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  1. Any Iraqis/Shia in Birmingham

    Salam me and my wife are moving to Birmingham soon. My wife is worried that she might not find many people to make friends. Are there any community centres or places we can meet with Iraqi/Shia people? thank you
  2. Alsalamu Alykum, I'm hoping to write an essay on Imam Ali's conduct in terms of his governance and politics. Can anyone kindly recommend good resources? With gratitude, Ali
  3. Birmingham

    Salamu Alykum, I will inshallah be starting work in and around Birmingham in the west midlands starting from August. I don't know anyone there and would like to get to know brothers. Can anyone direct me to any shia centres or institutions? Thank you
  4. Bit of an update. Things haven't worked out how I wanted them to (when do they ever)..we got close and started developing strong feelings for each other. She told her mum of my situation with my family and the response wasn't good. She got scared and has called things off between us. Also she has got the impression of not feeling wanted by my family. I've not yet seriously discussed her with my parents. I'm in limbo as I get the strong impression that she wants to be with me in which case I'll speak to my family but at the same time since her mums rebuttal she has mentioned a few bad things about us. I'm not sure if this is her trying to justify her mums position. In any case I'm not sure how to proceed..I value this lady greatly and genuinely don't want to lose her. oh she is Shia twelver like me.
  5. I think I've fallen in love with you stranger..what a way with words. I'm in a similar situation to the op but a lot simpler. I do hope it's not infatuation/possessiveness and something genuine..apart from time apart from each other to see how these feelings unfold what other way is there to know if the love you hold for someone is true?
  6. Salam I like a girl at university..she has everything I look for in a woman, intelligent, god fearing, principled, beautiful. The only "issue" is that shes Indian. Its not a problem for me as I think if someone fulfills you're criteria it is very petty, insular and unislamic to let something like a cultural/ethnic divide stop you from marrying them. My issue is my mum primarily - I've gently proposed the idea and she's rebuffed me quite strongly..the whole thing centers around the supposed mistake of marrying outside your culture..nothing islamic about the objections. I'm not sure how to approach the situation and its really frustrating. We both are quite mature in mindset and know what we want. Has anyone gone through something similar? Anyone can give me some sound advice? Thank you
  7. Hi I've never done this before and not quite sure what the expected etiquette is. I'm expecting to do this in a few weeks time and was wondering if I can get some tips and advice? I'm Iraqi so if anyone's got the low down on how things are done within our community I'd be grateful. Much appreciated
  8. lol yeh fasting, cold showers is the usual impractical guff given. As you said its a concerning matter, unfortunately usually dismissed or brushed aside. I think it is dealt with well in western societies in that it is open and well discussed, even between prospective couples - I disagree with how things are then implemented but thats another matter.
  9. The scholars remarks are interesting but what if the disparity creates resentment? Why should one person feel they have to do an unnatural thing that may affect their psyche in an adverse way? What I'm confused about is how much importance is placed on the compatibility of the couple through culture, language, education etc yet something as crucial as sexual compatibility is left to chance so to speak. Its a difficult topic to broach too but important. Just to clarify I'm not talking particularly about obscure fetishes but sexual appetite.
  10. Going along the traditional islamic route to marriage - how is it possible to figure out if you and your prospective spouse are sexually compatible? What if there was a wide gap in sexual appetite between the two? What if one was asexual? Surely they wouldn't know for sure until they come to do the deed, and by that point isn't it a bit late?
  11. Racists In American Schools.

    Look up Cornell West. Its a crypto-fascist state and is rotting....jungle capitalism has brought it to its knees and laughably it still jumps from 3rd world country to poverty stricken nation bombing and shooting its failed ideals and notions into helpless people. AS for the infantile reactionary "go away if you hate us"...typical really of the mentality nurtured by a closed society. Lookfor the dissenting views and opposing views in the mainstream media to those held by government.....zilch...theres your freedom...more akin to a totalitarian state.
  12. Can someone explain this ayat to me: I've heard of various interpretations. What is the general Muslim consensus? What is the Shia position?? Many thanks
  13. Pictures Of Iraq..

    Thank you the the thread starter..ill try to post pics here.
  14. Discussion about the other thread

    Why are you contesting the fact that Sayed Al-Sader was killed by Saddam?! Do you think it is beyond such a tyrant to carry out such an act?? In any case after he was captured Saddam specifically admitted to killing Al-Sader. Its disappointing to see that some of our Shia brethren still take it upon themselves to lecture us about how we should conduct ourselves and how our country should be run. This is a thread about the progress and emergence of Iraq from a dark era...if you wish to self-righteously chastise Iraqis for not laying their necks down and being slaughtered for some notion of pan-arab/islamic agenda then open up a new thread. edit..someone just created a new thread..thanks
  15. Libyan War Begins

    The end plan is to partition Libya into east and west...east with Benghazi as capital and run by Saudi/US/rebel allies and west run by ghaddafi
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