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  1. Hi Salam guys, After so long I came back to shiachat. I wasn't sure I wanted to come back, but I have been on here without logging in. So, I got married. It's been nearly a year and alhamdulilah Allah has sent me a good husband. He has his flaws like any other human being, but alhamdulilah I am happy with him. Sometimes marriage life can be very difficult, especially with his personality. He is an alpha male type of guy, and I can have difficulties dealing with that. Although I knew about this since we were engaged, I always was told that when we would start living together, when we have a family he would change. He is also spoilt by his mum, who thinks her son is an angel walking on Earth, which doesn't help his ego either. During the first year of marriage sometimes we would get into little arguments that would grow bigger because his ego doesn't allow him to apologise or to talk to me. I always have to approach him, sometimes almost begging for him to forget the argument. In which he can become cold and unapproachable. This sort of thing happens Everytime we argue. The other thing is that sometimes I really wonder if he truly loves me, I am an emotional girl like any girl, it hurts me to see that he likes to spend more time with his friends rather than me his wife. For example the first day we came back from our honeymoon, he went to see his friends. He then decided that three times a week is for his friends, and the rest for his family. Recently I have travelled somewhere away, he would call me for like 10 mins max, when I complained he doesn't see what my problem is, he says I nag and he stopped calling at all, he stopped texting. I don't want to be the one who is always approaching, his ego is killing me. Are guys like this? Is love fake like my husband keeps saying? How do I approach the situation, how can I change this behavior, or make him see there is no pride between a husband and wife. He has a good heart, but his coldness kills me and he doesn't realise. Sometimes I feel so lonely even when I'm with him. I also realised that I don't speak well of him to my close family, if they ask me how he is I just say he's ok, he's like usual. I don't want to be like that, indifferent. I want to be in love with him and feel like he is in love with me too. I have felt love before, nothing like this. Am I over exaggerating, nagging or over analysing? Please guys answer me. Those who are experienced. Sorry for the loooooong post! Ws
  2. Bismillah Ar-Rahman Ar-Raheem Salaam Alaykum dear brothers and sisters, Question: What is it like to live with either spouse's parents during the first 1-3 years of marriage? Let's say if you brought your spouse to live with your own parents, how does that affect the relationship in the short-term and long-term? I would appreciate any form of experience from any of you, as this is something I have been pondering over for a while. Wassalam.
  3. We all know that there were many people at the time of Ahlebait a.s who were ghaali (exaggerators) who exalted Ahlebait a.s on the name of their love for them. I think following narrations are from such type of people. Because regardless of their authenticity they are clearly against the explicit commands of Allah swt in Quran. Below are the few examples. And they all are taken from this thread. Akhbari Shias accept and mention these narrations and other similar ones in their majalis, gatherings, books etc. Here I want to know, do Usuli Shias (majority of shia chatters) also accept such narrations in merits of Ahlebait a.s.? 1. "Imam Ali (a.s) was asked about the knowledge of the prophet (pbuh). Imam Ali (a.s) said: The prophet (pbuh) had the knowledge of all the prophets (a.s), and he had the knowledge of what has occured (in the past) and what will occur till the day of judgement. Then Imam Ali (a.s) said I swear by the on who conrols my life that I have the knowledge of the prophet (pbuh) and what will has occured (in the past) and what will occur between me and the hour (i.e day of judgment) ". Reference: Basa'er Adarajat volume 1 page 262 2. Imam Al-Hadi (a.s) said: The only reason why Allah regarded Nabi Abrahem (a.s) as his khalel (beloved friend), was due to the excess amount of Salwat he sent upon Muhammed (pbuh) and his Ahlu Al-Bayt (a.s). Reference: Ilull Ashara'e volume 1, ch #32 hadith #3 3. Holy Prophet (pbuh) said to Ali (a.s): "If all the oceans were ink, all the trees were pens, and all human beings were writers and all the Jinn maintained the records, even then, O Abu'l-Hasan! Your virtues could not be numbered." Reference: One hundred virtues for Imam Ali (a.s) #100 4. A number of our people has narrated from Ahmad ibn Muhammad from Ali ibn al-Hakam from al-Muthanna al-Hannat from abu Basir who has said the following. "Once I went to see abu Ja‘far (a.s.) and asked him, "Are you the heirs of the Messenger of Allah?" He said, "Yes, we are his heirs." I then asked, "Was the Messenger of Allah the heir of the prophets and knew all that they knew?" He said to me, "Yes, it is true." I then asked, "Do you have the power to bring the dead back to life and cure the lepers, and the blind?" He said, "Yes, we do have such powers by the permission of Allah." The he said to me, "Come closer to me, O abu Muhammad." I went closer to him and he rubbed my face and my eyes and saw the sun, the skies, the earth, the houses and all things in the town. Then he said to me, "Do you like to live this way and will have what others have and be responsible for whatever they will be held responsible on the Day of Judgment or like to live as before and will have paradise purely?" I said, "I would like to live as I lived before." He rubbed my eyes and I found myself as before." The narrator has said that he told it to ibn abu ‘Umayr who said, "I testify that this is true just as the day is true." Reference: Al-Kafi, vol 1, Page 470. 5. Ali ibn Ibrahim has narrated from his father from ‘Abd al-‘Aziz ibn al-Muhtadi from ‘Adallah ibn Jundab to who Imam al-Rida (a.s.) wrote the following. "Thereafter, (thanking Allah) Muhammad (s.a.) was the trustee of Allah for His creatures. When he was taken away from this world we, Ahl al-Bayt inherited him, thus, we are the trustees of Allah over His earth. With us is the knowledge of the sufferings, the death, the genealogy of the Arabs and the birth of Islam. We know the man when we see him in the truth of faith or hypocrisy. Our followers (Shi‘a) are listed (with us) by their names and the names of their fathers. Allah has established a covenant with them and with us. They land wherever we would do so and enter wherever we would enter. There is no besides us and our followers as living the Islamic culture. We are the noble saviors and the descendents of the prophets and of the children of the successors of the prophets. We the ones to whom the book of Allah, the Most Holy, the Most High, has come exclusively. We, of all people, have the first priority (closeness) to the book of Allah. We, of all people, have the first priority (closeness) to the Messenger of Allah. For us He formed His religion. Reference: Al-Kafi, vol 1, Page 224. 6. According to traditions attributed to the 5th and 6th Imams the Prophets and Imams are endowed with 5 spirits. 1) the holy spirit (Ruh al-Quds) who obtains knowledge for them and because of whom they can carry the repository of prophesy 2) the spirit of faith (Ruh al-Iman) through which they have faith, fear of the Lord and justice 3) the spirit of strength (ruh al-quwwa) through which they can expend effort in obedience to Allah 4) the spirit of longing (ruh al-shawah) through which they desire to serve Allah and satisfy their natural needs 5) the spirit of movement (ruh al-madraj) or the spirit of life (ruh al-hayat) which allows them to move Reference: Basair section 9 ch. 14 pp. 445-50, al-Kulayni Usul volume 2 pp 15-16 These types of narrations are clearly in contradiction to Quran. Say, [O Muhammad], "Invoke those you claim [as deities] besides Allah ." They do not possess an atom's weight [of ability] in the heavens or on the earth, and they do not have therein any partnership [with Him], nor is there for Him from among them any assistant. [34:22] And intercession does not benefit with Him except for one whom He permits. [And those wait] until, when terror is removed from their hearts, they will say [to one another], "What has your Lord said?" They will say, "The truth." And He is the Most High, the Grand. [34:23] And to many other verses.
  4. Poem: All I See Is You So many ways, to think of you In all things every day that I do…. Pretty girls in my high school hall They are nothing compared to you The rain which falls from the sky in fall They give life to dead earth…. and the wind caries them abound…. with a whistle of dew They imitate you The stars outshine the light bulb in my house at night Your eyes outshine the stars and they dazzle my sight I share my minutes with a secret few I used to share them with you I’d love to share them with you The past does not seem few I love to think of you And all I see is you..... what do you think?
  5. I wrote this about a different girl than the one I wrote the last one about... Your eyes bring me to awe, my soul in wonder Your smile brings me to joy, as I saw….a sun of beams down yonder I wish to see that smile upon your leave Upon my leave, I wish to glance On your smile-for I wish a weave Of blushing glances, like spring time plants I can not stop staring, even though it is a sin You are so beautiful to me……and I hope my actions will win- A better man in me, inspired by your voice To make you happy and grant, any favor of your choice Your voice, your voice, a song that is truly music Your eyes, your eyes, a beam of beauty that is truly art Your walk, your walk, a grace that is truly angelic Your smile, your smile, a hope that is truly sport Your start, your start, in this world was met with love, at port, at port, For you left them all too soon…. No one can have enough of you, for you are loved by many And if this is not the truth, then I am that many Who have longed for you more than the whole world can long for peace For who is a root without its rain, and what is rain without its root? And their gift be a wondrous garden
  6. If God loves unconditionally, how can sin exist? Indeed, Allah, the Compassionate, loves all His creatures but not unconditionally. If we accept the unconditional love of Allah to all creatures, irrespective their piety, then can we talk of Allah’s wisdom and justice. Allah two different kinds of mercy A) Common, B) Particular. The first category includes everyone but the second is exclusive of the most virtuous and pious ones. For sure, Allah loves the sinner servants to return to Allah and make themselves purified of the major and minor sins. But it does not necessarily imply that Allah’s love towards them is similar to the individual who lived his whole life with purity, sincerity and honesty. Even the Human beings can not have unconditional love to their kids and friends. For unconditional love runs counter to one’s sagacity and wisdom. It can be interred this way that Love can be of different levels. The more competent and honest you are, the more love and blessings you will be enjoying from the Lord. The level of one’s pious character or mean behavior can a game changer in attraction or distraction of Allah’s love. Human’s good deeds and bad actions can make huge differences on how Allah, would love and resurrect us. For he has explicitly said: وَمَا خَلَقْنَا السَّمَاءَ وَالْأَرْضَ وَمَا بَيْنَهُمَا بَاطِلًا ۚ ذَٰلِكَ ظَنُّ الَّذِينَ كَفَرُوا ۚ فَوَيْلٌ لِّلَّذِينَ كَفَرُوا مِنَ النَّارِ [٣٨:٢٧] أَمْ نَجْعَلُ الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا وَعَمِلُوا الصَّالِحَاتِ كَالْمُفْسِدِينَ فِي الْأَرْضِ أَمْ نَجْعَلُ الْمُتَّقِينَ كَالْفُجَّارِ [٣٨:٢٨] And We did not create the heaven and the earth and that between them aimlessly. That is the assumption of those who disbelieve, so woe to those who disbelieve from the Fire. Or should we treat those who believe and do righteous deeds like corrupters in the land? Or should We treat those who fear Allah like the wicked? To have more information on whom is Loved or Hated by Allah, you can click to the following link. Shuja's answer to What are the characteristics of those whom Allah loves? Thanks May, Allah Grant us His Exclusive Blessings
  7. I do not know what to say about her. How to say it? I wanted to imitate the French writer who was speaking one day in a conference about the Virgin Mary. He said, 'For 1700 years all of the speakers have spoken of Mary. For 1700 years, ail philosophers and thinkers of various nations of the East and West have spoken of the values of Mary. For 1700 years, the poets of the world have expressed all of their creative efforts and power in their praise of Mary. For 1700 years, all of the painters and artists have created wonderful works of art showing the visage and states of Mary. But the totality of all that has been said, thought and the efforts of all the artist throughout all of these many centuries were not able to sufficiently describe the greatness of Mary as these words, 'Mary was the mother of Jesus Christ'.' And I wanted to begin in this manner with Fatima. I got stuck. I wished to say, 'Fatima is the daughter of the great Khadijah.' I sensed it is not Fatima. I wished to say, 'Fatima is the daughter of Muhammad (‘s).' I sensed it is not Fatima. I wished to say, 'Fatima is the wife of Ali (‘a).' I sensed it is not Fatima. I wished to say, 'Fa­tima is the mother of Hasan and Husayn.' I sensed it is not Fatima. I wished to say, 'Fatima is the mother of Zaynab.' I still sensed it is not Fatima. No, these are all true and none of them are Fatima. Fatima is Fatima <3
  8. SALAAMAULAYKUM EVERYONE Alhamdolilah My "Disability" is a blessing in disguise. This is one of the most noblest gift I have ever received from Allah, as it helps me to eliminate superficial people around me and has helped me in many other ways like my faith is much more strong than it was before. I have this question in my mind and needed a specific platform and this is the one . I request all my brothers and sisters explain this thing to me--- why people , generally and as well in our Muslim community are superficial when it comes to marrying a disabled person ? I am a mono limb below knee amputee, I use a prosthetic (one of the best in the world and made in germany) and it's hardly discernible while walking in my gait. I live in US, go out on hill trekking, can do skydiving all by myself . I had a strong relationship long ago but she and her parents walked away, though initially the girl was willing to, but you can imagine a situation like when you are offered an iphone 7s then why would you go for a Nokia phone (I apologize for explaining a situation with a slightly blunt example ). There is a famous incident about "Julaybib", one of the companions of our Prophet (Peace be upon him)..People should learn from this incident. And I came to know it's haram in islam to have a boyfriend or girlfriend kind of relationships. But for people like us going for an arrange marraige { you can imagine the situation}. It's like similar to a chimera . Lol, it's not about becoming a fanatic lover and moving on. My disability has evolved me a lot and fostered my faith in a positive way...HOW??...Look Initially when I was with her I used to sing and play guitar and after she left. I left singing and playing guitar and started reading Quran that too with translation, moved towards a state of apotheosis. Look it was good thing for me, not to worry about that. What I am going to ask is completely different . I mean people are like to disabled person saying "Oh, you are a motivation and inspiration for us all " and they often ask " how come you are able keep that smile on your face instead of all these tribulations you are facing in your life ". I feel like saying to them " These things which you are stating as tribulations, trials or ordeals are not something that we should be sad about it all day instead, they are blessing from our God ". {Allah doesn't burden a soul that it can bear - Quran 2:286 }. I mean look how Allah consider an individual person and test him or her with disability. I mean like he considered us to be so strong that he has put us to test throughout our life and still people look down at us when it comes to marriage. Please don't look down towards someone with disability when it comes to marriage. What's the choas all about and why people in our muslim community are like this in this specific situation, when they know everything that people with disabilities are very close to Allah ? Thanks and salamaulaykum once again
  9. SALAAMAULAYKUM EVERYONE Alhamdolilah My "Disability" is a blessing in disguise. This is one of the most noblest gift I have ever received from Allah, as it helps me to eliminate superficial people around me and has helped me in many other ways like my faith is much more strong than it was before. I have this question in my mind and needed a specific platform and this is the one . I request all my brothers and sisters explain this thing to me--- why people , generally and as well in our Muslim community are superficial when it comes to marrying a disabled person ? I am a mono limb below knee amputee, I use a prosthetic (one of the best in the world and made in germany) and it's hardly discernible while walking in my gait. I live in US, go out on hill trekking, can do skydiving all by myself . I had a strong relationship long ago but she and her parents walked away, though initially the girl was willing to, but you can imagine a situation like when you are offered an iphone 7s then why would you go for a Nokia phone (I apologize for explaining a situation with a slightly blunt example ). There is a famous incident about "Julaybib", one of the companions of our Prophet (Peace be upon him)..People should learn from this incident. And I came to know it's haram in islam to have a boyfriend or girlfriend kind of relationships. But for people like us going for an arrange marraige { you can imagine the situation}. It's like similar to a chimera . Lol, it's not about becoming a fanatic lover and moving on. My disability has evolved me a lot and fostered my faith in a positive way...HOW??...Look Initially when I was with her I used to sing and play guitar and after she left. I left singing and playing guitar and started reading Quran that too with translation, moved towards a state of apotheosis. Look it was good thing for me, not to worry about that. What I am going to ask is completely different . I mean people are like to disabled person saying "Oh, you are a motivation and inspiration for us all " and they often ask " how come you are able keep that smile on your face instead of all these tribulations you are facing in your life ". I feel like saying to them " These things which you are stating as tribulations, trials or ordeals are not something that we should be sad about it all day instead, they are blessing from our God ". {Allah doesn't burden a soul that it can bear - Quran 2:286 }. I mean look how Allah consider an individual person and test him or her with disability. I mean like he considered us to be so strong that he has put us to test throughout our life and still people look down at us when it comes to marriage. Please don't look down towards someone with disability when it comes to marriage. What's the choas all about and why people in our muslim community are like this in this specific situation, when they know everything that people with disabilities are very close to Allah ? Thanks and salamaulaykum once again
  10. Salamun Alaykum. Allah, the Exalted, has created everything on the earth or in the sky. He is the one who created Love and Compassion. He loves what he has created. It is the free will of human and Jinn that sometimes banish them from the Lord’s bliss. Allah, the Exalted stated in the Holy book of the Qur’an: “Say, ‘If you love Allah, then follow me; Allah will love you and forgive you your sins, and Allah is all-forgiving, all-merciful.’” Thus, it is you who can make such a good relationship with Allah, the Exalted. Imam al-Sadiq (AS) said, ‘Whoever wants to know the status of his position with Allah must first find out what status of position Allah holds with him, for Allah places the servant in the same position whereat the servant places Allah with respect to himself.’[ii] The Messenger of Islam peace be upon him said: ‘The most beloved of Allah’s servants to Him are those that are the most useful to His servants, and the most persistent of them in establishing His right, those who endear virtue and its practices.’[iii] His successors also advised people to love the Lord because He loves the ones who love Him: Imam Zayn al-Abidin (AS) said, ‘Indeed Allah loves every sorrowful heart and loves every grateful servant.’[iv] Imam al-Sadiq (AS) said, ‘When the believer abandons this world, he is elevated and finds the sweet taste of Allah’s love; he appears to the people of this world as if he is confounded in his mind, whereas truly it is they who have confounded the sweetness of Allah’s love such that they do not occupy themselves with other than Him.’[v] He (AS) also said, ‘The heart is the sanctuary of Allah, so do not lodge other than Allah in Allah’s sanctuary.’[vi] ‘Man’s faith in Allah will not be pure until Allah becomes more beloved to him than his own self, his father, his mother, his children, his wife, his wealth, and all people.’[vii] Imam al-Husayn (AS) said in one of his supplications, ‘It is You Who removed the strangers from the hearts of Your lovers so that they never love other than You… What does the one who loses You find [besides You]?! And what does the one who finds You lose [out on]?! He indeed fails who is satisfied with a substitute for You.’[viii] So, with these holy sentences, we will be sure that Allah, the Exalted, loves His servants. قُلْ إِن كُنتُمْ تُحِبُّونَ اللَّـهَ فَاتَّبِعُونِي يُحْبِبْكُمُ اللَّـهُ وَيَغْفِرْ لَكُمْ ذُنُوبَكُمْ ۗ وَاللَّـهُ غَفُورٌ رَّحِيمٌ ﴿٣١﴾ Tanzil - Quran Navigator [ii] الإمامُ الصّادقُ (عَلَيهِ الّسَلامُ): مَن أرادَ أنْ يَعرِفَ كيفَ مَنزِلَتُهُ عِندَ اللّه‏ِ فلْيَعْرِفْ كيفَ مَنزِلَـةُ اللّه‏ِ عِندَهُ ، فإنَّ اللّه‏َ يُنزِلُ العَبدَ مِثلَ ما يُنزِلُ العَبدُاللّه‏َ مِن نَفْسِهِ. [Bihar al-Anwar, v. 71, p. 156, no. 74] [iii] رسولُ اللهِ‏ِ (صَلَّيَ اللهُ عَلَيهِ وَ آلِهِ): أحَبُّ عِبادِ اللّه‏ِ إلى اللّه‏ِ أنْفَعُهُم لِعبادِهِ، وأقْوَمُهُم بحقِّهِ، الّذينَ يُحَبَّبُ إلَيهِمُ المَعروفُ وفِعالُهُ . [Tuhaf al-`Uqoul, no. 49] [iv]الإمامُ زينُ العابدينَ (عَلَيهِ الّسَلامُ): إنَّ اللّه‏َ يُحِبُّ كُلَّ قَلبٍ حَزينٍ ، ويُحِبُّ كُلَّ عبدٍ شَكورٍ. [al-Kafi, p. 99, no. 30] [v] الإمامُ الصّادقُ (عَلَيهِ الّسَلامُ): إذا تَخَلّى المؤمنُ مِن الدُّنيا سَما ووَجَدَ حَلاوَةَ حُبِّ اللّه‏ِ ، وكانَ عندَ أهلِ الدُّنيا كأنَّهُ قد خُولِطَ ، وإنَّما خالَطَ القَومَ حَلاوَةُ حُبِّ اللّه‏ِ فلَم يَشْتَغلوا بغَيرِهِ. [al-Kafi, p. 130, no. 1] [vi] الإمامُ الصّادقُ (عَلَيهِ الّسَلامُ): القلبُ حَرَمُ اللّه‏ِ ، فلا تُسْكِنْ حَرَمَ اللّه‏ِ غَيرَ اللّه‏ِ . [Jami al-Akhbar, p. 518, no. 1468] [vii] الإمامُ الصّادقُ (عَلَيهِ الّسَلامُ): لا يَمْحضُ رجُلٌ الإيمانَ باللّه‏ِ حتّى يكونَ اللّه‏ُ أحَبَّ إلَيهِ مِن نَفْسِهِ وأبيهِ واُمِّهِ ووُلْدِهِ وأهْلِهِ ومالِهِ ومِن النّاسِ كُلِّهِم. [Bihar al-Anwar, v. 70, p. 25, no. 25] [viii] الإمامُ الحسينُ (عَلَيهِ الّسَلامُ) ـ في الدعاء المنسوب إليه ـ: أنتَ الّذي أزَلْتَ الأغْيارَ عن قُلوبِ أحِبّائكَ حتّى لَم يُحِبّوا سِواكَ... ماذا وَجَدَ مَن فَقَدَكَ؟! وما الّذي فَقَد مَن وَجَدكَ؟! لَقد خابَ مَن‏رَضِيَ دُونَكَ بَدَلاً [Bihar al-Anwar, v. 98, p. 226, no. 3]
  11. Salaamaulaykum, brothers and sisters i am a below knee amputee , lost my leg six years ago in a road accident. I am completely independent, do daily tasks just like normal person. Just completed by undergrad and now I am going to United States for my masters . It's been a year, since I broke up with the love of my life, whom I loved from the most deepest region of my heart, towards whom while looking, no matter how many chaotic situations I was circumscribed by ,when I looked at her, was always at ease. During our relationship, I never touched her, you know what I mean to say...no physical or haram contact...just respected and loved her just the way she admired and followed Islam. I thought , she was the one, but all of a sudden everything just changed, her mother came to know about my scenario, that I was a handicap, although I use one of the best artificial limb, imported from germany, I can run too and it's hard for anyone to recognize that I use an artificial limb. Her mother started looking for marriage proposals for her..and I remember it was my birthday she texted me "Good luck for everything" and that was the worst day of my life. I asked her why, and their was just a pin drop silence on the other side..believe me the pain of losing the limb was nothing in front of this one, what I felt at that very instant..The reason her silence indicated that "I was a handicap or disabled person"...I just retracted myself because the reason was like..Her mother could have said something else like any other reason but she just remained silent and believe me ,if the reason was other than "being disabled" .. I could have said to her mother that "Ok give me some time, I'll be the man , whom you would like to offer your daughter to " . But In my scenario even if I had the extra time , It was impossible for me to get the thing back , I lost long ago. Every morning I woke up, the very first thought is this one only and tears come off my eyes. I used to play guitar, sing . Now I have just given up on singing and guitar. I read Quran translation nowdays, but whenever I think of falling in love with someone or marrying someone, my soul gets dilapidated and all I have found is just peace in the recitation of quran and offering salah,previously I was a gregarious person and now I have transformed myself into a brutally conserved one. And I dream of a place now, where people like me are not considered as something as an ostracized element of the society. And when I think of falling in love or marrying someone , thinking about ""the story of Julaybib, one of the contemporaries of the Prophet, is another vivid example of inclusion. In addition to being poor, Julaybib had an unpleasant physical appearance and nobody wished to let their daughter marry him. Upon the Prophet’s request, a noble family gave him their daughter in marriage."" I say to myself that only prophet can reduce the pain i am going through... I told you my story, Now I was to ask, that ""people like me are not considered for marriage"" you can assume the reason according to my past encounters... I know it's haram to go in a relationship before marriage in islam....Is it permissible for peple like me to have a relationship before marriage resulting in love marriage.. you know the reason..when people will hear about my disability they would just say "NO" ..hence the question ".Is it permissible for me to have a relationship before marriage resulting in love marriage "?????
  12. Shall I compare you to a fresh fruit that never spoils And never decay nor ever boil? To feed the hungry and bring shivers of memory? To stay pure and chaste until marriage eternity? A garden spring of jasmine, and innocent memories A river of freshness, the first love I have seen A sun to give light with your tender heart But burning compassion, and playful darts The shouts and cries of playful teasing Which made me mad but now that I’m sad, make you pleasing, since I started leaving My heart was stone and my words were few, but you taught love, and purity, too Purity as white as the purest light, For we were but children and had no sight And knew not of what we know now My radiant rose who I have chose I am the moon, and you are my Earth You are the sun, that I haven’t chose But destiny did as warm from the hearth In wintertime, invincible As a man needs food to be sensible You are my queen, and I’d be yours for life Away from the homeland where there now is strife I’d protect you and serve you and love you and play with you And keep you away from the land that would harm you Despite the gentleness therefrom that lies For I knew not what I know now I want nothing but cuddles and kisses from you, Except whispers of secrets and delicate coos For if you gave me your kisses I’d give you mine, too….. And I’d give you my life For I knew not what I know now You were my first and I hope to make you my last To be like garments for you, and you for me For we knew not what we know now For we know not what we know now
  13. I consort to the notions that nothing is more beautiful than the powers vested in He who ordains law to its highest consequence. For understanding such without understanding sound virtue is a desecration to He who ordained these laws and those without understanding are left to the vicissitudes of unjust causes, orders, and unnatural ways of dealings within the spheres of logical consequence, inference, and logical sound hood which is vested in the laws of those who understand power structures. For there is no power but He for those who disseminate law without understanding such constructs of existence in the highest planes of thought will resolve themselves to natures unfitting for those who practice law and practice the jurisprudence of a higher nature. For natures must be resolved within the constructs and countenances of human beings, in their demeanor, in their presence, in their just presence with their parents, in their just presence with their children, with all prior to embarking unto such avenues of justice. For justice unto the family must come prior to justice in worldly order. For the ties which are vested in the heavens are verily tied within the ties in the hemispheres of the earth. For mankind understands such notions as methods are drawn to rebuke such honest candor for power structures within the linguistics of those who understand law to its highest degree. For those who understand the legacies of those who understood law from the heavenly ordinances understand that love and mercy is paramount prior to embarking upon law which imbues power unto the self. For the self is destroyed amidst power for power unto one is a desecration for there is no power but He for His love and mercy pervades and His power surveys that which is a natural consequence of His love and mercy. For imbuing love and mercy is a necessity and to imbue constructs of law without emotional consequence is to consequent the necessary components of justice into a piece meal articulation which denies the truth of the highest matter in the truest form of understanding. For love decimates and pierces through the highest congruency of falsified natures for such exist within the lessons of law in the highest order of the West and to embark upon such without sound ordinances and knowledge is to decimate one's own integrity. For it is such natures which must be reprimanded and the jurisprudence of such is such that must be reconciled with the logical assets of those who understand sound conduct, grammar, rhetoric, lack of rhetoric, and that which is a necessity prior to the articulations and embarkment in such facets of law. For Law is inherent to the adjudications of all which transpires through the heavens and the earth. And those who deny themselves understanding Law prior to embarking on law, are vested in learning powers of an egregious nature. For it is inherent in our natures to learn of He prior to visiting such realms of thought. For without such understanding, we are left to the trappings of the devils who wish to confuse that which is inherently righteous with that which is meticulously imbued through the power of logical concourses of an unnatural consequence which is vested in the manipulations of those who understand the virtue of the word. For the word is powerful and unto those who understand the necessities of the heavens are forbidden from entering such structures without having a strong foundation of imaan and ihsan. Only those will prosper in the higher ordinances of law in the west.
  14. women

    SALAM!! In Quran it is said for men to provide food and clothing to your wife. For wives it is guided to always keep happy your husband and obey what he says to except for Haram. But what about giving love to your wives. Here by love I don't mean (intercourse), I mean to always make her feel that her husband is loyal to her and is very happy to have her. Is there any thing said in Quran to always love your wife other than just fulfilling her material needs?
  15. Asalamu alaikum, I have been trying to deal with this issue for quite some time now. I am a devouted shia muslim. I do my prayers, fasting, don't drink, gamble, fornicate, or any of those things. But what I do wonder is that why is homosexuality a bad thing? I read into it a lot and hear so many of their stories on how they have to struggle to live their lives. Now we can say that perhaps they weren't born like this since biologically homosexuality is useless and that they chose this path instead. But it doesn't seem to be that way when I read about it, and getting to learn more about it. Now of course we as Muslims believe they are sinful since for another reason aside from it being not natural which is that this will in turn lead to other types of sexuality such as bestiality, incest, pedophilia, necrophilia and what not. So I don't believe in the short term but in the long term instead. Even if USA enacted a law which accepts gay marriage now its only been a year since then. But there is a long term course of gay acceptance in the Netherlands and I did my research about it and found out that its just the same as straight marriages. I hope anyone out there can be give a reasonable explanation on how this is considered wrong or at least how we as Muslims should deal with it now with all this awarness and information about them instead of just murdering them at blank point.
  16. Just curious to see how the poll goes. Also, explain your viewpoint, if you want to.
  17. I am 17, and I am pondering my options for marriage for after college..... I worry about my chances with all of them.... girl a) my childhood friend, who is 17, like me (even born on the same day lol) who I last spoke to when I was 10, and last saw when I was 13....I might have ruined my chances by trying to creating an alternate facebook account under a girl's name to find out how she feels about me astagfirullah.....but I deactivated the account and stopped the plan before I could execute it....my father found out about it, and said he would tell the girl's father, which caused an enormous falling out with my father, who already lives 4 hours away....she was the first girl I ever admired, and I share many memories with her...our dads are friends, and we are both connected through the gulen movement....I might see her after college.... girl b) my cousin, who is 15, who I have not seen since I was 14, and I have not spoken to since I was 15.....I might have ruined my chances there, too.....I told her astagfirullah I was in love with her when I was 15 and she was 13.....I never heard from her again.....she even added me on instagram, and then blocked me......I might see her after high school, if I can manage to leave alternative school by the end of the year... girl c) my other childhood friend, who is two years younger but still 14.....I have more recent memories of her....I knew her from when I was 10 to when I was 13...and then she moved....I last saw her when I was 14.....I was friends with her in the 5th grade.....although as I went through puberty I felt more lust for her than love.....our moms are friends, and we are both part of the gulen movement...I might see her after college
  18. TOC: Post 1 = Introduction Post 2 = Article Post 3 = FAQ This is an article that I have been writing for the past couple of weeks, in response to some of the brothers/sisters in the forum who had question about the correct way of marrying according to Islam, especially since we are prohibited from being friends with non-mahram before marriage. This is a combination of solutions that I have heard from scholars in Iran, with my own adjustment, so that it becomes more fitting to the situation of the people in other countries. This is almost the first draft of the article, so I will be working on it for the next one or two week. Corrections, suggestions, objections, and questions are all welcome and very much appreciated, as I will be trying to make a long-lasting reading material for the people deciding to start a new family. For the same reason I am assigning the third post of this topic to the frequently asked questions; so, please do not shy away from asking your questions. I think it might be too much too ask, but I kind of hope that the moderators pin this to the top of a forum so that it is available for further readers, if such a thing is not available already. Thank you
  19. Asalamu Aalaikum, I always believed that fortification was and is bad. Marriage is always the best solution to a loving relationship with sex included. But being in my late teens I and still not married and probably won't in another five to six years I yearn for sex. I desire it everyday and I hate it since it distracts me from my daily life and my relationship with my female peers. I've always wished that I can just have regular sex without anything attached. That's when my dad told me about Muta'a which is when you and your partner sign an agreement to have a sort of marriage that lasts according to how long they want. Which for me seems great! I can finally have sex and let it out of my system but I also wondered if this is something sinful or not or if its considered prostitution. I remember hearing that there is an ayah that proves it is legal and another one that doesn't so if you can reach out and help me with this topic I'll appreciate that. (I would like to have as many different views on this topic if possible)
  20. I am 17 now, and I am a brother, and I often hold grudges over little things, and even pray for people's deaths when they wrong me.....for instance, a 9th grader girl in my school told me she couldn't sit next to me because she was moving this weekend and it was her last day at the school....but sure enough, the next week i found her in the library and confronted her.......i tried apologizing, but she wouldn't accept my apology....so one morning, i decided to stare at her through her classroom window....a teacher's assistant came and yelled at me and threatened to take action if I did this again......i prayed for both their deaths, and told my parapro, who then deducted points from my behavioral point sheet....i ended up dropping a level, making it harder for me to leave alternative school by the end of this year and go to turkey in 15 months like my dad promised me he would if i was in regular ed for a whole year.....i also referred to the teacher (not the assistant) as a "state sponsor of terrorism" (and inside joke i have is referring to people as nations....pls help me i swear im not trolling) A gigantic 12th grade boy was bullying this girl by tapping her ipad which she uses for school, she told him to stop, but he wouldn't. so i told on him, and i told him i told on him, and he said, "and you wonder why you have no friends...." (I have autism)...i prayed for his death.... also, another 12th grader was picking on the same girl, by closing her ipad, so i told on him and he got in big trouble.........he then called me a snitch.....i prayed for his death, and rejoiced in my victory over him....... i also pray for fox news anchors' death and pamela geller's death..... is this haram? i know praying for tyrants' deaths is halal, but what about smaller evils? and how do I get over grudges?
  21. Asalamu Aalaikum, I hope as many Muslim women help spread this thread. Now I'm not going to ask about how to gain self confidence or the courage to ask a girl out or all the things a desperate guy needs to have to be able to find his one true love of his life. I already have those traits. I'm talking about asking conservative Muslim girls on dates since I'm 18. Now I know that I should perhaps wait until I'm 25 and get married. But that's seven years away. Do I really need to wait that much just to get a simple Muslim girlfriend were we can go on dates and just talk? I want to have some minor relationship before I get married. Perhaps I'm doing this because of peer pressure or since I want to show my friends that I can get a girl. I have seen many videos and tutorials from before of guys just asking out random girls on the street and getting their number with enough confidence and I got inspired by that. But those videos involve western countries with western women and men. How about when I ask Muslim girls out? I feel that I just want to have at least one relationship before I get married. So for all Muslim girls here, please give me some advice on to ask you out.
  22. Asslamu alaykum, How broad or specific is the sentence "When one loves a thing it blinds him and sickens his heart."? Does it mean the haram only? A person? Something material? Everything? Or only some things? "When one loves a thing it blinds him and sickens his heart. Then he sees but with a diseased eye, hears but with unhearing ears. Desires have cut asunder his wit, and the world has made his heart dead, while his mind is all longing for it. Consequently, he is a slave of it and of everyone who has any share in it. Wherever it turns, he turns towards it and wherever it proceeds, he proceeds towards it. He is not desisted by any desister from Allah, nor takes admonition from any preacher. He sees those who have been caught in neglect whence there is neither rescission nor reversion. " - Imam Ali(As) [Nahjul Balagha Sermon 108] Website: http://www.nahjulbalagha.org/Nahjul-Balagha-Sermons/nahjul-balagha-sermon-108.html JazakAllah.
  23. (salam) Brothers & Sisters, I trust you are all in the best of health. Firstly a dua for you all. I pray that all you brothers and sisters who are married have the best marriage filled with love and compassion. And both of you grow stronger religiously together and never ever ever have to face separation. And if you are facing difficulty in marriage may Allah(swt) put mercy and love in your hearts for each other. Ameen. And for those brothers and sisters who are not yet married, I pray that you find the best spouse who would love and cherish you. Put all your needs before his/her own needs. And you never ever ever have to face separation. Ameen. I got married several months ago and I have been researching on marriage rights and divorce quite a lot. For what I have understood, marriage in Islam is such a sacred bond but nowadays we are toying with it, abusing it. Why? Allah(swt) has made this bond so beautiful. Allah(swt) has made your spouse your garment. A human being who supports you emotionally and completes you. Your spouse is your wonderful companion. Allah(swt) has put mercy and love between you two. :wub: I have seen couples separating and for the most absurd reasons. The divorce rate is on the rise which really pains my heart. Islamically, it is a permissible act but why do we forget that it is disliked by Allah(swt). I was researching on what kind of women should be divorced and came across the following hadith. I hope it will stress my point of writing this thread. It was reported to the Holy Prophet that Abu Ayyub Ansari had decided to divorce his wife. The Prophet knew the woman personally. He also knew that Abu Ayyub's decision was not justified. He said: "Divorcing Umme Ayyub (Abu Ayyub's wife) is a deadly sin". The Holy Prophet said that Gabriel had exhorted and counselled him so much in respect of women that he felt that it was not permissible to divorce a woman, except when she was guilty of adultery. Imam Sadiq (AS) has reported that the Holy Prophet said: "There is nothing more pleasing to Allah(swt) than the house where a marriage takes place, and nothing is more displeasing to Him(swt) than the house where it is severed by divorce" Imam Sadiq (AS) has also said that the word 'divorce' has been mentioned in the Qur'an time and again and its details have been given because Allah(swt) hates separation of couples. AI-Tabarsi in the Makarim al-Aklaq has quoted the Prophet as saying: "Do marry but do not divorce, for divorce shakes the throne of Allah(swt)". Imam Sadiq (AS) has said: "No permissible act is more displeasing to Allah than divorce. Allah dislikes those who resort to divorce again and again". May Allah(swt) have mercy on us all and also guide us to the right path. And also make us in to a true momin. Ameen. (wasalam)
  24. (bismillah) a Strong Message for us all. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=faOcraq4QYA Blessings to you all N
  25. (salam) I wanted to compile a list of all the 'romantic' verses of the Qur'an in the sense of marriage and couples. Most of these translations are Sahih International with a few exceptions. If you know of any more, please contribute. "It has been made permissible for you the night preceding fasting to go to your wives. They are clothing for you and you are clothing for them..." [2:187] "O mankind, fear your Lord, who created you from one soul and created from it its mate and dispersed from both of them many men and women. And fear Allah , through whom you ask one another, and the wombs. Indeed Allah is ever, over you, an Observer." [4:1] "It is He who created you from one soul and created from it its mate that he might dwell in security with her. And when he covers her, she carries a light burden and continues therein. And when it becomes heavy, they both invoke Allah , their Lord, "If You should give us a good [child], we will surely be among the grateful.'" [7:189] "And Allah has made for you from yourselves mates and has made for you from your mates sons and grandchildren and has provided for you from the good things. Then in falsehood do they believe and in the favor of Allah they disbelieve?" [16:72] "...and women of purity are for men of purity, and men of purity are for women of purity: these are not affected by what people say: for them there is forgiveness, and a provision honourable." [24:26] "And those who say, "Our Lord, grant us from among our wives and offspring comfort to our eyes and make us an example for the righteous.'" [25:74] "And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquillity in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought." [30:21] "And Allah created you from dust, then from a sperm-drop; then He made you mates. And no female conceives nor does she give birth except with His knowledge. And no aged person is granted [additional] life nor is his lifespan lessened but that it is in a register. Indeed, that for Allah is easy." [35:11] "Exalted is He who created all pairs - from what the earth grows and from themselves and from that which they do not know." [36:36] "He created you from one soul. Then He made from it its mate, and He produced for you from the grazing livestock eight mates. He creates you in the wombs of your mothers, creation after creation, within three darknesses. That is Allah , your Lord; to Him belongs dominion. There is no deity except Him, so how are you averted?" [39:6] "[He is] Creator of the heavens and the earth. He has made for you from yourselves, mates, and among the cattle, mates; He multiplies you thereby. There is nothing like unto Him, and He is the Hearing, the Seeing." [42:11] "Enter Paradise, you and your wives, in happiness." [43:70] "And We created you in pairs" [78:8] And lastly, the verse of love: "Say, [O Muhammad], "If you should love Allah , then follow me, [so] Allah will love you and forgive you your sins. And Allah is Forgiving and Merciful.'" [3:31] <3
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