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I’m going to have a mental breakdown over OcD
by Guest Salam- 6 replies
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Salam, My OCD is destroying my faith. I used to pray 5x a day and still do but get awful thoughts about Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) etc that I don’t wish to repeat. My prayers, ghusl everything etc is corrupted. The worst thing? I stopped watching TV movies, listening to music thinking it would help me but it’s done nothing to help. I pray to Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) every single day and I know it’s a test but I also know it isn’t magically going to go away. I have run out of options, my belief in Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) is strong etc but my thoughts have been destroying my faith and Iman to the point where I’m just not caring anymore, if this cont…
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Risk of committing Zina - Please Help 1 2
by Guest Troubled- 4 followers
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I am trying my best to get married and it isn't looking too promising for me, I have been looking for a wife for a little over two years and things just aren't working out, but I won't give up. My issue is that I absolutely fear falling into the sin of fornication and it is a sin I don't want to have to carry on my back, because I know I will regret it severely. I have tried with great effort to get into Mut'ah marriage, but there just isn't any help - at my work the female customers that work with me speak only Spanish and to get them into a Mut'ah contract is a near impossibility, I try my best to avoid any female interaction but at times it is necessary because I need …
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Torn, shredded and destroyed between parents and wife 1 2
by Guest anothamarriedbrutha- 4 followers
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Hope you are all in the best of emaan and health inshallah. I have been living in a joint family with my parents and my wife for 4+ years. My parents are from a very traditional background and my wife is an extremely sensitive individual. Everything my parents do, she thinks they are indirecting her, telling her off or are speaking against her. We've gone through a lot of such issues over the years and during the pandemic, the situation exploded exponentially (in a very bad way). Now, anything my parents do are say, she thinks they are telling her off. Any small disagreement that happens between us, she bring up EVERYTHING from the past 4 years without taking …
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Assalamu alaikum brothers+sisters. I have decided to seperate from a narcissistic abuser with my preschooler daughter. What is the Islamic way of moving out of 'his house' by which he means he pays for my roof. I live in North America and court divorce requires a minimum of a year of seperate housing and/or no physical relation. My patience has reach the tolerance limit and I can't stay a year with him in the same house. To give a background information, he is a Sunni and I married in taqiyyah since my parents (back in Asia) chose him for me as he was 'educated' and 'namazi'. I asked my Marja' beforehand to confirm that it is not obligatory to reveal b…
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I’ve suffered abuse from my brother long enough. It’s so crazy how my family always tears each other down and humiliates them. My brother inherited abusiveness from my father. I can’t take it anymore. Today I have to sacrifice my religion and make a decision to marry someone out of my sect as refuge. It shatters my heart but this guy has promised to help me out and even give me a position in his firm. Plz pray for me y’all. It’s a sad day today. Sad I have to seek the help of strangers let alone a non Shia. I feel like I failed Imam Hussein (عليه السلام) but I’m so sick of living in an abusive and crazy household.
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Asalawailaikum, I need a little advice on how to convince my parents for my marriage. I am a 23 year old girl who has a very strict family and which thinks about society a lot. I like one guy and want to marry him the issue is that he is a revert. He converted to shia a year ago and is still continuing to learn. But my family isn't accepting because they say it's not allowed to marry "shia convert male" and mostly about "what will people say" 1) is it permisble to marry a covrert male? 2) how do I convince what do I do? As I really like this man and want to get married to only him. Also we haven't been in any relationship or anyt…
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https://www.dw.com/en/pope-endorses-same-sex-civil-unions-in-new-documentary/a-55349636 The article is a little different than the broadcast medium's wording.
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https://zora.medium.com/what-it-means-to-be-black-and-south-asian-838d748bb05d
Last reply by Ali_Hussain, -
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My father is ordering my mom to leave to another country in 2 weeks and they aren’t divorced. I told him what if my mom(his wife) doesn’t want to go(and she doesn’t want to go that early). He told me “ it doesn’t matter what she thinks, it’s whatever I say happens.” Does he have this kind of power? I know that a women is supposed to obey her husband. But I feel as if he’s being unreasonable. Can you please educate me on this subject.
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Low testosterone man
by Guest Salam- 2 followers
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Salam, im in my early 20s who has a mature head. I have one issue and that is I’m a coward. Always have been, whenever people used to talk bad about me I never used to reply and just used to attack them due to my size. Now I’m normal sized and the option of attack isn’t wise anymore so I back down. I feel like an absolute coward not taking control or being in control, not facing up to challenges etc rtc. It might be a genetic disposition from my mother but I’m not to sure. As a man how am I going to get my wife to follow the Islamic principles if I can’t get her to agree to wearing hijab because I dont have the willpower to argue etc etc. If someone wrongs…
Last reply by Ali2196, -
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assalam o-alaikum brothers and sisters. I hope everyone is doing well. I am new to this chat. I have question to both brother and sister. I am in my final year of my university and hoping to get stable job next inshallah. So coming back to my question so I have never date anyone as I wanted to keep it halal etc so recently my parents has started asking me if I have anyone in mind as I have never dated. How do I find someone in halal way getting to know someone. What is the correct one?
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Assalamu aleikoum, ya 'Ali madad! I know that according to Twelver Shia' (Ithna 'Ashariyah) there is nothing like a Jinn possession of a person, but i want to know what is view of a Jinn possession in other Shia' denominations or sects. If anything, i want here some debate about this topic.
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No ambition, hardly no friends, and depression
by Guest SB9- 20 replies
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Salam, Sorry I dont want to rant but I’ll label a few things that terrible effect my life -High level of depression -Mental health issues (I hit, punch myself and hit my head on the walls if I am frustrated) -I lack a social life, I am socially awkward and find it hard-tiresome to get to know people. In addition to this I don’t trust people at all so never share anything in my life. -OCD and other things due to religion, my family are sick of me, for example if my fresh clothing that is washed drops to the floor I will put in the washing machine again. -I hardly eat the food my family make I don’t trust the najasat hands there have. My daily …
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Salam brothers and sisters inshallah everyone is well Ever since I was little, ive been a bad person, bad son, bad brother, bad cousin, bad friend when I really thought about my past Ive been nothing but a nuisance, my family are not religious either and we all have a bad bad temper, which later got me into a alot of problems going into high school, i become worse, looking at the older kids i wanted to be like them i became religious for a short period, i would say 2 years or somethjng but never really studied about islam or anything like that, didnt even know what was shia/sunni, knew basically nothing I slowly started getting into fights here an…
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A question for men 1 2
by Guest bonjour- 5 followers
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Are there men out there who don't care if their (future) wife is not into cleaning or dish washing or cooking? Because I don't do any of those things, I don't like it and I'm actually never planning to do. My mum sometimes says that my future husband is unlucky with someone like me because I don't like to clean or cook. But why is he unlucky? He gets an educated girl with a good job. What do y'all prefer? Woman with a good job and career or a woman who loves to take care of the house and that kind of stuff. Because in my point of view, most men rather have the last option. I think marriage might not be for me looll.
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Why is our youth turning away from Islam. One factor explained by Sheikh Mohammed Al-Hilli
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What makes someone a Shia? (Seriously)
by Guest Shia- 1 follower
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So, my husband was raised Sunni. Recently, several times, he’s stated that he believes in the Ahlul Bayt (عليه السلام) and believes that they were the rightful successors of the Prophet (عليه السلام). However, he still prays the Sunni way and is hesitant to label himself as Shia or Sunni. So what is he considered? Sunni or Shia?
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Salam alaikum brothers and sisters... it’s been so long since I’ve logged on here and scrolled through the forums. It saddens me because I remember when I reverted I spent so much time on here connecting with other Muslims, learning and sharing - I was filled with inspiration and excitement and LOVE for Allah. I could not help but cry almost daily because I was so grateful to be guided to Islam, I felt whole and new - the world transformed and tears welled up in my eyes just seeing the sky, the earth, the plants, all the things Allah has created and knowing He had the power to create such a perfect world. However things have gone very very downhill... I am an alcoho…
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Hi I have seen emails that my husband have been cheating on me with other women and it have happened 2015 to 2017 with other woman’s It have been 4 different women’s and he have shared his number with them and pictures of himself We two kids born 2014 and 2017 So he have been msgs with other women after our child born and while I have been pregnant Sometimes he have also been talking to some of these women When I look back those years I do remember he could hear some lady voice on his phone when I went to bed with kids But I always stop and don’t think he is cheating as he loves me a lot Few months bac…
Last reply by Quran313, -
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I am hoping if any of the brothers or sisters could kindly redirect me towards a website that sells children books for Shia youth that can be purchased in bulk quantity, also if there are any non-copyright PDF children books relevant to any Islamic topic that would be ideal and much appreciated. May your reward be with Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى)
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Salam I'd like to get an opionion if it's the norm that a husband chooses to masturbate and watch porn as it makes him feel good. Why he chooses to do this if he's married ? He is aware it's haram but doesn't think it hurts anyone so not a problem doing it. I'd like to know do alot of men who are married do this ? Is this something that is happening in marriages that is widespread and noone talks about it? Does the man have the right to do this if for what ever reason his wife does not give him what he needs when he needs it? Or is it still wrong ? Has a wife got the right to ask him to stop this behaviour ? And if he does not, what can she do? Thank …
Last reply by MohammadAli1993, -
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Hi I've been married many years with 3 children. It was a love marriage. From the beginning of our marriage I did notice my husband watched porngraphy and would satisfy himself after watching it. I ignored it as things were going well and it never stopped him coming to me for pleasure. But over the years I've noticed he comes to me less often and will be watching porngraphy more often. Several times a week. He would either go down in the middle of the night to fo it or deliberately start an argument so he then sends days/ weeks downstairs. I'm assuming so he can do his business without me being there. Last 2 years I've been asking him to stop. No 1 its haram,…
Last reply by MohammadAli1993, -
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Salam everyone. I have been curious about this question for a while now. A couple of years ago, I realized that the world is so globalized and one isn't just limited to marriage options within their own community. Our Prophet(SW) and Imam(Peace be upon them) also had diverse marriages in some cases. How does one go about doing it though? The normal procedure for Subcontinental and Arab families I believe is match-making between community members or families since dating culture is frowned upon. So how exactly do Converts fall into this world of marriage? I'll be honest, I've never even seen a convert of another ethnicity my whole life except an African gentleman in a…
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Assalamu Alaikum Dear friends, as I see this topic more regularly talked about, it is time that I give a message and share my journey. I guess my story is more centered about depression more so than bullying, but hopefully I can help both. Being bullied is a very traumatic experience and can stick with you for what seems like the rest of your life and as a result, we go to large lengths to avoid remembering what we've experienced by taking pills and unfortunately committing suicide. I don't want to believe that humans can be so cruel to one another but this is a harsh reality we are faced with. During my schooling years, I wasn't bullied to the extent as others have,…
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Salam Alaykum. I hope all of you are doing well. I was raised in a religious Iranian household in America. However, only my parents and I are practicing. I am a 24 year old sister myself. I have four younger siblings. This isn't a common problem in the Muslim community (maybe it is, but no one talks about it?) and I wasn't sure where to go for this. I've had my suspicions for about a year now, but I think my 20 year old sister is gay. Mostly because she hates hates hates the idea of getting married to a man. I've never said anything to anybody in my family because she is young and doesn't go out at all, and maybe I misinterpreted her behavior . However, a few …
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We currently have "a question for men", so, here is a question for woemen" [Hey, that typo gives me an idea: woe2men.] Back to main point: Why do women accumulate all those 'dust collectors'? Also know as "decorative items." Those goofy looking miniatures, hang-me-ups, corner fillers and other such commercial garbage. My mom, grandmothers had a few, but my older sister and ex had a lot of them. For what purpose? There is nothing more disturbing than to go to the sink, get some water for coffee, look up and see a dumb-duck staring at you. Not counting stuff you walk-into, trip over or otherwise gets in the way. Note: "Popcorn"…
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How 2 get over childhood bullying?
by Guest Asif- 2 followers
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I keep thinking I’m a coward nd remembering bullying. How 2 get over it?
Last reply by Haji 2003, -
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Salaam Alaykum, I hope you doing awesome. As the title explains, I grew up in an abusive family (parents, siblings), and it still exists among them. Should I tell the girl I'm talking to about marriage? She doesn't know about this
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This is a huge website with so much information, and its hard to find out exactly what I am looking for. My questions are: 1- Is there any website that gives complete rules and information about Mutah? 2- In Nikkah you get Divorce to get seperated , what about Mutah , how would one terminate Mutah? 3- Also its a mutual consent, how about one wants to end Mutah and the other don't?? Would anyone HELP about this Issue PLEASE ????????????? Jazak Allah
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Gender reassignment surgery
by Guest Kazimmmmm3- 4 replies
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My family is strictly against me getting gender reassignment surgery even though it's allowed according to imam Khomeini after you get diagnosed with gender dysphoria. Their reason is that it's not acceptable in our culture and they dont want their only son to become a woman. I genuinely understand their issue with it but what should I do? They're currently trying to make me ”normal” with the help of a mualana from Iran who is also completely against this and thinks that I can also change. I'm not sure what to do? Follow everything my parents say or do what I want? I'm stuck.
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Uhhh . . . What about Yemen ? Or Somalia? Or . . .
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Salaam Alaykum, I'm sorry to hear what you go through. Don't care about those thoughts. A well known scholar told me that if person have bad thoughts in his/her mind about religion, Allah, etc., he/she should not overthink because it makes it stronger. He said just leave it. Those thoughts gradually go away. It's easy. I had it before, and I went through what you saying. Be relax and it WILL go away. I promise.
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And the reason for the Sudanese 'peace treaty' one is here:
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Yes, you are being too idealistic. You have to plan everything rationally when you want to move. You can’t base a move on a dream or some idea of what you think Qom is like. You have to actually visit Qom and see if you want to live there. Yes, Qom is a religious place, but the quality of life there is pretty poor. Especially you being a convert? It’s going to be really hard. The people there aren’t exactly friendly as Tehran either.
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