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I have four. I have a friend who has 8 adopted kids. I used to have a Christian friend before I became Muslim who had 10 children. It's certainly possible. Obviously some compromises will have to be made. 

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In all the large families that I know, one parent stays home. I have a friend who is an engineer. Her husband is a self employed martial arts instructor. They have five girls. He schedules his classes in the evenings when she is home, and stays with his little ones while she is at work. It's not a typical arrangement, but it seems to work great. 

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4 hours ago, notme said:

I have four. I have a friend who has 8 adopted kids. I used to have a Christian friend before I became Muslim who had 10 children. It's certainly possible. Obviously some compromises will have to be made. 

I also love to adopt children. But 8 kids??? Only very strong women can properly look after 8 little kids. Did your friends hire any babysitter or someone who help them in doing house chores? Here, most of my peers have less than 2 kids.

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I think it's important to give a gap between kids. I read somewhere that first two years are very important. Kids, who are abused or are neglected during first two years of life are less intelligent. These days we read so many news of mothers killing their own kids. I don't think they are criminals or murderers, I think they are just pressured into having kids and they don't receive any help, so they get stressed out or frustrated. It's hard for me to function if I don't get enough sleep for a day or two. Not getting enough sleep for months or years can drive you crazy. You are more likely to do a better job if you are able to spend more time on each kid. 

I am not saying this about OP. I have seen a lot of people who are so loving towards kids but they are cruel with adults. It's crazy because if you are being mean to a kid's mother, it will have some effect on that kid, so you are hurting the kid. But some people become so kind when they are dealing with kids but they don't forgive the slightest weakness in the mother. At the end of the day, that kid will go home with the mother and she may take her frustration out on the kid intentionally or unintentionally. 

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