The things that matter are things that the girl has ability over, but things which are pre determined should not be taken into consideration.
Now i must leave this thread before I throw up.
Why you throwing up?
zain, ask your mom to meet her. it seems that if you are considering marrying this girl, she's going to have to meet your momma at some point. what's the problem here?
I don't want my mom's opinion, I want my opinion. Women can't see what guys can see (i think the bros will agree). I want to make sure I am satisfied, not my mommy. By the way, I dont want to make it sound like I am buying a car....its just that it is the rest of my life we are talking about here.
looks matter to everyone to a certain degree. If you like her enough, you won't care if she weighs more than you, live with it. women tend to store their fat more than guys. I'm sure you can live with a size 8 girl.
She weighs more than me...you crazy!!!! Size 8...OYE!!!
Whats wrong with a size 8 ?????
i thinky zainy is worried about 12+
Whats wrong with you!? I am worried about 8+ and 12+...I weigh around 135 (trying to gain).
This is just a Sisterly advice, but I believe if you have found an amazing girl that is good for you then pls dont let the matter of figure, color of skin, body weight and other minor physical detail distract you. All this shouldnt be a concern. Just concentrate all your energy on her mind, heart and soul. This will last forever. Furthermore, your interest on her physically appearance wont even be an issue the day after your marriage. Trust me on this.
I agree with what you are saying, but for some guys
physical details makes a difference.
Even though some may be loath to admit it, sisters also care to some degree what a potential husband looks like. However, in my experience, their "qualifications" tend to be more general and less specific (such as, please let my husband have all his TEETH!)
Sisters should have the right just as brothers to be satisfied with the person's looks. Attraction is important also, you will be seeing this person for the rest of your life.
My wife was a strong muslimah...but she was on so much medication that she gained her weight back after losing it. But you know what, I loved her exactly the same...maybe even more b/c she was trying so hard. ( I don't know why I am crying typing this...I am way too sensitive these days). It's important to recognize the soul first and the body secondary. Yes, you should have attraction, but when this world is all said and done your body here is a shell, my brother.
If she is a good woman...a good muslimah...then you will have a life long companion of Allah's ÓÈÍÇäå æÊÚÇáì discretion. What I required is feistiness...a strong will for the love of Allah ÓÈÍÇäå æÊÚÇáì and my wife had it and she will forever be remembered for that. One thing I know...don't be trivial in love or in life...
May Allah ÓÈÍÇäå æÊÚÇáì bless you and keep you in your decisions,
I agree 100% with you bro Lateef. Once I am married no matter what her weight is, it will not matter to me. I was just wondering about this before getting married to the girl. Sorry to make you cry bro, thanks for your blessings and advice.
Sis rafidite and bro Abdulhujjah, can't we just get along...we are all a big family here