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  1. Read the Facebook post for more info on the topic. I would end up repeating what the post says on Facebook so just read the post. I seriously did not think that a western news outlet would attempt to go this far. This has to be new grounds of haram for sure. Some westerners really do need to read the bible more often... Also notice how it attempts to justify female adultery but not male adultery. And while both are absolutely haram I find it curious that they don't have an issue with one versus the other. https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=2097357270482984&id=1594438427441540
  2. Post Your Voices!

    Btw, Here is my voice. I don't have a YouTube channel in that sense, but this was one video that I uploaded for a project in one of my higher education biology classes. Also I dare you guys to listen to the whole thing. The whole thing. lol
  3. Abu Bakr have more knowledge than Ali

    Yep. lol
  4. Abu Bakr have more knowledge than Ali

    Get this. One time I was listening in on a debate between a shia guy and some sunnis. And one of them said that they have an example of Imam Ali going against the prophet. And the proof? That when the treaty of hudabiyah was being negotiated and the pagan leader requested that Imam Ali cross out "Messenger of Allah" next to the prophet's name Imam Ali refused to do this, and so the prophet had to do this himself. Bruh, lol.
  5. Post Your Voices!

    Is that actually you? As in appearance and voice or just a simulation of what you sound like? Also do you have a lisp? lol
  6. Post Your Voices!

    Anybody here have a strong east coast accent? Including a Queens, New York/ Italian accent? I am just trying to imagine a shia muslim man or woman with a New York Mafioso accent, lol ( I am not promoting mafia culture, but to be honest everybody and they mama wants to mimic that accent)
  7. Post Your Voices!

    I have been told I have a Midwestern/Chi-town accent. As in I pronounce "hockey" as "hackey" and "socks" as "sacks". My mom always asks me and my sister why we pronounce the "a" and "o" in words as "ah", lol. I guess that's the "chicahgo" way my G. Also some words here and there I tend to pronounce in a Canadian accent, though I never lived there for more than a month although I am a Canadian citizen by birth.
  8. converting to Islam & not wearing Hijab

    Salaam, Bruh, I get what you are saying. But your past is causing you to frame it in a rather extreme way. And trust me, all of us have biases when we read the Quran. Even if you read the Quran by yourself your interpretation of it may be biased due to whichever cultural paradigm you currently pledge allegiance to (we all are slaves to our culture at some point). So really, your own understanding of it may be just as biased as that of thousands of our scholars, whether Shia or Sunni.
  9. converting to Islam & not wearing Hijab

    Sister, I come across as harsh mainly because sometimes playing the bad cop really does bring the truth out of people. Especially when issues like this are mostly about one's own personal emotional and social hangups being blunt really is the only way to cut through all the drama. I have seen folks who try to be nice to non-hijabis and encourage them to wear hijab, but alas this woman never does wear hijab though there are people playing the good cop role with her. And in situations where a persons decision to do what is right is clouded by their own emotions and social conditioning being the good cop ends up with you getting lost in a haze of the recipients emotions. However, playing the bad cop results in, again, cutting right through all the emotions and social conditioning. I have seen this time and time again, playing the good cop in regards to a non-hijabi Muslim woman in an effort to encourage her SELDOM works. And the way I see it sister, wanting others to play the good cop in regards to your issue you stated in this thread is also not going to get you a step closer to observing modesty. Partially because at that point all you are really looking for is emotional sympathy rather than genuine help. In fact your last paragraph proves my previous observations. In regards to your friends, I predict what you tend to notice more is them being nice to you than them telling you to observe modesty. Again, thus proving that what you really want is emotional sympathy and pats on the back rather than working on genuinely fixing your issue (when I say "truly genuine" I don't mean you are a liar or hypocrite, I just mean that there is still yet some hesitance in you to truly accept the gravity of your sinfulness) If you were truly genuine in your desire to wear hijab then you would not mind at all if people play the bad cop in an attempt to get you to wear hijab. Because a sin is a sin. And there is seldom a difference between a person who is harsh vs nice if they point this out. And a person who truly understands the gravity of their sin would at this point not care if either gave advice to you. And also you say that, but one of your statements was "Also, not Wearing a headscarf doesn't make you an immodest dresser. Just because a women is not yet wearing a headscarf she can still wear loose maxi dresses, etc etc and cover everywhere else". Not covering your hair DOES makes you as immodest as a Muslim woman wearing loose yoga pants. Period. I suppose this statement of yours may be due to cultural conditioning wherein in non-Muslim cultures a woman not covering her hair is no longer seen as partially naked. But on the other hand in the previous link I gave to you scholars do say that not covering the hair does amount to partial nudity as much as loose maxi dresses amount to partial nudity. Heck some scholars say that not covering the hair is a bigger display of nudity than wearing tight yoga pants or jeans.
  10. converting to Islam & not wearing Hijab

    Suffice to say I live near a city in the US with an infamous crime rate... Also a lot of this occurred after 9/11. But at least thankfully nowadays things are calming down. The convert sister is making it seem like being verbally harassed is enough of a reason to not wear hijab. But the thing is she doesn't know that this was my world as well (in terms of getting bullied and some men I know got physically assaulted). If being verbally abused a couple of times is enough to be hesitant to wear hijab in public. Than what can one say about a Muslim man or woman who gets physically beat up enough to be in the ER either due to observing proper modesty or because you dared to pray outside? Do they have a bigger excuse?
  11. converting to Islam & not wearing Hijab

    Sister. I can tell you tales of me being bullied simply because I have brown skin and my first name is "Ali". Just that was enough for kids to harass me and even grown folks. I can tell you stories of Sikh men who got physically beat up and thrown into lockers for wearing their turbans. Just by having an Arabic name nowadays is enough for bullying. For God's sake I have seen Christian Arab men get bullied because their name is "Ismail" or non hijab Christian Arab women get bullied here to the same degree as hijabis simply because they "look" middle eastern and their name is "Maryam" etc. Heck I know a Muslim man who got SHOT in the stomach by an Islamophobe because he was caught praying outside. But this dude, by the grace of God, recovered well and is right back to praying. I know men who just by having a beard and a Muslim name get beat up physically. Heck I have been through things that would make you consider apostating from Islam. Yes I realize that Muslim women go through a lot and possibly at a higher frequency than Muslim men. It does not mean we don't go through horrible things as well. And the difference is that Muslim men don't internalize these incidents to the same degree Muslim women do. Maybe it is due to masculinity and men in general not caring about these things as much in the long run. Whatever the reason, it is important that you don't use these incidents as an excuse to disobey God's commands. Also once again, I recommend this link https://www.al-islam.org/articles/hijab-dress-modesty-islam-allamah-sayyid-saeed-akhtar-rizvi I want you to pay attention carefully to what the scholar means when he says the entire body of a woman is awrah. And lest you forget a Muslim woman's hair is awrah in front of non mahram. Awrah is the same word used to describe your genitals. Please. Have some humility. If this is your attitude then you have no one to blame but yourself for your struggles. No one but yourself. It is one thing to struggle. But it is another thing to obfuscate God's commands to suit your emotional and social hangups. Do not do this. Be honest. Be humble. It is very natural to struggle. But it is downright, and if I may be so harsh, wicked to distort the religion to suit your social/emotional hangups.
  12. converting to Islam & not wearing Hijab

    I believe you just ended up proving my point. And to be honest your struggles are far from unique, despite your background before you became muslim. Many a muslim woman exhibit the same behavior you do, they just like to think they are above "emotional hang ups" and "social conditioning" and blame everyone and everything else but themselves for why they struggle with modesty. Again, hijab is not inherently complicated. In fact it is quite simple. It is just that like you said thanks to a lot of social conditioning and emotional hang ups woman tend to have about showing off for various reasons or just culturally one is not used to adopting Islamic modest attire, women often times make it more difficult for themselves. And this I have observed even in muslim countries where hijabis are are considered as normal. I know it is not an easy journey in this hypersexualized world we live in and I never expected you or any muslim woman to adjust to Islamic modest attire quickly. But I and a lot of men (who should also be adhering to Islamic modest attire) just want due honesty and humility. The thing is, the first step to solving a problem is admitting there is one and placing due blame where it is due. And the issue is a decent amount of muslim women cannot even admit to themselves let alone men that what I just described to you are the major reasons for why some muslim woman either in the west or the east struggle with modesty. And one of those major reasons is once again...themselves, more so than any other contributing factor. If a muslim woman cannot even admit to this, then if I may be so bold she will never fully adopt Islamic modest attire. Also just one last thing, I am sure you know that a muslim woman's hair is awrah in front of na-mehram men https://www.al-islam.org/articles/hijab-dress-modesty-islam-allamah-sayyid-saeed-akhtar-rizvi. So in other words, whether or not you realize this, you are walking out partially naked. And while the claim of Allah's forgiveness is valid, a non-hijabi muslim woman must also have at least due sincerity to understand the gravity of her sinfulness and be humble (as in not shifting the blame, or making oneself out to be the victim, not lessening the gravity of one's sins, and taking personal responsibility for the sins one commits) in admitting her sins to God. And ultimately being sincere in asking for forgiveness.
  13. converting to Islam & not wearing Hijab

    Once again, Go deeper than that. It isn't purely because of rebellion (of which the vast majority seem to be edgy teenagers or adolescents or somewhat rich adult women). Rather they dress themselves up for the same reason "hijabis" on university campuses in the US will wear yoga pants, tight jeans, a face full of clown makeup, etc. That is to say that one simply has to notice common trends in the mentality of these types of women. Such as self-esteem issues, body image obsessions, beauty competitiveness, the need to feel appreciated at all times. Or in the modern vernacular, all this can be summed up with the term "starlet", etc. And even then I remember SC members who lived in Iran or used to live in Iran here mention that outside of the rich/ majority developed parts of major cities women like this become scarce.
  14. converting to Islam & not wearing Hijab

    Sister I just gave you examples of women in my life and women who I know who live in muslim countries. I also forgot to mention I have female family members who live there and have lived there for decades and they are not a step closer to getting away from their struggles with modesty.Trust me, you will not change. You will still "struggle" with your modesty unless you learn to accept that above all else you ought to look into the mirror and ask if I am just as much a part of the issue. The first step to solving a problem is admitting there is one, and admitting the rabbit hole goes deeper than anticipated. And if I may make a prediction. Suppose you do move to say a major Iranian city (assuming Iran's economy picks up steam and becomes viable to work there) with your potential husband. Let us suppose a decade goes by. Even after all this, on many levels you will still "struggle" with modesty as it were if you continue to fail to recognize that there are personal emotional reasons that are preventing you from submitting to God's commands.
  15. converting to Islam & not wearing Hijab

    Partially true. For example. My mother due to job related reasons and due to the stigma in the west (which at this point is an excuse and me and my dad are trying to get her to wear hijab full-time) does not wear hijab. But recently she went to pilgrimage in Iraq, and on the way she stopped in Dubai to meet some family there and she stayed for a bit at her house. And guess what? Dubai is a city where a woman wearing a niqab is seen as completely normal but yet even in THIS context my mother still struggled to wear hijab. She still put on excessive makeup when going out with her relatives to tour Dubai. I told her respectfully "listen, maybe in the US there are some valid reasons to say wearing hijab is a partial struggle. BUt in Dubai? In Karbala? In Najaf? These are Muslim cities where niqabis walk around with not a single man or woman there thinking she is abnormally dressed, and even in these areas she struggled to observe modesty. Matter of fact, to prove that not observing modesty for women is way more of a personal emotional issue than it is contextual. Any and all of the non-hijabis here I want you to say live in a city like Dubai, etc. for about 10 years of your life. And I can 100% guarantee that even after a decade of living in a society where even niqabis don't stick out I guarantee you will still "struggle with your modesty". Because the last person you lot want to blame is yourselves. And while you lot are not completely to blame, a lot of the blame does lie on you. Heck even in Iran there are many women who "struggle" with modesty. The reason? Similar to why women in the west struggle with modesty, fashion, culture, and the need to boost one's self-esteem, or feel appreciated for one's beauty. I am not denying the stigma in the west, but how much of your own resistance to hijab lies within the depths of your mind in terms of personal hang-ups?
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