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  1. Asalam Alaykum SC members! Yesterday evening I attended a mosque with my family. It was very crowdy, noisy and I couldn't hear the scholars' lecture very well. I got a bit sad and angry that people don't have consideration for those who are genuinely there to listen and to learn. Do we really have to attend a mosque and take part in ceremonies in Muharram? I could go to another mosque but I don't know any other here. Also, since I suffer from social anxiety, it's hard for me to focus on the lectures at the mosques. I have difficulties in with concentration in crowdy places. Is it okay if I do my matam at home and listen to lectures too? Sara
  2. What Lies Hidden in the Vatican secret library?

    @hasanhh Point out someone afraid to behave himself and I'll show you a coward. Amerika has gotten this way because the people have lost their Fear of Gov't - Ladar Levison, Ed Snowden, Bradley "C" Manning: Our Nat'l Heroes. 16 November 2015: ANONYMOUS vows "retribution" on terrorists. Ya-Ali - **Malian LASSANA BATHILY, 24, Life-Saver, St.Charlie's Day Massacre, Paris, 07Jan15 ***In Memorium: Farkhunda, 27, Kabul, 19March2015 -for speaking against polytheism could you elaborate on your above post? I have just read it and find it interesting. Sara
  3. Asalaam Alaykum, I hope you are all well Inshallah. I have a question regarding temporary/permanent Nikkah for engagement. Which one is better? I have been informed by family and friends that permanent Nikkah is better because if you get temporary Mahram with your fiancee, this might ceate doubts in your heart and give the idea this is temporary relationship. They say that after your temporary Nikkah has ended, you may break up and not willing marry that person. What is your opinion about this? Sara
  4. Great advice! Thanks brother, I will definitely consider it.
  5. Ow I think you have misunderstood me. I meant if you could just post that part about 'how to not get disctracted from studies' part. I have posted previously on this forum, but once I did not get many replies. I thought there won't be any harm in asking you a favour. I understand if you do not wish to do this. I think topics of people's interest are read the most. Sara
  6. Asaalaam brother Zavon, Could post my question on your thread? Since you get many replies due to your popularity I may get good advices. Thank you, Sara
  7. Dear SC members, Asalaam Alaykum everyone. How is it going? Does any of you have advices about how to not get distracted from studies during engagement period? I know this may sound stupid, but I really need your advice. I am recently engaged and this worries me alot. Please no stupid comments, sarcasm or making fun. Thank you. Sara
  8. Thank you all. ☺
  9. Asalaam Alaykum dear SC members, Is changing clothes for (any) ghusl mandatory? I have read somewhere you only must change your underclothes after ghusl. Thanks in advance. sara
  10. Asalaam Alaykum, I am a college student, currently studying for secretary profession. My plans are to continue studying to get into university Inshallah. I have studied a variety of subjects; welfare assistant, maths & English, a pre university course to get access into university and a few more.... I have a broad interest which makes it a bit hard for me to make my final choice. I am a bit jack of all trades.
  11. What Lies Hidden in the Vatican secret library?

    What do you mean?
  12. What Lies Hidden in the Vatican secret library?

    Asalaam Alaykum sis, Dont you think it would also contain the real bible (or testament) about Jesus A.S.? The bible has been changed and manupilated by many throughout years. I have also read that in the real bible Imam Zaman A.S. is mentioned and I am sure many more important historical figures are mentioned too. Maybe they kept the real message hidden so people won't know the truth. The reason quran is a miracle is because it cannot be changed by anyone. But the bible has been changed multiple times. So the real message must be somewhere out there I believe.... What do you think?
  13. Asalaam Alaykum, I was wondering if any of you read or heard about this secret library in the Vatican city? This secrect archieve is strictly forbidden for people to view. Researchers can view some of the archive’s contents but the procedures are not that easy. First of all, journalists, students, and amateur historians are not given access. Once an interested party has proven that he or she is a serious enough scholar, credentials are granted that must be renewed every six months. To enter the archives, a “scholars enter through the Porta Sant’Anna , pass Swiss Guards, walk through the Cortile del Belvedere , and present credentials” (O’Loughlin, 2014). What is your opinion about this? Sara
  14. Asalaam Alaykum Shiaman14, I think your answer is more sensible . I shoud just be honest with him and tell him what I think, without disclosing my personal health details. This is a very sensitive subject. I cannot just put everything on the table because at the end of the day he is a stranger... Sara
  15. Asalaam Alaykum everyone, I have previously posted on this forum about a guy who has recently proposen to me. After that post, my father invited him for a second meeting. We took a walk and chatted about our lives, personalities, goals etc. Again, he did not ask many questions about me. After our second meeting I talked to him on the phone and I asked again why he did not ask me many questions. He told me after meeting twice he is fine with me and accepts me as how I am. He seems a decent, nice guy; my parents, some of my sibblings like him and the istikhara outcome for him was 'very good'. I have been battling self low-esteem, social anxiety and depression for years. Alhamdullelah I feel very very much better and made a lot of progress. Because of my social anxiety and depression I have missed many opportunities in life. Now that I have gained a lot of confidence and feel energized, I like to work hard towards my goals which one of those is getting into university Inshallah. I love to travel, meet new people, experience new adventures and broaden my knowledge and skills. It just happened now that this guy has proposen to me and I am not sure what to do. I do like to get married but I have this feeling I want to spent some time alone without any partner to develop my independency and most importantly my personality and identity. I dont know whether I should tell these to my suitor. If he could wait for me that would be great. Because he is a stranger I am not sure how he will take this. Its hard for me to trust people even telling them minor details of my life. I then fear he would not understand me or judge me. I am very open-minded but unfortunately not many people in muslim communities are like this. Things like mental health disorders are a taboo. Any good advice from those married or have/had similar experience(s) are welcome. Singles can reply too. By the way I am 25.... Thank you. Sara