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Salam , Warning Long Post !!! My uncle has been a successful businessman along with my father since a long time . My Uncle married a local Christian woman from Switzerland who later accepted Shi'a Islam and was very interested and became very religious . They had 2 kids , then when the second kid became about 12 years old he (my uncle) went to Pakistan . This is a key point : On his visit to Pakistan someone put their eyes on him and used a form of black magic type of thing from a local person who practised these type off stuff . Now this evil woman's plan was (at this time my grandfather was alive ) to wait until the elderly died , then marry my uncle the…
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1. Dont criticize or scold your child in front of others because: 1. It will damage his self-confidence and self-esteem. He will feel belittled. 2. People may get a negative feeling towards your child. They may think he is lazy, disobedient, rude,... 3. If you frequently scold him in front of others, he will gradually start disliking you and he wont trust you anymore and whenever a problem occurs for him, he wont talk about it with you. So by making this mistake, you will gain nothing and lose many things.
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I guess what prompted me to write this post is that I'm looking for advice. I'm 22 and to be honest me and my friends were all the same. We work low end job with no real future in sight. We dont care about getting married, getting houses or anything like that at all. My family want to get married soon, but I can't even talk to women, I don't feel like interacting with family in law and stuff. It's not just me who feels like this but alot of my friends, we dont have to pay bills, we just eat sleep, and just spend our days on our phones or playstations. I tried to cut it and create a fulfilling life but I just cant be bothered, I don't know why. Religiously, religion is a…
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I've disappointed God :(
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To the single guys out there that are trying to avoid sin. Or to the married guys that remember what it was like. I'm sure you have/had moments where you end up caving and you give in to your desires. How do you stop yourself from being overwhelmed with guilt? I'm trying to stop masturbating and I am doing very well. I went 3 months without it. But last week, I don't know why but I gave in. And I felt this immense shame, grief, and guilt over my head like I had just committed murder. It's good to be guilty and ashamed when you sin. That's part of your conscience. But when it becomes overwhelming, how do you stop that? I have asked Allah to hel…
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In islam suicide is totally forbidden and haram, but when a person becomes tired and hopeless what option is left? My mother passed away in my childhood, got a step mom who made my life a hell, my father never gave love to me, I got married in search for happiness but he turned out to be the most selfish person in my life, Allah blessed me with a severe disabled child and thats why my husband left me too. Struggling day and night with the struggles of life, being lonely, being sick, and getting older dont see any way out now, prayers and duas all seem to be unanswered, is it better to end this misery or continue living every moment in this pain till i die alon…
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Are men designed for monogamy?
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Are men biologically designed to be polygamous? If this is the case, what actions should we, as men, work towards to move away from that base instinct and live a happy monogamous life? Do married men (and maybe women to an extent but I'm not entirely sure) eventually get tired of having the same partner? I think it's a common theme in Islam that we may have base instincts that aren't ideal and we need to behaving in a higher more dignified manner.
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Salam alaikum, Inshallah everyone here is in the best of health in 2021. I would like to bring forth a topic about defining real success. I was hoping if anyone here can share some thoughts. What do you believe is high success? Does it have to do with pursuing medicine, law or engineering? Or is it something deeper, like purifying the soul, gaining spirituality with Allah, strengthening your personality and/or contributing towards your community? Unfortunately some ethnic families claim to have faith in God yet they hold beliefs that nothing is more successful than becoming a doctor, or studying business is not as good. They forget that this is no mor…
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Traditionally, differences in gender roles between men and women have been justified by actual innate difference between men and women. For example, in justifying the gender roles of carer for women, and provider for men, people may say that women are psychologically and emotionally better suited to stay at home and look after the children, whereas men are better suited to go out and work. In their attempt to undermine traditional gender roles, feminists have downplayed the actual difference between men and women, and claimed that either they don't exist, or where they do exist they are due to social/cultural factors, not innate biological factors, and therefore h…
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Want my parents to get divorced
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My father is not a good man, is beats and torture my mother emotional and physically, due to which she have become a heart pateint and now her nervous system isnt working well. This is going on her entire married life and since now i m married (happily) she told me all these things which are still happening. I want to protect my mother from the same man who is my father . I want them to get divorced
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Salam alaykom brothers and sisters, I am panicking I need help recently I was trying to help someone with a problem and without realizing there was thought that came in my mind that said « if I was god what would I say » astaghfirullah I panicked because if this thought I don’t know if it’s the shaytan or me but I am so scared I’m panicking if I did shirk, plz help
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My younger sister has same-sex attraction 1 2 3
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Salam everyone I am a male in my late 20s and I have a younger sister who is in her early 20s. We live in America and we have a great relationship and we are very close to each other. I am religious whereas I presumed she was religious as well, although we don't really talk that much about religion. Five days ago she messaged me telling me she had same-sex attraction and that she has been feeling this way since she was 12. I was shocked and didn't know how to respond. I knew she confided in me because we are very close, but this shocked me to my core -- I can't imagine ever condoning same-sex attraction. I tried to tell her about Islam's view on same-sex attrac…
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1. What is a successful mutah? 2. Anyone who had a successful mutah?
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I have noticed that many people in our community, mostly parents but also youths have this conceit regard about themselves that they are unwilling to ask someone for proposal to not reduce their status and boost the status of other sides incase of rejection. I have heard this many times. " I will not ask her for my son, what if they say no? then they will say in pride so and so asked for my daughter and we said no huh....." Is this the reason why many people choose to marry close family? Is this mentality not wrong? why have people become like this. Sure some families will boost about the amounts of proposals they received and from who, but really who c…
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Mutah with immoral person 1 2
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I understand that it is not recommended to do temp marriage with a prostitute, but if this is my only choice, is it a better option for me instead of self pleasure?
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Assalam aaleikom I am a Christian who reads about Islam for reference purposes. Could you please explain the practice and justification for Mutah in modern times in simple terms because I have tried reading about it, Youtube videos, etc. and I dont understand how this is allowed in a faith that is so strict about gender segregation, how men and women should interact, and so on. I also watched an extremely disturbing documentary about this practice in Iraq and I have seen some topics about it here; I am struggling to understand how people commenting on here seem so conservative in many other aspects of life but apparently this is all fine?? If it were some ancie…
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Why are marriages still arranged in your communities?
by Guest Outsider- 2 followers
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Hello all. I'm not Muslim but I was just wondering why the practice of arranged marriages is still a thing? I'm not talking about forced marriages, I know those are different and not allowed. I mean marriages where parents set their kids up with other singles, and then they get married without any real emotional connection? So I guess it's a 2 part question 1) Why don't some Muslims find their partners on their own at school, work, online, etc instead of relying on parents? 2) Why do you guys marry after only talking for a few months sometimes No hate at all just curious:)
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Salaam Walikum, Trying to find out how big the bangali Shia community in UK is? If you belong to this community please message me/here whatever is easy for you. It would be nice to organise an event to help bring this community together & spread the word InshaAllah.
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Salam alaykom, I will make it short,but it’s been a week I’m just mentally, physically, emotionally tired and sad, I’m crying everyday, I don’t eat well, I’ve been having unwanted thoughts that are against Allah like shirk and words that just goes against Allah I feel ashamed of myself, I feel that I’ve done something really wrong I do believe in Allah, I make the most to make Him proud of me, I believe in Islam Al hamdoulilah. I have an ugly background but after many times trying to get out of my addictions and bad habits and many times repenting, I sincerely repented to Allah that I won’t go back to anything I’ve done. since then I started to have those waswas and …
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Salam alaykom everyone, I want to know about our thoughts, whispers that we have in ourselves specifically the ones we don’t want them, I am scared because I am trying to not have bad thoughts which go against islam and Allah. the shaytan keeps whispering me, but then it keeps creeping in my mind and I try to forget them/ignore them, but it’s like if we are told to not think of a car, our mind automatically will think of it and that’s what he’s been doing I get scared that maybe Allah will punish me for them. Is there a way to purify our mind and have a pure self?
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Mutah Marriage
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Salam Can Mutah be performed while the girl is on her period Talking to a girl atm but she’s on her period, she told me mutah can’t be performed while she is and to wait a couple days, I just want to make our conversation we having now halal
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What does this world need more of?
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For those in their youth/teens/20s, what kind of people does this world need more of and what qualities should these young men and women focus on cultivating within themselves? You can post general advice or advice that is gender specific
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Curfew
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Whats a reasonable curfew you would you set for your kids in their teenage years? What about after they turn 18 and they are in their 20s?
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Salam alaykum i am a 19 year old convert from Australia, I have converted 3 years ago alhumdulillah . I have decided to put the hijab on but am struggling with the idea of it from my dad. I know you do not put it on for other people opinions but I still struggle with it. my immediate side of my family have been amazing with me converting and even told me to put the hijab on and accepted me straight away. The only problem is my dad who is an Egyptian Coptic orthodox he does not speak to me anymore after I got “married to a Muslim” little did he know I was one the whole time (kept it a secret as he hates Muslims). He can be quite agressive even though he doesn’t speak …
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Salam Brothers and Sisters Hope everyone is doing well and safe. It took me a lot of courage to talk about this particular sensitive topic and open up about myself. It hasn't been quite easy for me since tow months, I have been through a lot of pressure and the traumatic event which just took place a month ago changed my life. I don't know how could I have survived without seeking any professional help. All I needed was a listening ear and that was my therapist...may Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) bless him. Without mentioning the exact time ... last month I was sexually assaulted by my uni colleague and I was so embarrassed and so ashamed. I never thought that he c…
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List of personality traits to look for in a spouse
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Brother @Meedy suggested starting a list of personality traits that one might look for/avoid in a spouse. These are not related to religion but are more surface level. For example: tidy/messy, chatty/quiet, patient/impatient, adventurous/homebody, clever/foolish, flexible/rigid, hot/cool headed Any others?
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There is someone who is telling me bad things about my mother and what he does to her and other things that are meant to insult me, I can't show them due to it being inappropriate. I really want to know how I should respond without doing anything that Allah forbid, I can't stand this to be said about my mother. Thank you in advance.
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Salam, I am getting to know someone who does not live in the same country as me. We had planned on meeting in person but the pandemic with Covid did not allow us to. He suggested that we do mutah over the phone for us to continue speaking. We agreed to a term and dowry and it was performed over the phone. Thinking we would meet up within a few months, we are now on 8 month after our temporary marriage and still can’t see each other due to Covid. I never received my dowry and obviously we never consummated the marriage. He does not agree to end our terms early but I want to. Am I not allowed my time back if I never received a dowry and have never physically been with him?
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marriage nikaah help and divorce
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5 years ago a female friend (virgin) married another guy in nikaah. the father of my female friend was unaware of the marriage and stil to this day is unaware. The father don't like the guy, and wouldn't give permission to him. the marriage took place with shiehk and no mahr was given i was told by female friend. they stayed togheter only maybe 1 month. Is this marriage valid? is it neccesary for father permission? is it neccesary for mahr? the couple have been living 5 years apart in 2 different countries because of visa problems. my female friend want to get divorced but the guy will not give it. the guy has never been supporting the female friend financially …
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Support for liberal Islam
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Guys I feel very confused about what my personal opinions should be regarding abortion, hear me out. I am personally against abortion because it's haram and I'd never question God's decision. However, I feel that maybe I should support these things if I'm living in a secular non Muslim country and I'll explain why. We believe that under certain conditions (not just because she feels like it), a mother can abort a first trimester baby because the soul has not entered it yet. So how can I logically tell a nonmuslim not to abort a first trimester baby when my own religion tells me that for the first 3 months it's just a clump of cells. If a nonmuslim woman wa…
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Asalam Alaykim Im a revert aussie Muslim woman and ive been with my husband for almost 12 years. My husband is a narcissist and has other mental health issues. Over the years he has made me wait for things he should have been giving me (time together, support, be close ect) and been lying to me and playing games on dating sites with woman, pretending to be single. He lies, cheats and disrespects me. He even took our 3yr old daughter to Iraq to live with his sister, because he believe I would leave when I found out about what he was doing, she is now almost 9. He has said im a bad wife because we always have the same problem. He says the problem is I make pain in…
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Salam , Start a podcast ...why not ? It would be amazing if you bring topics related to the Ahlulbayt (عليه السلام) . You can do biographies on the Ahlulbayt (عليه السلام) through your podcast . That would be amazing
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There is a reason why drugs is haram --> they mess with your head. Now DMT and ayahuasca are maybe not necessarily harmful to the "health" and pysche but they tend to come with weird experiences that influence your behavior and convictions. Supposedly shamans and other old magicians used these drugs to communicate with interdimensional beings (djinns basically) and coincidentally (no really coincidence lol) these "beings" always carry the same gnostic message of how humans are bad, save-the-planet empty words, basically waswas x100. For someone to get closer to truth he/she has to resort to revelation(Quran,..) and reason only, not drugs (however good they made you feel). -
Wish they could but it's already 8 people in our house . Our house is pretty big but it will be a chaos . 1. Dad 2. Mum 3. Me 4. Brother 5. Sister 6. Sister 7. Sister 8. Grandmother(moms side)
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I wonder if the translation could be revised to be more precise. I do not think that فَإِذَا رَقَقْتَ translates into "(when you) feel like weeping". A more precise translation could have different implications. The letter فَ before فَتَذَكَّرْهُمْ and فَإِذَا رَقَقْتَ and فَابْكِ could be indicative of a causal chain. "When you remember them" → "When you're tender or softened" → "When you cry" ... Implications: Thinking of your beloved deceased family members causes your heart (you) to become tender or softened which in turn causes you to shed tears. Going back to one of my previous posts (see below), we can say that thinking about a deceased beloved family member transforms the heart, makes it soft and tender. A soft and tender heart is more inclined to crying. A soft heart, more prone to crying, is a "transmitting" heart. When your heart is in that state your duas are heard and accepted. -
Salam, So last night I recorded the first episode in one go and published it. It is still only an experiment for me so I'd greatly appreciate your feedback and what you think before I spread it to a larger audience.
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