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Asalamualaikum,

It takes a lot of me to write this so please don’t judge me. In July this year, a problem happened in my domestically violent family (mostly my dad). Ever since a child, when such things happen we are NOT allowed to inform any relatives or family friends because this will ruin our perfect family image and it is wrong to have outsiders interfere. My family all accused me of something I didn’t do. I defended myself, they beat me up, I ran to my room, they tried to open the door blah blah blah fml blah blah. I was so broken and hurt of their accusation I was crying to god to help me end this. These violent times make me so much terrified every time. Then I heard whispering and I crept to listen to find that it was all an act. This hurt so much I decided to end my life. Other things happened that led me to this decision and it wasn’t the idea of giving up, but freeing myself that led me to suicide. I overdosed on pills and went to sleep. I was ready to die. I didn’t care if I went to hell. I thought that I could negotiate and have my say with god more than I could with my family. He created me and he’s merciful. They’re not. They’re abusive. But...I woke up the next morning. Disappointed. They did something else that made me want to kill myself so I overdosed on another bottle of pills. I went to read Quran to distract myself of my aching stomach and to not vomit because bile kept rising. Then, I read Surah Al Haj and on Ayah 11. I decided to not die. This Ayah changed my life. It’s a long story on how but it did. I purged it all out and NEVER told my family or anyone about these two attempts. If I do, they will say that God is punishing me for being a bad person.

I know it is haram to commit suicide but I still did try to. And why should I repent when I don’t feel sorry for trying to, but only saddened because I even had to consider and act on it? What should I do? I tried helplines and lifelines but they tell me my family isn’t safe to live with and I should report them, but I don’t want to do that.

so, is what I did haram? Will I go to hell? What should I do?

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45 minutes ago, ZahraZubaid said:

What should I do? I tried helplines and lifelines but they tell me my family isn’t safe to live with and I should report them, but I don’t want to do that.

Why do you not want to report your family? Could you explain that to me? I am having trouble understanding this part. I might have a solution if you tell me.

50 minutes ago, ZahraZubaid said:

so, is what I did haram?

Yes, but you will be forgiven if you sincerely repent and never try to commit suicide again. Allah loves the sincere and repentant, so never despair over His Mercy.

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21 minutes ago, Gaius I. Caesar said:

Why do you not want to report your family? Could you explain that to me? I am having trouble understanding this part. I might have a solution if you tell me.

I think she knows that if she reports her father he would be arrested and maybe go to prison. This would be catastrophic for her mother and family.

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Guest Ya Mahdi (a.j)

Wa alaikum asalam,

Sister I have dealt with similar problems and they were really hard times for me, so I really really don't like seeing other people in pain, and I ask pleease read all of this, as it helped me massively.

Inshallah Allah can relieve you from this problem. I am going to try my best to help, as I've experienced grief in my life as well. I really highly suggest you take a look at dua's from Muhammad wa Ale Muhammad (Muhammad and his 12 successors), because Rasulullah promised to us that if we don't leave his imams, Allah won't leave us.

There is one short du'a from Ahlulbayt that has extreme power. Also, I'd like to mention that Allah forgives every single sin. Allah says in the quran, that if you think your sin is huge, know that Allah is even bigger and that he will forgive it. Once a man came to Rasulullah (saww) and told him of a really disgusting, cruel, and vile sin. After 40 days, Allah revealed to Muhammad (saww) that the man was forgiven.

Here is the power of the du'a I mentioned earlier, and I will post the link below.

[Taken from Khazaanatul Asraar fee Alkhutoom wal Athkaar Volume 2]

Imam Ja'far Al-Saadiq  narrates that his father narrated about his grandfather Imam Ali  the following. Imam Ali  said, "The prophet of Allah (saws) taught me this dua, and commanded me to cherish it during every hour of misfortune and despair, and told me to teach it to the leader after me, and commanded me to keep with it throughout my entire life, until I meet Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى." And he said, "When you awake and go to sleep, this dua' is a treasure from the treasures of the Throne."

Ibn Ka3b Al-Ansaari asked the prophet, "May my mother and father be sacrificed for you, clarify for us and tell us about the thawaab of this dua'." The prophet (saws) laughed and said, "Surely the son of Adam is cautious about what is forbidden, I will tell you about some of the thawaab of this Dua'... As for the owner of the dua', while he prays to Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى goodness is sprinkled unto his head from the middle of the sky to the earth, and Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى will bring down to him an abundance of mercy and assurance (itmi'naan) and there will not be for this dua' an end without the throne of the Lord of the Worlds.. (something like..) with this dua' you will have a position around the throne of Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى similar to that of bees around a honeycomb. And Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى watches the person who recites this dua'. And whosoever reads this dua' three times, there is nothing this person asks Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى for that will not be fulfilled, in this world, as well as the Hereafter. And Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى will save this person from the punishments and torture of the grave, and will relieve him of the pressures of the chest. On the Day of Judgment he will succeed and be treated as a precious white pearl. He will rise between the hands of the Lord of the Worlds and Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى will command generosity unto him and tell him, "My servant, take from heaven whatever you wish from what Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى has in abundance and generosity that no eye has seen and no ear has heard.. take what no creation has imagined and no tongue has described."

Salman Alfarisi  enquired more on the thawaab of this dua'. The prophet (saws) said, "Oh aba 3abdillah, [wallathee ba3athani bil7aqqi nabiyyan] if a crazy person recited this dua' he will wake up that hour, and if a woman who has hard labor recites this dua', the child will be released as quick as the blinking of an eye, and if.... Yes, Oh Salman, if a person recites this dua' for 40 nights, Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى will forgive him for whatever was between him and his Lord, and whatever was between him and human beings. [Wallathy ba3athani bil7aqqi nabiyyan] Oh Salman, nobody recites this dua' without the hardships and stress and sickness of this dunya is removed from his heart. Yes Oh Salman, whosoever prays to Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى with this dua' (a7sanahu am lam ya7sunhu?) and then went to sleep with the intention of gaining thawaab, Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى sends him with every letter from this dua' 1,000 angels whose faces are brighter than the sun.

And Salman said, "Would Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى give all this thawaab?" The prophet (saws) said, "Oh Salman, don't tell the people until I tell you greater news than what I have just told you." Salman (saws) said, "Oh prophet of Allah and why do you command me thus?" The prpohet (saws) said, "I am afraid that people will leave their work and rely upon the dua'." Salman said, "tell me, Oh Rasool Allah" The prophet (saws) said, "Whosoever prays with this Dua' and during his life he committed large sins, and then dies during that night or day after reciting this dua' to Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى, he will die a martyr (shaheed) and if he died Oh Salman without forgiveness from Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى, He سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى will forgive his deeds with His generosity and it is this dua'...." [Muhaj Alda3awaat, p. 167]

The author (Alsayyed Muhammad Taqi Almuqaddam) of the book says: "It is not permissible to leave this dua' while looking at its abundant benefits, but one must read it whenever possible."

(Basically, this du'a [if recited with complete sincerity] will forgive every single sin you have ever commited towards Allah, and towards ANY person, and will give you a clean slate, and Allah will consider you sinless. Not only this, but Allah will consider you as a beloved worshipper, and a mumin)

Here is the du'a. If your Arabic is weak, just recite what he says, even if you don't know the meaning. Just like medicine, you take it without knowing how it works, but it's effect is still there, this is the same with Quran and dua.

I would also really like to mention, that Allah tests those who he loves. Rasulullah Muhammad was Allah's most beloved creation, but why were his parents taken away from him before he was even 7? Why was Khadijah, his most beloved wife, taken away from him at the worst point of his life? Why at the same time period, was his beloved uncle Abu Talib taken from him, as he was still mourning the death of Khadijah? Why were the men,women,and children throwing rocks at his face when he was trying to get away from the persecution at Mecca? Why at Uhud, all his "companions" fled and didn't help him from the powerful horsemen who tried to kill him, except Imam Ali and a few more? And you would think that his ummah would feel bad for him and mourn his death, but the minute he passed away, his final wish ( let Imam Ali (a.s) become the successor ) was taken away, his family killed and tortured, and up to this day if you are a Shia (in some countries) you will be killed.

And how about Fatima Zahra (s.a), who wasn't even 25 when she was martyred? The same people that were trusted during the prophets lifetime betrayed her and her father with no regret. Was not she beloved by Allah?

I don't even need to get started on Imam Hussain and Karbala.

Point of my statement is, Allah wants to test you with hardship and pain so that you may get closer to him in these tough times, just as he tested his beloved creations.

One last thing is, I would like to share my way of relief from hardships. Always hope for Imam Al-Mahdi's return. Don't think of it as something that will happen hundred, thousands of years from now. You can communicate with him. As the imam beautifully says," Increase your supplication (dua) for the acceleration (hasten) of deliverance (my appearance), because in that is your deliverance and relief."

In an authentic letter, our Master Imam Mahdi says,

"Pray excessively for my reappearance, since in my reappearance lies a solution to all your problems.”

(Kamaaluddin, vol. 2, p. 485)"

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1 hour ago, ZahraZubaid said:

He created me and he’s merciful. They’re not. They’re abusive.

To Whom it may concern:

Those who are blessed with sons & daughters, please look at these words....
If we are true servant of "Ar-Rehman", we have to be merciful, kind, careful, loving, polite while dealing with parents, kids, husband/wives or any other relatives and neighbors. This happens when we forget the presence of Allah (s.w.t), and forget who we are.

 

2 hours ago, ZahraZubaid said:

Then, I read Surah Al Haj and on Ayah 11. I decided to not die. This Ayah changed my life.

وَمِنَ النَّاسِ مَن يَعْبُدُ اللَّهَ عَلَى حَرْفٍ فَإِنْ أَصَابَهُ خَيْرٌ اطْمَأَنَّ بِهِ وَإِنْ أَصَابَتْهُ فِتْنَةٌ انقَلَبَ عَلَى وَجْهِهِ خَسِرَ الدُّنْيَا وَالْآخِرَةَ ذَلِكَ هُوَ الْخُسْرَانُ الْمُبِينُ

"And among men is he who serves Allah (standing) on the verge, so that if good befalls him he is satisfied therewith, but if a trial afflict him he turns back headlong; he loses this world as well as the hereafter; that is a manifest loss" (22:11)

I am glad that you are guided by this verse of Quran. These words of Allah (s.w.t) are more specific for those who are blessed with kids because one of the "fitnah" as mentioned in Quran are children. So parents must exercise precaution in dealing with their children. Allah says in Quran:

وَاعْلَمُواْ أَنَّمَا أَمْوَالُكُمْ وَأَوْلاَدُكُمْ فِتْنَةٌ وَأَنَّ اللّهَ عِندَهُ أَجْرٌ عَظِيمٌ
"And know that your property and your children are a temptation, and that Allah is He with Whom there is a mighty reward" (8:28)

إِنَّمَا أَمْوَالُكُمْ وَأَوْلَادُكُمْ فِتْنَةٌ وَاللَّهُ عِندَهُ أَجْرٌ عَظِيمٌ
"Your possessions and your children are only a trial, and Allah it is with Whom is a great reward" (64:15)
 

2 hours ago, ZahraZubaid said:

I know it is haram to commit suicide but I still did try to. And why should I repent when I don’t feel sorry for trying to, but only saddened because I even had to consider and act on it? What should I do? I tried helplines and lifelines but they tell me my family isn’t safe to live with and I should report them, but I don’t want to do that.

so, is what I did haram? Will I go to hell? What should I do?

You have committed a mistake, but you're alive Alhamdolillah. You have the time & resources to repent on your mistakes which you have committed knowingly or unknowingly.  Know what Allah says:

قُلْ يَا عِبَادِيَ الَّذِينَ أَسْرَفُوا عَلَى أَنفُسِهِمْ لَا تَقْنَطُوا مِن رَّحْمَةِ اللَّهِ إِنَّ اللَّهَ يَغْفِرُ الذُّنُوبَ جَمِيعًا إِنَّهُ هُوَ الْغَفُورُ الرَّحِيمُ
"Say: O my servants! who have acted extravagantly against their souls, do not despair of the mercy of Allah; surely Allah forgives the faults altogether; surely He is the Forgiving the Merciful" (39:53)
 

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hi dont be sad there is still you have time for repentance

https://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/suicide-in-islam/

Suicide is Murder

The Almighty Allah says:

“....and do not kill ourselves; surely Allah is Merciful to you. And whoever does this aggressively and unjustly, We will soon cast him into Fire; and this is easy for Allah.” (Surah an-Nisā’ 4:29-30)

Allah (S.w.T.) prohibits the believers from suicide even in times of turmoil.

https://www.al-islam.org/greater-sins-volume-1-ayatullah-sayyid-abdul-husayn-dastghaib-shirazi/fifth-greater-sin-murder#suicide-murder

Repenting For Murder

By way of repentance, a person who has committed a willful murder should surrender himself to the heir of the murdered person. The successors of the murdered person have a choice of either avenging the death or accepting the ‘diyah’. That is, they can forgive him or kill him in retribution.

If the murderer is forgiven, Three things become obligatory on him:

1) Freeing a slave

2) Feeding sixty poor people

3) Keeping sixty fasts

If freeing a slave is not allowed by the law, the other two penalties should be fulfilled.

Accidental and Intended Murder

Even in the case of an accidental murder the heirs of the victim are to be paid the ‘diyah’. But they should forgive the killer.

Apart from this the Three penalties should be imposed, that is, freeing a slave, feeding sixty people and fasting for sixty days.

Similarly cutting off a part of someone’s body is a Greater Sin. Those who intend to study this subject in detail are requested to refer to the books of Jurisprudence.

https://www.al-islam.org/greater-sins-volume-1-ayatullah-sayyid-abdul-husayn-dastghaib-shirazi/fifth-greater-sin-murder#repenting-murder

  • 1. Wasa’il ul-Shia
  • 2. al-Kāfi
  • 3. Wasa’il ul-Shia
  • 4. Wasa’il ul-Shia
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Death in Nahj al-Balaghah

 1. Time of certain life

The creation of the villages and mansions, and the steps and the nets, and the attachment of the balloons, and the forgery of the villains, and, most definitely, the lamrair of the bulls. 
He created and appointed a lifetime for each one, and then put it long, short, premature and long. The causes and causes for the death of every creature, and the death of the deadly cord and the severing of the life of the very strong clauses of life. 1

 2. Hafez Human

Bala Baljul Harza . 
It is enough to protect human beings. 2

 3. Out of luck

I am happy, I am happy, and I am a lunatic and awesome mate, and I am not afraid of a tempest, unpopular pilgrim, and a non-defeated century, and a desirable water. The height of the Holy Qur'an and the experiments of the ghosts, and the magnitude of the splendor and the greatness of the faces, the reflections of the Imam of Adawat, and the height of the Nebot's. Foucault is a substitute for the lack of maturity and the eagerness. 
The death of your pleasures and good fortune will make your dreams dark and distracting between you and your goals, a visitor who no one likes him and a struggle that never fails. And a criminal who will never be held accountable. Now you have thrown your livestock in your hands. The darkness of the shadows of death and the severity of your pain is near to you. 3

 4. Final death

And, as a matter of fact, you are the one who is the one who is the one who is the one who is in the world. 
And I promise that Allah the Exalted will not change any soul in which the Spirit blows in it, except that the death of the Final Prophet and the Prophet is put to an end. 4

 5. Poor child Adam !

Ibn Adam Maktoum Alajl, Meknoun Al-Alal, Safavar-e-Ala'im, T'a'lum al-Boghah and Taktahl Al-Sharqa'ah, and Tintan Al-Arabi. 
Poor child Adam! His death time is unknown, the causes of his illness are unclear, his action is reserved, his mosquito bites him and kills his sunshine, and his sweat makes his body perverse. 5

 6. Preserving shield

These are the common people of the Melchizedek, the fatha of the Holy Ghost, the testimony, and the holy prophecy. 
Along with every man, there are two angels who protect him, so when the grace comes, they are separated from him and the guardianship is guarded. 6

 7. Unworthiness of the world

Lahan Allah Almighty Allah Almighty Sufi Allah, Lakan Allah Suleiman Bin Dawud Allah Allah, Allah, Allah, and Allah, the Most Merciful and the Most Merciful. The flame of the stoopy, and the long time, Rametha Qassi al-Fana'a, the son of Alamoth, and أصبحت الديرار منه خالية, و المساكن معطلة, and the gods of Achaheron. 
If anyone could find a ladder for eternity, or lead a way to repatriate death, this person was certainly Sulayman ibn Dawood (peace be upon him), which was the kingdom of the jinn and mankind for him, with the office of the prophet and the great rapprochement with God. When he finished his day and ended his life, he pointed to the arrows of the dead bodies of death. The city was empty of him, and the dwelling was empty of his estate, and his family lost his inheritance. 7

 8. The distance between heaven and hell

We are between the two countries and the Middle East and the Middle East. And the end of the tenets of the feast, and the tidings of Allah, Allah, and His Messenger. And the unbelievers say, "Allah and Al-Nahar, you have a great deal." And you are the one who loves to have a good evening. 
Your distance from heaven or hell is not more than death, the life that passed through the moments and the death of it destroys, it will certainly be short, and deserves to be short. The passing of day and night will lead to it and will end soon, and a traveler who brings happiness or brutality should take the best birth and luggage. 8

 9. Shield against death

على من الله جنة حصينة, فاذا جاء يومى انفجت عني و عسلمتني; فحنعذ لا لا ياتش السلم, و لا يبرأ الكلم. 
God has given me a firm shield. As the day of my death comes, it shields me and gives me death. At that time, no bullet would go wrong and no wounds would improve. 9

 10. Dedication and predestined eagerness

الي عبدالله بن العباس: Funk list is close to Ajlak, and Lamarzouk is Lysa Lak. 
He addressed to Ibn Abbas: "You will not overcome death and you will not receive what you are not." 10

 11. Everything is funny

Maenjou I am Alamut I am afraid, and لا يعطي البقاء من أحبه. 
Anyone who fears death will not be emancipated and any whoever loves life will not always live. 11

 12. The Greatness of the Difficulties of Death

This is the first time that you have been tested by your team, and you will be asked about it. 
Indeed, death has difficulties that are more difficult to describe, or fragments of the people of the world can understand it. 12

 13. The end of the worldly life

I pray Alamut, and I am at the bottom of Allah. 
With knowledge and knowledge, fear of death will come to an end and end with the death of the world. 13

 14. Neda Angel

This is the name of Malek, which is the name of the whole city: Ludwah, and Lampa, and Abu al-Nahlab. 
Allah the Almighty has an angel who cries every day: Go together to die, gather for it, make it to be destroyed! 14

 15. Hidden

Ann أجله (النسن) مستور عنه, و أمله خادع له. 
Indeed, death is hidden from the point of view of man and his dreams are deceiving him. 15

 16. Specific Awl

إن لكل أجل وقتا لا لادو و أببا لا يدججا. 
Each time has a certain time and time, which does not pass from it, and causes that it does not violate it. 16

 17. Short in actions

ألا و أنكم في أيام أمل من ولا أجل; فمن عمل في أيام أمل before the presence of أجله the missing part of the Amal, and لم يضرره أجله. And I am the Qassur of the Ayam before the presence of Allah, the loss of the Amalah, and the shame of Allah. 
be aware! Everyone is in the dreams that the pursuit of the will, therefore, everyone who before his time arrives at the same time of his dreams, his actions will benefit him and his death will not harm him, and the one who during these days Desire and shortly before the death comes, he will be caught and his death will be harmed to him. 17

 18. Hostage for action

Faraway Abad Allah, we are against the fief and most of all, and I am afraid of Allah, and the Lord of hosts; I am afraid of you, and Medin is ours. 
O servants of God! Observe what you are doing because of your respect for your prosperity and your loss to your criminal misery and work before your adventures, because you are the hostage that you sent in advance and paid for what you did. You go 18

 19. Overcome death !

بادروا الموت الذي ان هربتم منه أدرككم, و ان أقمتم أخذكم, و ان نسيتموه ذكركم. 
Overcome death, because if you escape, it will detect you and if you stay, it will take you and remember you if you forget it. 19th

 20. Death

And Allah, our Lord, Allah, and Allah, come to the Kareetha, Vlaha al-T'ali, and we are Allah, the Qur'ab of the Word, and the great and wonderful. 
I swear to God that there is nothing like death that suddenly reaches me, and that I will despise it, and it will not reveal anything to me that I did not recognize and refuse to do. I am like someone in the quest for death, at night, thirst over him, and now he has come to the water, which is in the hope of something, and now he finds himself desirable. 20

 21. Be prepared to die !

Badrova Alamut and Ghamratah, and Umdhvah the pre-cursed, and the pre-cursed أعدوا لش قبل. 
Get ready for its deaths before it comes to picking up a peak for you, before you land it, you will be ready to accept it. 21

 22. Readiness for death

This is the case of the failure of the Holy Qur'an, and the consoilation of the Faithful, and the Prophecy of Allah. The list of the Faithful ... And we are between the Divine and the Divine, and the Almighty, the Almighty, the Almighty, the Prophets of Allah and the Supreme Leader. Peace be upon you, and Al-Sadr to the retribution of the descent, and bring it to the next, Almut Neda'm and La Kabbah. 
Get ready for death, your shadow is wide and you are like a group that woke up quickly when they exclaimed on them, and there was no distance between none of you and paradise and hell except for the death that comes upon him ... from the Great God We want to put you and us in a group that does not pride them in the blessings of the world and they have no purpose to bring them back from the righteousness of justice and they will not regret or regret after death. 22

 23. Comprehensive

Badrova is the first and most beautiful and most beautiful and most beautiful people in the world, and the people of the world have a great love for them. 
Precede It is the same death to prepare you for the reception of an all-encompassing all that involves each of you with a special quality, and you see the people with the sure destiny of death before your eyes and your resurrection from behind to your own. Rand, style! Come on! Except that the ancestors are waiting for the coming. 23

 24. Death

You will receive a copy of the letter and you will receive a copy of this letter. 
Hurry to action and fear the sudden arrival of death, because the hope that there is a return to the day is not about the return of life. 24

 25. Get ready for your trip !

We are the best and most important for you. 
Get what is for you eternally from what you will not stay for and stay awake for your journey, and see where the electricity of salvation shines, and ready to move from this world by preparing your journeymen! 25

 26. Best Deaths

ن أكرم الموت الطلل! و الذي نفس ابنعبى طالب بيدة, لالف ضرببت بالسيف أهون على من ميتة على الفراش في طائعة الله ! 
Verily, the best deaths are killed in the cause of Allah, to the god who lives in Abutaleb's son in his hands, I swear that a thousand blows of swords are easier for me than death on the bed besides the obedience of my Lord. 26

 27. The world's most devastated people

This is the story of Al-Nas Safqat and أخيبهم سعيا رجل العقللق في الحلقة الله و لم تسععده المقادير على الرحمن الرحيم, فخرج من الدنيا Bahraste, و قدم على اللهره بتباث. 
The most disadvantaged people in their trade and the most unsuccessful in their efforts and efforts are a man who desires his own property and does not assist his will with his will, and then he will grow up with regret and regret and to come to the Hereafter with his welfare. 27

 28. Last Will of Imam (AS) (

Fatima and the Assumption of Lābna Al-Hasan (as): The Prophet of God and the Dead. و عاصله خير القضاء لك في العاجلة و الأجلة, و الدنيا و آلاخره, و السلام. 
At the end of his will, his son, Imam Hassan (peace be upon him), said: "My son! I give God and your dignity to God, and I will give you the best command and the divine law today and tomorrow, and in this world and in the hereafter, I ask you, Wslmam. 28

 29. Death Note

I am most of you, Dakar, Almut Razi I Al-Daniya Balisir. 
Anyone who knows too much about death will be pleased with a little bit of the world. 29

 30. The Result of the Hereafter

I'll remind you later . 
He who will remember the journey of the Hereafter will prepare himself. 30

 31. Remembrance of Resurrection

Toby Leman Zekr al-Mā'ad, and the act of paying for the Qalat of Balakfaf, and Razi'An Allah. 
Blessed is he who remembers the resurrection and works for the account of the Day of Resurrection and is satisfied with the livelihood and is pleased with God. 31

 32. Hurry to good ones

I am promoting Alamut Saras al-Khairat. 
One who cares for death will accelerate towards good ones. 32

 33. Remember to die !

Most of us mention Alamut and we are later Alamut, and La Tethman Alamut ala, in a condition of faith. 
Remember most of all death and the world after death, and do not wish it except on a firm and firm stand! 33

 34. Fear of death

Badrova-al-Am, and Khafwa Batchat-e-Allajl. 
Do good deeds and fear death! 34

 35. The cause of the world is demanding

The height of the ghost is the death of Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah ! 
The memory of deaths has dried up from your hearts, and your false hopes have come to you, and the world has dominated over you hereafter. 35

 36. Artists of the same age

Azkerva ticlaty Abbaukkam and Akhavanakm Baha Mordonatoun and Ali's Caliphs. 
Remember what your fathers and brothers depend on and be audited for. 36

 37. The goal of the gens of death

أيها الناس! Enema is for the sake of tension. 
O people! You are the target of death in this world. 37

 38. Forgetting the Hereafter

Imam al-Amr bin al-'Asā: أما و الله أنى ليمنعنى من اللعب ذكر الموت و أنه ليمنعه من قول الحق نسيان الاخره. 
About Amr ibn'As, he said: "By Allah, the memory of death will prevent me from having fun and play, and forgetting the Hereafter will stop him from telling the truth." 38

 39. Too much to remember

Or Bani! Most of me mention Alamut, and we have mentioned the following, and the next verse is Alamut al-Ya'yah, even the Ya'etyk, and the height of his knowledge, and the severity of the manifestation, and the nature of the falsehood. 
my child ! Remember the death and remember the sudden attack so that when it arrives, you must be ready with all the power and you should be close to the waist and be ready to wait for him, not that suddenly comes and overthrows you. 39

 40. The world is passing through !

I am writing to you and I will give you the tithes and greetings, and you will be able to change and add your own list, and I will be pleased that I will be pleased with you, and I will be pleased ... Fadeauhs are the pride of your friends, and you are amazed. And the former faih al-ida-el-dīr al-tayī I pray for you. 
Know that this world, which you are constantly wishing and enthusiastic about, and sometimes angry you, and when it pleased you, is not your everlasting place, and it is not the place where you have been created or called to it. So let go of your deceptions for fear of him and to greet him for scaring him and greed for fear of it, and get ahead of each other in order to reach the one you have called for. 40

 41. A will to remember death

أوصيكم بذكر الموت و عقلال الغفلة عن و كيف غفلتكم علام ليسه يغلكم و طمعكم فيين ليس يوملكم. 
I order you to remind me of death and a little neglect of it, and how do you neglect something that is not unobtrusive to you, and how long will you have a respite from a person who does not give you a respite? 41

 42. Remembrance of the Hereafter

في وثيط للحسن عليه السلام: و علم و بيهي أنك انما خلق للاشرة لا للدنيا, و للفناء لا للاقاء, و للموت لا لححةة. 
Imam's statement to his son Imam Hassan (AS): O my son! You know that you were created for everlasting life not for the world, not for mortals to survive and stay, not to live in this world was created for the death of. 42

 43. Not being dependent on the world

Allah height of forging Dunya Lama later, and Shoal therein Hlha, Lylm Ayham best practice, and Lsna Lldnya Khlqna, and La Balsy Mrna therein. 
43

 44. preaching death

It Alqyamh Alghayh. Aprons Bzlk Vaza Lehman reason. 
The end of the hour and a preacher of death for men of understanding enough. 44

 45. surprise death

Almakhvzyn interpretations on bed Alghrh per death: Then Azdad Alamut Fyhm Valuja Fhyl Ben Hdhm and children of the region, and they Lbyn from Ynzr Bbsrh and Ysm Baznh, on the edge of my veracity ammad Khā and my survival, Yfkr Fame Fny Umrah, and Fame SICKLE Go down ! 
In spite of those who are surprised by death, it says: it sometimes death, most of them penetrates and the person from speaking throws, while members of his family and with his eyes, who sees and the ear hears and a healthy mind in here. It thinks that his life was spent in what way and how his time is spent! 45

 46. Forgetting to death

Jbt sexual Lehman Alamut, Alamut management and Hu. 
I wonder from whom death has forgotten that the eye sees dead. 46

 47. Death is an undeniable truth

And Allah Capricorn La toys, and Haq La Alkzb, and we Alamut Sm Ella Hu Nfsk me. 
I swear to God, this is serious and not joking and that is true not lie. I mean, is not nothing but death heard his shout brought her the invitation. 47

 48. The fear of God

Fatqy Abed Rabbo ... Van Jlh covered Anah, and Mlh Khad crushed, and the Devil client, Yzyryn Le Almsyh Lyrkbha, and Yemenia al-Tawba Lysvfha, inasmuch Hjmt Mnyth against Ghfl Ykvn be pleased with us. 
پس بنده اى از پروردگارش ترسيد...؛ زيرا روز مرگش را نمى داند و آرزوهايش او را مى فريبد و شيطان موكل اوست، معصيت را برايش مى آرايد تا مرتكب آن شود و به تو به اميد وارش مى كند تا در كار آن امروز و not tomorrow, until the death attacked him, while they neglect the simple ignorance of it to take over. 48

 49. enemy of pride

Le voting deadline and Masirah Island Labghz al-Amal and Ghrvrh. 
If a person saw his sequel, no doubt with hope and pride was the enemy. 49

 50. premonition of deceiving the world

La Yghrnk literacy of people I Nfsk, and I burn height Qblk Kahn may warn the public and Alaqlal, and secure Alvaqb - Amal and inaccessibility during term - Kiev hostels to death ... but Raytm Vtnh Fazjh as nurseries Yamlvn Byda, and Ybnvn Mshyda, and Yjmvn Ksyra! Sbht bag Byvthm Qbvra, and we Jmva Bora and Sart Mvalhm Llvarsyn and Zvajhm Lqvm last. 
Not to be cheated by people who surround you. A while ago yourself have seen the one whose wealth and Manal world gains and subtracts it feared for the long term and unlikely to count the dead from the consequences of their own affairs in Amman see how death befell him and he took from his homeland . Have you seen those who wish they had a long and solid palace built property Kathir gathered, how their houses into graves were destroyed and their resources. Property transferred to heirs. And his wives and other relatives were. 50

 51 days of suffering

Aldhr Yekhelqan eternally, and Yjdd ALAMAL, and Yqrb Almnyh and I Alamnyh Ybad Zafar to install, and I Fath fatigue. 
Body and hopes to live to old age and death keeps close and desires. Who at the time it gets tired and whoever loses it falls into trouble and suffering. 51

 52. Hunter Death

I Vsayah Labnh Hassan, peace be upon him: and Alam Bani! Ecce enema creation Llakhrh La Lldnya, and Llfna and Llmvt La Llhyah, and Ecce per home fortress Vdar Blghh, and the organic Alakhrh and banks Tryd Alamut Alzy La Ynjv me Harbh, and La Yfvth Talbh, and La badly they Mdrk·h, Fkn me on beware lodging it Ydrkk and Annette had Syyh on Kenneth Thds Nfsk height minus Fyhvl Baltvbh binak between still, Faza Annette Hlkt Nfsk height .
my son! Know that you have created for everlasting life not for the world, and not for mortals to survive for life and not for death, be it at home who migrated thou, and where instead else, and summarized in the Hereafter, and catch the elusive death not save it, and lost his Khvahndh go out, and had to find her. از اينكه مرگ تو را به هنگام‏ گناه دريابد- گناهى كه با خود مى‏ گفتى از آن توبه مى‏ كنم- بر حذر باش، مرگى كه بين تو و توبه‏ ات مانع گردد، و بدين صورت خود را به هلاكت انداخته باشى. 52

 53. back to life and dying

Kenneth inasmuch per trepidation, and Alamut, per chance, as soon as Almltqy Fma. 
Because you back to life and death matters to you is, how soon will you deal with each other. 53

 54. step toward death

Errors Almr’ breath until Jlh. 
Each human soul is a step toward death! 54

 55. slipping by death

My name is Jerry fi Annan Sr Bajlh Mlh. 
Whoever follows his desire and power rush it out, he died to sin. 55

 56. seeker of rapid

The Taliban Alamut Hsys La Yfvth Almqym, and La Yjz·h Alharb. 
Indeed death is seeking a rapid, no one in their place of residence is not finding it disappears and he is unable to escape it. 56

 57. NEAR migration

Alrhyl Vshyk . 
Migrate to another world is near. 57

58. How close is death !

Badrva Maadi and Sabqva Alajal. Van Nas Yvshk lodging it Ynqt me, Amal, and Yrhqhm deadline and Ysd Nhm Bab al-Tawba. 
Unto the resurrection of Judgment Day undertake before the coming of death, because death is close and hang strings wish people would come and repent to be closed. 58

 59. closer shadow

Ahzrva Badllh Alamut and Qrbh! And Dva Le Dth ... and Ntm Trda’ Alamut, it crushes Qmm Khzkm, and it's my Frrtm Drkkm, and Ho I need you to fast Zlkm. Alamut Mqvd Bnvasykm and I Khlfkm Ttvy Dunya. 
O servants of Allah! از مرگ و زود فرارسيدنش بترسيد و زاد و توشه راه را فراهم سازيد... و شما رانده شدگان مرگيد، اگر بايستيد شما را مى گيرد و اگر بگريزيد به شما مى رسد، مرگ از سايه شما به شما وابسته تر است و در پيشانى شما October after death and sweeps the world in the book of life. 59

 60. The truth of death

Anne and Allah Capricorn La toys, and Haq La Alkzb, and we Sm Ho Ella death claims, and Union Jl. Fela Yghrnk the people I Nfsk literacy. 
I swear to God it's serious and not joking, the truth, not a lie. Death say that your voice is heard every living thing and everyone has to quickly push, then mob (Live) deceive you. 60

 61. inevitable and almost

Nearly Governors and Alasthab comment. 
It (death) and a close association with the world is small. 61

62. Ngryz death !

It further other than per Umrah Alfaro, La Mhjvz (unobtrusive) and the Yvmh evidence. 
He added that his death will not escape nor impede escape the coming of the day of his death. 62

 63. Hell and Heaven are

Hdkm and lodging it between the paradise cardboard or fabrics Ella Ynzl to death. 
Bhshtt between any of you except death or hell distance that you entered. 63

 64. what they are seeing the dead? !

Ankm Le Mat Mnkm I Ljz Height Ayntm We Ayn height Tm and Vhltm and Smtm and Ttm and unobtrusive but we NKM Aynva height, and nearly sticks El Hajeb us ! 
Indeed, if you are dead after what you have seen clearly the way you see and you'd surely restless afraid. As a result, it will hear the truth and orders were taken, but what they have seen has you covered, you will not be Soon the curtain will be lifted. 64

 65. Funeral rites

Consequently Jnazh Fsm polo Yzhk, Fqal: Kahn Alamut on Ghyrna books therein, and therein Haq Ali Ghyrna inch Kahn and Kahn Alzy my sleeve diminutive Ma Elena Alamvt trip we return! Nbvyhm Jdashm, and Nakl Trashm, Canada Mkhldvn then he turned, height Then the preacher Ibn Sina and Vazh, and Rmyna Bekele Fadh and Jayhh !! 
Imam Ali funeral companies had said she heard a man laughs, then said, as if death for others, not for us has been decreed and it seems right, not for us but also for the proven and if the dead that on the ground with the travelers are coming soon to us returning bodies were buried wrap all that inheritance have we eat, if we go after they leave an enduring stay, then any preacher to Do we sign any calamity it. 65

 66. hostages dead Port lights

Height Ghvdr Alamo Rhyna per quarter, and per Consultations of narrowly Almzj Vhyda ... and Sart Alajsad Shhbh after Bztha, and then Bztha Nkhzh Orthopedic and Orthopedic Nkhzh later strengths, and Arvah Mrthnh Bsql Bayha, Mvqnh Bghyb Nbayha. 
66

 67. Talking to the Dead

Lama Ashraf Imam Ali Alqbvr and Ho Yrj I Siffin: or from Aldyar Almvhshh, and Majali Almqfrh, and Alqbvr Almzlmh, or from Altrbh! Or from Alghrbh! Or from Alvahdh! Or from Alvhshh! Lena Ntm too old, and consequently the right to Nahnu you to fast. But al-Dur lack of inhabitants, and the lack Alazvaj Nkht, but lack the funds. However Ndna our news, our news Fma Ndkm? Then Altft to Shabh Fqal But al-Kalam fi le permission lahum Lakhbrvkm Alzad of good-Taqwa. 
While the Battle of Siffin, Imam (as) returned, and the graves of Kufa Musharraf had realized, he said: O inhabitants of dwellings terrible and the location of water and plant (asleep in) graves dark! In soil departed! Away from compatriots! Only survivors! A panic-stricken! You Aftadganyd for us and we are looking for you Shvndganym Yndganym and to join you, but know that in your homes, were residents. زنانتان با مردان ديگرى ازدواج كردند و اما اموالتان پس به تحقيق قسمت شد، اين خبرى بود كه ما از آن آگاه بوديم و شما براى ما چه خبرى داريد؟(آن گاه حضرت رو به اصحاب خود كرد و فرمود:) اما اگر به آنان اجازه data was speaking, surely you know that the best luggage for travel Hereafter is piety. 67

 68. See Death

Jbt sexual Lehman Alamut, Alamut management and Hu. 
I wonder of he who forgets his death, while he sees the dead! 68

69. Prepare to enter thy grave !

And lodging it Mamk Uqbah Kyoda Alam, Almkhf best I Almsql therein, and Almbty PBUH Qbh Now I Almsr ... Fartd Lnfsk before Hlvlk Nzvlk and Vty’ house before. 
And be in front of your face saddle the climb is difficult and where the state of the light load of one that burden is better and now he slow the travels of acceleration of deposit RA worse. Therefore, before landing send messengers to prepare a suitable place for you and for landing before landing, soft and smooth out the view from the comfort of the living. 69

 70. The human body with action

Almakhvz interpretations on bed Alghrh per death: Then Hmlvh until Mkht on earth, Faslmvh Fihe to workers. 
70

 71. Getting to work by

However, humic solicitorship after death. 
What should spend their energy on the way to work is that after your death. 71

 72. Preparation for the grave situation

ABN Amro Flyqbl dignity receptive, Vlyhzr Qarh before incarnation, Vlynzr ABN Amro per short sleeve Yamh, and diminutive Mqamh-fi home even Ystbdl to Mnzla, Flysn Lmthvlh, and transmitted knowledge. 
Every human being must respect and not to accept all and any sudden calamity before it enters discouraged, and everyone should look at the short days and stay low in the home of the (speed), it is home to converted will be cloudy, then act in preparation for a place to put it and the facts that there will be his final destiny. 72

 73. Entry to the grave

Yslmk to a purely Qbrk . 
Angel of death shall separate you from everything and gives the skirt grave. 73

 74. remember last home

Fkhrk weak, and Ahtt Kbrk, and Azkr Qbrk against Mmrk van. 
Let your pride and bring down Cuprite facade! Grave (that last is your natural life resides) Remember, because finally Gzart will happen to the dark soil. 74

 75. Alone in the grave

Even inasmuch opt-out Almshy, and reference Almtfj, and Qd per Hfrth Njya Albhth Alsval, and Srh Alamthan. 
When the funeral visitors returned them in parting sorrow and whining were looking for work were (on the same night under dark soil burial has been) to answer the question controversial and it seems that the secret and revealing slip by him. 75

 76. forbidden affairs

Lhrb Ben Shrhbyl Alshbamy Lama Bka’ hearing on the murder of women Siffin: Tghlbkm Nsavkm Sm on us? Ella Tnhvnhn as Alrnyn however. 
When Imam Ali (as) Siffin heard shrieks of the women slain on the battlefield Ben Shrhbyl Shibam said: Do women you hear it you can overcome you! Is this moaning and forbid them not. 76

 77. Amantgah grave

Kahn height Sarva Srtm our organic layer, and less apt Arthnkm Almzj, and less apt Almstvd Zmkm. 
If you have been where they are and move toward the tomb, you hostage and you embraced it Amantgah. 77

 78. flapping tent grave

Kvnva Kalsabqyn Qblkm, and Almazyn Mamkm. I Qvzva Dunya vouchsafement Alrahl and Vtvvha within homes. 
78

79. Build your graves !

Sabqva, whatever -Rhmkm until Mnazlkm facing Mrtm lodging it Tmrvha, and facing Rghbtm therein, and Dytm Alyha. 
God bless you! Advance orders to shoot to the homes where they have been encouraged to build up to it and have been called to them. 79

 80. unaware pilgrims

My word against him after crushing Tlavth (Lhakm Altkasr even Zrtm Almqabr) or crush our Mrama Bdh! And Zora we Ghflh! And we Fzh hazards ! 
Imam Ali (as) recited the verse (pride on your own another building, so he went to visit the graves) said: What to far! And pilgrims surprise! And how proud ugly and horrible! 80

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Salam Sister. Its very very heart breaking to listen to your situation. But remember, Bibi Fatima was also abused (May Allah curse the oppressors), Imam Hussain was also abused, So was Bibi Sakina but remember that they were satisfied with what God wished for them.

They knew God as He should be known.

Allah speaks in Quran 6:59 - "And with Him are the keys of the unseen; none knows them except Him. And He knows what is on the land and in the sea. Not a leaf falls but that He knows it. And no grain is there within the darknesses of the earth and no moist or dry [thing] but that it is [written] in a clear record."

So remember this that whatever is happening with you Allah is a Witness over all of these. And people will be questioned the moment they enter their grave.

But we are the nation of RasoolAllah. The bringer of Mercy of Allah. No matter how much painful incident happens with you, keep on forgiving. Ask from Allah the forgiveness of your parents as well Right Guidance. 

Also, this is a trial for you. Do you know Allah tries only His "Best" Servants. You should be happy just like Imam Hussain for he was happy to be tried by Allah. His trial was the greatest and no trial matched his trial.

And what a love story you told that despite you doing wrong to yourself (that is attempt to die), instead you were guided by the Rahma of Allah through His book. Not everybody is bestowed with such love of Allah.

Know this, He is the giver of Death and Life. If He saved you and Guided you then He has a plan for you.

Just believe in Him. Maybe He has a very luminous plan for you ahead. 

This is the time when you should build a stronger bond with Him. 

He has called you towards His love.

And please don't do harm to yourself. Nothing is yours. Everything Belongs to Him. If you do harm yourself, you actually try to harm His Property.

Seek Repentance, He is Sariyal Ridha, He accepts it very easily and very Quickly.

May Allah bestow His Mercy and Love on you Sister all your life and May He keeps you steadfast on your religion and the love of Ahlulbayt.

No pain is more than the pain of Ahlulbayt specially that of Aba Abdillah. Whenever a tragedy befalls you, remember the pain and tragedy Aba Abdillah has to go through, Bibi Zaynab and Bibi Sakina went through.. 6 month old Hazrat Ali Asghar went through..

And they all just saw the "Beauty of Allah", "Death being sweeter than honey when it was bestowed on them by Allah".

Just be patient as Imam Ali was and know that Allah's plan surpasses our highest aspirations.

Allah never leaves His servants hopeless. he is always with you. He created you to show His love to you. His love comes in different ways. It has come to you in the form of Guidance through Quran. A call of love. Answer it.

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I just smashed my head into a wall and the wall broke. A piece of advice to those who reply with just emotions. LEARN TO READ, READ, READ, REAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAD, before giving advice. Copying and pasting without thinking or reading the actual post is practically nothing but useless emotional blackmail.

The op tried to commit suicide, she DID not commit suicide, if she did, she would not have written it.

Now let us understand why she did it. Well, after putting on my binoculars, she wrote, that she lives in an abusive home where physical violence takes place. Do any of you know what physical violence is?. No, its not like the movies where one guy beats another, then some how miraculously the other guy gets a super power and fights back with pride and glory. Here the scenario is, a stronger bully is picking on the smaller weaker person and has barred the members from gaining assistance outside the home. so, here we have Violence, intimidation and Fear to coerce authority in an ISLAMIC household. 

You  dont have to feel sorry, you can repent, but in essence you were coerced to it. It did not work, therefore repent to absolve the guilt, move on and try and make better decisions. You have to weight the pros and cons of what will occur whether

A) you report your pidar

B ) you don't and he continues such behavior, while prostrating to God.

C) Pray to God to get [edited] whopped, generally older bullies stop when this happens.  https://www.duas.org/enemy.htm

Side note- DO NOT legitimize  oppression by associating it what happened to the divines. One cannot be this stupid. If I see a person being assaulted, do I walk pass and say buddy, you know X number of years, the same thing happened to the divines, have some patience, here is a eulogy.

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6 hours ago, monad said:

I just smashed my head into a wall and the wall broke. A piece of advice to those who reply with just emotions. LEARN TO READ, READ, READ, REAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAD, before giving advice. Copying and pasting without thinking or reading the actual post is practically nothing but useless emotional blackmail.

The op tried to commit suicide, she DID not commit suicide, if she did, she would not have written it.

Now let us understand why she did it. Well, after putting on my binoculars, she wrote, that she lives in an abusive home where physical violence takes place. Do any of you know what physical violence is?. No, its not like the movies where one guy beats another, then some how miraculously the other guy gets a super power and fights back with pride and glory. Here the scenario is, a stronger bully is picking on the smaller weaker person and has barred the members from gaining assistance outside the home. so, here we have Violence, intimidation and Fear to coerce authority in an ISLAMIC household. 

You  dont have to feel sorry, you can repent, but in essence you were coerced to it. It did not work, therefore repent to absolve the guilt, move on and try and make better decisions. You have to weight the pros and cons of what will occur whether

A) you report your pidar

B ) you don't and he continues such behavior, while prostrating to God.

C) Pray to God to get [edited] whopped, generally older bullies stop when this happens.  https://www.duas.org/enemy.htm

Side note- DO NOT legitimize  oppression by associating it what happened to the divines. One cannot be this stupid. If I see a person being assaulted, do I walk pass and say buddy, you know X number of years, the same thing happened to the divines, have some patience, here is a eulogy.

Well, you should "REAAAAAAAAAAAD" her post again. She clearly mentioned that "She didn't want to report about the family abuse."

That is why we all said - Pray to God that he gives you patience and Guidance to your family.

We are not saying that take over oppression over yourself. But to rather distant away herself from everyone and spend her time with God. If God wills He will change the hearts of the family members.

Also we need to learn that "Divine personalities even after facing the worst off oppression , never went to commit suicide (Nauzobillah) because it is a sin, Yes Attempt to suicide is a sin." But the better thing is she now understands this fact.

And please mind your language when you refer to his father.

Ahlulbayt have taught us ethics and virtue.

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Monad and Waseem, please stop fighting. At least take your argument somewhere else. I wrote this question wanting help, guidance and answers. You both are giving me what you think and your answers are really helpful to me. Thank you for icing me advice and an answer. Honestly you’re both right about what you answered, so please stop. 

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9 hours ago, Waseem162 said:

That is why we all said - Pray to God that he gives you patience and Guidance to your family.

You live in India, you should be first to know the oppression that goes on there. There are women,men, and children who live in abusive households, not for one year, many as 10+ years. Clearly patience here only allowed the oppressor to further their authority, and then expect to be treated well in their old age.* The victim just end up wasting their lives to suit the temperament and ideals of another.

We are not saying that take over oppression over yourself. But to rather distant away herself from everyone and spend her time with God. If God wills He will change the hearts of the family members.

Tell us who she will distance her self in the same house. Take a taxi to her room?

Also we need to learn that "Divine personalities even after facing the worst off oppression , never went to commit suicide (Nauzobillah) because it is a sin, Yes Attempt to suicide is a sin." But the better thing is she now understands this fact.

They were created as divines..... Aka, someone who knows their position in the afterlife before they even touch this land. Here, one could face oppression and still get to be my neighbor in hell.

Regarding ethics, seriously....  I am sure you know what we say regarding our enemies..... Buurrrnnnnn!!! etc.

*To offend and be offended. It is much more agreeable to offend and later ask forgiveness than to be offended and grant forgiveness. The one who does the former demonstrates his power and then his goodness. The other, if he does not want to be thought inhuman, must forgive; because of this coercion, pleasure in the other's humiliation is slight.

Motive for attack. We attack not only to hurt a person, to conquer him, but also, perhaps, simply to become aware of our own strength.

Learning to love. We must learn to love, learn to be kind, and this from earliest youth; if education or chance give us no opportunity to practice these feelings, our soul becomes dry and unsuited even to understanding the tender inventions of loving people. Likewise, hatred must be learned and nurtured, if one wishes to become a proficient hater: otherwise the germ for that, too, will gradually wither.

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Salam

Fathers usually love their daughters so why does he beat you? What does he think of you? Have you tried to talk with him and clear up the misunderstandings and prove your innocence?

Dont your mother and siblings interfere?

Do you have grandparents?

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I don’t know how to reply directly to you or use this website. I’ll answer your questions and I hope it reaches you.

i don’t have an answer for the first two questions, but for the third, I’ve tried it a lot of times now he calls me a "philosopher" for trying to talk to him and tell him that that’s wrong. He won’t listen to me and telling him that worsens the beats.

my Mum and siblings are too scared to.

my paternal grandparents are dead and my maternal grandparents don’t live in Australia.

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8 hours ago, ZahraZubaid said:

Asalamualaikum,

It takes a lot of me to write this so please don’t judge me. In July this year, a problem happened in my domestically violent family (mostly my dad). Ever since a child, when such things happen we are NOT allowed to inform any relatives or family friends because this will ruin our perfect family image and it is wrong to have outsiders interfere.

Why do you think it is wrong to have outsiders interfere? If your father is such an angry person and doesnt change his behaviour, others ( for example your grandparents, your uncles or if necessary, social workers) MUST interfere.

Do you prefer suicide just because you dont want to ruin your family image by reporting their abusive behaviour?

There are many children around the world who are abused by their own parents and then they are saved when others interfere and call the police. Without interfering, God knows what would happen to them!

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7 hours ago, ZahraZubaid said:

i don’t have an answer for the first two questions, but for the third, I’ve tried it a lot of times now he calls me a "philosopher" for trying to talk to him and tell him that that’s wrong. He won’t listen to me and telling him that worsens the beats.

I still don't understand why you won't call the police, everyone is afraid of him and I am sorry to say but you don't have a proper, functioning family. It is pointless to worry about family image at this point in time. There is no reason why you should let this continue, you are in danger. Your father could kill someone, let the police help before he does something drastic.

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1 hour ago, Gaius I. Caesar said:

I still don't understand why you won't call the police, everyone is afraid of him and I am sorry to say but you don't have a proper, functioning family. It is pointless to worry about family image at this point in time. There is no reason why you should let this continue, you are in danger. Your father could kill someone, let the police help before he does something drastic.

What would they do? Send him to prison? Then what? He’ll just divorce my mum and leave. Mum doesn’t work. She’s never worked as she’s a housewife. How would she support our big family. And what ever happens, he remains my father. Prophet Ibrahim still loved and pleaded with Azar even though he wasn’t his biological father so how do you expect me to report him? And if I did, the long court processes and the money difficulties would be too much, how could I bear this while still going to school. I see school as more important than reporting MY father because regardless of anything, at least he still keeps a roof on top of my head. And won’t this be unfair for my siblings who love him as he never hurt them. They won’t understand why I would do that, but they still love him.

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3 hours ago, ZahraZubaid said:

What would they do? Send him to prison?

Maybe, at the most they would put a restraining order on him and recommend you move out. Maybe your father will realize that hitting you is wrong and will stop after a chat with the police.

3 hours ago, ZahraZubaid said:

Prophet Ibrahim still loved and pleaded with Azar even though he wasn’t his biological father so how do you expect me to report him?

Yes, and he left Azar after asking Allah to forgive Azar after the former threaten to stone him. I expect you defend yourself and never let anyone hit you, no matter who it is.

3 hours ago, ZahraZubaid said:

I see school as more important than reporting MY father because regardless of anything, at least he still keeps a roof on top of my head. And won’t this be unfair for my siblings who love him as he never hurt them. They won’t understand why I would do that, but they still love him.

Ok, but it's not normal for a father to hit his daughter, Muhammad(saws) never ever struck his daughter Fatima (sa). What makes your dad hit you? Your safety is equally important as your education. Your father is setting a terrible and un-Islamic example for your siblings by taking his anger and hurting you. You're scared and they probably think it is ok and acceptable.

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32 minutes ago, Gaius I. Caesar said:

Ok, but it's not normal for a father to hit his daughter, Muhammad(saws) never ever struck his daughter Fatima (sa). What makes your dad hit you? Your safety is equally important as your education. Your father is setting a terrible and un-Islamic example for your siblings by taking his anger and hurting you. You're scared and they probably think it is ok and acceptable.

You’re right. Absolutely right. But I’m in no position to do that. It’s more complicated than reporting him and getting a restraining order. I have two more years until I’m an adult and would hopefully move to live on campus in uni. I see that as a better option. Maybe then dad would realise what he’s doing is wrong. Or at least, I’ll seperate myself from the abuse once I gain independence 

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46 minutes ago, ZahraZubaid said:

You’re right. Absolutely right. But I’m in no position to do that. It’s more complicated than reporting him and getting a restraining order. I have two more years until I’m an adult and would hopefully move to live on campus in uni. I see that as a better option. Maybe then dad would realise what he’s doing is wrong. Or at least, I’ll seperate myself from the abuse once I gain independence 

By the way, sister, you don't have to take him to court, a little chat from the police ought to do the trick. In the meantime, you should find group activities to do. The more you are out of the house and away from your dad, the better.

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3 minutes ago, Gaius I. Caesar said:

By the way, sister, you don't have to take him to court, a little chat from the police ought to do the trick. 

Calling the police would bring a policeman to the door of their home. In today's climate of Islamophobia this would cause a lot of problems for the family. She should talk with her father herself.

@ZahraZubaid Be calm and don't say or do anything that would cause someone to abuse you. In less than two years inShaAllah you can leave. Be smart and take care of yourself.

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@ZahraZubaid Do you see how your OP (opening post) sounded kind of worried and how your later posts were more calm and thoughtful? When you are angry, hurting, feel stressed out or overwhelmed, never take any action that could harm yourself. Tell yourself that you need to relax and then think about things carefully. 

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