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  1. 7 points
    arch1027116

    RANT!

    I am super frustrated right now and I just wanted to let it out. I’ve been on this matrimony app looking for a spouse because where I live it’s difficult to find a Shia through the community. I am really annoyed at the way men behave. I mean they’ve got no akhlaq whatsoever. Firstly I hardly see any men who are practicing but even besides that atleast they should have basic ethics. They think it’s okay to chat with a woman for a long time and then all of a sudden when there’s literally a perfect conversation going on just ghost them. Okay if you’ve got some personal issues going on then just apologise for wasting someone else’s time and move on. Then there are those who ghost you after you show them your photo. Again can’t they just tell you in a polite manner and move on? and then the ones who start flirting the moment they start chatting. I feel like men have no emotional intelligence and couldn’t care much about the feelings of anyone. It’s a shame that men who follow the Ahlul Bayt who are the perfect examples of alhlaq have this kind of behaviour. Our generation thinks it’s okay to ignore or be rude to a person over the internet, not realising that it’s a human and not a robot on the other side of the screen. I had no exposure to men all my life except my brother and my dad and they are my heroes but now I am starting to think that men are not nice people and maybe I should give up on the idea of getting married at all. Everyday on social media I hear these stories about men cheating on their wives or raping women and it makes me think that all men want is to satisfy their needs. I do believe that there are bad men and good men and bad women and good women but women in general are quite sensitive and caring and don’t harm in a way men do. I want to know what has the experience of men been with women. Do they generally find them to be rude and acting this way with them?
  2. 5 points
    Salam All: Alhamdolillah my book linked below is nominated in the list of ‘Best Indy Nonfiction 2019’ by Amazon in four of it’s Kindle geographies (US, CA, UK, & India), both under the ‘Shi’ism Islam’ and the ‘Sunnism Islam’ categories. The 2019 final award would be based on multiple factors, one among those is the readers’ ratings and reviews. I humbly ask you, that if you have read it, and if you are a purchaser of anything on Amazon, you qualify to review the books on Amazon. Kindly go to the link below, scroll down, and click on 'review the book' button. Kindly give it (any) star ⭐️ rating, and if you prefer, also please write your comments. You could select an alias to review the book in case you want to hide your identity online. Prophet Muhammad (A Young Adult's Guide to the Early History of Islam) https://www.amazon.com/dp/1790469651
  3. 5 points
    root

    Iraq Protests 2019-2020

    This whole peotests in Iraq, Lebanon and Iran is only escalated due to enemies of Islam finding opportunities to pour gas on the fire. This isn't about Iran or Iraq's sovereignty or gas prices. They, the enemy never dreamt of a day where soldiers from all Shia majority nations, even Pakistan have put up bases on the doorstep of the Zionist cancer. And they, the enemy are smart, they play on peoples weakness and cause rifts among us. Shias caring about their stomachs being full more than unity and enduring the plots of the enemy, well killing and riots and plunder is the result, enjoy it. It won't change until people wake up and resist and endure whilst keeping basirah at an all time high. Imam won't return until Shias learn, bani Israel were tested with jihad, economic sanctions("exile"), hakamiyah, and they failed on all accounts so the promised land was taken away from them. Now you laid back Shias want the promised time well, pass the trials. Else Allah has patience, he will wait another million years until Shias learn. We managed to kill 11 of them by our stupidity and thinking about our stomachs, he won't send the 12th until Shias learn to see the plots, have a strong foundation to protect his life and execute his will, and last but not least grow smart enough.
  4. 3 points
    arch1027116

    RANT!

    Thank you for all the replies. I’ve obviously tried all the other things like reaching out to the matchmakers in the community but they were of no help. I hate to be on this app but at least I can answer Allah that I am striving to get married because He says in the Qur'an that He won’t change the conditions of people until they strive. The only reason I am still sticking up there is because all other means have failed me and it might be because of where I live. I will obviously involve my parents but if its on an app, you chat with so many people and you can’t keep taking each and every men to your parents with just the initial chat. Besides I wouldn’t know if this guy really is interested in talking to my parents so early on as it can be a bit intimidating. I obviously know that not all men are bad but its hard to believe that good men still exist in this generation and can be found easily.
  5. 3 points
    hasanhh

    RANT!

    But they will exercise a certain amount of deceptive practice.
  6. 2 points
    I have translated 5 books and published some poems and short stories in addition to a long story. I won the second prize for one of the books I translated.
  7. 2 points
    'O Muhammad' in the brackets is not in the actual verse. Is it addressed to Muhammad? Read previous 2 verses as well. Surah Muhammad, Verse 17: وَالَّذِينَ اهْتَدَوْا زَادَهُمْ هُدًى وَآتَاهُمْ تَقْوَاهُمْ And (as for) those who follow the right direction, He increases them in guidance and gives them their guarding (against evil). Surah Muhammad, Verse 18: فَهَلْ يَنظُرُونَ إِلَّا السَّاعَةَ أَن تَأْتِيَهُم بَغْتَةً فَقَدْ جَاءَ أَشْرَاطُهَا فَأَنَّىٰ لَهُمْ إِذَا جَاءَتْهُمْ ذِكْرَاهُمْ Do they then wait for aught but the hour that it should come to them all of a sudden? Now indeed the tokens of it have (already) come, but how shall they have their reminder when it comes on them? Surah Muhammad, Verse 19: فَاعْلَمْ أَنَّهُ لَا إِلَٰهَ إِلَّا اللَّهُ وَاسْتَغْفِرْ لِذَنبِكَ وَلِلْمُؤْمِنِينَ وَالْمُؤْمِنَاتِ وَاللَّهُ يَعْلَمُ مُتَقَلَّبَكُمْ وَمَثْوَاكُمْ So know that there is no God but Allah, and, ask protection for your fault and for the believing men and the believing women; and Allah knows the place of your returning and the place of your abiding. (English - Shakir) و الله اعلم
  8. 2 points
    AkhiraisReal

    RANT!

    I honestly think that alot of men and alot of women in dating sites are not really there for finding a spouse. The want something else. Maybe just to talk to the opposite gender, flirt with them, joke with them, do haram or blackmail them etc. All of which is haram. Sisters should be very careful specially when giving private information out or private photos. If they are not professional in their way of talking/chatting then I doubt they are there to find a spouse.
  9. 2 points
    Two follow ups from the above. 1] l didn't know Omar Rahman died. ln Feb2017. His lawyer, Lynne Stewart died three weeks later. 2] "pushing a certain narrative" --l was reading an article this past week which described isIamophobia as a "cottage industry" financed by evilgelicals. OPINE: consider it this way (among a number of ways) This is like an advertizing campaign. lnstill a worry about something --in this case a belief system for the God of Noah, Allah -(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى). and His -(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى). Last Day-- in order to sell the satanic view of things (eschatology) by Hezshaytan. EDIT: 3] Back in the 1970s, the net/nutworks decided that "news should pay its own way" and would no longer be subsidized by the nutworks. Foreign news bureaus were closed, reporter staffs and budgets cut, and so on. SO what we have now are nutwork news parroting each other after one of them reads a Reuters or AP dispatch. Example is "lraq Protests" they average two days behind the news posted on ShiaChat. WaPo and NYT are the same way. And they run the same "kicker stories" to end the broadcast --although about never in the same week. BBC-Amerika is getting the same way.
  10. 2 points
    ali_fatheroforphans

    RANT!

    I'm sorry to hear that you've come across such type of men. Let me explain to you as a guy. A lot of those guys are bored and you legit have no idea what their secret intentions are. I've spoken to many people who've had the same experience as you. My big sister was getting to know this guy who started flirting with her. Then that guy just moved on after wasting so much of her time. You find that a lot of men aren't just serious. Real men are those who are professional and include their parents early on. Don't ever be deceived by the words of random men online. Also, flirting is clearly harram for a reason, and it's a distraction. If you find that a guy is love bombing you right from the start, it's a clear red flag. Those kinda guys are like on drugs, and you'll never even be able to trust them. Those types of men just enjoy flirting with women for entertainment. There's a big possibility that they're just going to marry someone who their mum chooses. Listen sister, some guys just don't have the courage to stay true to their words.They're weak beings who lack the courage. If the thought of marriage scares a guy, then he's not a man who will stick with you. If a guy is hesitant to speak to his parents and tell them about you, then he's a wus. Sorry, I'm not trying to demotivate you or paint this picture that all men are trash. Don't get me wrong, some members on this site found their dream husbands online. It's possible, but just be careful of douhebags out there. Look for an alternative route if possible. Contact masjids in other cities maybe and ask around. Some cities have created matchmaking organisations, try to find out. Don't just stick to these online marriage sites.
  11. 1 point
    Khudi

    Modes of constant Dhikr

    AoA everyone, Hope you're all keeping well. I am going through a phase in life where I am slowly starting to understand and feel the benefits of remembering Allah during everyday life. I am coming to understand that taking out some time every day for recitation/listening to the Qur'an, saying my daily prayers, saying some Duas after the prayers (Taqeebat) and doing Dhikr whenever I have negative thoughts and feelings helps me a lot. I was wondering if you could share some specific ways/sources that mention ways in which we can remember Allah during the everyday tasks of life e.g. Duas/Surahs before sleep, after waking up, eating/drinking, going to the toilet etc. In today's busy life, I have felt that establishing this constant connection/bond with Allah is the most effective form of being at peace mentally. Thanks in advance.
  12. 1 point
    hasanhh

    Would you let your son or daughter date?

    Since reactions to the word "date" varies around the World, l will avoid it in my post. [When l grew up, "date" did not mean sex.] lf two young people want to see each other, do it at home. lt works fine. They are also more at ease because they are not pressured to talk. Talking is a difficult skill fo most young people. He has sisters and she has brothers to also converse with. And they can avoid having to think they have to stare at each other. l know two cases like the one l'II relate. ln 7th grade in North Africa two kids "knew" it would be the other to marry. So it was worked out this way: every, yes every, Monday, Wednesday and Friday afternoon or after school, one would be at the others house are there was always someone there usually a parent plus other people in the family. Everything was scheduled. Then on the 3 others days it was the others house -same thing. When her family went on vacations, he went. When his family went on vacations, she went. When she was at his family's house, he and his sisters would walk her home. After high school, she went to college and he got into a trade and saved his money. She finished college, got a good job and saved her money. At home arrangements stayed the same all those years. They married at 25.
  13. 1 point
    Ayat 40:55 Muhammed -(صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم).s. was instructed to be "patient" [So be patient] because his -(صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم).s. impatience towards unbelievers/hecklers; This, patient/patience, occurs several times in Qur'an. ln commentaries, this is rendered "fault" and not "sin". Also, See Ayat 53:32 and the difference in words, the triliterals dhal nun ba (fault/sin) verses hamza tha min (moral sin) fa ha shin (immoralities) and lam mim mim (small faults) Ayat 47:19 Not only the triliteral dhal nun ba as above, but also believers are included in the same instructional ayat. Ayat 48 2 dhal nun ba again So, these evilgelicals are only trying to contrive an arguement. @Cool would you be kinda enough to check this?
  14. 1 point
    ali_fatheroforphans

    RANT!

    Have you travelled to every corner of the world? Have you visited Australia? Have you visited Canada? London? New Zealand? Malaysia? Sweden? The list goes on. There are over a billion people in this world. What is your definition of "good" to start with? Everyone considers themselves to be good people. It's not right to say that "good men" can't be found. I can name you so many girls who behave like immature snakes. I still wouldn't call them bad or evil people. It's just unproductive to say stuff like "all men are trash" etc. "Good men can't be found", "men this men that". Islam categorizes all faithful people together. Good people will be good, regardless of their gender.
  15. 1 point
    notme

    Would you let your son or daughter date?

    I would allow my children to go out with groups of friends if I believe those friends are reputable. If they are interested in some specific person, that person should come to talk with me like a mature, responsible, young adult. I have no plans to require my daughter's suitors to talk with her father first - he knows nothing about her and her needs and preferences - but I suppose it's a technicality that must be observed before she's allowed to get married.
  16. 1 point
    Moalfas

    RANT!

    Indeed, we can all exercise a certain amount of deception especially before marriage, as we exaggerate the good in us and hide the bad. That's why it's good to have family involved as they can pick up on things without being 'emotionally involved'.
  17. 1 point
    l mention your review to my little sister. She said that she heard it from other women but was not "sure" as this was from down at a day care center. She said she'd take them to it now.
  18. 1 point
    Moalfas

    Iraq Protests 2019-2020

    When the foundations of a system are corrupt, no good will come out of it. Not sure what unity you're referring to, but Shias, then Muslims, then Humans should all unite over clear and clean foundations and goals. Not simply 'unite' because we're Shia even though we're supporting corruption and injustice. We need to rid ourselves of the corruption within. That's our first and foremost enemy. The killings and plundered wealth has been the result of the rotten foundation setup and supported by foreign powers. That's what the Iraqis want to change. The Iraqis have woken up and started resisting the corruption. And this is exactly what the Imam needs. People who realise that just because someone says they're following Ahlul Bayt, doesn't necessarily mean they actually are. Iraqis had been duped by politicians for 16 years, using faith to steal and plunder their country's wealth. They also now realise that the powers fighting over influence and control are only serving their own interests. Your narrative is certainly sound and correct in principle. However, your application of the narrative on the ground is flawed. There are plots to divide us, but we can't face the outside enemy when we have corruption within. The Imam AJF doesn't support the corrupt nor their backers. He AJF cannot rely on anyone who supports such corruption to 'protect his life and execute his will'.
  19. 1 point
    starlight

    Modes of constant Dhikr

    I recently started reciting Allah's names and it has brought so many positive things to my life. I feel it's the best dhikr, and very easy to do through the the day. It is literally one word. Pick one name at a time study it to fully understand what it means and then start reciting it as you go about your day.
  20. 1 point
    The Green Knight

    Iraq Protests 2019-2020

    Sounds like Iraqi revolution sorely lacks a national leader to lead the masses.
  21. 1 point
    hasanhh

    Iraq Protests 2019-2020

    0530EST/1330AST, Sunday, 01Dec19 Various articles. The blame game begins: https://www.thebaghdadpost.com/en/Story/43890/Hikma-Movement-says-Saairun-Fatah-to-be-blamed-for-Abdul-Mahdi-s-failure And denials begin: https://thebaghdadpost.com/en/Story/44875/Fatah-Alliance-denies-nominating-PM-candidate Plus responses to the violence: https://www.thebaghdadpost.com/en/Story/44874/Arrest-warrant-issued-against-ex-chief-of-crisis-cell-in-Dhi-Qar https://www.thebaghdadpost.com/en/Story/44873/Tribes-in-Dhi-Qar-spread-to-spread-to-prevent-infiltration-of-hostile-groups
  22. 1 point
    This islamqa site is probs written by someone who has a tantrum by the looks of it. No kidding, it's so unprofessional, like pure emotions and no logic. This site goes to the extent of defending hypocrites such as Umar, Abu Bakar, Muhawiya etc. In one of the most absurd ways. This site is an absolute joke.
  23. 1 point
    You cannot have unity with someone whose religion tells them that Shias are apostates that deserve to be killed. I know many Shias in America especially say that they have Sunni friends, but if they choose to be friends with you then they're not following their own deen properly and are hypocrites who will burn in jahanna. Choose your friends wisely. They may pretend to be okay with Shias in front of you, but when put in power, your head could be on the chopping block
  24. 1 point
    ali_fatheroforphans

    Thoughts 2019

    @حسين So did you end up doing the haka? If not, I can teach you? Sounds good? Here's a picture of the New Zealand team doing it.
  25. 1 point
    Sumerian

    Iraq Protests 2019-2020

    Iran has always stated it wants good relations with Saudi Arabia and wants to make peace with it. Not my words, this is Zarif's words. And Iran has great commerical and economic ties with Saudi's best friend and ally, the UAE, who is also bombing in Yemen. In fact, UAE is Iran's biggest trading partner after China.
  26. 1 point
    Nahaj Ul Balagha sermon 206 ومن كلام له (عليه السلام) وقد سمع قوماً من اصحابه يسبّون أهل الشام أيام حربهم بصفين إِنِّي أَكْرَهُ لَكُمْ أَنْ تَكُونُوا سَبَّابِينَ، وَلكِنَّكُمْ لَوْ وَصَفْتُمْ أَعْمَالَهُمْ، وَذَكَرْتُمْ حَالَهُمْ، كَانَ أَصْوَبَ فِي الْقَوْلِ، وَأَبْلَغَ فِي الْعُذْرِ، وَقُلْتُمْ مَكَانَ سَبِّكُمْ إِيَّاهُمْ: اللَّهُمَّ احْقِنْ دِمَاءَنَا وَدِمَاءَهُمْ، وَأَصْلِحْ ذَاتَ بَيْنِنَا وَبَيْنِهِمْ، وَاهْدِهِمْ مِنْ ضَلاَلَتِهِمْ، حَتَّى يَعْرِفَ الْحَقَّ مَنْ جَهِلَهُ، وَيَرْعَوِيَ عَنِ الْغَيِّ وَالْعُدْوَانِ مَنْ لَهِجَ بِهِ During the battle of Siffin Amir al-mu'minin heard some of his men abusing the Syrians, then he said: I dislike you starting to abuse them, but if you describe their deeds and recount their situations that would be a better mode of speaking and a more convincing way of arguing. Instead of abusing them you should say, "O Allah! Save our blood and their blood, produce reconciliation between us and them, and lead them out of their misguidance so that he who is ignorant of the truth may know it, and he who inclines towards rebellion and revolt may turn away from it." But sub here doesn't means lanat, Sermon 19 Amir al-mu’minin was delivering a lecture from the pulpit of (the mosque of) Kufah when al-Ash’ath ibn Qays1 objected and said, “O’ Amir al-mu’minin this thing is not in your favour but against you.”2 Amir al-mu’minin looked at him with anger and said: ومن كلام له (عليه السلام) قاله للاشعث بن قيس وهو على منبر الكوفة يخطب فمضى في بعض كلامه شيء اعترضه الاشعث، فقال: يا أميرالمؤمنين، هذه عليك لا لك، فخفض (عليه السلام) إليه بصره ثم قال: How do you know what is for me and what is against me?! Curse of Allah and others be on you. You are a weaver and son of a weaver. You are the son of an unbeliever and yourself a hypocrite. You were arrested once by the Unbelievers and once by the Muslims, but your wealth and birth could not save you from either. The man who contrives for his own people to be put to sword and invites death and destruction for them does deserve that the near ones should hate him and the remote ones should not trust him. ومَا يُدْرِيكَ مَا عَلَيَّ مِمَّا لِي؟ عَلَيْكَ لَعْنَةُ اللهِ وَلَعْنَةُ اللاَّعِنِينَ! حَائِكٌ ابْنُ حَائِك! مُنَافِقٌ ابْنُ كُافِر! وَاللهِ لَقَدْ أَسَرَكَ الكُفْرُ مَرَّةً وَالاسْلامُ أُخْرَى! فَمَا فَداكَ مِنْ وَاحِدَة مِنْهُمَا مَالُكَ وَلاَ حَسَبُكَ! وَإِنَّ امْرَأً دَلَّ عَلَى قَوْمِهِ السَّيْفَ، وَسَاقَ إِلَيْهِمُ الحَتْفَ، لَحَرِيٌّ أَنْ يَمقُتَهُ الاْقْرَبُ، وَلاَ يَأْمَنَهُ الاْبْعَدُ! Trust me on such things.
  27. 1 point
    Calling many people jahil is in accordance with laws of Shia chat? Also I didn't curse or abuse any faqih, rather said that about fuqahas who are forcing people to believe that they are Ulil-Amr and Imam e Ummat. As for 2nd argument, Lanah, isn't same as abusing someone. Cursing is proven from Qur'an and is a well-known fact. But abusing is prohibited. When Imam Ali (عليه السلام) addressed his people who started abusing Muawiyah in Siffeen, he (عليه السلام) said "I dis-like it".
  28. 1 point
    3wliya_maryam

    Why Are Shi'a Kuffar?

    Go read Bukhari and sahih Muslim in depth then u can judge
  29. 1 point
    Moalfas

    Give a Salawat! [OFFICIAL THREAD]

    اللهم صلّ على فاطمة وأبيها وبعلها وبنيها بعدد ما أحصاه كتابك وأحاط به علمك
  30. 1 point
    not sure I understood you correctly. But when the western women are behaving or dressing improperly, it doesn't annoy me as much, it's only the Muslim sisters. Maybe I have the wrong idea of what a Muslim sister should be like or maybe that idea is to strict. Yes we all have flaws. You see the western women where not born into a Muslim family and they don't know much about Islam and it's values. However the eastern people know of Islam from either their family or friends. Yet they sell themselves cheap when they enter the west. my apologies. Many westerns are better in respect/akhlaq and modesty than the Muslims from the east. I think you understand what I tried to say, even though I maybe should have rephrased it better.
  31. 1 point
    It wasn't considered as such when Fatima Zahra (عليه السلام) and Sayeda Zaineb (عليه السلام) stood up in the face of injustice. I say, as long as it's injustice, stand up against it and Allah sub. will give you strength.
  32. 1 point
    As salaamun aleikum, Well, honestly what annoys me the most is not someone elses issues w hijab be they male or female. Of course it makes me sad for their own souls sake, cuz honestly, their own soul is the only thing that's getting harmed. Whether someone else is affected by that person's outwardly behavior is completely dependent upon how that other person allows someone else to affect their thinking and application of Islam in their lives. So yes, Islam is a religion of keeping care of society's well-being and health, however, someone cannot be hurt by someone else's actions unless they allow it to be so. Bad hijab, smoking hookah or not, how does that practically affect another human being? Only in the way they allow it to, so if some woman with bad hijab leads a man to commit Haram, he himself is responsible for his actions. Shoulda cast down his gaze. The same with some brother smoking hookah, does that mean a sister who sees him do that has to fall into that same trap? No it doesn't. Each is responsible for their own actions. The same goes with non-Muslims. I'm not going to deny the fact that as creatures, we are affected by what we see, cuz we are, but as Muslims, were a step ahead of the average person because we're aware of this. Unfortunatley, most all people fall victim to watching commercials and falling for it, or seeing sparkly nice glittery things of the Dunya in the store and feel compelled to go and buy them. All this advertisement stuff that the average person falls for, we SHOULD be a step ahead of them because we know we're supposed to cast down our gaze and not desire these things. The rest of the society who arent Muslim are at loss in this manner, however if they used their aql, they too could arrive at the fact that what they see "advertised" DOES have a compelling affect on them, however,,they have a choice whether to be lead towards that advertised item or not, so they themselves have the potential ability to prevent and protect themselves from falling victim to their senses and sensuality. All a person has to do is take the time to introspect and think about things instead of just acting and following others in their lives and they could prevent themselves alot of misguidance, and that's a big problem in the society that I live in, is people don't introespect or think, which works very well for capitalism and materialism. Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) didn't just create people and leave them on their own without any type of ability of guidance. Each and every one of us, Muslim or not, has an internal Imam that will guide us if we resort to using it. But a majority of people are blinded to this and so things are the way they are in society. Regarding hijab, what annoys me MOST, especially living in the west, is having to go through my day-to-day life, seeing the absurdities and the bad thinking people exhibit here, and being someone who is not naturally comfortable dealing with large crowds where people are acting like idiots or any other type of annoying behavior that results from being around too many people in one place, what annoys me the most is the pressure that's put on me to act like there's nothing wrong and that I'm perfectly okay and happy and... It's just this front that I'm expected to have because I'm a Muslim. And in the society that I'm in, if I was wearing jeans a baseball hat and a T-shirt and someone did something inappropriate to me and I called them on it, it would be perfectly acceptable for me to do that. But as a Muslim woman wearing a hijab, if I do the same thing, both the Muslims AND non Muslims wlll judge me horrendously and horribly, and not just me, the non Muslims will judge the ENTIRE religion based on them seeing me do something that would be perfectly acceptable to everyone else had I not been a Muslim that did it. That's what annoys me and makes me absolutely insane, because I don't have a lot of tolerance to begin with and so to have this added pressure on top of me is really frustrating, but 99.9% of the time, I suck it up and accept it, but unfortunately someone else in my life that's close to me ends up having to deal with the stress and frustration of me when I actually have an explosion because the stress of having to maintain this front becomes too much for me at times, and it's usually the people around me and closest to me that suffer from it instead of the people that actually deserve to be put in their place in public but I can't because I don't want my entire religion judged upon me responding in what would be a perfectly normal and acceptable way for anyone else OTHER than a Muslim to behave. Qisas is a real thing and we are technically allowed it, however, I am forced to refrain from "getting my rights" or enjoning good and forbidding evil" because of the way it will be interpreted, based on the fact that the society I live in is jacked up and im a Muslim:/ Don't get me wrong, these things that I experience in society in going about my day today life would bother me being Muslim or not, so that's not the problem here. Standing up for what is right or wrong or getting your rights from someone else who has done you wrong is not a male or female , Muslim or non Muslim issue. Its just interpreted in a completly unjust manner when doing so as a Muslim female, which causes me to normally refrain from it due to "fear" of making Muslims look bad or simply because Islam says a woman shouldnt behave in such ways. Yes, Muslim woman should have more haya than a man, but does that mean that I have to let the grocery clerk treat me like crap? Or does that mean that someone who's running me around in circles and doesn't want to directly answer my medical questions when they're a medical professional mean that I have to take their crap when it comes to not addressing my question directly, just because they're a male doctor? Sometimes you have to stand up and meet people eye-to-eye, Toe to Toe regardless of if theyre male or female,just to be able to survive in this Society, but then it's considered bihaya for me to do so cuz im a female Muslim:( So many times, it comes down to having to make a judgment call of do I say something about this particular situation or do I suck it up to try to preserve the Muslim face and my "dignity" and just keep it to myself, since dealing with people who fight the truth, defend falsehood, argue with you based on ego, etc all can happen when dealing with peope in general, so whats it going to be? Slink and shy away, or go ahead and have a confrontation? Sorry for the rant! W/s
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    It doesn’t annoy you that the reason Muslims, regardless of the gender, don’t follow Islamic rulings is failure of previous generations to successfully convince and teach the children? It’s not the kids’ fault.
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    I'm Muslim and "a Westerner" and I'm offended by the implication that my traditional attire is inherently immodest. But this is a battle I can't win here so this one comment is all I'm going to say on it.
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    As many of you know and understand Islam tends to be implemented culturally. This of course does not exclude Arabs as they are major offenders (I'm Arab) but we like to pretend that we don't implement Islam culturally as we speak Arabic. I even had a relative tell me that we are superior to people who aren't born speaking Arabic as their first language just because its the language of the Qur'an which angered me. But anyhow in cultures things are halal but culturally are "haram" and vice versa. Many eastern cultures still teach women to think that they are inferior to men because that is what their culture taught them and what they translate the Qur'an to be (4:34, 2:228). Of course, I do acknowledge that some variations are due to sects in Islam but many seem to be culturally influenced such as the way women wear hijab and what is an acceptable and unacceptable dress code for women. Anyway I hope you understand what I'm trying to say (I know its pretty loaded) but my question is how do we tackle these issues? Is there even a way to tackle them because many people seem to identify with nationalism and their culture as much and sometimes even more than they identify with their Muslim identity so if you try to speak to them about this they get angry with you.
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    Congratulations to the ShiaChat member of the week! @Cool https://www.shiachat.com/forum/topic/235035410-shiachat-member-of-the-week/?page=6&tab=comments#comment-3254714
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    We can't. Each individual can only look after themselves. And even that is an endless and arduous struggle. Culture requires a group of people with similar values, likes and dislikes. Foreigners and foreign influences will always affect it to some degree. Take for instance a culture of fungus which yields an edible mushroom you like, since I grow mushrooms I will use this parable. I have to isolate the culture first, make sure its pure and strong. Then I have to disinfect the place it is supposed to live and thrive in. Disinfect it of other fungii like green mould, and of all but friendly bacteria, and protect it from virii. The rule of thumb is to give it enough respite devoid enough of competition and harm from other 'cultures'. If the others are present significantly then it becomes a losing battle or too long and not worth it. So one way would be to be like mormons perhaps. Isolated in a jungle. The rest is all wishful thinking.
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    I am glad that someone decided to make a thread about this as it is a major issue especially within the Muslim community amongst the youth. I actually agree with @Kaya, however I must say that alot of parents have failed to teach their kids Islam the correct and strategic way. Eventually you start realising this when you get older. The problem is that families care alot about reputation, which is understandable as our communities tend to get the wrong ideas and won't keep their mouths shut. It is always the eldest daughter who holds that honour and dignity infront of others, therefore parents are usually more strict on her. They also have high egos, which really bothers me. They judge on so many levels, from how they dress to how they act or how well they adhere to their religion. We don't know how they're like at home, or what their intentions are and yet you have these egoistic families who think they're superior to others. How should we tackle these issues? Honestly I ask this question to myself because I really do not know. All I know is that for them to slowly start opening their minds will take quite a while. They will even be forced to accept the changes within us later on. I'll give an example. My parents for a long time forbid me from doing my eyebrows, and it killed me as it was my biggest insecurity. The problem with me is that I can be very stubborn, so although they disliked the fact that I still did them, they were forced to accept it. Alhamdullilah 3ala kul hal. Nevertheless, one thing we should be grateful for them is that they have taught us where our boundaries and limitations lie. Being raised in the West is very important to maintain those barriers. Thing is I do not bother trying to have debates with them, because like you said they'll get angry. And I'm the type to yell, so I choose not to open up these topics. But inside it torments me, not being understood or being treated differently from my brother. Parents also have a talented skill in guilt tripping their children as a means of attempting to keep them in line. If there is one aspect within our parents upbringing that has negatively impacted our lives of youth would be in terms of religion by using guilt ineffectively. An example would be forcing a child to pray, or forcing them to wear the headscarf. All that force only does more harm than good, but sadly some parents do not realise that. God does not intend to make our religion difficult to pursue, therefore Islam is a religion of encouragement and not force. Each Muslim is on their own journey, their own pathway into seeking the truth and strengthening their will regardless of what stage they are in. If our parents weren't so compromised towards their communities' vile perceptions and clinging onto idiotic cultural taboos then I doubt majority of us would be in such a position. Now that we have identified the truth, we will be the generation to alter the ways we have been taught by them.
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    GREATEST and immediate issues and instead cry about Uyghurs not being allowed proper potty time while believing in our arch enemy's media. Nope. All issues deserve their time and place. For example, when I say that the situation of Shi'as in Pakistan and Afghanistan is more important to focus on than Palestine, all of you people cry. The situation of the Uyghurs is not the most important issue for us Shi'a, but any issue where there is oppression involved, it is good to have a voice. Has nothing to do with priority when it comes to using your voice bruv. Also your argument about ISIS is pathetic, collective punishment and "pre-punishment" are amongst the most obvious signs of oppression bruv. Open ur eyes.
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    Wow they actually removed my post, whats wrong with u people? All I said was I’m looking for someone to marry , if I was a playboy looking for haram stuff I would go on tinder , but whatever!
  41. 1 point
    you're fortunate to have standards, what about the standard set by Allah(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى)?
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    The new decade starts in 2021, not 2020. There was no year 0. So you got one year left to accomplish something.
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    Haji 2003

    Poor Jokes [OFFICIAL THREAD]

    Sicario II deals with the possibility of Muslim terrorists coming over the border via Mexico. They have this shot 'proving' that such terrorists were in a border area. Looks like one of them had a dodgy compass.
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    Sisterfatima1

    Thoughts 2019

    Salam why do people insult Marjas you that they don’t follow or agree with
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    Sumerian

    US healthcare system

    Which ever way you go, the US doesn't really spend that much on the military in comparison with their adversaries. The US simply has more money to spend because their budget is bigger. It's a richer and bigger country. Big pharma will not stop functioning, they will never stop functioning, but they will reorganise their budget to still maintain healthy profit, and that may mean scrapping certain life-saving or very needed drugs, or their development. Well it depends on how high you raise it. That's a problem with lack of competition and a monopoly, when there are multiple businesses competing on making the same product then it will drive prices down naturally. But when a handful of companies control the market and are granted special status by the government, of course they will overcharge.. because they can. The government then only ends up with two options: price fixing which can harm innovation and research, or subsidising drugs which is using taxpayer money. When it comes to drugs and medication, the private sector comes out on top easily in terms of research and development.
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    No it doesn't make me sad or annoy me because it is none of my business. As much as the Muslim ummah loves to be the Haram Police, I actually have my own personal flaws I should be working on, such as making sure I wake up for Fajr every day. I don't have the time nor the energy to criticize everyone, especially sisters, on how to best go about following their deen.
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    There isn't a cutoff age, in theory marriage is always an option. However, choices will tend to become more and more limited with time. Try to evaluate what the most important criteria are for you, especially in the long term of your marriage, and I would say as long as you find someone reasonable (rather than someone perfect) you should consider going ahead with it. I have seen too many who ended up unmarried simply because their criteria were too specific and too selective.
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    How can Sunni trust someone who lied to the Prophet (S) like Aisha?
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