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  1. Bismehe Ta3ala, Dear LCG, I was crying with this brother watching the news conference. God bless him and his parents, for raising an individual of morality, love and faith. M3 Salamah, FE AMIN Allah
  2. Living Mar. 20, 2017 | 12:14 AM Iran ‘mehrieh’ system lands thousands of divorced men in prison Eric RandolphAli Noorani| Agence France Presse TEHRAN: When Sadegh married his college sweetheart, he never thought he’d end up as one of those Iranians facing ruin and even prison because of huge sums demanded by his wife’s family. But the “mehrieh” (affection) system, in which future husbands agree to pay a number of gold coins to the bride in the event of divorce, has left thousands of men in Iran languishing in jail and many more destitute. “Our mehrieh was high, around 800 gold coins, but when we were planning the wedding, we didn’t think about how it might end,” said Sadegh, who was divorced last year after eight years of marriage. Each gold coin is worth around 10 million rials ($300). A worker on Iran’s average wage would need 50 years to earn 800 gold coins. “Even when the problems started and we talked about separation, it was supposed to be mutual and no mehrieh was going to be paid,” said Sadegh, who spoke to AFP on condition that his full name not be used. But then his wife’s family got involved, and suddenly Sadegh found himself in court where he was told to pay 110 coins instantly or go to jail. “The thought of ending up in prison for this, like in the movies, seemed ridiculous,” he said. “Mehrieh is good as a financial support for women in a patriarchal society like Iran, but it has become a business.” Pleading he was broke, the judge brokered a deal in which Sadegh agreed to pay the equivalent of 120 coins, one per month. That meant a decade of payments, each taking just under half his photographer’s salary. Then, five months in, he lost his job. It could have been even worse. At last count, the judiciary said some 2,297 men were in jail for failing to pay their mehrieh after a divorce. A glimmer of hope surfaced this week in Tehran, where a ceremony was held to celebrate the work of donors who pay off the debts of prisoners as a show of Islamic charity. They have freed 1,700 mehrieh-convicts over the past year. “Unfortunately, today competition among families has led to ever-increasing mehrieh,” said Hadi Sadeghi, a cleric and judiciary official who helps coordinate the releases. He said mehrieh, whose level is negotiated by the families at the time of a couple’s engagement as per Islamic custom, had lost its traditional function as a form of dowry for the newly-weds to buy furniture. Now the payment is usually delayed and brandished against men as a threat in case of divorce, or even worse, is used by unscrupulous families for extortion. “The worst case is when families turn it into a business. Boys need to be careful not to be deceived,” the cleric said. “Using mehrieh as a sword over the man’s head is wrong too. It only leads to more arguments and divorces.” Officials agree that mehrieh has in recent decades degenerated into a status symbol, and that families are often just too stubborn to back down when a marriage falls apart. “Many families, when they go to wed their girls, their first question is mehrieh,” said Alireza Afsary, from a foundation that supports prisoners. “Some laws need to be amended and some cultural and social issues need to change.” The courts have tried to intervene, saying they will only force husbands to pay a maximum of 110 gold coins, but even this is beyond the means of many Iranians. Still, many women see mehrieh as a way of redressing the balance for divorced women, who are often shunned by society. Some exchange mehrieh for promises they will be allowed to work or study, or have child custody in the event of a divorce. “A woman who gets married is always afraid of not having real rights at the time of separation, so she tries to guarantee her rights through mehrieh,” said Safi, a married woman in her 20s. But all agree it has done nothing to slow soaring divorce rates in Iran as the country modernizes and women enjoy increased freedoms. There were more than 165,000 this year, up 15 percent compared to five years ago. “If they are looking for ways to support women, and for men to show loyalty to their families, they should have new rules ... for example giving them a legal right to half the man’s property,” said another young woman, Shima, 28. As for Sadegh, he is trapped, still having to come up with 10 million rials a month despite being unemployed. He missed a payment. The threat of prison hangs heavy over him. “We were classmates and were together for a year or two before marriage. Her family said they have a tradition of high mehrieh and couldn’t reduce it. My family tried to refuse, but I loved her so we didn’t insist. “We thought everything was going to go on smoothly forever.”
  3. WORLD NEWS | Fri Mar 17, 2017 | 8:51pm EDT Senior U.N. official quits after 'apartheid' Israel report pulled A senior U.N. official resigned on Friday over the withdrawal of a report accusing Israel of imposing an "apartheid regime" on Palestinians, saying "powerful member states" pressured the world body and its chief with "vicious attacks and threats." United Nations Under-Secretary General and Executive Secretary for the Economic and Social Commission for Western Asia (ESCWA), Rima Khalaf, announced her resignation at a news conference in Beirut after U.N. Secretary-General Antonio Guterres asked for the report to be taken off the ESCWA website. ESCWA, which comprises 18 Arab states, published the report on Wednesday and said it was the first time a U.N. body had clearly charged that Israel "has established an apartheid regime that dominates the Palestinian people as a whole." Israel fiercely rejects the allegation and likened the report to Der Sturmer - a Nazi propaganda publication that was strongly anti-Semitic. The United States, an ally of Israel, had said it was outraged and demanded the report be withdrawn. "I do not find it surprising that such member states, who now have governments with little regard for international norms and values of human rights, will resort to intimidation when they find it hard to defend their unlawful policies and practices," Khalaf, of Jordan, wrote to Guterres. "It is only normal for criminals to pressure and attack those who advocate the cause of their victims," Khalaf wrote in the resignation letter, seen by Reuters, adding that she stands by the ESCWA report. Israel and the United States did not immediately respond to a request for comment on Khalaf's letter. U.S. Ambassador to the United Nations, Nikki Haley, said earlier on Friday that Khalaf's resignation was appropriate and Israel's U.N. Ambassador Danny Danon said it was "long overdue. "Anti-Israel activists do not belong in the UN," Danon said in a statement." "U.N. agencies must do a better job of eliminating false and biased work, and I applaud the Secretary-General's decision to distance his good office from it," Haley said in a statement. The report was published without consultation with the U.N. secretariat, U.N. spokesman Stephane Dujarric had said. RELATED COVERAGE U.N. chief accepts resignation over report on 'apartheid' Israel "This is not about content, this is about process," Dujarric told reporters in New York on Friday. "The secretary-general cannot accept that an under-secretary general or any other senior U.N. official that reports to him would authorize the publication under the U.N. name, under the U.N. logo, without consulting the competent departments and even himself," he said. One of the authors of the report was Richard Falk, a former U.N. human rights investigator for the Palestinian territories, whom the United States has accused of being biased against Israel. The ESCWA report said it had established on the "basis of scholarly inquiry and overwhelming evidence, that Israel is guilty of the crime of apartheid." While the report was taken off the ECWAS website, Khalaf told reporters: "Let me be clear, the report was issued ... and has impacts. The member states received copies of this report. And it is available." (Reporting by Ellen Francis in Beirut and Michelle Nichols in New York; Editing by Bernard Orr and Diane Craft)
  4. Bismehe Ta3ala It is not dangerous brother. Just a lot of searching at the border and security. But you need a syrian visa in order to go from the lebanese border. M3 Salamah, FE AMIN Allah
  5. March 10, you were last on SC.  Insh'Allah you are well and in good health.  Please update calander for Sayyida Fatimah's birthday and also the islamic mother's day.  Thank you.

    M3 Salamah, FE AMIN Allah 

    1. Anonymous


      @Laayla The calendar was updated. Can you see it?


  6. Bismehe Ta3ala Assalam Alikum Find where the momineen are and live amongst them. I found many in Lebanon and was very happy. I found many in Iran and felt at home. Wherever you go in this world look for the momineen, look for the quiet people. Look for those people who like to serve others FE SABIL Allah M3 Salamah, FE AMIN Allah
  7. Bismehe Ta3ala, Assalam Alikum. Not one race or one type of people from a certain country is more important or significant than another. We can look at who the mustad3feen are and I see shia Bahrains are in a huge prison. I see Yemenis dying from starvation and they have no aid because wahabi scum have treated them horribly long before they were bombing them and destroying their homes. As Hassanain says what about African countries, every year Somali experiences drought and the recent news of Boko Haram raiding villages in Nigeria and looting homes and taking food. When we make du32 we say mo2mineen wal mo2imeenat, we make du32 and say kul, meaning every person. For example, ya Allah feed every hungry person, quench every thirsty person, clothe every undressed person. M3 Salamah, FE AMIN Allah
  8. Starts at 3:24 Know your religion.
  9. Sister Hameedah, thank you sister. May um al baneen intercede on your behalf for remembering her.
  10. My apologies to you and the other sisters. l posted in the sisters' forum without knowing it.


    1. Laayla


      No brother, you are free to post on the thread.  I'm very worried about this sister.  Marriage is already difficult, and I know you went through a hard divorce.  Thank you for responding.  

  11. Bismehe Ta3ala, Assalam Alikum If you have the will and capability, and you find a sister who will be a mother of your children, more power to you. Allah yassir amrak. M3 Salamah, FE AMIN Allah
  12. Bismehe Ta3ala, Assalam Alikum. I think one of the most devastating thing that can happen in this world is when the husband/father tells his children not to trust their mother. The details: A sister was born in a sunni family. She was educated in a wahabi school system and started to follow that sect. She held her beliefs until she was enlightened to the school of Ahulbayt during her university years. She was introduced to a shia man and ended up marrying him because she was now practicing the jafari school of thought and married him in essence of him being shia too, and where she would have no restrictions to attend majalis and practice her faith freely. The marriage was like this for a good decade and suddenly the tide have turned. The husband has started questioning her beleifs as a shia asking her questions involving wiliyat taqwaniya, why she believes that Imam Mahdi gets a record of every shia each week of their actions, asking imams directly for hajjat instead of Allah and many other issues. He has resorted in accusing her as a ghulat (those who ascribe ahulbayt as same place as Allah). This has effected their marriage to the point where he has told his children not to trust her, forbid them to go to majalis with her, and children questioning her beliefs and doubting her. This sister is devastated, heartbroken and in depression because her husband has harmed her and her relationship with her children. The husband is shia with taqleed of sayyid Ali Khamanei, but I'm thinking he has influence over Sayyid Mohammad Hussain Fad'Allah with all these ideas he believes. The sister is in a lot of pain because the husband has turned the children against her and they doubt all her decisions. She was beginning not to share her thinking with her husband of her religious beliefs and then he accused her of hiding. The husband lives abroad. He has forbidden her from listening, attending certain Islamic circles. The sister sees this as her trial and is trying to do tasleem but she is worried about her children, about receiving islamic guidence. The school is secular, the father is abroad and he has convinced his children she is mugali. The damage has been done and it is a turning point on these children. Please your advise on this matter. This has been bothering me in my salat, all day it has affected me. I can't imagine what she is going through experiencing this. What can I do as a friend? What should the sister do in this relationship? M3 Salamah, FE AMIN Allah
  13. Three months later, still not resolved.