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  1. I’ve suffered abuse from my brother long enough. It’s so crazy how my family always tears each other down and humiliates them. My brother inherited abusiveness from my father. I can’t take it anymore. Today I have to sacrifice my religion and make a decision to marry someone out of my sect as refuge. It shatters my heart but this guy has promised to help me out and even give me a position in his firm. Plz pray for me y’all. It’s a sad day today. Sad I have to seek the help of strangers let alone a non Shia. I feel like I failed Imam Hussein (عليه السلام) but I’m so sick of living in an abusive
    13 points
  2. people are losing day by day their hope in the return of our promisedsaviour... with a stab in all our lonely and broken heart, again a year just passed without his return A lot of people who are starting to create lots of hate towards the shia-community while we haven't done anything towards them, A lot of hate only for the skin-tone you have, or how about the pedophillia, Rape and LGBT who are starting to be seen as normal things.. And above all the world is getting ruled by the most mental-corrupt governemenst who cant deal with justice at all! I think its a shame for all ou
    11 points
  3. Mahdavist

    A question for men

    Ideally I think both young men and women should be prepared to share these tasks. I don't think young men these days expect their wife to do it all alone (and they shouldn't) but every young person, male or female, should learn how to do these basic chores.
    11 points
  4. El Cid

    Shia Sunni unity.

    I'm sorry but since when do Shi'as have such hate in their hearts for Sunnis and have a complex as you eloquently put? The people who seem to have a hate filled inferiority complex is Sunnis themselves. Let me give you an example. I grew up in a Sunni majority country and in one of the major cities of said country. I also grew up in an affluent environment(Why is this relevant? Because people wrongly think that only the lower class of third world countries are victims of ignorance and lack control). So this also meant going to elite schools. I've been hearing "Shi'a Kafir" from the mouths of S
    10 points
  5. @Cherub786, please stop spreading misinformation. If you persist with attributing such things to us then I am afraid that you will no longer be welcome on the forum. Open and critical discussion is always welcome, dishonest accusations are not.
    9 points
  6. Salam, I want to officially say goodbye to everyone on Shiachat. I spent a lot of time here a while back and am grateful to all the mods and site admins who are selflessly helping this site. I feel it's time for me to move forward. I am making this post cos I wanna take the opportunity to say goodbye and express my gratitude. Also I don't wanna disappearand make it seem as if I passed away. Inshallah you all gain all the success in this life. Can one of the admins/mods disable my account? Khudafez everyone, stay safe.
    9 points
  7. This is some weird feminist take. I don’t care if my wife is into housekeeping or not, but chores are expected for any adult. I’m fine with sharing duties, but if you think I’ll pick up your slack just cause you’re some ‘enlightened educated woman’, you’ve got another thing coming. (I also hate men though who can’t even be bothered to take care of their new babies. My cousin is doing this now with his first born and I get livid just talking to him about it.)
    8 points
  8. El Cid

    Shia Sunni unity.

    Why is there such a double standard in Sunnis though? You say we over-praise the Ahl Al Bayt((عليه السلام)) whilst it can also be said you over-revere the companions of the Prophet(s.w) to the point you say Umar would've been a worthy Prophet-esque successor to the Prophethood of Muhammad(صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم). You say that Shi'as curse the companions of the Prophet(S.W). Why is there such a big emphasis on respecting them that you'd justify murder in terms of respecting them. Surah Munafiqun already confirms that there were hypocrites all around the Prophet(S.W). What is islamic about the
    8 points
  9. As salaamun aleikum, I appreciate a FEW of your points, but i have to say, it clearly sounds like you have no clue what its like to be old or any consideration for those who are.. It seems you have no clue about the way people physically and mentally feel when they are old and the manner in which they decline in, the extreme decrease in energy, multiple illnesses and meds with side effects, insomnia, not being able to move around safely without risking a fall and breaking a hip etc...How many elderly people are left alone to die in some senior living center where their peers being taken
    7 points
  10. We are at a crossroads, and a difficult time The faithful will find themselves in a kind of diaspora. And I do not only mean the religiously correct, but the morally correct. one could find himself nationless and adrift. Fantasies about new empires and conquests tossed to the wind this life is a test We are about to be tested, both externally and internally.
    7 points
  11. Everyone, at all times, should live as if we are in the End Times. Even if the Day of Judgement isn't in your lifetime, you never know when will be Your end time. Live so that when you are gone, people will miss you and pray for your soul.
    7 points
  12. Ridiculous thread. What do people do? Think of a prejudice and then pull up a graph from the internet, call it research and start a thread? You people realise that there is WHOLE LIST of non genetic factors that affect IQ? Education, premature birth, nutrition, pollution, drug abuse, mental illnesses, war, famine.There are so many environmental and social factors that effect intelligence. Look at the Muslim world, which muslim country hasn't been involved in war one way or other in the past four five decades. This in turn effects economy, education, nutrition, health etc. Even amongs
    7 points
  13. Shiahs are pro-unity, Sunnis are not. Shiahs hold Al-Quds rally for Palestinians who are predominantly sunni. Sunnis boycott Al-Quds rallies and actually pelt shias with stones during these rallies. No one helps Palestinians more than Iran but Sunni countries like Saudi,UAE, Bahrain establish unity with Jews...
    7 points
  14. El Cid

    Church Experience.

    Salam everyone. [This is a Pre-Covid Story] I wanted to share my experience with Church and the activities that I participated in within that institute. When I moved to a new community, I was surrounded by lots of shopping centers/restaurants/cafes but when it came to spiritual matters; there were only two places near us. One was a Sunni mosque which was quite small in size and the other was a Protestant Church. I don't go to Sunni Mosques and I've never stepped foot into one my entire life; I was also quite fascinated by the idea of visiting a Church as I had never been to one my entire
    6 points
  15. Assalamu alaikum brothers+sisters. I have decided to seperate from a narcissistic abuser with my preschooler daughter. What is the Islamic way of moving out of 'his house' by which he means he pays for my roof. I live in North America and court divorce requires a minimum of a year of seperate housing and/or no physical relation. My patience has reach the tolerance limit and I can't stay a year with him in the same house. To give a background information, he is a Sunni and I married in taqiyyah since my parents (back in Asia) chose him for me as he was 'educated' and 'namazi
    6 points
  16. The main point I wanted to make is 'Don't marry someone, assuming they will change'. I wish I could hire a plane to write that across the sky. If you want to marry someone, marry them 'as is'. Ask yourself, if we stayed married for 20,30,40,50 years and they never changed from the way they are now, would I be ok with that and could I still live with them and be happy and carry out all my Islamic duties toward my spouse with affection and good manners. If you answer 'No' to that question, DON"T MARRY THEM !. Don't marry a 'project'. The vast majority of the people don't change, that is a
    6 points
  17. Assalamu Alaikum, I'm hussaina Musa from sokoto Nigeria. Oh Aba Abdallah!! God has praised you, your name gives meaning to our souls. The tradgedy isn't over!! We will continue to weep, may Allah curse those who slew you and those who were at war with you. LABBAIK YA HUSSAYN. Please help me to pray at the shirne of imam Hussayn, may Allah Grant me my request of getting pregnant after the miscarriage I had in May 2020. Im deeply in sorrow!! May Allah give me pious children ilaheey. And may Allah help us at the immediate release of our leader sheikh Al_zakzaky (h) and
    6 points
  18. Any protest, revolution should be kept away from Holy Shrines, pilgrims.
    6 points
  19. Sinan2

    I'm back!

    I used to be known around here as sinan, but i thought i was being stalked but cleared that up, and luckily no danger. I came back and i want to say hi to everyone. I missed you all!
    6 points
  20. Walaykom Al-Salam sister, Perhaps this can be an opportunity for you to learn to be more bold, while remaining respectful. Sometimes the best response is a clear and honest one, you don't need to sugarcoat it or overcompensate for something that involves your long term future and afterlife. Maybe you can highlight that you're not interested in getting married/engaged, because you're seeking to be more focused on studies and other matters which pertain to your personal life respectively, it is great to be kind and have manners but you can do that while also not owing others a reason for yo
    6 points
  21. Yes, Yes. Everything is always much more problematic on the Shi'a side. So does believing in the virtue of Muwaiya but who am I to judge.
    6 points
  22. I think it is beneficial to become aware of what music actually is. Music is simply frequencies of sound arranged in a certain pattern over a certain period of time. Musicians have learned over the centuries, and this knowledge has been passed down, how to arrange these sounds in a certain pattern to accomplish a goal. Most of the time, this goal is to manipulate a person's emotions in order to motivate them to do something or feel something. Music has the ability to immediately and strongly affect the emotional centers of the brain. When you listen to music, your brain is being hacked, and th
    6 points
  23. Gaius I. Caesar

    Floating

    Floating, all things have lost their meaning. Coating begins to craze, yet my smile assures you that all is seeming However thin and shallow this veneer is- Remain unaware, free from within me and in callow bliss For I am floating and cannot be weighed down You see me with a frown, and ask me where am I today- I am just half of a man with a half of wisdom so I succinctly say: "I don't know" Today, I can only tell you where I was yesterday Tomorrow, I'll be able to tell you where I am today
    6 points
  24. Salam. I'm sorry to hear about your situation. From what I know, you are supposed to live in your husband's house during the iddat, which is three monthly cycles for permanent marriage (zawaj tul nikah, which I am assuming this is, because you mentioned he is Sunni). The one year thing is not something I am familiar with or have ever heard of. The logic behind staying for the iddat is that it gives you a chance to reconcile. If after the iddat, you wish to separate from him (divorce) but he refuses to divorce you, then you can get a khula divorce, where basically you divorce him with the condi
    5 points
  25. Because the only way to be a billionaire is to exploit people, and religious people fear justice.
    5 points
  26. Once a cheater, always a cheater. This is going to sound harsh but you should emotionally check out of the marriage. I am not saying divorce him but stop relying on him for your emotional needs or you will keep getting hurt. Don't keep bringing up his trysts, no point. He is not going to mend his ways until he wants to himself, repeating it will only be traumatic to you and to the marriage. If you don't currently work and have the option to do then please start working or do some volunteer work. In other words find something else fulfilling in your life. Do your duties as a wif
    5 points
  27. Update: so there was a lot of things that made me uncomfortable during our phone convo, and I decided to do ishtakhra. Anyway, I got dressed to meet this guy and when I was about to go out the door...I fell asleep..... . I woke up to many messed calls. Honestly I believe he thinks he got played...cuz the first time I canceled and now the second time I snoozed.y’all do you think the istakhra worked? Maybe it was everyone’s duas in this chat that came all together to save me. Allahu a3lam. Thank you beautiful people.
    5 points
  28. Without Imam you have no Tawhid.
    5 points
  29. If he were a kind and generous man, he would offer you a job and inexpensive rental place with flexible payment terms until you are established, without the requirement of marriage. This sounds too much like moving from one abusive situation to another. I recommend following all the above advice about taking time and making duas and not rushing into a decision.
    5 points
  30. @starlight I don’t want to live at home anymore. My mom keeps making me mentally ill too. She wants to perish and not take the measures to see a doctor. This guy can afford me an apartment. I’m done with this family. I am so done. Of course he probably hates us. I’m so miserable .
    5 points
  31. السلام عليكم Today I want to talk about our society. Now before I start, I would argue that the invention and accessibility of the internet has been the best but also the worst thing that happened in our lifetime. The best in terms of all the knowledge and connectivity it has made available to the masses, and the worst in terms of the (mostly negative) impact it has on the human psyche. See, the consequent acceleration of communication and services is not applicable to only good and productive things, but to everything. That means even hedonistic tendencies and lifestyles. Hedonism i
    5 points
  32. Salam everyone I hope you in the best of health insha’Allah. First, I just wanna establish some points so I’m not misinterpreted. I know it’s haram to lie and I’m not making this post to be egocentric, this is literally my last resort. Not only do I want an answer to this Q but any respectful alternative advice is welcome. So alhamdulilah I’ve learnt over the years the right manner of how to conduct oneself with the opposite gender. However, the older get the more unwanted and overwhelming attention I get, which I’m sure a lot of girls relate to. I literally don’t post any
    5 points
  33. 5 points
  34. coldcow

    A question for men

    Agree with most above. I would not want a wife that refuses to do basic adult tasks. I'm not expecting a 5 star chef, but I don't believe it's healthy to constantly eat out. Even if you're eating health foods, you're teaching children financial irresponsibility and depriving them of home cooked food, and a valuable life skill in learning how to cook from you. I'm pretty good in the kitchen. I'm pretty sure I will be able to cook better than my future wife, when I find one, but that doesn't mean I don't want her trying. And I'm completely willing to cook most of the time. Another
    5 points
  35. No, nothing like this.
    5 points
  36. Qa'im

    A question for men

    In the modern economy, most couples are working (in one way or another), which means that most individuals (men and women) will (at some point) take up some of the cooking/cleaning responsibilities. If you are a woman who plans on having children, then there will be long periods of time where you are at home (especially when the kids are very young) and your husband may need to be working harder. In those situations, you may need to do more cooking and cleaning while he is at work. This however is the general trend, and not necessarily the case in every house. @starlight put it best: no c
    5 points
  37. The wording of ayat ul tatheer, specifically the use of ankum rather than minkum, suggests that the impurity was always kept away rather than 'removed' Therefore they (عليه السلام) were always pure.
    5 points
  38. May this Virus take revenge for what happened to Qasim Sulaymani (رضي الله عنه). Ameen
    5 points
  39. ShiaMan14

    Trump got Covid

    pun intended?
    5 points
  40. Abu Hadi

    Trump got Covid

    Whether he is in 'misery' is still an open question. Most people recover from Covid, and especially since he is in reasonably good health, even though he is in his 70s, from what I hear, and he has the best medical team in the world around him, he will most likely recover without any major issues. Just the fact that there is doubt now surrounding his health, and at this particular time, whether his health actually deteriorates or not, is good for us. It hurts his chances for getting re-elected. Which is what makes me happy. If you look at the objective facts, he has been one of the wors
    5 points
  41. Also, this assertion that Muslims have lower IQ than the rest of the world is unsubstantiated. You can't just put a colorful and unlabeled map on the page and present your claims as facts.
    5 points
  42. Abu Nur

    Shia Sunni unity.

    Reminds me the following narration, same old same, nothing change: He said: Abu Bakr Muhammad ibn Umar al-Ji’abi reported to me from Ahmad ibn Muhammad ibn Ziyad, who reported from al-Hasan ibn ‘Ali ibn Affan, from Yazid ibn Harun, from Hamid, from Jabir ibn Abdillah al-Ansari who said: Once, the Prophet, peace be upon him and his progeny, came upon us holding the hands of al-Hasan and al-Husayn, peace be upon them and said: "These are my two sons, who I have brought up from infancy and for whom I have prayed to Allah as they grew up. I prayed for them for three things, out of which
    5 points
  43. El Cid

    Shia Sunni unity.

    I'm sure any Shi'a can make the reverse arguement on you as well. You're just saying Sunni Islam is the correct religion in a politically correct way. Being the majority doesn't always make you right.
    5 points
  44. That's absolutely rude of you to come to ShiaChat and accuse our Ulama of corruption. Obnoxious even.
    5 points
  45. Mohammad313Ali

    Afterlife

    There are many Hadiths which address the afterlife and in many cases quite explicitly, we are not Quranists, therefore, the second weighty thing should suffice.
    5 points
  46. As predicted by a Bangladeshi Professor about Pakistan's Foreign Policy predicament in the following words: The Latest Geo Political Developments: "Pakistan is about to end its relations with Organization of Islamic Countries (OIC). Saudi Arabia presented a long list of conditions in front of Pakistan to fulfil which Pakistan has outrightly rejected. List includes: 1. Saudi Arabia wants Pakistan to close CPEC deal with China and move back to US camp and close relations with China. 2. Saudi Arabia wants Pakistan to stop all gas and economic cooperation with Iran and support UN
    5 points
  47. Yes read the verse from the beginning: وَقَرْنَ فِي بُيُوتِكُنَّ وَلَا تَبَرَّجْنَ تَبَرُّجَ الْجَاهِلِيَّةِ الْأُولَىٰ The divine command for Prophet's wives was to stay at their homes. Yet we see one wife came out of her house riding a camel and led a whole army. This disobedience itself is sufficient to acknowledge that she was not from among the purified ones. Rather she fought with the purified one i.e., Imam Ali (عليه السلام) How long would you take to realize the truth?
    5 points
  48. Alekum Salam, 'Self Improvement' for marriage is no different than self improvement in general. You improve by, at least, doing the wajib and avoiding the haram, and by being a generally trustworthy person who doesn't lie or make a habit of doing gheeba or slandering others. Like a rocket has stages, this is from liftoff to stage 1, and once you get past this stage you are ready for marriage. I would say about 1/2 of muslim youth that I have met are at this stage. Many of them worry about Rizq, but having these qualities is what draws Rizq to you, and not having these is what draws it aw
    5 points
  49. “And they followed what the Shaitans chanted of sorcery in the reign of Sulayman, and Sulayman was not an unbeliever, but the Shaitans disbelieved, they taught men sorcery and that was sent down to the two angels at Babel, Harut and Marut, yet these two taught no man until they had said, “Surely we are only a trial, therefore do not be a disbeliever.” Even then men learned from these two, magic by which they might cause a separation between a man and his wife; and they cannot hurt with it any one except with Allah’s permission, and they learned what harmed them and did not profit them, and cer
    4 points
  50. It is totally haram to celebrate Christmas for a number of reasons. Firstly, it is a non-Muslim festival and it hasn’t been legislated in our Shari’ah. Participating in non-Muslim religious festivals is a big no-no in our Religion and Shari’ah. That includes Easter, Divali, Halloween, Valentine’s Day, St. Patrick’s Day, Holi, Nowruz, Vaisaki and so forth. Secondly, Christmas itself (December 25) is based on the pagan festival of the winter solstice. It is based on sun-worship (Christianity transformed it into son-worship). Thirdly, celebrating Christmas is to resemble the millat of K
    4 points
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