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  1. 4 points
    notme

    W.I.M. wimmin

    I like to give the benefit of the doubt even if I'm skeptical. The harm done by incorrectly assuming that a person is trolling seems far worse to me than the inconvenience of spending time helping someone who is playing us. Besides, I have enough faith in our beliefs and practices that I don't worry about criticism, even if disguised as a plea for help. There are always false assumptions, and once those are corrected, a person in need is helped or a troll gives up.
  2. 3 points
    Ibn al-Hussain

    Riya - A Journey Towards the Self

    Praise and compliments should always be moderate - I have given a lecture on this in Ramadhan, perhaps I will write a post about it as well. When your praise/compliments are excessive that itself is problematic. But general simple factual compliments are not problematic, especially when they are accompanied by the glorification and praise of Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى).
  3. 3 points
    Ibn al-Hussain

    Riya - A Journey Towards the Self

    Hadith from Imam Sadiq (a) quoting Allah: عدة من أصحابنا، عن أحمد بن محمد بن خالد، عن عثمان بن عيسى، عن علي بن سالم قال: سمعت أبا عبد الله (عليه السلام) يقول: قال الله عز وجل: أنا خير شريك من أشرك معي غيري في عمل عمله لم أقبله إلا ما كان لي خالصا. The word "shareek" here is being used here as tashbeeh (figurative comparison or resemblance) for a business partnership. Meaning, in a partnership, if you do an action and earn money, you give the rightful portion to your partner. In this hadith Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) is saying I am the best of "partners", and the rightful portion of any action needs to be given to Him - if one allots a portion of any action to another individual by also taking them as a "partner", then they have not done the action sincerely.
  4. 3 points
    starlight

    W.I.M. wimmin

    @Haji 2003 Brother, while some of the points you made are valid I would still give the benefit of doubt to such posters. As you must already know 4/5 years back I posted here as a 'W.I.M' so I think I am in a position to address some of your reservations. Having a good command over English does not automatically mean someone has direct access to help. In some places such resources do not exist and in others, hard to believe but true, reaching out for help just doesn't cross the person's mind. How your mind works when you are in a situation is very different to how you think when you are looking at that situation from an outside perspective. Lots of people come here and post in hope of finding an easy solution. Easy, as in discrete, minimum fuss and without involving the families. Understandably in cases like underage and virgin mutah the girl doesn't want her family to know and in marital problems people fear the amount of gossip and hence resort to places where they can be anonymous. Marital issues affect lives like no other. They leave long lasting, sometimes life long changes on almost every aspect of the person's life - physical , emotional, financial, social which is far more than a choice of degree or car would affect someone. So while lots of times topics are started to attack Shia practices there are times when a genuine person comes here in need of help.
  5. 3 points
    Reza

    W.I.M. wimmin

    Another important factor is the “hit and run”, where an OP doesn’t respond beyond the initial post. If the member was sincere, there would be more back and forth, showing resolution and progress of the issue (through the Islamic suggestions of responders). The key for these topics is to show there’s no solution, and that Muslims are helpless squabblers.
  6. 3 points
    Reza

    W.I.M. wimmin

    The cost of making these posts is nothing compared to the possible “benefits”, so I’m surprised there’s not more. Especially text based ones with a much lower production budget than audio, images, or videos. Like Nigerian scam emails, if a million people ignore them, but one takes the bait, it’s all worth the return on investment exponentially.
  7. 2 points
    Moalfas

    Scrupulosity

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts on such an important topic. It's pretty brave of you to do so. InshAllah your OCD posts can help many who are suffering in silence to come forward and seek help as well as work on symptom/trigger management and recovery. Our communities are majorly lacking when it comes dealing with and helping overcome OCD. It's excellent to see a dialogue is starting,
  8. 2 points
    Hameedeh

    Raising Abbas - Stalag Luft III

    Yes, grades Kindergarten to Grade 6 is Elementary School in the US, and Grades 7 and 8 are Middle School (sometimes called Junior High School). Grades 9 - 12 are High School. The strictness of those school "rules" are probably a formality that gives the School the authority to expell and refuse to teach anyone who violates them. I would not worry about your son because inShaAllah he will be well behaved, but emphasize that he not get into trouble. You can ask him to memorize the rules because you will be quizzing him.
  9. 2 points
    habib e najjaar

    Punctuated sunrise [10,000th post]

    I do hope some of this talent has been/is being used to write a book. MashaAllah excellent read, I almost feel like I have visited the places you mention.
  10. 2 points
    Haji 2003

    Punctuated sunrise [10,000th post]

    Here's a video of my train trip from Hyderabad to Chennai;
  11. 2 points
    Haji 2003

    Your future

    This was the inside of the card:
  12. 2 points
    ireallywannaknow

    Ahlul Bayt (as) At A Glance

    Thank you for sharing! We grown ups can def brush up on this info as well. I am really bad at memorizing dates and places but something like this inshaAllah is a good visual reminder. May Allah reward you and may your kids benefit and be inspired.
  13. 2 points
    ali_fatheroforphans

    changes

    Sister, trust me a lot of people go through this. You always look back and kinda miss those times when you were so dedicated to faith, and felt so close to Allah. Nothing can replace that feeling, that's why you're never satisfied unless you experience it again. You're still young, you have heaps of time to come back. The first step is to admit that something doesn't feel right. Be proud that at least you want faith, because from here Allah will guide you if you take one step towards him.
  14. 2 points
    Irfani313

    W.I.M. wimmin

    Yours were unlike these, you posted them over a longer period of time with back and forth conversations. Most of these WIM types are one off eloquent “teen aurtein, teen kahanian” (a seemingly similar articles written by three random women in an old days Women’s Urdu journal) which I used to steal away from my grandma.
  15. 2 points
    Gaius I. Caesar

    silent pain

    Silent pain- is the petrichor after the rain The sky's clear ichor, it threatens to stain Them walls and cobblestones The hadiths say when it rains, we shall then atone Among the malls and hardware stores As the cold seeps into our bones Hissing our names
  16. 2 points
    Ashvazdanghe

    Pyramids, aliens & God

    Salam , Quran says that we travel on earth to ee ,more powerful nation were existed before us that had extraordinary abilities but their disobedience toward him caused their demolishing & perishing & now it looks like that they didn't exist.
  17. 2 points
    Gaius I. Caesar

    Pyramids, aliens & God

    My question is where are the quarries? Surely, large copious amounts of limestone had to come from somewhere and I am not convinced they were transported by water (The stones were half a ton to a ton in weight.)
  18. 2 points
    Hameedeh

    Minimalism

    Minimalism does not mean you have to live in a tent. Live somewhere that you can afford and you feel comfortable. Just think before you spend your money. If you save money by not buying things you don't really need, you can use that money in better ways. For many years I would only buy a new pair of shoes when the old ones wore out, mostly because I was poor. Now I have three pair of shoes (casual, walking and dressy) and that's enough for me. You won't find me looking at shoes to buy another pair. Not only I don't need them but looking at shoes in the store is a waste of my time.
  19. 2 points
    alHussein

    Be Positive

    Salam, It's unbelievable how the ahlulbayt (a.s) have patience and can be positive at the same time they get provoked. Lanat on those who oppose ahlulbayt (a.s)
  20. 1 point
    Ibn al-Hussain

    Riya - A Journey Towards the Self

    They are uploaded online, but I do not publicize the videos - they are private. If you have Instagram, I generally share content there from my talks/speeches when I get the time. As they say in Arabic, المناقشة في المثال ليس من دأبِ المُحَصِّلين
  21. 1 point
    AStruggler

    Scrupulosity

  22. 1 point
    Ruqaya101

    OCD - an Islamic insight

    Habibti... Allah yiwafqich, and keep you firm to your faith.
  23. 1 point
    3wliya_maryam

    Please let me help you

    besides not every single line contains a rhyme
  24. 1 point
    Mzwakhe

    Please let me help you

    my sister once said to never rely on anyone... (the devil got to them including her) The reliance is only Allah(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى)... That He'll shine His(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) light on a certain being No frowning when those beings are there but not there
  25. 1 point
    Thank you.
  26. 1 point
    Haji 2003

    Organic living: a modern false religion?

    I would liken Roundup to an early surgical implement. Crude and destructive, but nevertheless a necessary step in the evolutionary process for man to develop more effective solutions.
  27. 1 point
    When you have Roundup banned and when governments and scientific researches not in corporate funding and control. When human life becomes more valuable than profits. When they ignore profits and derive new antibiotics for the adapting pathogens. When the masses are not misled like sheep for more consumption of everything including dangerous and haraam for the sake of profits. Then a whole lot of problems will disappear and humanity will start progressing like before too.
  28. 1 point
    notme

    Simon says ...

    Big Brother makes new laws because he only wants what is best for his good, modern people.
  29. 1 point
    Mzwakhe

    Ahlul Bayt (as) At A Glance

    private for reasons...
  30. 1 point
    Mzwakhe

    Ahlul Bayt (as) At A Glance

    it mentions Lady Fatimah(as)'s burial place as al Baqi in Medina. wasn't her(sa) burial secret, such that only a limited few knew of her concealed place of burial.
  31. 1 point
    AStruggler

    the chosen one

    mA, wonderful poem!
  32. 1 point
    ali_fatheroforphans

    Please let me help you

    It truly is a bitter feeling being pushed away when all you want to do is help. Some will refuse to open up in hope that we remain happy. Little do they know that by putting on a blindfold it makes us feel worse.
  33. 1 point
    Hameedeh

    Minimalism

    A relative was discussing with me a couple years ago about Marie Kondo's book about Tidying Up (published in the US in 2014), a method to get rid of clutter in your home. (His wife has a lot of clutter and he is against hoarding.) I almost never buy a book unless I am absolutely sure that I need it, but was interested, so I listened to a few podcasts that talked about her book. It's good that I did not spend the money on it, because now Netflix has a "reality television" series called Tidying Up with Marie Kondo, which visually puts her method on the big screen. I watched a few episodes but stopped. (FYI to parents: there is an episode of a gay couple [two males] who needed her help to make their messy home clean for a family reunion.) Eventually I would like to see all the other episodes, because it's educational. If you don't have Netflix, you can search YouTube with the words Netflix Marie Kondo and watch what is available. The point being: Do you really need all that stuff? Marie Kondo says if an item does not "spark joy" in your life now, then you need to "thank it" for its past usefulness, and then get it out of your home as soon as possible (give away, trash, recycle, sell, etc.).
  34. 1 point
    Marbles

    W.I.M. wimmin

    That is a good analogy. However, I'd say that external sources of disharmony succeed in large measure due to the preexisting discord from within. In the society where I live, I notice that there is very little criticism, if at all, of the prevailing attitudes that provide the grounds for the misuse of some Islamic and even cultural practices. What happens is that the blame is shifted to the individual whilst social patterns are conveniently ignored. Putin did not sow seeds of discord in the US overnight. He merely used the internal conflict and the rise of neo-Confederate nationalism in the US to Russia's advantage. There's another thing that might explain what you describe in the opening post. There are a lot of people from within the Muslim community who have doubts about the truth and suitability of certain Islamic laws and practices. This comes up so often that it's hard to miss and always causes a big bun fight. I think Muslim communities have still not figured out a way to deal with sceptics and agnostics from within because there hasn't really been a need for that up until now. That being said, is there a larger Western neo-imperial narrative and its agents pressing on the so-called traditionalist and/or religious societies to come up to speed? Absolutely. There is no doubt about that. Cultural imperialism has never stopped. That's why the whole of the Western world celebrated when the Indian supreme court decriminalised homosexual activity. India is now officially Gay Hind.
  35. 1 point
    it's ok if just it's just color of it remains on skin ,it's not a barrier http://portal.anhar.ir/node/468#gsc.tab=0 no ,it doesn't
  36. 1 point
    Haji 2003

    Answering the W.I.M wimmin

    You have to meet the people who support you half way. Describing someone's life as a 'Bollywood drama series' is specifically what I am advising against in this thread. It doesn't help the OP, it mixes emotion with fact and it does not help to undermine their underlying agenda if they have one but it does provide an avenue for other posters to attack you and gives Moderators little scope but to hide your post. I could identify other issues as well, but I'll leave it there for the time being.
  37. 1 point
    rkazmi33

    W.I.M. wimmin

    I think the problem is in desi culture, women are presented as knight in shining armor, emotionally strong, wise women who have the solutions to all problems. That's the character of asghari in Mirat ul uroos, in which asghari's husband was a demsel in distress and when he got married to asghari, she solved not only his problems but all the problems in his family and even neighborhood. That's why it's hard for desi men to see any woman acting like demsel in distress. I have noticed my cousin becomes very upset when I show any weekness like "I cannot drive in snow". And I am thinking: I am not your wife, you don't have to deal with my weaknesses or learning disabilities, what are you getting so upset about? It's okay for you to rant about all the girls you want but cannot have, but I am not allowed to talk about REAL problems?
  38. 1 point
    Laayla

    Common Errors in Ghusl, Wuddhu and Salat

    @SeekingHeaven Please brother read the information above on how to perform correct ghusul
  39. 1 point
    Maryaam

    W.I.M. wimmin

    What does this have to do with Shia attacking each other on a Shia site, presumably over a post that they don't like, don't agree with or think is fake…. or they don't like the poster, feel the poster is irreligious or a sinner or a troll? You seemed to be saying that you don't want posts that you see as causing conflict on the site. My position is that the posts don’t cause the conflict, the conflict is already there (within the community) - the post just produces a platform and opportunity to expose it. Don't know about your further ramble. This is not just externalizing - it is a total disconnect…..
  40. 1 point
    Haji 2003

    W.I.M. wimmin

    I've taken part in forums where the agenda has simply been to save money and even there we've had heated battles about the pros and cons of using breadmakers. I've taken part on forums where the agenda has been to help people dealing with debt and there's been a perennial debate as to whether or not someone is serious about this if have a cable tv subscription. The point is that in such situations the board members know what causes unnecessary strife and rather than have another debate about breadmakers, the threads are shut down. But the well-being of the community came before that of individual posters.
  41. 1 point
    Haji 2003

    W.I.M. wimmin

    If the people with these problems were to stick to the essential details - there would be very limited grounds for people to be harsh in their response. It's because they want to attack Muslims they dress up the story with details that then invite the attacks. If some people were that concerned about such threads and the people behind them they would post a highly informed and factual answer and then ask the Mods to lock/hide the thread and/or convey the answer to the OP. Or the Mods/Admin who feel this way could do so themselves. But let's face it, what people want is a bun fight and if it damages Islam so much the better. The level of traction these posts get would challenge your assertion. They have a very low threshold for intellectual engagement and as a result attract a mass audience, in a manner that no theological discussion ever could.
  42. 1 point
    Haji 2003

    W.I.M. wimmin

    @starlight It's an issue of assessing each thread on its merits. I don't remember giving you both barrels, so it must have been ok, I think. What I pointed out in my OP were some indicators of troll-like behaviour, it's when there is a preponderance of such indicators that the light switches from amber to red. Certainly, giving such threads carte-blanche for public consumption is not on IMHO. If independent, discreet advice is what is needed then we have mechanisms for that. Often it's because these people supposedly took everything they were told at face-value that they got into trouble in the first place, the last thing we should be doing is following their example.
  43. 1 point
    Ralvi

    Pyramids, aliens & God

    Wasalaam, Yeah this is the area I’m not very knowledgeable about haha my mother told me this and I thought wow it makes more sense than humans making pyramids! She didn’t give me much detail. She did the Asian thing and said a part of the story and then continued it years later lol leaving it to me to put it together and remember. It’s a head scratcher And I have little liking for the occult (just a little bit >.<) only in video games, you learn a lot actually. Like One game Shadow hearts(my fav rpg). It’s how I found out that prophet soloman is famous for controlling 72 ‘demons’ although we know they’re jinns i just thought it was pretty neat yeah I’m the type who believes somebody 100% they trust. So I trust everything my mother says lol i agree they help us out but we do have some level of ‘ manipulation’ I guess? They’re weaker than us, not physically maybe more mentally I think not like modern day Jews, they’re still some Jews who will convert when the imam will come, those guys follow original Judaism and practice like we do. They’re prayers are like us and they have almost the same set of beliefs. They’re are some very good people of the book who follow the original word. I think anyway, it’s interesting and I want to learn more
  44. 1 point
    realizm

    Pyramids, aliens & God

    I tend to believe in jinns' intervention in ancient works like pyramids, roman, temples etc...
  45. 1 point
    Qa'im

    Blood on Hisham b. al-Hakam's Hands

    A relevant tradition to meditate on: - علي بن إبراهيم، عن محمد بن عيسى، عن بعض أصحابنا، عن أبي الحسن موسى عليه السلام قال: إن الله عز وجل غضب على الشيعة (1) فخيرني نفسي أوهم، فوقيتهم والله بنفسي. Narrated by Imam Musa b. Ja’far [a], "Allah became angry with the Shi`a, so he gave me the choice between myself or them, so I redeemed them by Allah with my own self." al-Majlisī suggests that it refers to a time where the Shīʿah had abandoned the practice of taqiyyah (dissimulation) during the reign of Hārun al-Rashīd (d. 763/766 or 809 AD) and as a result, al-Kāẓim had to put himself forward as a sacrifice in order to save them.
  46. 1 point
    Mansur Bakhtiari

    Did the Imam Curse Zurara?

    lol I was debating a Sunni brother on this topic a little while ago, I want to take it up with him again Inshallah. Thanks for putting this up so the wider Muslim community can be exposed to the righteousness and excellent character of Zurarah ibn Ayan (ra) Rijal al Tusi Volume 1 Page 123 وروي أن زرارة كان وسيما جسيما أبيض. وكان يخرج إلى الجمعة وعلى رأسه برنس أسود، وبين عينيه سجادة، وفي يده عصا، فيقوم له الناس سماطين ينظرون اليه لحسن هيئته، فربما رجع عن طريقه، وكان خصما جدلا لا يقوم أحد - It is narrated that Zurarah (ra) was handsome and white, and when he went out on Friday with a burnus (hooded cloak) on his head and a prostration mark between his eyes, and in his hand a stick, people who would give him gifts just to get a glimpse of him, and there was no competition against him.
  47. 0 points
    3wliya_maryam

    Please let me help you

    how dare do u degrade it like that
  48. 0 points
    May the enemies of the Ahlul Bhayth (عليه السلام) forever burn in hell.
  49. 0 points
    rkazmi33

    W.I.M. wimmin

    She only wants freedom from physical abuse and I think it's her religous duty to try to save her life since physical abuse can lead to death. As far as her clothing is concerned, I believe when western people help Muslim women, they expect them to assimilate in western culture. People say that in domestic disputes, police always support the Muslim women. When my ex-husband called police on me, I was terrified, upset and shaking but police officer became mad at me just because I was not making eye contact with him. That day I knew that if I ever have to get help from police to escape my family, they won't help me unless I give up my hijab and other practices they dislike.
  50. 0 points
    Ashvazdanghe

    Black Friday

    Iranians are making jokes that we put sanctions on Americans so they rushed to buy everything & a few say that if Iranians had same off in prices would act worsen than them Arbaeen day vs black friday https://youtu.be/IskI_7TYxXI
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