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  1. Need help regarding marriage asap

    Don't ask us brother, pray to Allah, if it's means for you make it swift, if it isnt for you make it easy. My PERSONAL opinion, Love is a word that over-sell nowadays. Some forgot, that Allah are capable to turns someone heart as He likes. So, when you said, you love someone, it means, Allah makes you love that someone. Then comes the test, you love that someone more or you still love Allah. Anyway, despite whatever happen between you and your parents, don't forget akhlaq, that what separates people apart. Maybe (MAYBE) you can tell your mom," look mom, maybe your mom feel the same but she allowed you to get married with dad" or," you educated me very well mom, it's time for me to educate my kid... if you're afraid it's like you didnt trust whatever you did to me" or," look mom, your love is very beautiful, now i want to show this girl how beautiful love is, so she can realise i learned to love from my mom"... or," look mom, if you're afraid to lose me, imagine how i feel, because if following the norm i'll lose you first"... Got it? don't be too harsh with them. About fatwas, if they thinks Ayatullah Sistani (may Allah rewards him plenty), ask them which marja they follow... because i'm not mistaken, it require a total submission. Again, Personal opinion... Don't do it in secrecy... I don't think it need Religion in this, it's just humane... your parents raised you, put food in your mouth, put cloth on you, worried for you when you're sick... my advice, don't do it in secret. You'll be parent one day, and prey to Allah, when that day comes, your parents still around. Talk to them, invite close family, take them to someone they respect in the family, or some ulama/scholar maybe. Maybe, it's time for you to go to someone who REALLY knows you and your parent well, not us, we just random people with different perspective and culture-background, you NEVER met. We may gives good advice, but we're not living the consequences. I'm here for Al-'Asr. May Allah guides you in your good endeavor.
  2. Teaching children at their level

    Salam Brother and Sister, I hope my experience could help. My daughter ask me about soul once, back when she was 5 or 6. I had a chat with a friend who happen to be a psychologist who have expertise with children education. She told me, at that stage, children needs a concrete example, so less abstract explanation. Once they grow up a little, we can add more comprehensive on top what we already told them, like expanding the knowledge. So i told her," do you familiar with Cellphone?" she said yes, (please put in mind, this is the most simple explanation i came up for a 5-6 years old kids)... then i said," well, it's the same with human, we have soul, aql/akal, and body... Body is like the cellphone that you hold, soul is the battery, and aql/akal is the chip like our brain"... "so, if you take someone soul, it's like you taking out battery from your cellphone, it'll die".. "we buried the body like we throw away the cellphone", then she asked," what happen to the aql/akal or the chip?" ... i was perplexed, but i blurted out," well with human, aql/akal would continue and be questioned inside the grave, so with cellphone, we could check the chip, if it's good, we can use it for something else".... Then she said," but dad, your iphone doesnt have batteries that can be taken off" this is where i told her to go to her mom and ask for some candy. Anyway, kindly use a simple word when explaining to children, if you plan to use big words, make sure you have time to really walk your kids through. Because at this stage, whatever they got, it'll be the "first brick" to everything else. If you encounter some questions you can't answer, tell them," that's a very good question, you know what, let me check first and i'll let you know when i got the answer"... BUT, make sure you come back and answer it, because if it got repeated oftenly your kids wouldn't ask anything to you ever again," i won't ask dad/mom about anything, he/she never gave me answer". A quick helps for you @notme, before this life, you're with Allah, and Allah lend you to me, then when everything finished you'll return to Allah once more. If the kids asked, why through this process, Allah want you to decide for yourself whether you want to go to heaven or hell. Heaven is where all the good guy go while hell is where all the bad guy go. How to separate the good and the bad, Al-Qur'an. Why Al-Qur'an, because that's Allah guide book for life. Then you can continue with short du'a like Al-'Asr, good guys always reminds people to do good. Then Al-Hujurat, these are for akhlaq. What is good? Shalat, Zakat, helps other in other form then zakat, cover your body with garment, don't steal, etc. How we do this? ah, apparently we have Rasulullah (pbuh) who already set an examples on how to do things. There are several books available online for younger audience. Maybe you can check al-islam or http://www.shiabooksforchildren.com/children/ and here's a good one http://www.shiamultimedia.com/kidsbooks.html. Some quotes from our Imam about educating children https://moralsandethics.wordpress.com/2006/11/14/educating-children-wonderful-sayings-of-imam-ali-pbuh/. Well, i thought it'll be short. Salam.
  3. I am confused and i need your help!

    Salam All, Sorry, i just quickly read the posts, as usual. One quick question, This Girl in question, she had nikah (that what i got from Islamically marriage) with some guy, has she divorced (Islamically divorce) then? If she hasn't, leave. If she divorced, check the fiqh or your marja, married girl but not ... how do you put it... had **x in whatever form... does she have Iddah or not (the time frame where someone cannot married someone else, usually apply to Women). If not, good, move to next step, if she have, great, wait for couple of months, just to be sure she's not carrying someone else offsprings... Ultimately, do some shalat, ask Allah if she's good for you make things easy, if not, push her away and ease the pain. So, afterwards, whatever happens, just think that that's the best for you and submit to Allah's decision. You're 20... don't minggle in this kind of situation for too long. Remember, An-Nas, this is was-wasil honnas, those disturbing whispers. Make it swift brother... May Allah fasten your belief and swiftly solve your problem... Ah, sorry, the solution is already there... it's up to Allah, when you'll get that light. As our Imam said, Opportunity is slow to come but quick to leave, if you see one, take it. Salam.
  4. Predestination Vs Free Will

    Salam Brothers & Sisters, This is my perspective on the topic; You're destined to meet someone who hate shia, it's up to you whether you want to do taqqiyah or not. If you're destined to die on the meeting, any option you took it got it's own measurement on the scale. You have Al-Qur'an in your home, it's up to you whether you want to read it or not. You're destined to read Al-Qur'an, it's up to you whether you want to purify yourself before read it or not. You're destined to have a heart problem, it's up to you to take wine, other medicine, or get a surgery. You're destined to have sujud in shalat, it's up to you on how many dzikr you want to read. You're destined to be in Imam Zaman's army (insya'Allah), it's up to you whether you want to die on the front-line or help people in the medic tent. You're destined to be in a situation where you urgently need money, it's up to you whether you want to steal or pray. So, imho, predestined is Allah (SWT) region, while we as the creation we have the freewill to increase or decrease the quality. How to increase? go by Al-Qur'an. How to decrease? take the other way. I maybe destined to found this post in shiachat, it's up to me whether i keep silent or comment on it. But, i remember Al-'asr, i just hope whatever i did here (in this post) can bring goodness for me and others, insya'Allah. Salam.
  5. What Video Game Are You Playing These Days?

    I'm playing PlanetSide 2, those who looking an epic MMOFPS, try this one if you havent. and, Guild Wars 2... a bit too late...
  6. (salam), My one advice, Marry because you want to complete your religion. Specification? already in the Al-Qur'an. Wassalam.
  7. Who Is Superior, Prophets Or Shia Imam?

    (salam) Brothers & Sisters, I'd say we lock this discussion since it'll create turmoil in Islamic world. Lets think about our brothers and sisters who lived in non-shia-friendly country for awhile. This kind of discussion can threaten their life, although i'm more then willing to sell my soul for Rasulullah and The Imams.... If you're want to pursue this discussion, take it off the book. Taqqiyah is difficult brothers, not able to express and exercise your faith openly... please don't add more fuel to the fire. And please dont bring our great scholars by their name... sooner or later they'll start," see even their scholar...". Please consider my plea. Wassalam. Your brother from a non-shia-friendly-country
  8. [Help] Higher Level Study In Shi'ism

    Apparently there's a miss-translation... when i mean Al-Ghaeebee ... i mean Al-Ghayb or Al-Ghaib or Al-Ghaybee or Al-Ghaibi...
  9. [Help] Higher Level Study In Shi'ism

    (bismillah) (salam) Please note, my question may sounds sufi. But, what i'm truly means is; after studying Fiqh, i want to study about Allah, the ghaeebe part of Allah. 1) Is there such thing in Shi'ism? 2) if yes, what should i read? or where should i ask? After spending some time in ShiaChat's chatting room, i found out that shi'ism is aware of Ma'rifat. Where in Sufi, Ma'rifat were a stage after Syar'i (studying Fiqh, if i'm not mistaken), and the next stage is Tarekat. The top would be Hakekat. I apologise on how i structured the question, because, honestly, i dont know what to ask for. I was afraid this is like fatamorgana, it's there but when you reached the spot, it wasnt there... you know what i mean. it's never easy when asking about Al-Ghaeebee. Please help me. (wasalam)
  10. Salary And Parents

    (wasalam) I'm happy now you're working. These are my advices bro, its not necessarily in order. And PLEASE NOTE, its not you-culture-wise. So, it's like... this what i would've done. 1st of All... taxes brother. Have you include that into that? or does the company already paid it for you? 2nd of all... does your parents required you that much? i mean this measurement (you get 67 euros), are these from your parent or not? 3rd of all... savings. you do want to get married in the future right? like it or not, sometime to attract the opposite gender, requires some capital. get yourself a new cloth and some halal grooming products, you looks smart and smell nice. or, maybe you want your own apartment? or, want to go for 10 Muharram to Karbala? or Hajj. 4th of all... If you want to get down to numbers, check with your parents, how much they spend for your daily livings? groceries, electricity, internet and stuff... give them that much. BUT, buy them something nice once in a while. or take them to that fancy Lebanese restaurant... you know what i mean... 5th of all... get something on the side. Teach tajweed to kids, or your friends needs something and you know someone have it, or lets say you good at IT, upgrades PC, or lets say you good at finance, tax consultant... and stuffss... If things failing... say it for Khums sake. You realise you have to pay khums right. Say something like," how do i know how much khums i must pay, if i'm not controlling my financial?" Last resort, move out. Get yourself a place near your work area and try live your salary. By the end of the day, if you cannot manage it... you'll know why the 67 Euros... but hey, at least you tried. If you want to play smooth, get your parents in front of an aalim, have him reasoned your parents on why you should have more... Sorry for the rant bro. It happened to me, that time, i married and got out. My wive working, so double-income. (wasalam)
  11. Salam brother, I am looking for an Indonesian shia. please let me know if I can email you. thank you

  12. Are We Allowed To Kill?

    (bismillah) (salam) Brothers & Sisters, With the recent event that happened in France, the world's now focus on Islam. In my Facebook, Whatsapp, Path, etc. i'm seeing increasing broadcast activity stating that we're allow to kill someone who slander/ humiliate Rasulullah (pbuhahp). Some quoting a hadith, some quoting ayah from Al-Qur'an. Although, my logical argument would be," if the ummah are allowed to kill whoever humiliate Rasulullah (pbuhahp), then, 1/2 to 3/4 of Mecca's citizen would be killed during Rasulullah (pbuhahp) era". Anyway, could someone help me with "on what condition that we're allowed to kill?". So far, all i know: Self-Defense. or some might say defensive Jihad. Offensive Jihad. When the Imam (as) calls. Zina. Although there are steps to be taken, and usually the authority who executes. Murder. Although there are steps to be taken, and usually the authority who executes. Are there any more conditions that we're allowed to kill? (wasalam)
  13. How To Be A Qualified Imam To Lead A Prayer?

    (bismillah) (salam) Just got this from my "general islamic" majelis couple days ago. Although i haven't check it with my marja or general shi'ism practice, but i think (with my limitation) is good to know. When i mention The Imam or Imam, i refer to Prayer's Imam or General human being who leading a prayer, not THE Imams (as). The Imam must know and well-practiced the Rukn of Salat. Rukn means the wajib things to do in Salat. Astounding Al-Qur'an recitation. at least Al-Fatiha. By astounding, i means, know all the laws such tajweed and such. It's recommended that at least 1-2 person from the ma'mum (people who pray behind the Imam), also know and well-practiced the Rukn of Salat. These people pray straight behind the Imam, so, if, The Imam needs to leave the prayer for whatever the reason, these people available and ready to take the Imam's place. Also, these people would correct The Imam if The Imam's du'a recitation is wrong. There are also other thing such: The best Akhlaq in daily life, the best knowledge. There was also a consideration between a local/native and visitor/musafeer.Being asked to do so, instead of self-declared. But, i don't know about this.As i mentioned, these are from "General Islam" not Shi'ism. So, please check it first. If you got the information first before i do, please post it. (wasalam) After i post this, i went to the Islamic Jurisprudence and Law. Someone asked similar question. Someone replied with a link that answer your question; http://www.islam-laws.com/congregationprayer.htm
  14. What Is Bida Exactly

    (salam) Providing examples for OP to get a better understanding on Bidah. Another famous bid'ah... Congregation in Salat Taraweeh, furthermore salat taraweeh it self is new and never heard-of during the life-time of Rasulullah (pbuh&hp).Another would be Salat Dhuha... The based of Dhuha was "someone" thought it was called "salat dhuha"... Rasulullah (pbuh&hp), please correct me if i'm wrong, never mentioned any mustahab prayer called dhuha. Another, fasting on 10 of Muharram. The story i got was; Someone came to Rasulullah (pbuh&hp) saying, the jews are fasting during on 10th of Muharram got something to do with Nabi Musa (as). Then Rasulullah (pbuh&hp) said," really? okay we'll fast next year". Apparently Rasulullah (pbuh&hp) passed away before the next 10th of Muharram. Adding some explanation. Innovation in religion is permissible if it's not related to Ibadah. Ibadah means; Salat, Shaum/fasting, Zakat, etc. What's permissible innovation in religion? stuff that not exist in Rasulullah (pbuh&hp) era, such, genetics engineering or cloning. or what's the ruling on Al-Qur'an in tablet such iPad, do we need wudhu in touching iPad if it have Al-Qur'an in it? I hope i'm providing with the right information, Insha Allah. Otherwise, please correct me. (wasalam)
  15. What Do I Do With Him?

    Don't do anything more brother. You remind him, and that's it. The worst thing is, if you continue this act, it might hurt him. When someone hurt, no matter how much respect you shows, it still hurts. If i were you, first i apologise to him. Second, put the parfume anywhere he can see and tell him," look if you want to try it, here it is. If in 2 months you still refuse, i'd give it to someone else that might benefit for them". Third, after 2 months, don't forget to send the perfume to brother Khalillah or me.