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  1. Istekhara

    As salaamun aleikum, few things about istikhara-as someone has already mentioned, istikhara is something that is done when a person is on the fence and can not make up their mind about what they should or shouldnt do. If you have already decided what you would like to do, istikhara is not necessary, rather, make your decision and pray to Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى to make you successful in your endeavor. Another thing is, and Im not trying to suggest anything bad about the alim you asked, but a persons spiritual purity and sincerity in Islam and in how they conduct their personal life behind closed doors can have a profound effect on how "accurate" the istikhara is. Its advisable to choose someone who has a known good reputation for being pious,just and pure. Even alims have their shortcommings,character defects, and spiritual pollutions that those of us in the community may not be aware of,so best to research into the reputation of the alim as best as possible before you choose one to do it. Another thing to keep in mind when having one done, is just because something is not "good" right now, doesn't mean it is not good for the rest of Eternity. This universe/realm we live in operates according to a humanly unknowable algorithm. Things are constantly in flux and changing moment to moment,therefore, so will our circumstances and the results of istikhara. Wait a short while, maybe a month or so, let some time pass by, and then have it done again because there is a good probability the outcome will be different based on the algorithm and life circumstances having changed. We never know how things will play out. Maybe if you had stuck with your original plans, something terrible may have come about, but waiting till later date will avoid the bad incident,meaning the istikhara would possibly come back "good" at the later point. We can never know all the particulars that the istikhara takes into account, but Allahسُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى does, which brings me to my last point.. There are 7 possible results for the type of istikhara done with tasbeeh-im not talking about the one that involves the Quran as I have no personal knowledge or experience with those. What I DO know, is Its never advisable to go against the outcome of an istikhara that produces the results of bad/bad in 2 ways/ regret. Why would a person willing go forward with an action that will knowingly bring such results into their life? If you really truly do believe in the istikhara and what it is and how it works, then acting against it once you have an outcome is tantamount to willfully acting against Allahs guidance for your life.. I'd personally rather stay away from doing things like that. On the other hand, if the result comes back excellent, good, good with difficulty, or mubah, then you could potentially decide not to do it and just not invite more good into your life. What you can do in such situations is ask the inverse of your original question. Sometimes a question needs to be asked a few different ways to get exactly what the best action is. Like for example, should I move to this house in this other City? The answer comes back bad, so you ask the question should I NOT move to this house in this other City? See what that answer is and go from there. Alhamdulilah, istikharas do not cost anything, so you can do many of them to try and get a more well rounded understanding of the results, all you need is someone who has time and is patient to do them with you in the event you have multiple questions. Here is an example from my own personal life: It was when my husband and I first temporarily married. He was just about to move to the state that I live in, when things all of a sudden got unexpectedly strange between us. We ended up in a pretty severe argument about some things. I thought it was just a matter of us both being a little upset and stressed out because this was a big change for both of us. At any rate, an istikhara was done for the situation, and the result came back that it was bad for him to move here, and that it was bad for us to continue that particular marriage.. I was shocked, because everything seemed to be just great between the both of us, other than this random argument that came out of nowhere the day before he was going to physically move here with all his stuff and pay first last and deposit on our place.. Anyway,I told him the results were bad, and we decided to respect it and not go any further at that point in time and we agreed to end that marriage according to the istikharas results. A few days later, he got a call from Iran saying his father was in critical condition and prognosis was not good, and he needed to go there immediately. He was gone for about 2 months. By going, he was able to reestablish his relationship with his father, visit his aging mom and take care of some other responsibilities that needed to be done. Looking back in retrospect, it was as if this whole trip back to Iran had to happen first before starting our lives together, but prior to getting the call and finding out his father was sick, we had no clue why the istikhara came back bad- how would we? These are things only known to Allah, and not the creation. This is the ghayb. Upon his return, we married again, and everything has been fine ever since. Another situation I just recently became aware of, involves a young man who just graduated high school and his mom. He was accepted into seven different universities, masha'Allah, but before i go further, i need to provide a little back story on his situation-he didn't grow up in a religious family, but they knew enough to know that going to University is a big step in anybody's life, and to seek guidance of Allah in deciding which university he should go to. As many know, a common thing at universities is drinking, mixing of both genders, drugs, especially when you live the dormitory life. For a young man who doesnt have a strong religious base or upbringing, this is an extremelly dangerous situation for him to go into.It is like going into battle without a sword, shield, helmet, etc. Besides this, each of these universities are very far from his family, so he would be detached from his support system, all alone in a strange place with many bad influences. Now back to the situation. Basically what happened, is him and his mom went to visit this very Pious religious and knowledgeable sister. They requested an istikhara for each University that had accepted him, and each istikhara came back bad. The sister who did the istikharas for them started to talk about the possibility of maybe instead of him going straight to University, he should take a year to go to hawza in United States and develop himself a strong religious belief and knowledge base, so that he has something to defend himself with against the evils of the world before being thrust into university life and the world in general. They agreed to do an istikhara for that, and it came back excellent..Would you believe that? 7 istikharas in a row came back bad for each of those universities, but the istikhra for him to go to hawza for a year was excellent. Subhanallah! At this point, no one knows what the end result is going to be, because the sister who did the istikharas for them told me a week later that the woman and her son chose to send him to one of the universities instead of hawza:/ Dear goodness, may Allah preserve this young man,in sha Allah. I mean, what are the chances of each istikhara being bad, one after the other, with no variation in them whatsoever? There are 7 different possibilities each one of those istikharas could have come back as, but they each came back as bad...and hawza came back as excellent...subhanAllah. I'm going to wrap this up by saying, don't give up on your marriage and the situation. Practice patience, and have another istikhara done later, because we don't know the unseen/the ghayb, but Allah DOES, and He only wants whats best for us. I know sometimes what He wants for us may seem like its in direct conflict with what we want or think is best for ourselves, but we have to trust Him. That's part of our trial and spiritual advancement:) Our job is to submit to His will for our lives, and trust Him to guide us right, as He promises in the holy Quran to do so:) May Allah guide us all, in sha Allah. As salaamun aleikum
  2. Dua To Find the RIGHT Person

    Salaam ,one point of advice..Dont forget to ask for mutual love from both sides- i know few people who found what would be considered the "right" match in all islamic ways, but there was nothing between them-no draw, or inclination or emotional bond, not even after many years of marriage. Many people say, just get married! Love will find a way as you get to know each other!! Not necessarily true or guaranteed...The situation may work for some, having all the worldly needs met, and then just getting by in all other aspects of the relationship, but for a relationship to be truly fulfilling, I believe a certain element of inclination and emotional love needs to be there, not just a "I love you because I have known you for this many years" type of thing. I mean, that has its place, and grows with any relationship over the period of time, but for a relationship to bond deeply, something else has to exist as well. And I'm not talking about the crazy falling in love chemical reaction that happens. There are such things as souls and spirits being drawn to each other, Imam Ali (AS) has narrated at least one hadith regarding this, and without this element, I have seen relationships be extremely lacking and unfulfilling, but people just keep trudging through their lives together, because they don't know any other way. I guess at some point, you just have to agree to love this person for the sake of Allah, which should be the case anyway, but it becomes really difficult when nothing else exists between the two people. We are multi-dimensional beings, and if possible, we need to do ourselves and each other justice by matching in these other ways as well, not just a "you can fulfill my needs" in worldly manner. Again, this may be suitable and completely acceptable for some. Just something to consider.. (Why do I have the strange feeling I'm going to be chastised for saying is, LOL?)
  3. What's your Personality Type?

    What?! No way! How cool:) Nice to meet u too! I dont know about u, but the older i get, the more my introversion is beginning to show...Lol,im just more happy the fewer people around me...The rest of me still seems to be the same though, alhamdulilah.
  4. What's your Personality Type?

    Salaam, another infj here..
  5. What do I look like?

    My best friend from 14yrs old looks like sara gilbert,lol..(oh my gosh, thats 27 years!) This is a fun thread:) For years, i was told i look like jodi foster. Havent heard that in a while though. We must have aged differently after a certain point.
  6. Abu Bakr al baghdadi died

    Salaam, my suspicion is simply that some other guy will emerge/be chosen/put in place for this position, as there is no shortage of people who would be willing to fill his shoes.
  7. Quran 39:30 and doesn't this go against tawassul?

    Salaam, my understanding of this is that when we pray, we are not always immediately granted what we are praying for, in many cases, our prayers/duas are not granted at all, at least not in the manner WE are requesting them to be granted in. To the best of my understanding, AllahÓÈÍÇäå æÊÚÇáì answers all prayers, just not always in an affirmative manner. It is through all this that we must remain patient. This is just my thought on the idea, and im sure there is much more to be said. In sha Allah, someone else can shed some more light for us all on your question:)
  8. Quran 39:30 and doesn't this go against tawassul?

    Salaam, the way I understand it, is we are being called to "play on the same team" as AllahÓÈÍÇäå æÊÚÇáì,the team of haq, adl, rahman, rahim, etc. Not that we are "helping Him" in the sence that He is incompetent or cant do it without us, audhubillah, but that we need to align ourselves with the side of righteousness as opposed to unrighteousness.
  9. If you had one choice?

    Salaam, i say Imam Mahdi because i want to see the tyrant oppressors brought to justice and things set as right as they possibly can be whilst still being in this dunya, however, im in agreement with @shiaman14, that it was a simpler time durring our Prophets time, and i personally wouldnt mind experiencing that. Things are so complicated, distracting and fast paced these days, my body and soul long for a slower paced life, and to be there with the Prophet, to hear him speak and hear it directly from him would be a blessing:) Would love to get clarification on some things, lol:)
  10. Quran say that the trinity is Jesus, God, and Mary

    Salaam, taken from a wikipedia article: Collyridianism was an Early Christianheretical movement in pre-Islamic Arabia[1]whose adherents apparently worshipped the Virgin Mary, mother of Jesus, as a goddess. The main source of information about them comes from their strongest opponent, Epiphanius of Salamis, who wrote about them in his Panarion of about 375 AD. According to Epiphanius,[2] certain women in then-largely-pagan Arabia syncretized indigenous beliefs with the worship of Mary, and offered little cakes or bread-rolls (Greek κολλυρις – a word occurring in the Septuagint) to her. Epiphanius states that Collyridianism originated in Thrace and Scythia, although it may have first travelled to those regions from Syria or Asia Minor. Little else is known.
  11. What's your favorite Flower ?

    Yes:) @Sindbad05 I just love it:)
  12. What's your favorite Flower ?

    Salaam, i like pink vining jasmine. It has such an amazing smell, mashaAllah. Its a plant/flower usually seen in old neighborhoods, in the yards of old houses. Not so popular anymore, as now the majority of yards have scentless roses cuz they LOOK good,and fruitless fruit trees:/ Things just make less and less sense with each year that passes,lol!
  13. Rumi’s Spiritual Shiism

    Salaam, amazing post, very illumunating! thanks:)
  14. Salaam, I have a similiar question- being that the Quran is a book of all time, how are we to understand the part that says the majority of people are worse than cattle, but when Imam Mahdi (AS)comes, we're told that there will be a time of peace and all this good stuff will happen? How is this possible if the larger portion of the society is still going to be like cattle and worse? How can we say that things will be better when the larger portion of mankind will still be worse than cattle after the Imam (AS) arrives? As the Quran is a book for all time, peoples nature and behavior as stated in the quran would still be like cattle, so how can things get better with people in that state, most likely still behaving with the sttributes of cattle? I was under the impression that with the arrival of the Imam (AS), people would wake up to the right guidance of islam, and become Muslims, but if they're still going to be like cattle, then we will still have the same thing we have now except the imam will be here:/
  15. Just converted to Shia

    As salaamun aleikum, and welcome:) The only thing i can suggest is to ignore these thoughts-push them out of your mind and pay them no heed. After a while, in sha Allah, they will go away, at least THOSE particular ones will... These things only have the strength we allow them to have, and they can only harm us if we follow them. I know, they are a complete ANNOYANCE and IRRITANCE when they come! Make dua for Allah to grant you the strength and success to ignore these thoughts and to show you the sirat al mustaqeem. Many times, the right thing to do (attending masjid sessions, spending time with pious people,performing mustahab acts...) seem like such hard things to do, and for me, sometimes these whispers manifest themselves as a feeling of tiredness or laziness, but when they come, i have to recognize them as such and push myself past them. It takes spuritual strength to do such a thing, but each time you do it, you build your strength, much like lifting weights:) May Allah ÓÈÍÇäå æÊÚÇáì make you successful:)
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