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  1. 7 points
    Assalam Alaikum. I just want to start by thanking Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) for pushing me foward into the right direction. I’ve accepted that the Prophets sunnah is Ahlul Bayt and that his succesor are non other then Ali ibn abi talib and his descendents (عليه السلام) coming from a salafist background, I have to be honest and say that the notion of asking people who are gone is still hard for me to accept. Nonetheless, I can’t deny the fact that the Prophet sawa instructed us to follow his Ahlul Bayt. As I mentioned in a previous post. My people are hardline salafist so and Shia Islam is a completly foreign concept to them. So theres no way I can tell anyone im close to that Ive become a Shia anytime soon. To make matters worse, there arnt really many Shia were I live in the united states. There are only two Shia mosques in a nearby city and the closest one is a 30 minute drive. I didnt even know they existed until I did some research. Due to the small amount of Shias were I live. I can only assume that everyone who attends those mosques is from the same ethnicity and probably knows each other on a first name basis. I have bad social anxiety so going there would be a huge step outside of my comfort zone. Not to mention, ive heard stories of people who became Shia and didnt feel very welcomed by their new community. Now im not expecting anybody to hug and kiss me and throw themselves at my feet. But a basic amount of respect wouldnt be a bit too much to ask for would it? As much as people like to deny it racism is a huge affliction that affects the ummah inwardly and outwardly and id be lying if I said it wouldnt hurt to turn your back on your community and risk ostracism only to be turned away by the new one. Honestly, I don’t even think I could blame my people for turning me away in a sense since A year ago, I wouldnt hesistate to do the same to another person who became Shia. Even if this were to happen I hope it wont shake my faith in Ahlul Bayt as God knows the amount of times they were Alone and people turned on them yet never waivered in faith even for a bit. Unfortunately I don’t have the patience and piety of Ahlul Bayt (عليه السلام) Maybe im being a bit too extreme and unrealistic so I hope you read this with a bit of empathy. Your prayers and advice would be very much appreciated. Jazakum Allah khaiyr
  2. 7 points
    Salam sister, I read your post and it broke my heart. I just wanted to say that don’t ever think that you are evil or impure or less than anyone because of this terrible event that happened to you. It is only those with strong faith and strong character that Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) chooses to test with these difficult tests. In the end, you as a creation of Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) are defined not by what happens to you, but by how you choose to react to what has happened to you. As to whether you should speak up about this or not, this is probably something you need to think about and ask Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) to help you make the right decision. If you believe that this is an ongoing issue with your brother and he may be doing this to other young girls, then for sure I would speak up about it and this is your duty so that other girls will not have to go through what you are going through. If u believe this was an isolated incident and he never repeated this with you or anyone else, to the best of your knowledge, then it is your choice whether you want to tell or not. Like I said above I would think about it and ask Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) to guide you in making the right decision. It is a clear fact, from hadith, that anyone who had thulm(oppression) done to them has a right to speak about it publically and confront their oppressor publically because it is this right that will save others by discouraging people who are thinking about doing injustice from actually doing it, because they will fear their acts being exposed. How to exercise this right within the context of a family situation is a little more complex, but the right is still there regardless and noone would be held blameworthy before Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) for exercising that right. This applies to your situation because definitely, without a doubt you were the victim of oppression. It would be a big tragedy if u let this incident shape your life in a negative way and let this event deprive you of a happy marriage and family life in the future. InShahAllah you will able to make the right decision then, hopefully someday soon, put this in the rearview mirror and move on to live a happy and productive family life. I also wanted to say that any potential husband who would hold this against you is not worthy to be married to you.
  3. 6 points
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  4. 5 points
    I thought it would be nice to share this part of a book here as it contains advice and information from Ayatollah Ibrahim Amini. The information the Ayatollah presents here is the type of information that if followed and applied, such horrific incidents can be prevented inshaAllah. I highly encourage everyone to check it out and especially parents (this whole book is about parenting children and definitely worth checking out!). Some of the ahadith quoted here are really eye-opening. The ahlul bayth have really given us instructions on how to be successful in every corner of life and prevent all kinds of harms from coming our way. https://www.al-Islam.org/principles-upbringing-children-ayatullah-ibrahim-amini/chapter-71-gender-problems
  5. 4 points

    My faith is diminishing.

    Thank you for your kind words and your questions. Yes, I believe we worship the same God. We know Him differently, but we love Him with all our heart and mind and soul. I see that. And I feel that. I believe we would die for our love of God. I don't understand why He reveals Himself to us differently. But that is His business. How can we the clay say to our Maker, why do You make me like this, and my friend like that? Speaking from my own personal life-experience, I loved God as a child (I even wanted to become a nun). But I realize now that I didn't know Him as my Lord and Savior. When I became a Christian, my entire life changed, and I knew then that I was going to go to heaven. Before then, I was very much afraid of dying, and was very afraid I would go to hell. What if I had died before I was 22? I do not know, but God does. Peace and grace, MartyS P.S. After signing out, I was reading the Bible just now and read these words. This is very encouraging to me concerning the ultimate plans of God... "And I have other sheep that are not of this fold. I must bring them also, and they will listen to my voice. So there will be one flock, one shepherd. For this reason the Father loves me, because I lay down my life that I may take it up again." - John 10:16-17
  6. 4 points
    Salaam Sister, I also wanted to tell you, like the many other users here who have already told you, that you are innocent and not at fault. You were young and didn’t know what was going on. Your having no knowledge of the matter was taken advantage of and you were tricked into it. Please do not be so hard on yourself and treat yourself as impure because you are not impure. You are pure. I pray that things get better for you InshaAllah.
  7. 4 points
    What numbers? What are numbers? Infinite Numbers are a misrepresentation of the unknown or what we can’t understand. Before judgement day every living creation will die leaving only Allah who has always existed. Things like time, space, infinite numbers etc, are only relative to humans who are not infinite. Allah’s wisdom goes beyond science and math. He is the creator of science, math, time, space, and everything in between space.
  8. 4 points
    Seriously? The poor little boy had no idea about Islamic law? He took her and locked her in a room. He told her this was their "sweet little secret" and he warned her not to tell anyone. A normal human being doesnt need to have knowledge on Islamic law or any law for that matter to know that raping your own sister is wrong on every level fathomable. This is the ideology and approach that makes victims such as the OP hide away and live with such a secret that destroys their life forever. @Guest101 I can’t imagine how broken you must feel. I'm so sorry for everything you've gone through. May Allah give you strength to ease this pain. I'm sorry, but your brother is a psychopath. No normal 13 year old boy would take is little sister and do such things to her. No matter what anyone ever says to you, it is not your fault and you are not dirty or impure or any less valuable in any shape or form because of some demented person's violation of your body. You need to make sure you spend as little time with your brother as possible. If he still lives at home, make sure you lock your bedroom door when your asleep and maybe even keep some sort of object nearby to defend yourself. You should consider talking to a therapist to help you deal with this trauma. It will be hard to deal with, but not impossible.
  9. 3 points

    My faith is diminishing.

    Salam everyone. A few months ago in November, I wrote a forum about my stress and what I was going through. Fast forward to today, things have changed. Alhamdulillah I found a job, I've been saving money. Things have been going alright financially and what not. I just want to clarify that I'm 23 years old. I haven't missed a prayer for years. And I don't drink alcohol. In my previous post, I had said that my faith and relationship with Allah was strong. I talked to him a lot and He has done so much for me. I am aware of all this. It was literally within the past 1-2 months where at times, I have been so high on spirituality and worship to Allah, where I was making sure I didn't sin one bit. All I did was listen to Qur'an and dua. I didn't even want to listen to music. I tried not to check out any girls either. I made sure to watch my tongue and not swear. You know what I mean? I was very mindful of even the smallest of things, for Allah's sake. Because the spirituality felt so good. I loved it. I wanted more. And I know that these little things would slowly diminish that. Believe me, I've been there. I've felt spiritual highs before. It was only within the past 2 months, that I've had really high faith and high remembrance of Him. But in the past few days, I've been so restless. My faith and spirituality is being attacked like never before. I don't know what's going on with me. I'm so lost. I'm all over the place. Like yesterday, I was in my room having a breakdown and I was very close to not praying. I started contemplating just stopping my worship and prayer all together. The whispers from Satan are just horrible. The most evil thoughts about my life and Allah were going through my head. Its so weird because it was literally last week where I was crying out to Allah after Ishaa prayer and begging for forgiveness etc. etc. & I was at a spiritual/blissful high. The past couple months I've prayed and cried out to Him & attained beautiful spiritual highs. But then in almost an instant, it all has turned upside down. I feel like I'm not finding what I'm looking for through Allah. Its just a repetitive cycle of crying out to Him, feeling good after for a bit, then a couple weeks later, back to being stressed again. This has happened many times in the past 3 or 4 months. & now it has gotten to the point where I have no more energy to fight it. I'm growing restless. I can't find tranquility. I can't find any peace in me. I'm too stressed for some reason. I don't know why I'm like this. This struggle I'm fighting is draining me. Before when I used to have breakdowns, I can always come to Allah, speak my mind and ask for help. But now, there is this resistance in me. I've been contemplating just stopping my worship and prayer completely, and I know this is wrong. I know that. I know that it isn't the right way to think. I know that. But at the same time, I'm starting to not care anymore. I'm tearing apart inside. I'm so restless. Today after zuhr and asr prayers, it was so hard for me to make dua to Him. I don't know why. I've never felt like this before. I can't even believe that my faith has just turned upside down so quickly. I don't know why I'm like this. A few months ago I was broke, no job, with no direction of a future ahead of me. Then Alhamdulillah, I found a job, and I've been saving money. Things have been going well, and I thought that would be it. But no, for some reason, it isn't enough. Maybe I'm greedy. Maybe I just expect too much. Maybe I keep stressing about not being where I want to be in life. Maybe I'm stressing about my directionless future again. (I don't work any specialized high paying job, its just something to help me get by for now). Its human nature to want more and more. We're never satisfied. I don't know. I'm just torn apart right now. This struggle of mine, is tearing apart my faith. I'm literally hanging on by a thread sometimes. Maybe I'm being tested. Maybe its just me. I don't know. But if I'm being tested, then I'm failing this test for sure. I know I am. I even told Allah today after prayer that I was sorry. I told Him I'm sorry I'm failing this test or whatever it is that's happening. I have very little fight left in me. Its draining me. I'm running out of energy to fight it. I've become so restless. I can't keep my emotions in check. The messed up part is that I keep thinking to myself that if I can't find what I'm looking for through Allah, then I find myself thinking that I'll go through other means. I keep thinking to myself that I'll maybe stop praying and my worship. And I know this is wrong. I know its a very big sin to cut yourself off from the source of all goodness in this universe. I know all of this. Believe me, I do. But at the same time, I'm just so restless. I just don't care anymore. I can't seem to find what I'm looking for. I don't have much in this world and I haven't accomplished much. My faith is all I have. But this struggle of mine is diminishing my faith. I just keep going through this cycle of going through this stress, going to my prayer mat, crying out to Allah, feeling good after for a little bit, then back to the same thing all over again. It just keeps happening again and again. I'm growing restless. I was watching a lecture last night where the Sheikh said to turn your hardship into worship. This is something I've been doing for a while. But for some reason, the past few days, I haven't been doing that. Its been difficult for me to talk to Allah. Its been difficult for me to pull out my prayer mat, and cry out to Him. I used to always do this. Now I just have this resistance in me that has been preventing me from doing so. I watched a lecture last week where the Sayed said that worshiping Allah and praying your Salat is something that will make Allah more likely to answer your dua. I've been praying for years now, I've been making dua for so long about what it is I'm looking for. I haven't had any of that. I just don't get it. And yes, I know that maybe I'm not ready, or it isn't the right time, or I won't be able to handle it and all that. I've heard it all. But at the same time, I just don't understand what He's trying to tell me. I have yet to have any clarity or guidance. I just keep getting more and more restless. I'm not having any peace inside me. I'm honestly on the verge of stopping my worship altogether. I know its wrong, believe me, I do. But I'm at the point where I just don't care anymore. I'm hanging on by a thread. I just don't understand how my faith diminished so quickly. Like Alhamdulillah, sometimes I'm good. But I know it won't last long. I don't know what my body or mind is trying to say. I don't know what's going on with me. I don't know why I am the way I am. I don't know why I'm thinking like this. I don't know why I'm so restless. I don't know why I can't find peace. Its getting really hard to fight these thoughts and evil whispers of Satan. If I'm being tested, then I'm failing and I know it. I remember this Sayed said a good dua to make it to ask Allah for problems that don't diminish your faith. Now again, I don't know if this struggle is from Allah, but this is the first time that I remember, where I'm going through a struggle that is directly attacking my faith. Its diminishing my faith. Its just horrible. I'm being so real with you guys right now, I have no peace in my heart whatsoever. I'm so restless. I'm extremely anxious. When I used to be like this, I'd cry out to Allah and I'd feel a bit better after. But now, I haven't even really cried out to Him like I used to... this is how I know its become bad. I don't know what to do. Me comming on here is like my last cry for help. And yes, I know there are millions of other people in this world who have it way harder, I get that. But at the same time, I just can't seem to get it together. I don't know why I can't seem to win this fight. I don't know why I'm letting Satan win. But I'm tired. I'm just so tired. I'm restless. I'm just so restless. I'm anxious. I'm just so anxious. I can't seem to find any inner peace. My faith is diminishing.
  10. 3 points
    Download of "Zekra" software (Holy Qur'an, Nahj al-Balagha and Sahifa al-Sajjadiyya) Windows Version http://en.abna24.com/news//download-of-zekra-software-holy-Qur'an-nahj-al-balagha-and-sahifa-al-sajjadiyya-windows-version_942326.html May 20, 2019 - 7:40 PM News Code : 942326 Source : ABNA24Link: This application contains texts, translations and audio of the Holy Qur'an, Nahj al-Balaghah and Sahifeh Sajjadiyah in five Arabic, English, Persian, Turkish and Urdu languages. Ahlul Bayt News Agency (ABNA): The "Zekra" software is one of the digital Islamic products produced by the office of Information and IT of the Ahl-ul-Bayt (عليه السلام) World Assembly. This application contains texts, translations and audio of the Holy Qur'an, Nahj al-Balaghah and Sahifeh Sajjadiyah in five Arabic, English, Persian, Turkish and Urdu languages. The software also includes books, articles, and questions about Qur'an, Nahj al-Balaghah and Sahifeh Sajjadiyeh in the five languages. http://www.ahl-ul-bayt.org/software/Tools/Windows/Zikra.rar http://www.ahl-ul-bayt.org/software/Tools/Windows/Zikra.rar
  11. 3 points
    Abu Nur

    My faith is diminishing.

    Keep believe in Him and love Him and always do good deeds and seek forgiveness for your sins and you will be in heaven and shall not have any fear. This is a promise by God in all abrahimc religion, even in Qur'an it says: Verily, those who believe and those who are Jews and Christians, and Sabians, whoever believes in Allaah and the Last Day and do righteous good deeds shall have their reward with their Lord, on them shall be no fear, nor shall they grieve.” [al-Baqarah 2:62]
  12. 3 points
    @AStruggler yeah just quoting some hadiths from that book in case peope are lazy to open up the link. It's amazing how our Imams (عليه السلام) knew how this issue will affect our communities and hence they addressed it. The Prophet of Islam has said: “When the child reaches the age of seven years, arrange a separate bed for him."1 Imam as-Sadiq narrates from his ancestors: “The women and children of ten years must have separate individual beds."2 "If a mother rubs her body against the body of her own daughter, she is doing a sort of molestation."3 “A man should not kiss his six year old daughter, and a woman should not kiss her seven year old son." 4 "For the psychic welfare of the children, we should not expose our bodies to them. Sometimes the children might peep through the crevices in the bathroom door while we are bathing. or changing our clothes. We must ensure that the children don’t develop such habits."
  13. 3 points
    Thank you so much! There are people on google literally saying universe is infinite because of some sort of potential Vs actual infinity concept and I did not get anything they said as I am a MATH HATER , so this explanation is way way easier to understand , thank you for making it easy. God bless
  14. 3 points
    The Green Knight

    My faith is diminishing.

    Your problem is that you expect Allah to help you with everything in this life in a way you imagine He should. That is not going to happen. Unless there is no place in the afterlife for you. I used to think and expect like you do until I read a book, by Sulaym bin Qays. In it I read a long hadith which explained that the highest level of hardships in this life befalls the persons of highest ranks in faith, beginning with the Prophets and Imams and then their foremost followers. It explained that always when a Prophet was sent to the people there were always two kinds among people, one who accepted the message and believed, and those who did not believe or only pretended to believe. So then Allah would empower the other kind and give them all the things life has to offer while eliminating their place in the afterlife as these hypocrites and unbelievers ruled over with injustice or oppressed or killed the believing folk. The believers would lose their sins and become pure as a result and their sins are carried over to the unbelievers. There are also plenty of other hadiths supporting the main theme of this. For instance believers would get worried if no hardships would befall them for a while. Think about that.
  15. 3 points
    My understanding, and I'm a poor mathematician but a semi-acceptable observer, is that numbers are finite and beyond the highest number, we are just dealing with symbolic representations and theories. A googolplex is finite, beyond the finity of numbers mathematicians use things like Aleph-0, which I know nothing about other than it's not a number, I can't buy Aleph-0 boxes of Barfi and its usage is probably not useful to explain anything beyond theory. To the human mind, while we like to think of infinite quantities, we cannot comprehend let alone write down what an infinite number looks like without resorting to using something that doesn't even resemble a number anymore. Does the human need to know the existence of 999 duotrigintillion googolplexes? Not really, and such figure has no significance other than comparison and theory. Are 999 duotrigintillion googolplexes even a correct number? I wouldn't know, and most people wouldn't, because we have finite understanding and there is no proof that numbers are infinite, we can theorise, but that wouldn't be answering your question. So really, according to the realms of the human mind at least, numbers are finite, and I think that suits humans just fine. Now, if you'll all excuse me, I need to go count some sheep... One, two, three, fou...
  16. 3 points
    The Green Knight

    Eco Tips

    I read that vinegar in water was an organic herbicide alternative so I tried it, to no luck. Did not use table salt because the soil here is already alkaline enough. Then I employed someone to physically remove the knee high weed grass growing by a wall and so many different kind of little weed plants popping up all over in my garden. There is so much and such different variety of weeds here sometimes I think there must be medicinal benefits of at least some of them, or why else would nature grow them everywhere despite repeated removal? I know its the birds and air carrying and dropping all its seed but I find it annoying. Things I plant are so delicate already and then these come in as an enormous competition and nuisance. But I do not use roundup. When I'm bothered enough I will build a portable blowtorch.
  17. 3 points
    I tried to PM you this but I am unable to send messages as my account is relatively new. First and foremost, I'd like to apologize. I am sorry that you had to go through something like this. No one deserves this kind of sexual abuse, especially a child who doesn't know better. You should know, and I can't stress this enough, that this is NOT your fault in ANY way. You did not say or do anything that could have led him to do this to you, and if for a second you believe that you had even a 0.05% hand in what he did to you, then let me tell you very confidently that you do. No blame of any kind will ever be imparted on you, even if you feel your silence led to its occurrence. Now, I'd like to advise you to seek psychological or psychiatric treatment if you aren't already. I know in our society this is not taken very seriously, but sexual abuse of any kind is very damaging to our psyche and causes lifelong emotional upset. I speak from experience as I too was sexually abused at a young age, and it has damaged my psychological well-being. I seek counselling on an interim basis (when things go bad) though I feel I have a better grasp of it now. I also didn't tell my parents because I was ashamed and thought I had something to do with it, but my therapist made me realize that I was blaming myself for something that was effectively beyond my control. You need to realize this too. You also should find a therapist who you feel you can speak freely with, as open, honest conversations are key to gaining useful insight into your life and your psychological well-being. You don't have to bring it up to your brother, and neither do you have to feel shame when facing him. He probably remembers what he did, and may or may not feel regret over it and is likely not willing to bring it up either due to the shame. You do not owe anything to him and unless you feel YOU will be better off confronting him, YOU do not need to confront him.
  18. 3 points
    Once admin have concluded sufficient advice has been given, can they please close the thread? Not saying hide/delete, just stop the discussion from going any further. Further comments is just inevitably leading to misinterpreting what people are saying and causing fitnah. This is not the month.
  19. 2 points
    Salaam, I've just created this new account for identity purposes. If the mods think this is too inappropriate then I guess it will be removed... This is the first time I've ever told anyone about this. Straight into it. When I was about 9 years old, my brother was about 13. One day he called me into my parents bedroom and he locked the door. He told my Mum that we would be playing a game. But no. He lied down on the bed and removed his clothes and told me to take mine off. He was my older brother and at the time I didn't see anything wrong with it, so I did. He then told me to start touching his pe*is and basically give him oral sex. I didn't want to but I just thought it was a game. Then after sometime he made me lie down and said he was going to lick me as well. But when he did, I started laughing and told him that it was tickling me, he stopped obviously so no one heard me. Then the worst happened. He told me to go on all fours, then he penetrated me. It hurt so bad, I said that I wanted to go downstairs but he said that he would give me sweets if I stayed, so I did again I just thought it was a game. He started again and it hurt me but I didn't say anything. Soon he asked "Can you feel anything wriggling". Remembering this now is so disgusting. I said no. But eventually he finished. After he said not to tell anyone because it was "our secret little game". But he never did it again. So for a few years I didn't tell anyone anyway. But somewhere along the line I learned what he was actually doing to me. So the reason for not telling anyone changed. I felt embarrassed, ashamed and dirty. I was scared that I would be punished for not telling anyone before. Ever since I learned that it wasn't a game we played I've felt uncomfortable and really impure, anxious and sick around him. There wasn't really enough space growing up and me and him shared a room, God forbid he ever did anything to me while I was asleep. Fast forward today and I still haven't told anyone. Now I know if I told someone then he would basically get disowned. But I haven't been able to bring myself to do that. It would destroy everything my parents have worked for and that would be selfish. My parents would be mentally destroyed. So I'll just keep this with me for the rest of my life. My question is, has anyone been through or known anyone who has been through something like this? I've been finding it really hard to cope recently, I just feel so ashamed around him now. He must know that I still remember but I don't know if he even remembers still... What should I do?! PS: Mods I understand if this does not get approved but if there is a way with censorship then please censor away...
  20. 2 points
    Oh I have one actually, his name is Biscuit, will be 3 years old in September, had him since he was a tiny kitten.
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  22. 2 points
    Glad to be of some use! May Allah bless you too.
  23. 2 points
    It is sad the cultural vilification wolves (and sharks) get, especially in European folklore which contributed to their persecution and near extinction. It was only later many realised their presence in the food chain was beneficial for eco systems and the environment (less grazing, destruction of plant wild life, etc). They were successfully reintroduced in Yellowstone. There is also debate to gave them back in Scotland, which has not yet materialised. Such beautiful, misunderstood creatures.
  24. 2 points
    Salam. What happened to you was an injustice and Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) knows that you did not deserve what he did to you. Yes, I know someone who was sexually abused by a cousin when she was 4 years old and she suffered a lot of mental pressure thinking about what happened and wondering if she said or did anything that caused that to happen to her. For months at a time she would block "the event" from her mind but at least once or twice a year she would get anxious if her family traveled to her grandparents house, because her cousin might be there, too. So once again she would remember what happened when she was 4. She did get married and have children, however she was very protective of them and would never leave them alone with anyone who might harm them. He most definitely remembers that he hurt you, unless he mentally blocked it from his mind. I hope that you are not still living with him! How old are you now?
  25. 2 points
    Alhamdulilah, In the end or shall we say in the beginning also, what were numbers? If Allah says be and it is! What was the need for any numbers? Numbers aren't even infinite since there was only Allah before everything.
  26. 2 points

    My faith is diminishing.

    I have a quick question. You seem like an honest Christian. Do you believe us Muslims worship the same God as you guys? Do you believe Muslims can enter heaven? A lot of Christians I know are very anti-Muslim so I’m just wondering your opinion @MartyS
  27. 2 points
    Salam I think you misunderstood me. I am not seeking any forgiveness from the answer of any marjaa. Nor I am waiting for their reply to feel forgiven. However it is important to know what the rule is regarding this matter because we cannot automatically assume that since taraweeh is biddah, so it would be "haram" to even join that congregation with forada intention. It is likely that it will be forbidden, but one has to know the actual rule.
  28. 2 points
    Although not answering your question, this was posted a few hours ago:
  29. 2 points
    In Islamic fiqh, it is important to find out whether the culprit was aware of the specified punishment for that crime or not. For example, if a person Steels something and is caught, then the Islamic punishment would be cutting off his fingers (provided about 40 other conditions are met). But if he was unaware of the fact that the punishment can be cutting of fingers, then his fingers cannot be cut. He might be given some other punishment which the jurist would decide (?maybe lashes). But the point is...in order to reach a judgment for the punishment of a crime, the pre hand knowledge of the culprit about the possible punishment needs to be taken into account.
  30. 2 points
    By action you know the intention. First I think you deliberate trying to make case that I insult Prophet Muhammad (saws) (Audhu Billahi) and Ayesha, which is only doing harm for you. The verse have nothing to do with Ayesha later life because she is innocent when the Prophet (saws) married her. After the Prophet Muhammad (saws) demise, it is different story. Regard the Prophet Nuh (عليه السلام) and Lut (عليه السلام) wifes as an example, do you think their wifes and the Prophets were evil when they married, it was later in their lives when they (the wifes) became evil. Second, I just showed that you are incorrect to think that Ayotullah Khomeini (رضي الله عنه) regards them impure. That is my whole case. Ayesha started it, she is the oppressor. Imam Ali (عليه السلام) tried to make peace but she did not accept it. After Ayesha losing the war, Imam Ali (عليه السلام) acted justly and made peace, as exactly according this verse. This verse does not tell anything that Ayesha repented or that Ayesha have nothing to do with killing of so many believers. This verse is for preventing fitnah.
  31. 2 points
    These cases are common, but obviously this is an extreme case. The fact is that the op's brother didn't decide to do this to her overnight. This was a gradual process and he clearly was preparing her for it throughout the years imo. Men at that age can be animals, not that I'm justifying it. The way she was describing his behaviour, it seems as if he probably started fantasizing about her at a certain age. In a world which is bombarded with nudity and sexual promiscuity, you can expect these kinda behaviours. I mean look at Game of Thrones - one of this most popular shows out there which normalizes nudity and incest. When people don't accept religion, there is no morality, everything is subjective. People out there justify homosexuality but would frown when it comes to incest. The hypocrisy!! Also many guys out there may be thinking that way about their sisters - those who become animals by repeatedly watching any filth that is shown on TV. Just because some don't have the guts to actually act it out, doesn't mean we can downplay their disgusting tendencies. Honestly, I'm lost for words but we live in strange times. The music and film industry are really polluting the minds of everyone.
  32. 2 points
    Salam Thank you AbdulKarim313_Austin/Nola. For your kind words and acknowledging the situation I was in. Every Shia understands Taraweeh is an innovation and no Shia would attend it under normal circumstances. My situation was however quite unusual in that I was a guest at someone's house and was asked by a group of Sunni men to join them for taraweeh, before the dinner. Because they had suddenly made this plan and were leaving immediately, they gave me little time to think or to come up with my own excuse to avoid it. Nevertheless, they asked me repeatedly and I kept on refusing again and again. I even said to the host that I will go back home (this meant refusing to have dinner with them). At this the host looked very sad when he realised that I wanted to leave without having food with them. He said to me " please don't do this. " At that point, in just those few seconds I had to make a decision... 1. I thought whether I knew of any fatwa which categorically makes joining taraweeh haram (even with fourada niyyah). I didn't remember any fatwa like that in the few seconds that I had. 2. I had to decide very quickly whether it would be Islamically appropriate to decline having food with your host after attending his house. 3. I recalled that Syed Sistani recommends Joinning Sunnis in jammat for unity. With these three thoughts in my mind, and with the Sunni men getting in their cars, and the host waiting for me to get in his car aswell, I made the decision to go with them. At the taraweeh, I made my personal intention and read my own prayer. As soon as I got the opportunity, I left the mosque and went outside. Later when the host finished as well, we went back to his place for dinner. While I pretended to join them in taraweeh, I sent curses to the one who began this biddah in the first place. I regretted standing with them and I had an inner feeling that I had most certainly done a wrong action - that this is like supporting biddah. I felt extremely unhappy with my decision to attend the taraweeh and wished I had categorically down right refused the host by saying that Shias do not read taraweeh. But did I have time to explain this at that moment when he was stood waiting for me to get into car...? I don't know. Later, I asked a few scholars who all said that taraweeh cannot be attended under any circumstances at all - unless one has to practice taqqiyah. This made me even more regretful and I feel disgusted of my action. However the scholars did not quote any exact fatwa making taraweeh categorically haram to attend for Shias. I then sent the same question to Najaf.org and Sistani.org. They normally reply quickly when the question is simple - but it's been several days and I haven't received any reply from either office. Could it mean that although it is easy to understand that taraweeh should be avoided so as not to support this biddah, the actual fatwa making it haram may not be that simple?. I will continue to await their reply and seek forgiveness from Allah.
  33. 2 points
    I am sorry for what happened to you. Just wanted to tell you are not at fault here
  34. 2 points

    Eco Tips

    I have a possible solution AND it would save money! Nut "milk" is expensive to buy or to make from scratch. Oat milk is expensive to buy ready made, but very cheap to make. Oats are about 85¢ per lbs, without even shopping around. If my calculations are correct, a pound of oats will make just over a gallon of "oat milk" and my kids seem to like it. Of course, it doesn't have the calcium and vitamins A and D that they add to cow milk, but it might be worth a try as a partial replacement since the kids drink far more than they need for health anyway. The oats that I buy come in cardboard boxes, which are recyclable or compostable.
  35. 2 points
    I think the problem here is that children do not think of puberty in this sense, responsibility in this sense or even religion in this sense. As adults Islam is our way of life, I can guarantee when our respected sister's brother did what he did he was not thinking about fiqh. I can double on that and say that when our respected sister was treated how she was she was not thinking of fiqh. She said herself she thought it was a game, so she obviously had no idea or responsibility for her actions. She was a little kid, he was a kid too but an older kid who had more power, more influence and more knowledge sexually and otherwise. Essentially we are saying she should know better for being a little kid, and now our respected sister is saying how she feels disgusted for letting it happen and hopes the punishment is tolerable. What punishment?? Punished for being attacked by your own brother, the person you look up to? She was vulnerable, maybe him too, but really we can't have her think she has sinned. Our understanding of Allah is better than that. I know you say you are not 'blaming her per se', and I believe your intention isn't to blame her, but perhaps the way you worded your response as seen from quotes speaks differently 'not blaming you per se' then saying 'a baligh (her) should know better' then saying her brother as he is not 13 is not accountable. See where I'm coming from? Bottom line is, there is no use in us applying our religious wisdom and knowledge to the situation, because it was never applied during the event. All we can do is pray that our sister finds the strength to go on, because these events can ruin a person, and that the men she encounters in life respect her as she ought to be. I have full trust in Allah that she will be granted a stable family and that she will receive the sexual psychotherapy she needs. Edit: Just saw your last response, that's all fair.
  36. 2 points
    Congratulations to the ShiaChat member of the week! @AbdulKarim313_Austin/Nola https://www.shiachat.com/forum/topic/235035410-shiachat-member-of-the-week/?page=8&tab=comments#comment-3213659
  37. 2 points
    Abu Nur

    My faith is diminishing.

    You are judging yourself too much and are very hard for yourself. God did not make worshiping Him complex and stressful. The only thing what is required from you is to do the wajibat and if you feel stressful, doing more worship actions will only cause you have more stressful and make you want to stop doing them all together. In these times just do Salat in time and protect yourself from sinning, these two things are enough, because Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) says in the Qur'an: "and whoever is careful of (his duty to) Allah He will make easy for him his affair. Q:65:4". If your stress does not go down, then the best thing to do is to seek professional treatment for your depression.
  38. 1 point

    Confusion about Oneness of God

    I would take it to mean that Allah knows us inside and out, sees what we do privately and publically, what we think and what we do. Hence the verse saying He is cognisant of all things. I believe it has something to do with Allah's Omnipresence, He is not limited to knowing the outside aspects of life, but also knows the inside aspects like thought, intentions, plans etc.
  39. 1 point
    Haji 2003

    Eco Tips

    We've got these popping up around where I live. They're attached to the street light poles. There goes the argument about a lack of infrastructure for charging.
  40. 1 point

    Eco Tips

    Salaam, A few years back they made having recycling bins compulsory for us, but that was stupid since they rarely come to even pick them up. We have 3 cars all running on fuel so that's not good, although there is the yearly MOT in which they check if your emissions are too high. Then there's the electricity, anything idle is switched off water is used sparingly as well as the gas. Oh and I've also got about 10 trees in the garden and I've actually planted 3 saplings lately too. The thing is people go on about converting to electricity when fossil fuels are still being used to generate the electricity in the first place. So is it really carbon neutral?
  41. 1 point
    Watch between 2:02 to 2:10 https://youtu.be/TaBGiOPl8EU notice how he pronounces the letter ‘n’ but it’s a bit transparent and silent.
  42. 1 point

    lRl vs. USA

    Man like Javad
  43. 1 point
    shia farm girl

    Charles Darwin & God

    As salaamun aleikum, Id like to know how the ayatt of: Surah Aal-e-Imran, Verse 33: إِنَّ اللَّهَ اصْطَفَىٰ آدَمَ وَنُوحًا وَآلَ إِبْرَاهِيمَ وَآلَ عِمْرَانَ عَلَى الْعَالَمِينَ Surely Allah chose Adam and Nuh and the descendants of Ibrahim and the descendants of Imran above the nations. ...is to be understood....Who was Adam(عليه السلام) "chosen" from, if there were no other humans to be chosen from? W/s
  44. 1 point
    The Green Knight

    Eco Tips

    What do you use instead of Roundup?
  45. 1 point
    Better still, stand in prayer in the comfort of your own home where people aren't going to take swipes at you and glare at you for not being 'one of their own'. Why be involved in taraweeh and make yourself a target to people's ignorant attitude?
  46. 1 point
    Alhamdulilah, Thank you to the entire Shia chat team. May Allah reward you all for your efforts in maintaining a platform for Muslims to share their thoughts and passion for understanding our beloved religion, Al Islam. And may Allah reward those coming here seeking to find closeness to Allah. SubhanAllahi wa bihamdihi
  47. 1 point
    BTW, there is nothing new here. It has always been British policy to divide and conquer. So they have created these fake mullahs to divide us. I firmly believe as long as we stay true to our marajae and our azadari, they will never be able to divide us.
  48. 1 point

    Hajj vs Kerbala

    Ziyaraats, while having numerous rewards is not a substitute for hajj. Hajj is obligatory on you if you are physically and financially capable.Unless there is a specific ruling issued by a marja boycotting hajj or similar, Hajj comes first.
  49. 1 point

    Tell Me Something Good For Once

    You are breathing
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