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If you or someone you know is having suicidal thoughts, please reach out for help. There are people who are willing to listen. Suicide is never the right thing to do. This topic is for suicide prevention. There are International Suicide Hotlines. If you live in the United States, click here and find your state: http://www.suicide.org/suicide-hotlines.html Outside the US (for Other Countries), click here: http://www.suicide.org/international-suicide-hotlines.html Some suicide articles to read are available: http://www.suicide.org/suicide-articles.html
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Salaam, I have a question regarding parenting. I'm very young but I often take mental notes for myself on what parenting techniques are good and bad, so I can use them in the future. I grew up in an Islamic environment, raised by religious parents that taught me correctly. I also attended Islamic sunday school for many years, and I know that the students around me were also raised well by religious parents, taught the exact same things I was taught. However, I see now that many of them have fallen into various major sins as they entered the teenage years. Even after proper moral upbringing and religious education at Islamic school, they still fell into those sins. H…
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Salaam brothers and sisters, My prayers for all of you. Ramadan Kareem/Mubarak to everyone. My aunt is suffering from COVID-19 from a good time now and she also got admitted to the hospital a week ago. Her condition is not good. Up until today, the reports were all showing a decline in her health. But just today that decline stopped. Doctors are now hopeful that her situation will improve. Need your prayers for her life. Jazakallah Khayr. May Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) bless you all.
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Salam, Is there a possible way to stop fantasising about being in a relationship with a female. Like many young people, the thought of having a loved one and being loved is captivating my mind both day and night. It's killing me to such an extent that my mental health is declining.It's almost as if my mind and soul has been convinced that the only way i can experience happiness in life is if I have someone to share it with. But the thing is, the thought of marriage won't be happening anytime soon.... perhaps years..... perhaps I may never find true love.My life has been so incredibly unfulfilling this past year, particularly these last few weeks. I have no friends, …
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I am the type of girl who didn't even look at boys . I hated the girls in school who all the time talked abt boys , went in dates etc etc . I was totally against all this . One or two boys followed me in high school but i never looked or talked to them it would shatter my conscience. I could nt even think of loving a boy . In first year of college i came to know a boy liked me . From the very first day i developed strong feelings for him ..the first day my heart went racing .i felt nauseated . I became very tensed. I even cried in room . I was nt knowing what was happening to me . This continued but i never thought of doing anything.. i thought time would pass nd it will …
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Hi, I had a dream I was being possessed, does it mean anything bad?
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Salam alaykom, I have eczema since I’m a young teenager that’s located around the pubis and I’ve seen many times my doctors and put cream but it the itching is hard to not do it. I realized every time I itch intensely some semen come out and it’s happening in ramadan, is my fast void because of that?? I can’t stop itching it’s hard I always take a shower because it happens every 8h hours so you imagine every time taking ghusl, plz help do I have to do qadha?
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Salamunalaykum An urgent request for a Indian brother who is covid positive and staying in a hotel in Freetown, Sierra Leone. He was scheduled to leave for his home (India) but his PCR test came out to be positive. He is asymptomatic but requires the food items and liquids to help his body fight the virus and doesnt want to land in the hospital (God forbid). He is in early 60s. Anyone who resides in Sierra Leone, please respond if you can help this momin.
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1. Dont criticize or scold your child in front of others because: 1. It will damage his self-confidence and self-esteem. He will feel belittled. 2. People may get a negative feeling towards your child. They may think he is lazy, disobedient, rude,... 3. If you frequently scold him in front of others, he will gradually start disliking you and he wont trust you anymore and whenever a problem occurs for him, he wont talk about it with you. So by making this mistake, you will gain nothing and lose many things.
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Salam Alaikum, If a Shia woman marries a Sunni and he says divorce 3 times while she’s pregnant, is the divorce valid or does she have to bring a Shia Sheikh to make it valid?
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To the males struggling with homosexuality/gay, Prophet Lut's advice
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Salam Peace on you, -message to the mods:please do not reject on the condition of being prude, this may help someone struggling, (could save a life, change a future and provide answers in a muslim forum where most of these questions answers are not discussed in public, most of the terms used are medical and should not be hidden in Muslim homes.- First I want you to know that God's blessing and forgiveness is more than you can imagine. Seek His forgiveness and thank Him for all the blessings, alhamdullilah. I felt like this needed it's own topic as this is a serious problem. Know that the Friend of The Almighty, Ibrahim (Abraham) (عليه السلام) pr…
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اللاسم عليكم I am a 26 year old who has been struggling with the desire to be a woman since my earliest memories at 5 or 6. I used to pray to Allah every night to make me a girl or a mother or that I would be celibate and never sin if He made me a woman. Puberty was very difficult for me and I developed OCD and anxiety during it. I started developing a very masculine body with lots of hair so I started to hate my body and myself. In university it got so bad that I developed very severe suicidal depression and had to take leave for a few semesters because of my mental state. I have been on antidepressants since and tried to repress my thoughts for years since the…
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The ShiaChat Marriage Crisis 1 2 3
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With the amount of threads being created regarding mutah, istimna, porn, zina, the youth of this generation are clearly going through a crisis that it seems our forefathers were saved from. The reasons for this crisis are numerous but I think it's mainly due to the fact that marriage has become far less accessible and society/parents are delaying it unnecessarily, mainly because of a lack of knowledge of the extent of sexual perversions that most of the youth commit/try to avoid. My own parents have told me that it's very easy to wait until your late 20s to marry, as they were able to do it easily. It boggles the mind that they refuse to see how the youth of today have so…
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Istikhara Baby Name
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Salam, I would like a second opinion about a matter I am currently dealing with. I currently have a son on the way alhamdulillah. My wife and I decided on a name for the baby. We are 100% sure and confident on the name. My father relies heavily in istakhara in all things. He also personally did not like the name we picked and wanted a different name. Anyway he has told me that he has done istakhara on his own and he said it came out bad for the name. My wife and I are still sure we would like to keep the name for the baby. We have consulted with other members of our family and they also love the name we picked. My questions is should we even consider istakhara for this si…
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Salaam, What people consider non-traditional or "out of the ordinary", as my mom thinks, are the following: 1. Mut'ah marriage. It's literally allowed in the Qur'an. Sure, there are laws like the woman must not be a virgin and she must wait I don't know how many months or something like that for her to get married, but my mom believes that if I have a mut'ah marriage with a woman, then if that woman gets pregnant she'll trick me and I don't know what in order for me to have no choice but to permanently marry her. 2. Marrying more than one woman. It's also allowed in the Qur'an. Sure, the Qur'an says that if I can't be just then I only marry one, but even if…
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Hey, posting another one. Sayed Ammar recently mentioned an organization in the end of his lecture today that I think is really helpful. So I just want to leave the link out there: https://www.strongsupport.co.uk These guys have resources and programs to provide support for Muslims that have same DRC attraction but still want to be consistent in their deen.
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You are not a real man if you support feminism. A woman can never be equal to a man. God created man to put his will in society. For this reason there has always only existed male prophets and never female prophets.
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Disobeying Parents
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Im 21 years old. My parents are extremely protective with me to the point where they are actually sabotaging my life and growth into a mature adult. They do not listen to reason, if I try to reason with them or ask why they make certain rules, they simply say "because we said so, we don't need to provide you with reasoning for our rules". In this case, to what extent am I allowed to disobey them since they are actually doing me HARM and is there any other way this situation can be helped. Thank you
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Salam alaikum brothers and sisters. If you didn't need to work for money, you knew all your needs would be met, how would you spend your time? Would you continue in your current work? Care for family? Or do something else entirely?
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To the males struggling with gender identity, trans-autogynophilia, etc
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Salam Peace on you, -message to the mods:please do not reject on the condition of being prude, this may help someone struggling, (could save a life, change a future and provide answers in a muslim forum where most of these questions answers are not discussed in public, typed on my phone so there are grammar issues and misplacement of text please pardon- most of the terms used are medical and should not be hidden in Muslim homes.- Look want to be straight forward and maybe help out, especially during Ramadan. Some if not a majority of the reason you have this confusion, same-sex attraction, trans feelings, etc is because of societal influence that was taken …
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Salam, as some of you may already know from my last post, my father passed away after a tough fight with Covid. Today is the burial and we want to get as many prayers and extra good deeds and amaal to reach him. It would mean a lot if you could pray for him or do any good deeds and send the rewards to him. thank you for your prayers
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Mutah with Ahle Kitab
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What is your guys opinion on doing mutah with christians and jews in the West? I've been told by a few people and a scholar that it's not a good idea unless absolutely necessary. What are the pros/cons?
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Salam - hope you are doing well ? just wanted to ask if anyone one has any advice ? Or experience they wanted to share in regards to finding someone to get married too ? any Amal’s ? And preparations on how find someone and how to know more importantly the person is the correct person for you ? I have started working out, reading, growing etc. Alhamduillah I have a decent career and am ready to take on this new responsibility... and a intellectual companionship doesn’t sound too bad either haha Just wanted any advice on someone who has been in my shoes ? Any Amal’s ? also how does one stay patient during this period ? I asked my mother …
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This fantastic clip on Dr. Gabor Mate perfectly explains why exactly the Muslim community is dealing with their children apostating from the religion. Obviously, in forums like these we've discussed how a few are moved by simply wanting to fit into the mainstream crowd, but we never really ask ourselves why the need to fit into the mainstream in the first place. Lack of nurturing adults in one's life leads to requiring another source of stability within the child, and that is usually found within the peer group. And if that peer group is against Islamic values, then you can imagine what will happen to that kid. The Muslim community, particularly in Western countries…
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People who: 1. lack empathy (have low emotional intelligence) 2. are psychopaths or suffer from antisocial personality disorder 3. are heavy drinkers 4. are narcissistic 5. show aggressive behaviour and are impatient 6. have low self-esteem 5. have been abused or belittled by others * Men who are hostile to women or have friends who are so, are more likely to commit violent crimes against women.
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[MOD NOTE: Warning: Due to the mature subject matter (explicit sexual language), read this topic at your own risk.] 1 in 6 American under the age of 24 now identify as LGBT. The recent rise in the numbers of LGBT youth is partly due to the fact that they have more freedom to express what they have always felt. Some would say that the number of LGBT has always been this high, it's just that it has been suppressed and made to seem low in frequency. However, one cant ignore the fact that many people have little to no genetic homosexual inclinations, and simply end up "experimenting" with the opposite gender for "fun". At this rate, will we even be able to send our child…
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does anyone know where i would be able to contact a scholar and ask them questions about religion/philosophy? I have tried that app 'ask a scholar' (I believe thats the name) but wasnt a fan of it.
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Salam to all brothers/sisters, This website needs a rant section, where people can vent out their anger/depression/frustration! I am undergoing an extremely difficult phase in my life. So please pray for me, and suggest me some activities to distract myself. Please, and thank you!
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A question for men 1 2
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Are there men out there who don't care if their (future) wife is not into cleaning or dish washing or cooking? Because I don't do any of those things, I don't like it and I'm actually never planning to do. My mum sometimes says that my future husband is unlucky with someone like me because I don't like to clean or cook. But why is he unlucky? He gets an educated girl with a good job. What do y'all prefer? Woman with a good job and career or a woman who loves to take care of the house and that kind of stuff. Because in my point of view, most men rather have the last option. I think marriage might not be for me looll.
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Fajr Problem
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Is there any way to reduce the frequency of wet dreams? I get them often, usually after I go back to bed after fajr so it really disrupts my sleep. And i have enough discipline to get up for fajr every single day but astaghfirullah, if I get one before fajr, i don't have enough discipline or energy to go take a shower and pray and I just miss it :(
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Fear of death in a muslim is worst quality of a muslim. Take action and do not hide behind fake accuses and diplomatic arguements. Imam is watching remember. -
These condemnation is of no use if you really cant help your muslims brothers. Every one understands these points.
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I don't view homosexuality as a sin on the level of rape or murder because of course these involve non consensual assault and death. I view incest as common place in many parts of the world where people marry their cousins, but they get along fine. If this incest were of a kind that would cause genetic defects that would lead to death of the individuals children, then I would disagree with it, given that this kind of sexual activity would result in pain and death of children. Homosexuality doesn't result in the birth of children with genetic defects, nor is it a violent act, nor is it even one that harms our society. It is improper to equate these actions. And America's success isn't due to things like bans on gay marriage. But rather it's due to things like bans on bans of gay marriage. It is the opposite of what you believe that has allowed us to thrive. But you don't have to simply take my word for it. All you have to do is look and directly observe the success of nations with legalized gay marriage in comparison with those that don't. -
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Since, on the Night of Honour, the destiny of one year of ours is determined based on our worthiness, we should keep vigil the whole night and repent of our sins, practice self-perfection and refer to Allah to gain more and better worthiness for His mercy. Yes, we should be aware of the moments that our fate forms and not spend the time in negligence and sleeping, otherwise our destiny will be regretful. As the Qur'an is a book of destiny and leads to the path of happiness and guidance, for Man, it should be sent down on the Night of Honour, the night of determining fates. What a nice connection there is between 'the Qur'an' and the Night of Honour! And how meaningful their relation with each other is! -
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now this guy replied back with this and I don't know if these are Sahih or not. What is your oppinion and explanation? Maybe I should invite him to debate here with you guys. i am sure you will have the right answers. Imam AlSaadeq (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) said: "On the head of the 7th one from us is the relief” Gaibat Al-Tusi p.54 Sheikh AlToosi: "It is possible that the 7th one is from him” 7th from Imam Al-Saadiq (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم): 1.Al-Kadhem 2.Al-Ridha 3.Al-Jawad 4.Al-Hadi 5.Al-Askari 6.Imam Al-Mahdi 7.Ahmed 2) Imam Al-Saadiq (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم): “After the Qa’em are 11 Mahdis from the children of Hussain (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم).” Usool Sitat Ashar One would say that this hadith is about 12 Imams. How is it about 12 Imams when it’s saying 11 Mahdis from Hussain (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم)? Doesn’t include Hasan, Hussain or even Imam Ali (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم). This is about the 11 Mahdis after the 12th Imam and first Mahdi Ahmed mentioned in the Prophet’s Will. 3) And from Imam Sajad ((عليه السلام)) he said: "The Riser(Qa'im) will rise from us(meaning the Mahdi) and then after him there shall be 12 Mahdis(meaning Imams from his offspring)" Sharh Alkhbar 3/400 (Explanation News 3 / 400.) by Gathi AlNuman AlMagrebi 363 A.H 4) Prince of the believers (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) said: "If four names were repeated from the Imams of my sons , the fourth one is the expected and awaited one" Hedayat AlKubra p.374 No four names are repeated in the Prophet’s Will except the name of the Prophet 3 Muhammads and 1 Ahmed. All of which are names of the Prophet=4. Many more hadiths point to the existence of 12 Mahdis after the 12 Imams. Please reconsider. Baha AlDeen AlNajaf said in Muntakhab AlAnwar AlMuthee'a: And what has been authentic to me is his narration from Sheikh AlSa'eed Abi Abdullah Muhammad AlMufeed(may Allah have mercy on him) raised to Mufathel son of Umar [thiqa according to Mufeed], he said: I heard Aba Abdullah (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) saying: "The companion of the affair has two occultations, one of them will be long until some of them say that he died and some of them will say he is killed and some of them will say he left until no one remains with his affair from his companions except a small part of his companions and no one will know about his place, not even his children or others *except the mawla that will succeed his affair*." - Imam Mahdi has children - There will be a Mawla that will meet him during his occultation, which will succeed in his affair. Imam Abu Abdillah (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم): "Writing a will is an obligation, and the Messenger of Allah PBUHAP did leave behind a will. It's an obligation for muslims to do the same." [Man La Yadurruhu Al-Faqih p.181] Prince of believers said: "If four names were repeated from the Imams of my sons, the fourth one is the expected and awaited one." [Hedayat AlKubra p.374] And from Imam Sajad ((عليه السلام).) he said: "The Riser (Qa'im) will rise from us (meaning the Mahdi) and then AFTER HIM there shall be 12 Mahdis (meaning Imams from his offspring)" Sharh Alakhbar 3/400 (Explanation News 3/400) by Gathi AlNuman AlMaghrebi 363 AH. Imam Jaafar [(صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم)] said: "O Allah be for your guardian, the one who rises with your matter, Muhammad ibn Hassan, to his fathers peace and blessings in this hour and every hour, a patron, a protector, a leader, a victor, an evidence, and assistant, until you make him on earth be supported and make him enjoy its height and breadth and make for him an offspring, Imams who inherit.” Bihar Al Anwar. Vol.49, p.349
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