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  1. Plucking eyebrows halal?

    Interesting. Some people say men are allowed to groom their beards, so that they aren't unruly. I would imagine grooming your eyebrows is similar. But then some people say that you're not supposed to groom your beards (not sure if that's a wahabi thing or a sunni thing), by that logic, it would not be permissible to pluck your eyebrows. But if we're worried about changing Allah's creation, then should women be allowed to wear makeup? Should men/women be allowed to color their hair? Should we be allowed to wear perfumes that alter our natural smell? And may or may not also entice the opposite gender? I would argue that if done in a sensible manner, it's ok. I've got one totally random very thick hair that grows right in the middle of my two eyebrows, and one really long eyebrow hair in my right eyebrow that grows faster than the rest that I do pluck/cut as needed.
  2. Are there any Mutah networks?

    Right, but if you believe it was made haram during the life of the prophet (as Sunnis do), then you would believe it was initially halal in his life then haram similar to alcohol. And possibly for similar reasons. Now I'm not a Sunni, so I can't exactly say what they are taught, but my understanding is they aren't taught that it was made haraam by Umar. But that it was made haram by the prophet (that whole Khayber quote), however Umar just reinforced that prior ruling. Shia opinion is that the Khyber ruling was temporary or only applicable for a short while. Then it was made halal again (either by default or by a declaration that's not documented). Therefore Umar making it haram would be going against the resumption of it becoming halal again. You (and Shias) say that it was halal when the prophet passed away because you believe the khyber quote to be relating to a temporary period when it was not permissible, after which it defaulted back to halal. The issue isn't whether or not Umar did the right thing, the issue is whether it was made permanently haram on the day of khyber, or temporarily. Edit: I see Doctor Tareen said basically what I said.
  3. Are there any Mutah networks?

    Which hadith? Authenticated by whom? Is "he" Umar or Ali who endorsed mutah?
  4. Are there any Mutah networks?

    That's not true. They believe it was ok, then it was made not ok, both by the Prophet. And then Umar later said it was not ok, again. I mean even alcohol was prohibited in stages. What if mutah was at first permissible then make impermissible similar to alcohol? If Umar said alcohol was haram after the prophet had both permitted it then not permitted it, would you still find it interesting that "sunnis accept that an infallible human(the Prophet(S)) telling them something is okay and to also at later time accepting that a fallible human(umar) would tell them its not okay."
  5. Are there any Mutah networks?

    It is interesting to note that Umar (I think) had to say that mutah was haram. But Imam Ali never went back and overturned this. One would imagine that if a law was declared in error, the next person to come would make a declaration that the law was in error and mutah was never haram.
  6. Are there any Mutah networks?

    This "mutah network" idea doesn't sound shady at all. Anyways, I'm seeing a lot of emphasis on not having to do mutah with a Muslim. Whatever, I don't care who you do it with, if you choose to do it. But this emphasis creates the perception out there that western (i.e. non-Muslim) women are welcoming of advances of men wanting mutah. Or that we should "save 'our' women, and use the non-Muslim women" (about the nicest way I could put it). I still say that if you think one of your female family members (sister, mother, cousin, whatever) doing mutah would be somehow improper, then you're a hypocrite to seek out mutah with anyone, Muslim or not.
  7. Imam Madhi! Thread!

  8. Imam Madhi! Thread!

    1) You didn't say anything, but I just don't understand this infatuation with wanting him to return, or signs that he is giong to return. Why focus on some prophecy that may happen when you can focus on making ourselves better Muslims? It just reminds me of how Christians worship Jesus, say "he died for our sins," and then they do very little to make themselves better Christians (in many cases). 2) I care about others, but I have no desire to pray for the end times to come. I'll just let it come when it comes. I mean I'll do what I can to help them now, rather than hoping the end of the world comes to help them. Why not both? Because why pray for the end of the world. It'll come when it comes. Focus on now. 3) How does he ask us to pray for his reappearance?
  9. Imam Madhi! Thread!

    The obsession some Shia have with our 12th Imam is excessive in my opinion. It is like the evangelical christians that worship Jesus (PBUH) and want to hasten the end times so that he will return. He may be the 12th imam, but he's just another human being, just like our prophet, just like Jesus, just like Abraham, John, Adam, etc.
  10. I didn't know anyone seriously thought Saddam was a good leader in any form. He murdered his way into power, then continued murdering and raping (literally) for years, then let his sons rape and murder. Let's not forget the mass murder.
  11. Muslim men who marry Christian women

    Yeah, this is kinda where I'm at. My parents kept saying, "oh this person isn't right for you, that person won't make a good wife, this person is very this/that, etc." And unfortunately I just trusted that they knew what they were doing. Now they've almost switched and are scraping the bottom of the barrel, so to speak, telling me I should consider people are not near as religious as me, or are just very different personality wise. I've always thought I'd just leave it in their hands and trust them, but now I feel like I need to take over, but I almost don't know how. Do you mean a practicing Muslim? Because I know plenty that seek out relationships with non-Muslims. Or maybe it's unintentional, but they hand out with them at work, with other friends, and develop feelings for them, and then a relationship develops. But there are quite a few down in these parts that have relationships with non-Muslim women that turn into marriage.
  12. Muslim men who marry Christian women

    Another issue - while Muslim men can marry other people of the book, Muslim women cannot do the same. Assuming on average a 50-50 split between Muslim men and women, this can really put Muslim women at a disadvantage. Although I feel that in many cases, Muslim men who marry non-Muslim women aren't really practicing Muslims in many ways. Generally speaking, it is hard to marry a non Muslim without dating them first, and dating isn't exactly halal.
  13. Shiaa Matcher App

    So your answer to those who would choose to shun us is to shun them in return? To each their own I suppose.
  14. Marriage - Bias against women who do not wear veil

    Fair point. I've just always heard opponents of hijab, or those females that want to justify not wearing it, say "it's not required by the Qu'ran." And typically translations of that verse I've read don't define it that way, but say just "covering" or "veil" over their bosoms, which most take to mean just cover their cleavage. Wish I knew Arabic.
  15. Marriage - Bias against women who do not wear veil

    Sorry, I don't get it. And I don't mean to get too off topic, but where does it define hijab as we know it and say that it is wajib to dress that way?