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hi i want to know that is it allowed for my Muslim maternal aunt to play footsie with me she is about 6 years older to me.whenever i visit her and we sit facing each other she tries to touch her feet with mine or sometimes press it with her feet this mostly happens in winter maybe she want to warm her feet  i donot have any bad feelings or intentions for her i have also responded her back sometimes because i think she is also doing it playfully nd i dun think that she is doung it for bad purpose    but I am not sure if its the right or wrong. plz give help

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From my understanding, if you are related to her by blood then this is no problem, but if she is married to your uncle (who is related to you by blood) than playing footsie with her would be haram. But as long as you're related by blood, I (persoanlly) see nothing wrong.

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yes we r related by blood  but she is still a women nd footsie is considered  as a flirting so if its done playfully is it ok. Iam confuse

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The thing is, without knowing your ages, it is hard to know what is going on.

But if it is 'footsie' in the way that that term is commonly understood, then of course it is unacceptable, or at the very least very weird.

Personally I believe that there is foot touching that doesn't fall under the 'footsie' umbrella, as an older person would do as a joke or a wind up to a small child - and your auntie might view you as a small child and is doing that.

When you are 16 and think you are grown up,  you never think that a 16 year old can be seen as a child,  but it is possible.

To sum up, weird behaviour depending on age and situation, but it could just be innocent. 

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21 hours ago, Guest anonymous said:

she is married

Then tell her it makes you uncomfortable. Also tell her the rules of the religion even in regards to contact with one's own aunt. Sure, she is your mahram and to do anything with her would be incest to say the least, but still there are limits to how much interaction there can be. After all, even muslim men have restrictions on how much bodily contact they can have with their own mothers and how much skin  a mother show around her children. 

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i also think its not right but iam afraid to talk to her about it because she might mind or get angry maybe she is doing it playfully but iam 22 years old nd she is like 29 nd i dun think its appropriate but she always tries to sit next to me even if when i try to sit far she also takes her sandals off nd play footsie with me when we are sitting on table.

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