Asalam alikum brothers and sisters,
I have read a few of Shia/Sunni marriage answers. And I do understand that it's discouraged. However, I feel that it's parents decision on how to raise their children.
Just for clarification, I will stay Shia if I marry this person.
I like a sunni guy. He is an educated man, have a good job and is financially stable. We have now known eachother for about 3 years. We have always wanted to get married.
About 2 years back my parents found us talking to eachother and they refused to believe that he is an educated man and have a good job. They said he was fooling me (which he was not, even if I am young and naive in my parents eye - I am not a complete idiot). They also said they I don't know what zaat he is from or if he is a "bhangi or taley", he is a Patel. His eldest sister is married to a Bangali man and his older brother is married to a Pakistani girl. My parents also said that they (His family) is too multicultural for them to be comfortable with it. My parents also hide behind the curtain of being Shia and Syed. I understand that Syeds are cconsidered descendents from Prophet Muhamma (PBUH) ahlulbayt. I know that it's a great honor however, we have to be proper Muslims and a true Shia for us to take that title. In my opinion, the title doesn't give us any superiority to other Muslims. (If we have such frim believe in zaat system then isn't it copying from Hindu culture). We both wantes our parents blessings in the marriage and keep the family together.
And as he is a sunni, he has to face same problems from his parents, although his as well as my siblings are more accepting to the fact. The main concern is with parents acceptance and blessings. We haven't tried approaching our parents again. His mother have already engaged him to another girl and he has said yes because our parents wouldn't agree.
I made istikhara form istikhara e Sajjadia book.
"جس کام کوتبرا دل چاہتا ہےاس میں سعی کر. کیونکہ زہد میں راحت ہے اور قناعت میں عزت."
(I am sorry, I can not attach the picture files)
I made istikhara twice and it wasn't the same but similar to it. Now don't know how to interpret it. My istikhara niyat was "if marriage between me and him would be a good for us - for a our faith, livelihood, and our akhirat. Also if our parents raza and blessings will be in our marriage. I am not sure if I made the istikhara right. Right now I am just scared to approach him and my parents
Please don't judge me based on just this part of the story. I do not need anyone to tell me I will go to hell or how I am not a Muslim anymore.
I apologized for this long message. And thank you for taking the time to read it.