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Any free Shia Islam courses?
Hameedeh and 2 others reacted to Lion of Shia for a topic
as salaam alakim! I know that there is the Qur'an eruit university, but are there other free shia courses or pre hawza courses on can take?3 points -
Any free Shia Islam courses?
Hameedeh and 2 others reacted to Ashvazdanghe for a topic
Salam it's available above your post in advertisement section ^ http://www.prehawza.com/IQRA/3 points -
Any free Shia Islam courses?
313_Waiter and 2 others reacted to Sirius_Bright for a topic
https://www.almuntazaruniversity.com3 points -
Any free Shia Islam courses?
313_Waiter and 2 others reacted to ali_fatheroforphans for a topic
Imam Mahdi Online Hawza is free3 points -
Yes, but trusting isn't easy if your husband gives you no reasons to trust him, but many many reasons to mistrust him.. She wasn't nagging . He ignored her for no reason, causing more and more doubt. And no one said that she's a saint and he an embodiment of evil. I'm just telling you what's happening. And you can believe that her version is the truth. She is just trying to get help and advice. It won't help her to tell us things that aren't true - that would lead to wrong advices.3 points
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Husband doesn't take marriage seriously
Ashvazdanghe and 2 others reacted to dragonxx for a topic
Deal with the problem one at a time, don't mix problems together. She is expressing Allah is her priority so... Problem 1, get rid of the toxicity as rkazmi33 said, in order to thrive, and it must be resolved regardless of any other problems. One's relationship with Allah is far more important than anything else, therefore what's "right" and "wrong" should be very, very clear assuming her side of the story has full merit - leave him (again, Allah permitted divorce for a reason, because sometimes its necessary to move back towards Allah). THEN worry/think about problem 2, dealing with parents in regards to your job. Last thing you want to do is live alone with a toxic husband in a big city where you can be easily victimized, extorted, etc. It's very difficult and worrying to make such decisions when you're a situation, I know, but she should try to look at her dilemma from the outside, this way it'll be easier to take logical steps and action, and not regret it.3 points -
Why do sunni hates shia
Ashvazdanghe and 2 others reacted to ShiaMan14 for a topic
To summarize the issue, baatil ( falsehood) has always hated haq (truth or righteousness). This started when Qabeel (Cain) killed Habeel (Abel) out of jealousy and has continued since then.3 points -
Why do sunni hates shia
Akbar673 and 2 others reacted to Mohammadi_follower for a topic
In short this is because we hate and/or criticize many figures they consider as holy or good and we have different practices and beliefs.3 points -
Lineage
Ashvazdanghe and one other reacted to GermanShia for a topic
Imagine my Grand Grand Grand ancestors from Fathers side are arabs but he feels turk only from a Shia ahlulbayt Point of view: if my ancestors from syria migrated to Turkey and than to Germany And i speak Turkish and german but only from Original ahlulbayt view: Would we be Counted as 1.) arabs because our lineage is arab, 2.)Turkish because our Culture today 3.) or german cause we live in german because I Heard a sunni sheikh wants sayin „if you are palastinism and your Grand Grand Grand children in whatever Generation are Born Whereever... always will be palestinian“ and is it right that „the 313 will get swords where their lineage is written“ (I don’t have the Source for the hadith sorry ) than i think we should never forget our „“real““ Family background?!? salam and thx for help!!2 points -
Using Muslim (Shia) matrimonial website
Ashvazdanghe and one other reacted to Qa'im for a topic
To answer your question Arif: rejection for reasons of attraction is valid. If the shoe were on the other foot, I'm sure you would not marry someone you're not attracted to. The Islamic response would be to respectfully disengage with the disinterested person -- no need to ask the Five W's or start a post-mortem investigation. According to online dating studies conducted by OK Cupid and Tinder, women find about 80% of men to be unattractive, 10% to be average, and 10% to be attractive. Men's looks actually matter more than society admits. There are biological reasons for this: men are built to spread their genetic influence, while women are built to make the best and safest choice in a partner. My recommendation is to upload your picture to your profile -- preferably not a selfie, but a modest full-body picture of you actually doing something. It is better than getting your hopes up in conversation and then being disappointed with the result. Almost every man on Earth has been rejected for one reason or another, so just keep moving.2 points -
Showing body parts after proposal
AmirioTheMuzzy and one other reacted to Ibn al-Hussain for a topic
The reason why I gave so much context in my blog post is because the commonly spread fatwas today do not mention all the details. However, the proof is implicitly in the fatwa itself. It is allowing you to look at the woman and her body (beyond just the neck and feet) which already implies you will be allowed to observe her curves (even with clothes on). Remember, this ruling is only applicable up until you acquire the information you need after which it is impermissible for you to look again.2 points -
Such short online edicts are often a source of confusion. Which is why I prefer that whenever a religious scholar issues them online, he/she needs to take responsibility for providing an explanation so as to leave no doubt in the precedent. For example, when it is said that you may look at a potential partner's physique without sexual gratification, it is probably meant that one is allowed to look at the potential partner's "legs and other parts" to determine whether the person has the body physique that he/she finds attractive (slim, curvy, chubby, etc.). However, because of the high risk of persons being lured into sexual gratification (especially immature boys), the edict better stress upon the respectful and moral manners of communication with potential partners before marriage.2 points
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Sistani is a true Moimin.....
habib e najjaar and one other reacted to Islandsandmirrors for a topic
I’m married to a Sunni, (who doesn’t like to be called Sunni) and my marja said it was permissible. Neither of us impose our way of doing things. I participate in Shia practices and do everything according to the Shia school of thought and he does everything that he has read within his collection of Hadiths and knowledge. So it is halal, but it depends on the person and the circumstances. No suitable Shia man was around for me, anyway. I wanted to get married and he was serious. While the men in my community wanted to stay single—even the men in their thirties. No thanks. I wasn’t going to wait around for anyone to be okay with the idea of marriage. Either you want to marry me or you don’t. No beating around the bush.2 points -
Showing body parts after proposal
Ashvazdanghe and one other reacted to Murtaza1 for a topic
Yes I agree with you to a certain extent. As they say 'beauty is in the eyes of the beholder'. What may seem pleasing to my senses may not mean same for another person. These days popular culture promotes beauty in terms of having a symmetrical face with evenly placed features and clear skin with natural skin oils. It may be hard to believe for those who are very conditioned in their mentality by the media but there are people who find the opposite of this perspective as attractive. That is the grace of Allah. No body is really ugly because its all in the mind based on our experiences and personalities. There is someone out there for everybody.2 points -
Showing body parts after proposal
Ashvazdanghe and one other reacted to Sisterfatima1 for a topic
Honestly the question was asked after proposal we aren’t talking about Random’s here the girl agreed the guy wants to see his future wife why not ?2 points -
Husband doesn't take marriage seriously
Gaius I. Caesar and one other reacted to Ralvi for a topic
Seems to me everybody is acting out of their own interests rather than what’s best for everybody... i tell you stubbornness in parents is the worst disease lol2 points -
Lineage
GermanShia and one other reacted to Hameedeh for a topic
Salam. The hadith does not mention lineage (Arab, Turk, etc.) of the holy 313, but the names (of each soldier and his father's name) will be on the swords.2 points -
Husband doesn't take marriage seriously
Ashvazdanghe and one other reacted to Mahdiyya for a topic
Yes they are muslims. But her father is not strictly religious.. No she has an older sister. But her sister isn't married yet and has a totally different lifestyle.2 points -
Showing body parts after proposal
Ashvazdanghe and one other reacted to Sisterfatima1 for a topic
Maybe he wants to check if she’s bald and it is his right to see who he is marrying without hijab2 points -
Husband doesn't take marriage seriously
Ashvazdanghe and one other reacted to BowTie for a topic
You and your husband need counseling rather than taking advice from people you don't know online. Besides during counseling it might show up that there are things about you that you're doing wrong, rather than people only seeing your side of the story. Its marriage you're talking about here, asking people online also means you might not know how serious marriage is.2 points -
Lineage
GermanShia and one other reacted to realizm for a topic
A sword could never be long enough to bear a whole lineage. Hadith must refer to something symbolic. Interesting question though...2 points -
Husband doesn't take marriage seriously
Ashvazdanghe and one other reacted to Carlzone for a topic
You are right about it being wrong to judge before hearing both parties. Counsellors are taught to never make this mistake. However, sometimes, just by hearing certain parts of a story one can tell if it's wise to continue or not. In this case it's very clear, as her deen is weakening when she's with this guy. Our souls are the most valuable thing we have. No one on this planet is worth losing our soul for.2 points -
Showing body parts after proposal
Zulfiqar1472 and one other reacted to Carlzone for a topic
Many women are not at all comfortable with showing themselves without hijab to nonmahrams. Let alone to creepy unknown men who feel that it's ok to violate his eventual future wife that way. I don't like the dishonest way of doing it behind a female's back. If you value a genuine, authentic and honest relationship, then a man who is ok with doing something like that is not an appealing man in terms of marriage. Also, if the female will say no to 99% of men, why should they see her without hijab? It's more reasonable to check if she's even interested before random dudes that she'd never consider are seeing all her beauty. When a man does get married to a female, will he be comfortable knowing that God knows how many men have seen her without hijab? Besides, a momin should want for others what he wants for himself. Is he ok with random dudes checking out his sisters or daughters? If not, then he shouldn't do it to other people's sisters or daughters either. Also, it could even be haram as some sisters are married without telling others. I know several such cases. So if a stranger woman takes a picture of them and shows it to men while the sister in fact is married - then that is a violation of both that sister and her husband. It's better to man up and talk to the sister and see her IRL in a normal environment without hiding in a bush. If they don't find eachother attractive, then that's that. No one dies. Life goes on without dishonest methods.2 points -
Women’s bodies and their choice of dress
habib e najjaar and one other reacted to Carlzone for a topic
I agree with most of what you're saying. I came to Europe as a small small child and I went to kindergarten and school and university here. All western ones. And I basically didn't have Muslim friends growing up. My parents didn't allow me to go swimming, dancing or travelling with the other kids. They didn't allow me to go to parties or anything like that. I didn't even know what alcohol smelled like until some years ago when I was on a boat travelling to another country and westerners were smelling weird. That is how I found out what alcohol smells like. And the country I live in has amongst the highest alcohol consumption levels in the world. As for TV - it's very dangerous as it brainwashes us without us realizing it. I abandoned TV perhaps 9 years ago and I don't think i would allow my kids to watch TV freely. I'd check what they want to watch. I'd encourage them to watch religious channels. Or just spend quality time together instead of being glued in front of a TV. As for raising kids, personally, I would be a stay at home mom and not allow them to go to kindergarten, because I have worked there myself and seen what they brainwash kids with. For instance that girls and boys are the same (which I myself was taught and believed for a long time), homosexuality in books as something ok and natural etc. I would not want westerners to get to my kids minds and belief systems before me. Anyway, my point is that you can stay away from all of those haram things if you want to, even in fasadspreading places. Yes, it's more difficult. And if you have the option of moving to an even better and less fadadspreading country then of course that is better. In the end I believe that what is most important is to live by Islamic standards yourself and to have a good relationship with your kids. Coz then they'd want to be like you.2 points -
Women’s bodies and their choice of dress
Ralvi and one other reacted to Soldiers and Saffron for a topic
Speaking about institutionalized fasad/haram, this came out today:2 points -
Adalat Al Sahaba And The Killer Of Ammar
Sirius_Bright reacted to Qa'im for a topic
salaam `alaykum, (حديث مرفوع) حَدَّثَنَا مُسَدَّدٌ ، قَالَ : حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الْعَزِيزِ بْنُ مُخْتَارٍ ، قَالَ : حَدَّثَنَا خَالِدٌ الْحَذَّاءُ ، عَنْ عِكْرِمَةَ ، قَالَ لِي ابْنُ عَبَّاسٍ وَلِابْنِهِ عَلِيٍّ : انْطَلِقَا إِلَى أَبِي سَعِيدٍ فَاسْمَعَا مِنْ حَدِيثِهِ ، فَانْطَلَقْنَا فَإِذَا هُوَ فِي حَائِطٍ يُصْلِحُهُ فَأَخَذَ رِدَاءَهُ فَاحْتَبَى ، ثُمَّ أَنْشَأَ يُحَدِّثُنَا حَتَّى أَتَى ذِكْرُ بِنَاءِ الْمَسْجِدِ ، فَقَالَ : كُنَّا نَحْمِلُ لَبِنَةً لَبِنَةً ، وَعَمَّارٌ لَبِنَتَيْنِ لَبِنَتَيْنِ فرآه النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ فَيَنْفُضُ التُّرَابَ عَنْهُ ، وَيَقُولُ : " وَيْحَ عَمَّارٍ تَقْتُلُهُ الْفِئَةُ الْبَاغِيَةُ ، يَدْعُوهُمْ إِلَى الْجَنَّةِ وَيَدْعُونَهُ إِلَى النَّارِ " ، قَالَ : يَقُولُ عَمَّارٌ : أَعُوذُ بِاللَّهِ مِنَ الْفِتَنِ . Ibn `Abbas said to me and to his son `Ali: Go to Abu Sa`eed and listen to what he narrates. So we went and found him at a wall fixing it. He then picked up his shawl, wore it, and sat down and started narrating until he mentioned the construction of the Mosque. So he said: We were carrying one adobe at a time while `Ammar was carrying two. The Prophet saw him and cleared the dust from him, and he said, "Woe for `Ammar, he will be killed by the rebellious group. He will be calling them to Paradise, and they will be calling him to the Fire." He said: `Ammar said: I seek refuge with Allah from the tribulations (fitan). `Ammar b. Yasir is a companion of the Holy Prophet that is revered by all Muslims. He was one of the early converts, whose parents became the first martyrs in Islam. It is famously said in the prophetic tradition above that `Ammar would be killed by a rebellious group (fi'atun al-baghiya) that would be calling him to the hellfire. Of course, `Ammar would later be killed at the battle of Siffin by Mu`awiya's troops, who were rising against the Caliph of their time, the Commander of the Faithful. Of course, the topic of Siffin has been discussed ad nauseam on these forums, and so it is not the focus of this thread. The focus is the theory of `adalat as-sahaba, which can roughly be translated as "The Uprightness of the Companions". This theory necessitates the truthfulness, trustworthiness, salvation, and righteousness of all of the Prophet's companions. This would mean that we would need to define a criteria for what a companion (sahabi) is. In Sunni thought, a companion is defined as anyone who was in the presence of the Prophet who believed in him and died upon that belief. This however is an unproven claim and it has a plethora of counter examples. Still, this theory is upheld and defended because it maximizes the amount of narrations that can be attributed to the Prophet and thereafter used in aqeeda, fiqh, tafsir, history, and eschatology. Several problems arise. What if the companions fight one another? What if the Prophet directly opposes a companion - is this companion still considered `aadil (just, good, upright, etc)? In the narration above, Abu'l Ghadiya Yasar b. Sab` al-Juhni, the narrator of hadith and murderer of `Ammar b. Yasir would definitely be a principal actor in this "rebellious group" "calling to the Fire". Abu'l Ghadiya was a companion of the Prophet according to theory of `adalat as-sahaba - meaning, he was upright, saved, and cannot possibly lie upon the Prophet , even if the Prophet called him a baghi from his own lips. (حديث مرفوع) حَدَّثَنَا عَفَّانُ ، قَالَ : حَدَّثَنَا حَمَّادُ بْنُ سَلَمَةَ ، قَالَ : أَخْبَرَنَا أَبُو حَفْصٍ ، وَكُلْثُومُ بْنُ جَبْرٍ ، عَنْ أَبِي غَادِيَةَ ، قَالَ : قُتِلَ عَمَّارُ بْنُ يَاسِرٍ فَأُخْبِرَ عَمْرُو بْنُ الْعَاصِ ، قَالَ : سَمِعْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ ، يَقُولُ : " إِنَّ قَاتِلَهُ وَسَالِبَهُ فِي النَّارِ " . فَقِيلَ لِعَمْرٍو : فَإِنَّكَ هُوَ ذَا تُقَاتِلُهُ ! قَالَ : إِنَّمَا قَالَ : قَاتِلَهُ وَسَالِبَهُ . Abi Ghadiya said: `Ammar b. Yasir was killed, so `Amr b. al-`As was informed and he said: I heard the Messenger of Allah say, "Verily, his killer and his detractor is in the Fire." So it was said to `Amr: You are the one who fought him! He said: [No] verily he said, 'his killer and his detractor'. In this narration, `Amr b. al-`As is exonerating himself from the murder of `Ammar b. Yasir (even though he was a perpetrator in the rebellion against `Ali) and applying this prophetic hadith on Abu Ghadiya. روى حماد بن سلمة عن كلثوم بن جبر عن أبي غادية قال سمعت عمارا يشتم عثمان فتوعدته بالقتل فرأيته يوم صفين يحمل على الناس فطعنته فقتلته وأخبر عمرو بن العاص فقال سمعت رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم يقول قاتل عمار وسالبه في النار Hammad b. Salama narrated from Kulthum b. Jabr from Abi Ghadiya. He said: I heard `Ammar insult `Uthman, so I promised to kill him. So I saw him on the day of Siffin, so I stabbed him and I killed him. So I informed `Amr b. al-`As and he said: I heard the Messenger of Allah say, "The killer and detractor of `Ammar is in the Fire." This report in Dhahabi's book recounts the killing of `Ammar, saying that the reason for it was `Ammar's cursing/insulting of the third Caliph. So, does the jarH of the Prophet not mean anything? Below is some statements by some of the most eminent Sunni rijal scholars who unanimously authenticated Abu Ghadiya on the basis of `adalat as-sahaba. أبو حاتم بن حبان البستي ذكره في الثقات وقال: له صحبة، وذكره مرة أخرى وقال: يروي المراسيل 2 ابن أبي حاتم الرازي سمع النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم 3 الدارقطني له صحبة 4 الذهبي صحابي، قاتل عمار بن ياسر 5 محمد بن إسماعيل البخاري سمع النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم 6 مسلم بن الحجاج النيسابوري له صحبة وقال الدوري عن بن معين أبو الغادية الجهني قاتل عمار له صحبة 1. Abu Hatim b. Hibban al-Busti mentioned him among the reliable narrators (thiqat) and said: He has companionship. And he mentioned him against and said: He narrates maraseel. 2. Ibn Abi Hatim ar-Razi: He heard the Prophet . 3. al-Darqatni: He has companionship. 4. Dhahabi: A companion, the killer of `Ammar b. Yasir. 5. Muhammad b. Isma`il al-Bukhari: He heard the Prophet . 6. Muslim b. al-Hajjaj an-Nishapuri: He has companionship. 7. Yahya b. Ma`een: Abu Ghadiya al-Juhni, the killer of `Ammar; he has companionship. The statement "he has companionship" (له صحبة) is a tawtheeq, but should it be? If Abu Ghadiya is a caller to hell, should we listen to him or pay any attention to him? His "`adaala" flies right in the face of both his actions and the Prophet's hadith, yet he is considered a just and trustworthy person by Sunni rijalists. On the other hand, these same rijalists weaken Shi`i narrators for belief in raj`a - a fairly inconsequential and trivial eschatological detail - just because of its Shii inclination. Likewise, should the rafd of certain narrators tantamount to their weakening, when it is clear that some sahaba did rafd of one another?1 point -
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Sistani is a true Moimin.....
aaljibar reacted to ali_fatheroforphans for a topic
Salam, Sistani (may Allah bless him) is a true representation of how a true and pious muslim should act. Sistani's love for ahlulbayt (as) reflects through his personality and words. I have been following him and he seems like a very peaceful and a very wise man. I just went through his statement on Shia Sunni unity and it is truly amazing knowing how loving he is towards our Sunni brothers/sisters. I wish more Sunni scholars had let go of their egos and put aside the differences and consider us shias as muslims (not these kafir labels). Sistani is a huge Shia figure and for him to say the following words, shows how less of an ego he has. Most scholars today unfortunately love to attack other sects and label them "kafir". This is nothing but ignorance by imposing your own views. I have realised that this is why Shia Sunni unity can't happen because many sunni scholars aren't willing to associate with us Shias. Name me a Sunni scholar(a very big figure) who would be so open-minded for a Sunni to pray in a Shia mosque. The following are some of his statements: - "There is no real difference between Shiite and Sunni beliefs, and I am the servant of all Iraqis [either Sunni or Shiite],” he emphasizes. “I love everyone, and this religion [Islam] is the religion of love,”. - "We should attend Sunnis’ Friday prayers more than Shiite’s. We do not discriminate between Arabs and Kurds, and Islam has collected all of us" - "This kind of conferences are highly important, since they help Shiites and Sunnis find out that there is no real difference between their beliefs, and the difference simply is on legal (Fiqh) issues" I don't mean to attack my Sunni brothers and sisters but It hurts me when we are labelled 'Kafir' by Sunnis. Why can't we all put our fiqh issues aside and be one unit. Going to a sunni mosque in my university and praying in our Shia way leaves such a "frightened look" in so many sunnis faces.1 point -
Using Muslim (Shia) matrimonial website
Ashvazdanghe reacted to ArifHussainRajabali for a topic
(Bismillah) Salaam Alaykum I am in a dilemma with using online matrimonial website and I am not sure what to do. Recently, I was getting to know someone for marriage. I saw her picture but she hadn't had seen mine yet. The conversation went really well and we were hitting it off. After about an hour or two of talking, I showed her my picture and she suddenly changes her mind and says essentially (paraphrasing) that I am an amazing person but attraction is important for her too and she wasn't feeling that and just like that, she ended it. Earlier in the conversation she was really impressed and "mind blown" with how I converted to Islam, asking me about my ziyarat experience, hawsa and so on. But it seems like none that about me mattered anymore because of the attraction. Its happened before too. One girl after seeing my full length picture declined (I am not fat or obese, I am a regular at gym and sports), another had similar issues. I am starting to draw the conclusion that it really does not matter how "amazing" and "mind blowing" someone is, its means zilch, if you don't like their face? I guess my questions are: 1) How much importance should attraction hold? 2) From now onwards, should I just get a picture swap done straight away to avoid a repeat? Having said all this, I do agree that there can be a nervousness about speaking to someone who hasn't shown you their picture yet (for whatever reason) and you're slightly worried that what if you just don't feel any chemistry when you do see their picture and how do you break that too them. So from one perspective, I am glad these girls were just honest. As you can see, I am confused. What's the moral/right way of going about all this?1 point -
Your Own Captured Photos
Ibn Al-Ja'abi reacted to AnaAmmar1 for a topic
Tour to Fairy Meadows, GB Region, Pakistan. This mountain is called Nanga Parbat aka The Killer Mountain because of the large number of mountaineering deaths. It was considered an unclimbable mountain during winters. However in 2016, it was climbed for the first time in February. I woke up at 5 am in freezing cold just to capture this moment because the camping site owner told me that when first sun rays hit the top of the mountain its looks like the top is made up of gold and man, he was right. That was pretty awesome to witness.1 point -
Ate/Eating/Will Eat?
PureExistence1 reacted to starlight for a topic
I meant that for keto diet where one replaces carbs with fats, so when fats are the substrate being burnt for energy one can safely consume them in increased amount. For cardiac health it's recommended to replace saturated fats with poly and monounsaturated fats.1 point -
Showing body parts after proposal
Zulfiqar1472 reacted to Carlzone for a topic
It's also a matter of a female's sense of dignity and selfworth. You can be certain that you are very attractive and have loads of suitors desperate to marry you yet still feel very uneasy being treated like cattle. I think it's a matter of self respect. At the same time there are females who aren't particularly attractive at all yet they are willing to show everything to anyone.1 point -
Showing body parts after proposal
Ashvazdanghe reacted to Ralvi for a topic
And Iam not denying it. Of course it plays a role. But I think we shouldn’t demand if it they don’t think it’s comfortable. I feel it’s already nice(or a privileged position) becuase you’re serious you can actually look at her now. Because it’s advised to not look at women in general. Because of the prospects of marriage and if you’re serious, you can do all the googly eyes you want lol1 point -
Using Muslim (Shia) matrimonial website
Ashvazdanghe reacted to Nevsevug for a topic
Attraction plays a major part in a relationship like this. People may have different opinions on what attracts them but everyone needs to feel physically attracted to their spouse. But I can see why this would upset you. You may feel like there’s something wrong with you because these women reject upon seeing you. This may not be the case. You may just not look how they imagined you to look, or what kind of physical appearance they are attracted to. Don’t feel sorry for yourself about this. I know it seems shallow but you cannot really blame someone for not marrying someone they aren’t attracted to. Also, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I have been told many times I’m beautiful by both men and women, but I’ve also been told that I’m not attractive. I may be conventionally good looking (good skin, slim, medium height, even facial features, good shaped eyes, cheekbones, jaw etc) but I may just not be good looking for a lot of people out there. There are celebrities that are considered some of the best looking people in the world but there are others who think they are nothing special. It’s also obvious you look after yourself which plays a big part in your appearance, so I don’t think you have anything to worry about when it comes to how you look. I do think you should probably ask for the picture swap earlier in the conversation with someone. It will save you the pain of rejection later on, especially if you’ve already created a good rapport withthe potential girl. Good luck1 point -
Women’s bodies and their choice of dress
Hayy ibn Yaqzan reacted to Soldiers and Saffron for a topic
Of course not everyone can move back home and moving to a better place does not necessarily mean back home, could even mean to another place in the west that is not as muslim hostile. I am happy you have not seen much fasad where you live in the country you live in Europe, where I live it is institutionalized, which means they systematically teach your kids to do haram. I think you will find groups of good people and groups of bad people in every country, but the difference is when you turn on your TV in the living room and a naked women is in your face. Or when the kids cartoon teach your children that its okay to have two fathers and the characters are having haram relationships. Or when they want to force my daughter to swim and dance with the boys in her class. Or when they tell my child that evolution theory is not theory but factual proof. Or when alcohol is spread out thru every layer of society, where the parents let their kids try their alcohol for the first time. Or when I have to fear for my wife when she walks out with a hijab on. I could go on for hours. That is not the environment I want to live in nor raise my offspring in. As a man who travels for a living I can say first hand that every society has its negatives and positives, if we are lucky in life we get to chose which negatives we want in our life. Spiritual deprivation and institutional submission to ones nafs are not the kind of negatives I wish to have in my life nor for my family. Theres a difference between living in a society in which haram is offered openly, in fact in certain cases enforced upon you, and living in a society in which you have to make an active effort in order to achieve it.1 point -
Showing body parts after proposal
Ashvazdanghe reacted to Murtaza1 for a topic
I am glad there is modesty @Abu Hadi. Some other people here talk as if it involves nudity. I think we have to be careful how we discuss this topic so people do not get mislead. Even as a man grown up in the west this topic sounds uncomfortable to me because i have empathy for the ladies. This is purely my perspective because of the types of society we live in the west. Some ladies were happy to take off their hijab and show me photos of themselves in their everyday home clothes without me asking when we talked more seriously about marriage. I wondered why they did that but i have the answer now. Jazakalah.1 point -
Husband doesn't take marriage seriously
Ashvazdanghe reacted to Carlzone for a topic
God bless you for being so clear sighted! Sometimes the weird (or quite frankly retarded) thought patterns that are pervasive within certain cultures in the shia community are themselves the root causes to people being destroyed in abusive marriages. Females are taught to accept abusive disrespectful males as husbands. To have "sabr". These men are not going to change. And those poor girls are expected to make up for the faults of these abusive males. Girls need to be taught to value themselves and to never ever accept an abusive or disrespectful husband. And when these abusive men see that no female wants to marry them and that only the good guys are getting accepted - then they may find motivation to change for the better coz they will be losing out if they don't. That is how a community creates change and not by sacrificing poor innocent girls. By the way this is partially the girl's fault as well coz she accepted a man with characteristics that go against Islamic recommendations. If he has bad deen or akhlaaq she should say no immediately.1 point -
Thoughts 2019
AnaAmmar1 reacted to Heavenly_Silk for a topic
Think of the end goal and how you’ll feel once you actually complete it all. Then take small steps in actually getting it done. Maybe even rate how you feel before and after so it gives you motivation for next time (even though you already know, it’s good to have it in front of you sometimes).1 point -
Yemen
313_Waiter reacted to Ashvazdanghe for a topic
Salam making dua & praying for them from our deepest part of our heart helps them more than giving money specially from you that you concerns heavily about them it's a call between Iranians that recite Dua Jawshan Sagheer for their sake like as it helped Hizbullah against Israel in 33 day war http://en.abna24.com/news//un-calls-for-removal-of-Saudi-blockade-on-yemen_919646.html1 point -
Does Syeda Fatima (s) Menstruate?
Gaius I. Caesar reacted to Ibn al-Hussain for a topic
Not every scholar holds such a belief. Wasalam1 point -
How do you know when Allah completely cut you off
HezbiTruth reacted to Abu Nur for a topic
Sister only Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى knows. Sabr (patience) is essential in this matter, and we can only ask Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى mercy in every trial we observe. Alhamdulillah that you continue your prayers, May Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى bless you for it.1 point -
Why am i so ugly
HezbiTruth reacted to Fakeha for a topic
You can recite surah-e-yousuf for that sister but before that please think and answer! Do you know Allah makes you with so much love that you could ever imagine We have certainly created man in the best of stature; Surah Al-tin:4 this He sends for you.. When He is calling you the best then does anyone else matter?? When your Creator creates you the best does anyone else matter?? Why are calling yourself ugly?? You are a creation of احسن الخالقىن ... You are beautiful dear because Your Creater is beautiful and He creates beautiful Stay blessed!!1 point -
lol @onereligion everything you just said was already explained to you, but now I realize I'm just wasting my time here and for that I will leave you with this quote from Imam Ali (as) the first successor of the Prophet "The moment you start arguing with an ignorant fool, you have already lost."1 point
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Sahih al bukhari is considered unreliable with many fabrications, atleast to us. We follow the authentic ahadith of the Prophet and the 12 imams, and they never made it permissible to prostrate on anything but the earth. Here are some other examples: Once the Messenger of Allah saw a person prostrating beside him, with his turban covering his forehead. The Messenger of Allah removed the turban from the person's forehead. `Ayyad ibn `Abd Allah al-Qarashi says: "The Messenger of Allah saw a person prostrating on part of his turban, so he gestured to him to remove (that part of) the turban, pointing to his forehead." And here is one from Imam as-Sadiq (a): "Prostration on the earth is obligatory while prostrating on a straw mat is a sunnah" There are many other ahadith that support this as well. In your sunni book Ighathatul Lahfan, the student of Ibn Taymiyyah clearly says "...And the Messenger of Allah never ever prayed on a rug and neither had a rug been put for him." "...Instead he would pray on Earth, and he sometimes prostrated on clay and he used to pray on a mat." Brother @onereligion I didn't make this topic to argue about what we have to prostrate it on, the whole point of this topic was about these two sunni scholars in the video accusing us of doing bid'ah because we prostrate on a soil. There are so many ahadith from the Prophet and the Imams indicating that they only prayed on soil, which is exactly the same method we do, so why would they think it's bid'ah?1 point
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