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  1. SALAAMAULAYKUM EVERYONE Alhamdolilah My "Disability" is a blessing in disguise. This is one of the most noblest gift I have ever received from Allah, as it helps me to eliminate superficial people around me and has helped me in many other ways like my faith is much more strong than it was before. I have this question in my mind and needed a specific platform and this is the one . I request all my brothers and sisters explain this thing to me--- why people , generally and as well in our Muslim community are superficial when it comes to marrying a disabled person ? I am a mono limb below knee amputee, I use a prosthetic (one of the best in the world and made in germany) and it's hardly discernible while walking in my gait. I live in US, go out on hill trekking, can do skydiving all by myself . I had a strong relationship long ago but she and her parents walked away, though initially the girl was willing to, but you can imagine a situation like when you are offered an iphone 7s then why would you go for a Nokia phone (I apologize for explaining a situation with a slightly blunt example ). There is a famous incident about "Julaybib", one of the companions of our Prophet (Peace be upon him)..People should learn from this incident. And I came to know it's haram in islam to have a boyfriend or girlfriend kind of relationships. But for people like us going for an arrange marraige { you can imagine the situation}. It's like similar to a chimera . Lol, it's not about becoming a fanatic lover and moving on. My disability has evolved me a lot and fostered my faith in a positive way...HOW??...Look Initially when I was with her I used to sing and play guitar and after she left. I left singing and playing guitar and started reading Quran that too with translation, moved towards a state of apotheosis. Look it was good thing for me, not to worry about that. What I am going to ask is completely different . I mean people are like to disabled person saying "Oh, you are a motivation and inspiration for us all " and they often ask " how come you are able keep that smile on your face instead of all these tribulations you are facing in your life ". I feel like saying to them " These things which you are stating as tribulations, trials or ordeals are not something that we should be sad about it all day instead, they are blessing from our God ". {Allah doesn't burden a soul that it can bear - Quran 2:286 }. I mean look how Allah consider an individual person and test him or her with disability. I mean like he considered us to be so strong that he has put us to test throughout our life and still people look down at us when it comes to marriage. Please don't look down towards someone with disability when it comes to marriage. What's the choas all about and why people in our muslim community are like this in this specific situation, when they know everything that people with disabilities are very close to Allah ? Thanks and salamaulaykum once again
  2. SALAAMAULAYKUM EVERYONE Alhamdolilah My "Disability" is a blessing in disguise. This is one of the most noblest gift I have ever received from Allah, as it helps me to eliminate superficial people around me and has helped me in many other ways like my faith is much more strong than it was before. I have this question in my mind and needed a specific platform and this is the one . I request all my brothers and sisters explain this thing to me--- why people , generally and as well in our Muslim community are superficial when it comes to marrying a disabled person ? I am a mono limb below knee amputee, I use a prosthetic (one of the best in the world and made in germany) and it's hardly discernible while walking in my gait. I live in US, go out on hill trekking, can do skydiving all by myself . I had a strong relationship long ago but she and her parents walked away, though initially the girl was willing to, but you can imagine a situation like when you are offered an iphone 7s then why would you go for a Nokia phone (I apologize for explaining a situation with a slightly blunt example ). There is a famous incident about "Julaybib", one of the companions of our Prophet (Peace be upon him)..People should learn from this incident. And I came to know it's haram in islam to have a boyfriend or girlfriend kind of relationships. But for people like us going for an arrange marraige { you can imagine the situation}. It's like similar to a chimera . Lol, it's not about becoming a fanatic lover and moving on. My disability has evolved me a lot and fostered my faith in a positive way...HOW??...Look Initially when I was with her I used to sing and play guitar and after she left. I left singing and playing guitar and started reading Quran that too with translation, moved towards a state of apotheosis. Look it was good thing for me, not to worry about that. What I am going to ask is completely different . I mean people are like to disabled person saying "Oh, you are a motivation and inspiration for us all " and they often ask " how come you are able keep that smile on your face instead of all these tribulations you are facing in your life ". I feel like saying to them " These things which you are stating as tribulations, trials or ordeals are not something that we should be sad about it all day instead, they are blessing from our God ". {Allah doesn't burden a soul that it can bear - Quran 2:286 }. I mean look how Allah consider an individual person and test him or her with disability. I mean like he considered us to be so strong that he has put us to test throughout our life and still people look down at us when it comes to marriage. Please don't look down towards someone with disability when it comes to marriage. What's the choas all about and why people in our muslim community are like this in this specific situation, when they know everything that people with disabilities are very close to Allah ? Thanks and salamaulaykum once again
  3. Salam, Mut'ah marriages (Islamic "pleasure" marriages) are wajib (obligatory) for most Shia Muslim youth who attend undergraduate college in the West. This is because most Muslim youth in such situations will be sexually frustrated unless they relieve themselves in three ways: masturbation, permanent marriage, or mut'ah. The first way is haram, the second way is highly impractical and unfeasible for most such youth in their freshman/sophomore/junior years of college (of course it shouldn't be this way, but unfortunately this is the way things often are and we should now see what a youth should do if permanent marriage in these years is indeed not possible for him - while we should also try to change the way society is, but that takes time, so what should youth do right now?), and therefore the third way is the only way a youth must take nowadays. Considering that most Muslim youth have normal youthful human libidos, most of them cannot survive years of time without sexual release. It would be seriously delusional to think otherwise. Most normal, healthy, normal-libido-possessing youth cannot go for years without neither masturbation nor sex. Heck, I don't think even an adult can go that long. Of course there will be the rare and exceptional cases where a youth either has no libido or possesses extreme self-control (which may be superhuman or even unhealthy), but for the most part, youth generally cannot go for years with absolutely no form of sexual release. And that is why for most youth, mut'ah will not only be mustahab - it will be wajib. If I found a Shia Muslim youth who was in his junior year of college, and he wasn't permanently married, and he hadn't ever done mut'ah in his life either, I think I can be reasonable in my assumption that this guy has been masturbating (committing haram). Of course, Islamically, I shouldn't assume negative things about a fellow Muslim brother, but from a secular/realistic/statistic perspective, such an assumption would not be irrational. It's time that more Shia college boys are encouraged to get girlfriends in college by doing mut'ah. Whoever encourages another Shia Muslim brother to get a girlfriend using mut'ah will have done a very good deed by preventing him from committing haram (masturbation). P.S. I follow Ayatollah Khamenei, and according to him it is obligatory precaution to seek the father's permission when doing mut'ah. But my next-in-line scholar is Ayatollah Mahdi Hadavi Tehrani, and according to him, such permission isn't necessary. So mut'ah is very feasible for me and others who follow these two scholars. There are plenty of Christian and Jewish females in college whom us youth could take as partners.
  4. Salam alaykum, If you're married, how long did it take you to get an answer to marry from your/the girl's wali ulamr? Did the families already know each other or were you strangers to each other? If/when a girl gets a marriage proposal, how long would it, or would you expect it to, take for the father to think about it? If the situation is complicated in terms of conditions etc, how long would it take for the father to contemplate about them? Are there any Islamic rulings or guidelines about this? References and advice from experience would be highly appreciated! Salam
  5. Salaamaulaykum, brothers and sisters i am a below knee amputee , lost my leg six years ago in a road accident. I am completely independent, do daily tasks just like normal person. Just completed by undergrad and now I am going to United States for my masters . It's been a year, since I broke up with the love of my life, whom I loved from the most deepest region of my heart, towards whom while looking, no matter how many chaotic situations I was circumscribed by ,when I looked at her, was always at ease. During our relationship, I never touched her, you know what I mean to say...no physical or haram contact...just respected and loved her just the way she admired and followed Islam. I thought , she was the one, but all of a sudden everything just changed, her mother came to know about my scenario, that I was a handicap, although I use one of the best artificial limb, imported from germany, I can run too and it's hard for anyone to recognize that I use an artificial limb. Her mother started looking for marriage proposals for her..and I remember it was my birthday she texted me "Good luck for everything" and that was the worst day of my life. I asked her why, and their was just a pin drop silence on the other side..believe me the pain of losing the limb was nothing in front of this one, what I felt at that very instant..The reason her silence indicated that "I was a handicap or disabled person"...I just retracted myself because the reason was like..Her mother could have said something else like any other reason but she just remained silent and believe me ,if the reason was other than "being disabled" .. I could have said to her mother that "Ok give me some time, I'll be the man , whom you would like to offer your daughter to " . But In my scenario even if I had the extra time , It was impossible for me to get the thing back , I lost long ago. Every morning I woke up, the very first thought is this one only and tears come off my eyes. I used to play guitar, sing . Now I have just given up on singing and guitar. I read Quran translation nowdays, but whenever I think of falling in love with someone or marrying someone, my soul gets dilapidated and all I have found is just peace in the recitation of quran and offering salah,previously I was a gregarious person and now I have transformed myself into a brutally conserved one. And I dream of a place now, where people like me are not considered as something as an ostracized element of the society. And when I think of falling in love or marrying someone , thinking about ""the story of Julaybib, one of the contemporaries of the Prophet, is another vivid example of inclusion. In addition to being poor, Julaybib had an unpleasant physical appearance and nobody wished to let their daughter marry him. Upon the Prophet’s request, a noble family gave him their daughter in marriage."" I say to myself that only prophet can reduce the pain i am going through... I told you my story, Now I was to ask, that ""people like me are not considered for marriage"" you can assume the reason according to my past encounters... I know it's haram to go in a relationship before marriage in islam....Is it permissible for peple like me to have a relationship before marriage resulting in love marriage.. you know the reason..when people will hear about my disability they would just say "NO" ..hence the question ".Is it permissible for me to have a relationship before marriage resulting in love marriage "?????
  6. Salaam alaykum. (I am actually not a new member, but I haven't been on in a long time and forgot my login info). Question for you all: if you were approached for marriage by a pious mo'min who is an excellent match for you BUT wants you to leave your country (US, or any other first world country) to permanently live in his country (3rd world middle eastern country that oppresses women and minorities), would you accept? Why or why not? Curious to see what others think. (side note: obviously istikhara is a good solution if one is really torn, but I'm curious to know your initial reactions. As you know, part of istikhara is seeking the opinions and thoughts of others). JazakAllah khayr.
  7. Allah says: “وَلَن يَجْعَلَ اللَّـهُ لِلْكَافِرِينَ عَلَى الْمُؤْمِنِينَ سَبِيلًا…” …never will Allah give the disbelievers over the believers a way [to overcome them].[the Quran 4:141] The above mentioned verse denotes a rule which is expressed in Islamic jurisprudence. This rule is called قاعدة نفی السبیل (the rule of negation of way). Therefore, according to this rule, muslim man cannot marry a non-Muslim woman and a Muslim woman cannot marry a non-Muslim man in permanent or temporary marriage. When it comes to temporary marriage, a Muslim man can marry a Christian (or Jewish) woman but a Muslim woman cannot marry a non-Muslim man. For more info visit: http://www.islamportal.net/question/can-muslim-marry-christian http://www.sistani.org/english/book/46/2062/
  8. I want to get married to this girl, and I am 17, and I want to get a PhD in economics, but while I am in grad school I won't be making much money........the stipend is barely enough to survive off of.....and the girl I want to marry is the same age as me, and so I'm worried if I wait until after I get my PhD she'll have gotten married to someone else by then.....what should I do?
  9. Assalamualaikum brothers and sisters, From the title you can see the issue I am currently stuck with. I have met a sunni man and hope to get to know him better before we get married. We both started talking casually and there was no flirting. We talked about our families, issues, future plans of marriage, qualities we wish our future spouses would have. After a while, I realised he ticked so many of the boxes for the qualities of my future husband. I really saw potential in him which I never saw in anyone else before. When I told him how I felt, he was really relieved and said he felt the same and he never felt so sure about introducing a girl to his family. We both agreed that we wanted to be with each other with the intention of marrying each other. He is a sunni but a good muslim so Im not worried about the shia-sunni issue. We havent been on any dates since we only just decided to see each other but I was wondering if there was no halal way of seeing him? We are both quite young, medical students with the same mindset and ideas generally and islamically. I have done istakhara by myself and used a Tasbih, which gave a good result, but I was wondering if anyone here could do an istakhara using the Quran for me? I can't really talk to my local mullah about this. so background story aside, is there an islamic way of seeing someone? can someone do an istakhara for me using the Quran since I have a hard time interpreting it? Jazakallah
  10. I need some of contact number to mary a syrian shia girl. I am looking for it kindly help me.
  11. Salaam all, All the women on ShiaChat - what would be the one advice you would give to a BROTHER who is about to get married? All the men on ShiaChat - what would be the one advice you would give to a SISTER who is about to get married? Advice can be related to religion or not.
  12. Bismillahirahmaniraheem Asalaamu Alaykum all. Within the past few months, I have been very depressed in regards to my marriage, more specifically with my husband's interactions with me. I know in Islam the husband is the wali (leader) in the relationship & I completely accept that. The issue here is abuse of that power and my husband says that because he is my wali he has the right to hit me when I mis-behave. To him this means, if I speak loudly at home *not in a mean way, he can still hit me because "woman's voices should not be heard", if I angry and i raise my voice, if I swear, if my hijab becomes lose (hair peeks out, pin is lose, chin is showing) he calls me a bad hijabi. However, he can make sexist jokes, joke about rape, polygamy, swear etc & I have to be quiet because he is the wali. I want to know if being the wali, also means the relationship you have with your wife is a dominant-submissive one, he even jokes about calling me his slave. Being the wife, and him the wali- what do I do? I am not the quiet kind of person and I have spoken to him so many times but his response is always "wali" "husbands rights" please help, I am going through crazy depression and I cry almost everyday because of him.
  13. Salaam. I'm not accustomed to doing this, but I feel it is necessary. Is there any woman in Richmond, Virginia who is interested in either mutah marriage or permanent marriage with me? I do realize this isn't a marriage site, but the world nowadays has gotten to a point where saving our Imaan is of the utmost importance. I wish to help protect not only my Imaan but the Imaan of a woman who feels the same way I do. I do this for the Sake of Allah. if anyone is interested to know more about me, they can go into here to read my profile: https://www.shiamatch.com/view.php?pid=127530 or you can ask me any questions if you wish. Again, I know this is not conventional, but I would rather ask for halāl than haraam. May Allah Bless you all.
  14. My boy would be marry soon in next few months. Could shiachat members give an advice about marriage's advice to both the bride (man and woman), both of each of their parents, brothers/sisters, uncles/aunty (Books/articles/fatwa or anything which is about advice/tawashaw/nasihat is ok). And also the tradition of the prophet when he (sawa) marry his (sawa) daughter to Imam Ali a.s. I am pursuing from al-islam.org and got some of pdf file. Thank you in advance.
  15. Assalamu alaikum! I don't have any Muslim friends so I have no where to get this off my chest and it's worrying me a little. I am in a Mutah marriage with my partner, we are both Shia and I am a revert. We wanted our relationship to be halal and since we are both students and he is waiting on his protection visa here it just seemed like the best solution at this point. But I don't want to wait too long to be married. He has to wait a few weeks to see if he gets his protection visa or not and until then it's hard to plan a future but I asked him several times if his case gets accepted then how long until we can get married. He says he doesn't want to get married until he can adequately provide for me and my son. He says around 25. We are 19. I really do not want to wait six years to get married. It's very important to me and even though technically Mutah is a marriage and we are not in a haram relationship.It's not comparable to a permanent marriage. In my country I know most people would think I was crazy to want to be married after a few months of being with someone but Islamically I don't think it's that strange and even my mother who is not Muslim asked me if we had talked about marriage. I was in a haram relationship before for almost two years, please do not judge me I wasn't in a good place at the time, but he wanted to marry me and we were engaged and had I stayed with him then we would be married this September. It's a big concern for me because I want me and my partner to be on the same page... I understand that he wants to be working and able to financially support me (although where I live that's pretty impossible and I'd like to work anyway) but I don't think it should take six years and I wouldn't mind struggling with money for a few years until he got a better job and everything if it meant we were married... We struggle with money anyway and we're not even married so I mean what difference does it make? I was shocked at his answer of about six years because he is quite a devout Muslim and I've asked him about marriage for his sisters or if he had a daughter and he said he wouldn't be happy with them doing Mutah, he said he would ask them 'Why not just permanently marry the person?' So I'm confused as to why he thinks it's fine for himself and me. I'm just looking for advice I guess, I don't want it to come to me leaving him because he wants to wait longer than I do, but I don't want to waste 6 years of my life waiting for us to be married and then what if he just keeps putting it off with the same reasons? It doesn't give me much faith or feeling of security in our relationship. Sorry for the long read i just had to get it off my chest and see if there's anyone else out there who's dealt with this kind of problem and am I rushing or am I making sense? I don't want to force him to marry me if he's not ready but if he's not ready and doesn't think he'll be ready for years then I don't want to waste precious moments you know what I mean?
  16. So I heard something on chat yesterday that blew me away. The conversation started with the topic about whether the wife should be told if a man does mutah and there were 2 groups. Both groups agreed that from a religious perspective, she does not have to be told but from a relationship perspective, should she be told about it. Anyway, that is not the issue. I may have interpreted it incorrectly but I think what I heard the other group say was that whenever a Muslim girl marries a Muslim man, she is subconsciously or consciously agreeing/accepting that he will marry other women (perm or temp). Is this true? @Inner Peace, @repenter
  17. Marrying a reverted Muslim

    Salam alaykum everyone I am asking for guidance here as I have nobody else to go to. I have a non Muslim friend that has always been interested in me. I always declined his offerings since he isn't Muslim. We still are friends though. I always hoped that he would revert to Islam since I want everyone I care for to see the truth. I never talked about it with him since I don't want to manipulate him I want him to see it himself. Lately he has been talking about converting to Islam, and talking about the possibility of us getting married. I am afraid that he is saying he is Muslim just to be able to marry me, but at the same time I am not the person to judge if a person is a true muslim or not. What do you guys think about this?
  18. Assalamun alaykum I am inshallah getting engaged soon But me and him are very clueless on how mutah is carried out.. Is there a written contract or we both can just verbally agree to a time frame,mahr and recite the mutaj I read that if u consumate the mutah then u have an iddah as a woman Now does consumating mean only intercourse or anything intimate means consumate..ik its a very silly question but m really worried How do we get out of it..lets say before the time frame is over we decide to get married How long before we get married do we get out of it and how do we get out of it And as i have nevr been married before..i hope u understand wat i mean..does my dad set down rules for him..like restrictions Please help Ahsant
  19. Salamalekum, I see a lot of people here giving advice to youths, if they are unable to do nikah temporarily or permanent than to do fasting. So i would like to ask those people that are giving such advices to someone to practice fasting in order to control their desires. That have you yourself practice this method, if so for how long. I am not talking about for couple of days, but i want to know if you tried fasting for long periods of time like months and years, until you were able to get married. Therefore, if you have practice this technique, can you please tell me how was your experience and are you still fasting?
  20. Hello everyone, Salam! So I am a guy first off, sorry if I offended anyone by posting in women's section but I am here nonetheless (I am a newbie). Recently I am nearing the end of finishing my professional education in the US (I am 26), and the thought of marriage has been going around in my mind recently. All my college, I never really thought about marriage, was busy with my studies and all but recently I have been looking around about what are my options. I am Shia of course, never had a gf or anything of that sort, and now I don't know where to even look. Some online dating sites for Shia like Shiamatch and other muslim sites I have been to.. it didn't go anywhere because the girls there are just lurkers. They don't even reply to messages. I could ask my parents and being asian my parents would find someone from the community but I want to find one myself. Hospital I work at and the town I live in is Western Pennsylvania and there barely are any muslim let alone a shia mosque. I don't want to do Muta or marry a christian/jew etc or anything of the sort. I can wait if I have to but after a certain time I feel like I would not be interested in marriage anymore. In my mind, if I hit 28 and is not married .. i would rather stay single because at that time I would be too much set in my ways to marry someone. Do you guys know any place where you look for guys? I really wish this forum should have a Thread where ladies or gents put their information if they are looking for someone or even if they know someone who is looking for a husband/wife and if anyone seem interested they can PM then for more information and then contact the parents to take things further. I will try to make one. Otherwise I am at a loss
  21. Salaam, Hope this finds all in the best of health and imaan inshallah. So Inshallah I am looking to get married in a couple of weeks and have never had any experience with women in my life whatsoever. It is going to be a typical traditional marriage, arranged by our parents. She will be moving into my family house to live with myself, along with my parents and my siblings (inshallah). We are of Indian descent, living in the west and are quite a traditional family (and so is she!). My question to the reader is that now that you've been married for a while now (Alhamdolillah) and have the knowledge and experience, what would you differently in the : 1) Wedding night 2) First week 3) First month 4) First 3 months 5) First 6 months 6) First year 7) First 5 years Any other advise would be highly appreciated as I don't have any elder brothers or cousins of a similar age who can give me guidance on this topic. I am also amongst the first to get married from my friends as well! Thanks! God bless all, through the Ahlulbayt AS inshallah.
  22. My parents have been divorced for 7 1/2 years..... I am now 17......I have a cousin on my father's side who I deeply admire, and want to marry once I get an education and a job.....(keep in mind, btw that my family and I are sunni)......i have expressed my wishes to my mother numerous times, who has responded with disgust, and even when I quote the quran and hadeeth, she says, "that applied for back then,"......now, she snapped and said that if I marry my cousin she will disown me.....this was about a week or so ago....what do I do?
  23. I am 17, and I am considering studying psychology, but in order to get a job I need at least a master's degree...and the girl I want to marry is my age (17), and so I'm worried if I wait until after I get my master's degree to court her, she'd have gotten married by then....and she also lives in another US state, so she would have to move about 6 hours by car....so my question to you is, would a sister want to marry a brother in grad school, because grad students don't make much money.....although her dad is an imam, so I'm sure she would be used to not having a lot of money....
  24. Salam Alekum, I am honored to officially announce registration for Heavenly Match @ Muslim Congress 2016 in Dearborn, MI, USA. Muslim Congress 2016 Promo Video In order to participate, you must first Register on Heavenly Match (takes a few minutes) Info and Registration Then Register for the Conference (takes another few minutes) Register for the Conferece When you register, it will ask you, 'Will you be participating in Heavenly Match ? " Say 'Yes'. That's it. Then when you get to the conference, look for the Heavenly Match sessions on the conference schedule and attend Information on the Sessions. Process. Step 1. There will be a big room with probably hundreds of brothers and sisters. (seated on opposite sides of the room). They will all wear badges with numbers. The moderator will go to each side and ask brothers and then sisters to stand up and give their name and maybe a short question (you will not be able to talk for more than one minutes, obviously given the size). Step 2: Brother write down the numbers of sisters they are interested in meeting. Sisters do the same with the brothers. Then they go to the Heavenly Match booth and tell the Heavenly Match personnel at the booth that they are interested in meeting this brother / sister. Note on Step 2. Please give registration a REAL and VALID Phone number. Many times, there is a match for a brother / sister but registration can't get ahold of them to tell them. It is a shame to put all that effort into this endeavor and lose out due to a wrong or invalid number. This number will not be shared with anyone outside registration until Step 4, should that occur. These numbers are only used for communication at the conference. After the conference, data is deleted. Another note of Step 2. Please treat the Heavenly Match Staff with respect and kindness. They are all volunteers, fe sibilillah, get no money for this, and cannot (by rules of Muslim Congress) actively participate themselves in Heavenly Match (looking for a spouse for themselves) if they are part of the Staff. Step 3: If there is agreement on a meeting between the brother and sister (both have to agree), then a chaperone meeting is set up between them. It is a conversation in a private area of the conference that lasts up to 1/2 hour, depending on the participants. Families are not allowed in the room at this point, but chaperone is there. After this conversation, brother and sister decide if they would like to take this to Step 4. If they both agree Note on Step 3. This step is not limited to one meeting. Brothers and sisters can have as many Step 3 meetings with different participants as agree to also meet them. We have had, in the past, brothers and sisters that have had up to 10 meetings over the 3 day conference. So if you didn't have luck with the first one, don't give up and lose hope. Step 4: If they both agree to a second meeting, meeting is set up with participants plus Alim who explains the marriage process and answers questions. Families are allowed to be involved at this point, and we highly encourage at least one family member to participate in Step 4 with brother / sister. If Step 4 is completed, then staff gives information of the other participant to each participant, then they are on their own to negotiate the rest of the marriage. Heavenly Match is out at this point. Notes on Heavenly Match Sessions. This is different from other marriage introduction services, as we try to keep it halal at all times. - There is no 'free mixing' of non mahram, unsupervised, at any point (as part of the sessions) - Modest Dress is required for all participants - Process is supervised and concluded by ulema. - Families are encouraged to participate in the process, at appropriate time. If brothers and sisters have further question, they can post on the thread or send me a PM. Also, if brothers and sisters are interested in participating, I highly suggest registering within the next few weeks. If you wait till end of July / beginning of August, probably all slots for Heavenly Match will be filled. They have filled up every year since 2011. Salam.
  25. Salaam, Has anyone been involved recently that can share there experience and what one can expect from it?
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