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Hajjaj asked Qambar (ra), the slave of Imam Ali (as), “Who are you?” Qambar (ra) replied,“I am the slave of the one who fought with two swords. I am the slave of one who fought with two spears, who offered prayers towards two Qiblas, who made two bayyats/pledges of allegiance and was never disobedient to Allah even for the blink of an eye. I am the slave of one who is master of the believers, inheritor of prophets, master of successors, greatest muslim, master of religion, noor of those who fight in the way of Allah, master of those who cry during their prayers, the glory of worshippers, the light of believers, the most pious, tongue of Allah, first believer of Aal e Yaseen (as). I am the slave of one who is the teacher of Jibraeel (as), master of Mikaeel (as), one who was praised in all seven heavens, who is the killer of naqiseen (those who break their oath), markeen (rebels), and qasteen (kaffirs). I am the slave of one who is the protector of the honor of muslims, who fought against the enemies of Allah. I am the slave of one who is the treasure of Allah. I am the slave of one who is Ameerul Momineen and Successor of the Prophet (saw), who is the trustee of Allah upon His creation, and who is the caliph of Allah upon His every creation. I am the slave of one who is the master of all muslims, Allah’s sword upon munafiqeen (hypocrites), kalima (testimony) of worshippers, helper of the religion of Allah. I am the slave of the Wali of Allah and His Kalima (word) and His helper on this earth. I am the slave of the most glorified Imam (as). I am the slave of the master of the brave. I am the slave of the lion of Allah. I am the slave of the destroyer of the enemies of Allah, who is most sacred and the cousin of RasoolAllah (saw), Imam of those who are guided, master of arabs. I am the slave of the Father of Hasan (as) and Hussain (as). I swear by Allah, I am the slave of the Master of true Momineen , Ali (asws) ibn Abi Talib (as), may the blessing of Allah be upon Him. :cry: (wasalam)

Jazakallah Khairan Sister Habibti for sharing this and reminding us . I wish we would be as noble as qambar (ra) or blessed as qambar to be close like him ! Makes us wonder and reflect Who I really am ? Reminded me of this and thought to share : Once Ali was returning from a journey with a string of camels fully laden with goods. On the way a beggar asked for a piece of bread. Ali ordered his beloved slave Qambar to give some bread to the beggar. Qambar started searching for bread. After a few moments Ali asked about the delay. Qambar said, "I am looking for the bread." Ali said, "Give the bagger the camel which carries the food." After a while Ali again inquired about the delay. Qambar replied, "I am searching for the camel carrying the food." "Give the whole caravan", Ali ordered. Qambar hurriedly jumped off from the camel & handed the reins of the whole caravan to the fortunate beggar. Ali smiled at the agility of Qambar & asked him, "Why did you jump so quickly & hand over the reins in such a haste?" Qambar replied, Master, you are in such a mood that on account of a little delay, you gave away the whole caravan. I was afraid if there was some more delay, you might give me away also with the caravan. You will get a thousand slaves like me, but where will I get a master like you?"

The story you have told is basically correct with a few (minor) mistakes- the person who mentioned the story was the late sayed Muhammad shirazi but the story wasn’t about him or a family member, but it was about an Iranian man who had traveled for ziyarat. He was abused very badly (verbally) by a sunni farmer who accosted him on his way to Karbala, the rest of the story is accurate, here is the link where the late sayed is mentioning that story. That is a very beautiful story about the formerly hindu minister, thanks for sharing it. “there is enough light for those who wish to see” – Imam Ali One should first understand the magnitude of the Ziyarat of Imam Hussain , and the reward for the zair – here are some narrations to help the believers understand that: ـ حدَّثني الحسن بن عبدالله(3) ، عن أبيه ، عن الحسن بن محبوب ، عن إسحاق بن عمّار «قال : سمعت أبا عبدالله عليه السلام يقول : ليس نبيّ في السَّماوات [والأرض] إلاّ يسألون الله تعالى أن يأذن لهم في زيارة الحسين عليه السلام Imam Sadiq stated: There is not a prophet in the heavens (or on the earth) who does not ask Allah permission to make the ziyarat of Imam Hussain عن أبي عبدالله عليه السلام «قال : سمعته يقول : ليس من ملكٍ في السَّماوات إلاّ وهم يسألون الله عزّوجلَّ أن يأذن لهم في زيارة قبر الحسين عليه السلام Imam Sadiq stated that there is not an angel in the heavens that does not ask Allah for permission to visit the grave of Imam Hussain . الوَشّاء ـ عمّن ذكره ـ عن داودَ بن كثير ، عن أبي عبدالله عليه السلام «قال : إنَّ فاطمة عليها السلام بنت محمّد صلّى الله عليه وآله وسلّم تحضر لزوَّار قبر ابنها الحسين عليه السلام فتستغفر لهم ذنوبهم» . Imam Sadiq says: Surely Fatimah the daughter of Muhammad attends to the Zuwar of the grave of her son Hussain and seeks forgiveness for their sins حدّثني الحسن بن عبدالله بن محمّد بن عيسى ، عن أبيه ، عن الحسن بن محبوب ، عن أبي المَغرا ، عن عَنْبَسَة ، عن أبي عبدا‏ عليه السلام «قال : سمعته يقول : وكّل الله بقبر الحسين بن عليِّ عليهما السلام سبعين ألف ملك يعبدُون الله عنده ، الصّلاة الواحِدَة من صلاة أحدهم تعدل ألف صلاة من صلاة الآدميّين ، يكون ثواب صلاتهم لزوّار قبر الحسين بن عليِّ عليهما السلام وعلى قاتله لعنة الله والملائكة والنّاس أجمعين أبد الآبدين Imam Sadiq (as) said, Allah has placed seventy thousand angels at the grave of Imam Hussain (as) and they worship Allah there. One prayer from one of them is worth one thousand human prayers, and the reward of those prayers go to the Zuwar of the grave of Hussain ibn Ali peace be upon him, and the curse of Allah and all the angels and men be upon his killers forever and ever. حدَّثني محمّد بن جعفر الرَّزَّاز قال: حدَّثني محمّد بن الحسين بن أبي الخطّاب ، عن أبي داود المسترقّ ، عن اُمّ سعيد الاُحْمَسِيّة ، عن أبي عبدالله عليه السلام «قالت : قال لي : يا اُمّ سعيد تزورين قبر الحسين؟ قالت : قلت : نَعَم ، فقال ليزوريه؛ فإنَّ زيارة قبر الحسين واجبة على الرّجال والنّساء : Imam Sadiq said to Um Saeed, Ya Um Saeed have you visited the grave of Hussain . She said yes. He (imam ) said: Visit the grave of Hussain, for surely it is an obligation (wajib) for men and women. «قال : سَمِعتُ أبا عبدالله عليه السلام يقول : مَن أراد أن يكون في جِوار نبيّه صلّى الله عليه وآله وسلّم وجِوار عليٍّ وفاطمة عليهما السلام فلا يدع زيارة الحسين بن عليٍّ عليهما السلام I heard Imam Sadiq say: Who ever desires to become the neighbor of the Prophet(pbuh) , and the neighbor of Ali and Fatimah should not leave the ziyarat of Hussain ibn Ali ـ حدَّثني أبي ؛ وأخي ؛ وعليُّ بن الحسين ؛ ومحمّد بن الحسن ـ رحمهم الله ـ جميعاً ، عن محمّد بن يحيى العطّار ، عن العَمْرَكي بن عليٍّ البوفَكيِّ ، عن صَندل(1) عن عبدالله بن بُكَير ، عن عبدالله بن زُرارةً «قال : سمعت أبا عبدالله عليه السلام يقول : إنَّ لزوَّار الحسين بن عليٍّ عليهما السلام يوم القيامة فَضلاً على النّاس ، قلت : وما فضلهم ؟ قال : يدخلون الجنّة قبل النّاس بأربعين عاماً ، وسائر النّاس في الحساب والموقف» . I heard Aba’Abdillah say: Verily the Zuwar of Al Hussain ibn Ali will have a virtue over the rest of people on the Day of Judgment. I asked what is that virtue? He said, they will enter paradise forty years before all the people, and they will be at the forefront of the people during their reckoning (hisab) and position. (here 40 years could/and probably does mean the years of Allah which are like 50,000 of our years) قال : قلت لأبي عبدالله عليه السلام : إنّهم يَروون أنّه مَن زارَ الحسين عليه السلام كانَتْ له حَجّةٌ وعُمرةٌ؟ قال لي : مَن زارَه ـ والله ـ عارفاً بحقِّه غُفِرَ له ما تَقدَّم مِن ذَنبه وما تأخَّر I asked Aba Abdillah Those visitors who visit Imam Hussain (as), do they get the reward of a hajj and an umrah? He said, the one who visits (by god) knowing his rights (meaning imam hussain ) his past and future sins will be forgiven. : حدَّثني أحمد بن عليِّ بن عبيد الجعفيُّ قال : حدَّثني محمّد بن أبي جَرير القمّيُّ «قال : سمعت أبا الحسن الرِّضا عليه السلام يقول لأبي : مَن زارَ الحسين بن عليٍّ عليهما السلام عارفاً بحقِّه كان مِن مُحدِّثي الله ) فوق عرشه ، ثمَّ قرء إنَّ المتَّقين في جَنّاتٍ ونَهَرٍ * في مَقْعَدِ صِدْقٍ عِنْدَ مَليكٍ مُقْتَدِر Muhammad ibn abi Jareer al Qumi says: I heard Abul Hassan Al Reza (as) say from his father, Who ever makes the Ziyarat of Hussain ibn Ali (as) cognizant/knowing/understanding of his rights, will be those who meet with Allah on his throne, then he recited the following: Surely those who guard (against evil) shall be in gardens and rivers, In the seat of honor with a most Powerful King. (Al-Qamar 54-55) عن أبي الحسن الرِّضا عليه السلام «قال : مَن زارَ قبر أبي عبدالله عليه السلام بشطّ الفُرات كان كمن زار الله فوق عَرشه From Abi Al Hassan Al Reza (as) : who ever visits Aba Abdillah by the river of furat, it is as if he has visited Allah on his throne. عن عبدالله بن مُسكانَ ، عن أبي عبدالله عليه السلام «قال : من أتى قبر الحسين عليه السلام كتبه الله في عِلّيّي From Imam Sadiq : Whoever goes to the grave of Hussain , Allah will write him in to illiyeen. (illiyeen is the book of the people who are in the highest level of paradise, and it is also the name of the highest level of paradise). قال أبو عبدالله عليه السلام : مَن أتى قبر الحسين عليه السلام عارفاً بحقّه كان كمن حَجّ مائة حَجّة مع رسول الله صلّى الله عليه وآله وسلّم Imam Sadiq says who ever visits the grave of Hussain understanding/cognizant of his rights, it is as if he has completed 100 hajj pilgrimages with Rasool Allah There are numerous narrations about the great reward of the visitor of Imam Hussain . The reward of this act is beyond imagination, these narrations above are not 1/100th of the amount of narrations that are out there on this subject, in any case that should give people an understanding of the importance of visiting Imam Hussain , and according to the narrations a believer must visit the Imam every day, and if they cannot do so physically they should do so from their homes, here is a narration to show that: عن حَنان بن سَدير ، عن أبيه ـ في حديث طويل ـ «قال : قال أبو عبدالله عليه السلام : يا سَدِيرُ وما عليك أن تزور قبر الحسين عليه السلام في كلِّ جُمُعة خمسَ مرَّات؛ وفي كلِّ يوم مَرَّةً؟ قلت : جُعِلتُ فِداك إنَّ بيننا وبينه فراسخ كثيرة ، فقال : تصعد فوق سطحك ، ثمّ تلتفتُ يُمنةً ويُسرة ، ثمّ ترفع رأسك إلى السّماء ، ثمَّ تتحوَّل نحو قبر الحسين ، ثمَّ تقول : «السَّلامُ عَلَيكَ يا أبا عَبْدِالله ، السَّلامُ عَلَيكَ وَرَحْمَةُ اللهِ وَبَرَكاتُهُ» ، يكتب لك زَورة ، والزَّورة حَجّة وعُمرة ، قال سَدِيرُ : فربما فعلته في النّهار أكثر مِن عشرين مَرّة» . Imam Sadiq said: Ya Sadeer do visit the grave of Hussain every Friday five times, and once on every other day? He said, May I be sacrificed for you, between our home and it (the grave) is a very far distance. He (the Imam ) said then go to the roof of your home, then look to the right, and then to the left, then look at the sky, then turn to the grave of Hussain and say “Asalamu Alayka Ya Abba Abdillah, Asalamu Alayka wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu” – You will be written down as a Zuwar (of Imam Hussain ), and your Ziyarat is worth a hajj and an umrah. Sadeer said after that I used to do this more than twenty times a day. Because of the lengthiness of this post I am going to stop here with the narrations on this matter, but note that there are narrations which narrate longer things to recite from the roofs/high places of the home. As was noted earlier the ziyarat of Imam Hussain is some thing which is incumbent on the believers, men and women, and the Imam asks us to do it 5 times on Friday and once every single day. Surely the more we get involved in the ziyarat the better, there are many ziyarats to recite for Imam Hussain , the one in the hadeeth above is the shortest, any of them can be read. Reciting of Ziyarat Ashura every day is a great choice, because it has in it the salutations to Imam Hussain and to all the shuhada and the sons of the Imam . It also has in it a pledge to Imam Mehdi and it also has the added blessing of cursing the enemies which is part and parcel of the faith. It should be recited every day for the purpose of both fulfilling the requirement set by Ahulbayt to visit Imam Hussain every day (as noted in the hadeeth above) but also it has the added benefits mentioned above, and on top of that it is the regular practice of our Mar’aja, and there are countless miracles which have been seen through the recitation of Ziyarat Ashura. Dua Al-qamah (in reality dua safwan) is a dua which is recommended to recite after the recitation of Ziyarat Ashura, and it has with it many blessings. I think it will suffice to say that daily recitation of a ziyarat to Imam Hussain will bring one to the peak of faith, and it is equal to visiting Allah on his throne, thus it is imperative that any one who wishes to be a shia regularly recite these ziyarat. A person should chose their marja based on logic and reasoning. They should follow the rulings of an individual who is most qualified to derive them, if they cannot come to a conclusion about who is the most knowledgable amongst the scholars, they should follow all of them in terms of ehtiyat – that is they should follow the strictest rulings from all of them to be safe. Any one who picks a scholar out of convenience or because they are popular is fooling them selves and is trying to cheat Allah.I have chosen to follow the rulings of a scholar who based on my research and the opinion of people I trust, is capable of deriving rulings, and is adil/pious. The mourning of Imam Hussain is a divine duty that is incumbent on all the believers. No believer will ever leave the mourning of Aba Abdillah and it is the duty of every believer to ensure that this mourning continues. I would strongly suggest that in order to keep the love of Aba Abdillah strong, you should read and teach all the narrations about his great status and the status of mourning him to the people. If some one understand s the status of Aba Abdillah they will never look down upon those that mourn him. Just having a look at how the greatest shia among us mourn Imam Hussain should be enough for us to understand it is not some thing to take lightly. The late Marja Shaikh Hassan Seeboway reports that he used to go to Karbala with his uncle (who was also a marjah) and many other Maraj’a in the days of Muharram, and all the Maraj’a used to have their own gathering, great scholars such as Allamah Amini (the author of Al Ghadeer) would be present there, and he would report how, even on the first day of Muharram , the scholars would literary cry for over 1 hour, and by the time they reached the day of Ashura, it was like the day of judgment. People have to understand that nothing can be compared to the events of Ashura. La yoma ka Yomak, Ya Aba Abdillah – There is no day like your day, ya Aba Abdillah. This is a narration from Imam Hassan and Imam Ali . Imam Hussain fought the purest Jihad in the way of Allah, not for money, power, land or position. He stood on the battlefield, covered in arrows, all of his family killed, and he never forgot Allah for one instance. إِنَّمَا يُرِيدُ اللَّهُ لِيُذْهِبَ عَنكُمُ الرِّجْسَ أَهْلَ الْبَيْتِ وَيُطَهِّرَكُمْ تَطْهِيرًا Allah only wishes to remove all abomination from you, oh people of the house, and to make you pure and spotless. Here the word rijz (abomination) that Allah says he has removed from ahlulbayt – according to narrations refers to doubt and shirk in Allah. They never had any doubt or shirk, meaning that they never thought about any thing else ever in their lives except Allah. Looking at Imam Hussain imagine a man who is covered with arrows to the extent that they say he looked like a porcupine, covered in his own blood, dying of thirst, and still batteling off enemies, after all his family and friends have been murdered, and he never even for one instance takes his thoughts off of Allah, where as we are selevs cant even keep our thoughts on Allah for even 1 minute, while we live in ease and comfort. When some one understands this and the pure jihad of Imam Hussain they will never compare it to anything else, and making the children understand this will keep the flame of Imam Hussain burning in their heart. I can only go based off of what the narrations of Ahlulbayt say and they seem to be clear that there is very little room for error in these things. More over it is a sign of disrespect towards Allah/Ahlulbayt not to take these things seriously. A person can spend 4 years in university studying a subject for several hours a day to earn a living, but can not devote a few hours of their life to learning the rules of their religion properly? The two books I would suggest would be the risalat of any scholar along with the book greater sins by Sayed Dastaghaib Shirazi – there is an excellent section in there on salat, and the punishments for not taking salat seriously, both are written in simple language so that people of all educational backgrounds and ages can understand. It’s a difficult choice; I don’t think I could choose only one, but If it had to be one it would probably be Sayed Seestani, and I think most of my questions would be related to what duties we shia in the west must complete. To be honest my Moderating skills arnt that good yet, its hard to tell some times. Its hard to say, I would imagine very useful people would be highly skilled in computers, so id say computer science probably. Every thing is run by computers now, being skilled in cyber warfare id say would be a big plus. Being physically fit would be a good thing. And their prophet said to them: Surely Allah has raised Talut to be a king over you. They said: How can he hold kingship over us while we have a greater right to kingship than he, and he has not been granted an abundance of wealth? He said: Surely Allah has chosen him in preference to you, and He has increased him abundantly in knowledge and physique, and Allah grants His kingdom to whom He pleases, and Allah is Amplegiving, Knowing. (2:227)

Thoughts: Why must all good things come to an end? :cry: On a positive note though, alradhiya is officially a haji! WOOOOOOO! :D

Saw an oold irani couple while in Iran.. the man had gone on his knee to tie her lace/shoe :wub: chooo chweet

Reminds me of: "Everyone is a story. Be a good story." - Imam Zainul Abideen (as).

Thoughts: One day your life will flash before your eyes. Make sure it's worth watching...

What you failed to do is compare his achievements with his incompetence. You can't just use void examples which you personally think is incompetence and label someone as incompetent. Iran's relations with the world has in fact increased positively in business and knowledge exchange, except with he countries that are boycotting. And the boycott issue is not related to Ahmadinejad, it's much deeper than that. The amount of jobs, and projects that have been implemented in science, education etc has quadrupled since he came to office, from space program, to biology/chemistry and down to nuclear. The world, specially Arabs are now more aware of the Israeli oppression than they have ever been before, much thanks to Ahmadinjead, whether you like it or not. If you actually know an ounce about geopolitics, and have the capability to look past American and British politics and their presentation of Ahmadinejad, and have a memory which surpasses 2 months, you will realize the difference the man has made, and the amount of world supporters he has from the common man from south america, Africa and Eastern Asia. Problem with you is that you don't understand that a true politician is supposed to represent the common man, the oppressed and the be their voice. A successful politician is not a person that pleases the rich western politicians, that is in fact your problem. Sure he makes mistakes, but his good deeds far far far surpass his faults. Everywhere i go, whenever some minority asks me where i'm from, and i say Iran, first thing they say is "oohh Ahmadinejad, very good man, he stands up for what is right"

Imam Hasan (as) said: "O people of al-Kufah, be God fearing toward your neighbors and guests and toward the members of the family of your Prophet, from whom God removed sinfulness and whom He purified completely." Sunni references: The History of al-Tabari, Volume XVIII, Page II Between Civil Wars: The Caliphate of Muawiyah (Translated by Michael G. Morony)

Ponder over what? Death? You mean, like this? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E3CTpRJ_d9Y

question set 3 of 3 brother thank you so much for all your advice and hadiths so far. this is turning out to be a fantastic opportunity to speak to a lot of people at once, who insha'Allah will learn a lot from your words and benefit from it. following on from your previous point about salah, and this quote, is it safe for me to say that salah without aza is pointless, aza without salah is also pointless? its like i am contracted to work 7.5 hours of work a day, and lets say my over time is double pay (i.e. overtime is worth twice as much as standard pay), i cannot just show up for my overtime hours and expect to be paid doubl - i need to do my contracted hours first before i am eligable for double pay. in the same way i need to ensure i do all my wajibaats - namaz, fasting etc before i can look towards earning blessings from aza and ziarah? i cant just use ziarah as a shortcut for blessings (or can i?) the system in the uk (i dont know about the US) is completely broken - the representatives are chocolate teapots. how would you change things so marjas like sistani could rely on their teachings being followed properly by people in far away countries? here are my final set of questions bro (3) what are your views on the supernatural, jinns, monsters etc? have you had any supernatural/ paranormal experiences? (4) what is your guiltiest pleasure? (5) what do you do, that you think no one else does? (6) insha'Allah you will be called at the zahoor and raj'ah. if imam mahdi (atf) says to you "badboy you are allowed to fight any zaalim from history, but its a fair fight, swords and shields only, so he will fight back", who would you fight, and how would you win? (7) if you were a non shia, what would it be to you (as an outsider) which would draw you towards shiaism? (8) narrate to me a story which demonstrates our maula ali (as) greatness. try and find something that you think i may not know (9) how can our brothers and sisters in bahrain be successful? (10) similar to barader jackson, you have 1 minute to rant about any subject you choose.

Thoughts: I'm craving some form of chicken and chips.

There's no such thing as abusing mutah or excessively practicing mutah if it's halal. I can do multiple 1 hour mutahs every day if I feel like it, in God's eyes I have not sinned rather I have used the halal alternative and that's all that matters. Your opinion is totally irrelevant. It can be a tough pill to swallow for you but that doesn't mean you gotta come out here and deem something wrong when its totally permissible.

Salams, The solution is twofold. If you fail to do either one, you will fail in the long run. 1) TaqwaAllah 2) Marriage 1) There is no word in English for TaqwaAllah and it is a concept. You may have heard it explained in the wrong way so I will try to explain it. The best way that I have heard it explained is that it is a realization that Allah(s.w.a) is watching and aware of your actions. How do you know if you have it or not ? That is important to know because it says that the mutaqin (the ones who have taqwa) are the ones who will succeed in this life and the next and will be in paradise. So this is the best way it was explained to me. If you have the ability and the desire to disobey Allah(s.w.a) and the realization that Allah(s.w.a) is aware of your actions keeps you from doing the act of disobedience, then you have taqwa. If this realization falls short of stopping you from committing the act of disobedience, then you don't have it. Taqwa doesn't happen overnight and it is something we must work at. Noone is born with it and it is not inherited from parents and it is not particular to a certain nation or tribe. It takes hard work to acquire and to perfect it to a level where it consistently stops you from committing sins sometimes takes years or decades. The ones who had the highest level of taqwa were the Prophet(p.b.u.h) and the Imams of Ahl Al Bayt(a.s). They did not commit any sins not because there was something special in their DNA sequence or they were something more than human beings, it was because they had a very strong realization of the presence of Allah(s.w.a) and the consequences of sin. They saw disobedience for what it was and if anyone saw the reality of disobedience to Allah(s.w.a) they would never ever disobey him. The problem is that most of us only have a very vague notion or none at all of the consequences or potential consequence of disobedience to Allah(s.w.a). Here is an exercise for you. Next time you want to look at porn, think about this. The Infinite Creator of the entire universe is watching you as you are watching those scenes. His attention is not distracted and he knows what you are seeing as well as what you are thinking while you are watching it. He(s.w.a) can wipe you out of existence with one word. You already know that he has commanded you not to do this ('Tell the believing men to cast down their glance...', Holy Quran) and you are doing it. In addition, according to the ahadith of Imam Sadiq(a.s), he has bragged about you in front of the angels because you have prayed and because you said Duaa in the past. Do you really want to dissapoint your Creator and risk making Him(s.w.a) angry with you ? In addition, it is possible that the Imams of Ahl Al Bayt and Fatima Zahra(a.s) is observing your actions. Aren't you shy in front of them ? Also, death is not far off. It could come to you while your are in the midst of this sinful act. Then what will you say to the angels when the question you in the grave ? Will you realize this or will you keep fooling yourself into believing that noone is watching you. Also, ,maybe Allah(s.w.a) is placing you in this situation in order to give you an opportunity to repent and build your taqwa. Think of this as an opportunity rather than a failure. 2) You should get married as soon as possible. Don't let anyone tell you that you should work on yourself first. Working on yourself is a continuous project and it doesn't stop after marriage. Marriage will help you overcome this problem, believe me, by giving you a halal outlet for your desires. The fact that you are having this problem means that it is already past time for you. You are 26 ? You probably became mature, Islamically, more than a decade ago. The desires you have are legitimate and were placed there by Allah(s.w.a) in order to push you to get married and fulfill the other part of your religion. I wish you success. Also, like was said before, none of the advice will change your life for the better unless YOU implement it. We can't do that for you.

I need to kick the face of Nasibis and break their teeth.

Thoughts: The one who falls and gets up is much more stronger than the one who never fell :rolleyes:

I have no particular reason for starting this topic, I just wanted to get my feelings off my chest.

One of the most informative threads on shiachat in a long time where we all come together, learn something and put our differences behind!

Great questions MDM!

Can't wait for the answers :D

from http://www.al-islam.org/heavenlypath/ it is narrated from the Prophet (s): “Do not engage in sexual intercourse with your wife like hens; rather, firstly engage in foreplay with your wife and flirt with her and then make love to her.”[41] It is also narrated from the Prophet (s): “All play and games are futile except for three: Horse riding, archery and foreplay with your wife, and these three are correct.”[42] It is narrated from Imām ‘Alī (as): “When any of you wants to sleep with his wife, he must not rush her for indeed women have needs (too).”[37] It is narrated from Imām ‘Alī (as): “Whoever wants to get close to his wife must not be hasty, because women before engaging in the act of love making must be engaged in foreplay so that they are ready for making love to.”[43] It is narrated from Imām as-Sādiq (as): “The Angels of Allāh and those who are witnesses over all the actions of man are watching them in every state except at the time of horse riding competitions and the time that a man engages in foreplay with his wife before engaging in sexual intercourse.”[44] Notes: [37] Ibid., vol. 20, pg. 118, no. 25184 [41] Halliyatul Muttaqīn, pg. 110 [42] Wasāil ash-Shī‘a, vol. 20, pg. 118, no. 25186 [43] Halliyatul Muttaqīn, pg. 115 [44] Ibid., vol. 20, pg. 188, no. 25185

Prophet (pbuh) said to follow Quran and Ahlulbayt (as) after him. Shias are the only ones who do that.

That's a signature depiction of the relationship between Iranian man and wife. Zan mureed all of 'em :P

Secularist, Rationalist, Free-Thinker, Humanist, whatever label you use to identify yourselves with, you don't fool us for a second. Devoid of any standards, you want the destruction of the Islamic community, and you will use whatever tactic is appropriate for the occasion. For example, there were no "Sharia countries" back in 1948, except for maybe Saudi Arabia and other desert states. But the West still supported the Zionists. And even if, as you say, Islamists disappear tomorrow, you would still support Zionists. The job of your people is to justify every war crime and criminal act committed against Muslims, and demonize and de-humanize every entity related to Islam. By claiming to be pro-democracy, pro-peace, pro-women's rights you want to spread propaganda as one of the tactics against the Islamic communtiy. You guys don't care a damn about democracy, or peace, of anything you claim. You see, Islamists won in Palestine, have won in Turkey, have won in Tunisia, are in government in Lebanon, will win in Egypt, and in 20 years time will rule over most Muslim-majority nations. And all of your propaganda, all your lies to defend Israel, all of your lies to demonize Muslims, all will go to waste.

Yeah I heard! I don't think there were any black outs here, but there was a little flooding. Apparently it's like this for the next week or so. I saw an old couple, bout 80 years or so holding hands and walking. Shoooooo cute :wub:

http://www.al-islam.org/code-ethics-muslim-men-and-women-sayyid-masud-masumi Note- majority of women do not follow hijab properly at all. 1) The following contains the fatawa of eight Maraja’ Taqlid, six of whom have passed away, namely: Ayatullah al-Udhma al-Hajj as-Sayyid Ruhullah al-Musawi al-Khomeini, Ayatullah al-Udhma al-Hajj as-Sayyid Muhammad Riza al-Gulpaygani, Ayatullah al-Udhma al-Hajj ash-Shaykh ‘Ali al-Araki. Ayatullah al-Udhma al-Hajj ash-Shaykh Muhammad Taqi Behjat Ayatullah al-Udhma al-Hajj ash-Shaykh Mirza Jawad Tabrizi Ayatullah al-Udhma al-Hajj ash-Shaykh Fazil Lankarani The other 2 Maraja’, who are presently living, May Allah protect them both include, , Ayatullah al-Udhma al-Hajj ash-Shaykh Nasir Makarim Shirazi Ayatullah al-Udhma al-Hajj as-Sayyid ‘Ali al-Husaini as-Seestani 2) The actual reference from the Arabic and Farsi texts of the various Maraja’ Taqlid in this book have been omitted. As for the rulings for each of the Maraja’ we have used symbols, which will be mentioned at the end of this section, for brevity. In the event that one or more of the Maraja’ have not been mentioned in any ruling, this means that we were not able to get a hold of his rulings in that matter. 3) The main ruling which is given is in accordance tot he rulings of Ayatullah al-Udhma al-Hajj as-Sayyid Ruhullah al-Musawi al-Khomeini, and in the event of any difference between his rulings and those of the other Maraja’, the opinions of those who differ will follow the original ruling. If there is no difference between the rulings, then we will only mention (with their appropriate symbols), those Maraja’ who share the same opinion. 4) Since the views of eight of the Maraja’ Taqlid of the Shi’a World have been mentioned, in case the Marja’ to whom one is doing taqlid to expresses an Ihtiyat Wajib, with ease the reader is able to refer one of the Maraja’ who have expressed a ruling (perform Ruju’). 5) Although we have referred to all of the printed books detailing the various laws of Islam from each of the Maraja’, but just to be completely satisfied that what we have compiled is correct, we had three of the major scholars who work in the offices of each of the Maraja’ look over our work. 6) For ease of reading, it is possible that the rulings we have included in this book, which we may put forth as a “Rule”, may have been posed to the office of the Marja’ in the form of a question, or vice-versa. 7) The abbreviations for the Maraja’ Taqlid are as follows: A Ayatullah al-Udhma al-Hajj ash-Shaykh ‘Ali al-Araki B Ayatullah al-Udhma al-Hajj ash-Shaykh Muhammad Taqi al-Behjat G Ayatullah al-Udhma al-Hajj as-Sayyid Muhammad Riza al-Gulpaygani K Ayatullah al-Udhma al-Hajj as-Sayyid Ruhullah al-Musawi al-Khomeini L Ayatullah al-Udhma al-Hajj ash-Shaykh Muhammad Fazil al-Lankarani M Ayatullah al-Udhma al-Hajj ash-Shaykh Nasir Makarim al-Shirazi S Ayatullah al-Udhma al-Hajj as-Sayyid ‘Ali al-Husaini as-Seestani T Ayatullah al-Udhma al-Hajj ash-Shaykh Mirza Jawad al-Tabrizi A) Covering for Women in the Presence of Non-Mahram Men 108 – Rule: It is wajib for women to cover their entire body from non-Mahram Men; with the exception of their face and hands, as long as the following conditions are met: 1. Their face and hands must not have any kind of beautification (zinat) on them. 1. One will not look at their face or hands with the intention of lust. AKM Women must cover their body and hair from non-Mahram men, even if there is no harm of falling into sin and even if there is no intention of deriving pleasure. B A woman must cover her entire body except her face and hands from non-Mahram men, with the condition that there is no zinat on these parts and that her intention is not that she wants non-Mahram men to look at these parts. However, if non-Mahram men look at her face and hands with the intention of deriving pleasure, then it is not necessary for the woman to cover her face and hands. L According to Ihtiyat Wajib, women must also cover their face and hands from non-Mahram men. G Women must cover the hair (on their head) and their body from non-Mahram men, with the exception of their face and hands; and if they fear that by not covering these parts they will fall into sin, or if their intention of not covering these parts is to make men look at them with a haram look, then in either of these two scenarios, it is not permitted to keep these two parts uncovered. S A Woman must cover her entire body, with the exception of her face and hands from non-Mahram men; and in the event that there is any zinat on her face or hands, such as a ring or if she has shaped her eyebrows, or she has applied Surma to her eyes, even if these things are common among old women, it is not wajib to cover them. In other than these scenarios, a woman must cover her zinat from non-Mahram men. However, according to Ihtiyat Mustahab, a woman should cover her face and hands from a non-Mahram, even if there is no zinat on them. T 109 – Rule: According to Ihtiyat Wajib, women must cover a bit more of their face and hands than that which is normally covered. (The face is said to be that part which is wajib to wash in Wuzhu, and it is stated that the hands are the part from the wrist to the fingertips.) AKLM According to Ihtiyat Wajib, the entire face and hands must be covered from non-Mahram men. G According to Ihtiyat Mustahab, it is better for a woman to cover her face from non-Mahram men. T 110 – Question: According to the laws of Islam, is it allowed to expose the sole, top, malleolus and the heel of the foot, in front of non-Mahram men? Answer: It is not allowed. ABGKLMST Therefore: Women are not permitted to go in front of non-Mahram men without socks on their feet, or with their feet showing, go to a nearby store to buy even just one item. Also, if there are non-Mahram men in the house, then it is not permitted to come in their presence without having socks on, even if it may be one’s husband’s brother, a sister’s husband, or any other non-Mahram men. 111 – Rule: It is not permitted for women to reveal or expose the part under the chin, the neck, the ears, the chest or the forearm up to the upper arm; and therefore one must ensure that these parts are also covered from non-Mahram men. ABGKLMST Note: Women must pay close attention to the following: In the house or in other places in which there are non-Mahram men present; if one is wearing something with short sleeves, or if one has long sleeves on and one is trying to reach to something which is high up; or taking something from the hands of a non-Mahram man; or offering fruits or other things to the non-Mahram; or when buying things from the store; or when carrying something big and heavy – in all these and other instances in which there is a chance of the sleeves going up and the arm or any part of the body becoming exposed, women must be extra cautious (to ensure that those parts which must be covered, remain covered) . 112 – Question: What is the extent of the Islamic hijab for women? For this purpose, does the wearing of clothing that is long and loose fitting, with pants and a scarf suffice? Essentially, what are the basics in the clothing and covering that a woman must observe in front of others? Answer: It is wajib that the entire body of a woman, with the exception of the face and hands up to the wrist, is covered from non-Mahram men. The clothing that has been mentioned, if it covers that part which is wajib, then it is not a problem; but it is better to wear a chador %5B4%5D.One must also refrain from that clothing which draws the attention of non-Mahram men. ABKLMST Answer: It is wajib that the entire body of a woman is covered from non-Mahram men, and according to Ihtiyat Wajib, the face and hands must also be covered. The clothing that has been mentioned, if it covers that part which is wajib, then it is not a problem; but it is better to wear a chador. One must also refrain from that clothing which draws the attention of non-Mahram men. G 113 – Question: Is it allowed to wear a mantou and pants in which the shape of the body is visible, in the presence of non-Mahram men? Answer: From the point of hijab and covering, it is sufficient, but in the event that showing the shape of the body would lead to lust or corruption, then it must be covered. AKLMS Answer: If it does not arouse or excite (others), and there is no corruption (in wearing it), and in the event that it is not considered as a zinat, then it is not a problem. L Answer: In the event that it draws the attention of others (non-Mahram men), then it is not permitted. G 114 – Rule: Women are not permitted to raise their sleeves (to show their arms) to non-Mahram men in order to get an injection, have their blood pressure checked, taking of the pulse, or for any other reason, except in the case of necessity. ABGKLMST 115 – Question: I am a woman who must have an injection everyday and there is a clinic near my house in which a man gives the injections. However, there is another clinic that is further away in which a woman also gives the injection, but because it is far away, I must travel by car (to get to it). Am I allowed to go to the man to have the injection? Answer: It is not allowed, except in the case of necessity. ABGKLMST 116 – Question: Are women allowed to go to a male doctor without investigating and inquiring if there is a female doctor available or not? Answer: It is not allowed. AGKL Answer: In the event that it is an emergency, it is not a problem 117 – Question: In our city, there is a female doctor and a male one, but the male doctor is more specialized and experienced. Is it allowed for women to go to the male doctor? Answer: In the event that the female doctor can not treat the illness, then it is not a problem. ABGKLMT Answer: In the event that the male doctor can treat the patient better, then it is not a problem. S B) Rules Related to Wearing Socks 118 – Question: Is it allowed to wear thick socks in which the shape of the foot is visible in front of non-Mahram men, or not? Answer: In the event that there is no corruption related to it, and the skin of the feet does not show, then it is not a problem. AKLMS Answer: If it leads to corruption and sin, then it is not permitted. B Answer: In addition to this, the socks must not be of the type that would be considered as a zinat. T 119 – Rule: Wearing of thin, see-thru socks in which the skin of the feet is visible is not considered as covering, and therefore, women must refrain from wearing these kinds of socks in the presence of non-Mahram men. ABGKLMST 120 – Question: There are some women who wear pants, and then pull their socks over top of the pants in such a way that the shape of the bottom of their legs show – what is the ruling for wearing socks in this manner? Answer: It is not a problem. KLMS Answer: In the event that it leads others to excitement or pleasure, then it is not allowed. A Answer: If it leads to sin or corruption, then it is not allowed. B Answer: In the event that it does not lead to falling into sin and there is no corruption, it is not a problem. G 121 – Question: What is the ruling for wearing flashy, repelling-coloured clothing, and clothing that draws the attention of others, in places where non-Mahram men are present, such as universities, stores, etc… Answer: With the assumption that the clothing is arousing, it is haram. AKS Answer: Although it is not a problem, however, Muslims must maintain their dignity even in their (type of) clothing. B Answer: With the assumption that the clothing is arousing, and leads one to corruption, it is haram. G Answer: If the clothing of the woman is clothing that is considered as zinat, then it is wajib to cover it from the view of non-Mahram men, in the same way that it is wajib to cover the body from their view. T C) Rules Related to the Chador 122 – Question: Is it permitted to wear that type of chador that in the sunlight shows a bit of the body – in the presence of non-Mahram men? Answer: In the event that the skin of the body does not show, and there is no fear of falling into sin, it is not a problem. K Answer: In all instances, the woman must cover her self in such a way so as not to attract the attention of others (non-Mahram men). G Answer: According to Ihtiyat Wajib, it is not allowed to wear such a chador. M 123 – Question: What is the ruling on wearing a chador made of Sherman (a type of fabric)? Answer: In the event that according to the general population it not be considered as drawing the attention (of others), it is not a problem. Note: Attracting of attention (of others) is of two types: sometimes in certain places, no women are known to wear this Sherman Chador, and in this case a woman wearing it, would attract the attention (of others), and thus, it is not allowed for her to wear it. In the second instance, there may be a place where women wear the Sherman Chador, however, one wears it in such a way so as to attract the attention of others, in which case this too is not permitted. 124 – Rule: It is not allowed to wear those types of chadors in which the hair or the shape of the hand of the woman shows through or to wear these types of chador in which their hair shows or the shape of their hands shows through, especially if there are non-Mahram men (in the house), and women must refrain from wearing these types of chador. ABGKLMS 125 – Question: If a woman wears a type of chador in which the shape of her body can be seen through it, but she is wearing enough clothing under the chador, for example, she is wearing a scarf on her head, socks, and long sleeve clothing, then is it Islamically permissible (to wear such a chador)? Answer: In the event that the body (skin) can not be seen and by wearing such a chador there is no fear of corruption, then it is not a problem. ABGKLMS Note: Those women who use chador as their hijab, in the following examples, must be extra careful of their covering: 1. At the time of buying and selling something with non-Mahram men; while fixing their chador in the presence of non-Mahram men; taking or giving things to them; working in the presence of non-Mahram men, whether it be in the house or outside of the house; washing clothes, dishes or anything else in the presence of non-Mahram men; setting the table and cleaning up after a meal, etc… 2. In all of the above mentioned examples, and those that are related to these, it is recommended that women should wear sufficient clothing underneath their chador, and that they make use of a scarf or maqnah. Also, they should wear “add-on sleeves” in the event that the clothing they are wearing under the chador is short sleeved so as to observe the complete hijab and to gain the pleasure of Allah ÓÈÍÇäå æÊÚÇáì. 126 – Question: If a close family member proposes to a girl but she does not accept his marriage proposal, then later on if these two meet each other, and in the event the man is still single, how should the girl act and behave in front of him? Should she observe more than that which wajib in her hijab or be extra careful while speaking to him or not? Answer: One must keep away from all those actions that may lead to corruption and sins. AGK Therefore: For example, according to the fatawa of the late Ayatullah Khomeini, if keeping the face and hands open leads the young man to look at her with the intention of lust, then she must cover her face and hands and if speaking to him leads him to falling into corruption, then she must also keep away from this. D) Rules Related to Beautification (Zinat) %5B6%5D 127 – Question: What is meant by beautification (zinat)? Answer: Everything that the general public regards as beautification, and people refer to it as such. AGKL 128 – Question: If a woman applies surma – not with the intention of it being for beauty, but instead for the benefits that are in it, then in this case, must it be concealed from the view of non-Mahram men? Answer: If the general population regard it as being a means of beautification then it must be concealed, whether one’s intention for using it is beautification, or not. AGKL Answer: It would be considered as zinat. B Answer: If she applies the surma in such a way that even old women or elderly women use it, then even if it is for beautification, it is not necessary to cover it from non-Mahram men. T 129 – Question: Must a woman who has had her eyebrows shaped (hair plucked from the eyebrows) cover them (in the presence of non-Mahram men) in order to observe the true Islamic hijab, or is she permitted to have them exposed? Answer: She must cover them. AGK Answer: If it is arousing or stimulating, then she must cover them, and in other than this, according to Ihtiyat (she must cover it). B Answer: In the event that according to the general public it would be considered as a beautification, then it is necessary to cover it. L Answer: If beautifying the face (either by plucking the eyebrows or having them shaped) is done in such a way that even elderly women perform it, then it is not necessary to cover it. T 130 – Rule: Women are allowed to cover only that part of the face or hands that has some beauty on it, and it is not wajib that the rest of the face (or hands) be covered. ALMT Therefore: If a woman only has the bottom part of the eyebrows shaped, then she can just cover that part of her face with her scarf or chador; and in the event that the rest of her face does not have any beautification on it, then it is not a problem if that portion is exposed (without the zinat). Answer: According to Ihtiyat Wajib, in all instances the face and hands must be covered from non-Mahram men, whether they have any beautification on them or not. G Note: The following are some examples of beautification on the hands and that must be covered from non-Mahram men: · Bangle · Bracelet · Ring (even if it is one’s wedding ring) · Long finger nails · Nail polish · Henna · Certain types of watches which are worn as a means of beautification · Certain types of gloves which are worn as a means of beautification The following are considered as beautification for the face: · Applying surma · Shaping of the eyebrows · Applying artificial eyebrows · Using any kind of makeup · Having a nose-ring (as is the custom is some cultures) · Earrings Other than these, anything else that the general population (of that particular area) considers as beautification is also included and these must all be covered while in the presence of non-Mahram men. 131 – Question: Do plucking the eyebrows for women constitute beautification (zinat) or not? Also, if a woman has her eyebrows plucked, must she cover her face from the view of non-Mahram men? Answer: If the general public considers it as a beautification, then it wajib to cover it from non-Mahram men. AL Answer: Yes, it will be considered as zinat and it must be covered from non-Mahram men. G Answer: If the beautification of the face is done in such a way that is common even among old women, then it is not wajib to cover it from non-Mahram men. T 132 – Rule: In the ruling concerning the covering of the face and hands while in the presence of non-Mahram men, in the event that one has any beautification on – there is no difference between the non-Mahram man being a family member or an outsider. ABGKLMT Therefore: In gatherings, or when guests come to one’s house who are family members or otherwise, women must either refrain from applying any type of beautification on their face and hands, or else cover them in front of the non-Mahram men. 133 – Question: I am a woman who wears a wedding ring (that is very simple) and it is not for zinat, but rather for remembrance and loyalty to my husband. Is it wajib for me to cover this from non-Mahram men? Answer: To wear any kind of ring is considered as zinat, and therefore it is wajib to cover it from the sight of non-Mahram men. AGK Answer: If it is arousing or stimulating, then it must be covered and in other than this, according to Ihtiyat (it must be covered). B Answer: It is not wajib to cover those rings that women usually wear on their hands, from the view of non-Mahram men. T Answer: In the event that the general public consider it is a zinat, it is necessary to cover it. L 134 – Question: Is there any difference in the type of beautification? For example, if one applies a type of beautification that according to her own custom is considered as zinat, however, for another group of people, not only is it not considered as a zinat, rather it is taken as something repulsive or ugly, then must this type of zinat be concealed from non-Mahram men as well? Answer: Beautifying one’s self is not related to beauty or ugliness, and anything that the general public considers as zinat must be covered from non-Mahram men. ABGKL Answer: If the beautification on the face or hands is done in such a way that is common even among old women, such as shaping the eyebrows or applying surma, then it is not wajib for the woman to cover it from non-Mahram men. In other than this scenario, it is wajib to cover it (whether it is considered as beautiful or ugly). U 135 – Question: Is it allowed for men and women to put perfume on or make themselves smell nice by other means, in the event that the smell of it reaches non-Mahram? Answer: There is no problem in applying perfume, but if the usage of it for the woman leads to corruption, arousal or stimulation of (non-Mahram men), then it is not allowed. AK Question: If a woman applies perfume on herself for a non-Mahram man, is it necessary for her to perform a Ghusl? Answer: In the event that putting the perfume on is to attract the attention of non-Mahram men, then it is a problem. G Answer: In the above scenario, it is Mustahab for her to perform a Ghusl. L 136 – Rule: According to Ihtiyat Wajib, women must cover artificial or synthetic hair, whether it has been joined to one’s own hair or if it is a wig or hairpiece that has been placed on top of the head. Also it does not make a difference if this joined hair is that of a man or a woman. AGKL Answer: It is wajib for a woman to cover (it) from non-Mahram men. B Answer: If this action is considered as a beautification, then it is wajib for her to cover it from non-Mahram men. M 137 – Question: What is the ruling for a woman beautifying herself for other than her husband, in gatherings where there are only women present such as in weddings, or dinner invitations only for women? Answer: In the event that non-Mahram men do not see her, it is not a problem. ABGKLMST 138 – Question: Is there a problem for women to wear shoes that make noise, such that when one walks, non-Mahram men can her the sound of them? Answer: In the event that corruption can be associated with it, one must refrain from it. K 139 – Rule: If a woman knows that a non-Mahram man will look at her face or hands with the intention of lust, then even if she does not have any zinat on them, she must cover these parts from him. AGKLMS Answer: In the event that is leads or helps to commit a sin, then it is wajib to cover (these two parts). B 140 – Rule: It is not allowed to keep the face and hands open with the intention of making others fall into sin. AGKLS In the event that it helps to commit a sin, it is not allowed. B 141 – Rule: Old women who do not have the hope of marrying - in addition to their face and hands, can also keep a bit of their hair, hands up to the elbows, and the legs up to the knees open, in the front of non-Mahram men. S 142 – Rule: It is not allowed for a woman to go to a place where she knows that non-Mahram men will look at her with the intention of lust. AGK In itself, going (to such a place) is not a problem, but she must observe the proper clothing so as to not make others fall into sin. B E) Covering of a Woman in the Presence of Other Women 143 – Rule: A woman must cover her private parts from other women however it is not wajib to cover the rest of the body in front of them. ABGKLMS 144 – Rule: If a woman knows that other women will look at her body, face or hands with the intention of lust, then it is wajib for her to cover these parts from them. AGKLM Therefore: In bathrooms, swimming pools, fitness or sports clubs, and beauty parlors, if a woman sees that other women are looking at her with the intention of lust, the she must immediately cover her body from them. 145 – Rule: It is haram for a woman to reveal her body with the intention of wanting other women to fall into sin. AGKLMS That amount of the body that is wajib to cover is that (same) amount that is haram to keep uncovered, even if others will not fall into a haram act; butd those places that are not wajib to cover, if it leads or helps to commit a sin, then it becomes wajib to cover them. B 146 – Rule: It is wajib for a woman to cover her private parts from other women, even if they will not look at them with the intention of lust, except in the case of necessity. ABGKLMS Therefore: Just as has been mentioned in the previous section on ‘looking’, women are not permitted to show their private parts to a doctor, unless it reaches to the stage of necessity. Even in the matter of birth control, it is not allowed to expose one’s private parts in front of a doctor, and one must refrain from this, except in the case of a necessity. Also in this ruling, it does not make a difference if the doctor is a woman either. Note: Women must be cautious in places such as public showers that their private parts are covered, and it is also not allowed to wear thin, see-thru clothing in which one’s private parts are not covered properly. In addition, to have x-rays taken (of certain areas), or a sonograph of the womb, or have certain devices inserted into the womb or other related things, if it necessitates the exposing of one’s private parts in front of others, then it is not allowed and one must refrain from it (unless it is in the case of necessity). F) Covering of a Woman in the Presence of Children (Those who have reached the age of Mumayyiz or not) 147 – Rule: It is not wajib to cover any part of the body, even so far as the private parts, from a child (a girl or a Mahram or non-Mahram boy) who has not yet reached the age of Mumayyiz. ABGKLMST 148 – Rule: A woman must cover her private parts from a girl child who is Mumayyiz. ABGKLMS 149 – Rule: It is wajib for a woman to cover her private parts from a boy who is a Mumayyiz child and her Mahram. ABGKLMS 150 – Rule: In the event that the Mumayyiz child is a boy and a non-Mahram, then not only is it wajib for the women to cover their private parts from him, but according to Ihtiyat Wajib, she must also cover her entire body from him, with the exception of the face and hands. BKGS According to Ihtiyat Mustahab, a woman should cover her body and hair from non-Baligh children who understands good and bad – meaning that he has reached to such a stage that his look would be with lust (meaning that he is Mumayyiz). However, it is not necessary for her to cover the face and hands. M Clothing that is haram for Men and Women 1. Notorious Clothing 151 – Rule: According to Ihtiyat Wajib, it is not allowed for men or women to wear notorious clothing. This means whether it be the type of clothing, type of stitching, its style, or its color or a combination of any of these. The same rule applies to the way of wearing the clothing as well. AKLM Rather, it is haram to wear notorious clothing. BG In the event that it leads to disgrace or degradation (of a person), then it is haram to wear it. ST 152 – Question: What is meant by notorious clothing? Answer 1: That clothing whose material, color, the way it is sewn, or the way it is worn, is not common for that person to wear. BKL Answer 2: That clothing that has certain qualities or characteristics that attract the attention of the general public, causing one to stand out in a crowd. K Note: First of al, anything that is considered as clothing or a covering can be considered under this ruling, therefore it includes clothing such as shoes, a hat, a shirt, a skirt, a head scarf (for women), a Maqne, socks, pants, a Mantou, etc… If any of these are such that they could be classified as notorious clothing, then they are included in this ruling. Secondly, it does not make a difference if the clothing is considered as notorious clothing due to the kind or type (of clothing) or the color of it, for example, those types of clothing whose color is loud or repulsive, or the style of clothing which is common among the Punks, or the manner in which it is worn. Notorious clothing is that clothing which does not suit one’s appearance nor fits his status. A Note: These explanations of notorious clothing are the same as those given by Ayatullah Khomeini in answer one above. The meaning of notorious clothing, is clothing that is not the usual type that a certain person wears. Thus, if an older person puts on clothing that is the style for children, or a person puts on clothing that is not fitting for his position or status, then that type of clothing would be referred to as notorious clothing. Therefore, even if wearing a chador in foreign countries, or wearing clothing (specific) to one area in another area draws the attention of others, but if these types of clothing signify the status of that person, then it is not a problem. That clothing which is made of a certain kind of fabric or its color or it has been stitched in such a way that it is not common for that person to wear it and could lead to degradation or make him stand out, is referred to as notorious clothing. G The meaning of notorious clothing is that clothing which may lead one to being proud or by wearing it, that person wants to be known as an ascetic or one who has renounced all worldly pleasures. Whether it is by means of the type of fabric, color, or the way it was stitched. However, if in actuality a person’s intention is to wear simple clothing and he does not have the intent of showing off, then not only is it permitted, but rather it is a worthy action. M Notorious clothing is that clothing which is made of a type of fabric or color or the way in which it has been stitched is not common for that person to wear and it is degrading or a disgrace (to the one who wants to wear it). ST 2. Clothing which is Specific to One Gender 153 – Rule: According to Ihtiyat Wajib, it is not allowed for women to wear clothing that is specific to men, and similarly, it is not allowed for men to wear clothing that is specific to women. KL For a woman to wear clothing that is specific for a man and vice-versa is problematic. A If a man wears clothing that is specific for a woman or a woman wears clothing that is specific for a man, then in the event that that clothing would be classified as ‘Notorious’, then it is haram (to wear such clothing); and in other than this scenario, according to Ihtiyat Wajib, one must refrain from wearing such clothing. B It is haram for women to wear clothing that is specifically for men, and similarly, it is haram for men to wear clothing that is specifically for women. G (Makarim): It is not a problem for a man to wear the clothing of a woman or for a woman to wear the clothing of a man, except in the event that it necessitates a haram action, in which it becomes not permissible. However, according to Ihtiyat Mustahab it is better that men and women do not wear clothing that is specific to the other gender. If a man wears women’s clothing, or a woman wears men’s clothing, then in the event that that clothing becomes customary for them (they become known as one who wears that type of clothing), then according to Ihtiyat Wajib, it is haram to wear such clothing. S 154 – Rule: The meaning of clothing that is specific only to men is that clothing which is normally only worn by men; and specific clothing for women means that which is normally only worn by women. ABGKLMS 155 – Rule: The meaning of specific clothing includes all those things which are classified as clothing – whether it be something that it is visible when worn, for example a chador, skirt, scarf, or long socks – (where are not allowed) for men; or a coat and pants (suit-type), men’s shoes, etc… - (which are not common) for women. This also includes clothing which may not be visible – such as men wearing women’s under clothing or women wearing men’s under clothing. K 156 – Question: Further to what has been stated that according to Ihtiyat Wajib, men must not wear women’s clothing, and women must not wear men’s clothing, relating to this rule are some questions below: 1. Is this covering (of specific clothing) limited to being in public or even in (one’s) privacy is it problematic? 2. In the event that it is problematic, then would it also be a problem for men to wear women’s slippers if it is just inside the house? Answer: 1. There is no difference between being in public or private. AK 2. According to Ihtiyat Wajib, if the clothing is considered as specific (for one sex), then it is not permitted. AK 1. In privacy, it’s being haram is an area of question. B 1. In privacy, the condition of it being haram is not known. G 1. There is no problem. G 157 – Rule: According to Ihtiyat Wajib, it is haram to wear specific clothing, whether it is in privacy and there is no one else to see the person, or it is in public. Also, it does not make a difference in it being haram if the one who sees the person wearing the clothing is a man or woman, a Mahram or a non-Mahram. AK In privacy, it’s being haram is an area of question. B In the event that there is no one to see the person (in privacy), the condition of it being haram is not known. G 158 – Rule: It is not a problem to wear non-specific clothing, for example that clothing which the common people would regard as not being specific to men or women (such as pants, certain types of shirts, etc…). BGKLMST Note: Just by a clothing being labeled “for women” or “for men”, does not make that clothing specific, rather, the usage of the clothing being only for men or women makes clothing that is specific (to that sex). As an example, the wearing of slippers in the house that the common people acknowledge to be worn by both men and women is not a problem, and thus either one of them can wear those slippers, even if they are referred to as women’s slippers or men’s slippers. However, if there is a pair of slippers that the common people acknowledge as only for women (such as slippers that were asked about in the previous question), then it is not allowed for men to wear them, even if it is only for a moment (such as to get something from the kitchen). 159 – Rule: It is not allowed, according to Ihtiyat Wajib, to wear specific clothing no matter what the reason is – whether it is for simply trying it on, playing or acting in the theatre, cinema, showing off or anything else. KL It is a problematic area for a woman to wear clothing that is specific to men. A It is haram for a man to wear clothing that is specifically for women and similarly for a woman to wear clothing that is specifically for men, however until the point that this is not regarded as notorious clothing, this being haram is an area to ponder upon. B Question: Is it permitted for a woman who is acting in the theatre or in a play and is playing the role of a man, to wear the clothing of a man if she is performing in front of women? Answer: As long as non-Mahram Men will not see her, it is not a problem. G 160 – Question: Are men allowed to use things of zinat that women usually wear – such as a ring, watch, bangle, belt, necklace, etc… keeping in mind that the wearing of clothing specific to women is not allowed for men? Answer: One must refrain from wearing anything that goes against one’s character. A Answer: It is haram for men and women to beautify themselves with that which is used as a beautifier for the opposite sex. B Answer: It is not allowed for men to use any kind of beautification or clothing that is specific to women. G Answer: If the man is considered to resemble a woman or the woman is considered to resemble a man, then it is not permitted. L 161 – Question: What is the ruling for a woman who cuts her hair short such that she resembles a man, and also what is the ruling for a man to grow his hair long such that he resembles a woman? Answer: If it considered that the man resembles the woman or the woman resembles the man then it is not allowed. L 3. Arousing or Stimulating Clothing 162 – Rule: It is haram for a woman or a man to wear any type of clothing that the common people would consider as arousing or stimulating, or one that attracts the attention of non-Mahrams. ABGKL It is problematic to wear clothing that can lead to degradation, loss of one’s self-respect or corruption. M 163 – Rule: Arousing or stimulating clothing can be due to its color, style, type of cloth, or any other thing. Thus, it is possible that a woman’s headscarf, mantou, maqnah or shoes are such that they attract the attention of non-Mahram Men and are stimulating. In these instances, it is not permissible to wear them. ABGKLM Note: The meaning of arousing or stimulating is related to the type of clothing and not the person wearing it. Thus if according to the common people a certain type of clothing is considered as arousing, then it is not allowed to wear it, even if one or a few people would not be aroused or stimulated by it. Therefore: Clothing such as certain types of gloves with lace, chador, a thin scarf with lace, things that hand (around a person’s neck) such as flowers, and other things of beautification such as gold stitching or lace stitching on the headscarf, chador or mantou, etc… or placing buttons on a specific part of the clothing, keeping the buttons of the clothing open even if underneath there may be clothing, etc… - all of these kinds of clothing, if they are considered as stimulating or arousing, or they attract the attention of others, then it is haram and one must refrain from wearing these (types of clothing).

Mac Isaac: the Shia hipster. Anyway I have a question: If a statement is attributed to Imam Sadiq that contains in it deep scientific knowledge, related to human anatomy or any other subdivision of what in the West is known as "empirical" science (though the Imam did not acquire it through empirical observation but through divine inspiration!)... which we see in countless narrations from Imam Sadiq that he talks of things which modern science only ended up discovering more than a thousand years after, and the chain of narrators is weak and not reliable, what are we to believe about that hadith? If the hadith is assumed to be inauthentic as per the chain or narrators, then what about the knowledge that is being espoused in the hadith? Are we do believe that this divine brilliance is not from the Imam but from one of the revisionists???

(bismillah) (salam) No one hates you, Disagreeing with someone does not constitute hate. It is not hate when someone attempts to educate someone as to what they believe and why they believe it. It seems you do not know what hate is. Ma'a Salaama

Kim.tinkerbell has dismissed Mutah as some misogynist act that only seeks to serve men and their desires, (though that is part of the benefit one may derive from it, but not the only one). She goes around with the presupposition that sexual desires are "bad" in every way, hence you should remain celibate until you manage to do permanent marriage. You know when I meet Allah in the day of Judgment I'm gonna ask Him to have hell-hounds rape Umar and turn him inside out in hell for destroying what could have been the salvation of our youth from falling into Zina, and producing prejudiced Shias like Ms. Tinkerbell.

I love old people, they're so cute ^_^

And your argument seems to be "I am just going to assume I am right and ignore all the basic reasons why I'm wrong." This is the dumbest thread ever.

Which no one appears to be able to find.. It's a Persian book that claims to be a translation of a French thesis, but which doesn't give any actual sources for it's material as such. Almost certainly a forgery attributed to the Imam (as) but actually is largely a translation of a book originally in Greek (or perhaps Latin, I'm not sure) written in a non-Islamic, perhaps Christian, context (hence the citation of Aristotle, the anti-Manichaeanism, the reference to the Greek word cosmos, etc.), with the addition of a Shi`i context at the beginning to lend it authority. Also narrated on the authority of Mufaddal b. `Umar who is himself questionable, though I suspect the issue might be more that ghulat themselves forged things and attributed them on his authority as a link to the Imam. All that said, there is a lot of authentic material that has reached from the Imam, but it's sad that so often people spend their time on the most dubious material while not learning much of the more solid stuff.

So recently, Saad Hariri decided to join Twitter. Since he hasn't been in Lebanon for more than 5 months, he thought he can be in Lebanon virtually. I chose the funniest tweets I could find:

(salam) I know I've posted this before but it seems as thought not many people read it, so I will again try my best to get people to read this. It's not some small matter, it's everything. Your live life with it or with out it. You think the imam (as) would choose some one who can't even hold his tongue for his army? Think again. This is only for our benefit, can people just leave ego's out of the equation. The Holy Prophet (pbuh) and his Ahlulbayt (as), the pinnacle of creation, were sent down to complete the infallible religion of Islam. To do this they themselves must be infallible so that no flaws arise, simple logic.. So what does that have to do with Akhlaq? To first attempt to even improve our Akhlaq we must have something to compare it against so that we know what level we’re at and what needs to be done for this improvement to happen, in practical terms. (actually everything we do) What better comparison than our beloved ma’soom? Because they do not sin, they are perfect in every way. They are our set examples, like our fathers we must obey them but also make it so that we try to be like them in every aspect. We know that they are perfect and therefore the level of Akhlaq shown by them is second to none. So by accepting their perfection in all aspects is the first step to improving our selves. Allah (SWT) speaks about the importance of good conduct in the holy Qu’ran: ‘And say to My servants (that) they speak that which is best.’ (17:53) ‘Worship Allah, and do not associate partners with him. And be good to your parents, and the relatives, and to the orphans, and to the poor people, and the neighbor that is close to you and the neighbor that is not close to you, and your companion on the journey.’ (4:36) These verses remind us that we must show good conduct and morals especially to others e.g. Parents, neighbors, orphans, relatives, friends and even enemies. There are also numerous Hadith about Akhlaq, I will post a few that highlight that this is no small matter but rather Akhlaq is VITAL to our religion, as I will explain. The Holy Prophet (pbuh) has said: ‘I have been sent by Allah to teach people good manners.’ Imam Ali (as) said, ‘O Believer! This knowledge and good manners are the value of your soul so strive to learn them, for however much your knowledge and good manners increase, so will your value and worth accordingly.’ Sulayman-ibn-Mahran said that he visited Imam Sadiq (as) while some of the followers (Shi’a) were attending him (as) and he heard that the Imam (as), addressing them, said,‘(Behave) to be as ornaments for us and not to be against us as shame. Tell people of goodness, and protect your tongues and hold it from excessive talk and offensive speech.’ Just by using a few hadith to back up what is in the Qu’ran and we find Akhlaq is a ‘must’ and not to be taken lightly. As well as looking at the example set by our beloved (as). Lets go back and take a look at the time the Prophet (pbuh) had not yet announced prophethood. You’ll find that their Akhlaq was perfect, they became known as the honest & trustworthy and this was shown through their actions. If the Prophet (pbuh) had bad Akhlaq, nausubilah, then people would have doubted the Prophet (pbuh) at a later date. This example is perfect as it shows Akhlaq, in fact, is everything.. If a ‘religous’ man/female has no Akhlaq then people would be turned off, not just by you but Islam as well. So please for the sake of your lord and his chosen faithful servants keep good Akhlaq in everything you do and everyone you meet.. INCLUDING SHIACHAT (wasalam)

thanks! and yeh it was amazing, i want to go back already :cry: insha'Allah we all get to go for hajj / ziyarat soon! and insha'Allah he'll get better soon :)

I often hear of these supposed miraculous ahadith, but whenever they get posted there is never any reference. Can anyone post a few of these ahadith, with correct references, that give advanced scientific knowledge? On the other side of this coin, if a hadith had an absolutely perfect chain, but contained some scientific information that according to current knowledge was completely false, then I assume almost everyone would reject it without a second's thought, saying that there is no way the Imam could have said that and it must be a fabrication (regardless of whether it explicitly contradicted the Quran or not). The interesting thing is, no authority has been given to us that I am aware of to reject ahadith on this basis. On the other hand, many people would be willing to take a hadith related to aqeedah with a decent chain, or even a weak chain, that appeared to contradict the Quran, simply because they could find some clever way of understanding it in a way that avoided a clear contradiction. Something doesn't seem right about this.

Nikala Hum Ko Jannat Se Faraib-e-Zindage Day Kar...., Dia Phir Shoq-E-Janat kyun Ye Hairani Nahi Jati..!! <ALLAMA IQBL> "Happy IQBAL Day"

copy pasting an earlier post I made that is somewhat related:

Ba'al worship was widespread in the the ancient world, 'Gods' given the name Ba'al were the guardian of many city states and were given human sacrifices, in some cases. The most notable place where Ba'al was worshiped is Carthage. And everyone knows Hannibal, the brilliant general from Carthage. His name means 'Grace of Ba'al' http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ba%27al

In Ancient Egypt, priests plucked hairs from their bodies including their eyebrows and eyelashes. The word "lethologica" describes the state of not being able to remember the word you want None of the Beatles knew how to actually read music.

Seriously what are these people doing in that video? Matam??! :/

(bismillah) beautiful :)! mashallah! better than the first imo! the tragedies of karbala, bring sorrow, but also remind me of how lucky we are to be on the guided path, as our tears will being us salvation in the here after.

Mufeed.. Subhan'Allah.. May Allah bless you..

^Beautiful.

alas! he is pakistani, so really it is only english thanks bro, thats exactly the sort of thing im looking for, if only there was a book that compiled narrations like these innit

it reminds me who i am

(salam) I agree with -SeekeR- , only those who wish to see "sensitive" topics should be able to, as opposed to force feeding the topic titles to everyone. On a forum i used to be on, they had a password for the sisters section, perhaps we should create a sub forum with "Sensitive Questions" with password activation for those interested in posting and answering there? (wasalam)

Salallahu ^Alayhi Wa Aalihi Wa Sallam.

My lovely Prophet Mohammed (SAW) said that Bida'ahs and Sheriks are enemies of muslims.