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  1. Assalamu Alaykum, Can a mod please permanently delete my account? This forum is more damaging than enlightening. Thank you
  2. “Why do they only reflect what is in opposition of religion and intentionally divide it into two pieces and just present what they like and cunningly hide the second piece?” Divide and conquer, that's why.
  3. Help finding a book?

    I have so many questions, but I don't think it's a good idea to discuss them on this website, or on the internet at all. I feel justice may not be done to the issues. That is why I also appreciate how those debates were all done face to face. However, I do hope it will be okay for me to ask one question about the debate between Imam Baqir (A.S.) and Sulayma’n, which I feel may have a simple answer that I am ignorant to. I am thinking it may be that 1. it is a mistake in the typing (i.e. both times the question was asked by the Imam, not firstly by Sulayma'n and then the Imam), 2. there was a wisdom behind the Imam answering 'no' initially and then stating it is originated (perhaps he was trying to get Sulayma'n to think in a certain way), or 3. the narrator/writer of the story we have has done this for some other reason. I am thinking it may be 2, but if so, can anyone explain what that wisdom is? I absolutely love our Imam Baqir, I am just trying to understand (Insha Allah). “Is it (the will) originated?” asked Sulayma’n. “No, it is not originated,” answered the Imam. *** The Imam asked him: “Is it (the will) originated?” Sulayma’n denied the origination of the will, so the Imam answered him: “Sulayma’n, it is originated. If thing is not eternal, it is originated; if it is not originated, it is eternal.” Thank you! Wassalam
  4. Qur'an Verse Of The Day

    يَا أيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا إِن جَاءكُمْ فَاسِقٌ بِنَبَأٍ فَتَبَيَّنُوا أن تُصِيبُوا قَوْمًا بِجَهَالَةٍ فَتُصْبِحُوا عَلَی مَا فَعَلْتُمْ نَادِمِينَ O you who believe! If an evil-doer comes to you with important news, verify it, lest you should harm people in ignorance [out of haste in belief and making decision], and afterwards you become regretful for what you have done. (49:6)
  5. What Would Happen If We..

    And my question is that, what would such sectarians of different sects do if they were locked in a confined place (salam) Sorry to derail, but could not this world we inhabit be considered a confined place? If so, take a look around and you will have your answer as to the outcome. I think all three of your options have materialised at one point in time or another.
  6. (salam) I hope this doesn't come across as rude, but I guess you're in a better situation than girls who have mothers who compete with them about sleeping with men or plastic surgery, or who disgrace each other in front of others for the inflation of the ego, or who discourage their daughters from education altogether, or who teach their daughters a superficial idea of beauty and self-worth, or who blatantly do not even care about them. Alhamdullilah, I don't have a mother like this, but I know people who do. I don't mean to devalue your current predicament, but sometimes it helps to consider the alternatives. "I also want to enjoy my university life and have fun like everyone else" - which entails what exactly? Do you practice for your family or for yourself? I hope it is the latter. When you're on the outside looking in, sometimes what you perceive as "fun" is actually a mirage. The grass is not always greener on the other side. "the way my mom is imposing hijab onto me is just pushing me further away from Islam" - Again, do you wear hijab because it has been prescribed for us by Allah SWT, or because you just want to make your mother happy so you have a roof to live under? University should be foremost about studying, and anyone who is paying too much attention to what you wear or what you look like is wasting their own time, and should be focusing on their own studies. لاَ إِكْرَاهَ فِي الدِّينِ
  7. & I know you might have been told this already, but honestly, if you immerse yourself into the stories of Ahlul Bayt and appreciate how many tribulations those esteemed men and women endured, you will surely look upon every struggle in your life as manageable, and even miniscule, Insha Allah.
  8. Assalamu Alaykum firefly, I'm not sure whether you followed up on 4:29 aforementioned, but the fact is as stated in the Quran: And do not kill yourselves [or one another]. I appreciate that you are not interested in additional advice or sympathy, but if I may, can I offer you some things to think about? Firstly, suicide is not as simple as it seems - depending on the method you choose, it can be very painful and lengthy, or messy (which is important if you are considerate of how your family will be affected by the sight of your body if you choose to use a gun, cutting, jumping off a building, or anything involving damaging your body gruesomely). One kid from my area a couple of years back drove his car full speed ahead into bushes and trees - a helicopter was required to retrieve his mangled body from the scene. It left the family and his friends with a pretty horrific image in their minds. Pills and overdosing are painful and death is not instantaneous. Drowning is said to be very painful too. Starving yourself is not instantaneous either, obviously, and say you changed your mind later on, you would have possibly damaged your organs. I am not talking from the experience of committing suicide, I do admit I am not a ghost... However, I have been through some dark times (as we all have) and unfortunately I lacked the willpower at the time to be focusing on progressing myself and was more motivated towards destruction - so I researched this sort of thing, and so I've just briefly given you some things to consider. I know you probably are just over advice and think people just have pity and want to feel better by saying a kind word or a word of caution - but honestly I don't even know you and I do care about you, because you're a human being (I assume) on this planet and you have as much a right to be here as I do, and I just pray that you will push through the dark times even if you have to be emo for a while and walk around like a zombie, or keep to yourself like a hermit. Do you like to read books? Listen to Quran? Go for short walks? Write? Have anyone in your life that you can trust to talk to? Taking medication consistently? Seeing a psychiatrist/psychologist? 'Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem, first make sure that you are not, in fact, just surrounded by [Edited Out]s.' - William Gibson (please excuse the language, it's part of the quote)
  9. Wassalam, Would it be suitable to include a favourite letter of mine? It is #72, to Abdillah al-Abbas. The merits of his wisdom and foresight are clear therein. أَمَّا بَعْدُ، فَإِنَّكَ لَسْتَ بِسَابِق أَجَلَكَ، وَلاَ مَرْزوُق مَا لَيْسَ لَكَ. وَاعْلَمْ بِأنَّ الدَّهْرَ يَوْمَانِ: يَوْمٌ لَكَ وَيَوْمٌ عَلَيْكَ، وَأَنَّ الدُّنْيَا دَارُ دُوَل، فَمَا كَانَ مِنْهَا لَكَ أَتَاكَ عَلَى ضَعْفِكَ، وَمَا كَانَ مِنْهَا عَلَيْكَ لَمْ تَدْفَعْهُ بقُوَّتِكَ. Now, you cannot go farther than the limit of your life, nor can you be given a livelihood which is not for you. Remember that this life consists of two days - a day for you and a day against you, and that the world is a house (changing) authorities. Whatever in it is for you will come to you despite your weakness; and whatever in it turns against you cannot be bought back despite your strength.
  10. Do you think that is because of the different agencies that have been using his work? Perhaps Ekman is only able to share a certain amount, not by choice. He did receive his funding from APRA (now DARPA). Yeah it is a great field.
  11. What a great collective endeavour of the Iranians during this time. Why was Ayatollah Shirazi's fatwa repealed?
  12. So many good books mentioned here. I'm a long time fan of Paul Ekman, and I'm reading his book Telling Lies: Clues to Deceit in the Marketplace, Politics, and Marriage. As the leading expert on micro expressions and nonverbal clues, he takes a neutral stance in preemptively warning against the information often given by "experts" (in the Defense Department, policemen, professional polygraphers, customs officials, and others in the media), and highlights the fact that whilst we may be able to detect certain emotions and expressions, ultimately we cannot make a concrete judgement about why the emotions/expressions were displayed, and thus other techniques and questioning becomes important. It's not one of those "he blinked so he's lying" or "she twitched her nose so she's hiding something" books. He warns against that sort of approach (and there is a lot of it in mainstream media). It's not in the book, or maybe it is but I haven't come across it yet, but it's interesting that in his research of universal human emotions and expressions he travelled to places where people had not seen television or any images on screens or paper, so he was trying to determine what was natural to human beings without the influence of external perceptions on how to react or how to move ones face. He also did similar studies on blind people. There are universal natural expressions. Body language differs, that is socially culturally acquired. Anyhoo, it's a good read for anyone interested in the idea of what constitutes lying, how to become more familiar with its signs, and it's just a good read for anyone interested in psychology.
  13. What salah means to me, in the most brief way possible: I lose everything by not practicing salah, and lose nothing by practising salah. I like the 8 goals you mentioned, and for me they are a part of this - they are benefits I forgo if I am without salah. For me, salah leads to reflection, reflecting leads to recognising and improving, thereby making me a better human being for myself and for others who I share the Earth with (Insha Allah). Before I began practicing Salah, I had tried yoga, meditation, mindfulness, and other forms of ritual - at that point I had my feet in the sand, staring into the abyss, but with Salah I felt and feel truly well within in its depths. I don't mean to be elusive, I was just hoping to keep it short and simple. Regarding how and when Salah is not accepted, I'm probably not learned enough to comment - but I agree with mesbah's explanation of wholeheartedness being a crucial differentiator between types of Salah. So much for me keeping it brief, sorry :P Good topic, wassalam.
  14. Hijaab and Make-up

    Assalamu Alaykum Warahma'talahi Wabarakatu, The comments at the beginning of this thread from years and years ago are so genuine... and now we are in an age where sisters are making hijab and makeup tutorials on YouTube. I honestly felt like crying the first time I saw the new age wave of Muslim YouTube videos. I even became suspicious and considered whether they were just non-Muslim girls trying to taint the image of Islam and reduce Muslim sisters to females under the influence and control of marketing and self-esteem attacking strategies. However, I think they are really Muslim, and they are just motivated to be seen and heard. Why do people love to be in front of a camera? How it is not blatantly obvious that putting on makeup in front of an audience, making provocative faces (like pouting, tilting head and winking, etc), and even putting on hijab in front of an audience, is in complete opposition to the purpose of hijab in itself? Maybe I sound extreme, maybe it's 'all just for fun'... but to me this is where we enter into the danger zone. Children who seek to understand what 'modesty' is will be confused - if the hijab is meant to be a protector of the mind, body, and soul, and to steer one away from vanity, then how are those YouTubers any different from other attention-seekers? In my own personal view, they become worse than non-hijab women and men, because they have set a certain standard for themselves, whereas those who have made no commitment to hijab are not promising to live up to any sort of expectation - so the former falls off a pedestal, whereas the latter stays put. Perhaps my reasoning may appear to be flawed (or perhaps it is flawed) but I hope it makes sense. Another example would be something I witnessed the other day at a train station. Three girls were together speaking Arabic, two were dressed 'normally' (provocatively, but a normal style according to mainstream society and media), and the third was wearing hijab. They started saying silly things, loudly, and then mentioned some foul language including 'sharmoota'. As I live in a multicultural society, with many people speaking or having friends who speak Arabic, most people knew what this meant and turned towards the group in surprise... not so much because of what was being said, but because a girl wearing hijab was part of the group. I wanted to approach them and say something in a kind way, or mention how this sort of behaviour taints the western view of what a Muslim is... but I didn't say anything. I was reluctant to be involved, and feared that they or others would assume I was just trying to have my say and be some sort of parental figure. So I went on my way, hoping that whoever had a bad thought of Islam because of this, would somehow later come across a Muslim who would give them a better idea of Islam. Has anyone ever been in that situation? What did you do? If you were me, what would you have done? I don't mean to offend anyone, I'm just trying to reconcile my beliefs and worldview. Wassalam.
  15. Astral projection

    Shurtat al-Khamis Good post - many people seeking spiritual elevation have achieved this, it's an extension of meditation and mindfulness in many ways. Unfortunately due to Hollywood and movies in general, people mistakenly start to think of astral projection as a special power or something. Lucid dreaming is also pretty common. I like the part you mentioned about intention - I think that is crucial. Wassalam
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