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    • There seem to be different opinions about him in the comments on the video. Most seem negative but a few that are saying he does desire peace. I only saw him walking calmly rather than storming. Although he seems to be ok with Israel, I’m still reading up on him. Let's see whilst he may support Zionism, he still does have some good ideas about society and his alternative platform to the w.e.f. (let's see if it turns out to be something good or not.)
    • Salam everyone. Leaving aside what inspired this post, I figured it may be of benefit I share my thoughts regarding this. I am hoping, at least, there will be increased self-awareness and foresight for those who choose to partake in these seemingly innocent celebrations. I will try to be concise.   Best to start with this video link (arabic only): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wXIJiiGS46c, which in summary explains that apparently the opinion of Sayed Sistani is that ultimately it's halal to celebrate Valentine's Day so long as forbidden acts are not involved. Couldn't really find any other sources of fatwas.     I don't disagree with this premise on a fundamental level, however not all halal acts are necessarily advisable (by 'acts' here, I'm more referring to excitement, planning, decorating, celebrating, i.e. making it a thing of significance, as opposed to a minor playful interactions). I will highlight only 3 reasons for brevity why muslims should avoid V-day acts: 1. V-day is religious in its origin and anti-Islamic in (popular) practice It's apparently a non-islamic religious celebration at its root. That alone should be sufficient enough that it should not be prioritized in an Islamic household. But to explain further, propagating religious (and Western culture) celebrations, which in common day is often associated with impermissible expressions of love and establishment of forbidden-type relationships is problematic in my view.  2. Don't underestimate what I call generational dilution These types of practices are what lead to the dilution and even alteration of one's religion in generations to come, which you may have to answer for on Judgement day. An example of this can be highlighted by visiting parts of Syria for instance (my prayers with all muslim brothers/sisters suffering from the earthquakes); there exist families with Shia names and roots directly from Ahlulbayt ((عليه السلام)) yet they are the most staunch of Salafis. Why? Schools are teaching one thing, and families are planning Valentine's Day --> generational dilution (and eventual loss) of Shia knowledge, practices, beliefs.  I highlight generational above to illustrate this takes time to happen. You may not appreciate that, right now, there is any ill effect towards your religion, let alone your children from celebrating Valentine's Day under the guise of love. But understand your foresight and self-awareness are limited. As V-day celebration is engrained in you, it imprints onto your children, and by the time they're old they may be taking up Christmas/other non-Islamic holidays. Perhaps a century later the great grand-children are visiting churches, singing Christmas carols, or getting baptized. Think that's extreme? Ask the Salafi named AbdulHussein son of AbdulHassan. 3. Islam is a way of life, so let us get that sorted first Still halal though, right? Can't tell your family to not be excited, planning weeks and weeks ahead to celebrate something halal. Well, at this point, let us discuss more reasons about why not Valentine's Day celebrations AFTER we are knowledgeable and whole-heartedly practicing Islamic celebrations first. Not just Eid el-Fitr or Eid al-Adha, but also Eid al-Mubahila and Eid al-Ghadeer. Also the birth of each of the illustrious members of Ahlulbayt ((عليه السلام)) who have suffered endlessly for us to live in free expression of the true Islamic faith. The day Imam Ali ((عليه السلام)) and Sayeda Fatemia ((عليه السلام)) were married (there's your Shianetine day). Educational activities for children (and adults...). Baked goods. Flowers. Expressions of love. Remembrance. Once excitement for our religion and culture is imprinted into the family structure, then let us "get excited" and discuss partaking in celebrations that come from other religions and certain cultures that in modern day practice are contrary to the spirit of Islam. The leader of a household has a duty to ensure true Islam propagates for decades to come, not just selfishly think about oneself and immediate family. Re: Imam Hussein ((عليه السلام)). If despite this, for some of you Valentine's Day is a 'sentimental' or 'family' tradition "necessary" to enjoy, beware the slippery slope so you may at least educate those who come after you regarding actually important celebrations, like the unparalleled significance of Eid al-Ghadeer for instance.
    • Asalam o Alaikum I had this Simple Question if one could guide me  I have many translations of Quran and some translations are different from other  For Example recently i asked meaning of word Qararan  Some translate it as Established, some as a dwelling place, some settlement, Some are fixed abode and Firm abode  And all these meaning specially fixed, firm and settlement are meanings of this word   But i wanted to ask why does everyone has his own translation of Quran, I do that Quran is translated according to Context rather than just the word  Why do we have different translations from different people JazakAllah khair     
    • Yeah he even stormed Al-Aqsa with the Israeli forces.  https://www.shiachat.com/forum/topic/235077070-jordan-petersons-message-to-the-muslim-world/?do=findComment&comment=3392546
    • Allahumma salli ala muhammadiw wa ali muhammadin wa ajjil faraja hum Rabbinee lima anzalta ilayya min khayrin faqir Allahumma innee urreedu an atazawwaja faqaddir lee minan nisaa-I a’fihunna farjajan wa ah’fadh’ihunna lee fee nafsihaa wa awsa-i-hunna lee rizwan wa a-dhamahunna lee barakatan fee nafsihaa wa maaleee faqaddir lee minhaa waladan tayyiban tajaluhoo khalafan saalihan fee hayaatee wa ba`da mawtee. Oh Allah! I desire to marry, so arrange for me a woman from those who willingly abstain from what is unlawful and who safeguards her soul for my sake and because of her, not only my means of sustenance will increase, but also make there be in it abundance and also make it sure that she will give me a virtuous son, who will be a noble successor in my life and after my death. Ya Rabb, help me in finding a good wife in the same boat as me, who also understands and accepts me as I am. May she find peace and be filled with joy wherever she goes. May she have the strength and courage to find me, love me and live with me. May she find and be filled with much wisdom and clarity in her words and from her experiences. May she in her kindness, share these experiences with me and help us grow together. Verily with hardship comes ease. (إِنَّ مَعَ الْعُسْرِ يُسْرًا - 94:6) Ya Rabb, You alone know what is truly in my heart. You alone know my struggles and pain, Al-Wadud. I feel unbearably lonely and do not wish to incur Your displeasure by remaining unmarried, Al-'Aziz!
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