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  1. You said it yourself, 'dream woman' Males can keep dreaming. Just like the females can keep dreaming of their buff, beard wearing highly regarded professional who's got a house and two cars and goes to Karbala every year and is a guest speaker at Ahlul Bayt tv every now and then. It's easy to forget one's own imperfections and flaws when seeking the perfect partner. As people grow older, they come to the realisation that you have to make do with what you have. We're all far from perfect. The true magic is finding someone you can trust and learn to grow with and together
    9 points
  2. Salam, I just feel this would be a nice thread to start where men share their perspectives on their "dream women". This thread is coming from someone who lives in the West. My opinion is subjective and could be as a result of so many different things. I just want to be honest. If I'm thinking in an incorrect or unrealistic way, someone please correct me. Also I'm setting this high standard even though I'm far from it myself. It really motivates me to improve myself. 1. She should wear a proper hijab (even an abaya or a chador is good). Modesty is so damn attractive I have to be hon
    7 points
  3. Salaam, (This is serious, I'm aware that there are some humorous replies on this thread, this reply isn't one of them) So I just want to start of by discussing my expectations of a woman. I think that it's important to care more about the personality of a woman rather than her looks. For the appearance then, personally for me it doesn't really matter if she has stretch marks, cellulite, a bigger body, smaller "parts" etc.. But then in turn I would like it if she overlooked certain things about my looks too... For her personality I would like her to be shy and quiet with ot
    7 points
  4. I like your list, it's quite realistic in my opinion. I find its a list that benefits all involved, the woman, man, their kids and the community. Most of the time what I see when an ideal Muslim woman is described only says stuff like she should be obedient to her husband, be clean, cook good food for him, welcome him happily when he comes home. Etc. I find it to be so self-centered to the husband, but yours is very wholesome.
    5 points
  5. Hassu93

    Thoughts 2019

    So I am leaving to Najaf tomorrow for Arbaeen and I am extremely scared to death. I am taking a flight ( different airline) to another city and then I'll go to Najaf and I am scared I'll miss the flight or it'll get delayed. Also I hate socialising and large gatherings please pray for me
    4 points
  6. Alsalam Alaikum My brother has been diagnosed with an incurable disease and if anyone of you is going to Arbaeen please pray for my brother that his illness, all the symptoms and pains disappear....or if you know anyone who is going then please ask them to pray for my brother... His name is Aurang Zaib and father's name is Saif Ullah. Thank you May Allah Pak and Ahlul Bait (عليه السلام). bless us all.
    4 points
  7. Hey, Im been through something similar, and I can empathise with how you're feeling. Just know that it will eventually get better, Im still dealing with the heartbreak myself after a year and a half, so yeah it'll take time. But time flies, trust me. You'll find other ways to cope and this will make you stronger. I pray for you, you ever need someone to talk to, we're all here. The ShiaChat family can be quite the community in terms of support sometimes. I hope you can find solace through the activities you are undertaking, and through prayer and patience.
    4 points
  8. Just give it time. I know it's already been six months but you were with her for five years so it's going to take a little more time. Take it one day at a time. This is a really good opportunity to get close to Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى). Your are feeling heartbroken and yearning for someone to love and and love you back. Nothing would fill the void better than love of Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى). I would recommend reading the whispered prayers of Imam Zain ul Abideen (عليه السلام) (with translation if you don't know Arabic)They are short and fill ones heart with peace and
    4 points
  9. I do hope all the people on ShiaChat encouraging mutah for the teenagers and youths see this thread. There is another side to every story.
    4 points
  10. I'd also add: Someone who's not anti-taqlid Someone who's not a stubborn shadah e thalitha reciter in tashahud Someone who's got no issues with normal azadari Someone who's not a hater or insulter of those who practice tatbir or a die hard anti-tatbir Shia Someone who's not rainbows and unicorns excessive sushi-unity promoting Shia Someone who's not a "no cursing Shia", or a poor tabarrah practicing Shia Someone who's not a "Qur'an-only Shia" Someone who doesn't take light the status of the ahlul bayth (عليه السلام) but at the same time they do
    4 points
  11. Basically, means 'I am Shia'. But I does not necessarily mean 'I pray on time' or 'I enjoin to do good and refrain from evil'.
    4 points
  12. Ayatollah Sistaani: "Question: Is it haram for men to wear an earring? If not, can he pray with his earring on? Answer: He must avoid wearing it as an obligatory precaution." I don't know if Sistaani was talking about avoiding prayer with it on or all the time, it's impossible to say... But it's something to note....
    4 points
  13. http://www.Sistani.org/english/archive/26348/ http://ijtihadnet.com/ayatollah-sistanis-office-answers-to-bbc-on-some-inappropriate-practices/
    3 points
  14. Mubarak. Just forget everything and focus on Ziyarah. Everything will become alright انشاء الله. During Ziyarah it is best to socialize with unknown Momineen. You'll meet many Pakistanis and Iranian especially while walking. They are very friendly. Just try to avoid any Political discussions. A humble request to walk few steps on behalf of Shiachat Momineen. Give our Salaam to Ameerul Momineen and Aba Abdillah (عليه السلام).
    3 points
  15. Salam, When I was 18 and started University I was living with a beautiful, charismatic Christian girl where there was mutual interest, me being 18 and University first time I was not able to resist. Now I am glad that I had a couple of brain cells at the time to request a legitimate Mutah relationship w/parents permission from both ends rather than going down haram route. Fast forward 5 years that had to come to an end as University is over and we both understood that Uni life isn't the same as adult life and we wouldn't be compatible long-term. So for the sake of Allah it was drawn to an
    3 points
  16. Thank you very much for the recommendation, you are indeed correct I have realised that void is only for Allah. I will read the prayers Insha'Allah this evening before my Maghrib prayers. That is amazing advice, reminds me I used to be told that alot 'because you must, you can' once before you brought back a great motivator to me Thank you very much for that, good to know sometimes not the only one! haha I pray for both of us Insha'Allah to heal fully and move on Will keep revisiting these posts when times are tough for the kind words. I'd like to say thank you to
    3 points
  17. Thank you very much for the kind words, I will try to just always disliked telling my friends / family members as eventually my business seems to end up with other people, its kind of why I thought Shiachat is a good place because of the anonymosity in a sense, I tried with parents but it was a while ago they think im over it might have to speak to them again hopefully. Habib you are so right, and in a way I wanted to put this story out there because when I was 18 I too browsed this website and saw the Mutah encouragement and thought of it as an easy way out. 4 Years down the line and
    3 points
  18. Im so sorry, I cannot imagine how hard it must be, considering how long you both were together. But you should also know that a heartbreak doesn't wear off so easily. It will definitely take some time to heal and grow, and honestly you should be proud of yourself at the fact that you can achieve such things like swimming, cycling and other hobbies as well as being consistent in your studies. Thats a really good thing, because alot of people who through heartbreaks don't have that motivation. Have you tried talking this to a close friend or family member you can trust? talking to som
    3 points
  19. Braaaah chilllll!!!! I'll tell you one quality that will make every man the dream man! Being a billionaire.
    3 points
  20. Got Ayatollah Khamenei's response...
    3 points
  21. Don’t be direct in the way you serve your religion, it weakens the community as a whole. When Imam Al-Mahdi عجل الله فرجه الشريف returns, he requires more than just scholars. He requires people from all walks of life. So continue your education and let your intention be to serve the Imam by being the best at what you do when he returns. Imagine if everyone quits what they’re doing to become scholars. Bad idea. We need a variety of people in our religion.
    3 points
  22. Walaikum as salam Gold is haram to wear for men. Wallahu a'lam
    3 points
  23. Moalfas

    Dawah in Shia

    It's narrated that Imam Al Sadiq (عليه السلام) said كونوا لنا دعاة صامتين Be the ones who do Dawah for us whilst silent it's also narrated that Imam Al Sadiq (عليه السلام) said كونوا لنا دعاة بغير ألسنتكم Be the ones who do Dawah for us without the use of your tounges Ahlul Bayt (عليه السلام) have taught their followers to be examples of their Akhlaq as that's the best way to attract people. If one can be of exemplary character of honesty, sincerity, morals and treat people like Ahlul Bayt (عليه السلام) would; people would gravitate towards that individua
    2 points
  24. If we manage to get non-Muslims to attend Arbaeen in Karbala, it's enough to make them shed a tear. I've seen some videos where non-Muslims describe their experience. It's amazing how non-Muslims feel so loved when they take part in the Arbaeen peace walk. The message of Imam Hussein (عليه السلام) is for humanity. In my opinion if we want to give dawah to non-Muslims, somehow we need to introduce Imam Hussein (عليه السلام) to humanity.
    2 points
  25. This is called karma. You have to accept it and be thankful for God hitting you on the head. God always just does the right thing and He doesn’t care at all about your personal feelings. If you want to be happy then neither should you care about your personal feelings. This is another way of saying, look at everything objectively, don’t take anything personally. You can do this by simply observing all the strong feelings that arise and simply offering them to God by saying “Alhamdulillah”. Just keep on doing that. This is not a mental exercise, this is a way of burning your karma little
    2 points
  26. Sure, if by fun you mean divisive. Go for it.
    2 points
  27. May Almighty Lord grant him good health. I will remember him in my prayers at the shrines of Imam Ali (عليه السلام) and Imam Hussain (عليه السلام) Wassalam
    2 points
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  29. Options 1 & 2 are inappropriate, it's just unconventional to live with a man you don’t know or is not mahram to you. You might be put in situations you can’t control etc so it's just better to steer clear off of it. The rest seem fine if the girls family approves.
    2 points
  30. Salam Al-Jazira means some areas in Syria that in old maps labeled as Al-Jazira in Arabic because that area was surrounded by rivers & was like an island in middle of dessert areas of Syria. Tehran's Friday Prayers; Senior cleric warns Turkey against grave consequences of attacking Syria https://en.abna24.com/news//senior-cleric-warns-turkey-against-grave-consequences-of-attacking-syria_981750.html October 11, 2019 - 4:56 PM News Code : 981750 Source : FNALink: Tehran's provisional Friday Prayers Leader Ayatollah Seyed Ahmad Khatami deplored Turkey’s so-
    2 points
  31. Aww! I hope you find her! Ya rab!
    2 points
  32. Did they not occupied already in past bunch of lands?
    2 points
  33. This is a VERY interesting question. What exactly is a “spiritual experience”? An experience is “spiritual” if one calls it so. For a truly spiritual man or woman there is nothing spiritual about being spiritual. This is why the Imams said, “our spirits are our bodies and our bodies are our spirits”. For the typical person a “spiritual experience” is something which is not normal, cannot be understood, and most importantly, is something attributed to something that (or someone who) is revered. Reverence has a religious undertone and so automatically excludes all secularist atheists.
    2 points
  34. Didn't read the above comments or even the full post but: I remember a scholar responding to a question similar to what you've asked here. I'm going to explain what he said in my own words, but I may add my own explanations to it as well: He was expressing how we humans are very complex and powerful creatures with endless abilities, and how the human soul is very powerful... He also expressed that if people are able to figure out how to use their creation in certain ways, if they learn certain types of knowledge, then they'll be able to perform special miraculous-looking or spiritua
    2 points
  35. Salam brother sorry I didn’t mention this properly ,he said it’s because Qur'an verses are written on so it can only be touched to your skin if your in wudhu if your not in wudhu than you should keep it over your shirts tshirts ,since Qur'an can only be touched while ur in wudhu
    2 points
  36. What is the ruling on stripping down a woman in public? I agree with you, there is no such thing as honor-killing in Islam but these shameful acts must be dealt with appropriately. To have women disgraced forever, on the internet. My blood boils at the thought. Isn't this disgrace worse than rape? This is a Western country by the way and the question is precisely in regards to the judiciary also. What would they judge in an Islamic country? Let him free? Imprison him? Execute him?
    2 points
  37. Please let me start with what you mentioned as 'honour killing' There is absolutely no such thing in Islam and this ignorant cultural practice has done nothing but damage to the name of Islam. I urge you to put all the (understandable) raging emotions aside and seek justice through the judicial system where you reside. Gather all the evidence and present it to the relevant authorities. Whether that judicial system enforces justice or not; know that deep down, Allah sub will enforce justice no matter what.
    2 points
  38. Well..... Which of these are you unwilling to compromise? Which would you resent not having? It is a bit idealistic, but as long as you don't mind being alone for a while there's nothing wrong with being choosy. Still, it might be wise to choose a few favorites and go from there. You probably will want to make sure you can check the box on the male equivalent to all of these. You can't have expectations of others that you are unwilling to apply to yourself.
    2 points
  39. I believe you are reading too much into the 'strong' aspect of it. It's known that the father of the two girls شعيب Shu'aib was an old frail man who had no sons, so hiring a strong and trustworthy man would be a 'no brainer'. Shu'aib offered to hire Nabi Musa (عليه السلام) for 8 or 10 years and to marry one of his two daughters. The standard of the Prophet saw and Ahlul Bayt (عليه السلام) for marriage is this well known and accepted Hadeeth in both schools albeit with slightly different wording: روي عن الإمام الباقر (عليه السلام) أن رسول الله (صلى الله عليه وآله) قال: «إِذَا جَاءَكُم
    2 points
  40. Salam Any Shias mosques or Islamic centres in Budapest, Hungary?
    2 points
  41. As-salaam alaikum, I have a small book that was gifted to me. It contains 99 of Allahs names, Asmaaul Husna along with how many times and under which circumstances each one should be recited for specific needs and desires. If, like @starlight asked, you mention what your looking for/what your needs are, we will be better able to help you. I can say from personal experience, these dhikrs work, you just need patience self discipline, and most importantly, prescence of heart. You need to really be focused on your heart and intention. Feel it inside you, believe Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَع
    2 points
  42. "If you want to know the religion of a man, do not look at how much he prays and fasts, rather, look at how he treats people." - Imam Jafar al-Sadiq (عليه السلام)
    2 points
  43. If you are Indian @RoflGandhi_ is must follow
    1 point
  44. It is a contradiction, in my view, to be psychologically militant about anything and to have sakeenah in the heart.
    1 point
  45. OP: I will pray that Allah gives you peace and helps you get a good muslimah permanent wife who will be with you the rest of your life and you with her. Other than that, I have no advice to offer except that there is nothing as strong as reminding yourself that your cure lies within you. Nobody but yourself can heal yourself of this pain. Reason will get you out of being drowned in emotions which can be very wrongly placed or invested. Know the logical and reasonable grounds why you should not wallow in what ifs, and it will help you close that chapter of your life. Perhaps it shouldn't
    1 point
  46. Having all these dream qualities isnt usually the problem. Its what else comes with them that men and women may find unacceptable, ranging from 6 toes to a career, an independent mind etc.
    1 point
  47. LOL this thread is gold. I support and agree with all the points mentioned by the op.
    1 point
  48. Allahumma salli ala muhammadiw wa Ali muhammadin wa ajjil faraja hum Rabbinee lima anzalta ilayya min khayrin faqir Audhu billahi minash shaytanir rajeem دع كل الشتائم ضدي تُعاد سبعة أضعاف. Astaghfirillah Ya Fatima, pray on my behalf that Allah will reward my brother and his prayer with sabr and tawfeek. Allahumma salli ala muhammadiw wa Ali mu
    1 point
  49. I don't like to judge people, but that's disgusting behavior to be honest. He rather have sex with his hand than to have sex with his wife. There might be some problem in either wife or husband or both. It's haram and it damages both partners. Watching porn will change the brain of your husband thinking of sex and woman differently, the way shaytan want us to think of them. It's damaging for both partners because of the expected standards on the partner, which is all fake. Not to mention it's addicting and strong as drugs that is classified illegal. it's one of the strongest dr
    1 point
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