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The marriage between two different sects

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Salam,

With the current way the world is going, how would two people of different sects get married and be able to have children and not be in each others' throat? 

I know that in Iraq it is hard to cause fitna between the two sects because they're married from each other. Would that work everywhere? What is suggested from our Ulama?

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1 hour ago, Guest MKUltra said:

With the current way the world is going, how would two people of different sects get married and be able to have children and not be in each others' throat? 

I know that in Iraq it is hard to cause fitna between the two sects because they're married from each other. Would that work everywhere? What is suggested from our Ulama?

Salam, dear Guest. Welcome to ShiaChat. If the husband and the wife are both Muslim, then there are plenty of commonalities, so they can get along with each other. We don't know if you are Sunni, but if you are, then you might run into trouble trying to marry a Shia woman, since her family might object. If you are a Shia and know a Sunni woman who seems well mannered and you don't find anything wrong about her, then you should discuss whether she loves the Ahlul Bayt AS. Not all Sunnis hate the Ahlul Bayt AS. Who is your marja so someone can ask his advice?

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On 11/1/2017 at 11:07 PM, Guest MKUltra said:

I know that in Iraq it is hard to cause fitna between the two sects because they're married from each other. Would that work everywhere? What is suggested from our Ulama?

In Iraq the aunts, uncles and neighbors give you advice and help you out. People worry less about sect when they want to marry because they look for iman and personality that matches with their own. I hear the same thing in Turkey, Pakistan, Ukraine and Iran, where Shias and Sunnis intermarry. If you think that your marja won't allow intermarriage, just ask him. 

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Intermarriage between sunnis and shias is always a bad idea unless both people dont care about their religions. Otherwise, how can you love someone who loves the ones who hurt the ones you love?

And then you have to think about the future as well, you want to raise confused children? There is no need for confusion when the truth is evident but will you tell them the truth or will you tell them something in between so nobodies feelings get hurt?

I dont mean to say that we should dislike our sunni brothers or sister, they are part of us, but to marry with them and raise children with them is a whole different situation which brings its own problems, problems that can easily be avoided.

What will you reply when your child asks you: Who killed seyyeda Fatima(as)?

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2 hours ago, IbnSina said:

Intermarriage between sunnis and shias is always a bad idea unless both people dont care about their religions. Otherwise, how can you love someone who loves the ones who hurt the ones you love?

Maybe he is Shia and he teaches his wife about Shia Islam and when they have children they raise them Shia. He hasn't said the girl he wants to marry hates Ahlul Bayt AS. Not all Sunnis hate the family of Prophet Muhammad SA. 

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15 minutes ago, wolverine said:

Maybe he is Shia and he teaches his wife about Shia Islam and when they have children they raise them Shia. He hasn't said the girl he wants to marry hates Ahlul Bayt AS. Not all Sunnis hate the family of Prophet Muhammad SA. 

Nobody said anything about hating Ahlul Bayt(as) brother. But if your spouse loves the oppressors of Ahlul Bayt(as), that will put you in a difficult position.

Sure, it might be great when its just the two of you, but when children come into the relationship then the dynamics change and topics that you never spoke of before suddenly becomes very important.

 Of course it could all end up very well also but the risk of it not ending up well increases in situations like this, so why not increase your chances of success when you have the option to do so?

Anyways, we are all free to do as we wish within the boundaries of sharia and inshaAllah it will go well for all of us.

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12 hours ago, IbnSina said:

Nobody said anything about hating Ahlul Bayt(as) brother. But if your spouse loves the oppressors of Ahlul Bayt(as), that will put you in a difficult position.

The OP also did not say the girl loves the oppressors of Ahlyl Bayt AS. 

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