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General Discussion Requested: Imambargah.......???

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U many be wondering/noticing as to why I insist on the imambargah issue and nothing else. WELL READ ON.....AND U MAY JOIN ME AND AGREE/ACCEPT......

Throughout my observations of many activities/events/programs/etc that takes place in a community, it mesmerizes/surprises me and I always ponder and saddened me: WHY DOES ALL (BE IT SPORTS/MADRESSA/YOUTH COMMITTEE/ETC) GET THEIR DUE RESPECT AND THERE ISN'T ANY DISTRACTION but come Imambaragh: it's like nothing is happeining/occurring or taking place....

For example :- 1. Let's start with Madressa : Children come and are instructed by the MADRESSA STAFF to be in the area where the Quran/Duas/Prayers/etc are held. There is a kitchen that needs to be attended to for the lunch/snaks for the children, a yard/ground(s) outside that needs to be maintained; BUT NO ONE CARES BUT WHAT GOES//TAKES PLACE WITHIN THE CLASES/HALL.

2. The Sports Complex/Gym:- the players are present where the games/activity is taking place and ONCE AGAIN THE KITCHEN IS PRESENT AND NEEDS TO FEED THE PLAYERS/VISITIORS/ATTENDEES/ETC and the yard needs to be maintained BUT NO ONE CARES AND ATTENDS TO IT.

3. The Youth Committee: Same: RESPECT GIVEN TO THE ACTIVITY/EVEN HELD BY THE YOUTH(S) BUT NO ONE CARES ABOUT THE KITCHEN/YARD.

4. No here is the most saddest part : IMAMBARGAH : NO ONE CARES ABOUT THE PROGRAMME (SAME THAT OF THE MADRESSA: QURAN/DUAS/PRAYERS THAT THE STAFF/STUDENTS WERE CONCERNED ABOUT AND IN THE RESPECTED PLACES) AND NOW EVERYONE CARES AOBUT THE SAME KITCHEN/GROUNDS/YARD AROUND THE COMPOUND THAT NO ONE CARED DURING THE MADRESSA/SPORTS CENTER/YOUTH COMMITTEE EVENTS.

So now I ask this question in my subject:- IMAMBARGAH.....????? WHAT/WHICH/WHEN/WHY/HOW/WHO....in re: Imambargah ?

Should it be a place where just like a 1. Feed my starving children 2. Majide noor feed the homeless kitchen event 3. Salvation army place thus we need not HOLD THE HOLY QURAN/DUAS/NAMAAZ/ISLAMIC TEACHINGS/ETC for it doesn't take place in the 1. Feed my starving children 2. Masjide Noor 3. Salvation army....

Lets have an open door discussion FOR I COULD BE THE ONE WITH A 1 MINDED BELIEF WEHRE I BELIEVE THAT THE IMAMBARGAH IS THE EXTENSION/COMPLIMENTARY OF THE MADRESSA WHERE THE CHILDREN/STUDENTS ESPECIALLY CAN CONTINUE THE HOLY QURAN/DUAS/NAMAAZ/ISLAMIC TEACHINGS FROM THE MADRESSA INTO THEIR HOMES....

Thanks in advance.....

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magma: u responded with a little confusion or non clarity and I am willing to clarify but I don't see been given the opportunity to do so

so i'll ask once again :

WHICH/WHEN/WHERE/WHY/ETC ETC WAS THE "NOT A VERY CLEAR READ" PART ??????

By the mean time i'll try to clarify by making a statement and include a question...

THERE ARE PEOPLE WHO BELIVE THAT THE SAWABS/REWARDS IS/ARE ONLY FOUND IN THE VOLUNTEERING OF FOOD (ESP) IN AN IMAMBARGAH AND NONE IN OTHER BUILDINGS/COMMITTEES WITHIN THE SAME COMPOUND.

SO IF I WERE TO SAY VOLUNTEER INVOLVING FEEDING AT A MADRESSA OCCASSION OR A SPORTS OCCASSIONS (ESP TOURNMENTS WHICH INVOLVES OUTSIDERS/STRANGERS) OR A YOUTH COMMITTEE EVENT : guess what not a single "so call volunteer" face will be seen : WHY??? BECAUSE THERE IS NO SAWABS/REWARDS.

But come imambargah people LEAVE THE QURAN/DUAS/PRAYERS/LECTURES/ZIARATS/ETC ALL IN THE NAME OF NIYAZ/FATEHA/CHAI and there an only THERE IS SAWABAS/REWARDS BEING TALKED OFF..

IS THIS RIGHT ??????????????????????????????????????????????????????????

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20 hours ago, mshivji said:

THERE ARE PEOPLE WHO BELIVE THAT THE SAWABS/REWARDS IS/ARE ONLY FOUND IN THE VOLUNTEERING OF FOOD (ESP) IN AN IMAMBARGAH AND NONE IN OTHER BUILDINGS/COMMITTEES WITHIN THE SAME COMPOUND.

Salam. Whenever there is an Islamic meeting, many people help. Some people help by reading Qur'an, giving the lecture, reading a ziyarat or reading a noha. Others help by serving tea or working in the kitchen. It is the Islamic practice to feed the people anywhere they meet or at least offer something to drink. Those who are busy with food and drink are working for others and they give of their time and effort. I have read that Ayatullah Khomeini RA would leave the shrine of Imam Ali AS early, before his friends left, so that when they came to his house he would have tea ready for them.

The method that people choose to help others, whether it be spiritually, intellectually or physically, is based according to their ability. Some people help by cleaning up and vacuuming. We should accept their help kindly because they did their work with love of Ahlul Bayt AS in their intention. Allah SWT rewards those who serve others. May we all have the ability to do some work as a volunteer.  

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What u responded is 100% true but if only it was true in it's happening ?

I'll tell u where I am coming from.

My Marhum Dad use to always quote : "We don't live to eat, we eat to live." And we constantly hear that : "Islam believes in balance".

So let's put both sayings together and come out with the following; Just like in school there is a balance btwn the 1. studies/courses/subjects 2. Recess/break time 3. Lunch/break; and at work there is 1. work time 2. 15mns break 3. a full 1/2 lunch break ....we have the same in religion.

Imagine if a child came home and the parent asked their child. So child, how was school ? The respond they got was  I spent the whole time in the cafeteria from the beginning of the school time till end, I help in the cleaning/clearing/feeding helping out the staff OR in a different situation : If an elderly parent was asked : What does your child do ? and your child decided to help out in the kitchen after high school graduation and never going to college

How, as a parent, would you feel or what would be ur response ? (Keeping in mind : that volunteering and feeding people carry lots of rewards/sawabs).

So to conclude there is a time and place for everything and I was aiming for (and I do apologize if I wasn't clear" WHERE IS THE BALANCE ????

We do not go to the imambargah (same as madressa/sports/youth events) to eat fateha/niyaz/chai solely and thus be only worried about it just like we don't live to eat.

Moreover where is the balance : SADLY THE SAME PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER AT THE IMAMBARGAH WILL NOT BE SEEN OR MAKE THEMSELVES AVAIALBE WHEN THERE IS A SHORTAGE AT THE MADRESSA/YOUTH/SPORTS ACTIVITIES  ? AND SADLY NO ONE WILL PICK UP ANYTHING FROM THE GROUND OR SERVE PEOPLE WITH A GLASS OF WATER/TEA AT OTHER ACTIVITES BUT ONLY AT THE IMAMBARGAH...HOW SAD.

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Salam m sorry but we cannot be judgmental for anyone 

Like it's not necessary if we see someone helping to serve tea water or anything at imambargah that particular person does it only in imambargah

It might be possible that particular person helps with reciting activities  to other places and serving jestures whereever person goes (gatherings ,institutions.....)

And as per my observations I haven't seen such person who hasitate to serve water or tea or any niyaz e Hussain at grounds on the streets (except mehram and namehram issue)

Ppl who volunteer in mehfils gatherings Majlis's are oftenly seen in helping ppl during moharram on the streets at every possible place by every possible means 

Secondly

We always see the simple upper side of everything 

If ppl who volunteer at imambargah atleats they do something and if they r doing something then ppl who not even volunteers in imambargah must care for other places institutions 

I guess conclusion comes out 

Who does nothing anywhere must be told to care for other places rather then poking or humiliating those who at least do something at some place

Whereas ppl who do at imambargah does at other places as well then well and good 

But again lastly I would like to say that I am pretty confident that I personally don't think anybody would not feel to volunteer for distributing any thing which has been assigned by Names of ahlebait (as)

M sorry if anybody finds any of my word wrong 

                     ......proud  To  be Shia......

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Salam 1. m sorry but we cannot be judgmental for anyone 

2.Like it's not necessary if we see someone helping to serve tea water or anything at imambargah that particular person does it only in imambargah

3. It might be possible that particular person helps with reciting activities  to other places and serving gestures

IF THE ABOVE WAS TRUE IT'S "LIKE I DIED AND WENT TO HEAVEN"...

LET ME ASSURE EVERYONE THAT WHEN I SAY/WRITE THINGS, I DON'T WRITE IT WITHOUT ANY EVIDENCE...I WRITE WITH 26 YRS OF EXPERIENCE...

I WOULDN'T BE JUDMEMENTAL IF I SAW THE SAME PERSON ATLEAST HELP OUT IN 3 OUT OF THE 4 OTHER ACTIVITIES AND IF NOT 3 BUT 2

HOW DO I KNOW THAT THE PERSON DOES IT ONY IN THE IMAMBARGAH...U ASK ...WELL HERE IT IS

WHEN THE SPORTS COMMITTEE HAVE THEIR TOURNMENTS AND BEGIN TO LOOK FOR PEOPLE AND WHEN THEY ARE ASKED : "WHAT ABOUT THE PEOPLE WHO WORK FROM THE BEGINNING OF THE PROGRAM TO THE END OF THE PROGRAM AT THE IMAMBARGAH AND CALL THEMSELVES B.S. VOLUNTEERS..

THEY'LL TELL U: "THOSE PEOPLE, THEY ONLY B.S. VOLUNTEER FOR THE IMAMBARGAH...THEY ARE ONLY IMAMBARGAH B.S. VOLUNTEERS (NEVER HEARD OF "I ONLY VOLUNTEER FOR THE IMAMBARGAH...BALOGNA/SALAMI/PASTRAMI ADDED TOGETHER..

THEN WHEN THE MADRESSA IS LOOKING FOR "HELPERS" AND U ASK "HOW IS IT U ARE ASKING FOR HELPERS" WHEN THEY ARE PEOPLE WHO ARE FROM THE MOMENT THEY OPEN THEIR CARS AND UNTIL THEY GO BACK TO THEIR CARS THEY ARE "HELPING" AND THEY'LL SAY

WE DO ASK THEM FOR HELP BUT THEY ANSWER "WE ONLY WORK FOR THE IMAMBARGAH"..

AND THE SAME FOR YOUTH COMMITTEE EVENTS...NO SIGHT OF THE SO CALLED "IMAMBARGAH HELPERS".

SO WHEN U ASKED "DOES IT ONLY FOR THE IMAMBARGAH"  WELL LIKE THE SAYING GOES

THE PROOF IS IN THE PUDDING....

and these are the same so called "helpers/volunteers" who will without any shame/guilt will tell you : "the kids/children do not learn anything or benefit anything from attending in the imambargah events '

so instead of working out with the committee to see how the committee and themselves and come together and attract the kids/children attend the imambargah activities, they'll take them to the kitchen and tell them "what u are doing is rewarding/sawabs..

and when ASKED : WELL TAKE THEM OUT OF THE MADRESSA (FOR NO ONE WILL TELL U THEY LIKE MADRESSA) OR TAKE THEM OUT O THE SPORTS/YOUTH ACTIVITIES THE SAME ONE WILL RESPOND..

no they have to listen/hear to the Quran/duas/etc. and they need to play and socialize with their peers and it's ok THERE'S ALWAYS SOMEONE ELSE TO DO THE WORK

SO SORRY SIST/BRO I BEG TO DIFFER WITH UR RESPONE

a true volunteer in my dictionary/meaning is (and U'll can disagree but i'll even on the day of judgment stand in front of Allah and give Him the same response as to who is a true volunteer) is NOT THE ONE WHO DOESN'T LOOK AT WHAT HE/SHE CAN GET AWAY FROM THAT WHICH IS BORING TO HELP OUT but helps out in any size/shape/color activity that is going on and off course in a balance way..

so when there is a community that has 1. madressa 2. imambargah 3. youth 4. sports committees, one does not CALL THEMSELVES VOLUNTEERS BY ONLY FEEDING PEOPLE AND FROM THE BEGINNING TO THE END AT ONE PLACE AND ONE PLACE ONLY BUT one says that i'll give this much time to the madressa when it comes to feeding people and that SAME AMOUNT OF TIME AT THE OTHER 3 and is seen next to the food when all 4 have events and activities...

JZ

lastly it's sad to see that Imam Hussein message being watered down to chai/fateha/niyaz when it comes to imambargah; for when there is food in the other activities and programs and no one cares about the food then for Imam Hussein also died for the food in the madressa/youth committee/sports activities...and there is sawabs there also

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      Sometimes we forget to be grateful for many of the blessings God has decreed upon us that if we were to thank him for countless days and nights, it would never be sufficient. Some of us may not realise that despite living in a house where our parents have different mindsets that complicate many aspects in life, perhaps during their time they had it far more worse. We forget that they have gone through immense pressure trying to give us a life far more opportunistic than theirs, yet they fail to realise how a lot of their customs prevents us from seeking opportunities in the first place. Think about the conservative societies they used to live in the past century and how difficult it was to overcome. Perhaps our parents think that their way of upbringing will lure us away from the demonised world, to save our mental stability and hence they carry their past teachings and culture to the next generation. On the contrary, that belief has torn us apart.
      Our parents have survived war, signed myriad of papers and fought with the Western laws to seek a better environment for themselves and future offspring. We know that our families cannot seem to fathom our changes as we develop. They believe we are steering out of the line of honour and family reputation that if a slight error was committed then it would be spread throughout the entire community. You end up hearing tales and calumnies from storytellers who often find it entertaining to dwell in the affairs of others. The values and customs I have been raised in believe that a family's dignity and privilege is held by the eldest daughter where her wrongdoings mean familial destruction. Whilst having a good reputation at some point is crucial to living a substantial life, parents forget that our unexpressed feelings matter more than pleasing an egoistic community. 
      In Islam, one of the major sins is the displeasing of parents, where their anger is equatable to God's. Surely we must strive to respect them as they become elders, despite the levels of irritability we receive almost everyday. We are taught to maintain patience and that is further learnt more deeply during adolescence. Even so, a lot of the times one has knowledge of what is right yet still choose to divert into the path of wrong. An example is when our parents infuriate us, it results in retaliation rather than remaining quiet and calm. Understandably, nobody wants to hear someone create quite vague assumptions and further jump to the worst conclusions. That is one of the nuisances we normally find within parents.
      From past personal experience, despite my OCD was likely of being genetic, I discovered that the strategies my parents used to make the entire family adhere to religion were often uncompromising. They believe using threats will make their children stand firm towards God and whilst I partially agree, the end result may be discrepancy. I've always loved being a Muslim. Observing full hijab from a very young age, praying at night outside the backyard beneath His illuminating creation whilst holding the sacred Qur'an in my hands. I thought I felt undeniable peace, but was it truly as peaceful as it sounded like?  I was on attack the minute I stood onto my prayer mat or opened a supplication prayer. Those rampaging thoughts destroyed my inner peace. It seemed like I was a saintly servant of God, but the reality was that I was hurting deep down without even figuring out the cause. After recovery, a part of me came to conclusion as to what had led to these doubts and whispers in the first place. It somewhat was in relation towards my parent's upbringing, where I had noticed the number of threatening remarks they used in relation to God made me believe that I was obliged to add in the extra effort and consistency towards my prayers and other obligations. However, a number of times they had caught me in such a state and tried to give me solid advice that I am already pious enough in the eyes of God. And yet I always felt like I did a mistake in my ablution that led to repetitive cleansing.  
      Then again, we are far more mature than to be constantly blaming parents for our actions. I criticise myself for being too naive and turning small situations into extreme ones. The truth is nobody else is at fault but ourselves because we have full control over our own actions. We are willing to blame others for our mistakes in order to escape guilt or responsibility. Parents may have played some role in the way we have turned out to be, yet we know ourselves way too well as adults that most of it is our own fault, Maybe we did not realise that controlling our thoughts and actions could have been taken into our own hands if only we did not let all that negativity consume us.
       
    • By Haji 2003 in Contemporania
         1
      Next year, inshallah, Maryam takes her GCSE exams in the United Kingdom, those are taken at 16 years of age.
      Just a heads up for anyone else with kids/relatives of that age. I have been looking at the websites of the exam boards for her different subjects. Googling the name of the board, the subject and the year of the exam will usually get you to the right page.
      There are a lot of free resources they offer, e.g. subject specifications and examiner commentaries. The latter are very useful to get an idea where students typically make mistakes, for example and to understand what examiners are looking for.
      Kids/parents who are at better schools with more clued up teachers may likely not need to do all this themselves. But although Maryam's school is pretty good, there's no harm in using those specification books for example to keep an eye on progress.
    • By starlight in Light Beams
         5
      Salam everyone, 
      One of the most tragic incidences in the history of Islam has been the the martyrdom of the the Lady of light, Our Prophet Muhammad(saw)' daughter, Fatima Zahra(عليه السلام). To date the exact location of her grave is not known. What is even sadder is that most Shias of Ahlebayt(عليه السلام) are not clear about the facts and timeline of events surrounding her tragic death. Ambiguities have been created,some people choose to adopt a defensive attitude when naming people involved in the incident, others shy away from talking about it because of creating discord with people of other sects. However, I believe it is very important that we are very clear about what happened after the death of RasulAllah(صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) and in the event of a discussion we are able to state the facts objectively, and this is the sole purpose of this post. It is not to curse the caliphs, or offend the Sunnis, so I will request that if anyone replies here he also refrains from doing so. 
      Most of what I have written below comes from Sheikh Abbas Qummi's book "House of Sorrows" . I will try to provide references wherever possible in the post, but since I want to keep it short and concise I would ask you to refer to the book if anyone wishes to read more. The book is available online on al-Islam.org. 
      1. DEATH OF THE HOLY Prophet
      The Holy Prophet (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) departed from this world on 28 safar 11 A.H.  For three days Imam Ali(عليه السلام) postponed his burial. Why? Because he wanted to give all the Muslims an opportunity to join his funeral. Sadly, most of the Ansar and Muhajireen were busy choosing the successor of Prophet(صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) and didn't show up. Seeing this, Imam Ali(عليه السلام) went ahead with the funeral and burial of RasulAllah(صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) 
      2. SAQEEFAH
      In Arabic, the word Saqeefah literally means a 'tent'.So,while the Bani Hashim were busy with funeral arrangements of RasulAllah(صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) and had withdrawn from social activities because they were mourning the Ansaar gathered in the tent of the tribe of Bani Sa'idah and started choosing a leader for the Arabs. Upon hearing this Umar told Abu Bakr to quickly rush to the place. After some squabble between Ansaar and Muhajireen Abu Bakr was chosen as a successor for Prophet(صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم).
      The first three people to pledge allegiance to Abu Bakr were: Bashir b.Sa'ad, Umar b.Khattab and Abu ‘Ubaydah al-Jarrah. 
      3. DID EVERYONE PLEAD ALLEGIANCE TO Abu Bakr? WHAT HAPPENED TO PEOPLE WHO DIDN'T? 
      Of course, one of the persons to not pledge allegiance to Abu Bakr was our Imam Ali(عليه السلام) but there were people amongst Arabs who refused to swear allegiance to Abu Bakr. Let's just look at two examples.
      1. MALIK b.NUWAYRAH: Malik b Nuwayarh was a devout companion of the Holy Prophet(صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم). Upon his refusal to pledge allegiance to Abu Bakr, Abu Bakr told Khalid b. Waleed to prepare an army against him and attack him under the pretext that he had turned apostate and was refusing to pay Zakat and taxes to the Caliph. What Khalid b. Waleed did was attack him during the night in his house, like a coward. They killed him, later raped his wife and they didn't stop there. They cut off Malik's head and cooked it with camel meat and the food from the vessel containing Malik's head was consumed by Khalid b. Waleed's army. 
      2. SA'AD b. UBADAH: Saad b.Ubadah was from the Ansaar of Medina and a contender with Abu Bakr for caliphate.However, he lost when the clan of al-Khizraj did not side with him. Umar tried to force him to pledge allegiance. However,he refused to swear allegiance to Abu Bakr and to Umar after him and instead lived a life of seclusion. When Umar took over the reins he ordered Khalid b. Waleed to kill Sa'ad. He shot arrows at him which killed him and they later spread a rumour that he was killed by jinns(narrated by Historian al-baladhuri)
      So now we have some idea what was happening to people who refused allegiance. 
      4.CONFISCATION OF Fadak
      Fadak was confiscated and one of the reasons behind confiscating Fadak was to hurt Imam Ali(عليه السلام) economically because Abu Bakr and Umar feared that Imam Ali(عليه السلام) might rise against them so they took away Fadak. 
      5. WHY DIDN'T Imam Ali (عليه السلام) OVERTHROW THE GOVERNMENT OF Abu Bakr?
      After Saqeefa took place three hundred and sixty people pledged allegiance at the hand of Imam Ali(عليه السلام) to defend him until his death. Imam(عليه السلام) told them go home and gather in a particular street the next day with shaved heads.Out of of these three hundred and sixty people how many turned up the next day? Only FIVE!     Abu Dharr, Miqdad, Hudhayfah, Ammar and Salman.
      Imam Ali(عليه السلام) saw a flock of sheep, about thirty in number gathered in a pen and looking at them he said, "By Allah! If I had along with me men who were true supporters of Allah, the Mighty, the Sublime, and His Prophet, equaling the number of these sheep, I would certainly have deposed Abu Bakr, from his authority."
      6. FORCING Imam Ali(عليه السلام) TO GIVE ALLEGIANCE & THREATENING TO BURN THEIR HOUSE
      After seeing fickleness of the people Imam Ali (عليه السلام)settled into his house. Abu Bakr sent men to get Imam Ali(عليه السلام) to come out. He turned them down.They went again,this time Lady Fatima(عليه السلام) refused to open the door and sent them away. Next, three men gathered firewood outside the home of Hazrat Ali(عليه السلام) and Bibi Fatima(عليه السلام). Who were these three men 1. Qunfudh  2.Khalid b.Waleed  3.Mughaira b.Shu'bah.
      Umar came to the door and asked Fatima(عليه السلام) to open it, which she refused once again.They started lighting up the firewood on Umar's instructions. Hazrat Fatima(عليه السلام)cried out and tried to remind them of her position which they ignored and, pushed the door open behind which Hazrat Fatima(عليه السلام),who was pregnant at that time was standin, and she was crushed between the wall and door. Umar entered the house and struck Fatima(عليه السلام) on the arm with his whip which left a bruise there. She sustained injuries which led her to miscarrying the baby Mohsin; and went into an illness from which she did not recover. 
      7.IS IT REALLY POSSIBLE THAT Umar ASSAULTED Fatima(عليه السلام)?
      If we look at Umer's life we see that he had an explosive temper a history of abuse against women. The famous incident narrated by our Sunni brothers about his conversion to Islam, where Umar struck his own sister and wounded her. Before going to his Sister's house he was on his way to kill Prophet of Allah(صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم)
      8. Islamic POSITION ON ENTERING SOMEONE'S HOUSE WITHOUT THEIR PERMISSION
      O you who have believed, do not enter houses other than your own houses until you ascertain welcome and greet their inhabitants. That is best for you; perhaps you will be reminded.And if you do not find anyone therein, do not enter them until permission has been given you. And if it is said to you, "Go back," then go back; it is purer for you. And Allah is Knowing of what you do. - Qur'an Surah Nur: 27-28
      9. WHY DID Fatima(عليه السلام) ANSWER THE DOOR AND NOT Imam Ali(عليه السلام)?
      This is one of the points frequently brought up, why didn't Imam Ali answer the door? The answer is, there is nothing wrong per se to a wife answering the door. there are numerous narrations where one of Prophet(saw)'s wives answered the door while the Prophet(صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) was himself in the house.
      10.WHY DIDN'T Imam Ali DEFEND Fatima(عليه السلام)?
      After Umar had struck Fatima(عليه السلام) Imam Ali(عليه السلام) came out and caught hold of the collar of ‘Umar and threw him down to the ground. He was determined to kill him but suddenly recalled the testimony of the Prophet (to forebear) and called out, ‘O son of Sahhak! I swear by Allah Who exalted Muhammad to the rank of prophethood that if the command of Allah would not have been decreed and the promise (to bear patiently) not have been given to me by the Prophet of Allah, you would have realized how difficult it is to enter my house!’
      11. HAZRAT Fatima(عليه السلام) PASSED AWAY AT LEAST A MONTH AFTER HER SERMON ON Fadak
      https://www.al-Islam.org/house-sorrows-life-sayyidah-fatimah-al-Zahra-and-her-grief-shaykh-Abbas-qummi/chapter-3-state
      http://www.askthesheikh.com/can-you-provide-reliable-shiasunni-sources-on-martyrdom-of-lady-Fatima-al-Zahra-a-s/
    • By 3wliya_maryam in spoken words/poetry/ deep thinking
         1
      The correlation between OCD and being sensitive may apply only to some people. There is no clear evidence that highly sensitive individuals are prone to the disorder, although one of the symptoms indicate sensitivity to be a major factor. For instance, one may begin to obsess over hygiene as they fear being contaminated or infected with bacteria at home, so they start washing their hands repeatedly or attempting to maintain the cleanliness of the house. They are sensitive to any foreign substance present within their surrounding environment.
      In Islam, we must sustain purity before prayer. That means performing ablution or a full body ritual purification that is called 'ghusl'. Nevertheless, one may start developing doubts as to whether they are truly purified. Women may have doubts about discharge whilst men may begin to worry about excreting semen. Perhaps their clothes were impure, or that they passed gas during prayer. It could lead to repeatedly showering, performing ablution or using the bathroom more frequently. For the individual it is undoubtedly stressful and can lead to physical health problems, such as dry skin and hair as well as acne.
      The flashback memories of my past childhood always affects me till this day. I was born as a sensitive and naive child. Sensitivity is that one trait people often despise, even the carriers of it. I was faced with difficulties for self acceptance, because not only did I loathe my self for my overreacting personality, I was a victim of fat shaming. I wanted to feel happy, free of worries by claiming my desires. But unfortunately we do not live in a Utopian world; not everything we wish for can be granted, unless we choose to put the effort. I definitely take it to heart if someone still fat shamed me, even if it was merely a 'joke'. It evokes all my memories of self loathe, where I was rather too young to be feeling insecure followed by wasted effort from dieting and physical activity. We dislike being called sensitive despite us being fully aware. We refuse to admit our behaviours because we choose to not be defined by it. We feel weak, with no self control towards our impulses. When these emotions begin to overwhelm us, our mental health deteriorates. We feel violated if one makes a remark, which leads us being defensive.
      One must also understand that sensitive people can vary. Some are just easily emotional and have deep empathy, whereas others I previously mentioned have the tendency to take everything so personal. Normally these individuals have insecurities followed by low self esteem and hence their weakness is criticism. They are not skilled to ignore varying perceptions because they choose to listen to them and not their own conscious mind. It is the fear of judgement that they may receive.
      You may be wondering about its relevance to scrupulosity, but in some form it plays a role. Again, it is not necessarily the cause of the disorder and this is only an elucidation of my own personal experience. I investigated within myself and realised that one of the triggers towards OCD was my highly sensitive personality. Followed by the altering chemical changes, my overreactions led to repetitive self harm out of guilt and loathe. My personality may have been a stepping stone towards the disorder; the smallest of things I felt was a grave sin and through time it only had gotten worse.
      Do not let others define you, a very important lesson that I wish I had grasped years ago. People like to manipulate and make you feel bad, even though you may be the victim. That does not mean you should play its role, rather you should only believe in what your heart feels right. Sometimes we know that our very own mind controls us too and causes us to react or act in ways we regret later, but do not let the past define you. Every now and then I feel hurt from my own levels of faith, because when you have that love and dedication to the Lord, the judgements you receive will become meaningless.
       
       
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