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♥ Marriage ♥

Hameedeh

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Marriage is not easy. You have to get to know each other. You are used to doing everything your own way. Now you need to compromise. Share with each other. Give and take. If you take more than you give, it won't be as sweet. Do not expect more from your spouse than your spouse will need from you. Life is good. It's better when you are together. If you both do your best. 

 May your days be sunny, your nights restful, and your heart satisfied with the blessings that Allah has given you. Think Positive. 



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I just got back from a family gathering. We realized almost all of the couples there had been married over 30 years. We were being teased for being " lightweights" by the parents of one of the couples. They had been married 60+ years. We talked about how we'd all had our ups and downs, but we were all happy with our spouses in the end. It was a beautiful day.

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On 01/05/2017 at 3:58 AM, LeftCoastMom said:

I just got back from a family gathering. We realized almost all of the couples there had been married over 30 years. We were being teased for being " lightweights" by the parents of one of the couples. They had been married 60+ years. We talked about how we'd all had our ups and downs, but we were all happy with our spouses in the end. It was a beautiful day.

May we all live long enough to celebrate our 60 years anniversaries.

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salam sister..I am going to be married after 1 and half years later InshaAllah..But the thing I am worrying about is the age difference ,my fiance is 11 years older than me , we chat a little bit once in a week..and I think we are diferent in all things..would this age difference create problem in my marriage life?

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On 6/24/2017 at 6:13 AM, Masham ali R said:

I think we are diferent in all things..would this age difference create problem in my marriage life?

Having a husband older than yourself is not a problem but there are things to consider before you make the decision to marry. A man who is older might expect you to listen to his advice and always do what he says. If you enjoy the attention and respect of an older man who will give you advice, plan everything himself and guide you to a better life, then your marriage will be pleasant. If you are an independent person who wants to plan your own activities, make your own decisions or don't want anyone to give you advice, you could marry someone who will let you tell him what to do. 

Youth and Spouse Selection:

http://www.shiachat.com/forum/topic/30563-books-on-family-and-womens-issues/?do=findComment&comment=2833743

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salam sister i 2 have many problems in my married life infact huge problems but now im really tired trying to solve them out thats y i left everythig to Allah THE SUPERIOR and pray to HIM that may HE do what ever i best for me. n now im contented

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Marriage depends on the intentions. Its the intention that affects the future of a relationship. Less and less people in the West are getting married which makes life harder for Muslims especially. Its all about intention. 

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On 6/24/2017 at 9:27 PM, ShiaChat Mod said:

Having a husband older than yourself is not a problem but there are things to consider before you make the decision to marry. A man who is older might expect you to listen to his advice and always do what he says. If you enjoy the attention and respect of an older man who will give you advice, plan everything himself and guide you to a better life, then your marriage will be pleasant. If you are an independent person who wants to plan your own activities, make your own decisions or don't want anyone to give you advice, you could marry someone who will let you tell him what to do. 

my husband is not older then me but still he is the boss.. he is the one planning everything,, giving advise.. always guiding what to do and what not... what should i do then.. im not an independent type of a person but still i got fedup sometimes like im the most ignorant peron who dont know nothing :(

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33 minutes ago, ktk said:

my husband is not older then me but still he is the boss.. he is the one planning everything,, giving advise.. always guiding what to do and what not... what should i do then.. im not an independent type of a person but still i got fedup sometimes like im the most ignorant peron who dont know nothing :(

My advice was for someone who is not married! Since you are already married, a book like "Youth and Spouse Selection" would be obsolete, because you have already gone beyond that stage. In your case, read the book "Principles Of Marriage & Family Ethics". See if you are doing the things that a wife needs to do in Part 1, before you ask if your husband is doing the things in Part 2. I'm sure that you are a smart sister and can make the effort to enhance the happiness of your marriage, and in return your husband will be likely to reciprocate toward you. Tolerate each other and adjust. Then depend on each other and cooperate more. Love must be maintained and increased. Allah help you. 

Get PDF

https://www.al-islam.org/principles-marriage-family-ethics-ayatullah-ibrahim-amini

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God has put you together -make the most of this! May the Lord Jesus Christ enter you home and heart that you can receive all of His great blessings! seek the Lord while He may be found.

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8 hours ago, co2017 said:

God has put you together -make the most of this! 

Hello and thank you for your kind saying.

8 hours ago, co2017 said:

May the Lord Jesus Christ enter you home and heart that you can receive all of His great blessings! seek the Lord while He may be found.

Muslims believe that Jesus AS is a Prophet of God (Allah). We honor him and love him just as Christians do, but we do not ascribe divinity to him. Blessings come to us from our Creator and Sustainer (Allah). 

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Allah provide all the sisters and daughters good spouse and huge responsibility goes to men that they create balance between his wife and and his family. Equally to girls that if a men is fool then; do not make him a big emotional  fool as sister mother or wife.  

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