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Heavenly_Silk

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  1. Hatred/jealousy

    Sounds like you are in a very controlled environment and it would therefore be understandable that you will be holding some resentment towards your cousins who get to do things you aren't able to. Is there any way to get out of this situation? What is keeping you there? This is understandable, you've been hurt by others around you so naturally you have your guard up and distance yourself from people due to your negative experiences and not being able to trust people around you. This will take time, but know that there are still good people out there and maybe try and make some friends although I appreciate this may be very difficult whilst you are still in the situation you're in. Just know, that although you feel lonely at times, our Imam (ajtfs) is the most loneliest person and thinking of him might give you some consolation. In terms of the jealousy, I heard in a lecture once that when a person feels jealous, to pray to Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى for that person/people to have more and for you to have just as much as them. Can you try and find an outlet like going to the gym? Find other things in the meanwhile that you may find enjoyable that might give you some pleasure in life. Try and find what you can do to try and make the most out of the situation you are in. I am sorry to hear this, I really hope you get to see your grandfather soon! You might want to think about whether you may need some therapy to deal any past issues because that may be magnifying your current problems. Keep up with your wajibats, try not to miss any salah. Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى loves us so much, what love you have inside you, channel it towards him knowing that he would never let you down and he is the most merciful of the merciful. Thats amazing, there are some really beautiful duas on duas.org that help in changing your situation, the following link contains a short and powerful dua: http://www.duas.org/short_powerful_dua/nemul.htm There are many other duas on http://www.duas.org/ too. Inshallah your situation changes soon, but if not then know that there is ease after hardships. “Verily, with hardship there is relief” (Qur’an 94:6)
  2. Thoughts 2017

  3. Why do all my posts require approval?

    Once you have 25 posts, you will become an advanced member and will not need approval for your posts.
  4. #16 Temperature Poll

    I love that the final option is "ouch" .
  5. What a companion money is, that it only benefits you once it leaves you ~ Imam Hassan (a.s). 

  6. Drop of Water

    May Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى bless you for your efforts brother, it was beautiful and very emotional. Insh'Allah you will get blessings not only for creating it but for every tear someone sheds whilst listening to the words and remembering what took place on that fateful day.
  7. There is no day like your day Ya Aba Abdillah al Hussain (a.s). 

  8. Thoughts 2017

    Alhumdulilah.
  9. Thoughts 2017

    Will definitely pray for them both, may Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى grant your brother a speedy recovery.
  10. Struggling to cope

    I am so sorry for your loss. In terms of the counselling, it would specifically be bereavement counselling that you would need to help you deal with your loss. If you are in the U.K. the bereavement services provide telephonic support too until you are ready to see someone face to face which they should support you with. When a person suffers loss, they go through many emotions, there's no right or wrong way to feel, rather take each day as it comes and know that time is the best healer. There are stages of grief after a bereavement that have been recognised as: 1. Accepting the reality of your loss 2. Experiencing the pain of the loss 3. Adjusting to life without the lost person 4. Reinvesting in the new reality Psychologists recommend to set aside some time every day to think about the person you have lost. This task will actually allow you to process the loss and work out how to go on living without the person. This will also help you to deal with the overwhelming feelings of anxiety or depression/grief to a certain extent during a particular part of the day so you can at least try and have some normality for the rest of the day (studying etc.). This does also depend on how long its been, if it is very fresh then please give yourself time to heal because you will not only have the grief to deal with but the anxiety of how you will get through your studies, therefore do inform your University/academic institution about the situation so if you need to take time off, they are accomodating and understanding. Please don't hesitate to speak to us here on SC. As sister @Hameedeh said, we are here for you, best wishes.
  11. #15 Which Child Are You?

    Baby of the family!
  12. how do you eat your oreos?

    No kidding, and some of them look very yummy!
  13. If someone hurts you then don't be upset as its the law of nature that the trees with the sweetest fruits are beaten the most ~ Imam Ali (a.s).

  14. Injustice and those that usurp the rights of others like the rights of our beloved Prophet (pbuh&f) and our holy masoomeen (a.s) were taken.
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