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Asalam o Alaikum,

I'm a high school student, and there are alot of male teachers in my school, and recently I am having issues of not making eye contact, like how can I not look at their faces when they are talking to me it looks disrespectful, I'm ashamed that they are all muslim but still not even one of them lower their gaze and I guess I'm one of the few students who actually find it awkward to look straight at their face, also some of them try to have interaction with students they joke with them and laugh and sometimes they say extremely awkward things I feel disgusted when I make eye contact, I feel guilty infront of Allah, what should I do?

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48 minutes ago, Guest GuestFatima12 said:

Asalam o Alaikum,

I'm a high school student, and there are alot of male teachers in my school, and recently I am having issues of not making eye contact, like how can I not look at their faces when they are talking to me it looks disrespectful, I'm ashamed that they are all muslim but still not even one of them lower their gaze and I guess I'm one of the few students who actually find it awkward to look straight at their face, also some of them try to have interaction with students they joke with them and laugh and sometimes they say extremely awkward things I feel disgusted when I make eye contact, I feel guilty infront of Allah, what should I do?

what country? 

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Wa al salaam. This is a good sign don't worry it's God gift to you. Our Prophet also used to walk lowering his sight and was His Daughter too. 

Don't feel guilty (shyness is part of faith) 

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1 hour ago, Guest GuestFatima12 said:

Asalam o Alaikum,

I'm a high school student, and there are alot of male teachers in my school, and recently I am having issues of not making eye contact, like how can I not look at their faces when they are talking to me it looks disrespectful, I'm ashamed that they are all muslim but still not even one of them lower their gaze and I guess I'm one of the few students who actually find it awkward to look straight at their face, also some of them try to have interaction with students they joke with them and laugh and sometimes they say extremely awkward things I feel disgusted when I make eye contact, I feel guilty infront of Allah, what should I do?

I dont get whats wrong with you looking at his face without the intention of pleasure or without fear of falling into sinful acts unless if you are taking precaution? Its a good thing what you are doing but just letting you know. 

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why do children make eye contact with each other? Only when conditioned to behave in a particular way, they then adopted incorrect thinking. All teachers will have good eye contact, its a sign of authority and confidence. It Is you who has not understood when and where eye contact is relevant. Considering you are just a child imitating religion to condition your self for future appraisal. Stop judging others, the world is complex, if you prefer not to look, don't, keep.your head in your books.

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23 hours ago, Guest GuestFatima12 said:

I'm a high school student, and there are alot of male teachers in my school, and recently I am having issues of not making eye contact, like how can I not look at their faces when they are talking to me it looks disrespectful,

Salam. If the teacher is speaking to the whole class, you can keep your head up and look at his face, because Islam does not say you cannot look at someone's face, especially if they are speaking. If he is looking at you and speaking to you personally, you can look at his mouth or forehead if looking at his eyes makes you feel uncomfortable. 

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Maybe you would feel more comfortable in a female only school. Have you considered it?

I am not an advocate of it, as in real life we interact with both male and female and it's more practical to get used to it, but I guess it mostly depends on what you plan for yourself. All I can say is that in an academic contexts, students and teachers don't look each other in "that" way (and in most parts of the world, if that happens, it may be enough reason to get a teacher fired). 

As a side note, be very careful when talking about teachers. A simple innocent opinion such as "they say very awkward things" may be heard by the wrong person, missunderstood, and may make that teacher lose his job without having done anything wrong.

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