You shouldn't think of your identity issue in a way that puts a lot of pressure on you. I used to keep on trying to evalute each and everything going on in the West or even internationally . I was brought up in the Emirates and lived for some time in France so i could relate in a way. Trying to put lots of mental effort on the hopes of finding a balance between Islam and the way everybody else thinnks wont work . It's better not to think about every new idea that you hear about inorder tonaccept or reject it . What is just weird or haram will stand out almost instantly .I do just that . No need to make a big deal out of it . As a 2o year old I believe it's not that hard to judge whats going on worldwide .Being muslim does not contradict with most of what u said above with respect to freedom,property rights etc .. So stressing about wanting to know who u are as amuslim is just a waste of time .I believe that you're sort of disappointed with the way muslims espicially arab muslims sometimes deal with everyday topics with ignorance stemming form their culture and what they're used to ,and not with respect Islam and the teachings of the prophet .Islam is about respect, love , and tolerance . Dont let the West fool you with their fake promises of freedom and equality . Life isnt just about that . Theres more to it . But as a matter of fact ,we do need the implementation of such values in our Muslim world so that the younger generation wouldntfeel lost between modernity seen in the west and social ,political , and scientific ignorance in the East . Same goes for muslims living abroad .