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Zarla

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  1. اللهم صل علی محمد و آل محمد و عجل فرجهم
  2. Understanding negative thought processes.

    Wonderful blog! I like how you have started by focusing on identifying and understanding our negative thought processes, because that's what lies at the core of nearly all psychological disorders. Change is easy once people can identify and understand the reasons behind the irrationality of their dysfunctional thoughts. However, sometimes it is difficult to understand that our negative core beliefs are illogical, because they may imply 'facts' (e.g., "I am worthless." "The world is a scary place" "People are evil") and have been with us for a long time (since an early age/childhood) and so have had the opportunity to grow and become strengthened. This is why they are deeply-held beliefs and create the essence for how we see ourselves, the world and other people. And so we rarely question them and tend to screen information according to these thoughts or beliefs (which can over time appear automatically across different situations). Educating ourselves about the role our negative thought processes play in creating mental health problems is the first step to breaking this vicious cycle.
  3. Okay, let's assume I am wrong and you are right. What exactly do you mean by "it was abnormal"? Are you referring to people's behaviour? Did every single person you met behave the same way towards you? Can you think of only ONE instance where a person was nice to you? You say that you were the only one going through this. What makes you think that you were the only one?
  4. I don't think it's the people that are rude. Maybe you expect everyone to be nice to you and let's be honest, not everyone can be nice towards you. Maybe you are too focused on the negatives that you overlook the nice things about people. Stop thinking in binary terms: e.g., "People are either rude or nice." Most people don't perfectly fall into either of these categories.
  5. Belief is not all-or-nothing; we can believe more or less firmly, with more or less certainty and tentativeness. This then dictates how we behave in any given situation. We may act differently upon a tentative belief than upon a firm one. Another thing is that our belief may be very strong, but still overriden by other beliefs. Then there are degrees of unethicality. For example, we know that some crimes are worse than others and I am sure you would agree that murder is worse than armed robbery, which in turn is worse than shoplifting. In some circumstances we might do something which is wrong in order to avoid a greater wrong. Sometimes we have to make a decision on the basis of insufficient evidence. We must simply make the best decision we can with the knowledge we have. These are all grey areas.
  6. Ineffective salat.

    Just because you offer salah doesn't mean it will get accepted. You are kept away from sins as long as your prayers are being accepted.
  7. Salam. Congrats on being a Mod! :) 

    1. Zarla

      Zarla

      Wa Alaikum Assalam, brother. Thank you! :) 

  8. Thoughts 2017

  9. Thoughts 2017

    ^That's crazy. I can't imagine swallowing even one!
  10. Seen w/out hijab

    Like @notme said, stop using Snapchat. Stop sending unnecessary messages to guys. Also, try to better understand the purpose of the Hijab - why do you wear the Hijab? Once you have understood this, you will subsequently be able to act or behave in ways that will reflect the true purpose of the Hijab. This will hopefully also prevent you from getting into undesirable situations (e.g., a non-mahram seeing your hair).
  11. Interview The Person Below

    Very rarely. What do you spend most of your money on?
  12. ramadan

    Most people in Australia will be starting their fast on Sunday.
  13. اللهم صل على محمد وآل محمد وعجل فرجهم
  14. Thank you for this eloquently written poem. May Allah enable us all to practice kindness, peace and faithfulness in our lives.
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