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  1. Secret second marriage

    It says "does not need consent", but is he allowed to HIDE it? Big difference between the 2 words.
  2. Salaam, I am pretty sure there are exceptions to the rule. For example my father is a very moderate sunni (and who unfortunately is very easily persuaded by my shia-hating mother) while I am a shia myself. I would hate to think that there would be such restrictions for my daughter.
  3. Desire for a huge family

    Assalaam Alaikum, nothing wrong with wanting to have a big family, as LONG as you want one for the right reasons (making sure they're brought up in the love of Allah SWT and the Ahle Bayt A.S, grow up to serve Allah SWT and do good for the Ummah and not for the sake of showing off to others or competing with someone as to who has the larger family) AND if you're willing to make a lot of sacrifices (as some have said above, one parent being home FULL-TIME as opposed to baby-sitting or daycare and NOT STICKING them in front of the TV just to get some alone time). If you have the right and sincere intention, then with the Guidance of Allah go ahead and don't worry, He will provide for you and your family. Before any of my kids I was on a very fixed single income and still am and had no idea of how I was going to provide for a family. But Allah SWT has Blessed me with four beautiful kids AlhumduLilah and so far everything is working out perfectly. I love all my children to death, and would give my life for them just to see them happy. But even with that being said, there are times where they drive me and my wife ABSOLUTELY INSANE and it is a LOT of work!!!! lol so just keep all that in that if you are willing to put up with all of that and have the rightful intention, everything should be alright.
  4. Dream Interpretation

    Salaam, well I don't think it can get any clearer than that. Ask through the waseela of Ahle Bayt A.S and especially Bibi Faatima S.A and Abbas A.S and make a sincere mannat yourself (any vow that YOU feel is enough, like sponsoring a majlis in your house every year for Hazrat Abbas A.S, or that if you have a son you will name him Abbas and deidcate him to the religion or if a daughter you will name her Faatima etc). Point is this is YOUR journey and you should do something from your heart whatever you feel like is enough and not necessarily take anyone else's advice word by word here. Why be upset and worried? I would LOVE to have clear and beautiful dreams such as these. And why doubt yourself in being naik or pak? As I quoted the incidents above, even non-believers and mushrikeens have had their hajjat fulfilled by the Ahle Bayt A.S, they are for everyone not just for shias. So ask Allah SWT through them and through their waseela as has been mentioned in the Quran, Surah 5 verse 35. InshAllah all will be well, just DONT ignore the message in the dreams and act upon them asap.
  5. Sunni girl talking about shias

    dude take it easy, in this video she is not saying whether shiaism is right or no, the ENTIRE video is just her criticizing the SUNNIS who say shias are wrong to commemorate and mourn for Imam Hussain A.S. and she is making a full case for shias being justified in the way they commemorate Ashura and Muharram etc. Whatever her other views are or may be judge this video for what it is, a full rebuke to anti-shia/muharram/matam sunnis.
  6. Saudi Arabia Arrests 11 Princes

    This is very serious, in the past 48 hours: -Lebanese PM resigns WHILE IN RIYADH saying that Iran and Hezbollah are trying to assassinate him (which the Lebanese army officially even said yesterday that they have found no such plot). -17 Princes arrested along with the head of the national guard -The SON OF THE FORMER CROWN PRINCE who was replaced by the current crown prince bin Salman was killed in helicopter crash along with 7 other government officials - Houthis fire missile at Riyadh airport and KSA blaming Iran for it which Iran denies KEEP IN MIND that this comes a few weeks after the Saudi Crown Prince meetings with Netanyahu and Trump AND the CIA report which implicates Iran having ties with Al Qaeda (yeah you read that right) and Iran's possible involvement with 9/11. Too many coincidences in such a short period of time don't you think? I really fear we are about to see a ground invasion of lebanon by Israel and Yemen by KSA very soon. Allah SWT Help us all.
  7. Parents Mistreat Wife and I - HELP

    Salaam brother, very sad situation. I've gone through it myself. First of the GOOD news is that you have your own place as that is a huge help (me and my wife had to endure for 7 years before we were able to afford our own place). While it is true that EVERYTHING you have in your life and everything that you are you owe to your parents, but what you don't owe is the willingness to take abuse. You have to be completely obedient to your parents EXCEPT when they are acting wrongly and want to commit wrong on you, in which case you are allowed to disobey them. If you really endure that kind of abuse, in a GENTLE and CALM voice tell them what exactly they say that hurts you and your wife and unless they promise to stop you (for the sake of your family and marriage) cannot be together at any event unless they change (and then stop meeting them until they comply, even if that takes ages, it's tough but necessary as they have no right to destroy your marriage). The reason for this is in the Quran, Allah SWT tells Musa to preach to Pharoah in a GENTLE voice (that although he was one of the worst human beings to have ever lived in history and not even Musa's A.S biological father, since he raised Musa A.S in his household that's why Musa A.S must show him that respect), in similar way you must show that respect as well, but take a hard stand when you must. A lot of parents didn't accomplish certain things in their lives, so they choose to live through their children, or take their frustrations out on their children and in-laws, and try to implement their family culture from back home and the old times into today's youths. This is a trait I find with many people from the Middle East and especially within Indo-pak community. It is sad but remember as with every tough thing in life it is a test, know what your obligations are and at the same time what your rights are and act accordingly. Best of luck brother. Salaam.
  8. Dream Interpretation

    Oh WOW, I may be wrong here and only Allah SWT Knows Best, but my thoughts (and again strictly only my thoughts which may or may not be correct) is that the beautiful boy you saw in your dream was indeed your baby boy which you lost last year, and that it was members of the Ahle Bayt A.S in your dream that were showing you that Allah SWT and them are personally taking care of him and in what a beautiful and wonderful environment he is in, and just how happy and waiting he is to be reunited with you in the next life inshAllah. I remember very clearly how my grandmother suffered so much during her last few years of her life because she went blind and was very sick and how when she finally passed I was still so sad and depressed at the amount of suffering she went through, but then one night I remember I just randomly prayed a 2 rakat nawafil prayer and gifted it to Imam Hussain A.S (after never having done such a thing before, this was still during my sunni-shia conversion days) and that night I saw a dream of my grandmother being so happy and being able to see in the environment she was in. Definitely if you can please try to hold a majlis in your house annually as per your dream, and InshAllah many happy times await you in this life and the next. All my prayers are with you and your family
  9. Dream Interpretation

    Walaikum Assalaam Sister, I am very sorry for your painful times. You had a very beautiful dream MashAllah and I agree with the poster above, make the pledge that if you have a boy that you will name him Abbas in honor of Hazrat Abbas A.S. (Or ANY pledge you want, just make sure it's from the heart). I cannot tell you how many numerous similar incidents have happened to people I know and others that I have read about (even some I have experienced myself). Here are some personal and non-personal (and btw I used to be Sunni, and am now Shia AlhumduLilah, doesn't mean you have to convert either but definitely see where the true blessings lie i.e Ahle Bait A.S) 1) My daughter had a serious heart condition and required surgery, I went to Umrah and Ziyarah of Iraq and made tons of duas for her to get better and not have to get surgery, I remember for some reason I made a special different dua beside the grave of Imam Hussain A.S, using Imam A.S's waseelah I made a dua and pledge to Allah to cure my daughter and not to have get surgery done and that if he blesses me with a son, I will name him Hussain and dedicate him to the religion, I KID YOU NOT THAT when I went back to my hotel from the haram and called my wife in Canada to see how she was doing (and i did not tell her what i did) she told me she that she just had a dream where she was told she had a son named Hussain. When I got back surely enough we found out my daughter got well and no longer required the surgery and a few months later we had a son whom we named Hussain 2) Very recently in India a cleric was recently telling us the story of a brahmin hindu who saw an Ashura procession walking past him. He and his wife were married for 10 years and could not have a child. He had heard merits about making hajjat under the Alam of Abbas A.S so he made a pledge under the Alam (perhaps mockingly as he probably didnt believe in it) that if he gets a son he will bury him alive. Surely enough his wife was soon expecting and they became very joyous after a son was born but then he remembered his pledge and because he valued his honor and his word a lot he decided to go ahead with what he promised, he secretly took his baby son out at night and told his wife not to ask him questions, and painfully buried his son alive. When he got back home crying he saw his wife was holding the same baby in her arms and first he got angry and asked why she followed him and disobeyed him. The wife said she didn't, and that a short while after he left there was a knock on the door, and a tall man was holding their baby and gave him to the mother and told the mother "tell your husband that what we the Ahle Bayt A.S give, we don't take back" 3) There's a sunni family i know of in Pakistan, where the patriarch suffered chronic knee pains (for about 10 years straight) which were a real bother to him as it stopped from doing almost anything, and his shia friend (with whom he used to have many debates with) told him to make a pledge that if his his pains are cured that every muharram he would hold one majlis of Imam Hussain A.S in his house, the guy did so (again mockingly i think), lo and behold IMMEDIATELY the following day his pains (which were non-stop for 10+ years) stopped. This took place about 30-40 years ago and that guy and his family remained sunni but I kid you not that every year for the last 30-40 years that person has done as he promised his household holds a majlis of Imam Hussain A.S that one night every year in Muharram So you see sister, Ahle Bayt A.S are for EVERYONE, irregardless of religion and race, make any pledge you want (but with full sincerity and make it a pledge that relates to showing some kind of love for the Ahle Bayt A.S) and just await the blessings in store for you.
  10. Assalaam Alaikum, I know there have been many topics on someone having a dream and then asking for an interpretation, and please forgive me for starting a new topic like this but I really genuinely want to seek advice here. I have had numerous dreams, many of which I truly feel have a message and I sincerely want to seek guidance and clarification on them, I KNOW many people have always posted a link or have at least referred to Imam Jafar A.S's book of dreams but this book (although very interesting) is very limited in its information and does not contain answers to various other things that are seen in my dreams. I know generally people here (myself especially) may not be that well learned to give advice on dream interpretation (but please if you feel you can go ahead ) so I had wanted to know three things: 1) Is there any other MORE detailed and authentic book regarding dream interpretation by the Imams A.S or any other scholar? 2) Are there reputable people who are qualified to give such advice today and if so WHERE and HOW to contact them? 3) Lastly I'll post details of the latest dream itself that I had that has been puzzling me. In this dream I was in Imam Reza's A.S shrine and I saw his golden Zareeh being replaced for a new one, and that Ayatollah Khamanei was there as part of the group that was doing the replacement and then I saw myself praying a 2 rakat namaz with Ayatollah Sistani (yes that detailed, i.e 2 rakat and not 4 rakat etc). Would anyone like to have a jab at what this means? JazakAllah
  11. Hezbollah's 2006 victory?

    It is in certain countries like Canada unfortunately where I believe this lecture was taking place, it's called "hypocrisy of speech". Apparently there must be "freedom" to criticize and insult Islam and Islamic figures all you want, but never question or express support for any anti-zionist movements.
  12. Should I attend this engagement?

    Your troubles are a lot less than mine brother, my sister is going to marry a non-muslim. She along with my entire family are sunni (it's funny how my parents gave me such a headache for becoming a shia but are not giving my sister the same grief or complaints when she is marrying a non-muslim). Anyways bottom line is I've made it very clear (politely) that I will attend no part of ANY ceremony of any kind regarding this debacle, and obviously this is causing more grief and problems between me and my family but I have no regrets or second guessing. Taking part in this arrangement in ANY WAY even by attending and sitting quietly is basically trying to "legalize" or justify a wedding union which is explicitly forbidden in the Quran (in essence you are trying basically to change the words of the Quran ), in my opinion it's better that she stays unmarried and in a zinna-esque relationship with him than actually carrying out a "wedding or legal union". More importantly I told my wife what I expect from her and my kids in that they follow the same route and AlhumduLilah there are no issues there as they also agree 100% with me. To me attending such as event is committing THE SAME kufr as the one getting married. Attend a event like this and basically it goes from one thing to another and it also encourages other people to do the same. Dont know what's wrong with people today.
  13. Tragedy, more propaganda [SYRIA]

    https://mobile.almasdarnews.com/article/jumping-conclusions-something-not-adding-idlib-chemical-weapons-attack/ 2 weeks of US airstrikes killing tons of civilians and no one blinking an eye, and now all of a sudden everyone jumping on the anti-Asad bandwagon again, yeah something doesnt add up
  14. What age did bibi Zainab (A.S) get married?

    Islam didnt ''set the marriage age at 9, it set the minimum age (not a standard or must) for whenever women attained puberty, and for a number of people that could happen at 9 and for some a little bit later'. And as stated above in cultures elsewhere girls were married off at even earlier ages sometimes regardless of puberty.