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  1. Depression

    Wsalam. I don't deny that you've had a rather disturbing experience when it comes to treatment for depression. However, the matter is not that simple. There's been decades of work and research done before a medicine gets approval to hit the market. I respect your opinion but it is more based on opinion and myth rather than fact. Depression isn't a problem limited to the U.S. or the West, it is a global epidemic. Millions of people are benefitting from therapy and medication and this is not an opinion, but a fact. Medical science is based on fact. Also, you mention 'opioid crisis'. Anti-depressants or many other psychiatric medications have nothing to do with opioids, which have a completely different mode of action and purpose. I do empathize with you though. A lot of times, finding the right medication for one specific patient isn't that easy and the psychiatrist is compelled to try a number of them before finding the right combination and dose. In addition to this, there are many under qualified psychiatrists out there and doctors claiming to be psychiatrists that make use of such circumstances and exploit patients. Hence, the position you have is completely understandable. At the end of the day, good doctors/psychiatrists will always work for the benefit of the patient and never work against their interest. I hope you have the good fortune to come across someone like that. Good health to you and the brother who started this thread.
  2. Depression

    No one is telling anyone to close their eyes and just take drugs. In many cases, drugs help the person and then in an organized and gradual manner the doctor decreases the dose till the drug is stopped. Depression isn't a one-off thing, meaning that one needs to look into every possible way of help. Something that helps one person, may or may not help another person. Hence the importance of not labelling medications as just 'drugs' that are temporary in their benefit. Medications can be just as important as any other way of help, and if nothing helps, then they may be the only answer. It's important to have an open mind and not look at things through a narrow tunnel vision. Everyone's struggle through depression is unique and can't be equated universally.
  3. Depression

    Wsalam. It takes a lot of will power and courage to open up about something like. First off, hats off to you for talking about this. It's a big thing that you realize things are not going well and that something is wrong. A lot of people continue living in that state of sadness and demise and never realize it was something that could easily be helped. Having had depression myself for a very long period of time and also being a doctor now MashaAllah, I can say without a doubt that what you're going through is clinical depression. There are MANY ways to get help. Among the best things you can do is get a consult with a psychiatrist/psychologist. In addition to this crucial step, you should try harder to not be by yourself. Contact with and meet up with your friends and family, go out for shopping or just to eat something. Try and connect with your spiritual side, work hard to say your prayers on time and with some concentration. Work on your diet and sleep. Take some time out for exercise (a brisk walk for 30 mins daily will be more than enough). This list can go on and on. However it's very important to realize that most of the time depression will be due to an underlying cause that will only be helped via medication. Just like a diabetic needs to take medication or insulin to lower blood sugar, or a hypertensive needs to take medication to lower blood pressure. And in such cases, nothing in the world can help unless you get treatment for the cause. Hence it is extremely important to get a consult as soon as you can. You have all the help in the world available, you just gotta reach out. Peace.
  4. question again

    Salam brother @wmehar2, Been following this discussion with intrigue. It has been a good discussion. I needed to ask you a few sensitive questions regarding your faith and background. Could you kindly PM me? Since I can't yet as I haven't posted enough on the forum to be an advanced member. Thanks.
  5. Thank you @Hameedeh and @ShiaChat Mod
  6. Assalam-o-Alaikum, I was listening to one of the lectures of Sayed Ammar when he mentioned about the necessity to offer Maghrib, Isha and Fajr prayers out loud. He said without doing so, the prayers are void. I haven't ever heard of this before. Could someone shed some light on this with reference? Also, why only the three prayers out of the five? Thanks in advance.
  7. Good lecturers

    Walaikum As Salam. I would strongly advise you to refrain from watching any talks by Yasser Habib (and others like him, who depend on cursing and bad mouthing other sects), he does not represent anything from Shia Islam. Sayed Ammar Nakhshawani and Hasanain Rajabali are good for the basics. But the real essence of our sect is more prominent in lectures of Br. Khalil Jaffer. All available on YouTube of course.
  8. Overwhelmed with grief

    Walaikum As Salam, You know what. This sadness you feel is in many ways a blessing. It is not always easy to be able to feel sad with our lives going on a fast pace. Sometimes, I want to be able to be genuinely sad too but it is not always easy. So be proud of it
  9. Funeral Procession

    Thank you @shiaman14 and @skyweb1987
  10. Hello, Assalam-o-Alaikum, Could someone please describe/link the entire process of a funeral starting from death of a person till the burial according to the Jafari school of thought? (with reliable references). Thank you.
  11. Who are you?.....

    It is quite difficult to describe what it is like being me. I have always been a high achiever and dreamt of excelling whatever it is that I do, not knowing exactly what it is that I actually want to do. Medicine appealed to me because of the nobility involved in the profession and because of my interest in the sciences and hence my decision to be a doctor. All of that changed when I underwent depression and as a result had an identity crisis that still sparks up from time to time, leaving me completely clueless about who I am and what I want. However, I do know now that my life is no more just about my career/achievements. I want to have more insight about myself. I want to be able to help people undergoing mental problems. I want to connect with my spiritual self and understand it much better. I want to be able to fight off my mood swings instantly with one or two thoughts.
  12. @Islandsandmirrors, Hey, so I've been reading up and following on how I feel about what you mentioned regarding Bipolar Type II. I would like to know more about how your friend went about it?
  13. Thanks @Islandsandmirrors, quite an insightful response. I shall look in to this more carefully. Recently I did have a change of medication, but that was from one anti-depressant to another. I do feel this anti-depressant is helping me cope better. I wouldn't say the suicidal thoughts are strong enough to make me do anything. My faith in Allah and my love for my family are far too strong MashaAllah, however, the thoughts do appear from time to time.
  14. Music

    I do understand and agree with what you're saying. However I think that the label of Haram is a bit difficult for me to accept. We have all sorts of distractions in our daily lives, the challenge is to produce all the emotion while praying and worshipping despite all these distractions which tests the strength of our faith. For example, a lot of us are pre-occupied with our work/job, or maybe we are students so our studies distract us, some are worried about their families. All these can act as challenges distracting us from focusing on our prayers, that doesn't make them Haram. If a person is listening to music (special focus on positive music that as I mentioned before actually motivates me to be a better person) and has no problems diverting his attention to Allah and focusing on his prayer, then shouldn't it not deserve a label as harsh as Haram? I think that is the point that I am trying to make.
  15. Music

    This is an interesting discussion and always leaves me unsatisfied. I have heard a couple of lectures on this and have been able to understand the negativity music can radiate depending on the KIND of music/song. However, I can't seem to be convinced that music/songs that can actually inspire a person to do good (I personally have a few songs that make me feel so, especially when I am bored, lazy etc.) can be Haram. Of course I just talk from my own limited experience. Would love to listen to what everyone has to say regarding this.. Thanks.