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(salam) “O ye people ! fear your Lord who created you from a single soul and of its kind created its mate, and from them twain spread many men and women; and fear Allah, in Whose name you appeal to one another, and fear him particularly respecting ties of kinship. Verily Allah watches over you.” [Qur’an 4:2] For a lot of the youth today, the question of whom to marry is one which is seen as a complex and difficult one. Is it really that difficult? Or are the difficulties in finding the right person often self imposed, or as a result of wrong criterion. A lot of the youth today are complaining, ‘I cannot find anyone I am compatible with!’ What exactly is compatibility? Is it of any importance in finding a spouse who will lead you towards Allah سبحانه وتعالى? Compatibility has been defined as the capability of existing or performing in harmonious, agreeable or congenial combination with another or others. This would imply that for two people to be considered compatible as a couple, they must be capable of existing together harmoniously. According to a narration, the Holy Prophet (s) was asked, “Whom must we marry?” He replied, “The suitable (matches).” (kufw) He was then asked, “Who are the suitable matches?” He (s) responded, المُؤمِنُونَ بَعضُهُم أكْفَاءُ بَعضٍ. “Some of the believers are matches for each other.” It is thus clear that the first and most important aspect of compatibility is religious compatibility. A person who is committed to observing and practicing the religious principles and laws must marry only a person who is also committed to the same, or else there can be no harmony. Cultural and mental compatibility are also an important aspect. This is because, ones culture and mindset will play a big role in their future plans, the way they see things, their measures and standards of what is acceptable and what is not. Imam Sadiq (as) has said: اَلعَارِفَةُ لا تُوضَعُ إلاّ عِندَ العَارِفِ. “An intelligent and wise woman must not be placed except beside a sage and wise man.” While it may be nearly impossible to find one with whom they are fully compatible mentally and culturally, the issue should still play an important role when one is making a decision in picking a compatible spouse. The morals of the two should also be compatible. A person may appear to observe some aspects of religion very strictly, for example praying, fasting, proper dress code, yet they engage in behavior which is contrary to religious morals such as a foul mouth, excessively talkative, addiction to music, free interaction with the opposite sex etc. Education is also something which may play a role in the compatibility of two people. The exposure and mental development that occurs for one who has had an education cannot be compared to one who has not been exposed to any educative environment. Here, an education does not necessarily mean college degrees etc, even though basic schooling does create a lot of common ground. Ones exposure and experiences form an important part of their ‘education’ and their take on things, and can thus have a very significant impact on a couple. Physical compatibility and beauty are also two important aspects of compatibility. One must remember that they plan to live with their spouse for the rest of their life, and should thus ensure that they do not have serious misgivings about the person’s appearance, as this may be manifested in other unsavory means. At the same time, one must not tie themselves so much to the fine details of ones physical beauty, while remembering that inner beauty is what will form the most lasting impression. On the same aspect, age also plays an important role, and one should marry one whose age (physical and mental maturity) is compatible with theirs. One may ask what role (if any) the financial and social status of two people may have on compatibility. Ideally, it should have none. However, given that the average person you will meet is not likely to be a completely perfect person, one must discuss how important a role this will play in their future role. A common joke/story I have often heard is how an extremely poor girl was married to a prince. Despite all the luxuries and sumptuous banquets that were now available to her as a princess, she would miss and cry for the days when she had ‘dry rice with no curry’. Moral of the story: financial and social status can play a big role in ones expectations of life, and should not be disregarded. Social and political compatibility may sound like taking things a little too far with compatibility. However, for example where one holds very strong political beliefs, and the other party holds an equally strong opposite view, it may cause quite some difficulty, unless the two are sure they will be able to ‘agree to disagree’ peacefully! On the social aspect, an example would be where one is a social bee, always ready to be right in the limelight while the other prefers a quiet life. This may bring some difficulties, especially if this aspect of their characters is a big part of their life. Like they say, ‘Birds of a feather flock together’. Attempting to “fly” with a bird of a “different feather” can bring some pretty insurmountable challenges. There are many aspects of compatibility which one must consider, including psychological compatibility and future compatibility (i.e. yes, so we are compatible now, but will we still be compatible in the next 5, 10, 15 months, years?) While keeping all these in mind, one must also remember the teachings of the Qur’an regarding marriage. The Qur’an says: “And of HIS Signs is that HE has created wives for you from among yourselves that you may find peace of mind in them, and HE has put love and tenderness between you. In that, surely, are Signs for a people who reflect” (30:22) “HE it is Who created you from a single soul and made therefrom its mate, that he might find comfort in her.” (7:190) “....They are a sort of garment for you and you are a sort of garment for them....” (2:188) In the above verse, what does it mean to be a garment? Thinking of it in terms of the functions of a garment/clothing, one can conclude that a spouse is one who will cover up one’s weaknesses and shortcomings from others. Further, they will act as an adornment and embellishment for each other as well as acting as a protection from the harsh conditions of weather (i.e. they will protect and support in each other through good times and bad). As a final reminder to myself and others: Should we be careful about the little details that make a part of the other person? YES. Should we become obsessive fault finders? NO. “Our Lord, grant us of our spouses and children the delight of our eyes, and make us a model for the righteous.” [Qur’an 25:75] SOURCE: http://inspiredtoser...bility-101.html (wasalam)

The theory of Wilayat al-Faqih comes to mind.

They Do believe in it just they imply different implications they also believe that the prophet raised Alis hand and said : whoever i was his mawla now ali is his mawla but once again they give it a different Taweel and different implication the reason is because the usool aldeen is different and their thought system is structured differently

(bismillah) A couple issues. 1. If Shiachat is an Usooli discussion forum than all the Akhbari posts should be relegated to a specific forum. There are too many unqualified opinions being presented as Twelver Shi'ism on this forum by Akhbaris and this is creating confusion as these posts are not mentioning that they are in fact Akhbari beliefs. For someone who would not know any better and came to this forum to learn about the teachings of the AhlulBayt [as] in line with the qualified Maraja3 theymay very well be deviated towards Akhbarism. 2. There is a two part lecture by H.I. Sh. Hamza Sodagar on the matter of taqleed which should be watched for a greater understanding by all including Usoolis and Akhbaris.

It shows that the Illuminati are not in it for money or power. They're in it for teh lulz

(bismillah) (salam) As a person who tries to grow as much as his own food as he can, i prefer the organic food that i grow in my garden to anything that i get from the store. Firstly, the food always seems to be a lot tastier Secondly, i can sleep well knowing that my food hasn't been sprayed with chemicals and all sorts of [Edited Out]. On the down side, 1) You're gunna have to be patient and work hard for months before you get anything. The more food you want, the harder youre gunna have to work 2) If you're growing most fruits and vegetables without using chemicals, you're almost guaranteed to get bugs on them unless you surround your garden with a moat of acid lol (even then, moths and grasshoppers can still fly over and lay their eggs). But it's not too much of a big deal if you know how to deal with them and just wash your food good. The same thing goes for meat and other foods. A friend of mine raises chickens (and we get eggs from him) and other manages some beehives and honestly those eggs and that honey tastes way better than anything i get from the store. Plus it's so much cheaper and it just feels "right". i can't help you with the organic stuff they sell at the store but i say that if you really want organic and are willing to sweat a little, grow your own stuff. Even if you just grow tomatoes or corn out of a bucket on your apartment baloney, it's better than nothing EDIT: As for having to spend more on organic food, i think the reasons are probably as follows: 1) Depending on how you look at it, it's either not popular enough for farmers to make a buck so they charge extra to make up for it, or they know that theres a niche market out there that has some cash and is willing to spend a lil extra 2) As i mentioned earlier, if you're truly being organic, you're gunna get bugs on your crops. If you're growing corn, you're gunna find worms in some of them and obviously most consumers are not gunna want that. Also, you're not going to get those perfect crops every single time and most consumers only buy the most perfect-looking fruit/vegetable that they see, so farmers end up throwing a lot of that away Basically, a lot more goes to waste, so farmers need to make up for that lost profit.

surely you guys should observe "obligatory precaution"? we know non organic food is grown in chemically pumped soil and sprayed with all kinds of funky juice. why take the risk of bioaccumulation of these things (which end up inside us) and just cut them out completely? or better yet - grow your own. google "square foot gardening"

oh man wow used to see 11:11 too bro, you're not the only 1!, but then 1 of the 1s died :( so it became 1:11, and so the lonely 1 fought with the other 1 over the other 1 and killed it, and so it became 1:1, and since they were both lonely they joined together and became 11, had kids, and made a family and became 11:11, such a sad by also happy story :cry:

MysticKnight, as a Muslim woman I do not really feel oppressed. When Muslim women are oppressed (honor killing, forced marriage, denying education etc), it's because of the failure to follow Islam.

(salam) ] This guy is, at the peak of his career, with his incredible voice and words of poetry. He can recite fast or slow paced sinazanis. I truly love him. Ever since Javad Zaker passed away, he has stepped up to the plate. Quality Eltemase Doa.

Some things to do to improve the quality of your sleep and stop feeling sleepy allday 1. Make a routine – go to bed at the same time every night and wake up at the same time each morning. Make this a habit. 2. Get 8 hours of sleep – no more, no less, because sleeping too much can cause you lethargy as well. Once you get used to waking up at a fixed time each morning, you will stop feeling sleepy after waking up. 3. Make sure the environment of the room where you sleep is not disturbing, or noisy. It should be very dimly lit, and there should be no noise and disturbances in the room like TV or computer, and the bed should be cozy and comfortable. 4. Make it a habit to get a shower prior to your sleeping time. It will make you sleep better. 5. Stop thinking about anything and blank your mind out as much as you can when you are trying to sleep and just relax. No counting sheep either. 6. Get some exercise daily. It can really help you sleep well. But make sure you don't work out anywhere near your bedtime. You should be done with exercise at least 4 hours before bedtime. 7. Have your dinner 3-4 hours before bedtime. If you plan to go to bed at 12, then don't eat anything after 8 pm. 8. Make sure you're wearing comfortable and light clothing when you go to sleep. 9. Take a power nap in the after noon – no more than an hour. Taking a short nap especially in the afternoon can refresh you to continue your work for the rest of the day. 10. Drink your water! Dehydration can be a possible culprit of making you feel sleepy all the time. So drink a glass of water every hour. 11. Pay attention to your diet. You may be eating too unhealthy, which can disturb your sleep. So eat better and healthier. 12. Cut down your screen time i.e. TV, computer, Play station etc. Too much screen exposure can be harmful for you. 13. Stay active during daytime. If you are inactive and sit idle most of the day, you'll start feeling drowsy and want to sleep. 14. Wash your face with cold water as many times as you can during the day to reduce your sleepiness. 15. Consult a doctor and get yourself checked up thoroughly. Make sure you undergo a thyroid test as well.

(wasalam) I understand what you mean, but I think many of these accusations are generalizations and then furthermore, generalizations on a certain group. One thing that struck me was being satisfied with a one line answer. I know I get annoyed with this when I'm asking an important question but if we read hadiths, we know that the Imams (as) also gave one line answers; so it isn't a case of one line answers being wrong. If you mean that complimentary hadiths should also be provided with the answers, then that's reasonable, but if one just wants "fluff" with the responses, then that's something that one would just need to get over. (salam) By the way, very original title lol

Getting back to the original issue, if the hijab is worn correctly it shouldn't be causing any discomfort for the girl. However, one should always expect some losers who have no respect to try and undermine women that wear it. There are girls in this western city that I live in that wear the hijab correctly and those who wear for it for other reasons, however, this is the cause in all societies. Also, I think fetishes are sick and one about the hijab is just freaky.

I don't think the "Illuminati" is their official name, I do believe though that most of the world is forcefully controlled by an inclusive group or economic and social elites, but I don't they officially call themselves "The Illuminati" I think that's more like a pen name of sorts not the true identity of those at the top of the pyramid, so to speak.

You have evidence that it's a sin bro? Where do you derive that conclusion from? Will be interesting to see, as it does have implications.

It's "no doubt sinful"....you are just putting your own interpretation onto this. If the divorce is halal, it doesn't matter why she is doing it. In Islam, there is no punishment for thoughts or desires, just actions. But the action in this case is halal, so there's no sin going on.

What Nader Zaveri didn't take into account, is there always occurring events that are not solved by Quran or hadiths, people will face social and political issues, that needs recourse. There needs to be people to asses the occuring problems and the conditions, past dead people will not be able to give proper judgement to occurring events. An example of an occurring event was what occurred in Iraq. US invaded them, should they accept invasion or should they get them to leave. What type of government should be set up, and what should people do. etc..all this is occurring events... If you take what the hadith says, then the people to turn to regarding all this, is the "narrators of ahadith"...Now the problem is everyone can narrate a hadith, so this is too general. So Khomeini said it must refer to those whom will be able to pass on TRUE teachings of Ahlebayt vs those not able too. I'm not sure if "narrators of our hadith" can mean that, but to make anyone whom narrates some hadith is obviously problematic, as narrating some hadith doesn't mean you have proper knowledge of Islam. His argument was not bad, but it puts to much trust in a scholar Does a scholar necessarily have good political and social foresight...but this condition is not there. But it means being a scholar is a condition on whether or not to be referred to for political and social affairs. I never seen anyone properly respond to this hadith, because they don't take account that occurring events cannot be all solved by Quran and ahadith. And people can't be expected to get all those problems solved by turning to simply a person whom narrates hadith. It means the people whom people look to for leadership, should be a "narrators of their hadiths"...

I think there ultimate goal is to create a world that is ready to fight the Imam once he appears with all means possible.

Don't take it to heart....just go read the age thread in general off topic.

Allahu Aalam wAllahu Qadir 3la kol shey2 Allah is More Knowledgeable and Allah is capable of all things Allahoma Sali wSalim wBarik 3la Sayidna Muhammad w3ala 2alih Sayidna Muhammad Kma Barakt 3ala Ibrahim w2alihi Ibrahim Fil 3alameen inka 7ameedon Maguid (salam) (salam)

(bismillah) It is not about tahreem. It is about butlaan. All maraji` from what I know believe saying "ameen" makes your salaah baatil, even if some are upon ihtiyaat. There is no point in saying this - forget silly things like this in order to promote "unity." The Imams [as] have prescribed the khayr. في امان الله

Ali (as) was in existence before Abraham (as).

Al-hamdu lillahi rabbil 'alamin! I readed "28 Issues With Quran" what can I say; "If you follow the right guidance no hurt can come to you from those who are in error." Quran [Al-Maaida, 5:105] What I would do is to change the title of the; "28 Issues With Quran" to "28 Issues With Quran that M.K. Failed to understand and made misstatements" "Feeling" I got from writer of "28 Issues With Quran" Ignorance... No answer will be sufficient for him, in his "misguidance" (Ignorance)... Wa Salam

it turns out that voldemort is actually dumbledore who went into the past to beat merlin, but was trapped in time so had to do magic to go back into the future, but went too far, while he was in the future he saw the destruction of voldemort so went back to the right time, not realising he was actually battling himself before he went back to the future the first time, which is why he got killed, then harry potter did a battle with draco, who it is revealed is actually an anemic and has half the blood of a normal person (he is the half blood prince) and he is crippled but not killed. while he is seeking a magical cure to his broke ass he falls in love with hermione, who dumps him and marries ron. so harry is left friendless, defeated, and crippled. then everyone dies.

From Ayat Sistani's website: From The late Sayyid Fadhlallah: Also: "Medical rulings" by Sheikh Saanei: (wasalam)

If you are really serious about getting the "flaws" in the Qur'aan, then you still need to apply the correct meanings of the verses first - their outer meanings and their inner meanings. The Qur'aan has its interpreter - the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh). When you tell us the real meaning of each verse according to its interpreter, then go ahead to show us the "faults".

So what happened to the AIRPLANE that hit the pentagon? It evaporated? :) very interesting that there isn't even a screw remaining of it on the lawn in front of the "impact" zone .. Now that is almost laughable subhan Allah .. Anybody ever hear of a plane disappearing completely upon impact?! Peace

How about u type www. itanimulli . com (Illuminati backwards ) ..

The verse doesn't clearly mention it as usul ad-din. Not every belief in Quran is usul ad-din, but the belief is in Quran, therefore we believe in it. We Shia believe in angels but it is not our usul ad-din. The Sunni have Predestination as usul ad-din but it is not in the Quran and Predestination is a very debatable issue, where is angels are not. We Shia believe that angels used to visit the Prophet all the times, but it doesn't make it our usul ad-din, neither the above verse says that it is usul ad-din.

Salam brother, As usual a very excellent response. Walid is winning the debate, so the knives will be out en masses. One of the thing, Wahhabis will do, is to try to expose him on this forum and destroy him. Thus, I have checked mated them by bring the old Zurarah thread. One of the things brother Walid has repeatedly siad that he lacks in the adaab and akhlaq departments. Allah know that we all lack in something as we are all imperfect, the Perfect One is Allah Only.

Um, yeah, but if he expects me to contribute money to our joint account, he will have to account for the $1000 that goes missing because he wanted to buy his mistress jewelry. If I am coming home from work and have to cook, clean, and put the kids to sleep, while he is off gallivanting somewhere, I will want to know how he spent his time. If necessary, I will check his odometer from time to time and ask him why he is racking up so many miles on his car. You know, all the miles he drives to visit his mistress. My point being, if he can't account for his time, money, and miles, then I will know he was with a mistress. I WILL find out.

haha at GM foods. yup, just get the tomatoes with the pig gene in it. I'd go organic, guys, if I were you. I don't want to say too much more at this time.

Jk Rowling never fails us, and when all of us fans were saddened by the ending of the "Harry Potter Era" Jo comes up with Pottermore. On pottermore, which is by Jk Rowling herself, we get sorted and read along with the stories, which is epic. [url="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i5DOKOt7ZF4"]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i5DOKOt7ZF4[/url]Thank you JK :) If you are a Harry Potter fan go check it out.

(bismillah) (wasalam) The following quotation is from Chapter 47 of the book, A Divine Perspective on Rights, a commentary on Imam Sajjad's "The Treatise of Rights." Free ebook: http://www.al-islam....pective-rights/

as JimJam rightly just said, allot of sunni brothers dont even know what happened in karbala, its funny how the truth is always hidden (bismillah)

^ Great. You conveniently missed his attack on me when he accused me of harbouring a 'deep-seated hatred for Islam'. It was this I was replying to. This is a regular behavioural trait of the followers of WF to declare others as enemies of Islam when they disagree with their interpretation of Islam. Nothing new. You also conveniently missed all of his other unneeded and unnecessary attacks on me. Subhanallah. Talk about partisanship.

Traditionally, Sunnis never had a good image of Muhaiwya... just to oppose Shias they are being too much pro-Muhaiwya.. Except the hadith that it says, he is one of 12 that is going to enter Jannah, there is nothing positing in Sunni text praising Muhawiya in anything special.. Sunni texts even condemn him for his fight against Imam Ali and say, Imam Ali was right, but they chose silence because Muhawiya will go to Jannah according to that fake hadith of entering Jannah and that he was one of Sahaba.

Mustafa, How do they treat Aspergers? Did you ever read the book 'The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time' ? its a book written in 1st person perspective about a boy with Aspergers. Very good book, made me cry.

+100000. A man like me appreciates that more than anything else. A woman who doesn't have any wealth, nor too high an education, but imbued with the best Islamic principles, I'll marry her over other women anytime, any day. Inshallah I hope you find the man who will truly acknowledge you for what you say.

Salam alaikum, It seems that there are many jokes written about the Egyptian Revolution which seem to be quite humorous (many are about Mubarak and co. and some seem to be humorous about the revolution itself yet they don't degrade the honorable Egyptian people). Whoever runs by any of them, share them here ! First one: REVOLUTION LOADING ████████████░ 99% [ Error : Please insert Sayyed Hassan and try again ! ] May Allah (swt) grant the Egyptian people victory over the tyrant and his oppressive government.

LOL. I saw this a while back, so its an old joke now: Egyptian President Hosni Mubarak immolates himself in front of the Presidential Palace, demanding a change of "the people."

(bismillah) (salam) How about this one: I've heard that pigs and dogs were a crossbreed project of a group of shayateen... (don't take the ones who mentioned this serious thought!) As for monkeys... Last time I was in a zoo with my father in law we were checking monkeys... Really walking on their two legs... Looking so much like humans... (nearly scary when you think of it)... My father in law quoted these ayah of human turned monkeys... Who can argue with that? Seeing the similarity. Another time I was there with my (christian) sister. Hmmm... :dry: This will probably look like I'm in that zoo all the time, checking monkeys... She was saying something about Darwin... I said it was odd... How did some monkeys turn into humans while others just stayed monkeys... She didn't really know what to say... Again... Who can argue with qur'an? ma'a salama, Ihsaan

what were the major disasters that our memory recalls in the past century? ? WWRS No? ethnic Aryan supremacy!!! NO? most of the wars around the world and conflicts are based on what? nationalism why cant we say the whole earth is one nation? and what is more logical for you to form a nation with the people who share your ideology or to make a nation with people who have the same as your color but contradict your ideology? the favoritism based on country is baseless and illogical and the 0only explanation for it is a selfish tendency of the human to elevate his own self. this is a result of lacking so to boost your ego you say to your self " my country, my colour, my race, MY , MY" the common factor is easily detected as the word "I" and in islam we are warned about elevating the "I" We are warned that our worse enemy is our self as it desires what its not entitled. i give you example turks hate kurds kurds hate turks persians hate turks persians hate kurds kurds hate persians turks hate persians all of the above hate arabs arabs hate all of the above X hates all of the above all of the above mutually hate X too WHY? are there really superiority between them? when i look at them they are all the same. if you take one kurd and put him in a turkish family and he doesnt know he is kurd i bet you he will grow up shouting " death to kurds death to kurds" as the turks do WHY A muslim has one identity which is islam and all other identities are irrelevant a nationalist who puts nationality before his ideology is worshiping the land not god our prophet said anout nationalism: " leave it it stinks" it does stick and we smelt it so badly i thought ww2 made everyone aware of this selfish disease but unfortunately dont get me wrong when i say dont be nationalist i dont say dont love the countries but you should love all of gods lands equally and work to fix and make things better where you live. there is no supremacy no colour supremacy no race supremacy and no one is the center of the universe and the masters

I stopped reading at this point. Are you out of your mind? Your ignorance is detrimental to humanity. Anyone who mentions Abdullah Ibn Saba is not entitled to an opinion on Shi'a Islam.

This video was posted in the Sadr thread and it is wajib to repost it here:

So what if Imam Ali (as) prayed behind Abu Bakr? What does it prove? Only Imam Ali (as) would know if Imam was praying with the niyah of farada or with jamaa'. Praying behind anyone does not prove anything. Everybody prays behind Imam of Kaaba' during Hajj. Even Sunnis do not take the Imam of kaaba as their leader let alone Shias.

Ignorance. :-(

the point of many of the stories in the maqtal literature is to arouse the emotions of people and yes there are several examples where events were exegeratted for instance the basis of the story of karbala that Imam Husayn (as) had not a single drop of water for three days, (which according to biology would mean that they are all dead) yet they were able to achieve the amazing feat of keep the Ummayd forces at bay for several hours in the desert heat. while in reality the fact is that water was probably short and it had to be rationed. but it makes people be more emotional if you tell them 3 days of no water likewise the story of Hazrat Qasim's wedding and the story of Zafar Jinn are questionable to say the least. but there point is not to restate the events of karbala historically but from a passionate point of view. FYI having Beliefs in Jinns and Angels is a essential tenet of Islam.

Hosny Mobarak was in an aeroplane flying over Egypt. He decided to throw 100 egyptian pounds to make a family happy. His wife said, "throw 2 50s and make 2 families happy." His son said, "throw 4 25s and make 4 families happy." The pilot said, "throw yourself out and make 80 million Egyptians happy." :P m3a el salama :D