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23 minutes ago, Ron_Burgundy said:

get married. 

She got divorced and is still having trouble with her ex, I don't think that is appropriate advice.

24 minutes ago, Sisterfatima1 said:

I do and I do chat with them but I feel something is still a miss 

You miss your daughter, and I hope that the truth is revealed to her soon and you will be together again, sis.

Edited by Gaius I. Caesar

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Just now, Gaius I. Caesar said:

She got divorced and is still having trouble with her ex, I don't think that is appropriate advice.

Life doesn't stop for anyone. Is she living with her parents?

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I am in my iddah now I got Khula finally, 

I would only remarry IF I found someone god fearing and I have learned from my mistakes 

 wouldn’t go around marrying anyone to solve my problems and that’s a fact 

I hope one day I am reunited with my daughter she was my everything she was my world and still is 

i hope I can fill this void that I’m feeling with the help of Allah it it is just difficult 

and no  don’t have my families support 

they don’t support me being a Muslim 

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On 10/29/2017 at 8:49 PM, Sisterfatima1 said:

Salam 

these days I’m feeling so alone and feels like minutes are passing so slow

I’m a single mother it hurts me to watch my child grow up without a father 

I’m sad my daughter will grow up without her mother 

Praying helps but the sadness comes again 

Salaam, 

Since you are not married I would advise talking to other women around you in order to have comfort. However, if your pain you are feeling is the pain only a man lawfully wedded to you can fulfill then I would suggest marriage but not right away. Instead attempt to first talk to a Muslim counselor, therapist, psychologist, etc. And try asking them what you should do to mitigate the emotional  pain you have and if marriage should be considered or if you should give time to heal your emotional wounds. Also sister, if you do decide to remarry then it is important to be selective about your spouse. That is to do a vetting process for your spouse to see if they fit the bill for you. I am not sure about why you divorced your first husband but use those reasons to see if your next spouse can fulfill the things your ex could not. In fact to get started anonymously describe your situation and ask for help from these professional Muslim counselors on this website: http://aboutislam.net/ask-the-counselor-submit-question/     from there you should follow the advice they give you. 

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1 hour ago, Guest Account Ali said:

In fact to get started anonymously describe your situation and ask for help from these professional Muslim counselors on this website: http://aboutislam.net/ask-the-counselor-submit-question/     from there you should follow the advice they give you. 

@Sisterfatima1 You need to know that the link @Guest Account Ali posted is a Sunni website. Just informing you about this because I don't know if you are Sunni or not.

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1 hour ago, Hameedeh said:

@Sisterfatima1 You need to know that the link @Guest Account Ali posted is a Sunni website. Just informing you about this because I don't know if you are Sunni or not.

Oh sorry about not mentioning if the site was Sunni or not. I am Shia, but this is probably the only site that at least I am aware of where people can anonymously ask help from professional Muslim counselors regarding extremely deep and private issues. And In my opinion is a better source of relationship advice for muslims than the advice laypeople give. Not to insult other Muslims, Shia or Sunni, but in many ways relationship advice is the bread and butter of Muslim counselors and we might as well take advice from these people. 

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