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MariyahLaleh

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    Baja AZ
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    Muslim-Shia
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    Waiting for the day...

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  1. Fun with Abu Hurairah

    where did you find this hadith? publication source? Chain of Authenticity? Its in English and its Abu hurairah, the faher of cats.
  2. should i do Muta?

    Upi I really do not think this is a very kind statement. I lived in a dual partnership with the first wife for years with my current husband. She left us to pursue her conversion to Christianity. Many of the women who have posted in this subject have lived in a western society and are not familiar with the more than one wife practice. Many men in a western society cannot afford to support a second or third wife. Evidently you missed that detail. On your behalf, I would change the words dumb or selfish to ignorant. No wise women amongst the shia? I know of many but because of the separation of the genders you as a man shouldn't know of any. And I am grateful for the kind wife that welcomed me an my five orphan children children when my first husband was murdered. As they stated when I was a sunni, Allah knows best.
  3. Fun with Abu Hurairah

    Interesting. As I said...I will stick to the teachings of the Imams
  4. Fun with Abu Hurairah

    Abu Huraira: Interesting you should bring him up. Even when I was Sunni i was skeptical of his narrations and now that I have crossed over I wonder even more at his authenticity. He doesn't Jive with me. you need to quote where you obtained these particular ahadith please.
  5. Donald J. Trump [OFFICIAL THREAD]

    Yes the White House is the swamp. The presidents morals can be ascertained by the company he keeps. Snakes and lizards come to mind...
  6. should i do Muta?

    Dont worry, it is getting to be too much of a locker room....I have to agree we need to back down. we still love you!
  7. should i do Muta?

    I dont see anyone being torn to shreds. I think separating these questions by gender would be a wise move if it can be done. The sisters see the world from a different point of view than a man would. The brother as I mentioned has his rights, and maybe this question is better asked somewhere in a male only forum. I wish him the best in his endeavors. The ladies have their rights too, might be a good time to close this thread and lower our gazes. And men are responsible for the maintenance and well being in general of their wives in Islam, its in the quran and to each his or her own. Not for us to question.
  8. should i do Muta?

    By that I was referring whether he is sunni or shia, beyond that not my call, Many general Muslims from the world relate to Maliki, Shafii, Hanafi, Hanabali and JAFARI as madhabs not sects: to them the Ummah is one. Not questioning his religion in any context. Let me assure you since I have not been always Shia and some others think in different contexts. Allah alone may judge. Also his madhab would indicate if he is from Lahore whether or not he lived in the Pakistan or Indian Lahore. most hanifis moved north.
  9. should i do Muta?

    No not at all. I was Sunni, a widow with five young children and my shia husband married me without hesitation. He paid for my nursing education and my bachelors degree as my mahr. He raised and cared for my 5 eldest kids and insisted they be raised Sunni till they could make the decision. Never had a sunni man even inquire beyond knowing i had five fatherless children. My kids call him pops but know the legacy of their birth father. I finally became shia last year. Actions speak louder than words. If a man treats his mother with respect and treats you nicely then he is the man, whether rich or poor.
  10. should i do Muta?

    Good question. Im not even sure he is the same madhab.
  11. should i do Muta?

    If it is Allahs will----I wouldn't marry one, but then i have the status of Khala----I may counsel whom I choose. And since my poor husband now has Alzheimers and is sleeping in the next room and sometimes forgets who I am, I will be trolling....
  12. should i do Muta?

    I agree with you sister. I have many friends here in USA with husbands from the same city, and some of them are exes also. I warn American converts against some of these men. Sad affair. The poorer man is a wiser choice.
  13. Loss of appetite

    I am so sorry for your loss May Allah the Compassionate and Merciful, reduce your pain and calm your heart. From Allah is our origin and to Him our return, Sister Hameedeh is correct, and I would suggest extra prayer, your Creator is your greatest comforter. I have used many of the supplications at this link with great success http://www.duas.org/worries.htm Depending whether or not she is Muslim, you can start reading quaran on her behalf. Also duas.org have many duas for the marhumas. you may want to consider this if she was muslimah. Chocolate is a great stress reducer as well and stimulates release of pheromones in your body that reduces sadness. it also will keep your weight on insha Allah.Easy to eat and quick. great desert (or topping) for a smoothie.
  14. should i do Muta?

    As a psychiatric nurse for many years, I find your attitude leaning towards arrogant and narrow-minded. I was the second wife of my present husband. He was able to meet the needs of his two wives. i would NOT allow him to spend more time than allowable with me- I was the younger wife, He had to divorce my sister wife. the mother of his four daughters, when she converted to Christian Mormonism. I evidently landed a better quality man. I was a widow at 28 years of age with 5 small children to feed: and he was man enough to take us on. I have gained weight over the years due to the many children I bore, including the one son my husband has with me. it is a natural occurrence.I have always earned more money than he has.Many Nurses in the US make more than many doctors do in Pakistan sadly, and we have a higher status here. Funny thing is he lives in My house, so where in hadith or quran does that put a mans status? Yes, Allah is All knowing, Creator of all things. He knows the nature of men such as yourself and knows sometimes they cannot be satisfied with the relationship with one woman.Al rasul Allah WAS was married to only one wife, Lady Khadija, until her death, and Commander of the Faithful IMAM Ali (RA)never married another wife Until after the death of Lady Fatima Zahra (AR) You can do as you wish, but if you are hurting your wife, the mother of your children in any manner; You know you cannot hide it from your Creator. Prophet Muhammad WAS what quoted from many sources to state:"The best of you are those who are best to the women." (Sahih At-Tirmidhi, Ibn Majah and Al-Jami Al-Saker) Consider also the following: "O you who believe! You are forbidden to inherit women against their will, and you should not treat them with harshness, that you may take away part of the Mahr (dowry, bridal-money given by the husband to his wife at the time of marriage) you have given them, unless they commit open illegal sexual intercourse. And live with them honorably. If you dislike them, it may be that you dislike a thing and Allah brings through it a great deal of good." (An-Nisa’ 4:19) Peace be to you brother, consult your marja about the rules of Muta'a marriage if your are shia, if your are Sunni as a born sunni turned shia I know its not permitted. please try to get more control over your nafs, and I believe there should be a mens only closed forum and a womens only closed forum to deal with these questions?
  15. should i do Muta?

    Please fee free to communicate to the moderators the feelings you are discussing. simply hit the report button and let them know. Upper right hand of the box. I did. saves a lot of searching for the moderators.
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