Abu Hadi

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  1. By the above, I'm guessing you're not a parent. Just a guess, maybe I'm wrong. Parents don't become this super enlightened, completely non selfish being the minute their first child comes home from the hospital. As their child is developing, they are developing into the role of a parent, it happens gradually, and in some cases it never happens. Parents are human beings. Although, most parents do find joy in being a part of their children's lives, there are millions of different definitions of 'being a part of your child's life' . Most parent's don't find joy in changing diapers, staying up till 2 am helping their child prepare for a test then wake up at 7 to go to work (during Ramadan), or waiting in a 100 degree parking lot. They do it because they fell it is their responsibility as a parent, and if they are mumin/a, because they know that Allah(s.w.a) will be pleased with them for making the effort to help and raise their children. But to describe these things as 'joyful', not really. This is a myth that mostly comes from non parents, sorry to say.
  2. That is a whole other topic. If you want my response, please make a thread regarding this. Questioning is one thing, denying is another. Questioning means you have still not been convinced by evidence that shaking hands is haram. There is nothing wrong with questioning, and it is actually a positive thing that helps increase your knowledge of religion. If that is the case, I would be glad to post evidence. Denying (kufr) means you have already been convinced by the evidence that something is haram, but still insist on doing it and not thinking it is wrong and not asking for forgiveness. They are two totally separate things. About Torah and Bible. If you are muslim, then the Quran as well as authentic hadith is the final criteria for you whether you do something or not. The Bible and Torah, although they do have some authentic pieces of the original revelation that was sent down to Prophet Musa(a.s) and Prophet Isa(a.s), many other parts have been added, deleted, and changed around by people. So they are not an authoritative source.
  3. It's probably the most complicated of the wajib things, but it's not rocket science (lol). I would recommend you learn in a group setting or at a masjid. When someone became muslim during the time of Rasoulallah(p.b.u.h), he used to tell them to make ghusl (a shower where you start with washing your head, then right side, then left side in sequence), then he would teach them two rakats (two units) of prayer. So maybe start with that. The ghusl is to wash away your sins, because when you become muslim all sins that you committed before your Shahada are forgiven unless those sins involve oppression and taking the rights of others. That's a huge blessing which most people on this site who were born muslim wish for.
  4. Please email me at jkassim99@gmail.com. I will reply with info for my contact in L.A.
  5. He should not have done the debate based on those terms. There should have been a moderator, and when the Salafi started violating the terms of the debate, he should have said 'I will not continue unless you stick to the terms agreed upon'. And then left the debate if he continued. The Salafi would have said that he won and the guy walked out because he was losing, but we have video, so people could have made up their minds based on that. Seriously, when I was in college, I was on the speech and debate team. If a debator didn't abide by the agreed upon terms for the debate and kept going off topic like the Salafi guy did, the debate would have ended fairly quickly. We shouldn't debate unless terms are agreed upon, topic is agreed upon and both parties stick to the terms of the agreement. Otherwise, it devolves into nonsense and shouting, which favors the Salafi's and not us because their religion is based on nonsense and shouting and not on facts.
  6. There is a big difference between shaking hands, then realizing you did something haram, and asking Allah(s.w.a) to forgive you vs. your attitude, which is 'I will decide what I accept and don't accept of the religion, and then practice only what I accept'. The first instance is a sin, which will be forgiven by Allah(s.w.a), because He(s.w.a) knows that you live in a society where it is nearly impossible to avoid shaking hands with non mahram completely. (I am assuming you live in a Western Country). I live in the US and work in a place where there are very few Muslims, so I completely understand how difficult this hand shaking thing is. The second is an instance where you are doing 'kufr' (disbelief, ungratefulness to God). I am not saying you are a kafir. Though both are dangerous, the second type, which you seem to be doing, is much more dangerous because one act of kufr leads to other acts of kufr which could eventually lead you to becoming kaafir(being a non muslim). Because once you have decided one part of the religion doesn't suit you and you don't want to follow it, it is very easy to start doing that with other parts of the religion until your religion is gone and you are muslim in name only, but not in reality. A muslim is someone who when he knows something is an order from God(s.w.a), he tries his best to follow it and doesn't deny it, although he makes mistakes. But when he makes mistakes he asks for forgiveness and tries to avoid doing the same thing in the future. That is a muslim, anything else isn't. It is very clear from teaching of Rasoulallah(p.b.u.h) and Imams(a.s) that we are not allowed to have ANY deliberate physical contact (skin to skin) with non mahrams (there are a few exceptions, doctors in an emergency setting, etc). Shaking hands is skin to skin deliberate physical contact, unless you are wearing gloves.
  7. The priorities are what are called the wajibat (required acts). They are often reffered to as the 'Five Pillars' 1) Salat (Prayer). 2) Saum (Fasting during Ramadan) 3) Hajj (Pilgrimage to Mecca during the Islamic month of Dhul Hijja). This is only required if one is able to make the journey, i.e. has the money and the time to do it, but once you have the money and the time, it is then required (wajib). 4) Zakat (no good translation in English). This is basically a required form of charity in which you give 20 percent of your excess income or savings after one year. Excess means money left over after you have paid all your living expenses, so basically savings. If you have no savings, then this doesn't apply. There is also Zakat on others things like crops, livestock, etc, but since you live in L.A I am assuming that part doesn't apply to you. 5) Tauhid. It is mandatory to believe that there is One God with no Partners or associates, sons, etc. We, the followers of Ahl Al Bayt(a.s), say that there are actually another 4 pillars, which are the required beliefs (the 'Five Pillars' above are agreed on by all muslims, albeit with slight differnces between them in how these are actually practiced) The additional four pillars of belief are 1) Adl (Divine Justice). Belief that God is Just and Fair in everything and doesn't oppress anyone. 2) Nabuwwat(Prophethood). Belief that God reveals his message to people thru Prophets and Messengers. These include the first, which was Prophet Adam(a.s) to the last which was Prophet Muhammad(p.b.u.h). These also include most of the Prophets mentioned in the Bible(albeit we don't accept all the stories in the Bible about their actions) such as Nuh(Noah), Ibrahim(Abraham),Ayyub(Job),Lut(Lot), Yusuf(Joseph), Ishaq(Issac), Yaqub(Jacob), Musa(Moses), Harun(Aaron), Elias(Elias), Dawood(David), Sulaiyman(Soloman), and I'sa(Jesus), may peace and blessings be upon all of them. All these are mentioned in the Holy Quran. 3) Imamate. We believe that God would never leave the world without a guide that has authority from Him(s.w.a). After Prophet Muhammad(p.b.u.h), there are twelve leaders who carry Divine Authority and knowledge necessary to guide humanity toward the right path that is pleasing to God.The first was Imam Ali(a.s), then his sons, Imam Hassan(a.s), then Imam Husain(a.s), Then Ali son of Imam Husain(a.s) called Zain Al Abedeen (ornament of the worshippers)(a.s), then Muhammad son of Ali called Bakir(a.s), then Jaafar son of Muhammad called Sadiq(the truthful)(a.s), then Musa son of Jaafar called Kathim(the one who restrains his anger)(a.s), then Ali son of Musa called Reda(the well pleased with God)(a.s), then Muhammad son of Ali called Jawad(the generous)(a.s), then Ali son of Muhammad called Hadi(the guide)(a.s), then Hassan son of Ali called Al Askari(the name of the region in Iraq where he lived)(a.s), then the living Imam(who is currently alive but in occultation) called Al Mahdi(the guided one), Al Muntathir (the Awaited One), and many other titles. (a.f.s). On a side note, at least three(maybe more) of our Imams(a.s) had mothers who came from the region of North Africa(Morocco, Algeria, Tunisia), where your family is from 4) Al Ghaib (belief in the unseen). We are required to believe in the unseen world, heaven, hell, the life in the grave (alim al Barzakh), and the Day of Judgement.
  8. Here are a few books which I recommend. They give a good introduction for the foundation of Islamic beliefs. First one is philosophy, not lite reading, but a good summary of belief in God and Prophets, and Prophet Muhammad(p.b.u.h) https://www.al-islam.org/revealer-messenger-message-sayyid-muhammad-baqir-al-sadr/part-3-message#islam This is about belief in Allah(s.w.a) specifically, very good introduction https://www.al-islam.org/god-and-his-attributes-sayyid-mujtaba-musawi-lari
  9. Congratulations brother, Are you fasting ? My original contacts which I tried to reach out to are not responding. I am still working on getting someone for you to speak with. Give me a few more days, InShahAllah(God Willing) I will get ahold of someone. In the mean time, If you have any questions, you can post here and I will try to respond ASAP.
  10. We should really take these theories with a grain of salt. The political, financial, academic, and entertainment elites (worldwide) are linked with each other and have their own little elite clubs and gatherings where they plan things. These things affect the rest of us in a real and most of the time negative way. Whether on top of that, they get together and worship the devil or idols, etc, noone really knows since the gatherings are secret and probably none of us are in this elite club so , therefore, no evidence. We shouldn't accept conspiracy theories where there is no or very little credible evidence for them. We are, in fact, controlled thru being subservient to political and economic systems which serve only those at the very top. This is something very obvious. There are groups, such as right wing christian and other groups who deliberately post garbage and nonsense about these elites in order to distract people from the fact that they are stealing from us in front of our face, not behind our backs (thru the global financial systems which destroy the middle class and the poor thru riba', interest and the clever schemes based off of it. ) If you sit and do a calculation of your monthly income, then deduct all the taxes you pay and then all the interest you pay (on mortgages, car loans, credit cards, etc), you will find that this is a significant percentage of your income which you get next to nothing back in return for paying. Then you see that most of the business in the world is controlled by a few companies at the very top Global Energy Resources - Exxon Mobile, BP, Aramco, Total, plus a few others Access to Information - Google, Facebook, Twitter, plus a few others World Money Supply - US Federal Reserve E commerce - Amazon, Alibaba etc, list goes on. So your world is controlled by a handful of corporate executives, and government leaders who are working for their own interests and not for yours. That is not a conspiracy, it is reality, unfortunately. Most of the other 'conspiracies' pail in comparison to that.
  11. If OP wants to know Who is God in the view of Islam, this video summarizes it in a few minutes. Words of Imam Ali(a.s), the father of Imam Husain(a.s)
  12. I added those ^
  13. Bismillah Ar Rahman Ar Rahim وَقَالَ الشَّيْطَانُ لَمَّا قُضِيَ الأَمْرُ إِنَّ اللّهَ وَعَدَكُمْ وَعْدَ الْحَقِّ وَوَعَدتُّكُمْ فَأَخْلَفْتُكُمْ وَمَا كَانَ لِيَ عَلَيْكُم مِّن سُلْطَانٍ إِلاَّ أَن دَعَوْتُكُمْ فَاسْتَجَبْتُمْ لِي فَلاَ تَلُومُونِي وَلُومُواْ أَنفُسَكُم مَّا أَنَاْ بِمُصْرِخِكُمْ وَمَا أَنتُمْ بِمُصْرِخِيَّ إِنِّي كَفَرْتُ بِمَآ أَشْرَكْتُمُونِ مِن قَبْلُ إِنَّ الظَّالِمِينَ لَهُمْ عَذَابٌ أَلِيمٌ Quran 14:22 And when everything will have been decided, Satan will say: "Behold, God promised you something that was bound to come true! I, too, held out [all manner of] promises to you -but I deceived you. Yet I had no power at all over you: I but called you-and you responded to me. Hence, don't blame me, but blame yourselves. It is not for me to respond to your cries, nor for you to respond to mine ; for surely, I have never admitted that there was any truth in your vain belief that I had a share in God's divinity." Verily, for all evildoers there is grievous suffering in store. One of the obligations of this Holy month is to examine our lives and our actions up to this point and see where we went wrong. For sure, all of us have made mistakes during this past year. As many wise men have said, a mistake does not become an error unless we refuse to learn from it. Since we are not supposed to 'confess our sins to other than Allah(s.w.a)' in Islam, I will look at some common mistakes made by younger muslim/as in the West (where I live) in order that we lessen the occurrence of these. Mistake #1, Arrogance قَالَ اللَّهُ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ الْكِبْرِيَاءُ رِدَائِي وَالْعَظَمَةُ إِزَارِي فَمَنْ نَازَعَنِي وَاحِدًا مِنْهُمَا قَذَفْتُهُ فِي النَّارِ Allah the Almighty said: Pride is my cloak and greatness is my garment, so whoever competes with me regarding these two will be thrown into the Hellfire. Source: Sunan Abu Dawud 4090, The greatest and most insurmountable barrier between us and Allah(s.w.a) is Arrogance and haughtiness. It is related in many hadiths that any person who has an atom of arrogance, haughtiness, or racism (another form of arrogance) in his heart will never even smell the smell of paradise which can be smelled at a distance of 1000 years journey. Surely the main characteristic of those whom the Quran condemns, i.e. the worst people and beings ever to exist, had common traits and those were arrogance, haughtiness, racism and prejudice. The first act of arrogance and prejudice was committed by Satan himself and it is the cause of him getting dismissed from the company of the angels. قَالَ مَا مَنَعَكَ أَلاَّ تَسْجُدَ إِذْ أَمَرْتُكَ قَالَ أَنَاْ خَيْرٌ مِّنْهُ خَلَقْتَنِي مِن نَّارٍ وَخَلَقْتَهُ مِن طِينٍ ( [And God] said: "What has kept thee from prostrating thyself when I commanded thee?" Answered [Satan]: "I am better than him: You have created me out of fire, whereas him You have created out of clay قَالَ فَاهْبِطْ مِنْهَا فَمَا يَكُونُ لَكَ أَن تَتَكَبَّرَ فِيهَا فَاخْرُجْ إِنَّكَ مِنَ الصَّاغِرِينَ 7:13 [God] said: "Go down from this [state] -for it is not for you to show arrogance here! Go out, then: you will remain amoung the humiliated" At the same time, the Prophets of Allah(s.w.a) and Imams of Ahl Al Bayt(a.s) were those who share a common characteristic of being the most humble before God. In their hadith and duas, they state over and over again that they are nothing and only Allah(s.w.a) is great and the source of all greatness. They considered themselves as one of the people and not above them. Here is a small excerpt from the Munajat (whispered supplication) of Imam Ali(a.s) My Lord, O my Lord, You are the Master and I am the Slave, and who else can be merciful to the slave except the Master? mawlaaya yaa mawlaaya antal mawlaa wa anal a’bdu wa hal yarh’amul a’bda illal mawlaa مَوْلايَ يا مَوْلايَ أَنْتَ الْمَوْلىٰ وَأَنَا الْعَبْدُ وَهَلْ يَرْحَمُ الْعَبْدَ إِلّا الْمَوْلىٰ My Lord, O my Lord, You are the Owner and I am the one owned by You, and who else can be merciful to the owned except the owner? mawlaaya yaa mawlaaya antal maaliku wa anal mamlooku wa hal yarh’amul mamlooka illal maalik مَوْلايَ يا مَوْلايَ أَنْتَ الْمالِكُ وَأَنَا الْمَمْلُوكُ وَهَلْ يَرْحَمُ الْمَمْلُوكَ إِلّا الْمالِكُ My Lord, O my Lord, You are the Mighty and I am the low, and who else can be merciful to the low except the Mighty? mawlaaya yaa mawlaaya antla a’zeezu wa anad’ d’aleelu wa hal yarh’amud’ d’aleela illal a’zeez مَوْلايَ يا مَوْلايَ أَنْتَ الْعَزيزُ وَأَنَا الذَّليلُ وَهَلْ يَرْحَمُ الذَّليلَ إِلّا الْعَزيزُ My Lord, O my Lord, You are the Creator and I am the creature, and who else can be merciful to the creature except the Creator? mawlaaya yaa mawlaaya antal khaaliqu wa anal makhlooqu wa anal makhlooqu wa hal yarh’amul makhlooqa illal khaaliq مَوْلايَ يا مَوْلايَ أَنْتَ الْخالِقُ وَأَنَا الْمَخْلُوقُ وَهَلْ يَرْحَمُ المَخْلُوقَ إِلّا الْخالِقُ My Lord, O my Lord, You are the Glorious and I am the miserable, and who else can be merciful to the miserable except the Glorious? Iblis(Satan) is not an angel, but a being known as the Jinn. They share the characteristic with humans in that they have free will, desire, and intellect. Because Satan knows we have these characteristics, and he blames us (human beings) for his expulsion from the company of angels and those near to God, he is always trying to get us to twist those faculties of free will, desire, and intellect in a way that causes us to become arrogant, so that we can share his fate of being amoung the lost and humiliated. Overcoming Arrogance The first step to overcoming arrogance is to realize that you are not immune from becoming arrogant. All of us are just as susceptible to falling into this trap. Whatever quality that you have that differentiates you from others, whether it is knowledge, wealth, social status, race, culture, lineage, looks, youth, skill, charitable acts, large amount of time spent in religious devotion, etc, Satan will come to you at some point to try to convince you that you are better than others because of that, and because you are better than others, or even better than a specific person or group of people, therefore you have the right to treat them in a way that is not just and fair and not in keeping with Islamic Aklaq (manners). If this arrogance is not manifest in concrete action, it may become manifest in thoughts, such as judging others. While we can condemn specific actions of people, we should never use these actions to draw a decisive conclusion about them, such as 'that is a bad person', 'they are going to hell', etc. Noone knows this except Allah(s.w.a) and if the person is still above ground and breathing, they have the ability to repent and change their life around and they might end up in a higher level of paradise than we are. The arrogance may never be manifest in actions, but may stay in your heart and if you die with this arrogance and racism and prejudice in your heart, it will be a huge liability against you on the Day of Judgement and may push you into hellfire. The way to get rid of it is, second, to do certain actions which decrease arrogance. There are many recommended and some required actions in Islam which can do this. Giving charity anonymously is one of the best ones and also giving charity to the point where it affects your life, i.e. giving enough where you have to give up some of the 'extra' things which you love. Visiting the sick is another one, it shows you that you are always in a precarious state and only kept healthy by the grace and mercy of Allah(s.w.a). Another is thinking about death and attending funerals. Another is helping brothers and sisters with their needs, even if helping them will cause some loss and some inconvenience or may expose you to a (reasonable) amount of risk. Helping your muslim/a brothers and sisters with their needs is counted as the greatest tool we have to avoid arrogance. May Allah(s.w.a) protect all of us from the greatest barrier to guidance from Him(s.w.a), which is arrogance. "The piece of dirt you were born on is no better than the piece of dirt I was born on, because every piece of dirt belongs to Allah(s.w.a) and you did not choose where you were born and neither did I. " Abu Hadi.
  14. I have messaged my contacts. When They respond, I will forward the response to you and try to set something up. Salam and Shalom
  15. And what are the two countries in the region that the IS crazies have never attacked.... Saudi and Israel. Hmmmmm