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  1. i dont understand how and few links in there . Anyways shukran for helping brother . In sha Allah will try to read it , problem is its big and has many parts to it.These days am occupied with lot many things and so i hardly find time for myself. so , little time i find i am trying my best to learn about religion .
  2. brother haroun was weak wasnt as strong as musa a.s . Ali a.s on the other hand Ali a.s is stronger than musa a.s ( correct me if i am wrong , i am saying this after reading an article in al-islam where imams are above prophets except mohammed a.s as he is above imams). Also ali a.s is infallible , i dont think he would be scared for his life (astagfirulla) doing that which is right. he slept on prophet's bed with out caring for his life .
  3. i agree with you 100% , but brother please tell me when Quran teaches us to speak up for injustice O you who have believed, be persistently standing firm in justice, witnesses for Allah, even if it be against yourselves or parents and relatives. Whether one is rich or poor, Allah is more worthy of both. So follow not [personal] inclination, lest you not be just. And if you distort [your testimony] or refuse [to give it], then indeed Allah is ever, with what you do, Acquainted.surah 4:135 and if religion was in danger then why did she die angry and did not speak or stood against them firmly ? why did ali a.s joined Abu bakr ra and umar ra if they were putting religion in danger ?
  4. brother i love sayings and preachings nahjul al balagha has. i dint read or have gone through everything that it has .. in sha Allah hope to do it in the future, for now could you please give me brief hadith of my answer. will highly appreciate it please.
  5. brother according to shias if this was duty of successor of prophet then wasnt it duty of imam ali a.s then why would fatima zehra a.s die angry over abu bakr ? for second part as i said even "at the time of our beloved (saws) many denied prophet hood of our beloved prophet but he wasnt angry on anyone and i strongly believe fatima zehra a.s inherited all the characteristics of our beloved prophet then why would she die angry over few handful of people "
  6. brother as i said i am trying to learn history , at the time of our beloved (saws) many denied prophet hood of our beloved prophet but he wasnt angry on anyone though people treated him badly and i strongly believe fatima zehra a.s inherited all the characteristics of our beloved prophet then why would she die angry over few handful of people ?
  7. am sorry i have been trying to understand shia/sunni perspective of history. i have been trying to find answer for this specific question but no luck. Answers either are not convincing enough or doesnt make any sense.. can some one knowledgeable answer this for me please. ( please Note i said knowledgeable that is because i once asked a brother here in sc and he said it is because imam ali a.s gave promise to prophet Mohammed a.s that he would not kill abu bakr ra and so he dint ( Which again left me with many more questions so i dug deeper only to realize what brother said was completely untrue)
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    @Karbalai110 i agree that sharia remains same but i doubt if Canadians would include it in a way it is meant to be in their marriage contract because of this below rule in canada and their citizens need to abide by it : Despite being regarded as morally permissible and practiced by some religions, engaging in any form of polygamy is an indictable criminal offence punishable for an imprisonment term of not more than five years. Source : http://www.torontodefencelawyers.com/blog/general-category/crime-one-spouse-canada/#ixzz57KXPKAbt. in sha Allah brother .
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    @Karbalai110 brother all i am saying is i have different personal opinion to polygamy for now and that i am in a quest to learn and see things in way that Allah swt does.. brother thanks for all the links that you are providing for our understanding. Appreciate it . i havent opened that link as sister @starlight mentioned that it is sunni's marraige contract. i have checked an other link that you have provided later on but may i please point out that it is canada state marraige contract and that in canada polygamy is illegal and practice is criminalized under section 293 and hence their marraige contract differs from the normal islamic marraige contract . source :http://www.torontodefencelawyers.com/blog/general-category/crime-one-spouse-canada/ looking at page 14 : As a last resort, the woman could approach (4) the mujtahid (a Shi‘a jurist) or his representative to intervene; and if he is convinced that the husband is being unjust, then he has the power to serve a notice to the husband and ask for his consent to divorce the wife. If the husband refuses, then the mujtahid can dissolve the marriage and pronounce the divorce even without the husband’s consent. In Canada, however, not all families have the extended family support to put such pressure; nor do we have a mechanism as a community (e.g., excommunication) to censure the man who is treating his wife unjustly. The only option is to approach the mujtahid; but that process, like any other judicial process, takes its own due time. In order to make things easy and fast in solving such marital problems where an abusive husband is refusing to give divorce, we encourage the couples, at the time of marriage, to add certain optional conditions to the marriage contract as seen below:
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    Brother. I clearly said I am stating that which is in Quran and sharia. PERIOD. Brother though you and I agree on this, through our common sense and logical reasoning, not every body think alike us . sadly there is no hadith or qur’anic verses that is making it obligatory for a man to mention about second marriage well in advance before marriage. Also,to contradict your statement let me tell you something even if a man assures his wife before marriage that he wouldn’t take second wife and after marriage lets say after 2 years , 5 years, or 20 years of marriage he changes his mind ,though a real man would never go back on his words unfortunately not many men are like this.. because wife did not stipulate it in her marriage contract . he can marry an other woman with or with out first wife’s consent. ( this is also main reason why I want to spread awareness of this clause in marriage contract ). Polygamy is a tremendous trial for a woman. It could be quite devastating Brother i so want you to prove me wrong but can i end the argument by saying this, that one of the condition for polygamous marriage which is just according to sharia law is : if a man has fallen in love with other women. The only way to prevent such men from adultery is the second marriage . also an other just condition for polygamous marraige is that if a man is able to provide , support and look after an other woman and can be just with two wives then he can have a second marriage with or with out first wife's consent.. now tell me are these genuine ? is islam just with women ? if they are not then why do we have it ? and if they are just then why are we even having these debates ? brother honestly my whole individual perception on these matters is different ,i cant help but i see my imaan going down when i think of such laws myself ( Allah knows best .. he is all knower .. how can my knowledge and perception be better than his ( Astagfirulla) .. i surely cant see things how Allah does .. and hence i can not give my individual opinion to sister here as i believe that is not what she is asking , she needs answers from Quran and law wise.
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    sister @Rayhana80 Please don't be hurt by my comments i am just stating that which is in quran and that in fatwahs.. I read your posts and I honestly feel your pain. sister if i were you i wouldnt be able to deal with sharing my husband with someone else. Call me all modern, but its not how i grew up and i simply can not do it. i would want my husband to myself. . sister you have done nothing wrong. it is NOT your fault that he married another woman. please read duas and have hope in your heart for a beautiful place in Jannah, picture yourself content and with no pain in the afterlife as this world is just temporary, and ask Allah swt to help you to pass your most difficult trials with grace and patience.... I pray that Allah swt helps you to find a solution in sha Allah, @Karbalai110 brother i want to believe your words when you said 'Islam' in particular is very just towards all in existence-- could you please tell me why Quran states having more than 1 wife is permissible? why husband can marry an other woman with out first wife's permission ? .
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    And this is the Ayah And if you fear that you will not deal justly with the orphan girls, then marry those that please you of [other] women, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then [marry only] oneor those your right hand possesses. That is more suitable that you may not incline [to injustice]. (Quran, 4:3) Here in above verse Allah says that husband can have upto 4 wives given he have to be just Here in sister’s case he is not neglecting his responsibilities , he is taking care of her and children.she is hurt that he married another woman. polygamy has been practiced by our Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), imams( may Allah be pleased with them) and prophets companions.brother in regards to islam being just all i can say is woman can have it stipulated under marraige contract that her husband shouldn’t take another wife while she is married to him. here sister in question doesn’t have it. marrying an other woman can not be a valid reason unless you want to go against Allah’s words. Allah SWT has made it legal and Halal in Islam for a man to marry more than 1 woman.i doubt if you can leave your husband for merely doing something that is halal in the sight of Allah.If sister develops an aversion from husband and hates him and The hatred must have reached a proportion where she would not allow him conjugal rights then khula is permissible.brother i was told by some one that if you accept Quran then you need to accept everything that is in there you can not take that which is convenient and leave that, which isnt .
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    brother have you read my post ?? if not may i please ask you to read it again. i said " wife can not take khula with out husband's consent .. if he is being unreasonable and refuses to give his consent then she will have to approach scholars and they would do the needful.. but she definitely have to ask him for khula divorce first before approaching them and yes , in islam marrying another woman is not a valid reason " what little knowledge are we even talking about here?
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    brother my explanation was based on your previous post.. where you said " you dont need to ask him for divorce" . clearly your later post is contradicting your own statement.
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    brother according to islam shia or sunni ... wife can not take khula with out husband's consent .. if he is being unreasonable and refuses to give his consent then she will have to approach scholars and they would do the needful.. but she definitely have to ask him for khula divorce first before approaching them and yes , in islam marrying another woman is not a valid reason.Cheating can be a valid reason
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