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  1. notme

    Thoughts 2021

    Y'all in Dearborn Heights, stay safe from the flood. Hope it's not so bad.
    3 points
  2. The problem many people have is that they forget that even in 1988, when there was a ceasefire, Saddam and the munafeqeen khalgh attacked again. See operation Mersad. Imam khomeini knew this in 1982 that Saddam couldn't be trusted.
    3 points
  3. Friend through social media linked me this article. https://childrenshealthdefense.org/defender/mrna-technology-covid-vaccine-lipid-nanoparticles-accumulate-ovaries/ Dr. Robert Malone, creator of mRNA vaccine technology, said the COVID vaccine lipid nanoparticles — which tell the body to produce the spike protein — leave the injection site and accumulate in organs and tissues. The biodistribution study obtained by Bridle showed lipid nanoparticles from the vaccine did not stay in the deltoid muscle where they were injected as the vaccine’s developers claimed would happen, but circulated throughout the body and accumulated in large concentrations in organs and tissues, including the spleen, bone marrow, liver, adrenal glands and — in “quite high concentrations” — in the ovaries. The mRNA — or messenger RNA — is what tells the body to manufacture the spike protein. The lipid nanoparticles are like the “boxes” the mRNA is shipped in, according to Malone. “If you find lipid nanoparticles in an organ or tissue, that tells you the drug got to that location,” Malone explained. According to the data in the Japanese study, lipid nanoparticles were found in the whole blood circulating throughout the body within four hours, and then settled in large concentrations in the ovaries, bone marrow and lymph nodes. if this is true, I wonder how this will affect woman who are conceiving.
    2 points
  4. Hazaras are quite capable people in terms of education and agriculture etc. The big mistake of Afghans so far has been to rely upon the help of other nations when it came to military self-defense. Now they recognized that all nations East and West, Muslim and non-Muslim abandoned them to the Taliban. You can be capable as much as your want but if sone goons come and steal from you what you have earned then you have to defend yourself. There is still hope as people outside of Afghanistan are building up pressure and reorganize the Afghan resistance: while inside Afghanistan armed resistance against Taliban is getting stronger (video from yesterday): And noone and no country needs politicians who steal people’s money but when they have to fight, they flee the country, like former governor of Balkh (Mazar), Atta Muhammad Noor and his likes and others have to do the fighting for them. And when the country becomes peaceful again they return.
    2 points
  5. If you read the article it talks about the "Sunni block" refering to the Sunni members of parliament.
    2 points
  6. If you want to learn to easily control your nafs, whenever your nafs wants something, avoid satisfying its desire, even if it is halal. For example, you are not hungry but you like to eat a cake, however, you dont eat it. The more you ignore the desires of your nafs, the easier it will be for you to control it.
    2 points
  7. ShiaMan14

    Ayah 2;272

    Wa alaikum Salaam. The ayah is actually saying the opposite. It's saying whatever good you do is for the sake of Allah. [Pooya/Ali Commentary 2:272] The general policy of Islamic ideology is to give freedom of choice to the individual, therefore, Allah, through His messenger, makes it clear that no one should compel any one to walk on the right path. Whatever we spend, to seek the pleasure of Allah, works out our own good - the common welfare of the society. So, a portion of Zakat and khums has to be spent, under the directions of a mujtahid, for the general benefit of the community. It is recommended that to bring the infidels from the darkness of ignorance into the light of faith, charity may also be given to them. We spend in the way of Allah to benefit ourselves, because whatever we spend is paid back to us in full.
    2 points
  8. Salaam, The struggle is understandable but it seems to stem from a misunderstanding in your approach. Always keep this in mind, who is your role model? When you say you want to be spiritual and gain proximity to Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى), based on what? How do you go about doing that? How do you get there? What should and should you not do? You have not been created in this world to just ignore it and to just pray and read day in and day out. If that was the case you wouldn't need to be born into a family, and have to encounter others whilst growing up, or live on a planet occupied by 7.9 billion others, you would have been placed alone on Mars. You have been created in this world to play a role in it. Your role model in this regard should be Imam Ali ((عليه السلام)) and we do not read about him leaving the workplace, or the marketplace, or the people. This idea that spirituality means you should wait for sustenance to drop out of the sky is meaningless? Where did you get that idea? Did Imam Ali ((عليه السلام)) wait for sustenance from the sky or did he go out and work? Why do I mention Imam Ali ((عليه السلام))? Because the Holy Prophet (sawa) said that Ali is with the truth and the truth is with Ali, Ali is the straight path (صراط المستقيم), our litmus test and our scale to see whether we are on the path of truth is Imam Ali ((عليه السلام)). Don't make the mistake of thinking being spiritual is abandoning the worldly affairs, and technology and just reading Qur'an and Hadiths and watching lectures, you are part of this world whether you like it or not, ignoring it wont change that fact and in turn you have to live accordingly and discover your potential, and use your God given intellect and pursue your worldly goals and dreams that are worthy of deeds in the hereafter. It's not at all Black and White as you put it, the world is complex and colorful, the Imams ((عليه السلام)) were not hermits neither were they completely immersed in worldly affairs, rather they were balanced and our religion is one of balance, everything has a time and a place. I believe you've overwhelmed yourself and your spirit and you are denying yourself feelings and emotions that are innate and God given, and they should be there, because without somebody pursuing their goals in life we would not be able to be in touch right now, on Shiachat, discussing this topic because the Computer and Internet would not have been invented. Being on social media isn't bad, it can be a means of catching up with people or with Covid now, staying in touch with relatives, in terms of chatting up girls, that's a separate subject you might have a deep social need to engage with the other sex and so speaking to them makes you feel something, alive, or happy, or different because of a negative perception you might have of engaging in such activity, so there's a kind of thrill behind it. (this is really presumptuous of me, please correct me if I'm wrong.) Take a deep breathe, step back and reevaluate your approach completely and find a more balanced means of having a true spiritual life in accordance with the lives of the Ahlulbayt who led normal lives. Take it easy on yourself, have a social life, we are social creatures for a reason, there is wisdom in it Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) states in the Holy Qur'an that we were created in tribes and peoples so as to get to know one another, there's alot you learn just by observing the dunya (world) and partaking in it as a normal member of society. Lessons that are invaluable. We need more brothers like you who are invested in their faith to become therapists, doctors, lawyers, economists, philosophers, artists etc. so you can bring shed light on these topics and bring out the truth. Ask yourself this: (I'm sure you have because if you didn't you wouldn't have even proposed this question) - Is spirituality supposed to make me sad? Does God want me to be generally depressed? - Is misery something that makes me a better individual, does it positively impact my decisions, lifestyle and those around me? - Are Muslims supposed to be different than the rest of humanity in terms of how certain things make them feel such as longing to be around people, having goals, dreams and pursuing them? Having desires? Are we supposed to be strong enough to block out these natural physiological occurrences? Are we supposed to seclude ourselves and worship Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) until our time comes? No to all of the above. With the coming of Islam humanity progressed in many fields, mathematics, architecture, medicine, astrology, and chemistry etc. regular Muslims began to look at the stars and beyond in wonder, and began to research, write and discover and what they did changed the entire world as we know it. You are full of potential, your religion should be a means of you discovering this God given potential and recognizing that you have a social role to play, and have a responsibility to take care of yourself physically and mentally and be an outstanding member of society. If it is resulting in the opposite and you feel more of a recluse and your mental health is deteriorating then something is definitely wrong. Denying yourself the natural human feelings and experiences is only a veiled form of self-harm. Imam Ali ((عليه السلام)) is a spiritual saint, he was not a recluse, a hermit, and was an active member of society, and was involved as much as anyone else in his time if not more, since he later became a leader, in social circles and activities.
    2 points
  9. Read Quran, watch lectures about parents, remember if your parents die tomorrow and you didn't ask forgiveness you are in big trouble. when you angry standing up sit down, if you angry when you sitting down stand up because jin gets into you he loves when someone get angry. if you want to say something like back talk don't do it take your anger out on a boxing bag something. Most important part stay calm, I used to be calm than few years I started to get angry because private issues until I started to watch Irani movies like Qom for example, when the sheikh gets into argument or someone screaming at him, his calm I learnt from him stay calm just don't care anything. this life is short, May Allah Grant us Jannah. May Allah guide us and protect us.
    2 points
  10. Everyone should follow their own marja on this issue. Clearly not all of the mujtahids see eye to eye on these issues.
    1 point
  11. Surely there is a distinction between believing something and smacking someone around the head with it. You likely have beliefs about najasat that you do not explicitly share with associates and co-workers affected by that belief. And likely there are fundamentalist vegetarians who believe that you and I are murderers but they keep that opinion to themselves. It's not about embarrassment it is about maintaining a civil society or indeed a society that can have some form of modus vivendi with the ones around it.
    1 point
  12. "I didn't say that the fatwa was embarrassing I said that the ones issuing them are embarrassed that the world will know what they believe on a specific issue." Oh, that makes it much better.......sigh
    1 point
  13. I will assume that one should be okay - Although I don't know if there is an actual ruling to it or not . Worse Case Scenario, Go On Sayid Al Sistani and ask the question. You will definitely get a response. This one I am not sure.
    1 point
  14. Salam in 1982 Saddam asked for ceasefire as a trap for engaging Iran into Israel intervention in Lebanon civil war & taking a breath for reorganizing his army in Iranian occupied lands based on an Israel-American plan by announcing a fake ceasefire by cursed Sadam and asking Iran to move it's army besides a small part of his army toward Lebanon which after making a great gap between Iran army , he could invade Iran with a refreshed army when Iran army has been engaged in far lands in name of freeing Quds from Israel from Iran borders which at that time Imam Khomeini (رضي الله عنه) has recognized their vicious plan for backstabbing of Iran by Saddam which he has announced his famous quote " Way of freedom of Quds runs through Karbala" or "the path to Jerusalem runs through Karbala" ie after defeat of Saddam army we will move toward Quds which even now Iran is following this step by step policy while in 1982 Hezbollah has founded by seperation of some of Amal group members who have been against policy of some Amal group leaders for making peace deal with Israel which this 6 years difference has given enough time for strengthening of Hezbollah by support of Iran in order of pushing Israel out of Lebanon and taking back of occupied Iran lands from Saddam's army without losing a centimeter of Iranian lands which has lead to fall of cursed Saddam in following years. http://qodsna.com/en/309375/Mostafavi:-We-are-on-a-route-which-passed-Karbala-to-destination-al-Quds https://studies.aljazeera.net/en/dossiers/2014/04/20144271937970549.html Three Phases of Resistance: How Hezbollah Pushed Israel Out of Lebanon https://www.e-ir.info/2014/04/28/three-phases-of-resistance-how-hezbollah-pushed-israel-out-of-lebanon/ https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/1750698017730870 https://www.usmcu.edu/Outreach/Marine-Corps-University-Press/Expeditions-with-MCUP-digital-journal/Irans-Islamic-Revolutionary-Guard-Corps/ https://www.fdd.org/analysis/2019/06/18/burning-bridge/
    1 point
  15. What is Islam’s viewpoint on cloning? question Is there any marja who considers cloning permissible? What does Islam say about cloning? Detailed Answer https://www.islamquest.net/en/archive/fa1151
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  16. Leaving aside the embarrassing levels of racism in the trailer alone, I don't really agree with fatawa banning the viewing of this film. The issue is that most people, the maraji' included, don't disagree with the events as we can assume will be depicted in the film, they are just embarrassed that Sunnis will know what they believe and that isn't a valid enough reason to prevent people watching something.
    1 point
  17. Salam Imam Khamenei even before releasing movie , has banned the making of any remarks insulting to the wives of prophets, including the Prophet Muhammad (S) which in similar fashion grand Ayatollah Sistani has issued a Fatwa in similar fashion of Imam Khamenei ,so therefore, any kind of supporting of the movie even watching the movie has not been allowed. https://www.al-monitor.com/originals/2015/01/iran-iraq-fatwa-sunni-shiite-insults.html https://www.tehrantimes.com/news/456341/Is-The-Lady-of-Heaven-true-in-its-claim
    1 point
  18. Shahrukh K

    Dream

    Has it ever happened to you that you were in a dream. In the dream you are in some kind of difficulty, because of that you are suffering and suddenly you know in the dream itself that this is a dream not the reality, how do you feel ? You are in a dream you cannot end the dream only the dreamer can do that, but you are certain that this is a dream and the suffering is not real. What will be your state in that dream ? What will happen to those sufferings and difficulty ? Can you imagine........ Note : You the dreamer is different from you who is in the dream.
    1 point
  19. Eddie Mecca

    Dream

    This has happened to me a few times and that's usually when I wake up.
    1 point
  20. What if someone took the Johnson&Johnson vaccine? Its not a mRNA one
    1 point
  21. I don't exclude the non westerners, (hence my what if). The virus might not be as severe as is made up to be, that's my point. Why else would the elites keep on with the act? Or could it be that they know something we don't know? perhaps they have other sources of remedy available to them? perhaps as you say, maybe there's no virus, maybe it's just another mutation of the flu?, maybe there's another agenda behind this pandemic? I don't know more than you know, I just pass on information I find interesting. Afterall we're all in the same situation. so am I
    1 point
  22. Salaam, Not all dhikr can be recited, spiritual masters only permit the general public to recite those dhikrs that the have a chain of narrators in which the Holy Prophet (sawa) or the Imams ((عليه السلام)) gave as general advice. As such be wary when it comes to a'maal that don't have a chain, as they have side effects if one performs them incorrectly or stops performing them or performs them randomly. In the case of the aforementioned dhikr, that is not the case although a limit has been set my the urafaa' and that is 400 times, any time between maghrib prayers up until fajr prayers. It should be recited in sujood, and without interruption. As for its effects, they mention that it is a great form of esteghfar, it purifies the one that recites it, it is good for asking a haja (making a request), it removes certain veils, it is good for the removal of distress and worry. - (ROUGH TRANSLATIONS) In the first narration Imam al-Sadiq ((عليه السلام)) mentions that for the one who is filled with sorrow this dhikr should be recited on the night of Friday (Thursday night) after Isha prayers. In the second, the Holy Prophet (sawa) says The name of Allah that if he is called by it he will answer, and that if He is asked by it, He gives is the dua given to Yunus ((عليه السلام)) and then he was asked is this specifically for Yunus ((عليه السلام)) and he (sawa) replies no it is for everyone, and then proceeds to say did you not hear what Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) said [afterwards]: and thus do We rescue the believers. In the third, the Holy Prophet (sawa) says I do not know of any person stricken with grief who recites (the dhikr) except that he is relieved from it. As for the fourth Imam al Sadiq ((عليه السلام)) says I am amazed by one who is stricken by grief that he does not resort to saying (the dhikr is mentioned) for I have heard Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) say afterwards: and thus do We rescue the believers. As for the fifth: It is the end of a longer tradition where the Imam ends it by saying: and for worry and grief (he mentions the dhikr) Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) has said: Thereupon We accepted his prayer, and rescued him from grief. Thus do We rescue the believers. As for the narrations: عن ابی عبداللّه(ع) انه قال: دعاء المکروب و الملهوف و من قد اعیته الحیلة و اصابته البلیة، لا اله الاّ انت سبحانک انّی کنت من الظالمین یقولها لیلة الجمعة اذا فرغ من الصلاة المکتوبة من العشاء لآخرة و قال اخذته عن ابی‌جعفر(ع) قال: اخذته عن علی بن الحسین(ع) ذی‌الثفنات اخذه عن الحسین بن علی(ع) اخذه عن امیرالمؤمنین(ع) اخذه عن رسول اللّه(ص) اخذه عن جبرئیل عن اللّه. رسول اللّه(ص) قال: «اِسمُ اللّه اَلَّذی اِذا دُعی بِهِ اَجابَ وَ اِذا سُئِلَ بِهِ اعطی‌هو دعوة یونس النّبی قلت: یا رَسُولَ اللّه لَهُ خاصّة؟ فَقالَ لَهُ خاصَّة وَ لِجَمیعِ المُؤمِنین عامة اِذا دَعوابِها اَلَم تسمع قول اللّه سُبحانَهُ: «و کذلک ننجی المؤمنین» قال النبی(ص):«إنّی لاَعْلم کلمةً لا یقرأها مکرُوب إلّا خَرَج عَنه، کَلِمَةُ أخی یونس «فنادی فی الظلمات ان لا اله الّا انت». الصادق(ع) قال: عَجبتُ لِمَن فَزَعَ مِن اَربع کَیفَ لا یفزع اِلی اَربع:... عَجبتُ لِمَن إغتَّمَ کَیفَ لا یفزع إلی قَولِهِ: «لا الهَ الّا أنتَ سُبحانَکَ إنّی کُنتُ مِنَ الظّالِمین» فَانِّی سَمِعتُ عَزَّوَجَلَ یقُولُ بِعَقَبِها: «فنجیناه من الغم و کذلک ننجی المؤمنین» ن ابی عبداللّه(ع) قال: اربع لِالأربع الی ان قال و الرابعة للغم و الّهم «لا اله الّا انت سبحانک انّی کنت من الظالمین». قال سبحانه: «فاستجبناله و نجّیناه من الغم و کذلک ننجی المؤمنین».
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  23. History tends to repeat itself unfortunately. Some weak and disgraceful people held a sword towards Imam Ali's throat and told him to call Malik back even though he was 10 steps away from finishing muawiyah. Some weak and disgraceful people, namely high ranking officials and commanders also told Imam Khomeini to accept the ceasefire because we can't fight anymore. Hence drinking the poison cup. A lot of literature and analysis has been written about the 598 resolution and the story of the posion cup, unfortunately very few in English.
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  24. Salaam sister, Have you considered whether your husband knowingly or unknowingly suffered from a sex addiction prior to your marriage and did not resolve it up until now? Whilst many brothers and sisters on here and even some scholars recommend marriage as a means of ridding oneself from certain sins such as pornography/masturbation or multiple sexual partners, long term use of pornography or unhealthy sexual habits in ones youth can lead to addiction as bad as addiction to cocaine. This is in no means an attempt to justify what your husband is doing, but it is a reality that many couples deal with, the husband keeps it secret thinking possibly that marriage will resolve it but his brain has been trained over the years to seek unhealthy forms of sexual pleasure and marriage just doesn't magically solve it, medicine and therapy do though. How many are willing to take that path with the bad social stigma surrounding it? The reason I'm assuming that might be the case is that he is also taking pills to help him perform sexually which is very common nowadays with those with sex addiction. In the case that your husband IS suffering from addiction, then it would be wrong to expect him to just quit his habits through choice without medical help or help from an expert you will only be more disappointed in the future. Consider speaking to him and setting an ultimatum that he must get help for his sex addiction and make sure he follows through as addicts will always say yes to get out of the situation at hand. All in all, we don't know the details of your situation, so all of us can just make assumptions at the end of the day. Read all the replies given and make the choice you feel makes sense and is relevant to your situation.
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  25. The fact of life is that a woman walking alone at 2am in an alley is more vulnerable than a man doing the same thing. It is a horrible fact, and animalistic men are the reason for this and are to be blamed entirely, but that is just how it is, and insha Allah this changes with education and teachings. Children are raised while considering the environment and circumstances around them, not how the world should be ideally. This also extends to certain jobs and activities that are obviously more suited for men, and it is not "sexist" to point this out. I would be more comfortable with my son working overnight shifts (as a security guard for example) than my daughter doing the same thing. In fact, it would be foolish to be even in such a situation.
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  26. sirat-al-nur

    Advice please

    Salaam Alaykum Sheikh, I hope and pray you are doing well. It's great to see that you have reached out about your issues, may Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) ease your pain, and free you and your loved ones from burden and hardship by the rights of Muhammad and his Holy Household (sawa). In my humble opinion, I think just as you reached out on Shiachat, you have to reach out on other platforms such as Facebook or googling different centers and contacting them and asking them if they have any positions that need to be filled, or reach out to the more well known sheikhs online and asking them for advice and work opportunities. Your situation at home is not easy to say the least, and naturally that should be your priority and from what you've written I can see that it's taken and is taking a toll on you, may Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) help you and your family through all your struggles. I've heard of communities in the U.S without a resident scholar, so there are opportunities out there you just have to look in the right places and make yourself known to the community, YouTube and Facebook are good to use in this regard. As for intellectual conversations, as you are out of the seminary you can expect, naturally, that you will not necessarily be having the same level of discussions with the general community when it comes to these topics, especially bahth al kharij, as important as that may seem to you, in my humble opinion, that is a mindset that you have to change as everything has a time and a place and there are priorities, as a graduate of the seminary, your outlook must be to connect with the common public as much as possible, and mainly to learn from them, they may not use the same terminology or phrase certain issues in an intellectual manner but there is depth in whatever is said or dealt with by a common believer, and one must learn the language of the people, academia and the language of academics in and of itself can severely limit your audience and obstruct you from achieving your goals as a mubaligh, your goal should be to speak the language of the people and to connect to their hearts and minds in a manner that reaches and impacts the largest amount of people that you can. The issue is a scholar must not focus on those who already know their ahkam and their beliefs per se, but rather those that don't it would be much easier to surround yourself with those that know, but the function of a scholar is to help guide those that do not know and get out of that circle. This can easily be observed by going over the traditions of the Holy Prophet (sawa) and the Imams ((عليه السلام)) their words different based on the audience they were addressing, and when they were speaking to God their words went beyond the understanding of the commoner and the scholar as well. Again this is not belittling the general public, but historically the language of the public differed from the language of the scholar, be it English or Arabic, as a student of the Hawzeh you should know this very well, when studying Kifayah or Makasib, you need an able and well versed teacher to unravel the many teachings written in what is to scholar and commoner a text of riddles and can even be observed when studying the initial risalas of the older scholars ((رضي الله عنه)) who wrote in a language that the public could not understand let alone a scholar who has completed their formal Arabic studies. This reason is why some scholars like Shaheed al-Sadr looked for Sheikh Mughniyeh to write a risala that could be understood by anyone, since his pen was more fluid as they say. What I mean to say is, you have to put away any preconception of having such talks and debates outside of the scholarly realm, and also the point of such debates, kharij is for those looking for Ijtihad, and the needs of the communities today are solutions to social issues and philosophies that govern the everyday life of the average individual. It would be good to go through ShiaChats topics to see what people consider relevant and the problems they face on a daily basis so that you can correctly diagnose the issues that a Western Muslim faces on a daily basis, so that you can help them and at the same time be more relevant, and in doing so I'm sure you will attract the attention of those who are in desperate need of help. A small example would be the issues you face at home with a son diagnosed with autism and the difficulties of managing your life around this and your other children and your questions with regards to how to create a healthy social environment for them, these are problems many other muslims are facing in the West just as you are, if you find practical solutions or a method of dealing with the pressure mentally, emotionally, socially, and share your experiences with people you can help them greatly in overcoming and/or dealing with these issues. With the development of new platforms and technologies you can put yourself out there and perform your duty, so make use of them to the utmost extent. There are days when I wish there was an accessible scholar I can go and share my problems with and find solutions and practical advice. I'm sure I'm not the only one in this regard. There is no shortage in people looking for scholars to connect with, so make yourself known to people and they themselves will come to you. Covid has changed a lot, for people, scholars, and business alike, there isn't an unaffected industry that comes to mind, they've all managed to find ways around it, especially with remote work and online lectures/courses, although the struggle is still there. For more academic work, you can post articles online, contact academic institutions, there is a lot of interest in Islamic Scholarship in Academia, so that would be a good avenue for you to publish and share what you know and your research. Covid has hit us all and for those of us taking precaution as you are, we have all become socially isolated, and cases of depression are definitely on the rise, this is a common struggle and a period of time that will be surely written in history, so the struggle your children are facing is the same as many, as suggested above and as you yourself have concluded moving out of a rural area, if it becomes a realistic possibility, would definitely be a solution in the long run. I hope someone else can help with the housing and financial aspect of things, I'm not really an expert on the matter and can't really say much on that topic. As is mentioned in the narrations, the ulama' are the inheritors of the scholars, and as such your struggles I'm sure were the struggles of many Prophets ((عليه السلام)) and their families who went through social isolation, and limited decisions and the difficulties you have mentioned. Your situation is by no means easy, الله يفرج عنك بحق محمد و ال محمد
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  27. Abu Hadi

    Please help me!!!!

    I am not saying they are nowhere to be found, I said they are more or less rare, depending on where you live and what environment you are in. For example, a marjaa' taqleed, who lives in Qum or Najaf, was raised in a family of Sadat, is in a pure environment with no haram around him, then in that situation, yes, there are probably many who are in that situation of being single with no fear of committing haram. The vast majority of Shia in the world don't live in that situation. They live in London or New York or Singapore, Karachi, Tehran, Beirut, etc, where haram is all around them and they are surrounded on every side by people who are either non practicing muslims or in the case of those who live in the West, non muslims. So the majority of the people around them have absolutely no respect for mahram / non mahram, halal and haram. In that situation, in which the vast majority of Shia live in, is it any surprise to you that they would fall into sin because of not being married. Add on top of that Internet / Social Media in which every kind of haram is only a click away, and you can come to understand what the situation is. The marjaa' and those directly around them, and maybe even some fortunate brothers and sisters on ShiaChat are living in environments and places like the marjaa are living in and their situation is similar to theirs, i..e surrounded by Shia who are practicing and in a place where the government and society respects the norms of Islam as taught by Ahl Al Bayt((عليه السلام)). A t the same time, they need to understand that they are a small minority amoung the followers of Ahl Al Bayt((عليه السلام)) and they would not assume that everyone or even most live the life that they live.
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  28. Try reading Quran everyday watch lots of religious stuff, stop watching videos that has females half naked like, snapchat tiktok should be avoided since there's female half naked so you stop thinking about masturbation. if your parents don't let you marry and marriage saves you from sinning you can marry without your parents permission but got forgot make sure you are ready for example finical, ready to be a dad, ready to handle arguments etc. Don't forget to do tuba, don't message her since you said 5 to year 6 until you can get married, you shouldn't message any girl if there's no family involved because youse aren't alone there's a devil with youse. May Allah guide us, May Allah grant us highest level of Jannah, May Allah Appear Imam Mahdi (ajtf).
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  29. This is a universal truth about human nature that transcends the division between East and West. Unfortunately, today it is politically incorrect to acknowledge the fact that humans are hard-wired to prefer their immediate biological kin over outsiders, including racial “foreigners.” Of course, the liberal globalist Establishment would like to pretend that human nature, like man’s biology, is ostensibly “evolving” and that with the right incentives and coercive measures mankind can become a single racial (to not mention economic, political, and religious) entity through intermarriage. The truth is that mankind has never been unified, so in this sense both the liberal globalists and white nationalists are engaging in wishful thinking, preferring an imagined, uniform state to hard history. Any attempt to force men to act against their inborn nature or fitrah—to borrow the Islamic term for the basic concept—will only lead to a cataclysm of inconceivable proportions. We are already seeing strong foretastes of this, amid all the social engineering that the globalist elites are implementing, both in the postmodernist West and soon-to-be-postmodernist East. As far as “white unity” is concerned, it is as chimerical as “Muslim (or other) unity,” because whites, like political “Muslims,” have fought each other more than their supposedly shared foes. Even “white Christendom” has historically focussed its violent energies inward rather than outward, hence the civilisational struggle between Latinate Catholicism and Greek Orthodoxy, which long predated even the “formal” Schism of 1054, itself a mere codification of longstanding rivalry between Greeks and Romans that preceded Trinitarian Christianity to begin with. As much as white nationalists (and other groups) like to blame outsiders such as Zionist “Jews” for their predicament, they overlook the fact that subversives such as Zionists merely exploit preexisting baselines to deepen and exacerbate that which has long been present in a society, be it white or nonwhite. The existence of these divisions largely explains why Zionist elites have been so successful, because the Zionists keenly understand human nature and act accordingly, unlike the civilisational masses, who are subject to their respective civilisational delusions and tendencies. To paraphrase the great Pogo: “We have met the enemy and he is us.” Precisely. This is why people of different racial—to not mention ethnic and religious—backgrounds always tend to form insular enclaves, even in “melting pots” such as the U.S., the British Commonwealth, Iran, Afghanistan, the Indian subcontinent, and so on. In none of these pluralistic realms does racial, ethnic, or religious intermarriage comprise a majority of all marriages. Even Shia Muslims are no different from Sunnis and non-Muslims in terms of preferring their own racial kindred and nearest of kin, insofar as marriage and economics are concerned. Hazara Shias only marry other Hazara, Pashtun Sunnis other Pashtun, and so on. Even within religions men tend to marry along racial and ethnic lines, hence the absence of interracial marriage between, say, Hazara Shias and non-Hazara Shias. To be fair, as a lifelong Westerner I can confidently state that the bolded assertion simply is not true. For centuries the Western media have always tended to side with cosmopolitan investors (usurers) such as bankers and industrialists. The latter are historical products of hermeticism, occultism, and alchemy (Kabbalah, the root of so-called “dialectics”). By definition these men were/are radicals and liberals, not traditionalists. The Crusades effectively sealed the “death-knell” of so-called “Christendom,” giving rise to developments that undermined feudalism and led to the Protestant-dominated Scientific and Industrial (“bourgeois”) Revolutions, thereby undermining the traditionalist Catholic/Orthodox establishment(s). Unlike the feudal aristocrats, the Zionist-sponsored capitalists never were loyal to any particular place, but only to potential profit, and thus ironically the rise of capitalism—at the expense of feudalism—provided the necessary base for “progressive” (read: modern) ideologies, theories, and practices, including capitalism’s supposed antithesis, socialism. It is the “anti-racists” and “socialists” who are the real antisocial racists, because they oppose civilisational identities, including Islamic, and wish to meld everything into an integrated one-world order. Today’s supranational, Zionist banking elite is finalising the millennia-old objectives of its ancestors. BLM, ANTIFA, mass Sunni immigration to the West, etc. are its latter-day tools. I also think that part of the problem lies in the fact that most Sunnis are of lower IQ and breeding than Shias, especially Persian and Hazara Shias. The latter actually innovate and are able to run complex societies, whereas Sunnis such as the Taliban are incapable of even basic institutional organisation, let alone virtues such as trust and its corollary, the rule of law. Every Sunni-majority land is a basket-case and closed market, catering chiefly to foreigners, whereas Iran and Hazara-majority portions of Afghanistan actually operate sustainable economies that serve their own nation as well as others. Shias export knowledge, other “Muslims” export terrorism. The Taliban et al. control the drug market, the Iranians develop nuclear energy. Furthermore, the Shias actually rely on their own indigenous knowledge and personnel, whereas the Sunnis always rely on others such as China, the U.S., and/or the EU to do the proverbial “heavy lifting.” While the Iranian economy is increasingly liberalised and in terms of openness resembles the GCC’s over time, the former is far more robust, resilient, and diverse than the latter. As an observant Western bystander I simply know all these things for facts.
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  30. In Sydney there's hips but stopped due to lockdown but there's one in Melbourne http://www.panjtan.org/index.php give them a call to confirm it's all ages.
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  31. https://www.al-islam.org/ask/topics/7042/questions-about-Eyebrows
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  32. Ingreatneedofdua

    Salam

    Salam brothers and sisters, my mother is in the hospital with Covid. She’s in a very critical condition. I request you all to please keep her in your duas. Thank you
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  33. notme

    Thoughts 2021

    There was a shooting in a high school nine miles from my house. It isn't our zoned school, but these incidents happen everywhere. Have humans always been violent like this? We need to learn empathy and community.
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  34. In practical world your Imamate was not working. After the Major Ghaybah there was no ‘day to day working relationship’ with the Imam. To fill this awkward inconsistency, it was necessary for the Shia clergy to create status of Wilayat al Faqih – This is big controversy within Shia. Iran being the BIG BROTHER within Shia world carries the most sway thus has pushed this for everyone to accept it and has suppressed the opposition to it with its overwhelming clout in the Shia world. This is the truth, however much you deny it. Many prominent ayatullahs do not agree with Iranian version of Iranian Wilayat al Faqih. There may be not issue about the 12th Imam. For certain backstage secret hands will show their definite manipulations when new Wilayat al Fiqih will be elected – Every Howzah, and ongoing rivalry between Qom and Najaf will try to get their man in top notch position in the Shia world - this is a natural human trait. Isn’t Imamate the highest rank in Shia Islam? Hz. Ibrahim (peace be upon him) was the first one to be bestowed with this title of being IMAM, right? From then this title was bestowed upon Shias Imams from Hz. Ali ibn Abi Talib (may Allah be pleased with him) to the 12th Imam. So, how come such lofty honorific title is bestowed upon Khomeini? You don’t consider him to infallible. In Sunni Islam the word IMAM does not carry any special meaning. It can be applied to the person leading the prayers in the at the home or local mosque and to the leading scholars. Sunnis believe in Absolute infallibility with Allah Almighty Alone! The Blessed Prophets (peace be upon them all) have infallibility in delivering the Divine Message completely with nothing added and nothing held back. All the rest of humans are fallible without any exception. Of course, from them are many who hold high status of highest order but still fallible. As the famous saying “To err is Human”. So, would you buy this argument that Imamis being majority are most likely to be wrong because they the majority and may be Ismailis are most probably right because they are a minority! I am referring to majority of Believers! Unless you take out the Sunnis due to their disbelief in your concept of Imamate. The Blessed Qur’an always refers to majority of MANKIND will not believe. The Qur’an never says that Majority of Believers will be wrong. Brother, I appreciate your input too. This place is not only for debating and sectarian rivalling but for learning from others too. I tried to read more about Wasilah as I must respond to brother ShiaMan14. It is very deep subject. I am trying to read arguments from both sides. Brother I am just an ordinary person, in the mosques I find other people who are so much better than me. I KNOW they are nearer to Allah Almighty than I. But I always feel even though I may be far from Allah Almighty; He is Close to me, very close. This is my comfort zone. AND IF My servants ask thee about Me - behold, I am near; I respond to the call of him who calls, whenever he calls unto Me: let them, then, respond unto Me, and believe in Me, so that they might follow the right way 2:186 “And indeed, We have created man, and We know whatever thoughts his inner self develops, and We are closer to him than (his) jugular vein.” (Quran 50:16). Of course, I ask my dear ones, my good friends to pray for me. You always pray for me when greet me with ‘Assalama alaykum’ – You are making dua for me to have peace and safety! I have never sought any BIG personality or ever visited any Shrine to seek blessings. Never. I am not being haughty; I feel very uncomfortable doing it. The Blessed Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) has taught us so many duas, and all are addressing Allah Almighty directly. Abu al- ‘Abbas ‘Abdullah bin ‘Abbas(رضي الله عنه) reports: “One day I was riding (a horse/camel) behind the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, when he said, ‘Young man, I will teach you some words. Be mindful of God, and He will take care of you. Be mindful of Him, and you shall find Him at your side. If you ask, ask of God. If you need help, seek it from God. Know that if the whole world were to gather together in order to help you, they would not be able to help you except if God had written so. And if the whole world were to gather together in order to harm you, they would not harm you except if God had written so. The pens have been lifted, and the pages are dry.’” Related by Tirmidhi Jazakallah khayrunn for such sincere dua. May Allah Almighty bless you and all your dear ones with the best in this World with long healthy lives and the best in the Hereafter – may Allah Almighty accept this from very humble me.
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  35. This is very profound verse!!! Apparently, this verse is mentioning two categories: a) immigrants b) helpers And this verse specify whom from immigrants and helpers we need to focus on i.e., al-sabiqoon al-awwaloon. Then the verse further adds some other people who followed the sabiqoon al-awwaloon in goodness (احسان). We need to understand who are the sabiqoon al-awwaloon and what exactly is meant by goodness (احسان) here? Because if you look at the very next verse it is telling us that among those who are around the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم), there are hypocrites and Allah will punish them twice. So lets first try to understand what احسان means and whom Allah s.wt calls as محسنين : إِنَّ الله يَأْمُرُ بِالْعَدْلِ وَالإِحْسَانِ 16:90) BEHOLD, God enjoins justice, and the doing of good احسان itself is above عدل . And this is very important aspect. Justice ( عدل) is for a person to give what he owes and take his money, and goodness (احسان) is to give more than he owes and take less than what he owes. The Holy Qur’an used the word احسان in three meanings: good work (العمل الحسن), charity to others (الإحسان إلى الآخرين) and good performance of work (الحسن للعمل). Keeping in view this very fact, and the phrase coined by our Ahlul Sunnah brothers that "all companions are just" (صحابة كلهم عدول), we can say that even if they consider all of them as just, all of them are not the محسنين for sure, because of the very definition of "ahsaan". So the verse 9-100 you have quoted, is asking us to find & follow the محسنين from the companions. Now back to the three meanings of Ahsaan. In the following verses, faith and good deeds are considered good, and that is in the relationship with God Almighty, such as belief in God Almighty and His signs. God Almighty said about some Christians: (وَإِذَا سَمِعُواْ مَا أُنزِلَ إِلَى الرَّسُولِ تَرَى أَعْيُنَهُمْ تَفِيضُ مِنَ الدَّمْعِ مِمَّا عَرَفُواْ مِنَ الْحَقِّ يَقُولُونَ رَبَّنَا آمَنَّا فَاكْتُبْنَا مَعَ الشَّاهِدِينَ * وَمَا لَنَا لاَ نُؤْمِنُ بِاللّهِ وَمَا جَاءنَا مِنَ الْحَقِّ وَنَطْمَعُ أَن يُدْخِلَنَا رَبُّنَا مَعَ الْقَوْمِ الصَّالِحِينَ * فَأَثَابَهُمُ اللّهُ بِمَا قَالُواْ جَنَّاتٍ تَجْرِي مِن تَحْتِهَا الأَنْهَارُ خَالِدِينَ فِيهَا وَذَلِكَ جَزَاء الْمُحْسِنِينَ)(المائدة/83ـ 85) {5:83-85) And when they hear what has been revealed to the messenger you will see their eyes overflowing with tears on account of the truth that they recognize; they say: Our Lord! we believe, so write us down with the witnesses (of truth). And what (reason) have we that we should not believe in Allah and in the truth that has come to us, while we earnestly desire that our Lord should cause us to enter with the good people? Therefore Allah rewarded them on account of what they said, with gardens in which rivers flow to abide in them; and this is the reward of those who do good.} And the pious, who seek God’s forgiveness during the morning hours, who help the needy, are also considered doers of good. إِنَّ الْمُتَّقِينَ فِي جَنَّاتٍ وَعُيُونٍ* آخِذِينَ مَا آتَاهُمْ رَبُّهُمْ إِنَّهُمْ كَانُوا قَبْلَ ذَلِكَ مُحْسِنِينَ* كَانُوا قَلِيلًا مِّنَ اللَّيْلِ مَا يَهْجَعُونَ* وَبِالْأَسْحَارِ هُمْ يَسْتَغْفِرُونَ* وَفِي أَمْوَالِهِمْ حَقٌّ لِّلسَّائِلِ وَالْمَحْرُومِ (الذاريات/15 ـ 19) {51:15-19) Surely those who guard (against evil) shall be in gardens and fountains. Taking what their Lord gives them; surely they were before that, the doers of good. They used to sleep but little in the night. And in the morning they asked forgiveness. And in their property was a portion due to him who begs and to him who is denied (good)} Also, abstaining from corruption and supplicating to God coupled with fear and hope is considered good: (وَلاَ تُفْسِدُواْ فِي الأَرْضِ بَعْدَ إِصْلاَحِهَا وَادْعُوهُ خَوْفًا وَطَمَعًا إِنَّ رَحْمَتَ اللّهِ قَرِيبٌ مِّنَ الْمُحْسِنِينَ)(الأعراف/56). {7:56) And do not make mischief in the earth after its reformation, and call on Him fearing and hoping; surely the mercy of Allah is nigh to those who do good (to others).} It is worth noting that the Noble Quran sees that every good deed that a person does is in fact a charity to himself: (إِنْ أَحْسَنتُمْ أَحْسَنتُمْ لِأَنفُسِكُمْ وَإِنْ أَسَأْتُمْ فَلَهَا..)(الإسراء/7) {17:7) If ye did well, ye did well for yourselves; if ye did evil, (ye did it) against yourselves.} Now we also see in Quran that "mujahideed" or jihad is also considered as good. It is considered that one who conveys the true beliefs and monotheistic values, calls to resist the enemies, and bears adversity and harm for the sake of that, within the circle of احسان. (إِذْ قَالَ لِقَوْمِهِ أَلَا تَتَّقُونَ* أَتَدْعُونَ بَعْلًا وَتَذَرُونَ أَحْسَنَ الْخَالِقِينَ* الله رَبَّكُمْ وَرَبَّ آبَائِكُمُ الْأَوَّلِينَ* فَكَذَّبُوهُ فَإِنَّهُمْ لَمُحْضَرُونَ* إِلَّا عِبَادَ الله الْمُخْلَصِينَ* وَتَرَكْنَا عَلَيْهِ فِي الْآخِرِينَ* سَلَامٌ عَلَى إِلْ يَاسِينَ* إِنَّا كَذَلِكَ نَجْزِي الْمُحْسِنِينَ) (الصافات/124 ـ131) {37:124-131) When he said to his people: Do you not guard (against evil)? What! do you call upon Ba'l and forsake the best of the creators, Allah, your Lord and the Lord of your fathers of yore? But they called him a liar, therefore they shall most surely be brought up. But not the servants of Allah, the purified ones. And We perpetuated to him (praise) among the later generations. Peace be on Il-yasin. Even thus do We reward the doers of good.} احسان also includes those sincere believers who wanted to wage jihad, but disease or lack of money prevented them from doing so and Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) mentioned them in Quran as: (ليْسَ عَلَى الضُّعَفَاء وَلاَ عَلَى الْمَرْضَى وَلاَ عَلَى الَّذِينَ لاَ يَجِدُونَ مَا يُنفِقُونَ حَرَجٌ إِذَا نَصَحُواْ لِلّهِ وَرَسُولِهِ مَا عَلَى الْمُحْسِنِينَ مِن سَبِيلٍ والله غَفُورٌ رحِيمٌ) (التوبة/91) {9:91) It shall be no crime in the weak, nor in the sick, nor in those who do not find what they should spend (to stay behind), so long as they are sincere to Allah and His Messenger; there is no way (to blame) against the doers of good; and Allah is Forgiving, Merciful;} And the "mohsin" in general is everyone who strives sincerely to God. (وَالَّذِينَ جَاهَدُوا فِينَا لَنَهْدِيَنَّهُمْ سُبُلَنَا وَإِنَّ الله لَمَعَ الْمُحْسِنِينَ) (العنكبوت/69). {29:69) And (as for) those who strive hard for Us, We will most certainly guide them in Our ways; and Allah is most surely with the doers of good.} احسان also includes a person’s good relationship with others, such as good dealing with a divorced wife upon returning to her or when she is released with kindness until her waiting period expires. As well as reconciliation and the waiver of some rights to preserve marital life and remove differences. Giving money to a divorced wife who has not consummated the marriage before setting the dowry. The same applies to spending in wealth and poverty, pardoning people, and controlling one's anger. As well as caring for parents, the elderly and the elderly people in general. So you have seen the scope of احسان and what is meant when Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) calls someone as "Mohsin". You only need to follow the goodness, you are not suppose to follow anyone's wrong doing or corruption. That's the key. Now who are the sabiqoon al-awwaloon? If we ask from brothers of Ahlul Sunnah about the tafseer & taveel of this phrase that sabiqoon al-awwaloon are the first how many??? The first 10 people converted to Islam, or the first 100 people converted to Islam. You will find that they do not know and there are difference of opinion among them about who are the sabiqoon al-awwaloon. Lets not take their interpretation, lets go through the Quran, find out the Sabiqoon. ثُمَّ أَوْرَثْنَا الْكِتَابَ الَّذِينَ اصْطَفَيْنَا مِنْ عِبَادِنَا ۖ فَمِنْهُمْ ظَالِمٌ لِنَفْسِهِ وَمِنْهُمْ مُقْتَصِدٌ وَمِنْهُمْ سَابِقٌ بِالْخَيْرَاتِ بِإِذْنِ اللَّهِ ۚ ذَٰلِكَ هُوَ الْفَضْلُ الْكَبِيرُ 35:32) Then We gave the Book for an inheritance to those whom We chose from among Our servants; but of them is he who makes his soul to suffer a loss, and of them is he who takes a middle course, and of them is he who is foremost in deeds of goodness by Allah's permission; this is the great excellence. Then in chapter 21 you will find the verse: إِنَّ الَّذِينَ هُمْ مِنْ خَشْيَةِ رَبِّهِمْ مُشْفِقُونَ وَالَّذِينَ هُمْ بِآيَاتِ رَبِّهِمْ يُؤْمِنُونَ وَالَّذِينَ هُمْ بِرَبِّهِمْ لَا يُشْرِكُونَ وَالَّذِينَ يُؤْتُونَ مَا آتَوْا وَقُلُوبُهُمْ وَجِلَةٌ أَنَّهُمْ إِلَىٰ رَبِّهِمْ رَاجِعُونَ أُولَٰئِكَ يُسَارِعُونَ فِي الْخَيْرَاتِ وَهُمْ لَهَا سَابِقُونَ 21:57-61) Surely they who from fear of their Lord are cautious, And those who believe in the communications of their Lord, And those who do not associate (aught) with their Lord, And those who give what they give (in alms) while their hearts are full of fear that to their Lord they must return, These hasten to good things and they are foremost in (attaining) them. And then in chapter 56 you will find that humans will turn into three groups: وَكُنْتُمْ أَزْوَاجًا ثَلَاثَةً 56:7) And you shall be three sorts فَأَصْحَابُ الْمَيْمَنَةِ مَا أَصْحَابُ الْمَيْمَنَةِ وَأَصْحَابُ الْمَشْأَمَةِ مَا أَصْحَابُ الْمَشْأَمَةِ وَالسَّابِقُونَ السَّابِقُونَ أُولَٰئِكَ الْمُقَرَّبُونَ 56:8-11) Then (as to) the companions of the right hand; how happy are the companions of the right. And (as to) the companions of the left hand; how wretched are the companions of the left. And the foremost are the foremost. These are they who are drawn nigh (to Allah), See how Quran has taken you to the door step of Sabiqoon who actually are the Muqarraboon. Now you also need to see who these Muqarraboon are!! كَلَّا إِنَّ كِتَابَ الْأَبْرَارِ لَفِي عِلِّيِّينَ وَمَا أَدْرَاكَ مَا عِلِّيُّونَ كِتَابٌ مَرْقُومٌ يَشْهَدُهُ الْمُقَرَّبُونَ 83:18-21) Nay! Most surely the record of the righteous shall be in the Iliyin. And what will make you know what the highest Iliyin is? It is a written book, Those who are drawn near (to Allah) shall witness it. The Muqarraboon are the ones whom Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) has appointed as witness over us. وَجَاهِدُوا فِي اللَّهِ حَقَّ جِهَادِهِ ۚ هُوَ اجْتَبَاكُمْ وَمَا جَعَلَ عَلَيْكُمْ فِي الدِّينِ مِنْ حَرَجٍ ۚ مِلَّةَ أَبِيكُمْ إِبْرَاهِيمَ ۚ هُوَ سَمَّاكُمُ الْمُسْلِمِينَ مِنْ قَبْلُ وَفِي هَٰذَا لِيَكُونَ الرَّسُولُ شَهِيدًا عَلَيْكُمْ وَتَكُونُوا شُهَدَاءَ عَلَى النَّاسِ ۚ فَأَقِيمُوا الصَّلَاةَ وَآتُوا الزَّكَاةَ وَاعْتَصِمُوا بِاللَّهِ هُوَ مَوْلَاكُمْ ۖ فَنِعْمَ الْمَوْلَىٰ وَنِعْمَ النَّصِيرُ 22:78) And strive hard in (the way of) Allah, (such) a striving a is due to Him; He has chosen you and has not laid upon you an hardship in religion; the faith of your father Ibrahim; He named you Muslims before and in this, that the Messenger may be a bearer of witness to you, and you may be bearers of witness to the people; therefore keep up prayer and pay the poor-rate and hold fast by Allah; He is your Guardian; how excellent the Guardian and how excellent the Helper! وَكَذَٰلِكَ جَعَلْنَاكُمْ أُمَّةً وَسَطًا لِتَكُونُوا شُهَدَاءَ عَلَى النَّاسِ وَيَكُونَ الرَّسُولُ عَلَيْكُمْ شَهِيدًا ۗ وَمَا جَعَلْنَا الْقِبْلَةَ الَّتِي كُنْتَ عَلَيْهَا إِلَّا لِنَعْلَمَ مَنْ يَتَّبِعُ الرَّسُولَ مِمَّنْ يَنْقَلِبُ عَلَىٰ عَقِبَيْهِ ۚ وَإِنْ كَانَتْ لَكَبِيرَةً إِلَّا عَلَى الَّذِينَ هَدَى اللَّهُ ۗ وَمَا كَانَ اللَّهُ لِيُضِيعَ إِيمَانَكُمْ ۚ إِنَّ اللَّهَ بِالنَّاسِ لَرَءُوفٌ رَحِيمٌ 2:143) And thus We have made you a medium (just) nation that you may be the bearers of witness to the people and (that) the Messenger may be a bearer of witness to you; and We did not make that which you would have to be the qiblah but that We might distinguish him who follows the Messenger from him who turns back upon his heels, and this was surely hard except for those whom Allah has guided aright; and Allah was not going to make your faith to be fruitless; most surely Allah is Affectionate, Merciful to the people. Congratulations!!! Quran has taken you to the door step of Imams of Ahlul Bayt (عليه السلام). علي بن إبراهيم، عن أبيه، عن حماد بن عيسى، عن إبراهيم بن عمر اليماني، عن سليم بن قيس الهلالي، عن أمير المؤمنين صلوات الله عليه قال: إن الله تبارك وتعالى طهرنا وعصمنا وجعلنا شهداء على خلقه، وحجته في أرضه، و جعلنا مع القرآن وجعل القرآن معنا، لا نفارقه ولا يفارقنا http://shiaonlinelibrary.com/الكتب/1122_الكافي-الشيخ-الكليني-ج-١/الصفحة_239 The above hadith is in line with the verse of purification, the verse of wilayah, the verses mentioning them being witness, the hadith that they are with Quran, and the hadith of thaqalayn.
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  36. Abu Hadi

    The meaning of life.

    Bismillah Ta'la I did not create the Jinns and the human beings except for the purpose that they should worship Me. Holy Quran 51:56. According to Quran, this is the meaning of life. If you understand the meaning of the ayat, you will understand why you were created and put on this earth and your life will make sense. Many muslims mistakenly believe that 'Ibadat' or worship means only praying, fasting, doing dua, reading quran, etc. While this is part of ibadat, it is not all of it. Ibadat comes from the word 'abd' which means slave. So being in Ibadat means being in a state where we have made ourselves a slave to Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى). When someone is a slave, they always look to their master for guidance on what they are supposed to do and what they are supposed to avoid, they follow those orders and don't deviate from them, and they are always looking to please their master and not do anything that displeases him or makes him angry. Being in a state of slavery, in the absolute sense, is only appropriate for Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) and not for any other being or any person. That is the meaning of 'La ilaha illa Lah'. There is nothing that is worthy of being a slave or abd to except Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى). So when a person is in this state of being a slave before Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى), they are fulfilling the purpose or the meaning of life. When they are outside of this state, they are not fulfilling this purpose, so their life has no meaning and no purpose. وَقَدِمْنَآ إِلَىٰ مَا عَمِلُوا۟ مِنْ عَمَلٍ فَجَعَلْنَـٰهُ هَبَآءً مَّنثُورًا So we will proceed to their deeds and make them as scattered floating dust Holy Quran 25:23 This ayat is talking about those people who do deeds and works that are outside of this state of Ibadat, i.e. they do them in disobedience to Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى). Those people believe that those deeds are great things, and that they will be rewarded by Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) for them, but when they see the true nature of reality, they will realize that their deeds were nothing and worthless. So the meaning of Ibadat is that once you come to know and realize that something pleases Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى), you do it as much as you can and once you realize that something displeases Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى), you avoid it and stay away from it. The ones who do this and make a habit of doing this are the ones whose life has meaning because they are fulfilling the purpose of their creation and the purpose of their life on earth. Whereas those who don't do this and don't make a habit of it will come to believe (mistakenly) that their life has no meaning and no purpose so they will just go after what pleases them in the moment, haphazardly, until these things that they go after destroy them. Here are some of the best acts of Ibadat, according to our Leaders, Rasoulallah(p.b.u.h) and the Imams of Ahl Al Bayt((عليه السلام)) The best of deeds is the love of Muhammad wa Ahl Muhammad. This is illustrated in many hadith. Here are some from the books of the Sunnis. Taken from https://www.al-islam.org/shiite-encyclopedia/reward-loving-ahlul-bayt I found the following astonishing tradition in one of the most famous Tafsir book of the Sunni brothers, that is, "Tafsir al-Kabir", by Fakhr al-Razi who is a leading Sunni scholar with multiple specialties in Tafsir, Fiqh, and theology. The full address of the document is given at the end. I have provided Arabic text for each sentence of this tradition. This tradition can also be found in other Sunni commentary books of Qur’an, "Tafsir al-Kashshaf,”written by al-Zamakhshari, as well as "Tafsir al-Tha’labi." Before going over the text of the tradition, it is important to point out that a true love is always accompanied by obedience. A person who is crazy about somebody, does every thing to satisfy the lover, and does not allow himself to disobey the one who loves. That is why the "true love”is necessary and sufficient. A true love affects every single action of human being and directs it to a special direction in harmony with the one who loves. Thus anyone who claims to love the Prophet and his Ahlul-Bayt (peace be upon them all), but he insists in disobeying them, is simply a liar. After giving the text of the tradition I shall quote the related verse of Qur’an under whose commentary this tradition was mentioned. I will also present some other traditions transmitted by the Sunnis which clearly specify the individuals whose love is obligatory. “““““ The Messenger of Allah said: He who dies with love of the family of Muhammad is a Martyr. And behold! He who dies with love of the family of Muhammad is forgiven. And more! The one who dies with love of the family of Muhammad is died repented. More traditions The Holy Prophet is quoted as saying: There is a basis for everything; and love for us, Ahl al-Bayt, is the basis of Islam.1 Whoever loves us has loved Allah. Whoever is hostile to us has been hostile to Allah. Whoever obeys us has obeyed Allah and whoever disobeys us has disobeyed Allah.2 1. Al-Kafi: 46/2, H. 2 2. Al-Amali: 476, H. 16 Imam Hasan ((عليه السلام).) has said: Surely, love for us will make sins fall down away from the children of Adam as the wind make the leaves fall down from trees.32 Imam al-Sadiq ((عليه السلام).) has said: Whoever loves our devotees and us for the sake of Allah, and not for a worldly purpose, he antagonizes our enemy, not because of personal rancor. His sins will be forgiven on the Judgment Day even if they are as many as the sands of a desert and foams of the seas.33 32. Al-Ikhtisas: 82 33. Al-Amali 156, H. 259 The best deeds. From https://www.al-islam.org/mikyal-al-makarim-fi-fawaid-al-dua-lil-qaim-vol-1-sayyid-muhammad-taqi-musawi-isfahani/71-best-deeds Since this act is cause of happiness of the best of the people of faith, and making believers happy it is – after Prayer (Salaat) – the best of the deeds. That which proves this is a tradition in the tenth volume of Biharul Anwar quoted from the book of Manaqib that His Eminence, Husain bin Ali (عليه السلام) said: I know it certainly that my grandfather the Holy Prophet (S) said: “The best deed after Prayer is conveying happiness to a believer provided there is no sin involved in it.” As I saw a slave who was eating food with a dog. I asked him about it and he replied: O son of the Messenger of Allah (S) I am sad and by making this dog happy, I am getting pleasure. Because by master is a Jew and I want to leave him. So Husain (عليه السلام) went to his master taking an amount of 200 dinars as the cost of that slave. The Jew said: “The slave is at your service. And this orchard is for him and I give the money back to you.” Imam (عليه السلام) said: “I also grant the money to you.” He accepted the money gave the slave to him. Imam Husain (عليه السلام) said: “I have freed the slave and given all this to him.” At that moment his wife said: “I have become a Muslim and surrendered my dower to him.” The Jew said: “I have also become a Muslim and given this house to my wife.”1 Imam Ali((عليه السلام)) said Blessed is the man who always kept the life after death in his view, who remembered the Day of Judgment through all his deeds, who led a contented life and who was happy with the lot that Allah had destined for him. 45. If I cut a faithful Muslim into pieces to make him hate me, he will not turn into my enemy and if I give all the wealth of this world to a hypocrite to make him my friend he will not befriend me. It is so because the Holy Prophet has said: " O ‘Ali! No faithful Muslim will ever be your enemy and no hypocrite will ever be your friend. from https://www.al-islam.org/articles/various-sayings-imam-ali-ibn-abi-talib
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  37. Imamate is mentioned in the Quran, clearly and explicitly and I think many brothers on shiachat have shed a light upon that. Isn't there in your hadith books written to obey the ruler even if he loots you and kicks you out of your own house? Majority of the shia population opposed the shah. And not only in words, they finally revolted and brought him down. Can it happen in Saudi Arabia? No. The reason is simple, you might be critical about them but a huge population of Sunnis are his sympathisers. Doesn't the ahl hadees and salafis in Pakistan and around the world now supporting the Taliban? Ok, put aside MBS and let us only talk about S. Was king Salman, kings before him really just? They were all tyrants. But the majority of Ahl Sunnah were obedient to them. Also, there is a great majority of sunnis who are marching behind Recip Tayyip Erdogan. Is he righteous? Is he your Imam? My point was this only. As you don't recognize Imamate, you are compelled to accept anyone who sits on the seat of power. Shias never consider Shah or anyone as there Imam. As Imamate amongst Shias is free of any manipulations from any side. Yes. Not complaining about this brother. This is exactly what your mazhab is. Isn't it? Imam Khomeini is called Imam by title (as it means leader). He was the leader of Islamic revolution and in the ideology of wilayat al Faqih, there is a necessity to have a wali e faqih so that this ideology keeps moving. So, in Shias, a fallible person can hold a small degree of leadership, just like you have leaders in subjects (Imam Bukhari, Imam Ahmed bin Hanbal) and that too is rare because in Shia system of hadith sciences and ijtihad, no book is consider authentic and to whatever extent a scholar might do research and to whatever extent a scholar might be certain about contents in his books, his works and the works done before him still remain open for research. So, in Shiism, in terms of Hadith, Fuqh, Usool etc you can have Allama, Ayatullah, Hujjatul Islam, marja etc but not Imam. But to a small extent we are similar in this. By shias, I mean Imamiyah. Zaidis don't consider there Imams as infallible and Ismailis have some extreme complexities in this concept. So, 'fixed and locked' means infallibility. Okay. So, majority will decide who is correct? As if, in the history, the people of moses (عليه السلام) were in majority or people of Ibrahim (عليه السلام) or people of Nuh were in majority. Though, this question is not for me. But if you find a brother in faith who is much more pious and religious and away from sins than you, won't you prefer to ask him to do dua for you? Not saying that you won't pray for yourself directly. But you will ask because you find him more closer to Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) then yourself. This is exactly what tawassul is. Prefer to ask from Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى), but also ask other souls to do dua for you. May Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) bless you and be your guide and protector.
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  38. Even though they are underrepresented as a group, they do have ministers in the Iranian parliament. https://www.tehrantimes.com/news/464124/Parliamentary-bloc-thanks-Leader-for-naming-Sunni-as-Iran-s-Navy
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  39. TEHRAN (FNA)- The Shanghai Cooperation Organization (SCO) officially admitted Iran as a new member of the Eurasian political, economic, and security alliance at its 21st summit in Dushanbe, Tajikistan, on Friday. "Perfectly pleased to announce that the permanent membership document of the Islamic Republic of Iran was approved by the leaders of the Shanghai Cooperation Organization in Dushanbe in the presence of our esteemed President," Iranian Foreign Minister Hossein Amir Abdollahian tweeted Friday. "This strategic membership has an important impact on the process of comprehensive cooperation between Iran in line with the policy of neighborhood with and pivot to Asia," he added. The 21st edition of Shanghai Cooperation Organization (SCO) kicked off in Dushanbe, capital of Tajikistan on Fri. The SCO consists of nine permanent member states, including Iran, India, Kazakhstan, China, Kirgizstan, Pakistan, Russia and Uzbekistan. Three states of Afghanistan, Belarus, and Mongolia are still observer members and six countries of Azerbaijan, Armenia, Cambodia, Nepal, Turkeyو and Sri Lanka are dialogue partners. The Shanghai Cooperation Organization is an effective regional and intra-state organization, which was established by leaders of China, Russia, Kazakhstan, Tajikistan and Uzbekistan in 2001. https://www.farsnews.ir/en/news/14000626000308/Iran-Endrsed-as-Fll-SCO-Member
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  40. They would not be very good friends and will turn on you if you have a change of heart and mind. Have you seen how some of them behave online? Just recently, a young lady became Shia and they were sending her death threats and threating to rape her. I'm glad that I am no longer influenced by Salafism and that I am now a Shia. Not even a Protestant Christian would dare threaten rape on a woman who leaves church. Salafism is repulsive and shameless although you would have a stronger support system. If that's your concern, Shiachat is a good support system for reverts and we are pretty open.
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  41. Salam, Please do let us know of your progress. We are comrades and fellow travelers on this path! If there is anything of private nature that is bothering you that wouldn't want to expose publicly (even as a anonymous guest) then just drop us a private message and we'll do our best to help each other. Imam Sadiq(A) said that in times of difficulty, don't trust on your nafs but turn to your brothers.
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  42. Jazakallah brother I still have a few more narrations if you don't mind me asking I am a sayed and if I rise up in jihad and proclaim myself to be an imam, will I be an imam? And I understand that term rafiddi started out with zayddi shias and that you (in general as a sect) hold a lot of contempt for ithna asharis Is there any reason for this? Because Iraq became majority ithna ashari in the 13th century and Zayd ibn Ali (عليه السلام) revolution happened 600 years before that so why exactly is the blame placed on the ithna Asharis? What do you think of the current houthi militia in Yemen, do they hold up to zaydi beliefs and doctrine?
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  43. I personally don't believe it there are a lot of dodgy so called Sahih hadiths, but here's my 2 cents on the issue: It was narrated from 'Ikrimah: "Some people apostatized after accepting Islam, and 'Ali burned them with fire. Ibn 'Abbas said: 'If it had been me, I would not have burned them; the Messenger of Allah [SAW] said: 'No one should be punished with the punishment of Allah.' If it had been me, I would have killed them; the Messenger of Allah [SAW] said: 'Whoever changes his religion, kill him.'" (Sahih) https://sunnah.com/nasai/37/95 If we believe that Imam 'Ali was the most expert on the Quran and Sunnah then it is doubtful he would of flagrantly disobeyed such Sunnah. It would seem more likely that Abu Bakr had burned them as he encouraged Khalid ibn al-Walid to do when the people refused to pay his zakaat and he classed them apostates. In fact, apparently even Umar warned Abu Bakr about this. So does Umar have more knowledge than Imam 'Ali? In his book Al-Riyad al-Nadira, al-Tabari indicates that Banu Saleem (after the prophet's death) had reneged, whereupon Abu Bakr sent them Khalid ibn al-Walid who gathered some of their men inside animal sheds then set them to fire. When ‘’Umar ibn al-Khattab came to know about this incident, he went to see Abu Bakr and said, "Why do you let a man employ the same method of torture employed by Allah, the Most Exalted One, the Great [i.e. burning with fire]?" Abu Bakr answered him by saying, "By Allah! I shall not shame a sword which Allah unsheathed against His foes till He Himself shames it," then he ordered him to leave, whereupon he instantly went out to see Musaylamah the Liar. This is how "Ahl al-Sunnah wal Jama’a" came to call Khalid "The Sword of Allah" even though he had disobeyed the order of the Messenger of Allah (S) and burnt people with fire, thus totally discarding the Sunnah.In his Sahih, al-Bukhari indicates that the Messenger of Allah (S) had said, "Nobody employs the fire for torture except Allah," and also, "None torments with the fire except the fire's God." And we have already indicated how Abu Bakr used to say before his death, "I wish I never burnt al-Salami!" https://www.al-islam.org/tragedy-al-zahra-doubts-and-responses-jafar-murtadha-al-amili/part-3-digression-khalid-ibn-al-walid If you put the two traditions togther I personally think it was Imam 'Ali who really objected to Abu Bakr all along, as 'Umar was best friends with Abu Bakr and they both attained the caliphate with each other's assistance. 'Umar had clearly demonstrated by that point his willingness to use burning to get what he wanted. Even if we assume it was 'Umar making the objection, it was Abu Bakr who had clearly the propensity for burning people and began this trend after the prophet's (s) passing, often for his own reasons despite objections by companions as it was against the Sunnah. It would seem that narrators later on have tried to legitimise Abu Bakr's actions by saying that other people did it too, but we Shias do not believe Imam 'Ali disregards the Sunnah, although others may choose to do so. The incidents quoted above are highly similar and both clearly make the point that is against the Sunnah to do such things. Many of these narrations have been twisted and turned even in the Shia books. Remember when a person writes Sahih they are saying the chain is Sahih, not necessarily the narration especially in Shia hadith studies. Also if you read the narration in al-Tabari's history I think it is, 'Umar's reason for then listening to Abu Bakr seems rather weak, he says "Then suddenly my heart agreed with what Abu Bakr said about fighting them". It's obviously been fabricated to make 'Umar sound concerned and it was more likely Imam 'Ali rejecting Abu Bakr's "itjihad" which would of been embarassing from a Sunni perspective. This was a very controversial incident in Islam and was the first takfir in reality, where Abu Bakr classed those who didn't pay zakaat as apostates and allowed them to be burned.. Of course this incident reflects very poorly on Abu Bakr and his knowledge of the Quran and Sunnah, hence the scribes have had to make it seem like other people did it, despite it being against the Sunnah. Do we really believe that Imam 'Ali chose to follow in the footsteps of Abu Bakr regarding the Sunnah? Do we really believe that Imam 'Ali continued this innovation (bidah) started by Abu Bakr, despite the favourite quote from 'Umar saying that if "It wasn't for 'Ali then 'Umar would be ruined!" after 'Umar was about to punish someone when they were not eligible for punishment? Clearly Imam 'Ali had a track record for intervening when he saw injustice carried out by the caliphs, much to the embarassment of those who rank them above him. These events have been clearly narrated in both Sunni and Shia books. Imam 'Ali was even clear about not acting on the "judgements of the two sheikhs" when he was offered the caliphate after the death of 'Umar (see al-Tabari's Conquest of Iran Vol 9 I think). It was for this reason which he did not get the caliphate but 'Uthman accepted on these terms! Thus it seems more logical to conclude Imam 'Ali actually objected to this all along because he was strict in obeying the Sunnah, so much so that he even forfeited leadership when the terms hindered him following it. The explanation above might sound a bit far fetched, but it is not when you consider how Muawiyah and his comrades paid people to fabricate hadiths specifically about the two sheikhs and against Imam 'Ali, which you can easily find in al-Bukhari and Muslim.. Read here https://www.al-islam.org/sulh-peace-treaty-imam-al-hasan-shaykh-radi-aal-yasin/muawiya-and-shia-ali-peace-be-him These narrations belong in the dustbin along with the narrations about the goat eating verses of the Quran which had the "stoning verses" on.
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  44. Got it on Kindle.........I'm always for supporting a job well done. Good work Qaim, May Allah reward you. Can't wait to read it.
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  45. habib e najjaar

    Polygamy

    They are also the communities where the women are completely financially dependent on the males usually, so they may not accept polygamy, but have no means of escaping it, whether or not they are agreeable to it. Some Arab communities have a semblance of Islamic polygamy, where at least emotionally, each wife feels she is the "special" one which translates to the man has not made her feel inadequate in any way to justify his need for polygamy. Majority of cases you hear about on and off ShiaChat are that the polygamy is related to: number 2 makes me happy, we think more similarly, no. 1 is too fat and not bothered about her appearance etc. I.e they are related to an inadequacy on the part of one woman. I have a relative who has 3 wives. His first wife is a relative who basically runs the show and who honestly believes her husband saw no fault in her and purely succumbed to the guiles of shaytan for the second and third wife. Meanwhile, wife no. 2 honestly believes the man cannot live without her "amazing business acumen" but had to marry the 1st wife because she was a cousin etc. No. 3 considers herself the most special of all and helps him in his political aspirations. No. 1 and 2 don’t take her as a serious threat because she can’t have children, has a chronic condition and is from another community. So a lot of the reason women don’t accept polygamy is related to how men have shaped our perceptions about the how and why of polygamy as : I will cheat on you because its my right and you have no rights woman. Go make me a sandwich!!!
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  46. 2Timeless

    Polygamy

    If you read my previous post you would have noticed that I literally just admitted that in some cases, polygamy is absolutely fine. I couldn't care less as long as the first wife freely consents to being in a polygamous relationship. If the man was a truly honourable person and remarried with the consent of his first wife (even though it's not necessary) and married a widow or divorcee or even a young single girl, theres absolutely no issue. What I'm talking about is members of our communities who remarry solely for the sake of pleasure. More often than not, men remarry to youthful women whove never been married before. I've also discussed this with other members (males and females) who both agree most of the time, men don’t remarry for an honorable cause, by marrying a more vulnerable individual of society. The fact is, not many do. I can’t control that. So, please stop putting words into my mouth. I never said any of that. My greatest sympathies lie with widows and single mothers and divorcees. But ask yourself this, would a good woman, no matter how much shes been through, want to build her happiness over the misery of another (the first wife)? The issue here isnt polygamy itself. There's a reason why the Prophet ((صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم)) remained married to Lady Khadija (عليه السلام) alone throughout her life. Theres a reason why Imam Ali (عليه السلام) did the same with Lady Fatima (عليه السلام). Did either of such honourable and holy men go behind their wives backs and keep a second and third wife in secret? No. Everything was out in the open and everyone consented. So, the issue is the people practicing polygamy, not the practice itself. Moreover, Allah places tests on us, and that test might be being homeless your whole life, or living with a mental illness your whole life or being a single mother. No one has a perfect life. I don’t neither do you, of course, we are privileged in other ways, but still, we all wish we had things we don’t have. That's the nature of the world. Would you be fine if you found out today your husband had a secret second wife back home? Would you support his decision absolutely wholeheartedly? What I think alot of people don’t understand is the unobligatory nature of polygamy. Allah (swat) never forced it upon us. In fact, Allah (swat) discouraged it where the man may cause injustice. So, why, can’t people simply just respect certain women's opinions and wishes that they simply don’t want to have a co-wife? I don’t think polygamy is even mutahab (correct me if I'm wrong). Shouldnt we be focusing on the duties we are neglecting and going more mustahab acts of worship instead of adding more duties we know are very hard to fulfill? Why is my opinion of men of any relevance whatsoever in a thread about polygamy? Anyway, what a strange allegation to make. So, because I'm against men using certain elements of Islam for their sole advantage, I suddenly hate men? While I appreciate that my posts give off a certain presumption that I'm not the fondest of men, I don't appreciate your allegation. Here's a few things you need to correct yourself on sister,: I don’t hate men. I know many good, honest men. Men can be the kindest and best people in the world. But I'm also aware of the advantage men have had since the beginning of time. The west has come a long, long way. But islamically, men have certain rights that they have and will continue to abuse. That is unquestionable. Men have been using the 'wife beating verse' to abuse their wives for example. The problem doesn't lie with Islam, but a certain type of men who manipulate teachings for their sole advantage. Anyway, I hope you don’t make such accusations and dodge the central topic by bringing in unnecessary side topics. Lol, sister, this isnt a Timeless vs the world argument. Defend me against what exactly? Perhaps your allegations. Anyway, ^^theres your reply.
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  47. Islandsandmirrors

    Polygamy

    I think most people should acknowledge that some men do get second wives to feel like they still “got it”. It’s a way for them to fulfill their fantasies that they are still young, and desirable. Other men commit haram prior to marrying a second woman. In this case, I would say that these men want to escape their real lives and have fun, selfishly. As if women aren’t sacrificing themselves for the families. I don’t believe that @2Timeless hates men. I think she’s just very smart and can see through egotistical men. To which I would say: why would you want a man who is selfish to marry a second wife in secret, and keep her that way, for years? That kind of man brings little to no value, trust, or love in a relationship. The kind of man who keeps secret second or third wives and easily falls for a home wrecker’s charms is not someone of integrity. Avoiding those sort of men is smart. Unfortunately, people will use the “men are allowed to have second wives” to manipulate a woman to just take any sub-par treatment from her husband. It’s an abuse of power for some who become vulnerable to bad men.
    1 point
  48. Maryaam

    Polygamy

    Ummm.... exactly how many "second" wives did he have? As a teen, I saw a number of new subsequent (2 and more) wives and they were never a single mom, don't know if they were widows - guess it is possible, but subsequent wives were always much younger and attractive.... to please God I guess..... Great rhetoric about the "widows and orphans", but I have never seen it in real life. I know of one second wife here (in the West), and she is at least 20 years younger (no children) than the first wife. There was a poster on here who had 3 or 4 siblings (one had a serious mental health disorder) and a mom who had to work out of the house and a father who also worked. He had a second wife who he used to visit for months at a time (leave his work), as she was in Iran. Again, she was younger with no children. The poster and her family, along with everything else that goes with missing a supporting father, got hit with a significant economic blow. They really struggled financially and emotionally. Yes, I will agree that ego is definitely in play here.... just not the way you presented it.
    1 point
  49. Islandsandmirrors

    Polygamy

    The problem with men getting second wives is that usually haram is committed prior, with the second wife before marrying, and it’s kept in secret. I don’t think Muslim men would do multiple wives justice. They wouldn’t treat their wives all fairly with as much affection and care as the other. The only group who only seem to treat their wives well are Mormon Fundamentalists. Nothing is kept secret between them. And they seem surprisingly accepting and happy.
    1 point
  50. OrthodoxTruth

    Polygamy

    Salam, I would like to only kindly remind all of you here that we always approach every subject from the Islamic perspective, not our own. First of all, save for the infallibles (Prophets, Imams), barely anyone from the non-infallible men had/has more than one wife. How many of our ulama do? How many of the great marjaʿ? Ayatollahs al-Khoei, Khomeini, Sistani, Khamenei, the Shirazi family, and others - may Allah be pleased with them all, nearly uniformly each had/have one wife. Besides, the verse on polygamy has to be understood within the context it was revealed. The tafsir is clear that it was revealed at the time when constant warfare and diseases took toll among the early Muslim community, and in order for women not to turn to formication, like in pagan times, and for widowed and not children to have full rights as per sharia law, unlike in pagan times, the surviving men were allowed to marry more than one wife. It was to prevent injustice in the society, not for the pleasure of men who just felt bored with their wife... The Qur'an is very clear on the matter; one has to provide financially AND emotionally equally for all the wives, and if he can’t do so, then he shouldn’t even think about more than one in this time and age. Nonetheless, do you brothers pray daily always on time? Perfectly conduct yourself in public and private sphere? Do you have Islamic knowledge on our theology? Is your current wife pleased with your everyday behaviour? Let’s start with that before thinking about more than one wife. Allahu Alam.
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