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  1. 8 points
    I am disgusted by the level of intra Shia Fitna and how so many people fall for it. Seems they already managed to kill us, great job guys.
  2. 7 points
    Moalfas

    Divisive Labelling

    يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لَا يَسْخَرْ قَوْمٌ مِّن قَوْمٍ عَسَىٰ أَن يَكُونُوا خَيْرًا مِّنْهُمْ وَلَا نِسَاءٌ مِّن نِّسَاءٍ عَسَىٰ أَن يَكُنَّ خَيْرًا مِّنْهُنَّ ۖ وَلَا تَلْمِزُوا أَنفُسَكُمْ وَلَا تَنَابَزُوا بِالْأَلْقَابِ ۖ بِئْسَ الِاسْمُ الْفُسُوقُ بَعْدَ الْإِيمَانِ ۚ وَمَن لَّمْ يَتُبْ فَأُولَٰئِكَ هُمُ الظَّالِمُونَ O you who have believed, let not a people ridicule [other] people; perhaps they may be better than them; nor let women ridicule [other] women; perhaps they may be better than them. And do not insult one another and do not call each other by [offensive] nicknames. Wretched is the name of disobedience after [one's] faith. And whoever does not repent - then it is those who are the wrongdoers. 49/11 Ever since I joined ShiaChat close to 2 months ago, I have noticed a trend amongst some members who freely and carelessly throw around and attach derogatory and often offensive labels on other members or groups of people they do not agree with. As much as this diversionary tactic shows their lack of a substantive argument, hence their desperate need to deflect by discrediting the person or group through name calling and personal attacks. It is a very serious issue within our communities that needs addressing. As immature as their behaviour might be, this sort of blind labelling with emotionally charged labels to discredit the holder of different views is in fact vey dangerous because it's not only discriminatory but also leads to a culture of hate. When an individual or people (because of their different views) are grouped and labelled as being: Cultists Backward Uneducated British Shiism Anti Iran agendists USA/Zionist/KSA propagators Pro munafiqeen Love(er) of munafiqeen Akhbaris Lanatis Shirazis And even Non Muslims !! There is some serious reflection that needs to be done. What defies belief is that the ones who happily throw around such divisive labels are the ones pretending to support 'unity'! I don't need to point fingers at anyone because they and everyone else knows who they are. One last word; your abuse only reflects your own weakness and your distance from Haqq.
  3. 7 points
    I'm Muslim and "a Westerner" and I'm offended by the implication that my traditional attire is inherently immodest. But this is a battle I can't win here so this one comment is all I'm going to say on it.
  4. 7 points
    starlight

    Spiritual Highs

    Al-Islam.org has a good collection of books on Irfan and spirituality. I would suggest you go through them. Dr..Farrokh Sekaleshfar's lectures are very good too. There is no quick fix, one remedy for all type of an answer to the question you asked. You will have to find the answer yourself -your own way of knowing and getting close to Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) A few general things I can suggest are:Start praying Salat ul layl -be in wudhu all day and night.
  5. 6 points
    When choosing between Love and Hate, naturally any wise person will always choose Love over Hatred because the latter is very harmful and never solved anything while the former, Love, conquers hearts and it is from our Creator and one of His names Al-Wudood (Love) and does miracles. In this terminally sick society there is no room for Hatred while there is a strong need for Love and healing. Of course we do not give up our Usools but we can surely Love the non-Shia. There are so many good people among them in the same way there are many bad people among us. Love in the hearts and mutual respect is the way forward.
  6. 5 points
    Dua of Nabi Musa (عليه السلام) Surah Taha verse 25-28. He recited this dua before going to in front of Pharoah because he thought he wasn't gifted at speaking.
  7. 5 points
    starlight

    Modes of constant Dhikr

    I recently started reciting Allah's names and it has brought so many positive things to my life. I feel it's the best dhikr, and very easy to do through the the day. It is literally one word. Pick one name at a time study it to fully understand what it means and then start reciting it as you go about your day.
  8. 5 points
    root

    Iraq Protests 2019

    This whole peotests in Iraq, Lebanon and Iran is only escalated due to enemies of Islam finding opportunities to pour gas on the fire. This isn't about Iran or Iraq's sovereignty or gas prices. They, the enemy never dreamt of a day where soldiers from all Shia majority nations, even Pakistan have put up bases on the doorstep of the Zionist cancer. And they, the enemy are smart, they play on peoples weakness and cause rifts among us. Shias caring about their stomachs being full more than unity and enduring the plots of the enemy, well killing and riots and plunder is the result, enjoy it. It won't change until people wake up and resist and endure whilst keeping basirah at an all time high. Imam won't return until Shias learn, bani Israel were tested with jihad, economic sanctions("exile"), hakamiyah, and they failed on all accounts so the promised land was taken away from them. Now you laid back Shias want the promised time well, pass the trials. Else Allah has patience, he will wait another million years until Shias learn. We managed to kill 11 of them by our stupidity and thinking about our stomachs, he won't send the 12th until Shias learn to see the plots, have a strong foundation to protect his life and execute his will, and last but not least grow smart enough.
  9. 5 points
    Rejecting someone based on looks is totally normal and you have the right to. It's good to marry a guy who's got the looks and the deen. I'm sure there's plenty out there. Just be patient and you will come across one who meets your standard. However make sure your standards are realistic because no one is perfect lol. It's okay to compromise on some things because once we're married we all will have to anyways. But yeah don't feel pressured. Never make decisions out of pressure. It's the worst feeling ever when you ignore your gut feeling. You know yourself the best even though it's important to get your parents opinion on this.
  10. 5 points
    ArnoldF

    High-quality materials to learn Farsi

    Hello everyone. I have been learning Farsi for a while now, since I got married with a beautiful and kind Iranian woman. Along the way I struggled sometimes with a lack of materials. I recently set out to collect all the best resources I've found through my journey, and I've created a website for it, along with my experiences. I was hoping to share it with all of you: https://awesome-persian.com/ I hope it's useful for other learners. Also, I would be very interested in things that I have missed that people here have studied with, to add to the site. I am sure there are more good tools out there that are not well known or overlooked.
  11. 4 points
    3wliya_maryam

    [Closed/Review]Shias and Sahaba

    There is no real and objective truth / reality except God Himself. Shias tend to emphasize the principle of justice (adalat) to such an extent they attempt to take justice in their own hands by doing something humans are not meant to do, judge someone else’s heart and intentions. The truth is that they fail to comprehend the limits of human reason when it comes to judgments. This is the weakness of Shias. Sunnis should not be so quick to judge Shias and call them Kafir unless they want to share in the same fault as the very ones they are accusing. Majority of Shias are simply taught from Avery young age everything negative about the revered companions in Sunni Islam. There is not a single praiseworthy trait Shias can imagine or think about and this is a sign that they brainwashed. They cannot be blamed for their ignorance but they should be blamed for their laziness and apathy when they insist of their views without question and especially when confronted with a competing narrative of events. They have a bad a opinion of everyone they don’t agree with. Their minds will creative all kinds of conspiracies just so they can justify their false beliefs The only guys that are clearly brainwashed are you lot. Seriously ? You can take back what u said about conspiracy theories because every single belief of ours is not only backed up by narrations but also the holy Qur'an itself. But most of youse don’t bother to read and conceal the truth. Those narrative of events are mentioned in your own God damn books. Or do y’all keep using the same excuse “they’re the Sahaba no matter what, we should still respect them”. While I agree that we shouldn’t judge one’s heart and intentions, the vile actions these so called companions have committed are already proof enough of what their intentions were. Stealing the rights of the Ahlul Bayt (عليه السلام), is that something that can be ignored just because we can’t judge someone’s intentions? So tell me what other purpose was it ? That’s like saying we shouldn’t judge a thief’s intention of stealing despite him stealing . The weakness youse probably have is lack of logic . No, that’s an issue you guys have. Your beliefs literally make no sense. You call us lazy when in fact we are the ones who Have to explain thousands of times why those false beliefs y’all have created about us contradict to what we truly believe in. And we use the Qur'an as our main source, then we back it up with ahadith. The problem with youse is that you refuse to go on the touchy subjects like the Wilayah of Imam Ali (عليه السلام), or the even of Ghadir. Because y’all know that it will stir up a lot of questions.
  12. 4 points
    Knowledge, knowledge, knowledge. Learn it, understand it, spread it.
  13. 4 points
    notme

    Vote: How Would You Invest? (POLL)

    Land and business, but it would only be in a way that will that benefit the community.
  14. 4 points
    Logic1234

    Pick-me-ups

    أَلاَ بِذِكْرِ اللّهِ تَطْمَئِنُّ الْقُلُوبُ Salam, The blessed verses of Sura Mubarka-e-Talaq are my pick me ups. The promises made therein put complete peace in my heart & energize me. Let me present those profound verses: وَمَن يَتَّقِ اللَّهَ يَجْعَل لَّهُ مَخْرَجًا وَيَرْزُقْهُ مِنْ حَيْثُ لَا يَحْتَسِبُ وَمَنْ يَتَّقِ اللَّهَ يَجْعَلْ لَهُ مِنْ أَمْرِهِ يُسْرًا وَمَنْ يَتَّقِ اللَّهَ يُكَفِّرْ عَنْهُ سَيِّئَاتِهِ وَيُعْظِمْ لَهُ أَجْرًا Translation: And whoever is careful of (his duty to) Allah, He will make for him an outlet, And give him sustenance from whence he thinks not And whoever is careful of (his duty to) Allah He will make easy for him his affair. And whoever is careful of (his duty to) Allah, He will remove from him his evil and give him a big reward. What else do we want! Isn't it a complete solution to our every problem?
  15. 4 points
    eThErEaL

    How can I be more fearless

    True fearless comes in realizing (in one’s heart) the One who is Eternally free of need and Self-Sufficient. This is the only way to not be fearful. One should not want to BECOME fearless since the fearful can never “become” fearless. One should rather witness That which is already and eternally fearless and abide therein. Seeking to become this and that is a vain desire (even if one seeks to become courageous, wise, smart, beautiful, pious, etc etc). All these are vain and petty desires. One needs to let go of all such attachments. Once these attachments disappear then only the Face of God remains. (Kullu Haalikun Illa Wajh)
  16. 3 points
    Sirius_Bright

    [Closed/Review]Shias and Sahaba

    For @eThErEaL, qaatil & Maqtool are equal, everyone is going Jannah. Everything is lush rainbow. There are unicorns flying and fairies giving lollies and houses made of chocolate.
  17. 3 points
    AMR5

    Kindly REVIEW my Book - special request

    Thank you for the nice words. Alhamdolillah this book has consistently been in the top 30 sales for both the Shia and Sunni Amazon categories for the past 12 months, and based on the emails I’ve received, has helped many people find the noor of Ahlul Bayt AS. InshAllah it’s accepted by Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) and His chosen ones!
  18. 3 points
    AbdulKarim313_Austin/Nola

    Divisive Labelling

    Alhamdulilah, I feel like I should interject. Brother, I don’t mean to sound rude so forgive me if my opinion sounds bias or self righteous in any way. Perhaps we all should be more patient and not assume negative intentions of our brothers and sisters who we may think are not up to standards during a discussion. We are all sitting behind key boards writing our opinions about matters that we ourselves are still trying to understand. Everyone should be free to express, however wrong we may think they may be. We will not all share the same perception and depth of subject matters at times. That in itself plus trying to initiate dialogue while gathering and processing other views and learning where your view stands amongst others who are seeking to understand on some type of level will all be confusing and hard at times to understand true intent. Even though we all might disagree at times doesn’t necessarily means ones intentions are deceiving or suspicious. If your radar is not perfect then that means there is room for error or misjudgment and only Allah is perfect enough to know who has pure intention. So we should have a more lenient response with everyone as to their Processing methods and intentions. The real substance in the other thread and most threads is the fact that we as Muslims are learning and building and gaining understanding with each other. So each time we leave, we should leave this site with a little more insight or perception than the last time we came. But also before we leave we should make sure to shake hands and embrace so that we don’t leave with negative feelings towards each other. I myself may be just a keyboard warrior from the west but this is one of my favorite sites to come and chat with other believers. And I respect you all and love you all as brothers and sisters no matter what we may disagree about. So may Allah have mercy on all the believing men and believing women.
  19. 3 points
    @Akbar673 @Haji 2003 Since we had a little discussion on this some time ago I think it would be pertinent to mention that I watched 'Frozen 2' on the weekend. There is music in it of course, being a disney movie and the story was just passable but thankfully there were not any scenes like kissing etc or even na mehram girl and boy being alone together ( I didn't feel the need to distract my kids any time during the movie or detox them afterwards) . Overall entertaining and clean.
  20. 3 points
    I've seen guys in your position get married to nice girls through community match making. It's not impossible!
  21. 3 points
    3wliya_maryam

    I hate my parents...

    Literally the best decision you have ever made was to rebuild your relationship to Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) Your father beating you and your mother is unacceptable in Islam. Our religion acknowledges women’s rights but unfortunately some idiotic patriotic men and their cultural taboos ignore it. They portray Islam by their own means. Now your dad wants to force you into marriage that will be invalid. Beating you and your mother mercilessly is completely okay for him. I may understand where you’re coming from. I didn’t leave Islam but my levels of faith had decreased not only because of western influence but strict parents can misrepresent Islam. Sometimes it makes me feel sad because when you have God and the Ahlul Bayt(عليه السلام) by your side, nothing can stop you. Regardless of the amount of calamities you’re facing. You are not cursed. The fact that you went back to Islam and Ahlul Bayt (عليه السلام) proves that. Allah doesn’t curse us, he tests us so we may go back to Him. all u need to do is pray now, and watch everything fall in its place. I pray nothing but the best for you Insha Allah.
  22. 3 points
    But it's just a glimpse, not the same as experiencing it. The drama when you convert, your father trying to guilt trip you by asking you "Do you not love us anymore? Are you damming us to hell? Going in blind, expecting a religion and coming a new lifestyle. The loneliness. Misleading information from Sunnis, Quranist and Evangelists trying to trick Muslims in order to "save them". Revert sisters being harassed and called a "race traitor" simply for wearing a cloth on their head. Only get to chewed out for being "impious" by Muslims who don't understand that's there's a double standard for them (reverts) when it comes to hijab. Actually, a glimpse is nothing. It wouldn't be enough to understand what we go through.
  23. 3 points
    So Trump singles out Iran for his travel ban because of possible terrorism and you are equating that with Corbyn - someone who is constantly criticised for not being anti-Iran the way all other politicians are?
  24. 3 points
    Wsww. TaqabbalAllah zyaratkum. Mashhad I would recommend atlas hotel, its right next to the entrance of the haram, Bab al Ridhaa entrance. Also close to bazaar Ridha. Temperatures can drop down to -15, so be prepared for autumn to wintry weather.
  25. 3 points
    Thanks brother. I'm definitely going to check them out. Here is a dropbox I created with all the Farsi resources. I still need to add more: https://www.dropbox.com/sh/u0il3d4p682oo00/AADb8Y9cq0ihiEApCUZPcHODa?dl=0 In my opinion, a lot of Farsi resources I've come across don't really teach you proper spoken Farsi. It depends on your goal though. Fluent Farsi is another course which has a lot of positive reviews. It really focus a lot on the spoken aspect and ensuring everyone masters it right from the start. Apparently spoken Farsi has some grammar rules which will slightly be different from formal Farsi.
  26. 3 points
    No the hijab is not the measure of religiosity. Some one who wears a full niqab can be a very bad person and someone who doesn't cover her hair can still be very pious. It all comes down to the individual and what circumstances people is living under. Some years ago head cover was fashionable and a lot of people wore it just for show. to day it is not so fashionable. Maybe because of Syria and Daesh and all of that and many people don't want to come across as a religious fanatic. There is a difference between being religious and stuffing religion down other peoples throats. I personally think that hijab is a beautiful thing that I am happy to wear for Allah, but I will not backbite anyone for not observing hijab. It is not for me to judge and I don't have then knowledge to do so either.
  27. 3 points
    While we're on measuring religiosity, whats the standard for men to get measured up?
  28. 3 points
    Lebanese313

    Iran Protests November 2019

    04-10-2019 https://en.farsnews.com/newstext.aspx?nn=13980712000278
  29. 3 points
    I respect you for asking this question. You are concerned about being the host of an event where you give people a platform or doorway to sin. In fact, it's very noble of you to think about this. As other members have already mentioned, the only solution I see to this is to design/excute the event in a very strict and regulated way so that opportunity and promotion of sin is minimized as much as possible. After that, if indecenceny still occurs, you know you tried your best. If you try your best to strive on Allah's path then iA Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) will accept your efforts and forgive your shortcomings.
  30. 3 points
    Hussaini1912

    Suicide

    I hope you all are with good health. So recently in my neighborhood a young man of about the age of 25 committed suicide.His parents told that apparently he had no psychological issue or depression, that would cause him to do so. However they told that he used to consider himself a bad human being, a sinful Muslim.It was to such extent that whenever he used to do wuzu he never held Qur'an in his hand because he thought that he was najis or ghalees from inside. He used to think and cry that he is not worthy to pray namaz or even go to masjid. So these thoughts were getting severe. He tried his best not to do sin but whenever he did one he couldnt forgive himself or he used to think that Allah didnt forgive him or is angry with what he did.His parents were first happy that their son is a thoughtful Muslim. But later on they tried to explain him that being a human its our nature to do sins and no one is perfect except Allah or the Prophets and their Children. But it didnt had any effect on him.The maulvi refused to pray his Namaz e Janaza, so his father did. He was their only son. Now I do also have such thoughts and sometimes I cry a lot even.But frankly speaking it didnt get this severe and somehow we all are used to the sins we do everyday like music and all.This person here was so sensitive that even the slightest of sin made him crazy. So what are your thoughts on this? he however did a major sin before departing from this world, however no one knows what Allah has planned for him or maybe he can be forgived. waslam.
  31. 3 points
    hasanhh

    Express a Negative about 'Culture'

    As it is lsIamicaIIy correct to view many things as detractors from a believing Life, what "cultural" activity do you see as a complete moral waste? You can refer to a hadith or express a secular not covered by hadith or Qur'an. l view ballet as a complete, nonsensical waste of time and money.
  32. 3 points
    Salam, recently my 15 year old brother has been asking me for a ps4 to buy him on Black Friday and he really wants it and has his hopes up for it but I continuously tell him no and explaining to him why I don’t want him to be influenced by it. Originally it was my older sister who put the thought in his heads that she will buy it for him but I am refusing his request and he has basically blamed the fact that I’m religious and thinks that religion is putting too many restrictions on him when that’s not the case. He finds listening to lectures boring, even by English speakers and has told me that he doesn’t want to pray anymore or have anything to do with religion. I told him that he’s too attached to these things because he did similar things a few months ago when my sister wanted to give him her iPhone 6 because she was getting the new one and I refused at that too but seeing the way he was begging and saying that he’ll be responsible with it, I let him have it. He doesn’t play outside, he has friends from school but they only interact when they are playing their game on the phones. Other than that he’s home all day and isn’t interested in going to the mosque, even though I try to explain why he has to have a relationship with God and how his life would be useless if he doesn’t. I was barely able to get him to go to ahura lectures after argument after arguments and now I’ve just had it with him. He’s not listening to reason and sound arguments because of his desire for wanting that gaming consol. I even told him that he would accept to let go of his religion just for a game? And he said that he just doesn’t want religion anymore because he feels like it’s the reason for my decision. He has been praying his whole life and I always try to bring up religion but I feel like the irreligious lifestyle that he sees outside of home and mainly in school is having a strong effect on him even though he denied that to. I think it’s subconsciously shaping him but he’s not really able to see it. I really need help in all of this
  33. 3 points
    I know I heard this ayah from talib Johri he was saying, people give this ayah to us to prove that only Allah can help but they never read the very next part of ayah: وَيَجۡعَلُكُمۡ خُلَفَآءَ الۡاَرۡضِ‌ؕ ءَاِلٰـهٌ مَّعَ اللّٰهِ‌ؕ قَلِيۡلاً مَّا تَذَكَّرُوۡنَؕ‏ And who makes you caliphs on Earth? is their another diety with Allah? Little do you remember Talib Johri said you are leaving one matter of your choice I:e Help on Allah yet making caliphs by yourselves? he is great Allamah mashaAllah.
  34. 3 points
    starlight

    Vegetarian & Vegan

    Exhibit A. I can testify that he enjoys books.
  35. 3 points
    khamosh21

    Qanun al-Kulli

    “That which is perceived is existence. We exist and other than us whatever is exists. We are nothing but existence. Have nothing but existence. Perceive nothing but existence. And see nothing but existence. The opposite of existence is non-existence which is nothingness. Does not exist. It is not any thing and so cannot be perceived in the first place in the external realm of reality. Even discussing or conceiving it, I.e. mentally, can only be done under the umbrella of existence. Existence is the source of and the origin to infinite vast array of emanations, actualizations and manifestations. Whatever emanates, actualizes, or manifests in reality must have done so through existence, not non-existence. This principal is the most self-evident of principals. In short, other than existence, there is nothing. All is and all manifestations arise through existence. Existence runs the order of the universe. It is rather the universe per se.” [Mod Note: Quote is from here:] https://sekaleshfar.com/lecture/existence-of-God/
  36. 3 points
    Salams, I actually know Dr.. Anthony as a distant acquaintance and have corresponded with him a few times, I don't think this is a fair characterization. Sean Anthony is an atheist but it isn't something meant to directly target Muslims or Islam and disprove our normative beliefs. He works in a framework outside our religion so its normative interpretation isn't relevant to him. But to frame this within an orientalist-Muslim struggle is wrong to say the least. The days of Bernard Lewis are gone, they were gone while he was still alive. There is certainly an awareness of what Said put forth in Orientalism and the works which built themselves on top of that and academia dealing with the study of Islam has moved away from that. Muslims like to use academics in our polemics against Christians and Jews -- I'll see them talking about the implications of textual criticism and studies into the origins of Christianity and Judaism -- but we will throw the baby out with the bath water when these scholars discuss Islam. I think we should consider their historiography before jumping and accusing them of being orientalists intending on misguiding Muslims. It's an easy way to dismiss things we don't like. But you are right, while western academia might provide interesting research and should kick eastern scholarship into shape, it isn't where we draw our theology though it might inform us. Right, but scholarship also goes past the conclusions of Noldeke and continues to reach new research. He probably wouldn't much care that Noldeke didn't agree with him if he had a good argument -- at least per himself -- to say that Noldeke is wrong. It doesn't have a basis in Islamic literature but he's basing this categorization on what prominent scholarship of the Qur'an thinks about the non-Uthmanic Qur'an. While we are in theological agreement regarding the position of the Imams and all, it's immaterial to Anthony. He's not Muslim as you pointed out. These answers only work for a Muslim audience but don't actually work well to dismiss the evidence he brings you need to show that there was some early Muslim acceptance of this as part of the Qur'an. But then early Muslims differed quite a bit about what was part of the Qur'an and how to read it, that's how you can have so many contradictory readings both in the canonical Qira'aat and the shaadh ones, or that Abdullah b. Mas'ud didn't consider the mu'awadhatan as part of the Qur'an (and If I recall correctly not even al-Fatiha). The problem he refers to isn't exactly new and it's not a good answer to him to simply say "yeah but our theology dismisses it" when he doesn't accept our theology.
  37. 3 points
    While it is true that Hindus have been massacring Muslims the opposite is certainly also true. Muslims has also massacred Hindus. And it is not beyond Muslims to blow up mosques and other places of worship. We have seen that in Iraq. If the blame game doesn't stop, the violence will only continue. Conflicts like the Hindu - Muslim conflict or the Shia - Sunni conflict is just a way for the people in power to divide and rule.
  38. 3 points
    More than 3 months have gone, the lawyer has not been presented till to any court for any charge nor his family has been made known of its where about. A case is in progress in court of law for his recovery but except giving dates to the concerned officials no practical step is being made. The people strongly believe that the lawyer might have been tortured or even killed in the process. What are your comments about this court process and concerned officials position in this situation, please?
  39. 3 points
    Mahdavist

    Being engaged and rules

    I understand and agree. I just want to encourage our brothers and sisters to avoid using terms such as engagement and fiance because unfortunately some of the lesser informed people in our communities sometimes misunderstand these concepts and end up sinning as a result (this is more relevant in cultures where an 'engagement' is held before the nikah has been recited). Secondly it's important for everyone to understand that marriage is marriage. It would be sad if people ended up sinning during this 'engagement' period where the nikah has been performed but they are still kept away from their spouses. Wallahu a'lam
  40. 3 points
    habib e najjaar

    Being engaged and rules

    Salam sister, Why don't you just officially get publically "married" and move in together? Your mother may be having apprehensions because, as sad as it is, a lot of halal engagements get broken, often after the couple has gotten intimate, usually secretly. So then it gets really messy and I am yet to see any situation where everyone understands it was all halal. Usually, it generates into insults about how forward and cheap the girl was. I am not saying these will mean these girls did any haram in the eyes of Allah, but they can suffer great harm in the eyes of society. If the biggest worry your mom has is the unofficial consumnation of the marriage, then the families need to have an open agreement to formally hold a small hand over ceremony and send the two of you off for a weekend trip together or something so that there are no doubts about anything potentially harmful in the eyes of society happening secretly. I wish you all the best in your new life. Your mother loves you a great deal, and only wants the best for you in the way she knows best. Do not take it negatively, but as an adult, take steps to protect your reputation for the future while also enjoying your newly married status. Allahumma allif bayna quloobikum kamaa allafta bayna Muhammadin (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) wa Khadija (sa).
  41. 3 points
    LeftCoastMom

    Thoughts 2019

    @hasanhh @notme @Hameedeh Please keep us in your prayers. Lol. Husband and I are going to have " that" meeting tonight ,over dinner ,with the parents of our son's fiancée . It's going to be about who's going to pay for what in this ( apparently) Cecil B. DeMille production of a wedding they're having.
  42. 3 points
    notme

    Conspiracy Theories

    You do realize it's not difficult to find a group of people to protest Injustice of any kind, right? There's never a need to pay anyone. Even those Trump rally weirdos are real life people, demented people, but people. (Some of them are relatives of mine.)
  43. 3 points
    https://www.iqraonline.net/celebrating-9th-rabi-al-awwal-what-for/ Wallahu a'lam
  44. 2 points
    People knew Ayatullah Khomeini as "Aadil" & "Aalim". I do believe that, if he has committed any such acts, he must have solid reasons with him. Or do we need to remind such a person that look there are verses in Qur'an like these: وَلَا تَقْتُلُوا النَّفْسَ الَّتِي حَرَّمَ اللَّهُ إِلَّا بِالْحَقِّ ۗ وَمَنْ قُتِلَ مَظْلُومًا فَقَدْ جَعَلْنَا لِوَلِيِّهِ سُلْطَانًا فَلَا يُسْرِفْ فِي الْقَتْلِ ۖ إِنَّهُ كَانَ مَنْصُورًا 17:33 It would be like showing torch to the sun . I don't believe on these western reports. There are chances of some mishaps but that would be either not intentional or not done on the direct command of late Ayatullah (May Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) have mercy on him).
  45. 2 points
    Stylish.... ?
  46. 2 points
    Salam, it should be okay if it's not attracting the attention of men.
  47. 2 points
    Why should she be responding to him anyway? By ex I will assume this is a divorcee. They are no longer mahram to each other and if the eddah period is over, there should not be any chit chat between them. If he is still "interested" in her, there are ahkaam laws and akhlaqi methods governing how he can get back. Gheera is something very important to inculcate in our selves. If a man lacks it, he will become a dayouth. If a woman lacks it, she can easily compromise her chastity.
  48. 2 points
    Ashvazdanghe

    Vegetarian & Vegan

    Salam also our Imams (عليه السلام) are recommending having balance for eating halal meat & vegetarian food like eating meat just 3 days of the week during day not night & eating meat at least every 40 days in case of poverty or hard access to halal meat like as being in non Muslim countries that having access to halal meat is a real challenges also Sunnis don't have narration about eating meat at least every 40 days so they can become total vegetarians so that Shia minorities between them will follow them in becoming total vegetarian also most of times in countries like as Iran best time for eating meat is night because during day majority of people use prepared food from last night in offices that they eat fresh food in night & use leftovers during day .
  49. 2 points
    Ashvazdanghe

    How can I be more fearless

    3. Avarice is disgrace; cowardice is a defect; poverty often disables an intelligent man from arguing his case; a poor man is a stranger in his own town; misfortune and helplessness are calamities; patience is a kind of bravery; to sever attachments with the wicked world is the greatest wealth; piety is the best weapon of defence. 5. The mind of a wise man is the safest custody of secrets; cheerfulness is the key to friendship; patience and forbearance will conceal many defects. https://www.al-Islam.org/articles/various-sayings-Imam-Ali-ibn-abi-talib Mountains2 may move from their position, but you should not move from yours. Grit your teeth. Lend to Allah your head (in fighting for Allah, give yourself to Allah). Plant your feet firmly on the ground. Have your eye on the remotest foe and close your eyes (to their numerical majority). And keep sure that succour is but from Allah, the Glorified.
  50. 2 points
    I would visit you too @AStruggler
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