The Prophet said that a girl is like a fruit. When the fruit is ripe it should be plucked before it rots.
My advise to fathers is to get your daughter's married as soon as possible.
Have you noticed that our grandparents usually got married so young?
How many of those marriages ended up in divorce? Very few right?
As a girl gets older and older she is going to become more and more masculine. Every human has a feminine side and a masculine side be it a man or a woman.
A man should be more maculine then feminine, in general, and a woman should be more feminine than masculine.
If you wait until your daughter finished college before getting married you are exposing her to a lot of evils in society.
The Prophet said it is the responsibility of the father to get his daughter married as soon as possible to protect her from corruption.
What are some of those corruptions in society? I would like to hear what you have to say and the stories you know about. Please give me your feedback.
The problem is that if a girl gets married too young these days, if she gets a divorce she can not be adequately independent because she can not get a good job without a college education.
however if you wait until she finishes college, she will have been exposed to societies evils and have become masculinized.
A woman who is too masculine can not get along with a masculine husband.
On the contrary if you wait too long for her to get married the marriage is more likely to end in divorce and also she may have a hard time finding a spouse in the first place because men usually like younger women.
There are so many cases of women who now are past the age of 30 and they can't find a suitable spouse except a divorced man. This is a padora's box. Why did the man get divorced in the first place? Isn't this a sign that he will more likely divorce your daughter too?
Do you know any cases where this has actually happened? Yes or No? I guarantee that she will most likely get divorced.
If a woman is past the age of 29 and she didn't get married yet she is too independent to take a Vazier role in a marriage and relinquish
Kingship to her husband. She will want to be the King and Leader and the man will not want to be a the Vazier. This is a recipe for disaster and
you oh my dear loving father are at fault for this ugly mess. Don't you understand? Please ask me if you have any questions. I am here to
advise you as a good friend. We need to build a healthy believing ummah. The western way is the wrong way. Don't follow Kafirs. They will
take you to hell with them. Just saying you believe in words is not enough. You must follow the Sunnah of the Prophet and prove your faith in actions and not just in words and tears.
So what is the solution?
The solutions is to get your daughters married at age 15 at least but stipulate in the marriage contract
that the couple have no vaginal intercourse until the boy finishes college and gets a job.
Make sure that your daughter marries a boy who is dedicated to following the 12 Imams . Faith is more important than money.
It is better that your daughter marry a janitor and have a happy marriage then a doctor and have an unhappy marriage or divorce.
You will also be helping out a young believing brother because our muslim boys also have needs. Many of them are masterbating which is haraam and/or they are having girlfriends at school with or without mut'ah. This is dangerous. If a muslim boy gets a non-muslim girl pregnant you will have lost a potential candidate spouse for 1 believing sister.
This is one of the reasons why we have a surplus of women in our communities. it is because our men are marrying christian women which is
allowed for him, true but undesirable usually. however our women can not marry non-muslim men and most of our women are unfortunately
against polygyny. What happens as a result? Chaos upon chaos. Our daughters are having boyfriends at school without our knowledge. Whose
fault is it my friends. It is you, the parents fault.
Don't blame society. It is you who failed to protect your daughters from the evils of society. If you can't live in the West as proper followrs of
the Sunnah of our Prophet and Imams then please go back to your native lands. You are destroying the future of your children and offspring.
You will have to answer to Allah and the Imam of the time for your unjustified ignorance and stupidity.
Crying for Imam Husayn is not enough. You must follow Imam Husayn in deed and not just in words and tears.
When girls hit puberty you should be afraid. Girls in schools are having boyfriends even before they hit puberty. Many of them end up with
unexpected teen pregnancies. Do you know of any muslim girls in wester societies with boyfriends? Don't speak in the first person please.
Speak in the third person. We need to share our knowledge and experiences on this forum so we can learn from eachother.
Keep this thread alive so more people can benefit from it. Forward it to your family and friends. You will have done a good deed.
I promise you that if you take my advise your daughter's will have better marriages which will last with so much love and you will have protected
half of your daughter's faith and raised her rank by 3500% because a married person's 2 raka'aat are equal to an umarried person's 70 raka'aat.
You will have done your duty and the Prophet instructed. You will have protected your daughter from the many social evils prevalent in western
societies. You will have preserved the femininity of your daughter which is essential in a marriage.
Learn from your grandparents.
Follow the Sunnah.
At what age did Fatimah al Zahra get married ? As what age did Zaynab get married.
Do you really think that Prophet Muhammad Õáì Çááå Úáíå æÂáå and Imam 'Ali made a mistake? Did they practice what they didn't preach?
Why don't you follow your role models if you are true believers?
If you think you have a better solution than what I have proposed bring your arguments and validate it with evidence.
Edited by abd66, 08 February 2008 - 08:08 AM.