Islandsandmirrors

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  2. While mutah is halal, many men use it for fringe benefits and without a desire for real commitment. A guy wanted to do mutah with a girl he had only met a few times just for talking. Talk about ridiculous.
  3. I get hungry.
  4. I will pray for you, dear. Second, I'm so glad to hear you've embrace Islam (and Shiasm) and alhamdulilah you were guided. I totally understand your frustrations. The problem is that middle easterners tend to mix up culture with religion, which can be very frustrating and upsetting to deal with. I've known a convert who had trouble getting married, and although she didn't express her frustrations, she did really want to get married. I also understand how frustrating it must be for converts since people reject/accept someone based on race/culture, which is completely unislamic and ignorant to do so. Reading your post made me think about myself. I'm in a long distance relationship right now, and although (inshallah) I'll be getting engaged soon, I can't get married until next year. It's very hard at times, especially when the people around me are getting married left and right and I just have to…. wait. And wait. I don't know where you live, but where I live, there is a pretty decent Shia community and plenty of people looking to get married. (not mutah, since Mutah in the Persian community is generally shunned until you're engaged to the person. Of course, there are exceptions.) I think it would help to relocate to an area where more Shias are present.
  5. I will pray for you, dear. Second, I'm so glad to hear you've embrace Islam (and Shiasm) and alhamdulilah you were guided. I totally understand your frustrations. The problem is that middle easterners tend to mix up culture with religion, which can be very frustrating and upsetting to deal with. I've known a convert who had trouble getting married, and although she didn't express her frustrations, she did really want to get married. I also understand how frustrating it must be for converts since people reject/accept someone based on race/culture, which is completely unislamic and ignorant to do so. Reading your post made me think about myself. I'm in a long distance relationship right now, and although (inshallah) I'll be getting engaged soon, I can't get married until next year. It's very hard at times, especially when the people around me are getting married left and right and I just have to…. wait. And wait. I don't know where you live, but where I live, there is a pretty decent Shia community and plenty of people looking to get married. (not mutah, since Mutah in the Persian community is generally shunned until you're engaged to the person. Of course, there are exceptions.) I think it would help to relocate to an area where more Shias are present.
  6. Thank you so much brother Silsasun for your balanced response (As well as @notme, @Abu Hadi, @starlight, and anyone else that I have missed.) and I greatly appreciate the apology (or what seemed like to me). Often, people succumb to preconceived or hasty judgements, including myself. We are only human after all. My health is wajib on me, you're right. I will, at my next appointment inshallah, bring this up with my psychiatrist to see if anything can be done. If not, then one of the two options will have to take place: I'll have to switch my medication temporarily if I miss anymore Salat, (because I really want to continue praying when I need to) or two: just pray maghrib and Isha when I wake up. I'll try the second option first, since I have to make up prayers anyway, it may be a good practice for me and habit to get into. I don't intentionally try to miss Salat at all - especially since after I was guided by Allah to pray (alhamdulilah) a couple of years ago. I especially hate missing Salat now because of the time changes, and it was a bit hurtful to read comments saying that I don't care about praying. Thank you so much. I really appreciate that. Inshallah Allah accepts all the good you've done and will continue to do in this world, and give you only the best in both the worldly life and the hereafter. I'll make dua for you.
  7. Because we don't eat dinner after 8. I have to eat it with food.
  8. Would you tell someone with cancer to not receive treatment? Or someone with broken bones? The one who lacks experience and understanding of real issues is you.
  9. No, you need the meds. With depression alone, a typical bout of depression lasts 8 months without treatment. With depression, wether or not you receive treatment, your depression will eventually lift - but it will come back. With Bipolar Disorder, there is no length of mania and depression. You might have times of normal mood, like a few months at most, but the depression and mania will return - and will cause more damage to the brain with every episode.
  10. Your experience is limited. i went from being non functional, to becoming a completely functional person in society.
  11. Meds are one part of the solution. May Allah make you see the error of your thinking. like I said, the meds work, and just because you can't see it, doesn't mean it isn't there. #endstigmaagainstmentalhealthnow Mods: we need a mental health subform as to end the stigma against mental health.
  12. You didn't read my entire post. Go see the documentary.
  13. ^ you quoted a source that is highly unreliable. I have experienced the eurphoric highs for weeks and the suicidal depression since I was nine and I experienced psychosis. When I was manic, I didn't sleep a wink for six days. When I was depressed (and people with depression feel sadness more prolonged and differently.) all I could think about was how I wanted to commit suicide. Youre telling me it's a fake illness? The meds do help and only when they wanted to switch my medication (by cutting them off) did my symptoms return. Since being on the meds, I have not experienced neither depression nor mania. Bipolar disorder is not just "being moody" ^ @kirtc educate yourself by watching this documentary and not using your biased and limited opinions on something you have no knowledge of. end the stigma against mental health. Just because you don't understand it, or see it, does not mean it's not there.
  14. I can't delay the medication at all because I have to take it with a meal. I'm not intentionally trying to skip out on my prayer - how could you assume such a thing? I have to take it with a meal, not on an empty stomach. It's not my fault my medication makes me drowsy. obviously, you've never taken a medication for bipolar disorder so you don't know how tired they make you feel. thats very rude of you to think that I don't want to put in effort. May Allah make you see the errors in your ways of speaking and thinking. I'm here, I'm looking for advice. Surely if it didn't matter I wouldn't be asking this question. The medication makes you drowsier more intensely than feeling drowsy normally for sleep--I'm always asleep within a few minutes of putting my head against the pillow.
  15. I call myself Shia because I want the people to know that I'm the follower of Ali (as) and the 11 Imams and that the Ahlul Bayt (as) are my leaders. I'm proud to be a Shia.