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  1. 21 points

    forgive me for Ziarat

    Salam I will go to Ziarat of Karbala & other holy site about a week from this Thursday please forgive me
  2. 14 points
    Well. You can start with being "polite" and being "respectful" by not referring to it as the "Shia religion". You are insinuating it is distinct from Islam, especially by claiming you "became" a Muslim aged 15, as if being Twelvers are not.
  3. 13 points
    A resounding and empathetic no. One needs to look at how Imam Zain al-Abidin (عليه السلام) and how he wept for his father and family after Karbala. In my personal experiences, I've had many heartbreaks and the pain never goes away, but like an incurable disease, I'm managing it with hobbies, positive thoughts, family, Islam and good friends. I'll never get over being looked or treated differently for being disabled. I will never forget family I never said bye to, being betrayed numerous times or watching family wither and die from cancer. Time does not heal, it simply manages the pain and puts it in a tidy, little box. To quote Maya Angelou: "But still, like dust, I'll rise."
  4. 12 points
    Salam, I do think that a lot of women out there can be oblivious when it comes to the behaviour of men. I think women need to be educated to understand the psychology of men and how their brain functions. The things I am going to say may also relate to women, but in my opinion, this is something which refers to men a bit more. I may even sound harsh at times, but trust me, I am trying to be honest. Also, I'm not saying this is always the case as there's always exceptions. Firstly, being excessively charming, sweet, nice to men, be it in real life or over the text, puts you in a vulnerable position. I do not deny the fact that you may have pure intentions, but sometimes being overly nice allows men to develop certain feeling towards you, even if it may be extremely subtle. It’s an entirely different story if you are interested in a specific guy and want to show a bit of your care and affection towards them, obviously within boundaries. However, being excessively nice to every John, Bob and Harry, is not the best way to carry yourself. It’s okay to be blunt at times. Let men out there know that you’re not easy. Secondly, there is a social experiment conducted which you can find on Youtube – ‘Guys and Girls Can’t Be Friends’. Even according to psychology, it is not possible for those who are non-mahram to each other to be ‘friends’. Women can sometimes be oblivious when it comes to this reality. Be careful when a brother is playing around with you. You have no idea how the brain of a man works. There may be exceptions due to age barrier etc. but the majority of guys out there will develop some feelings towards you and an emotional attachment. I wouldn't call this lust, but it could be an excessive admiration, love or even attraction. Even if your friendship is dead-ended, and a guy knows there is no potential for halal growth, he may be carelessly taking short-term temporary pleasure by talking to you the way he would speak with his mates. It's just a heads up for every sister out there. What are your thoughts?
  5. 12 points
    Many of the topics I discuss may be somewhat undesirable for many Muslims. It's not only in ShiaChat, but in my local community. I may be wrong, but there is indeed a good intention behind this, partly based on my very own experience. I was raised by a very strict father, and I was even stricter than him in terms of religion (never missed the 51 rakats nor daily morning duas, nor allowed leisure time based on anything else than philosophical and theological books). Yet still I exploded and fell into sin because I wasn't realizing I was repressing my ideas and my nafs unjustly, and I felt proud of that. Many youth within our communities develop a lot of questions and doubts regarding not only their religion, but their social customs, roles, interactions, taboos, etc. And oftenly, they don't separate religion from that, because both come from the SAME source: parents. At certain point, these customs start clashing with their goals and lifestyle (haram partying, early arranged marriages, etc.). If it wasn't for these clashes, they wouldn't start questioning their faith, how they experiment it, how their families follow Islam, etc. Can't go sleep to my friend's house, nor go partying with friends, nor avoid arranged marriage with an Iraqi or whatever culture I feel little to no connection to it, etc. These youth may also, at the same time, be discriminated for being Muslims, and judged by ideas conmonly defended by Muslims (views on feminism, women's role in society, lgbt issues, etc.). This is an unevitable secularist force, that we may shun with bad words, or start talking openly about it. And this is done with reasonable ideas (not merely based on Islam, because Westerners know no Islam). We have to shield youth with a mentality and a logic that may make them able to argue and defend the ideas they were educated in by Islam, IN CASE they feel comfortable with them (otherwise they just don't believe in Islam, and that is up to Allah to guide or not guide people). The point of all this is not to change Islam, but to leave the doors of debate always open, with good manners instead of prejudices against Western ideas, nor censorship, nor backwards mentality. This, my friends, will encourage youth not to develop an extreme reaction against Islam and their culture altogether when circumstances are against them. And this reaction, the more extreme it is, the harder it is to return to Islam. And we will want to return, for sure we will, when the strength of youth is not present, nor the ferocity of innovative ideas, nor revolutionary movements nor the passion of making new friends and develop new ideas. When sickness and weakness, and the shadow of death is our only companion in solitude, when we feel really useless, at that time, we will want to go back to the God we unjustly forgot. Many SCers have precisely contacted me when they started feeling doubts, when they started "that phase". I'm not so much worried with the phase, but with the idea of forgetting God and Islam, closing the door. We may have our times where we forgot our prayers, focus on friends and work and fun. But be careful with leaving religion completely forgotten. Always keep something with you, leave the door open, consider you will want to go back and focus on your faith. Leave that good niyyah in you. There may be many points you feel hard to accept, many of them probably social rather than religious (as the recently discussed women's social issues). Be open, discuss whatever you like, share your opinions, find someone to hear them. Don't feel apart, don't feel an alien within the Islamic community, as it is more diverse and more welcoming than you would ever expect if you keep trying. You will find people like you, who hold a special place for Islam in their hearts, with whom you will feel not alone, and you will see that the beauty you found in this religion isn't necessarily linked with what may make you hate your life, your origins or your family's customs. Youth in my local community have almost entirely left Islam. Saying this because it's way easier and less hard to prevent this than to fix it. Let's put things easier for youth to speak out their doubts, their worries, their desires and interests in life, let's try to judge less, let's make an effort to understand nowaday mentality, see why it matters and why it convinces so many youth people. It's hard to reach conviction without doubt. Doubt is the principle of any talib al ilm. So instead of repressing your doubts and yourself out of external pressure, consider being open, question anything that clashes with your life, and use your reason to find the best of all ideas and approaches. In this convenient way, pressure won't kill you nor make you have undesirable reactions towards your society, family, religion, and, in the end, against yourself.
  6. 12 points
    Salaam I’m an 18 year old Shi’a Syeda and am looking to get married soon as Islam has encouraged the virtues of marriage and the Ahlul Bayt have emphasised the blessings of marriage especially that at a young age. But I’m a disabled person in a wheelchair and I often wonder if anyone would want to marry a girl like me. Whether I would add anything of value to my husband’s life. Whether Islam has said anything about this? Any advice would be appreciated JazakAllah
  7. 11 points
    Salam guys, maybe I'm asking for too much, but could you please make dua for me? I have my entry test for med school next week and in mid april they'll tell me if I got accepted to med school or not. So could you guys pleas make dua for me that I'll inshallah get accepted ? Thankyou in advance
  8. 11 points
    Member has been warned and suspended. It is very sad when incidents like this are used to spread fitna and YH propaganda. Please recite Al Fatiha for those who were murdered while observing Salat Al Juma' (Friday Prayers). May Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) help their grieving families. May Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) help the Muslim communities of New Zealand and elsewhere to come together and support each other in this time of tragedy and grief. The count of dead is up to 49 now
  9. 10 points
    @Ralvi @ShiaMan14 @Anonymous2144 @layman @eThErEaL @islam25@Abu Nur @Ashvazdanghe How do you see his lecture?
  10. 10 points
    I am in a wheelchair too and wonder the same thing, my advice to you is to not concern yourself with caste or culture, follow Islamic principles and Islam will reward those will be in our lives as our spouses.
  11. 10 points
    Hi all, I posted on this site when I was pregnant with my son last year for advice. I fell pregnant to a Shia Muslim man and he decided he wanted nothing to do with me or his son because of his family circumstances (hes not married). His reasons for not wanting to see his son are because he did not want a child and his family would disown him if they found out. He also stated he did not want to be with me (after a 3 year relationship) which was all one sided and kept secret from his family. I posted on this site asking advice on whether to tell his parents or not. I decided not to tell his parents as I did not want him to be left without a home. I tried everything in my power to have him in my sons life. However, his decision was final. I accepted the fact that he did not want anything to do with us. He helps finanically and I appreciate this more than anyone will ever know. I finally reached out to his sister when my son was 7 weeks old. To my surprise she wanted to see us both and have a relationship with my son. She confirmed that his mother and father (father more so) would not allow their son back into their lives if they found out about me and my son. I finally told my sons father that I reached out to his sister and he is fine with that. However, he still does not want anything to do with my son. Sorry for the long post! I thought I would just give a little background information about my situation. I have thought about converting to Islam for a long time now. I have family who are Muslim who I do not have a relationship with due to personal family reasons and have always wondered about what my life would be like if I did see them and I was brought up in Islam. I would like to know more about Shia Islam and read books before I make my decision. So I guess I am looking for books, websites and any one in my area - London, who could kindly help. Any advice would be greatly appreciated Thank you
  12. 10 points

    Thoughts 2019

    I request prayers for my youngest sister's husband. He was diagnosed with an inoperable tumor on his brain stem. They will be getting a second opinion, and are looking into non-surgical treatments such as radiation and chemotherapy, but are really frightened right now, have no idea what to expect. My sister and her husband are quite young, and are parents of four young daughters who need their father.
  13. 10 points
    Salam, I just came back tonight from Mecca. There has been a crackdown by the new government on wahhabi behavior and treatment to the visitors in general. So this is why you and I have noticed a difference in treatment. I used to recall when some Shia brothers would recite Dua Tawassul out loud, the guards would tell them to go away or to stop reciting.... this time I just saw a guard stare (and not doing anything) at two Shia brothers recite dua tassaul our loud while crying profusely. I would like show my appreciation towards them for being experts in crowd control. Although it is annoying that they don’t let us kiss the Shrine or the tomb and they don’t let us stand for long in front of the sacred tombs, you can only imagine how crowded and unmanageable things would get if they didn’t put any restrictions at all (it would be like the situation you find at the blackstone).
  14. 9 points
    Abu Hadi

    Lack of morals (rant)

    Bismillah Ta'la فَاذْكُرُونِي أَذْكُرْكُمْ وَاشْكُرُواْ لِي وَلاَ تَكْفُرُونِ Remember Me, and I will remember you and be grateful to Me and do not deny Me. Holy Qur'an 2:152 So on this site, you are seeing the result of not taking the advice (above) from the Holy Qur'an. When people attempt to construct their own moral system based on their limited knowledge, what their parents told them, what they saw on a tv show, what is in 'fashion' at the time, etc, the result is that they are left to their own devices. This is the root cause of lack of morals.
  15. 9 points
    Salam he physically is helping us , his position is like as times that our Imams were in prison but they were helping & guiding Shias from long time prisons & they never missed contact with their Shias only difference is that he is not in any prison of any tyrant & doesn’t has pledge of any tyrant on his shoulder but as Imam Sadiq (عليه السلام) said is like as sun behind clouds & still benefits us althought we don’t have have access to him & can’t see him but he is still present remotely in our life
  16. 9 points

    Middle aged man wants to marry my daughter

    What does your daughter think of him? That's what's really important.
  17. 9 points
    Fiqh and akhlaq are separate. While this may be allowed in fiqh, a man who does such a thing has absolutely no akhlaq and his wife is plagued with such a husband. Just because this behaviour is allowed in terms of fiqh doesn't mean it's the right decision. Please tell this man to wake up and appreciate his wife for the gem she is, otherwise he won't know her value till she's gone and realises she's worth so much more. A woman like that is worth a man who respects her and treats her like a queen. Not like a little doll he uses every now and then. Do men really have no conscience?
  18. 8 points

    How do you get over loving someone?

    Salaam, This will be a long read so get ready. All started in early 2018 before my GCSEs. One of my cousins messages me (let's give her a fake name eh Amina at the time she is 18/19 this year and I'm 15/16). We start to message a bit here and there, the 2 years ago (2016) I actually visited her in a holiday to Pakistan. Anyway as the weeks went by you can guess what happened I started to kind of like her. Then the GCSEs rolled around and I did quite well in them and I turned 16 on the results day and at this point I still haven't confessed anything to anyone (just briefly mentioned it to my Mom and Sister). Now let's skip to just after the summer holidays (September time) during that entire year messaging was on and off and by now I really really like her. It was around this time I also found out that I would be going to Pakistan and staying at her house for a wedding (December time) , but the weird thing is from this point to December there was little/no contact with her. But eventually the Christmas holidays came round and I got to Pakistan, at the airport Amina and her family were there, the moment I laid eyes on Amina, I knew I had fallen in love. But I never told anyone and kept it quiet for the whole trip. During the stay I made sure that I spent as much time with her as possible without actually doing anything or giving anything away. You see the only time I would spend with her is at restaurants (I would always insist that we took the WHOLE family along just so she would come too) (with the whole family) or sitting in the house (again with the whole family) in the whole trip I must've exchanged a few sentences here and there, there was one time when she bought me tea though. I must've drank 200 cups while I was down there just for an excuse of going to the kitchen which was next to her bedroom) midly creepy? I know). Anyway wedding happened we came home and that. Then I realised that this cannot go on forever and I must speak to my Mom now that I'm actually in love with her... So I spoke to my Mom and she said to basically work my way into getting an answer. If Amina would be interested in marriage or whether she wouldn't be interested in marriage with me. The fateful day came I remember the exact message she sent she said "I'm not feeling comfortable and I'm not interested in love". I cannot even begin to describe the physical and emotional pain I went through. Her messages were sent at midday on the 27/01/19 and I cried from that time until I went to sleep and if humans could cry in their sleep I would be crying during my sleep too. Physically I felt sick I could not stop the tears and I had an immense headache, my eyes hurt and just felt like dying. The next day the said sorry and I cried uncontrollably for an hour, I never meant for her to feel sorry. I remember that day I had an exam but I took the day off, she got angry about that.... But then she discussed the situation with me and I wrote an entire essay about why I love her, she then said "I will give u one chance." I was overjoyed understandably. Then we talked boy to girl for sometime. I learned she was very interested in studying and education and she would only be interested in love after that which which would be about 5 years from now... And she just wanted to speak normal, I told her that this was sad to hear and she became sad then too, she said "This love creates disturbance in your studies." It was hard to hear this but she said that she promises to think about love after she completes all her studies. But then I failed some exams and had to shut everything down to try harder in college, we even said our goodbyes.... After the next set of exams finished I messaged her again but the conversation was dead she wasn't saying anything her only response was "Hm" (which is very common amongst Pakistanis in messaging apparently). I told her I need to ask some serious questions now and she breaks her promise about thinking about love after her studying, at this point I was surely contemplating suicide, I told her I wanted to die. On that night I went to the window to kill myself but I was saved. I asked her if I should wait for her after her studying or forget about her forever she said "Plz leave me, Plz" That was it. Her final words? "Allah Hafiz". That was 71 days ago today and the pain has not since ceased. It is simply unexplainable unless you have been through the same thing (God FORBID THAT ANYONE GO THROUGH THIS). I was hoping things would've settled down by now but they haven't. Now even my Mom and Sister (who went through something similar) cannot relate and are tired of my sadness and my occasional outbursts of depression. I want to move on but I can't. How do you stop loving someone who you loved so much? Ali~Jay
  19. 8 points

    Seriously Mohammed Hijab?!?

    Arguing with ignorant people is a waste of time.
  20. 8 points

    I don't know

    About 6 months ago I lost my mind I don’t know how to explain it but I can’t think clearly like the way I use to I lost my memory my knowledge my mindset and my personality I don’t really know how it happened and I’ve been having panic attacks and mental break downs the for almost half a year almost everyday I don’t know why this happened it was after Ramadan I remember being a good person and religious and trying to get closer to Allah and this happened all of a sudden I’ve been making Duas non stop and taking medication and trying to convince myself that Allah is helping me but I’ve relaized that I’m just lying to myself...I’ve experienced stuff like this many times the past few years and gotten over it but this is the worst I’m to the point where I feel like I just hate Allah and don’t want to pray anymore and I feel like he’s just ignoring me or he’s not real this is really serious I don’t know what to do
  21. 8 points
    Yeah you really have to trust someone before meeting them irl. That's the thing people can turn out to be completely different people. It probably can shock you. I personally met @Ruqaya101 and @3wliya_maryam as they were at my uni, and they were legit the same as they are online.
  22. 8 points
    I might make an exception for you and just a few others. It's easy to pretend to be one person online and be totally different in real life. It's also shockingly easy to online-stalk someone who mistakenly trusts you.
  23. 8 points

    Discrepancies of men and women

    Islam assigns the role of Head of the Household to men. As such, all that a married man earns, he owes to his household. Men and women both are required to be comfort and security to each other. That is the extent of Islamically assigned gender roles, nothing more. All other assignments are either cultural, or have arisen out of convenience. Imam Ali wrote a letter about how to be a leader. Everyone should read it.
  24. 8 points
    Innaa lillahi Wa Innaa Ilayhi Raaji'oon. "Indeed to Allah we belong, and to Him we return." 2:156. (fatiha) Condolences to all.
  25. 8 points

    Thoughts 2019

    I was able to get my cockatiel on my arm for the first time.
  26. 8 points

    Obeying Imam Ali in Qur'an

    ٩_١٠٠ وَٱلسَّٰبِقُونَ ٱلْأَوَّلُونَ مِنَ ٱلْمُهَٰجِرِينَ وَٱلْأَنصَارِ وَٱلَّذِينَ ٱتَّبَعُوهُم بِإِحْسَٰنٍۢ رَّضِىَ ٱللَّهُ عَنْهُمْ وَرَضُوا۟ عَنْهُ وَأَعَدَّ لَهُمْ جَنَّٰتٍۢ تَجْرِى تَحْتَهَا ٱلْأَنْهَٰرُ خَٰلِدِينَ فِيهَآ أَبَدًۭا ۚ ذَٰلِكَ ٱلْفَوْزُ ٱلْعَظِيمُ And (as for) the foremost, the first of the Muhajirs and the Ansars, and those who followed them in goodness, Allah is well pleased with them and they are well pleased with Him, and He has prepared for them gardens beneath which rivers flow, to abide in them forever; that is the mighty achievement. (9:100) Who are foremost? The first one who accepted/exhibited his Islam and prayed with the Prophet Muhamamd saww 7 years before others is Imam Ali As. He also migrated. His role on the night of Hijra is also unforgettable because of sleeping on the bed of the Prophet Muhammad when all the kufrars were gathered for killing of the Prophet (Naooz Billah). It is well known that ‘Ali was the first Muslim. lbn Hisham recorded that ‘Ali Ibn Abu Talib was the first male to believe in the Messenger of God and that he prayed with him while he was 10 years old.2 It is reported that when the time of prayer came the Messenger used to go outside Mecca accompanying ‘Ali to offer their prayer then come back in the evening. It is reported that Anas Ibn Malik said: "The Messenger was commissioned on Monday and ‘Ali believed in him on Tuesday."3 Muhammad lbn Majah in his Sunan and Al-Hakim in his Mustadrak reported that ‘Ali said: "I am the servant of God and the brother of His Messenger and I am the greatest believer in his Prophethood. No one says this after me but a liar. I prayed seven years before the rest of the people."4 Al-Hakim reported that Salman Al-Farisi said that the Messenger of God said: "The first one of you to drink from the Basin on the Day of Judgement is your first Muslim ‘Ali son of Abu Talib."5 Imam Ahmad Ibn Hunbul recorded that Maaqal Ibn Yasar said that the Messenger of God said to his daughter Fatima: "Would it not please you that I have married you to the first Muslim in my nation their most knowledgeable and their wisest?"6 https://www.al-Islam.org/brother-Prophet-Muhammad-Imam-Ali-Mohammed-Jawad-chirri/4-first-Muslims ٥٨_٢٢ لَّا تَجِدُ قَوْمًۭا يُؤْمِنُونَ بِٱللَّهِ وَٱلْيَوْمِ ٱلْءَاخِرِ يُوَآدُّونَ مَنْ حَآدَّ ٱللَّهَ وَرَسُولَهُۥ وَلَوْ كَانُوٓا۟ ءَابَآءَهُمْ أَوْ أَبْنَآءَهُمْ أَوْ إِخْوَٰنَهُمْ أَوْ عَشِيرَتَهُمْ ۚ أُو۟لَٰٓئِكَ كَتَبَ فِى قُلُوبِهِمُ ٱلْإِيمَٰنَ وَأَيَّدَهُم بِرُوحٍۢ مِّنْهُ ۖ وَيُدْخِلُهُمْ جَنَّٰتٍۢ تَجْرِى مِن تَحْتِهَا ٱلْأَنْهَٰرُ خَٰلِدِينَ فِيهَا ۚ رَضِىَ ٱللَّهُ عَنْهُمْ وَرَضُوا۟ عَنْهُ ۚ أُو۟لَٰٓئِكَ حِزْبُ ٱللَّهِ ۚ أَلَآ إِنَّ حِزْبَ ٱللَّهِ هُمُ ٱلْمُفْلِحُونَ You shall not find a people who believe in Allah and the latter day befriending those who act in opposition to Allah and His Messenger, even though they were their (own) fathers, or their sons, or their brothers, or their kinsfolk; these are they into whose hearts He has impressed faith, and whom He has strengthened with an inspiration from Him: and He will cause them to enter gardens beneath which rivers flow, abiding therein; Allah is well-pleased with them and they are well-pleased with Him these are Allah's party: now surely the party of Allah are the successful ones. (58;22) Who are the party of Allah ie Hizab Ullah? The following verses verify and made it clear: إِنَّمَا وَلِيُّكُمُ ٱللَّهُ وَرَسُولُهُۥ وَٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُوا۟ ٱلَّذِينَ يُقِيمُونَ ٱلصَّلَوٰةَ وَيُؤْتُونَ ٱلزَّكَوٰةَ وَهُمْ رَٰكِعُونَ ٥_٥٦ وَمَن يَتَوَلَّ ٱللَّهَ وَرَسُولَهُۥ وَٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُوا۟ فَإِنَّ حِزْبَ ٱللَّهِ هُمُ ٱلْغَٰلِبُونَ Only Allah is your Vali and His Messenger and those who believe, those who keep up prayers and pay the poor-rate while they bow. And whoever takes Allah and His messenger and those who believe for a guardian, then surely the party of Allah are they that shall be triumphant. (5:55~56) Thus it provides the clear evidence that those who have followed Imam AS are those who have got the pleasure of Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى), Likewise from the above verses it is confirmed that the followers of Imam Ali Wali as and those who have followed 11 Imams after Imam Ali as are the party of Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) who will be triumphant. Also from the same Sura no. 5 the following verses also explain it: ٥_١١٩ قَالَ ٱللَّهُ هَٰذَا يَوْمُ يَنفَعُ ٱلصَّٰدِقِينَ صِدْقُهُمْ ۚ لَهُمْ جَنَّٰتٌۭ تَجْرِى مِن تَحْتِهَا ٱلْأَنْهَٰرُ خَٰلِدِينَ فِيهَآ أَبَدًۭا ۚ رَّضِىَ ٱللَّهُ عَنْهُمْ وَرَضُوا۟ عَنْهُ ۚ ذَٰلِكَ ٱلْفَوْزُ ٱلْعَظِيمُ Allah will say: This is the day when their truth shall benefit the truthful ones; they shall have gardens beneath which rivers flow to abide in them for ever: Allah is well pleased with them and they are well pleased with Allah; this is the mighty achievement. (5:119) The last part of the verses 9:100 & 5:119 has 14 letters ذَٰلِكَ ٱلْفَوْزُ ٱلْعَظِيمُ ذ ل ک ا ل ف و ز ا ل ع ظ ی م Obeying Wali is mandatory. It clarifies that obeying Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) the Prophet Muhamamd and Imam Ali as is also mandatory being Wali of believers. After Imam Ali as obeying 11 Imams is also mandatory in the light of hadith of the Prophet Muhamamd saw. wasalam
  27. 8 points
    I just got back from Umrah (alhamdullilah) and I wanted to say how impressed I was with the general treatment from the huge Sunni majority there. Almost no one interfered with me, how I prayed, etc. I found a marked change from the last time I was there (approx 10 years ago), where almost no one left me alone, and I was even kicked by a policeman while in the state of Ihram. I believe the reason for this is that there were almost zero Iranians and Shia around (I am a Western Iranian). Since there were almost no Iranians (I guess they are not granted Umrah visas) the locals seemed much more tolerant. I am sad for the Iranians, but it really made for a much better experience for our group. Thoughts?
  28. 8 points
    Salaam everyone, Insha'Allah, I am going to Umrah this weekend, I write to ask you to please forgive me if I have ever been rude or upset you in this chat. I will make dua for all of you, Insha'Allah. Wasalaam...
  29. 8 points
    I just don't understand how Sunni respect Muawiya. They claim they will reject a hadith if even one narrator is a controversial character. Yet they respect the man who went to war with their 4th righteous caliph.
  30. 8 points
    Gaius I. Caesar

    Hoda Muthana might come home.

    https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/claudiakoerner/hoda-muthana-lawsuit-isis-Trump-us-citizenship?origin=tub My opinion: I'm not happy with the news. She should not be allowed to return unless tried by court and gets thrown in a supermax prison. She has proven to be dangerous on Twitter, she does not deserve to walk to free and be with her family. She must face the consequences of her actions, regardless of her regrets. @Mohamed1993 @Islandsandmirrors @ShiaMan14 @wmehar2 @notme @Hameedeh
  31. 8 points
    Not to mention how to perform wudhu
  32. 7 points
    Abu Hadi

    Muslims in the Entertainment World

    Your last statement in your post reminds me of an incident that happened to me a few years ago. I had a work colleague at that company (I don't work there anymore) and we were working on the same project so we used to talk. As with most people, our conversations revolved around work and I would ask him where he worked before he came to that company. He was vague for a while and then after a few months of working with him, he confided in me that he used to work for the CIA in PsyOps (The Psychological Operations unit of the CIA). He was vague about this and didn't tell me for a while, because despite what many people outside the United State think, even within the US the CIA has a very bad reputation for being an immoral and shady organization and most people who work for them will never admit it. I'm surprised he did. Anyway, I asked him, because he worked in Psyops and I had read about past CIA operations within the US like 'MKUltra' and I asked him if they had ever been successful in inventing a 'brainwashing machine'. He nodded his head, very casually and said they did, and pointed to the T.V. that was mounted in the corner. I kind of laughed and didn't really think about his statement for a few years and then started thinking about all the proliferation of media that has happened in the last few years and the fact that most people are looking at a screen (either a phone, tv, computer) for the majority of their waking hours. Then I started to think about who produces the vast majority of the content they are looking at and what types of effects it must have, the repetition of looking at things over and over again that people instinctively will reject (like graphic violence and strong sexual content) but then after a while it becomes 'normal'. This is exactly the kind of brainwashing I think this guy was talking about. I honestly don't know what the solution is except to say that if some content is against your morals as a Muslim, to not watch it, period. It is sometimes hard to avoid but we need to try to do that. Most people don't, unfortunately.
  33. 7 points
  34. 7 points

    Thoughts 2019

    Congratulations to all momineen on the wiladat eve of the Imam of our time (ajtfs).
  35. 7 points

    Thoughts 2019

    Today this middle aged women (early thirties) was crying in the bus. I walked in the bus and sat at the back, and she was sitting two rows in front of me. Not a single person bothered to console her. People were casually on their phones as if their world was more important than hers. I approached her and asked her why she's upset and crying, turns out her niece was in a critical state. It was honestly so sad when I asked her, as her mouth was shaking and she was crying. But simply asking her that one question "is everything okay?" gave her so much comfort, I could sense it. Eventually she got off after a few stops and waved at me. Just a short message which I hope we all take from this. Don't be so isolated from the world, and always be in your own head. Talk to people, smile, be it even with strangers. You never know how you'll make someone's day.
  36. 7 points
    Aww I’m so sorry to hear about that. I’m sure it must have been very scary. I would though like to meet @notme, @Hameedeh, @ShiaMan14, @2Timeless, @Bakir, @ali_fatheroforphans In real life.
  37. 7 points

    Give a Salawat! [OFFICIAL THREAD]

    72 pages of 1420+ virtuous blessings we shall not cease we shall not slumber Allahumma salli `ala Muhammadin wa Aleh Muhammad, wa ajjul farrajahom
  38. 7 points
    God is unlimited in the sense that we are talking about a being or presence that transcends any human notion of culture, science, logic, society and/or rationality. He is beyond our frame of reference. He has no body, is omnipotent, ommidirectional, self-sufficient and just willed Himself into existence. A creator that said "Be" and the world began (2:117) How could she try to understand God through logic and science when He transcends our constantly evolving views on science? She has to understand that any theological issues about the existience of God must be understood through metaphysics. Can we measure, prove or rationalize an ommipotent,omniscient figure that is transcendent and has no beginning or end? What else in nature has these same qualities? Hence Islam is "submission" and we are "submitters" to God. From our perspective, there is no option but to conclude and "submit" that there is a God.
  39. 7 points
    How are you friends? I did not know where else to make this thread. Except on Shiachat. I think its a safe haven we can all return to when disturbed. As the title indicates, I have recently been exposed to a lot of nusayri especially the "zakir" speakers in the Imam bargah made by my grandfather. They steal tunes from bollywood then sing their praises which are too excessive. Last night during his song one of them called Imam Ali (عليه السلام) "the God of nusayris" and the speaker before him read polytheistic poetry. That is when I left. How hurt would Ali (عليه السلام) be to hear that title. I also don't think its praising. The people here are poor and pretty ignorant and have been brain washed by speakers who hate the maraja and scholars. Its very bad. Of course it was foretold that the Shia will be tested and milled like the grain so that chaff will be separated from the flour. But since along with the other progeny of my grandfather I also will be held responsible nevertheless for lending the pulpit to such people. So I have thought of a solution. I implore and encourage all senior and knowledgeable members to also share their thoughts. My solution is simple. There is a room where the speakers have to wait and then inside the hall there is a stage. I will get two signs made and put on display in both places so they can see. On it I will write "Attention: People who do not do taqleed please do not approach the mimbar e Rasool (the pulpit)". And "Any polytheism, hate speech or political sedition or even the mention of the word nusayri is strictly prohibited in any form. In case of breach of these guidelines the organizers will not be held responsible". In fact I will make a few of these display cards and put them all over their waiting room and the passage to the stage to be sure. I am sorry I seem to always bring drama oriented contribution to the site. But its a serious thing. I don't know of another community that may be mostly intact or won't decide to attack me instead on this. If you can think of any improvements please suggest them. I will be eternally grateful of course. I really don't want to burn in the oven with the polytheists so help me.
  40. 7 points
    Islam is not a religion which teaches against being wealthy. Presupposing one pays Zakat (if applicable) and Khums (if meeting the threshold) - what exactly is the problem? If we had an ummah of faqeer, poor people, how can anyone be of practical, financial use to others and helping the downtrodden? Imam Zainul Abideen (عليه السلام) used to go around undercover with a sack of food and distributing it to the poor. We also have supplications for rizq or provisions. The problem is when people see wealth as an ends rather than means. It is honestly how one spends. Granted it is a lot easier to be distracted with temptations of the dunya and to forget the akhirah. But we should not have an attitude that wealth in itself is inherently wrong.
  41. 7 points
    No. Piousness should match your own, but general compatibility is very important too. Ideally, your spouse will be your best friend and companion for life. If there is a chance that you and he might just take some time to get used to each other, take your time. But if you absolutely don't see yourself spending your life with this person, cut things off immediately to reduce heartbreak.
  42. 7 points

    Thoughts 2019

    Outside the mosque of my university, some non-Muslims sent beautiful messages to the Muslim community. It's nice to know that there are a lot of good people in this world. While heartless morons, scumbags and sloths like Fraser Annging (our senator) exist in Australia, they don’t represent the general public. I personally have more non-Muslim friends, and all of them respect me for who I am. We all go to the same uni and are able to relate to each other. Let's not think that we're aliens just because of this event. Let's not think that no one accepts us for who we are. We need to realise that we're all human beings at the end of the day. Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) has programmed us with qualities which common to all human beings, such as love, respect and empathy. If some psychopath lacks these fundamental qualities, he's just not a human being.
  43. 7 points
    Alright soldier. Now out of respect for dead worshippers killed while performing a duty, you may think about leaving the discussion.
  44. 7 points
    I just checked the 'Faux' news website to see what they said. They called it an attack, and put 'terrorist' in quotes, meaning they don't even believe this is a terrorist attack, because it was committed by people who are not Muslim. I wonder how many dead before Faux news will actually call it a terrorist act when Muslims weren't involved. CNN is calling it a 'mass shooting'.
  45. 7 points

    Marriage: to stay or leave

    This relationship is very strange. First, he had a past—yet hypocritically insists on a virgin? Sorry, brother. If you (the man) isn’t a virgin, he can’t expect one in someone else. He sounds entitled. Men can’t just have their fun and then pick a woman who has never even talked with a guy. That’s not how it works. In Islam, both men and women have to guard themselves and prevent haram situations. The responsibility is not only on women. Second, what’s his freak out about you masturbating? I get that some people don’t like it in their spouse, but a person who is empathetic will understand that many people struggle and that they will try to help you overcome it. Not get angry and throw a fit. Getting angry over someone else’s struggle doesn’t help the two of you or your relationship at all. Third, mutah with a non-Muslim is haram (when one is married) according to some marja. It sounds like he’s looking for an excuse to emotionally and physically disconnect from your relationship. It has nothing to do with your past, it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with him. He’s the one being selfish. Does he think that people are masoom and sinless? Why does he expect a woman to not have desires while he fulfills every haram and every halal desire just because he’s a man? Fourth, the fact that he uses you for sex only when he wants it and it’s not a mutual thing shows that he doesn’t care about what you want at all. He seems like the kind of person to deny you sex and intimacy when you ask for it, while he expects it on demand. Very imbalanced relationship. I’m sorry, OP.
  46. 7 points

    Self love music?

    @BTS music does not cure depression. In fact most people fall into the trap of self-victimisation and self pity because of music. Certain songs play on the emotions of helplessness and loneliness and sadness, and listening to such angsty songs all the time will only make you feel trapped and chained by your sadness. It also makes you fall into the trap of narcissism. It makes you think your pain is the greatest pain in the world and no one is suffering as much as you. This doesn't apply to depression, it applies to music and how it highlights your emotions. Music is known to amplify what you're feeling. If you're feeling sad, you'll inevitably up listening to music that will convince you you're suicidal. Of course this is not always the case, and this is just my speculation, and according to my own experiences and the conversations I've had with people who've suffered from clinical depression. If you want to "cure" yourself of your depression, go to a therapist, start writing, let your emotions out in a healthy way instead of looking for reasons as to why you can't have what you want. I'm not blaming you for your depression, or anything of the sort. In fact I am very sympathetic. But the cure of a mental illness does not lie within music or anyone else for that matter. If there even is a cure for an illness like depression, I believe the cure lies within oneself. Until you love and accept yourself you wont feel any better. If you want some form of creativity that voices your emotions, and helps you feel better, find healthier and halal ways. An example is poetry. Especially spoken word poetry. I recommend Najwa Zebian and Sarah Kay. Many, many poets out there, who are very inspirational. If you want more recommendations let me know. You might think "thank you for answering my senseless question" (as you have said previously) but I haven't really given you a fiqhi answer. This is because the real issue here isn't why music is haram. The underlying issue is self love and acceptance. And how you achieve such a state. Best wishes.
  47. 7 points

    Pak Vs India

    The aims for which India launched strikes inside Pakistani territory were not achieved. They could neither hit the alleged JeM training camp (they dropped the payload in a jungle before heading back aross LoC) nor could they stop the Pakistanis from retaliating and causing them damage. This is the age of internet and smartphones. If there had been any hit on a 'terror camp' of JeM, we'd have seen at least something. A pic, a video, a witness statement - anything. I'm also waiting to see the amateur pics or videos of the downed PAF F-16 that our friends from across the border said they shot down. Again, had there been anything of this sort, we would have found amateur pics or footage on youtube before the Pak army could cover it up. There is none. But there are pics and videos of the downed Indian plane and it's pilot being rescued from the angry mob. When an Indian journalist asked a military official about proof of India's downing Pak's F-16 he was told to refer to "media reports!!!" (shouldn't the military be giving the proof to media?) The uncomfortable truth is that India is trying very hard to give out an image to their people that they have come out of this with an upper hand. Anyone who is not taking their updates from India media outlets can see this is not true.
  48. 7 points

    "I'm just a Muslim"

    So I've been attending regularly since I built up the courage to return to my local "Sunni" masjid. Has been positive really and no one had an issue. Anyway, bumped into a brother I knew from secondary school who didn't know of my transition lol. So must've been a shock to see me put down the turbah and have my arms unfolded. He was cool about it though. We spoke a bit more after salah and he said he doesn't even consider himself Sunni and he is just a Muslim, as labels cause divisions, etc. Which is a fair point, though kind of made me feel a bit negative in standing out in the way I pray. Thing is I get the whole "I'm just a Muslim" statement, it is well-intentioned. But realistically, most people who say this are praying in a "Sunni" way. Why does this method of praying mean one can be non-sectarian, yet prostrating on a turbah and praying slightly differently means one is specificially a Shi'I? Whether one wants to admit it or not, they are praying according to one madhab or another. Has anyone else come across people saying this? How do you respond to this?
  49. 7 points
    No. Space is not heaven. Heaven is beyond space and time. Going into space is just like flying in an airplane, only higher/farther. Other planets are just like islands, only up, not across the surface. Why in the world would Allah give us minds and curiosity, and then forbid us from using them to strive toward understanding of the Creation? Islam is opposed to anti-intellectualism. "Seek knowledge" is a command for humanity.
  50. 7 points
    Interesting thread with many variables to consider. Firstly keep in mind that there will always be people with an aversion to Islam; every Prophet faced rejection from great numbers of people. Secondly: there are many special interests: Indian nationalists, Chinese nationalists, white nationalists, Myanmar nationalists, Zionists, Christian evangelists, weapons industry, energy and finance, feminists, and they all want a piece of our pie. The ex-Muslims and Tawhidis of YouTube are just taking advantage of the popular sentiment against Islam. Thirdly: there are some legitimate grievances. The fear of terrorism, past oppression by Muslim empires (Shias know all about this, as do other minorities in the Muslim world - it may be overstated by some, but it is a grievance nonetheless), the use of Muslims as political pawns by some (people like Linda Sarsour, who do more good for the left than for Muslims, have collectively upset off the American whites). I also think that we have become a people who take more than they give. Our good is mainly hidden - we bring demographic balance to the West, we work and pay taxes, we are good students, and our good works are mainly confined to our community. But maybe if Muslims were more involved in local efforts and communal upliftment, people would see the benefit of having us here. Maybe if we were a people with solutions and results, and not just complaining about our state, then people would respect us. It goes without saying that YouTube is not totally representative of things, but Pew surveys seem to be indicating similar sentiments - anti-Muslims are on the rise. It’s not entirely our fault, but we have brains and we can respond to this phenomenon, we don’t have to just be victims of it.
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