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  1. rxdbx

    I'm failing

    Salams brothers and sister, I'm a 17 year old girl in high school, and for the past couple of years I've honestly lost all motivation for education. I don't know what to do, and the grades that I get this semester will stay with me till I apply for University. I live in Norway, so we don't get grades before 8th grade, and I have been failing ever since I started getting grades. I feel like it's too late, and I wish I could go back and focus on school from the beginning. I don't know what to do, I honestly need a miracle from God. I am so lazy and can't focus or understand anything. In 2 and a half months I'll get my report card, and I know my dad will be furious when he sees my marks. Please pray for me, I really have lost all hope and motivation.
  2. Salam brothers & sisters, how do I perform Istikhara? please explain as easy as possible
  3. rxdbx


    Salam, does your wudhu count if you didn't use the bathroom before you took wudhu?
  4. Salam, my family has never been that religious unfortunately, but we've always done 'most' of the obligatory parts of Islam, like praying, fasting and wearing the hijab. My parents taught me at the age of 6 to pray, and my little sister, who is 3 1/2 years younger than me, was taught at the age of 8. My journey with praying hasn't been smooth, I've had my ups and downs, but I pray now Alhamdulillah. The thing is that my little sister refuses to pray now, she hasn't completely 'abandoned' praying either, but it's not something she does without someone telling her to. She is 13 years old, and I honestly feel obligated as her older sister to constantly remind her of praying, at the first I would remind her bc it would annoy her, but now I remind her bc Salah is important. My parents does obviously tell her to pray but she'll just say I'll do it and hours will pass and she still hasn't, and when my parents especially dad asks her if she prayed, she'll lie. She obviously doesn't do it all of the time, and she prays sometimes without us nagging her about it, but it happens quite often. Whenever I tell her to pray, she gets annoyed and says that it's not my business, and that I shouldn't care, or that I'm not her mom, or she'll even say straight forward that she's not going to. That's not the only thing, sometimes I make her read her prayers out loud, and she makes several mistakes, she forgets parts of her prayer and doesn't tell neither my mom or me, (my dad is pretty strict and he'll most likely get mad at her, or blame it on my mom for not 'looking after' her children). And obviously her prayer doesn't count if she doesn't say the right things, or if she forgets parts of her prayers and just skips those, without telling anyone. Each time she's forgotten, I've told my mom, and my mom only gets mad at her for not telling anyone. I don't know whether I should just let her be, and not 'bother' her anymore, or that I should keep reminding her.
  5. @rxdbx Salam, is there a dua or something to calm someone elses anger down? Like to recite it quietly for yourself when you're example in front of someone really angry and mad
  6. Salam, I have this friend, and we used to be a lot closer but now as we've started at a new senior high schools we've kind of "lost contact". We've not met each other for a couple of months now, and distance is not the issue, she used to be my best friend. A couple of months ago we planned to start hanging again and we thought that er should meet up more often but due to Muharram I was usually at the majlis to late, and most of my days went like that so i declined whenever she asked to meet up bc I was at the mosque. She is sunni, but she got that it was Muharram. Later we planned to hang out a couple of times but it got delayed bc either she was busy or me. Now whenever I've asked her to hang out, she's always busy and twice she said that we can meet up this weekend but she slept over at another friends house and stayed there most of the day. Now, for a couple of weeks I've noticed we don't talk as much anymore, and she doesn't reply as "genuine" anymore. We really are starting to loose contact I mean we haven't seen each other for months. I've been stressing about this lately & I know it's not the end of the world, Im only 16/17, so I've barely "started" my life, but I really don't want to loose her. Im wondering should I send her a message saying "do u actually want to hang out with me or not?" Bc I just want to know, so that I don't ask her anymore if she doesn't. But first of all if she doesn't want to, it's going to be real awkward and I probably am not going to talk to her ever again after asking, but if she wants I don't want to sound needy. I know this is a first world problem, and that there are people suffering out there, but I can't help but worry and stress.
  7. rxdbx


    Not ghosts and jinns, but more cultural stuff, like if u do this this will happen
  8. Salam, is it allowed to believe in superstitions?
  9. rxdbx

    Dua when on period

    Salam, is it allowed to read Duas when im on my period?
  10. Salam, I was just reading Dua Tawassul, which is not a long Dua but still, my dad interrupted me while I was reading it, he wouldn't stop asking so I answered him and paused my Dua, then for a brief second I thought of something and 2-3 minutes went by before I started reading the rest. I was just wondering if any Dua's are accepted when you get interrupted
  11. rxdbx

    Abaya in the west

    Please make dua for my father to let me wear the abaya & accept & support that I want to try putting religion before anything
  12. As salamu alaykum I want to start wearing the hijab properly by wearing abaya, instead of wearing jeans & other tights clothes with my head scarf. I told my dad I wanted to wear it but he was just joking around with it & said we live in the west, do u want people to look at you as a joke & then he said do u want to cover your face as well ( as a joke ) and I replied not now, and he replied with "calm down, thats not right, its completely wrong & a wahhabi act & etc etc" And several times he has said that I won't get job oppurtunities, and education will be tougher & etc basically he cares more about what people will think & if I get a good career later in life, than me putting my religion first I really don't care about jobs & etc, I want to put my religion before ANYTHING else he says that as long as I cover my head it's okay, which many people try to say is, but it really isn't but I'm only 16 so I can't really ignore what he's saying and do what I want I'm not only talking about the hijab, but with everything else as well We were casually talking & he asked me have u talked to ur friend s after you came home? and I said no, then he asked are u gonna get new friends ( in norway school is up to 10th grade & then u start at a different high school for 3 years & then its college/university, so he was referring to me starting at a school where I know nobody) then I replied no I don't need friends (i was just saying it casually) and he got annoyed & told me to meet up with my friends the problem isn't me not wanting to go out or anything, but all of my friends are bad influneces like they're all sunnis first of all they're not religious at all (not that im a perfect shia or anything) like they're always with boys & everyone at my age has kinda become so used to being with boys that they kinda of act like it's allowed third of all , some "friends" even smoke & snuff & etc they don't even realize how haram it is, + we're like 16, even my somali friend with hijab is around boys all the time like They'll say "inshallah this boy ends up being a good boy, and we'll have a long lasting relationship" it just gets me really annoyed how they completely forget that we're muslims and Literally for 4 years I've been trying everything to fit in with them but it's impossible, I argued with my mom for not letting me go out with them & I just don't like the influence they have on me + having only sunni friends isn't really fun, their religion allows so much that's haram and it gets me annoyed I would rather be friendless than be with them and I'm just trying to kind of loose contact with them since I'm starting at a new school anyways
  13. No my period doesn't come on a specific date but it usually appears a week later each month so if I get it the 10th of a month I'll usually get it the 17th of the next month, and yeah I usually have my period for 7 days straight but in the end I have brown discharge instead of blood, last month in ramadan I got this "brown discharge" and I told my friend, and she said that it is old blood. I use an app for my cycle and I've noticed that my period comes a week late but Now im on vacation and Last month I got my period a week earlier on the app but since I get it a week later than the app on usual I got my period 2 weeks early. My marja is Ayatollah Sistani
  14. rxdbx

    Scarf while wudhu

    I said in the absence of non mahram