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I have been wearing hijab since i was 9, out of my own will. But i hate it now. I hate the way I look. I feel restricted by this piece of cloth on my head. What on earth is wearing something over your head got to do with being modest? And if it does, why do men not have to wear hijab on their head? It confuses me and just seems so senseless and unjust. 

I understand we must cover our bodies for our own protection. But cloth over your head DOES NOT protect you. And i know this from personal experience.

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I think the hijab is beautiful, I also have been wearing it since the age of 10 by my own choice. There are many ways you can do your hijab ( check some hijab styles out on youtube). The hijab also is for men, they have to lower their gaze in front of women, or in other words not look at them. In addition to this, I don't understand by wearing a hijab you are constricted of? There are many hijabi women who have reached the best careers in the world. There are hijabi pilots, doctors, nurses, engineers, lawyers and even teachers, so what is stopping you? what are you restricted of?

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On Saturday, November 25, 2017 at 6:11 AM, Guest ???? said:

But then why is hijab wajib? And why is it not mentioned as the firu i din. And i'm sure pork does have reasons as to why we cant eat it. For examole its a disgusting animal, and there is research proving it is harmful. But hijab????? Where is its logic? No one has ever given me a rational answer

It says it in tbe quran what more of an answer do you want ?

It says women should wear a long dress, with something long thats covering your head to your breast (your hijab) 

Not in the correct verse but it says it in the quran and with the women who dont wear it in the punishment in the hereafter their face gets ripped off more then 1000 times. As they say. 

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Two questions really.

1) How old are you now? You must still be very young. Let me guess? 18-21

2) Please explain to me how on earth does a 9 year old make their own decision when it comes to wearing hijab? No offense to you, but that's bs. 

The point I am reaching is if you really decided to wear hijab based on your own free will, then we wouldn't be having this discussion in the first place. 

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Salaam Alaykum

Hijab is Wajib. I know that those who try to deny it, already know it's Wajib. I'm very surprised that some people who THINK they understand more than ahlulbait and all maraji, tell other people it's not wajib.

Sister, I believe not wearing Hijab is a toxic arrow into the heart of Imam Mahdi who is watching us. Try to make him happy.

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On 25/11/2017 at 6:04 AM, Guest ???? said:

I have been wearing hijab since i was 9, out of my own will. But i hate it now. I hate the way I look. I feel restricted by this piece of cloth on my head. What on earth is wearing something over your head got to do with being modest? And if it does, why do men not have to wear hijab on their head? It confuses me and just seems so senseless and unjust. 

I understand we must cover our bodies for our own protection. But cloth over your head DOES NOT protect you. And i know this from personal experience.

Salam sis

why do you feel restricted wearing hijab? Is there anything in the world you can’t do wearing a hijab? 

Sister men and women have different awrahs that’s why men don’t have to wear a hijab

while men don’t to wear physically a hijab men have something called hijab of the eye 

 

Imam Muhammad al-Baqir (peace be upon him) has said, “The evil glance is fornication of the eyes, the kiss is fornication of the lips, and touching a non-Mahram woman is fornication of the hands.” (Wasail al-Shia)

 

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On Saturday, November 25, 2017 at 8:04 AM, Guest ??? said:

Is i not unfair? Is Allah suggesting women should cover their hair, just because men can't control their gaze or desires

It will be better for you in the after life and your imaan to stay strong. 

I know this girl who use to wear a hijab and just recently afew months ago she took it off, once everybody seen her without one on they all started to talk down on her. Us women who are apart of the ummah are more respected with honour but once its off it looks like your disrespecting your religion for your own desires why would you want to do that to yourself? You should wear it for the sake of Allah. Comparing is a sin for saying "why do i have to wear it cause the guys cant control themselves." But if you werent wearing a scarf and you see a guy and think hes a attractive then you will do things to get their attention.. is kinda like your looking for their gaze.

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Bismehe Ta3ala,

Assalam Alikum.

I'm sure the sister is feeling this way because of the pressures of her society.  The sister needs to build her self confidence more than thinking about removing her hijab.

Allah swt help her in her journey.

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Islam is a rational religion, but like all religions, it does require some faith, but not blind faith. 

It requires faith because Allah(s.w.a) always orders us to do what is best for us, and forbids us from doing the things that are the worst for us. 

BUT

what is the best for us and what is the worst for us is based on His(s.w.a) absolute and complete knowledge and not based on our relative and incomplete knowledge. If we waited to have a complete understanding of why something was wajib in order to do it or why something was haram in order to not do it, we would be living in a very different world. In fact, we probably wouldn't be alive because the world would have ceased to exist a long time ago due to the horrible things probably most people would have done. 

Islam is based on submission. Submission means we recognize our Creator(s.w.a), Allah(s.w.a) and realize that He(s.w.a) is the only being worthy of worship and that there is no gods besides Him(s.w.a). Then we recognize that Allah(s.w.a) has given us orders thru Prophet Muhammad(p.b.u.h) and explained and extended our understanding of those orders and other knowledge thru the Ahl Al Bayt(a.s). Once we recognize those facts, then we are obligated to do certain things and refrain from doing other things because we recognize the preceding facts. So when you hear something is wajib, the first question you should ask is 'Is it really wajib?'. Once you have established that it is, then you should do it. Why ? because it is wajib and by doing it you are submitting, i.e. being a muslim. If you are doing it for any other reason, then you are not doing it for the right reason. As Imam Sadiq(a.s) has said, 'One who submits is a muslim, the one who does not submit is not a muslim'

At the same time, there are some intellectual arguments as to why it is wajib (some have already been mentioned). Those are interesting and we can discuss them, but those should not be the reason why you do something. 

Also, if you knew the amount of respect that people have (even if they don't say it) for a women who wears her hijab and then practices the social hijab(modesty) and has good aklaq, it would make it easier for you to wear it. The hijab by itself is just a piece of cloth. It becomes the flag of Islam when it is joined with concious submission to the will of Allah(s.w.a), i.e. Islam, haya, and aklaq. My question would be who wouldn't want to be the flag of Islam, if they had a chance to do it ? 

BTW, it is not wajib for men to wear hijab, but there are other things that are wajib for men and not for women, like supporting the family financially and going to war(jihad) when they are called to this. You think either one of those things are easy ? 

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Salaam alaykom Sister,

I read your question and I will like to ask you a question. How does the hijab restrict you? What is it that your are missing? What is it you would have or do differently if you did not wear the hijab? Behind all of this is the desire to attract men. Maybe you will say, no I want to feel the air in my hair, I want people to see my hair, for what reason? Then if you will say, the hijab keeps you from getting employment or friends, I would say it is better to realize the bigger view and that it is simply not worth the short-term risk in this temporary world to defy the clear Laws of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala. There is more bad that can happen to you than good if you remove your hijab. If you will look through the history of this world until the present day you will see that it can be a very aggressive place for the woman who is modest and any protection you have is to your benefit. If what you want deep down is to attract a man, then it is best to get married whatever your age, rather than risk your modesty. This world is dominated by Dajjel and only desires to destroy the pure, modest and good image of a woman. 

Take care Sister and my advice is not to do anything you will regret. The frustration you are feeling will pass and you will be glad that you held onto your values rather than replacing them with the values of immodest women who are destined for a fiery end.

Jazakallahu kheiran!

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Salam, 

I feel your definition of A Hijab is wrong. Hijab is not wrapping yourself in clothes, or showing your body figure and just throwing a piece of cloth on your head. Unfortunately , it has been very common like that in the Western  countires. Girls and women wear very revealing clothing that are tight but still cover the skin and hair. An Hijab is not made to cover skin and hair only. You must cover your body shape. Thats why the Hijab is modest because your literally not showing your self to men. Your right,a guy that sees you can still imagine your body shape even if your covered properly, but he will never know how it truly looks like. When a guy sees that a girl is covering up,he will not look as much and there isnt really much to see. 
 
Do you ever notice how queens of countries never wear like girls that go to a club? Its because she is modest. God is gifting us by his command to cover up 10x more than so we can be the most modest and classy women.

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Bismehe Ta3ala,

Assalam Alikum Sister,

What happened or what incident took place that you posted about not understanding the purpose of hijab?

It is not the hijab's fault if you have received negative treatment.  

You are brave and listening to Allah swt when you obey His command.  

Look at your hijab as pleasing the Imam of your Time.  

I'm rooting for you sister!  

M3 Salamah, FE AMIN Allah 

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Isn't it unfar for us to have so much desire for women? We can't control it? And Allah knows that well? 

Do you really think it feels good to watch every woman to pass by? Ye, it is pleasing to the eye, but it hurt after a while.

I think hijab is beautiful, and it covers up the woman, and that means you are steady fast in your religion and have a saying, cause you can choose whenever you want a man to see your beauty or not, haven't you seen girls in porn industry where every girl is shown to every man, and they don't even care.

Women who don't wear hijab think that they are free cause they can wear whatever they want, but then they get mad when men rape them? It is kind of her fault for showing her beauty to men, cause Allah knows that men will act like animals, and gave woman a safeguard called Hijab.

Or think like this, would you rather please Allah or please the people created by Allah, the men and women here would have many thoughts about how we should act, but Allah knows very well what is good for us. Trust in Allah instead of questioning, it only leads to kufr... Sometimes we need to accept the truth without thinking too much, cause this donya is indeed a trail.

Please don't use rape into this. 

You don't need to mention rape to validate hijab. 

Women and men can both get raped. Not all women who get raped are wearing anything modest. There are girls who are targeted for wearing hijab who get raped anyways. Immodesty does NOT equal rape. At all. 

It has nothing to do with each other at all. 

And it is no ones fault for rape. Its not a babys fault. Not a child's fault. Not a woman's fault. 

If you want to talk about some people having risky behavior - like drinking, then yes, some behaviors put them at very high risk to be victims. But please don't mix rape with hijab. 

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A brother messaged me the other day asking advice about how to approach a "Taking Off Hijab Party" that was being held for a Muslima who decided to stop wearing hijab. This party was being held by Muslim college students for the sister to support her and celebrate her decision. (It goes without saying that non-mahram men and women were invited to join the mixed festivities.)

Obviously, I was shocked. Have we really gotten to this point of confusion? The scary part is, these are not people who are antagonistic to Islam or even the hijab, necessarily. These are young Muslims who probably consider themselves fully invested in their Muslim identity. Maybe they are very active at their masjid and with the community. Maybe they even consider themselves to be "unapologetically" Muslim. Wallahi it would be much less troubling if these were Muslims that had little investment in being Muslim.

Now, it is easy to think a "Taking Off Hijab Party" is Islamically justified if you have been fed a steady stream of ambiguities and outright misguidance that has been coming from certain prominent "traditional" Muslim sources over the past 16 years. I can just imagine the series of questions these confused youth asked themselves in deciding to have this party:

"Well, in Islam, shouldn't we respect everyone's personal choices about religion? And, as Muslims, shouldn't we respect differences of opinions on religious matters? And shouldn't we support our Muslim sisters no matter what? And, in Islam, isn't everything allowed unless it is explicitly haram? And shouldn't we be merciful and welcoming no matter what? And don't we all have sins (even though, who is to say that not wearing hijab is even a sin because Islam is not a monolith and there are different non-patriarchal interpretations)? And didn't the Prophet, peace be upon him, accept people no matter what? And doesn't the Quran say that there is no compulsion in religion? And aren't we supposed to spread positivity in Islam? And isn't it wrong to impose hijab on anyone in the first place? etc., etc., etc."

Welcome to the new normal. This is NOT an isolated event. Over the past few years, I have been hearing about many similar disasters happening among youth who, again, are very committed to their "Muslim identity." But clearly, that means absolutely nothing in terms of understanding Islam or being devoted to the normative tradition of Islam.

But we really shouldn't be surprised.

This is the natural result of dressing up liberal-secular-feminist hegemony in Islamic garb and selling it to the community as "authentic Islam."

When will our community leaders start to take seriously the mortal threat that these modern ideologies pose to the iman of our children and ourselves? Are they waiting for their own daughters and sons to organize "Taking Off Hijab Parties"? How about "Leaving Islam Parties"?

- Daniel Haqiqatjou

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On 2/9/2018 at 12:18 AM, Laayla said:

A brother messaged me the other day asking advice about how to approach a "Taking Off Hijab Party" that was being held for a Muslima who decided to stop wearing hijab. This party was being held by Muslim college students for the sister to support her and celebrate her decision.

What the actual hell?

A taking off hijab party? Are you serious, this is a real thing?

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he Word hijab (Modest Dress)

 
We believe in a particular philosophy in Islam for woman's hijab or modest dress which forms our intellectual point of view and in regard to analysis, it can be called the basis for the Islamic modest dress.
 
Before we begin our discussion, it is necessary to look at the meaning of the word hijab which is used in our age to refer to a woman's covering. This word gives the sense of 'covering' because it refers to a veil or a means of 'covering' . Perhaps it can be said that because of the origin of the word, not every covering is hijab. That 'covering' which is referred to as a hijab is that which appears behind a curtain. The Holy Quran describes the setting of the sun in the story of the Prophet Solomon,

"...until the sun was covered (bil hijab) and time for the afternoon ritual prayer was over." (38:32)

The diaphragm separating the heart from the stomach is also called 'hijab'.

https://www.al-islam.org/the-islamic-modest-dress-ayatullah-murtadha-mutahhari/introduction#word-hijab-modest-dress

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On 11/25/2017 at 12:34 AM, Guest ??? said:

Is it not unfair? Is Allah suggesting women should cover their hair, just because men can't control their gaze or desires

Salam dear sister, I hope and pray your doing well, i was saddened to read your post it must be extremely difficult, know that Allah s.w.t knows of your patience and struggles.

I will attempt to answer your question, from a different perspective, i have to be honest and say i did not go through all the previous posts yet as many were repetitive and i want to shed a different light on the concept of hijab that is not related to mans lust for women.


To understand Hijab, we have to look at creation.
God says in the Holy Quran,

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O mankind, indeed We have created you from male and female and made you peoples and tribes that you may know one another. Indeed, the most noble of you in the sight of Allah is the most righteous of you. Indeed, Allah is Knowing and Acquainted.

Here Allah s.w.t (and in other verses in the Holy Quran) states that the human being has been created from a male and a female which is self evident.

The second verse i want to refer to is:

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 And [mention, O Muhammad], when your Lord said to the angels, "Indeed, I will make upon the earth a successive authority. (representative)" ..
till the end of the verse.


So we see here that man (insaan), the male and female were created in order to be representatives of God on earth.

The male and female are different, but that difference doesn't just apply physically, but metaphysically as well (spiritually you can say for now), meaning they have two different functions and two different representations.

The male represents majesty and the women represents beauty, these two concepts should be self explanatory, if one contemplates them.

Now what does representing beauty for the female entail?
Think of God's beauty, it is veiled from the world, and it is only revealed in detail to those who have formed a bond and a union with Allah s.w.t, and likewise women naturally as they representatives of Gods beauty, and representatives of God must veil themselves as well in order to transcend spiritually and be a sign of God on earth.
It is also the natural means of having a good society, and societal order, in which everything is a reflection of a higher order.

When we analyze the exoteric laws, there are signs that show us these facts, for instance:

1. A women can only reveal her beauty to those who either by them being blood relation, or through there being a spiritual bond and union (marriage) between them.

2. A women in prayer EVEN IN THE PRESENCE OF A MAHRAM must cover her hair and body in the presence of God, one might ask why is that?


Because prayer, canonical prayer, is assimilation of the higher truth.
To use an example to make this clearer, the christian eats the holy bread and drinks the wine because it represents, in their view, the blood of Christ and the flesh of Christ, and they eat and drink it in order for that truth to manifest itself within them.

Likewise a women veils herself in order for Divine truth to manifest itself within her and so that she may transcend higher towards Allah s.w.t.

The aspect of the male lust is there of course, everything has different reasons for it, some exoteric some esoteric, some obvious and some hidden, but that does not mean they are the sole reason behind actions.

You as a Muslimah, Allah s.w.t looked at with a look of Divine love and Divine Mercy, and chose and created you, because He believed in you, He believes that you have the capacity and the ability to be an example, a representative, a beautiful manifestation of the Divine, and Divine order, not just on the Earth but in the heavens as well as we see in the continuation if the second verse mentioned the angels ask Allah s.w.t :

They said, "Will You place upon it one who causes corruption therein and sheds blood, while we declare Your praise and sanctify You?"

And Allah s.w.t says,
"Indeed, I know that which you do not know."

 I know that she can, and I know that which you are ignorant of, she is more patient than you assume, and she can through action transcend and assimilate the Divine principle within her, and you will be witnesses to that.

Dear sister, this is not just common to Islam but this concept existed through centuries in different religious traditions.

You are much greater, than just a creation that is lusted at, and has to be protected, your beauty comes with responsibility, you are a reflection of Divine love, Mercy, and Beauty in ways men can never be!
Can there be any love, among fallible creation, greater than a woman's love, or a mothers love for her children?
Or any mercy, among fallible creation, greater than a mothers mercy for her children?
Or any beauty, among fallible creation, greater than that of a women's beauty?

 


Reflect on that, and may Allah s.w.t strengthen your heart and soul and increase your patience, i know it is a struggle to go out into the world and suffer strange looks and stares and comments, and bias as a result of the way you look and to be constantly told that you have to for the sake of men, instead of for the sake of humanity.

You are strong.
And Allah knows best, I pray for your success.


And All praise belongs to God, the All-Seeing, the Beautiful, the All-Knowing, the Merciful Lord of the heavens and the earth.






 

 

 

 

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On 11/24/2017 at 3:38 PM, Dhulfikar said:

I don't know, it is something that Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى did not made obligatory for man. Mans have their own laws and so do the Womans.

Is it not unfair? Is Allah suggesting women should cover their hair, just because men can't control their gaze or desires

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