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What Would You Do If Your Child Left Islam?

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I assume you mean an adult child?

There is no compulsion in religion - but I would be very upset.

Salaams

I hope when you say "There is no compulsion in religion" you didn't mean that you are free to choose. It would be taken out of context if it was meant that way! :)

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I mean I can't force another adult to choose to follow Islam. I can encourage them, but I can't make them if they choose not to.

Yes. And for re-iteration on a general level: "[3:85] For, if one goes in search of a religion other than self-surrender unto God (Islam), it will never be accepted from him, and in the life to come he shall be among the lost"

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What would you do if your child left Islam?

I would keep praying for them to see the light and revert. I would also pray for God to forgive them.

What would you do if your child left Islam?

And what would you do if your child embraced Islam ?

Would it affect your relationship with them in any way?

Most probably it would. But how exactly would depend on a host of other factors.

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(salam) Have an intervention. There would probably be something behind this - a problem that maybe I could help with. Maybe he or she is overwhelmed or confused with life's stresses and is trying find help down the wrong path. in all the wrong places. Islam is the best path for life and the sure path to heaven and I want my child to go to heaven.

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(salam)

One of my fears is losing a child to a lifestyle other then Islam. And as a revert, with a non-muslim family, it seems more possible. Inshallah as long as I am pious and teach my children the right way, they will be forever muslims. I would be very sad if my child left Islam, just like my family is about me being an (all covered up) muslim.

Zahra

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What would you do if your child left Islam?

Would it affect your relationship with them in any way?

GOD forbidden, if some thing like this happen to me, my child will be out of house stright-away with no more connection to any member of my family.

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GOD forbidden, if some thing like this happen to me, my child will be out of house stright-away with no more connection to any member of my family.

(salam) You would not try to counsel?? Your child would be lost and in need of help.

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Id be very upset, and probably ashamed, but if they chose to leave islam and moved to another religion, i would ask them for one chance, for us to sit and discuss everything she/ he didnt agree with, or found wrong.I would try my hardest to help them understand the islam is the right choice.And i dont think id ever give up.

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Well, I don't have children yet. Still, hypothetically speaking, I as an apostate from Christianity wouldn't have much room to talk. My only tactic would be persuasion. It would probably (deeply) affect any such relationship, how exactly I don't know, though.

AliImran:

Would you have wished my parents to have acted the way you're talking about to me?

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(bismillah)(salam)

^Ironic isn't it, that they don't seem much bothered that you've left the belief of your youth, but they are terribly upset about the modest attire - which is required for Christians too, though they don't practice it.

It hurts even more if that taunt comes from a formerly muslim mother (though by formerly I don't mean to say that she actually ''left'' islam to ''another religion''...but rather deviated, sadly). Or when your muslim relatives laugh at you for being ''all covered up''. Just plain HORRIBLE.

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