old, after she graduates from university.
    2 points
  31. Your self reflection in this post seems to be a good sign of more like it to come on the inward path.
    2 points
  32. We can not know for sure. The important thing is that if he has good akhlaq and is a God fearing person, you should reconciliate and proceed with marriage. Furthermore, Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) has opened the doors of guidance for you, so strive hard to remain on this path and not to slip back into old ways.
    2 points
  33. Salam if she has connection with any anti shia group so therefore she must not attend in your house which a non-muslim better than any anti shia person ; also she can't order you how to pray & act because she has been hired by you not she has hired you which education of your son is your duty not her duty which you can provide enough information for her about validity of praying on Muhr/turbah which if she has accepted it so therefore won't be any problem but on the other hand if still she has insisted to force her belief on you so then you can ask her to not come so then hire anyone else instead of her.
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  34. Why do we marry at a later age nowadays? 1. Birth control in the 1950s brought the risk of relationships down significantly. Early marriage protected people from accidental pregnancies and casual relationships. Now, the risk in having a relationship is significantly smaller due to advanced birth control methods. 2. Colonization and Imperialism: Anglo-Saxon culture has historically had much higher marriage ages than the rest of the world, and even higher than the rest of Europe. 3. Adolescence: the concept of adolescence came after the Industrial Revolution in Europe. Adolescence is the idea of extended childhood, where one is not yet an adult, but can do some things that adults do (work, drive, get into relationships, etc.) without all of the responsibilities. Adolescents are not tried under the law as adults. This has brought about a teenage "culture" where different things are expected from teenagers than from adults. This did not exist historically - people in most societies gained the full rights and responsibilities of adults shortly after puberty. The notion that one is "still a kid" at 17 or even 20 is very recent for most of the world. 3. Urbanization: people in agricultural societies till this day get married earlier than people in urban societies. There are a range of sociological reasons for this that you can research. The marriage age for women is still 12 in some parts of the Western world. More people live in cities now than anytime in history. 4. Economic changes: in capitalist societies, women are encouraged to finish schooling, get a degree, build a career, pay their debts, and become consumers in the free market. Most households now need two breadwinners, as a man's work is not as valuable as it used to be. So this has created a culture where women are expected to only marry after they have achieved economic independence, so they could support their family and not be a liability, and so they could leave the marriage and still support themselves if need be. 5. The standards of marriage itself have changed. Marriage in Islamic law can be very simple: an oral contract, a small dower, and a guardian's permission (if applicable). Nowadays, even in Muslim cultures, an engagement, dower, wedding, and honeymoon can cost an upwards of $100,000 in total. Add a mortgage on top of that with skyrocketing urban housing prices. 6. Marriage today is more about compatibility and romance, marriage historically had tribal and economic alliances, and were less motivated by the kind of stuff we see in Hollywood, Disney, Bollywood, the music industry, soap operas, sitcoms, etc. Tastes and beauty standards are also quite fluid. 7. People today still get into relationships very young. My school friends started getting into relationships at 11, and I hear nowadays it is getting younger. Girlfriend/boyfriend relationships have replaced marriage for many people.
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  35. I know this Hadith below is from a Sunni source, but what is the Shīa response to all the Hadiths they quote on art/drawings being haram. I enjoy drawing a lot, and like most people, have no intention of using it to be superior and “recreate God’s creations as my own”. I actually want to create my own graphic novel with Muslim characters too Sahih Bukhari:I heard the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) saying, "Every painter will go to Hell, and for every portrait he has made, there will be appointed one who will chastise him in the Hell." Ibn 'Abbas said: If you have to do it, draw pictures of trees and other inanimate things.
    1 point
  36. Hello, one day a week someone comes over to watch my 6 year old son while I work from home. She has told him not to pray on a rock. By rock she means the muhr/turbah. She told him it was worshipping a rock and not to do it. Anyways, I don't have much options for childcare. It is either her or a non-Muslim because I don't know a lot of people. Please advise.
    1 point
  37. It gets complicated because even though student loans are available to the poor in the United States, often times people have to work to support their parents and extended family and don't have the luxury of time to study. Also, in addition to the stress of school there is financial stress if a person works and goes to school. On another note, if someone made some mistakes in life and ended up with a criminal record during early years the person is ineligible for student loans. This makes it hard to turn ones life around for some. A significant amount of Americans revert to Islam in prison so I thought this should be mentioned. It is hard to get any job once one is released from prison much less a student loan.
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  38. from what I heard the safavids did indeed do forced convsersions to some extent yes. in fact i heard some of them like commited zina often, and drank alcohol
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  39. On October 25, 2011, the Iranian Foreign Minister Ali Akbar Salehi congratulated Mustafa Abdul-Jalil on the complete freedom of Libya. Salehi expressed hope new political life in Libya would pave the way for exercising national sovereignty by Libyan nation and establishing a government based on Islamic democracy aiming to maintain the country’s stability without any foreign force’s interference. Salehi also called for Abdul-Jalil’s cooperation on clarifying fate of Imam Musa al-Sadr and his accompaniments. https://en.isna.ir/news/9008-01795/Iran-FM-congratulates-Abdul-Jalil-on-Libya-freedom Does anyone have any information on Imam Musa Sadr after 2011?
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  40. Only 3,020 points until your next rank. LOL ain't gonna happen any time soon.
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  41. Ashvazdanghe

    Thoughts 2024

    Salam if you can accept so then cope with it so therefore it will has more reward also causes more blessing in your life inshaAllah .
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  42. Albanese taking the heat (again)
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  43. Salam we don't expect using profanity or being bad mouth person from any so called Shia scholar or speaker even from fraud ones likewise Allahyari & infamous Shirazi grouplet which their procedure is totally against procedure of Ahlulbayt (عليه السلام) which they are just acting in similar fashion of other anti shia groups in name of shia Islam about debating & doing missionary actiities in similar fashion of evangelists & other anti shia groups totally in opposition of Ahlulabyt (عليه السلام) procedure by order of westerner secret services . This is not just having different political point of view but on the other hand it's total opposition of Allahyari & infamous Shirazi grouplet with all teachings of Ahlulabyt (عليه السلام) which relation of Allahyari with CIA & infamous Shirazi grouplet with MI5 & zionists is a proven fact which Allahyari in his last video against Shia Islam in Iran has propagated MKO terrorists propaganda against Martyr Raisi based on CIA/Mossad procedure against Iran . This is a too weak Hadith which Allahyari & infamous Shirazi grouplet have used it to justify their unacceptable procedure ; for insulting & using bad mouthing against other Shias & Sunni muslims in order to spread hatred & falsehood between both of Shias & Sunni muslims . This hadith is a general hadith which some muslims will curse other muslims so then call other disbelievers in similar fashion which Wahabis curse Shias & call them disbelievers which there is no need that shias curse each other which people likewise Allahyari & infamous Shirazi grouplet don't represent all of shia community which they call any moderate | & prop unity shia scholars likewise Jawad Naqvi as agent of Iran by making fake clips from them by trimming & monetizing their speech in order to accuse him & other shia scholars into using profanity & bad mouthing based on their fabricated clips .
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  44. Guys....the very notion of you trying to figure out what they want means that you are willing to change. If all women wanted a man who wore makeup, would you do that? I wouldn't. If a woman was trying to change me, she can stay single and get herself a cat & pretend to be the boss babe shes been told she is by other single women in their midlife crisis group. It's like a little club for validation. What is it you're looking for guys? And are you on the same frequency to be able to match that. If you're looking for a 10/10 religious shia woman ...are you at least a 5 yourself? These mawlanas have been lying to you on the pulpits telling you just pray and that will qualify you to be a good catch. You have to have self belief but not delusion. Be realistic also....just go out and speak to a woman maybe say salam if she looks your way briefly..that could be a sign. Just say salam how are you? Try and deepen your voice a bit ..add a bit of bass and be charming Don't come across as one of those 'im just a humble servant of Allah' demeanour ..it's sooo fake...believe me I've done it. Just be yourself and make sure you don't stink..trim your beard cut those spider hairs...don't try and look like Ayatullah Wahid Khorasani at 23 years old because your beard is just bum fluff armpit hair texture...trim it nicely moisturise your face...stop asking questions and trying to philosophise it..just go and ask don't be shy...who cares what other people think. Shy guys get put in the friendship zone 'awww Ahmed is so cute ..he's a Hafiz of quran and he likes collecting stamps awww I just wanna look after him like my little brother ...he enjoys reading mulla sadra in his spare time but like I don't understand a word and when he talks to me about it I have no clue what he's saying it's so boring but I act interested..he doesn't ask about me though just wants to be religious'
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  45. Allahumma salli ala muhammadiw wa ali muhammadin wa ajjil faraja hum Rabbinee lima anzalta ilayya min khayrin faqir Allahumma innee urreedu an atazawwaja faqaddir lee minan nisaa-I a’fihunna farjajan wa ah’fadh’ihunna lee fee nafsihaa wa awsa-i-hunna lee rizwan wa a-dhamahunna lee barakatan fee nafsihaa wa maaleee faqaddir lee minhaa waladan tayyiban tajaluhoo khalafan saalihan fee hayaatee wa ba`da mawtee. Oh Allah! I desire to marry, so arrange for me a woman from those who willingly abstain from what is unlawful and who safeguards her soul for my sake and because of her, not only my means of sustenance will increase, but also make there be in it abundance and also make it sure that she will give me a virtuous son, who will be a noble successor in my life and after my death. Ya Rabb, help me in finding a good wife in the same boat as me, who also understands and accepts me as I am. May she find peace and be filled with joy wherever she goes. May she have the strength and courage to find me, love me and live with me. May she find and be filled with much wisdom and clarity in her words and from her experiences. May she in her kindness, share these experiences with me and help us grow together. Verily with hardship comes ease. (إِنَّ مَعَ الْعُسْرِ يُسْرًا - 94:6) Ya Rabb, You alone know what is truly in my heart. You alone know my struggles and pain, Al-Wadud. I feel unbearably lonely and do not wish to incur Your displeasure by remaining unmarried, Al-'Aziz!
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  46. (salam) tell your cousin not to sleep on his back and not to put his hand on his chest and he will be fine, as simple as that.
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