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  1. Wow your best friend is trash. He basically used her and her family as a stepping stone to get benefits. He’s a male version of a gold digger.
    5 points
  2. Salams, I've given you a link to al-Dhari'ah, you can read Agha Buzurg's explanation of all of the following there. Additionally just because Mirza Nuri (ar) said the sanad is sahih it doesn't mean we can actually have itminan that this is from the Imam, there are two remaining issues that go unaddressed which were brought up by his student student, Agha Buzurg, who was an expert when it came to manuscripts and subjects in the study of bibliography and whose points haven't been dismissed just because his teacher with a very long title said the ahadith were sahih. Additionally, Mirza Nuri is known to have quoted sources in Mustadrak al-Wasa'il which Ulama do not depend on, like Fiqh al-Ridha. The authorship debate of the book still stands and even if that is resolved then the other works of Muqaddis Ardabili as it seems promoted wahdatu l-wujud in his other works. Agha Buzurg additionally concludes that these traditions were appended to the book after its initial authorship, that the text is muharraf. And were we to determine which belief Muqaddis Ardabili actually ended up holding, we'd need to see which of his books were written when chronologically and with this book we run into that problem of authorship once again which likely makes it difficult for us to figure out when it was written. I think you've completely misunderstood the point of saying Muqaddis Ardabili believed in wahdatu l-wujud as well, it isn't to drop the names of major scholars who believed in it, somehow making it correct -- as you seem to be doing in the opposite direction to prove this stance wrong (and I hope you really do get to read those Indian scholars you quoted whose significance is much greater than a screenshot for a shiachat thread). I'm also not sure where you got that I've spent time in Qom, I haven't been east of London since I was five, let alone having had the tawfiq to preform ziyarah, let alone having gone for studies anywhere. In the way you did, yes, entirely. It was non-serious and immature, and doing it to condemn theologians and philosophers much greater than yourself, who had a familiarity with hadith, to hell is perhaps the most obnoxious thing I've seen in a very long time. There is no consideration at all for the hadith, whether its authenticity or its meaning, and such a hasty desire to condemn those whom you had disagreed with. So yes, this thread and your posts elsewhere have truly been some of the least serious treatments I've ever seen on these topics. Have a care, please.
    4 points
  3. This idea that religion came after the start of civilization is simply wrongheaded. The inception of civilization was in fact the result of a revelation. The inspection of language, culture, and art had its origin in a particular revelation. The Qur'an clearly states that every people had a messenger or Prophet.
    4 points
  4. Haji 2003

    Namaz - e - Wahshat

    Please update this thread with: the name of any Marhoomeen (and their father's name) for whom these prayers can be recited. the day/time/timezone of burial (so people in other timezones know when to pray) http://www.duas.org/wahshat.htm
    3 points
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  6. Salams, This tradition, and indeed the other traditions within Hadiqa, are problematic, as are the other ahadith quoted from without this work regarding the Sufis. There are two problems to note, one is that the authorship of Hadiqa is in dispute and Ardabili is whom we ascribe it to, but secondly this wouldn't make sense as Ardabili has held beliefs like Wahdatu l-Wujud, even if this book were by Muqaddis Ardabili, the ahadith would've been appended afterwards. Please refer to al-Dhari'ah v.6 pp.386-7 where Agha Buzurg explains these problems. The critique you provide of wahdatu l-wujud is, frankly, one of the least serious ones I think I've ever read. I don't actually hold an opinion one way or the other on the topic as I haven't seriously considered the metaphysical positions of asalat al-wujud and asalat al-mahiyya which would be the preliminaries to this discussion from which one would be led to or away from this position (which has also appeared in a variety of iterations, all reduced by you above into a single formulation deemed rather hastily and ignorantly as kufr) as well as other fundamental topics to be considered before I were to even dream of making such a judgement. I also don't have the inclination to seriously discuss with you something you've already made your mind up is false and so immaturely at that. But I am curious about the following: Did you mean to say that this is sophistry and just misspoke, and if that then I'd need to ask which of their arguments you've read of those who hold this position to dismiss them with such certainty and whether you've actually read their explanation for verses like the one you've quoted? Or did you really mean to say that this position is like Sophism with a capital sigma, that is to say the pre-Socratic movement? You've left me quite curious. wassalam
    3 points
  7. Assalamalaykum, I would suggest getting to know him a bit more. Maybe meet up a few more times. As for why he hasn't got back in touch with you after meeting up it could be because of his low self esteem. I suffer from low self esteem too and I usually dread getting to know how the other person felt after meeting me. Maybe he's just afraid of what you might say. As far as beauty and physical attractiveness is concerned then let me tell you that your whole perception of a person's beauty changes once you get to know their personality. Sometimes a person can be very attractive but their character and manners are not the best which renders their beauty worthless. You'll either stop seeing what's so attractive about them or you'll be like "okay they're gorgeous so what?" it just won't interest you. I'm saying this from personal experience btw. Whereas being attracted to someone is very important for marriage since it affects physical relations, this attraction does not always have to be an instant attraction. Sometimes you're instantly attracted to someone, sometimes the more you get to know a person the more you start getting attracted to them. Hence, give it more time and the attraction may follow if God wills. Remember, our hearts are in the hands of Allah and if He wishes He can fill our hearts with love for anyone. I pray that Allah guides you to the right decision that will be the most beneficial for both of you. Take care!
    3 points
  8. COPIED The Poor of Iraq are the Most Richest in the World During the walk from Najaf to Karbala, I came across a very poor local villager near Karbala. Poverty was evident from his clothes, footwear and demeanor. Observing a Shia in such abject poverty broke my heart as I felt terrible for him. We started talking and he asked me about where I live. He was very simple and not very educated and did not know about the country called Canada. He asked, "Which of the Imam is buried in Canada?"I replied ,"The Imams are buried in Iraq, Iran and Hijaz" . He asked me next,," Which of the Prophets of Allah have their shrines in Canada?" I replied, "We do not have any shrines of the Prophets in Canada", "Oh okay", he continued, "You must have some Imam Zade, some children of Imams buried there".Upon hearing that there are no Imam Zade also, he asked me with a very worried and pained expression "Whenever I feel miserable or have any problems, I go to Abulfazlil Abbas (عليه السلام), I go visit Hussain, I go to Kufa to Mola Ali.(as) My brother, where do you go?" I was speechless.He (poor man) got up and with tears in his eyes hugged me hard and said : I feel very bad for your poverty and mazlomiat and will pray to Allah to give you an opportunity to visit Karbala again and again . SubhanAllah..indeed Hussainis are the real richest person on Earth, as we have the most precious wealth, I.e Love of Ahlulbait (عليه السلام)Alhamdolillah
    3 points
  9. It's honestly sad to see so many of these threads nowadays like what is happening to this society I'm just going to say it right there; men are selfish, evil and arrogant creatures who only like to boost their egos. I don't get why some men are sensitive about womens' past. The past is in the past, done and dusted, and there's nothing to do in order to reverse and change it. The fact that he's angry because she only had one relationship a long time ago and as revenge he decides to go and fancy another woman; it just shows how immature he is. Shame on him for treating her that way after everything her and her family sacrificed for him. Oh shut the hell up. What is he a mufti. Men suddenly have free will now, they can do whatever they want. Just bc Islam permits them to marry more than one wife gives them the validation to go and fancy any woman they want. no offence to the male users here but stuff like this gets to me. No woman ever deserves to go through something like this, and I hope that he gets his own taste of medicine If you want my advice, she should end things with him. I don't believe in the whole reconciliation thing, because like you said he's already found another woman and now wants to marry her. What will happen after she begs for his forgiveness? What if he still chooses to marry her, do you think your cousin would want him to have a second wife? And she shouldn't even apologise to him, if he can't accept her past and for who she was, then he's a piece of trash. Marriage is about understanding eachother's flaws, accepting them and assisting them into becoming better individuals. She needs to end it with him asap, she doesn't deserve him at all. Reconciliation will not make things any better imo. I hope things work out for her and Insha Allah she gets through this with ease. fee amanillah
    3 points
  10. Inna lillahi wa Inna elaihi rajioon Syed Asghar Ali Jaffrey S/O Syed Khadim Hussain Jaffrey, Cousin Syed Baqar Ali Jaffrey. He had an accident two days ago. He has passed away and was buried in Pakistan today. Request for fatiha and namaz e wahshat.
    3 points
  11. I was really skinny when my husband met me in person for the first time. (Skin and bones.) (My husband likes slim to medium women with curves.) As luck would have it, my thyroid went out of wack and I gained 35 pounds. My husband is more attracted to me, but honestly? I could stand to lose 10-15. My husband had expressed that I was too skinny but I was cute regardless. And to put it into perspective: when my husband first sent me his photos, I was not instantly attracted to him. My attraction for him grew as I got to know him. Now I think he’s the most handsome guy I’ve met. Bottom line is that appearances mean nothing, and can change. Your preferences might change and you may grow to really like their appearance.
    3 points
  12. Saudi journalist accused of being a traitor for being part of a delegation of Arab journalists visiting Israel attacked by Palestinians at Al Aqsa. Some hurled abuse, threw chairs and spat at him.
    2 points
  13. Gaius I. Caesar

    Love

    That's a shame, I know the experience of being seen as a disability rather than a person, being in a wheelchair myself. However, it goes to show that love is not a luxury. For some, it is a necessity and duty. P.S. It's not "wheelchaired" but being in a wheelchair.
    2 points
  14. 2 points
  15. The word "Sufi" means "One who is separate", and "Arif" means "One who is enlightened". Both are often interchangeably used. However, their actual meaning is misused for strangers. Such as those practicing "Separation from world", based on their own conjecture to which Qur'an replies: "The monasticism which they invented for themselves we did not enjoin upon them". In Islam, Ascesticism or Suf or Urf means "Be content with what you get, do not wish for more as it imposes more responsibilities and do not cry for less as it inculcates into you patience". Each thing has separate gifts but you have to be balanced with Shukur and Sabar. So, if Imam said: "Sufism is bad". Does it include all Sufis or a particular type of Sufis who were being mentioned to them. Sufi has no individual identity out of Islam, but if a person being a Muslim is termed as Sufi or Arif, you should not drive it to the meaning of flawed Sufi ideology that Qur'an has mentioned. Like the above teaching of "Islam" was taken wrong that is "Separate" yourself. The teaching of perfection was also taken wrongly and often concepts of Hindus were taken as description of Real Sufi about perfection. But, the real teaching of Suf is as defined by Allah (عزّ وجلّ): "And color yourself with the color of God and which Color is better than this". Thus, coloring yourself does not mean that you literally color yourself like God but apply His orders in your life so that you will be content in your life. As Qur'an says: "This book has both apparent as well as implicit verses and those who have wrong in their minds take implicit verses (to find faults as their interpretation is not explicit)". So, all those who Hindu and polytheistic ideals tried to play with the teachings of Islam. But, you shall not take these words by those who are called Arifs or Sufi's as physically annihilation rather as Quranic description of "Following laws of Allah" unless they are explicit and with their tongues say "they will physically annihilate into God"....in which context it will be wrong belief. The words like "annihilation into God"....."Extinguishing ourselves in God" are not clear and, therefore, do not take sin upon you if you said something which they did not mean.
    2 points
  16. No. Totally and obviously unfair. The typical mindset is that all these poor non-Muslims will be punished if they were idol worshippers or at the very least all the non-Muslims will be deprived of receiving the greatest of rewards in the hereafter.
    2 points
  17. Salamun alaykum, unless he or she is a Sufi or an Arif. Simon, If religion is not about surrendering your false sense of self to God (who is al-Haq and the Real “ana” or “I” since He said, “there is no God but I”), then what is religion all about?
    2 points
  18. Will I stay single for the rest of my life? The most frequently asked question, I ask myself daily
    2 points
  19. I've watched my kids parent their kids on this. Son says eat everything on your plate, daughter says have to try some of everything. It's a battle while parents try to reason with their children...as if the kids run the show. Getting them to the table, getting them to settle down and stop arguing about eating, or everything they put on their plate. It's always negotiations that run way too long. By the end, everything is cold, kids forced to eat as parents get angry, never ends well, and this is a daily fight nobody wins. No wonder the kids don't want to eat. No wonder the frustration levels are high, and why? Other end of the spectrum is wasting time on the what do you want for breakfast, this, or this, or that, or this, or what... At Grandpa's table. I don't care, I'm there to eat a full meal that my wife has lovingly prepared, this is not a restaurant. This is the time, this is the place, get to the table in time for grace, (or you're second shift). I'm not one for letting kids waste my time, especially when we're all hungry and the food is hot. They know that fussy people can go hungry at our table, or eat what's there, I force nothing. The focus is on the meal. Respect the food. Eat with your hands, your plate will move to the floor, you can eat with the dog. Snacks are crackers, not candy, so don't be thinking you'll fill up later. I'm serious, don't call my bluff. My son and daughter know not to argue with me. Life around grandpa's table is much more bearable now. The pressure is off the kids once they understand this is how it works. It's great being a grandparent..
    2 points
  20. Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) is the one and only worthy of worship Whereas "ilaha" is literally a diety. It is like how "g od" (the forum autocorrect wont let me type lowercase "g") in English can literally be anything from a tree to a statue, etc as it is a diety, though because there is no equivalent of "Allah" in the English language, an uppercase G is used for the Biblical "God" to differentiate from a mere diety "g od" (ilaha). Hope that made sense.
    2 points
  21. I’ve recently come across two wonderful books that helped me to strengthen my relationship with Allah and get closer to him. Though they are not written by Shia writers, nonetheless they are very well written. A temporary gift -Asmaa Hussein Reclaim your heart- Yasmin Mogahed I’d like to share them with you all and in return get suggestions for similar kind of book
    1 point
  22. Allahumma salli ala muhammadiw wa Ali muhammadin wa ajjil faraja hum Rabbinee lima anzalta ilayya min khayrin faqir Audhu billahi minash shaytanir rajeem دع كل الشتائم ضدي تُعاد سبعة أضعاف. Astaghfirillah Ya Allah, protect my sister from further harm and abuse
    1 point
  23. Doing "nothing" all day is exhausting, I want to hide in a dark closet and take a nap.
    1 point
  24. Yeah, but my teachers really did not taught me to write well in Urdu, the just focused on as to how to write Urdu rather than focus on making Urdu more beautiful like Urdu Nashtaleeq, I can write it but not like most of my friends, who have very beautiful Urdu writing like "Urdu Nashtaleeq". Was not taught on "Takhti" except in only one class, I am thinking to buy it again to master this again. Wow that's beautiful, I really do not know how to write it beautifully. Your Urdu teachers were expert and you are good learner as well.
    1 point
  25. notme

    Ate/Eating/Will Eat?

    I will wait until starvation sets in before trying these. Or go vegetarian.
    1 point
  26. I believe in La ilaha illallah.
    1 point
  27. Yesterday I had for lunch rice with ribs, for lunch I had chicken filled with French fries and 7up diet.
    1 point
  28. Ashvazdanghe

    Thoughts 2019

    Salam based on grand Ayatollah Sistani (ha) & Imam Khamenei :these type of drawings are not haram & you can sell art of people https://www.Sistani.org/persian/qa/01056/ https://article.tebyan.net/233292/حکم-نقاشی-اجسام-ذی-روح http://www.x-shobhe.com/print/4338.html https://www.Sistani.org/persian/qa/0849/ https://hawzah.net/fa/Article/View/86000/حکم-نقاشی-و-مجسمه-سازی-از-نگاه-شریعت-بخش-دوم but in conclusion it must not causes corruption & drawing or lust & must be flat without relief Ayatollah Makarem Shirazi (ha) :if the painter does not know the owner of image and the image is not naked or half naked or irritating and not causes corruption has no objection. https://makarem.ir/main.aspx?typeinfo=21&lid=0&catid=530&mid=263210
    1 point
  29. I don’t want to be impetuous and make a decision. Invite them both to your plsce, you, wife, and husband sit together and talk. Its soon to think of divorce now. Talk and tell them to do whatever they can to solve the issues. Tell them to consider ALL possible options. BTW, talk with the girl and inform her about all aspects of the situation and family. Inshaallah خیر
    1 point
  30. Mzwakhe

    Love

    I meant for those 'guys' who have multiple partners legally as a form of love by Allah(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) through them to be there for the divorced & widowed & the female teachers in madrassa who aren't given a second look due to them being wheelchaired. They too are loved by their Creator(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى).
    1 point
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  32. I know my Ls and Ts look way too similar. So do my Rs and Vs. That’s so true! I had a similar feeling when I had to teach a 3rd grade class a writing lesson. Everything was handwritten and when I stared at my writing on the TV (for projection), I was mortified and felt sorry for my students. I had to re-write a few words several times during the lesson and a couple of students said that they couldn’t read certain words. I also type more than I write, so I completely agree that we’ve become more accustomed to seeing printed words on a screen than handwriten words on paper. It makes me feel nostalgic seeing old movies where couples in love would write each other letters. Wish we had some more of that today.
    1 point
  33. I know But I also figured my writing was a bit hard to read. Lol. Thank you! I’m excited to head over to SoCal. Haven’t been there in 5 years. No cold is going to stop me from having fun. Aww it’s nice to know that my handwriting resembles someone older! (I always thought my handwriting was a bit childlike.) Your grandmother seemed like a lovely person. May she rest peacefully and happily in paradise, inshallah. (And thank you for the lovely compliments!)
    1 point
  34. You agree with this ? @Simon the Canaanite
    1 point
  35. I agree with you. That means ilaah is something like tree, statue, any person, animals, fish, birds, any feeling (ego), Sun, Moon, Stars, constellation, universe or anything which is created by Allah or creation itself. La ilaaha illallah No ilaah except Allah if we take word to word translation.
    1 point
  36. There was a member who was good at explaining Hinduism last time, I can't remember who it was. Was it @HakimPtsid Nobody is judging, is your family from a Hindu background originally?
    1 point
  37. I believe a misunderstanding has occurred. @Flying_Eagle read again please. This doesn't need to be an argument. She was talking about negligent mothers who do not work for money and also leave the care of the children to babysitters.
    1 point
  38. @WisdomAndAnswers, Walaikum Salam. Sister @Ruqaya101 has a completely different take on it to me. Are you looking for a husband/partner or a project? Firstly, you should not marry someone out of sympathy or as an act of charity. You should marry someone because they tick as many boxes as is possible and because you like/care/love/respect them for whom they are RIGHT NOW. Never marry a guy with the hope/intention that you can change/fix him. What if he is happy with who he is/the way he is and doesn't want to change? What if he wants to change but is unable to? Furthermore, what if he has a chronic illness/disease that he is hiding from you? Even if it is depression, don't assume that you can heal him with love. Depression consumes not only the person who is suffering but also all those who are around them. Also, just because his sister said he is an open book, it doesn't mean that he is. No one is completely transparent and open. I'm not being cynical, but everyone has a skeleton in their closet - irrespective of what they tell you. It takes months to get to know someone before the mask starts to slip. The question is, do you still want to be with that person after you have seen them on a bad day? Furthermore, I'd be concerned that his sister spoke to you abruptly and that the guy didn't intervene and try to diffuse the situation. If he can't say anything to his sister now, it doesn't bode well for the future. Personally, I would not proceed with this any further. You are trying to fight against your intuitive instincts to defend him! Don't. When you meet the right person you will now - follow your instincts and follow your gut feelings. Good luck!
    1 point
  39. @shadow_of_light your writing looks like art.
    1 point
  40. Your welcome, honey. please let me know what happens and I pray you only the best of ease and may Allah bless his grace on you. I always pray whenever I want to make a decision and I’m stuck, that if the situation is good for me, may Allah bring it with ease, and if it is bad for me, may Allah take it away without any damage
    1 point
  41. Yes, it is better that they discuss and agree, just as it's better that they discuss and agree before the husband decides to relocate the family, even though doing so is his right. There is more to life than absolutes. And yes, the wife needs her husband's permission to go out, but no man is going to imprison his wife. Only a bully child would attempt that, not a man. Children get most of their earliest education from their mother. A mother who knows more produces children who know more and know how to learn and seek out information more. Obviously, this isn't the most important factor, it's less important than a mother being compassionate or faithful, but all other things being equal, a knowledgeable/educated mother is better than an ignorant one.
    1 point
  42. She's describing how to be grateful given the situation she's in. There is no materialism involved unless being thankful for clothes is all of a sudden a materialistic matter. You're missing the point and for some odd reason being awfully defensive about it. Not everyone has a linear vision that will lead them to heaven without difficulties. Most if not all our decisions in this life are based on incentives we can benefit from here and now, even religion. We seek out religion and faith to understand more about ourselves and life and to live life with a clear conscious. So telling someone to strengthen their faith because of death, after-life and sacrifices made in this world is most probably not going to help. Simply put, Jannat786 is asking how to help their spirituality grow and the way I see it, that's a road we must all take individually so I highly doubt anything I say will really help in that regard besides to just lay down in silence and think. Just think and perhaps you may understand why you feel the way you do.
    1 point
  43. I agree to disagree. You have some truth to what youre saying, but youre not getting the point. Being thankful and grateful, doing good deeds and giving blessings gets you closer to Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) by anything you do, every action you take as long as Bismillah is said, for good, in the name of God. Youre only talking about the grave and the disbelievers, darkness and death. This isn't the question here. She is talking about spiritual lows and how she can feel the spiritual high. If its normal or not. In which it is normal. The point is that she is trying and Allah is graceful to notice our deeds for Him to get closer to Him no matter how small. Like I said, even planting a seed is full of blessings.
    1 point
  44. You are a guest and that means all your posts are previewed before publishing. God doesn't even need 2 rakats from us so I don't know what you are basing your whole argument on. Salat ul layl is a very highly recommended act of worship. There is a reason why Masoomeen (عليه السلام) advised their Shia to pray in the night, why are you downplaying it?
    1 point
  45. The following blog explains the 'thighing' discussions: https://exposingtawhidi.wordpress.com/2017/06/26/defence-of-tashayyu-thighing/
    1 point
  46. Salam , it's depends on situation in famous story about Imam Ali (عليه السلام) on pulpit was surrounded by Iranians that Ash'ath that was Arab called us red faces (skins) as Arabs were calling Iranians because Arabs knew themselves as whites & now red skin refers to native Americans & in another story Iranians described as white ships that were following him after black ships as Arabs in his dream left him , even I saw some people call Iranians as brown skins but now Iran has all kinds of ethnicity that glued together by language & culture that you can see from people taht are looking as white European to black African between Iranians that it depends on what place you travel
    1 point
  47. it's better that you follow his will but you can with every good Muslim but if you marry a non Syed because you break his will you must pay a good amount of charity to soul of your father.
    1 point
  48. Ashvazdanghe

    Ghost

    Salam Imam Sadiq (as): every believer or non believer soul visits his/her family every noon & watches them عَنْ أَبِي عَبْدِ اللهِ قَالَ مَا مِنْ مُؤْمِنٍ وَ لَا كَافِرٍ إِلَّا وَ هُوَ يَأْتِي أَهْلَهُ عِنْدَ زَوَالِ الشَّمْس‏ (شیخ كلينى، الكافي، تهران: دار الكتب الإسلامية، 1365، ج 3، ص 230 Kulaini , Kafi v3 p230 another one: some passed away souls every Friday or sooner go to visit of their family 6- عَنْ أَبِي عَبْدِ اللَّهِ قَالَ... مِنْهُمْ مَنْ يَزُورُ كُلَّ جُمْعَةٍ وَ مِنْهُمْ مَنْ يَزُورُ عَلَى قَدْرِ عَمَلِهِ (شیخ كلينى، همان، ج 3، ص 230). Ibid Imam Kadhim (عليه السلام) :some passed away souls every Friday or once a month or once a year go to visit of their family in form of a bird (flying phantom ) that if they see that they are doing good deeds will become happy & if they do bad deeds they will become disappointed ibid https://www.yjc.ir/fa/news/6440181/آیا-مردگان-در-عالم-برزخ-از-خانواده-خود-اطلاعی-دارند-و-نگران-سرنوشت-آنها-هستند http://www.jamnews.com/TextVersionDetail/225325 http://hawzahnews.com/detail/News/386589
    1 point
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