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  2. Bakir

    General Neutral Pronoun

    That's the thing. It's a matter of etiquette, no need to make laws for it. In my case as a teacher, there is no need for a specific law on queer pronouns. If it reaches the point where I'm causing psychological harm to one of my students, action can be taken against me without any law like that. Mistakes are normal because it is not normative. In the specific case I mentioned before, before receiving that email, I was impressed to see my student with a flower in her hair. When I saw it I thought it was some sort of gay joke or something, but would have never thought she identified as a woman. Even her new name sounds non-binary, so couldn't really guess.
  3. notme

    General Neutral Pronoun

    I, personally, would always intend to call people what they ask to be called. I can't imagine a reason to refuse. I can imagine forgetting or making a mistake. I don't believe such things should be legislated, but I do think manners should be a social expectation.
  4. Bakir

    General Neutral Pronoun

    What I have been able to appreciate is that we can't relate to that. In that sense, being called by the wrong gender won't affect us in the same way it may affect transgender people. It's not an attack for us because we really don't care, nor have any trauma nor suffered any social pressure in that sense. However, people who don't identify with their normative gender identity feel other way. Our potential and reasonable lack of empathy (because we just can't relate) doesn't mean it's not an attack (though that depends on a variety of factors). Two days ago I received an email informing me that one of my students is transitioning and wants to be treated as a female. If I choose to keep calling her by her male dead name and refer to her as a guy, and keep acting like that even though I'm asked several times to change my speech, then I may be attacking her, and reinforcing a discourse that could be seen as transphobic. Moreover, it would be reasonable to think it is psychologically disturbing that your teacher doesn't approve and publicly refuses to acknowledge your gender identity for ideological reasons.
  5. notme

    General Neutral Pronoun

    Rude isn't usually illegal. If some person decided to call me "sir" or "Henry" or "Mrs. Smith" or any other identifier that doesn't belong to me, I wouldn't consider it an attack, but rather a flaw in that person. It's just weird. If it went so far as to affect my work (for example refusing to acknowledge contributions under my chosen identifier) or my safety (for example a woman placed in a men's prison), that would be an attack.
  6. Bakir

    General Neutral Pronoun

    I have faced this only once, in the university. When a student contacts the administration to inform of any change of identity (gender, name, etc.), we are asked to update our students list and call them by their preferred choice. Most of the cases are transgender people, but in some rare cases, they may be non-binary. I also believe we were created in pairs, but gender identity (not biological sex) seems to be a spectrum. Queer or non-normative people have always existed, I don't know the causes and can't call it an illness without solid evidence. If such pronouns help in decreasing the number of suicides and social pressure of queer people, I don't find them negative but positive. The issue here is when this is enforced by law without further consideration. Is rejecting using their preferred pronouns a hate crime, when the reason is precisely being against a speech enforced by law? This is the dilemma. I agree with the guy that such a law does no good to the LGBT community, because it is precisely such law enforcement what may make people be against using these pronouns, something that has nothing to do with LGBTphobia. LGBT community shouldn't fight for rights in this way. Activism has never had this style, which looks more like fascism. I really can't relate with modern LGBT activism, it is highly stubborn and lacks strategy.
  7. haideriam

    Sad news

    A great plane, just seems the numbers of passengers were found short and the hub and spoke has not really worked as well outside the US. Also one of the objectives was economies of scale and savings on the whole for airlines and passengers just looks like it has not been actually translated. BTW Islamabad is probably going to be a hub for the CIS or that was the thought like Gwadar.
  8. Murtaza1

    After Prophet Issa ( as)

    I don’t know that much about Peter. What I know is what I hear as common view.
  9. Fink

    After Prophet Issa ( as)

    The 12 Imams
  10. Propaganda_of_the_Deed

    After Prophet Issa ( as)

    But I thought - Peter would go on to found the Catholic church of Rome whilst James (who some historians say was the brother of Jesus), was the founder of the original church of Jerusalem, arguably a more "Jewish" early Christianity, the Nazarenes who were Unitarian.
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  12. Fink

    First time praying at my local (Sunni) masjid

    Hearing some of the responses you got here, I was under the impression you were praying behind mushrikeen. Smh
  13. Laayla

    Ate/Eating/Will Eat?

    yakhnet bamya Okra Stew @THECOZYHOMECHRONICLES
  14. haideriam

    First time praying at my local (Sunni) masjid

    The prayer is a furada (individual) but the sawaab is congregational, otherwise one could have just prayed at home or by oneself. This is the essence , and you have to pray your own prayer in congregational movement. I normally shorten the qunoot to just subhanallah.
  15. Laayla

    Illegitimate Children

    Unknown progeny Hazrat Imam Ja’far as-Sadiq ((عليه السلام).) says: “Allah has made adultery Harām because it causes many evil things. Murder of innocent, lack of lineage and paternity, lack of training of children and lack of proof of inheritance.” There is no doubt that the West is far ahead in the field of science and technology and has progressed and prospered as a result of it. But their success is hollow. The excessive affluence has eroded human values and deluded them to search for happiness in immorality and perversity. Their culture deprives them of true happiness and comfort that comes with peace and stability of mind. The women of these countries have also taken great strides. They work shoulder to shoulder with men in practically all walks of life. But many of them fail in what is their primary duty, as loyal wives and caring mothers. It is quite common to come across women having extra marital relations and neglecting their home and children. These children deprived of parental love and care in turn search for happiness by following the degraded examples set by their misguided parents and the vicious circle continues. The result is that couples just live together without being married and go their own way when they choose to. If there are marriages, they often end in divorce. The divorce rate in America today is 40 % and is on the increase. Women have come to occupy high positions in governmental and commercial organizations, but this does not solve the human problems facing these societies. It is a pity that these societies have no guidelines that will help them to realize that their well being lies in maintaining well-knit families where husband and wife care for each other, are loyal to each other and the children are secure and happy. This is what Islam aims to achieve for its followers. By upholding the laws of Islam our lives are automatically canalized into maintaining a healthy family life which provides for physical satisfaction, mental peace and spiritual upliftment, where the family members are a source of strength, solace and comfort to each other.10 https://www.al-Islam.org/greater-sins-volume-1-ayatullah-Sayyid-abdul-husayn-dastghaib-shirazi/tenth-greater-sin-fornication
  16. Murtaza1

    After Prophet Issa ( as)

    I think apostle Peter was the succesor and became the first Bishop of Rome. Peter is recognised in Islam, especially in Shia Islam.
  17. notme

    General Neutral Pronoun

    While I'm a strong believer that people are either male or female, with very few rare ambiguities, I'm going to call people what they ask me to call them. It's just polite. Edit: hypothetically. I've never met anyone who asked to be called by any of these words.
  18. starlight

    I want to be a Shia but I don't know anything

    My family has been Shia for the last 1400 years Alhumdollilah. My grandmother, mother, aunts, cousins all wore niqaab. Too early to say anything sister. Just pray to Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) for a strong Imaan for yourself and guidance for him and see how things unfold. Don't think much or do anything yet.
  19. Jaane Ya Ali

    Prophet's knowledge of the Qur'an

    Allamah Muhammad Hussein Tabatabai [Preface of Al-Mizan]: 
  20. Sirius_Bright

    Prophet's knowledge of the Qur'an

    Salaam brother, Qur'an is Kalaam of Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) and not an ordinary book. It requires representative of Allah to interpret it. Throwing verses like that without understanding it's correct interpretation is only inappropriate. And from him, from Tameem Bin Abdullah Bin Tameem Al-Qarshy, from his father, from Hamaad Bin Suleyman Al-Neysaboury, from Ali Bin Muhammad Bin Al-Jaham who said: ‘I was present in a gathering of Al-Mamoun’ - and he mentioned the Hadeeth in which is the mention of the Verses which Mamoun asked Al-Reza (عليه السلام) regarding the infallibility of the Prophets. ‘Al-Reza said: ‘Allah the Exalted Said to His Prophet : Did He not Find you an orphan so He Sheltered? [93:6], He is Saying: “Did He not Find you as alone, so He Sheltered the people to you?” And Found you lost so He Guided? [93:7] - meaning (lost) in the presence of your people, so He Guided, I.e. Guided them to recognising you. And Found you in need, so He Enriched? [93:8] - so He is Saying: “Enriched you by Making your supplications to be Answered”’. So Al-Mamoun said, ‘May Allah Bless you, O son of Rasool-Allah'. (Uyoone Akhbaare Reza, vol. 1, chapter 23)
  21. Umm Amira

    I want to be a Shia but I don't know anything

    Thanks so much all of your replies have helped me greatly. I know I said those would be my last questions but I just thought of another 2 that would affect my life drastically. 1. I heard Shia's don’t wear niqab (maybe because it is more associated with wahabbism) but I have worn niqab for awhile now. Can I still wear it or would it be seen as bizarre for a Shia woman to wear niqab because thats usually a practice associated with the mothers of the believers? 2. Im married to a deobandi scholar. I havent told him of my curiosity for Shia Islam or that ive been looking into it and it aligns more with my views. He believes deobandi is the one and only way. When I used to talk about salafis he would get angry. So should I just keep my mouth shut about this? I don’t think I can hide it forever but I don’t want to divorce him over our differences. Any advice? (I don’t have kids)
  22. Bakir

    General Neutral Pronoun

    This is actually a general phenomenom happening in universities (university students usually develop enough maturity to accept their gender identity at that stage). I don't really see the problem referring to someone the way they prefer. The issue for him is that it is enforced by law. It's not to be confused with transphobia, nor one should understand that he believes it's wrong to use these pronouns (in a transphobic sense). It's a political matter related to free speech for him.
  23. Salam alaykum, who were the succcessors after Issa ( as) ?
  24. Sirius_Bright

    Weird/ bad dreams ?

    Not all dreams are true. Take out Sadqah of Imame Zamana (عجّل الله تعالى فرجه الشريف), yourself and your family members everyday.
  25. Leibniz

    Prophet's knowledge of the Qur'an

    There is a clear verse in Qur'an which shatters the belief of by birth Prophet. Duha 93 وَوَجَدَكَ ضَالًّا فَهَدَىٰ ( God found you lost and then guided you)
  26. Bakir

    Weird/ bad dreams ?

    If bad dreams persist for such an amount of time, I would say you are facing certain anxiety, and you are still exposed to the source of your anxiety (which probably is present at your own house). You should try to fix things or take distance, otherwise your negative feelings will keep progressing and will turn into physical weakness.
  27. Sirius_Bright

    I want to be a Shia but I don't know anything

    There are similar things in both Shia and Sunni books which we accept. When it comes to Aqaed we accept narrations from Holy Ahlul Bayt (عليهم اسلام). For a Shia, a hadith in a Sunni book can be authentic if evaluated by our standards but that is rare. We don't believe that our books are cent percent authentic. You're right. It will conflict with your views. I would recommend you postpone the course if possible so you can get more insight about the differences between Shia and Sunni. I understand where you're coming from. Believe me you have taken a step towards truth, Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) will help you with the rest. Can a person love killed and the killer? Can one love Imam Hussain (عليه السلام) and Yazid both? Do more research about the personalities in question and you'll develop love or hatred for them. Things will become easy for you, Insha Allah. Shia of Ali means follower of Ali. The term generally refers to Shia ithna Ashari. Both has same connotation. Interesting. If giving Azaan was the criteria of being a successor of Holy Prophet (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) then Janabe Bilal should be the next caliph. He gave Azaan throughout the time of Holy Prophet (sawa). Ever heard about the incident of Ghadeer? There are significant differences. It is necessary to understand that there's no standard tafsir book by a single scholar. Both Shia and Sunni have dorzens of tafsir of Holy Qur'an. The difference comes when interpreting the verses. Shia tend to use ahadith of Holy Ahlul Bayt (عليهم اسلام) and incidents while Sunnis scholars tries to interpret by themselves (using their aql) and including a hadith or incidents sometimes. This would be apparent if you have read the tafsir. Thank you sister. May Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) help you to get on Sirat al-Mustaqeem.
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