Salamum aleikum dear respected reader(s).
Before getting started I just want to clarify that I have read multiple sites and even threads on this forum regarding my topic but I still can't find an answer that fully satisfies me.
I met this Sunni girl about a year ago, and we were friends for a very long time. We got into a relationship and things weren't as halal as I thought they were going to get. I did sin (no fornication) and I am very ashamed of doing so. So please don't reply regarding "why did you sin in the first place. If you fear Allah you shouldn't have done that", which is what I've seen on many if not all posts that other people have posted. I know what I have done and alhamdulillah I am working just as hard to get everything under the rules of Islam (hence my question here).
Anyways, I am 17 years of age and the girl is 16. Now you might think that is not mature enough, but believe me her maturity is greater than some of 18 year olds that I know, which brings me on to my question: Is it possible to perform Muta' with that person WITHOUT parental persmission? We are both virgin, and that's why I'm asking because it's a matter relating to virgin girls.
She has agreed to the same extent that I have agreed to and we both plan on future marriage. I know her father would not accept due to her age and he does not want her to focus on men, in fear of them corrupting her. However we are taking each other extremely serious and again, looking forward (inshallah) in future for permanent marriage.
I follow Grand Ayatollah Sayed Khamenei, and read that regarding Temporary Marriage (Muta') it's Ihtiyyat Wajib, meaning that I can refer to other Maraji's ideologies and I believe that Ayatollah Rohani DOES allow temporary marriage WITHOUT father's consent (even if it's a virgin girl). Does that fatwah apply to my scenario? Also could you state the ISLAMIC meaning of "Rashidah"? Some say it means she must be able to financially support herself , whilst others just say she needs to know what is good and bad for her ~ "maturity"
Before telling me to ask the official site the question , I have already done that and still no reply , and it's been about 4 days now ( I do not blame them as I completely understand the masses of questions they get and I hope my turn gets in as soon as possible) so therefore I want a quicker response from someone who is knowledgeable and can provide sources to back up their answer.
Thank you very much for your time and may Allah help you in the same way you are helping me to become a better believe.